Mental Health Monday: The Top Dating Quality of 2025

If you're in a relationship or looking ot get into one, this is the top dating quality of 2025 

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
You're waking up in the morning time. All right, good
morning mental health mondays a little bit of advice to
try to make things a little bit better. The number
one quality that women are looking for in men in
twenty twenty five is what Lri sharpage.

Speaker 2 (00:16):
It is something that used to be taboo but is
now more and more accepted. It's will they go to therapy?
And this is not surprised. Yeah. Well, and it speaks
to the fact that and I think this is a
genderless conversation, truly. It speaks to the fact that if
you are someone that is willing to work on your
emotional health and to work to stay regulated during life's
tough moments, yep, that is attractive as a partner. Yep.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
And what it's it's a sexy quality when someone can
regulate their emotions or at least process them or speak
to them absolutely.

Speaker 2 (00:48):
And a lot of times we think about dysregulated emotions
as somebody flying off the handle freaking out.

Speaker 1 (00:52):
Which is true also known as spiral language.

Speaker 2 (00:55):
Yes, but also it can be things like shutting down,
not having the difficult converse station pushing it away, not
having the tolerance to the natural discomfort that comes with relationships.

Speaker 1 (01:06):
Okay, so I've heard sorry to interrupt, I've heard two
buzzwords here of disregulation and regulating your emotions can walk
me through absolutely.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
So, as humans, we have two states. We have our
disregulated state, which you've probably heard about before in PSIQ
one oh one. That's where we have fight flight freeze,
and we recently added a new one called fawn, which
is people pleasing behaviors. So when you fight flight freeze
are fawn, you feel unsafe in your environment, and you
are responding in that way in a very resistant and

(01:35):
reactive way. You don't make as good a decisions, You're
more likely to have communication challenges, and you don't feel good.
When you're regulated, you're able to stay in a place
of mindful presence, maybe feel the discomfort, deal with the discomfort,
but also have the uncomfortable conversation which will hopefully lead
you to a more comfortable place overall.

Speaker 1 (01:56):
Okay, so I'm sitting in my car, I'm on my way,
and I'm feeling disregulated.

Speaker 2 (01:59):
How how do I go from there to hear? That
is a great question. So there's a lot of different ways.
One of the easiest is something that would call bilateral stimulation,
which just means take your hands, put them on your
thighs and tap back and forth on each thigh, over
and over, and this will help shift you from a
disregulated state to a regulated state. I had to do
this in my car the other day to a meeting

(02:23):
and it really helped me out.

Speaker 1 (02:24):
Like it.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
You know, it seems like a small thing, but I
think that's what it is. Regulated. It is small stuff.
A lot of times people are saying the big goal,
the perfect mental health. No, no, no, We're just trying
to find that little stuff that helps you move from
a state of disregulated to regulated because you will be
much more empowered and much more able to connect with
those around you, particularly singles who might be interested and

(02:45):
somebody who's emotionally regulated. You know me.

Speaker 1 (02:49):
Laurie shirt Page is our licensed clinical counselor at the
Coping Queen on social media. If you want to take
this a little bit further, she joins the show every
Monday for mental Health Monday.

Speaker 2 (02:58):
Thanks Gal, Thank you.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
Coming up in a couple of minutes, we'll dive into
the three things you need to know to get your
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