April 21, 2023 • 26 mins
In this episode of 'Talk Talk,' Martha Quinn asks Christie about wedding tips because her daughter Anabelle recently got engaged and Christie has DJ'd a ton of weddings! Christie shares her best advice while Karena talks about a wedding horror story she was a part of!
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When the on air Mike goes off, the Talk Talk begins. It's Talk
Talk with Martha Quinn. That's Karina, Honestly, that is me. Sometimes
I'm talking to my husband at night, I'm going, you know, we
really need newcast iron, um cleaning, um scrubbers. And then you know
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what, I I'm the only onewho changes the toilet paper roll and and
and I will literally say to him, do you ever look at me and
think, is she ever going toshut? He's nice though, because I
say that to my parents or mysister, My older sister Cindy could talk
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a lot, And I'm like,and then we'll be at the house hanging
out and she's talking to my parentsand we in the car and she's still
talking to my parents. I'm like, you just can you just stop talking,
like stop the stop or my dadmy mom and dad will start talking
about random things. I'm like,we've been sitting here for the past two
hours. You guys got to stoptalking kind of like you're doing now.
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Welcome to Talk Talk, appropriately titledit seems with Martha Quinn. The podcast
where you hear the Morning Drive withChristie Live duo Christian Karena Alaska's in the
same room with the Martha Quinn Showduo Martha Quinn and Koreative Alaska. The
other one is my my AIA person. Get it? No, I do
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get it. I do get it. I don't know. I don't know
what I'm talking about. All Iknow is this. My husband Jordan,
listens to AI spaces on Twitter nonstop and I'm always like, turn this
off. It's so depressing. Ican't take it. I love it personally.
I knew you would. I knewyou would. I knew it.
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I have a whole topic that Iwant to talk about, but let's touch
upon this please, because I'm nervous. I feel like AI is going to
suck the purpose out of our lives, and well, I'll be like those
blobs in Wali. Do you rememberthat movie? Yeah, we just have
no purpose. We're just floating aroundon this ship. You know. Um,
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Okay, Christy, why are youexcited about AI. I think it's
going to be helpful for a lotof people. I think it will cut
down on a lot of tedious tasksand make things easier for people in the
long run. And people were scaredwhen computers first started. Oh my gosh,
computers and people are going to beable to, you know, get
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everyone's information at their fingertips, andI think new technology is always scary,
Karina. I do want to sayfirst that there's there are people that don't
know what AI stands for, andit stands for artificial intelligence. That's all
because my mom wouldn't know My momwouldn't know what AI means. That's all.
Thank you. I appreciate that,Christy. Okay, Christie's really into
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also chat GPT, which a lotof people don't even know what that is.
It's an AI chat bot. Ithink of it like Google, but
on a different level, on asuper duper next level, and it is
AI. We've been using AI.You talked to Alexa, you talked to
Siri, you talked to bixby.If you're a joid user, most people
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don't use it. But the pointis we've been using AI technology for a
long time, and now I thinkit's just coming out on a whole new
level. Because they released the technologyfor free, mind you for free,
for people to take it and applyit to different ways to try and make
life easier. That's why they didit. That's why they released it for
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free. I don't know if SeanLennon was talking about AI in general or
chat GPT, but this amazes methat people can string together words and make
a sentence like this. It's literallya probability model to predict language based on
a vast data set of human writing. So it's an aggregate language prediction.
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That's That's just what I was goingto say. It's an aggregate language prediction.
That's it. That's easy. Imean, obviously, right, Karina,
don't you agree it's an aggregate languageprediction. Yes, And if sixty
minutes on Sunday did a really greatpiece on AI the future chat GPT and
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while Google is doing about it,so it's actually really good. I highly
recommend it. Get into it now. This is what happened. I know,
Oh my god. My husband Jordanis always telling my kids, get
into AI, get into AI,get into AI. And when I hear
those two words, my mind flatlines. I like want to go running for
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the hills. I just want todive in the sand and pretend it's not
happening. It's happening. And Ithink it's going to be helpful in the
long run, especially as people tryand integrate it. It will um,
like I said, make lie andwork a lot easier. I don't think
it will take away jobs. Ithink it'll allow creativity to create new opportunities.
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It's kind of like the pandemic.It definitely did away with a lot
of jobs and positions, but italso opened up another lane for all new
technologies and ways of operating in moreefficient ways of handling things. So you
know, change is always difficult,but eventually we get into it. What
was your topic that was planned,Martha Quinn before we went down this very
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road. I do just want artical. You're listening right now, and you
have a comment about AI if youthink, if you like me, go
running for the hills screaming when youhear those two letters together. Like,
I personally don't even like to spellthe word chair anymore. I don't like
to spell it. I won't becauseI'm just sure. Yeah, I just
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won't. I won't. I won't. I won't spell it. But maybe
you're on team Chris Chris D Ineed my AI to step in for me
right now. Maybe you're on teamChristie and you're into AI. If so,
please tell us why. I wouldlove to hear I want to be
reassured about AI. I don't liketo be scared about stuff, but I'd
be like, oh, this cannotbe good. Do you ever use Siri?
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Is she ever helpful? I neveruse Siri, I never use Alexa.
I'm against them, Okay, I'msorry, ladies, I'm sorry if
you had to hear that. I'mjust kidding. I'm not against them.
I just like, I just don'tlike. I hate when I'm walking past
Alexa and all of a sudden she'llsay, like the weather report is,
and I'm like, okay, Ididn't ask you mind your own bibes,
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wax, stay there in the box. You better sleep with one eye open
tonight, she stood. And SiriSiri likes it when I talk bad about
Alexa because Siri doesn't like Alexa,and Alexa doesn't like Sirius, You're okay,
they got beef, Yeah they do. So, yeah, let us
know what you think about AI andthe question for today. Last week we
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were talking about what could we talkabout for twenty minutes with passion, and
Christie said, since she DJs alot of weddings, she said she could
talk about what makes a wedding successful. My daughter Annabelle is engaged, and
I thought it would be really interestingChristie to hear your tips for a totally
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awesome wedding since you have been toso many and I would imagine we'll see
when you spell out your tips,I would imagine they could be used for
any successful gathering. Yes, Ithink this could definitely be used for any
gathering. But the number one thingthat I say to couples about a wedding
is it's a party, and Iurge them to scream that at the top
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of their lungs every time things getstressful. Number one, just remember it's
a party. It has a fancytitle wedding, and that comes with a
lot of different stressors and a lotof things that people think of when they
think of weddings. But at theend of the day, it's a party.
A party has food, music,people you like. That's what a
wedding is. Food, music,people you like, and that's it.
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The same way you'd host a partyat your house. You want to have
good food that you like, peopleover that you like, and music that
you like. That's what a weddingis. Maybe a little bit more formal,
maybe informal, depending on where youhave it, but at the end
of the day, it's a party, So think about it like that and
less of a wedding and more oflike, hey, these are people we
like that we're inviting to spend timewith us to celebrate us finding our person,
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and that takes a little tiny bitof the stress out of it.
If you can remember that, thatwould be number one. Number two.
All right, there's music all daylong at your wedding. People only think
of the wedding as their dance floor, but once again, if you're having
a party, you want to hearmusic that you like, and you're playing
music from when guests get there tothe dance floor at the very end,
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so you have pre ceremony music thatsets the day for people arriving. A
classical garden wedding has a different feelthan a wedding outside with earth winning fire
in the gap band playing. Youknow it's going to feel different than you
know classical, So think about thatsetting the mood for your day on the
different parts of your day. Preceremony, when guests are arriving, your
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cocktail hour, your dinner, andthen of course your dance party. Do
you want to ramp up the partydo you want the party going from beginning
to end. It's all setting amood. And even if you don't listen
to music where you know artists andtitles of songs, thinking about it in
terms of a vibe, because likeyou said, like I said, classical
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dinner where there's classical music and candlelightfeels different than long tables, you know,
and you know funk playing in thebackground, It's going to have a
different energy. So think about itlike that. So music is important,
and it's all day long, notjust your dance for And three, have
a planner. People skimp. Peopleskimp on this, but if there's one
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thing you want to spend money on, it's a planner. You don't have
to have someone planned everything, butyou want somebody month of or day of
to handle the details. You don'twant to worry about, Oh, my
caterer isn't here and I'm trying toget my makeup done and get in my
dress and someone needs to track downthe caterer who's late or needs directions.
You don't want to worry about thatstuff. You don't want to worry about,
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Oh, someone forgot to put thesignage out or the cards for people's
name, names at the dinner,stuff the little details on your wedding day,
and it's worth it to pay someone, especially if you have a wedding
over fifty people, you know,because it makes a difference. And then
if people have shuttles or you know, hotel hell runs or just things that
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come up that you don't want tohave to deal with on your wedding day,
even if it's just being there witha cocktail. As soon as you
finish getting married and you're walking downthe aisle and they're going to usher you
to wear your got sign, yourwedding marriage certificate, like if it's if
it's you're going to have people havesomebody for you. They can be your
point of contact and you don't haveto worry about it that day. That's
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money well spent. That's money wellspent. And if you are a mother
or a father of the bride,right, you have had your wedding day
right, so let your child havetheirs. This is not about you.
This is about the couple. Anda lot of times parents, family members,
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they want to have their interjection andtheir particular things involved in this wedding,
but it is not your day.And I always remember to tell people
just interject. What if the bride'sparents are paying for the wedding, do
they also not get to say?I think a lot of times they are
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paying for the wedding, And Ithink if you're paying for it, then
that is a gift to your childfor their wedding. Just because you are
paying for it does not give youthe right to plan their wedding, and
that shouldn't be a stipulation. Youshould add, if you're paying for it,
then you should be giving it asa gift to help them. You're
not giving it as an opportunity ora carrot that you're dangling over their head.
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If you want me to pay forthis, you're going to have to
do what I say and have itwhere I want and invite it who I
want. It's like, well,then why don't you just do your own
wedding? Why don't you have yourown party? I agree with one percent
with Chrissy. I think that maybeyou correct me if I'm wrong. Maybe
the parent or the mom or dadcan request like one little thing, that's
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it. They can ask for anything. But I'm just saying, if it
doesn't happen, don't stress your kidsout. Because they don't want to go
with what you want to go with. You had your day, yeah,
this is theirs. You had yours, and if you want your day,
you have your own wedding or valrenewal. But let them have theirs.
And there's been Christie right, afew weddings were like the moms were like
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trying to take over as if itwas their personal wedding. I've had a
mom she went and had her own. She did her own horror at her
daughter's wedding. Like the daughter andher new son in law did the horror,
which is like a Jewish tradition.You get in the chairs and there,
and then they put the bride inthe room down and the mom was
like, okay, my turn.I'm like, this is not your wedding.
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Girl, calmed down. They willwant to control the music. They'll
they'll do a lot and they liketo say, oh, well I'm paying
for it, and it's like okay, but this is not your wedding.
Yeah, this is not your memoryto be made. You had your day,
yeah, And Christie does that putyou in an awkward position when they
come up to you and are talkingto you about this and you're having to
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say what you just said, like, how do you work that? How
do you finesse that? I deferto the bride and groom, like the
bride and groom hire me. Thatis my main concern, that is my
main focus. And I always bringit back to them. I always say,
you know, if we're in ameeting, and then they'll say,
well, you know, Auntie likesuch and such, or you know,
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well, don't forget about grandma.And I think that's wonderful and it's great
that they're going to be there tosupport your son in law and your daughter,
but this is their special day.So I really want to make sure
that we have a party that istailored for you, guys, because it's
really important that your family's coming togetherto support you guys. And what do
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you want, because that's what's mostimportant on your special day. I'm sure
on your special day you had allsorts of wonderful memories that you still remember,
and this is the opportunity for themto make those memories for themselves.
So what would you guys, like, what do you like to listen to?
Because this is your party, thisis your wedding. So I really
try and stress that in the callin a polite way, but like,
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don't get it twisted. I'm workingfor them. I'm teamed them. I
don't care about your money or yourcheck. This is their party. I
like that. That's a friendly reminder. You want you watch your wedding like
you've been down this road. Yeahmore than once. Oh yeah, because
we have really hit you know,a vein here where you seem really really
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you're sure about what you're saying.And this tells me that experience has brought
you to this place. M hm. And it's sad sometimes because you could
see they'll be like, you know, like I don't want to you know.
Last weekend I had a wedding andthe couple was adamant they did not
want any line dances like Cha ChaSlide, Electric Slide, Cupid Shuffle.
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People don't like those kind of cheesywedding songs. And the mother of the
groom was like, can you playElectric Slide and the Cupid Shuffle? And
I was thinking these two that theyspecifically said they didn't want, and so
I said, you know, actuallythis is really this is at the top
of their do not play list,you know, and the dance floor was
popping. It was fun, andthen she was like, oh, okay,
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well I figured they didn't want it, Okay, fine, you know,
and then like five minutes later,the groom comes over and he's like,
can you just play the thing?It's from my mom and I was
like, yes, okay, butyou know, you needed to tell me
that. And then it sucks becauseI told you they did not want that,
but you're like, I want tohear it, and so I played
it next. It cleared the dancefloor, but she and her, you
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know, three or four friends wereout there doing it. And I was
like, okay, well whatever yougot. You know, that's fine,
that's fine. Whatever. You clearedmy dance floor with your song. But
okay, glad you're happy. Theydidn't want this, but you're happy,
so, you know, or they'llbe like, well, why aren't you
playing X y Z Because your childdid not want me to play that.
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Your child wants to hear this music. So even though you're not feeling it,
yeah, your child is happy.Look them, look at them.
They're having fun. All of theirfriends are having fun. This is their
party, this is what they wantedto hear. So just remember it's not
your it's not your day. Youcan have your day, have a party,
you have your own party. Thisis their Day's good for you.
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That's good that you stand in yourground, though a lot of people just
give into it. And you canhave your opinion. It's your child,
but remember it's their day. Youhad yours, and if you didn't,
then you can have your day.Yeah, but not theirs. Martha's nufferent
one scratching off the cha cha slideon, no electric slide for me.
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Those of the I would say themain four things and have fun, but
most of all, and make ityour own. I would say at the
end that would be like number five, make it your own day, because
it is your memory. You'll neverforget going to Las Vegas with Jordan,
and you know, getting married MarthaQuinn. That is a special memory.
You'll remember it. You'll remember whatyou were doing, what you're wearing,
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when you guys decided to do it, and it was really special. And
if your mom would have stepped inand said no, no, no,
you know you need to do thisand make sure you're wearing this and you
need to play this, it wouldbe a totally different memory. And so
make it your own day. Whateverthat means you know, there was a
couple. They were not dancers,So don't feel like you have to do
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a first dance if you don't liketo get up and dance in front of
people. They're gamers, Yeah,they were gamers. They had a screen
and they played a Super Mario Kartbattle or like this is what this is
what we do. We we game. She had her character, he had
his, and that's what they didinstead of a first dance. So I
say cool, and ye make ityour day because it's your memory. Do
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whatever you want, do whatever youwant. I always say, you know,
I've seen people drop a crest likeyou know, the old school Lord
of the Rings, Game of Thrones, like a crest like your house would
have a flag with a crest onit. Their own person off the side
of a mountain in Berkeley after theywere pronounced Mary. Their friends created a
crest for them. I've seen allsorts of things, and it's those memories
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that are most unique and most fun. Don't feel like it has to be
the traditional you know, okay,mother, father, you know the family
dance and this and that and this, and then it's your party. Do
whatever you want, do whatever youwant. Whatever you want. Sky's the
limit at weddings. That's it.Well, it sounds to be like if
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somebody goes to Christie Live on Instagramand tries to find you to DJ their
wedding, they get a lot morethan a DJ. They get somebody who
can really help them out. Doyou ever think about being a wedding planner
Christie? I've thought about it,but I don't need another job. I
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don't need any more jobs. ButI think it's it's fun and I have
a lot of friends who are weddingplanners, and so yeah, I think
it's helpful. I would do aday of I would be a day of
or a month of coordinator to kindof help people. But I like djaying.
I like to be able to controlthe vibe of the event because the
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music is a lot of that.And she also has a brand new three
sixty photo booths. Ye got anew photo booth. It's pretty exciting.
Okay, are you responsible for that? Yes? Yes, the DJ is
responsible for the photo booth. Ifthey book it. That's more money.
Oh, I see. So it'sa service that you offer, Yes,
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lighting, photo booth, djaying,A lot of it goes hand in hand.
If you offer all of them,it's just an opportunity for you to
get more money because they're gonna mostmost every single wedding has some sort of
photo booth. Now might as wellsay, hey, I have a photo
booth. If you're going to getone, get it from me. I'll
be there. And what is athree sixty photo booth? You know when
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they do the oscars and they're kindof standing on this platform and the camera
goes around them, and it's kindof like this three hundred and sixty degree
view. So you're standing on thisround platform and then the camera rotates around
you, so it's kind of givingyou this three sixty It's like a boomerang
video. It almost looks like thestage with the people on it are spinning,
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but it's not. They're really juststanding still and it's the camera that's
going around them. I'll show youright here. Well, while you're doing
that, let me just say,if you have recently gone to a wedding
that either went spectacularly well or spectacularlynot well, definitely join the conversation here
with the talkback feature on our freeiHeart radio app. You just tap the
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red microphone and tell us your nameand your wedding story. We would love
to hear it here. Look atthis. This is an example of a
three sixty. Oh, it's almostlike spins around the people. They're really
just standing still on the stage andthe camera goes around them. Wow.
They almost look like, um yeawax museum figures. Yeah, yeah,
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in a weird way. Huh.Pretty cool, fascinating. That's called a
boomerang video. No, it's thethree sixty video. But I was trying
to use that as an Okay,okay, Karna vlaskas. Yes, ma'am,
you were asking something. No,I wasn't saying anything. You were
about to ask Karina something. You'reabout to ask me something? God,
jeez, I don't remember. Um. Well, listen, let's go over
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Christie's tips. Number five make ityour own day, ye. Number four,
moms and dads let your kids dotheir things. Number three step off,
as Jack Black said in School ofRock. Number three, have a
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planner. Number two set the moodmusic all day long at your party.
And number one remember it's a party. Yeah, and remember that if you
have doubts, don't do it,they'll do it. Oh, maybe you
were gonna ask me about my horrorstory. Oh yeah, it wasn't really
that bad. But I was invitedto a wedding once. It was like
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a Viname side of the family whatever. She was getting married and they had
karaoke, so they had a stageand I was like, okay, I'll
go sing karaoke. And I wentto go sing and I think I was
singing Jewel Pieces of Me or somethinglike that, and the groom comes up,
puts his arm around me and startsfreaking on me in front of everybody,
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the entire family, and I'm tryinghard to like get him off.
He was he was obviously tisney,he's obviously a little tipsy, but he's
like grinding on the back of mewhile holding me while I'm trying to sing
jewel and I'm going like trying topush him off but not like be super
rude in front of everybody that waslooking. And the bride comes up on
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stage and just yanks him, andthat was it. She was like I'm
over. She left and he waslike I'm sorry, I'm sorry, and
he was the most And here Iam up. Somebody's plus one that my
cousin's plus wed and I felt soso awkward. But I will never ever
forget that moment. I was almoststill married. Do you know they are
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not married? He they divorced realquick after that. I think it was
about like they lasted for about twoyears, and it was clear, like
she that he was you know,it was clear that Karina broke up there
happy. Yeah, it was clearthat he was over there. Um,
you know, wrestling with other women. Tip number six, don't invite Karina
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to the wedding. Is that whatwe're picking up here? Yeah? Don't.
Ah, that was just well awesome, Thank you. I appreciate that.
You know, last week, Christy, you were saying, oh,
I don't know if people want tohear about weddings, and I was thinking
about that all week and thinking abouthow I felt like I wish that I
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had said to you in that exactmoment, Christie, anything that you're passionate
about and discuss is interesting, LikeI feel like we could do an entire
podcast on your eyelash game. Ah. Sweet, you did say that.
Actually, Martha Quinn, you didsay that. You said, no,
if you're passionate about it, peoplewill want to hear about it. And
I just meant in that moment,I just meant in that moment, I
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didn't think people wanted me to go, you know, because it is good
information, Like you said, youknow, Annabelle's getting married. It's helpful.
You know, people ask me whenI meet with them. I meet
with wedding clients all the time.It's helpful. And my last two wedding
clients met on Hinge. Once again, you're looking to get married, Andre,
bumble, hind your bumble, allright, Thank you so much for
checking out episode number one hundred andeighty six of Talk Talk with Martha Quinn.
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You can go to adesplus Radio dotcom click on the podcast and Media
tab to find a whole bunch moreof these episodes. You can also hear
Christie Live on Demand and Christie LivesCrazy Train in the podcasts and Media section.
Catch up on that until episode numberOh wait, what episode is this?
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Oh? This is one eighties.I wrote it down one eighty six,
but I think it might be quotewell until the next episode. There
you go, whatever number that.Maybe I'm Martha Quinn, I'm Christie,
I'm Corina Velasquez, Missiere Ready
When the on air Mike goes off, the Talk Talk begins. It's Talk
Talk with Martha Quinn. That's Karina, Honestly, that is me. Sometimes
I'm talking to my husband at night, I'm going, you know, we
really need newcast iron, um cleaning, um scrubbers. And then you know
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what, I I'm the only onewho changes the toilet paper roll and and
and I will literally say to him, do you ever look at me and
think, is she ever going toshut? He's nice though, because I
say that to my parents or mysister, My older sister Cindy could talk
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a lot, And I'm like,and then we'll be at the house hanging
out and she's talking to my parentsand we in the car and she's still
talking to my parents. I'm like, you just can you just stop talking,
like stop the stop or my dadmy mom and dad will start talking
about random things. I'm like,we've been sitting here for the past two
hours. You guys got to stoptalking kind of like you're doing now.
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Welcome to Talk Talk, appropriately titledit seems with Martha Quinn. The podcast
where you hear the Morning Drive withChristie Live duo Christian Karena Alaska's in the
same room with the Martha Quinn Showduo Martha Quinn and Koreative Alaska. The
other one is my my AIA person. Get it? No, I do
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get it. I do get it. I don't know. I don't know
what I'm talking about. All Iknow is this. My husband Jordan,
listens to AI spaces on Twitter nonstop and I'm always like, turn this
off. It's so depressing. Ican't take it. I love it personally.
I knew you would. I knewyou would. I knew it.
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I have a whole topic that Iwant to talk about, but let's touch
upon this please, because I'm nervous. I feel like AI is going to
suck the purpose out of our lives, and well, I'll be like those
blobs in Wali. Do you rememberthat movie? Yeah, we just have
no purpose. We're just floating aroundon this ship. You know. Um,
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Okay, Christy, why are youexcited about AI. I think it's
going to be helpful for a lotof people. I think it will cut
down on a lot of tedious tasksand make things easier for people in the
long run. And people were scaredwhen computers first started. Oh my gosh,
computers and people are going to beable to, you know, get
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everyone's information at their fingertips, andI think new technology is always scary,
Karina. I do want to sayfirst that there's there are people that don't
know what AI stands for, andit stands for artificial intelligence. That's all
because my mom wouldn't know My momwouldn't know what AI means. That's all.
Thank you. I appreciate that,Christy. Okay, Christie's really into
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also chat GPT, which a lotof people don't even know what that is.
It's an AI chat bot. Ithink of it like Google, but
on a different level, on asuper duper next level, and it is
AI. We've been using AI.You talked to Alexa, you talked to
Siri, you talked to bixby.If you're a joid user, most people
(03:20):
don't use it. But the pointis we've been using AI technology for a
long time, and now I thinkit's just coming out on a whole new
level. Because they released the technologyfor free, mind you for free,
for people to take it and applyit to different ways to try and make
life easier. That's why they didit. That's why they released it for
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free. I don't know if SeanLennon was talking about AI in general or
chat GPT, but this amazes methat people can string together words and make
a sentence like this. It's literallya probability model to predict language based on
a vast data set of human writing. So it's an aggregate language prediction.
(04:05):
That's That's just what I was goingto say. It's an aggregate language prediction.
That's it. That's easy. Imean, obviously, right, Karina,
don't you agree it's an aggregate languageprediction. Yes, And if sixty
minutes on Sunday did a really greatpiece on AI the future chat GPT and
(04:25):
while Google is doing about it,so it's actually really good. I highly
recommend it. Get into it now. This is what happened. I know,
Oh my god. My husband Jordanis always telling my kids, get
into AI, get into AI,get into AI. And when I hear
those two words, my mind flatlines. I like want to go running for
(04:46):
the hills. I just want todive in the sand and pretend it's not
happening. It's happening. And Ithink it's going to be helpful in the
long run, especially as people tryand integrate it. It will um,
like I said, make lie andwork a lot easier. I don't think
it will take away jobs. Ithink it'll allow creativity to create new opportunities.
(05:08):
It's kind of like the pandemic.It definitely did away with a lot
of jobs and positions, but italso opened up another lane for all new
technologies and ways of operating in moreefficient ways of handling things. So you
know, change is always difficult,but eventually we get into it. What
was your topic that was planned,Martha Quinn before we went down this very
(05:30):
road. I do just want artical. You're listening right now, and you
have a comment about AI if youthink, if you like me, go
running for the hills screaming when youhear those two letters together. Like,
I personally don't even like to spellthe word chair anymore. I don't like
to spell it. I won't becauseI'm just sure. Yeah, I just
(05:55):
won't. I won't. I won't. I won't spell it. But maybe
you're on team Chris Chris D Ineed my AI to step in for me
right now. Maybe you're on teamChristie and you're into AI. If so,
please tell us why. I wouldlove to hear I want to be
reassured about AI. I don't liketo be scared about stuff, but I'd
be like, oh, this cannotbe good. Do you ever use Siri?
(06:18):
Is she ever helpful? I neveruse Siri, I never use Alexa.
I'm against them, Okay, I'msorry, ladies, I'm sorry if
you had to hear that. I'mjust kidding. I'm not against them.
I just like, I just don'tlike. I hate when I'm walking past
Alexa and all of a sudden she'llsay, like the weather report is,
and I'm like, okay, Ididn't ask you mind your own bibes,
(06:40):
wax, stay there in the box. You better sleep with one eye open
tonight, she stood. And SiriSiri likes it when I talk bad about
Alexa because Siri doesn't like Alexa,and Alexa doesn't like Sirius, You're okay,
they got beef, Yeah they do. So, yeah, let us
know what you think about AI andthe question for today. Last week we
(07:04):
were talking about what could we talkabout for twenty minutes with passion, and
Christie said, since she DJs alot of weddings, she said she could
talk about what makes a wedding successful. My daughter Annabelle is engaged, and
I thought it would be really interestingChristie to hear your tips for a totally
(07:26):
awesome wedding since you have been toso many and I would imagine we'll see
when you spell out your tips,I would imagine they could be used for
any successful gathering. Yes, Ithink this could definitely be used for any
gathering. But the number one thingthat I say to couples about a wedding
is it's a party, and Iurge them to scream that at the top
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of their lungs every time things getstressful. Number one, just remember it's
a party. It has a fancytitle wedding, and that comes with a
lot of different stressors and a lotof things that people think of when they
think of weddings. But at theend of the day, it's a party.
A party has food, music,people you like. That's what a
wedding is. Food, music,people you like, and that's it.
(08:15):
The same way you'd host a partyat your house. You want to have
good food that you like, peopleover that you like, and music that
you like. That's what a weddingis. Maybe a little bit more formal,
maybe informal, depending on where youhave it, but at the end
of the day, it's a party, So think about it like that and
less of a wedding and more oflike, hey, these are people we
like that we're inviting to spend timewith us to celebrate us finding our person,
(08:41):
and that takes a little tiny bitof the stress out of it.
If you can remember that, thatwould be number one. Number two.
All right, there's music all daylong at your wedding. People only think
of the wedding as their dance floor, but once again, if you're having
a party, you want to hearmusic that you like, and you're playing
music from when guests get there tothe dance floor at the very end,
(09:05):
so you have pre ceremony music thatsets the day for people arriving. A
classical garden wedding has a different feelthan a wedding outside with earth winning fire
in the gap band playing. Youknow it's going to feel different than you
know classical, So think about thatsetting the mood for your day on the
different parts of your day. Preceremony, when guests are arriving, your
(09:28):
cocktail hour, your dinner, andthen of course your dance party. Do
you want to ramp up the partydo you want the party going from beginning
to end. It's all setting amood. And even if you don't listen
to music where you know artists andtitles of songs, thinking about it in
terms of a vibe, because likeyou said, like I said, classical
(09:52):
dinner where there's classical music and candlelightfeels different than long tables, you know,
and you know funk playing in thebackground, It's going to have a
different energy. So think about itlike that. So music is important,
and it's all day long, notjust your dance for And three, have
a planner. People skimp. Peopleskimp on this, but if there's one
(10:16):
thing you want to spend money on, it's a planner. You don't have
to have someone planned everything, butyou want somebody month of or day of
to handle the details. You don'twant to worry about, Oh, my
caterer isn't here and I'm trying toget my makeup done and get in my
dress and someone needs to track downthe caterer who's late or needs directions.
You don't want to worry about thatstuff. You don't want to worry about,
(10:39):
Oh, someone forgot to put thesignage out or the cards for people's
name, names at the dinner,stuff the little details on your wedding day,
and it's worth it to pay someone, especially if you have a wedding
over fifty people, you know,because it makes a difference. And then
if people have shuttles or you know, hotel hell runs or just things that
(11:01):
come up that you don't want tohave to deal with on your wedding day,
even if it's just being there witha cocktail. As soon as you
finish getting married and you're walking downthe aisle and they're going to usher you
to wear your got sign, yourwedding marriage certificate, like if it's if
it's you're going to have people havesomebody for you. They can be your
point of contact and you don't haveto worry about it that day. That's
(11:24):
money well spent. That's money wellspent. And if you are a mother
or a father of the bride,right, you have had your wedding day
right, so let your child havetheirs. This is not about you.
This is about the couple. Anda lot of times parents, family members,
(11:48):
they want to have their interjection andtheir particular things involved in this wedding,
but it is not your day.And I always remember to tell people
just interject. What if the bride'sparents are paying for the wedding, do
they also not get to say?I think a lot of times they are
(12:09):
paying for the wedding, And Ithink if you're paying for it, then
that is a gift to your childfor their wedding. Just because you are
paying for it does not give youthe right to plan their wedding, and
that shouldn't be a stipulation. Youshould add, if you're paying for it,
then you should be giving it asa gift to help them. You're
not giving it as an opportunity ora carrot that you're dangling over their head.
(12:35):
If you want me to pay forthis, you're going to have to
do what I say and have itwhere I want and invite it who I
want. It's like, well,then why don't you just do your own
wedding? Why don't you have yourown party? I agree with one percent
with Chrissy. I think that maybeyou correct me if I'm wrong. Maybe
the parent or the mom or dadcan request like one little thing, that's
(12:56):
it. They can ask for anything. But I'm just saying, if it
doesn't happen, don't stress your kidsout. Because they don't want to go
with what you want to go with. You had your day, yeah,
this is theirs. You had yours, and if you want your day,
you have your own wedding or valrenewal. But let them have theirs.
And there's been Christie right, afew weddings were like the moms were like
(13:18):
trying to take over as if itwas their personal wedding. I've had a
mom she went and had her own. She did her own horror at her
daughter's wedding. Like the daughter andher new son in law did the horror,
which is like a Jewish tradition.You get in the chairs and there,
and then they put the bride inthe room down and the mom was
like, okay, my turn.I'm like, this is not your wedding.
(13:39):
Girl, calmed down. They willwant to control the music. They'll
they'll do a lot and they liketo say, oh, well I'm paying
for it, and it's like okay, but this is not your wedding.
Yeah, this is not your memoryto be made. You had your day,
yeah, And Christie does that putyou in an awkward position when they
come up to you and are talkingto you about this and you're having to
(14:00):
say what you just said, like, how do you work that? How
do you finesse that? I deferto the bride and groom, like the
bride and groom hire me. Thatis my main concern, that is my
main focus. And I always bringit back to them. I always say,
you know, if we're in ameeting, and then they'll say,
well, you know, Auntie likesuch and such, or you know,
(14:22):
well, don't forget about grandma.And I think that's wonderful and it's great
that they're going to be there tosupport your son in law and your daughter,
but this is their special day.So I really want to make sure
that we have a party that istailored for you, guys, because it's
really important that your family's coming togetherto support you guys. And what do
(14:43):
you want, because that's what's mostimportant on your special day. I'm sure
on your special day you had allsorts of wonderful memories that you still remember,
and this is the opportunity for themto make those memories for themselves.
So what would you guys, like, what do you like to listen to?
Because this is your party, thisis your wedding. So I really
try and stress that in the callin a polite way, but like,
(15:03):
don't get it twisted. I'm workingfor them. I'm teamed them. I
don't care about your money or yourcheck. This is their party. I
like that. That's a friendly reminder. You want you watch your wedding like
you've been down this road. Yeahmore than once. Oh yeah, because
we have really hit you know,a vein here where you seem really really
(15:26):
you're sure about what you're saying.And this tells me that experience has brought
you to this place. M hm. And it's sad sometimes because you could
see they'll be like, you know, like I don't want to you know.
Last weekend I had a wedding andthe couple was adamant they did not
want any line dances like Cha ChaSlide, Electric Slide, Cupid Shuffle.
(15:48):
People don't like those kind of cheesywedding songs. And the mother of the
groom was like, can you playElectric Slide and the Cupid Shuffle? And
I was thinking these two that theyspecifically said they didn't want, and so
I said, you know, actuallythis is really this is at the top
of their do not play list,you know, and the dance floor was
popping. It was fun, andthen she was like, oh, okay,
(16:10):
well I figured they didn't want it, Okay, fine, you know,
and then like five minutes later,the groom comes over and he's like,
can you just play the thing?It's from my mom and I was
like, yes, okay, butyou know, you needed to tell me
that. And then it sucks becauseI told you they did not want that,
but you're like, I want tohear it, and so I played
it next. It cleared the dancefloor, but she and her, you
(16:33):
know, three or four friends wereout there doing it. And I was
like, okay, well whatever yougot. You know, that's fine,
that's fine. Whatever. You clearedmy dance floor with your song. But
okay, glad you're happy. Theydidn't want this, but you're happy,
so, you know, or they'llbe like, well, why aren't you
playing X y Z Because your childdid not want me to play that.
(16:56):
Your child wants to hear this music. So even though you're not feeling it,
yeah, your child is happy.Look them, look at them.
They're having fun. All of theirfriends are having fun. This is their
party, this is what they wantedto hear. So just remember it's not
your it's not your day. Youcan have your day, have a party,
you have your own party. Thisis their Day's good for you.
(17:18):
That's good that you stand in yourground, though a lot of people just
give into it. And you canhave your opinion. It's your child,
but remember it's their day. Youhad yours, and if you didn't,
then you can have your day.Yeah, but not theirs. Martha's nufferent
one scratching off the cha cha slideon, no electric slide for me.
(17:44):
Those of the I would say themain four things and have fun, but
most of all, and make ityour own. I would say at the
end that would be like number five, make it your own day, because
it is your memory. You'll neverforget going to Las Vegas with Jordan,
and you know, getting married MarthaQuinn. That is a special memory.
You'll remember it. You'll remember whatyou were doing, what you're wearing,
(18:07):
when you guys decided to do it, and it was really special. And
if your mom would have stepped inand said no, no, no,
you know you need to do thisand make sure you're wearing this and you
need to play this, it wouldbe a totally different memory. And so
make it your own day. Whateverthat means you know, there was a
couple. They were not dancers,So don't feel like you have to do
(18:27):
a first dance if you don't liketo get up and dance in front of
people. They're gamers, Yeah,they were gamers. They had a screen
and they played a Super Mario Kartbattle or like this is what this is
what we do. We we game. She had her character, he had
his, and that's what they didinstead of a first dance. So I
say cool, and ye make ityour day because it's your memory. Do
(18:51):
whatever you want, do whatever youwant. I always say, you know,
I've seen people drop a crest likeyou know, the old school Lord
of the Rings, Game of Thrones, like a crest like your house would
have a flag with a crest onit. Their own person off the side
of a mountain in Berkeley after theywere pronounced Mary. Their friends created a
crest for them. I've seen allsorts of things, and it's those memories
(19:15):
that are most unique and most fun. Don't feel like it has to be
the traditional you know, okay,mother, father, you know the family
dance and this and that and this, and then it's your party. Do
whatever you want, do whatever youwant. Whatever you want. Sky's the
limit at weddings. That's it.Well, it sounds to be like if
(19:38):
somebody goes to Christie Live on Instagramand tries to find you to DJ their
wedding, they get a lot morethan a DJ. They get somebody who
can really help them out. Doyou ever think about being a wedding planner
Christie? I've thought about it,but I don't need another job. I
(20:00):
don't need any more jobs. ButI think it's it's fun and I have
a lot of friends who are weddingplanners, and so yeah, I think
it's helpful. I would do aday of I would be a day of
or a month of coordinator to kindof help people. But I like djaying.
I like to be able to controlthe vibe of the event because the
(20:22):
music is a lot of that.And she also has a brand new three
sixty photo booths. Ye got anew photo booth. It's pretty exciting.
Okay, are you responsible for that? Yes? Yes, the DJ is
responsible for the photo booth. Ifthey book it. That's more money.
Oh, I see. So it'sa service that you offer, Yes,
(20:45):
lighting, photo booth, djaying,A lot of it goes hand in hand.
If you offer all of them,it's just an opportunity for you to
get more money because they're gonna mostmost every single wedding has some sort of
photo booth. Now might as wellsay, hey, I have a photo
booth. If you're going to getone, get it from me. I'll
be there. And what is athree sixty photo booth? You know when
(21:06):
they do the oscars and they're kindof standing on this platform and the camera
goes around them, and it's kindof like this three hundred and sixty degree
view. So you're standing on thisround platform and then the camera rotates around
you, so it's kind of givingyou this three sixty It's like a boomerang
video. It almost looks like thestage with the people on it are spinning,
(21:26):
but it's not. They're really juststanding still and it's the camera that's
going around them. I'll show youright here. Well, while you're doing
that, let me just say,if you have recently gone to a wedding
that either went spectacularly well or spectacularlynot well, definitely join the conversation here
with the talkback feature on our freeiHeart radio app. You just tap the
(21:48):
red microphone and tell us your nameand your wedding story. We would love
to hear it here. Look atthis. This is an example of a
three sixty. Oh, it's almostlike spins around the people. They're really
just standing still on the stage andthe camera goes around them. Wow.
They almost look like, um yeawax museum figures. Yeah, yeah,
(22:10):
in a weird way. Huh.Pretty cool, fascinating. That's called a
boomerang video. No, it's thethree sixty video. But I was trying
to use that as an Okay,okay, Karna vlaskas. Yes, ma'am,
you were asking something. No,I wasn't saying anything. You were
about to ask Karina something. You'reabout to ask me something? God,
jeez, I don't remember. Um. Well, listen, let's go over
(22:34):
Christie's tips. Number five make ityour own day, ye. Number four,
moms and dads let your kids dotheir things. Number three step off,
as Jack Black said in School ofRock. Number three, have a
(22:56):
planner. Number two set the moodmusic all day long at your party.
And number one remember it's a party. Yeah, and remember that if you
have doubts, don't do it,they'll do it. Oh, maybe you
were gonna ask me about my horrorstory. Oh yeah, it wasn't really
that bad. But I was invitedto a wedding once. It was like
(23:19):
a Viname side of the family whatever. She was getting married and they had
karaoke, so they had a stageand I was like, okay, I'll
go sing karaoke. And I wentto go sing and I think I was
singing Jewel Pieces of Me or somethinglike that, and the groom comes up,
puts his arm around me and startsfreaking on me in front of everybody,
(23:44):
the entire family, and I'm tryinghard to like get him off.
He was he was obviously tisney,he's obviously a little tipsy, but he's
like grinding on the back of mewhile holding me while I'm trying to sing
jewel and I'm going like trying topush him off but not like be super
rude in front of everybody that waslooking. And the bride comes up on
(24:04):
stage and just yanks him, andthat was it. She was like I'm
over. She left and he waslike I'm sorry, I'm sorry, and
he was the most And here Iam up. Somebody's plus one that my
cousin's plus wed and I felt soso awkward. But I will never ever
forget that moment. I was almoststill married. Do you know they are
(24:26):
not married? He they divorced realquick after that. I think it was
about like they lasted for about twoyears, and it was clear, like
she that he was you know,it was clear that Karina broke up there
happy. Yeah, it was clearthat he was over there. Um,
you know, wrestling with other women. Tip number six, don't invite Karina
(24:48):
to the wedding. Is that whatwe're picking up here? Yeah? Don't.
Ah, that was just well awesome, Thank you. I appreciate that.
You know, last week, Christy, you were saying, oh,
I don't know if people want tohear about weddings, and I was thinking
about that all week and thinking abouthow I felt like I wish that I
(25:10):
had said to you in that exactmoment, Christie, anything that you're passionate
about and discuss is interesting, LikeI feel like we could do an entire
podcast on your eyelash game. Ah. Sweet, you did say that.
Actually, Martha Quinn, you didsay that. You said, no,
if you're passionate about it, peoplewill want to hear about it. And
I just meant in that moment,I just meant in that moment, I
(25:32):
didn't think people wanted me to go, you know, because it is good
information, Like you said, youknow, Annabelle's getting married. It's helpful.
You know, people ask me whenI meet with them. I meet
with wedding clients all the time.It's helpful. And my last two wedding
clients met on Hinge. Once again, you're looking to get married, Andre,
bumble, hind your bumble, allright, Thank you so much for
checking out episode number one hundred andeighty six of Talk Talk with Martha Quinn.
(25:56):
You can go to adesplus Radio dotcom click on the podcast and Media
tab to find a whole bunch moreof these episodes. You can also hear
Christie Live on Demand and Christie LivesCrazy Train in the podcasts and Media section.
Catch up on that until episode numberOh wait, what episode is this?
(26:18):
Oh? This is one eighties.I wrote it down one eighty six,
but I think it might be quotewell until the next episode. There
you go, whatever number that.Maybe I'm Martha Quinn, I'm Christie,
I'm Corina Velasquez, Missiere Ready
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