November 7, 2022 • 47 mins
The Jubal Show stopped the show for an entire hour this morning to bring awareness and attention to the mental health crisis that is going on in America right now. So throughout this hour we open up the phone lines for people to call in to hear their stories on what they are going through right now, and share some of our own, hopefully to help make sure that no one feels alone!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I want to talk about you for a second. It's
(00:02):
The Jewel Show's one to six point one. And when
I say you, I mean you. If you can hear
my voice right now, if you're in the studio, I'm
talking to you directly, call us up eight eight three
four three one six one eighty eight three four three
one oh six one. I want to talk about you
because you know what, We're supposed to do something here,
the twelve things that people like less as they get older,
and I just decided I don't want to do that,
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like literally, right this second, right before we went on
the air, I decided I don't want to do that.
I just I don't want to do something different, and
I want to shake it up a little bit oke
and change the change the way you got. You gotta
mix it up a little bit once in a while, right,
And that's why I want to talk to you, because
I don't know if you realize this or not, but
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the United States in the world is in the middle
of a mental health epidemic. For real. It's a problem.
And I'm not being a downer here, I'm being positive.
I'm being super positive. I get misunderstood a lot whenever
I talk about this stuff because in order to be
positive you all, I have to talk about some of
the sad stuff. And I know for a fact that
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you listening to my voice right now, you are struggling
with something. There's something going on in your life that
is not easy for you. I guarantee it, because you
can't walk around this planet. You can't have to worry
about getting to work on time and rushing around and
paying attention to a clock and dealing with all the
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anxiety that we deal with on a daily basis and
not have something going on. I also know this for
a fact that there are a lot of people that
feel alone and they're not and I want to help
you not feel alone this morning. It's just been on
my mind a lot lately, and especially with the clock changing,
(01:45):
thinking about just like I'm tired of having to be
on time, I'm tired of having to get places on time.
And there's a lot of people going to work today
in their car to a job that they don't want
to go to stress out for no reason. Really, if
you really think about it, whoever made up time made
it up so we could stress out. Basically, that's the
way I feel. Right when they created time. They created
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stress times, a made up thing that we put on
ourselves to stress out. So chill for a little bit
and not feel alone, and whatever I want to say
right now, I want you to do a favor if
you can hear my voice right now, if you're listening
to this, text your friends, text your family members, text
everybody you know and tell them just to listen for
a minute. I want as many ears on this as possible, Okay,
because I know that at the end of the day
(02:27):
I'm probably gonna have a meeting where they're gonna go
that was a dumb move, just going on the air
and talking about whatever and blowing off everything just to
make people feel not alone. And I know for a
fact that people feel alone because we do the research.
They have a bunch of research right work for a
big company, and they do all this research on the
people that listen, and they found that people just want
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to not feel alone. I also know that's a fact
because anytime I talk about this stuff, we get text messages,
we get emails, we get phone calls from people who
go thank you or saying something about X, Y and
Z because it made me feel not alone today. So
I want all of us, you us in studio, everybody
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to not be alone for a minute and to talk
about what's going on in the world. Because now that
we're getting back to normal ish, COVID really did a
number on us, right mentally, Like I walk around and
people can't even look anybody in the eye. People are
dealing with so much anxiety. Anytime anybody has a helpful
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hint about mental health on TikTok, it goes viral with
millions and millions and millions and millions of years. There's
a reason for that, right, And I bring up, Hey,
I want to talk about more mental health stuff on
the air. I want to talk about people struggling, but
also in a positive way to let them know that
they're not alone. And the consultants and the people that
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are in it for the business part, because I've never
been in it for the business part. Right, They go,
you can't do that because the ratings will go down
because people don't want to feel good that way. Right,
Like I'll make you laugh for sure, right, you might
laugh during this. What I'm saying is they say, don't
take risks, and they say, don't do this kind of stuff,
(04:15):
and they say stay in a box and be somebody
who we want you to be. And they don't want
people to challenge things, and I've always been somebody who's
about challenging things. I started talking about my struggles with
mental health ten fifteen years ago, and back then, not
that many people were talking about it right, And back then,
even I would get every single time I would do it,
(04:37):
same thing, You shouldn't say that stuff on there? How
do you talk about depression? How do you talk about
all this stuff? Right? You shouldn't do that. And then
I get message after message after message after message from
people saying thank you for saying something so right now,
because I know that we're in the middle of a
mental health epidemic in this world, and I know that
you are feeling lonely and alone, and I know that
you are probably going to a job you don't want
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to go to, a job that doesn't take your mental
health seriously enough, and they see you as a number
and not as a person. And I want us all
to not feel alone. If you're struggling with something, call
up right now eight at eight three four three one
six one eight eight eight three four three one oh
six one. If you're happy about something, call us up
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right now eight eight eight three four three one oh
six one, because if you don't know anything about me,
I've been out in and out mostly in therapy since skindergarden, right,
So I've had a headstart on a lot of people, right,
not because of great reasons, but I have. And so
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I've devoted my life really to dissecting myself and dissecting
emotions and doing all that right, and I talk about it.
And because I don't have any initials after my name,
people think I don't know what I'm talking about, but
I do, and I know that if if I can't
give you some advice, if Alex can't give you some advice,
if Bennett can't give you some advice, if Victoria can't
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give you some advice, if Richard's sitting in the corner
of the room there being a weirdo can't give you
some advice, then we can at least point you in
the right direction, or you can hear from another listener
who is also going through something similar, so you know
that you're not alone. I think that's the biggest problem
that's going on today is there's a lack of connection
in the world. Right up on social media and the
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social media is great because people can feel connected, except
social media for a lot of people makes you feel
more disconnected. And then you see people living these lives
that you want to live, which you can live any
life you want. I want to show people that you're
powerful enough to do whatever you want to do, and
I want to show people that you really aren't alone,
and that we live in a global community and a
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global society and we can all have each other's back.
So call us up eight to eight three four three
one six one eight eight eight three four three one
oh six one. I'm blowing off everything. I don't know
how long I'm going to talk. I can talk about
this stuff forever, just asking my wife should be like, yeah,
he never shuts up about it, right, I don't know,
because like I'm tired of dealing with time. I'm literally
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tired of dealing with time, and I'm tired of being misunderstood.
And so are you. I guarantee you're feeling the same way.
Right We're on this little ball in the middle of space,
running around trying to make a paycheck for what things
we can't take with us, but you know what we
can take with us throughout the day is a little
bit of positivity and a little bit of love, and
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the knowing that we're not alone, right, and knowing that
people out there are feeling the same way. And you
can look people in the eye when you're out. You
don't have to be scared, right, and you can say hi,
you can smile at someone. It's all about raising the
vibe in the world, raising the vibe in this country,
and raising the vibe for you in your life so
that you can feel better. If you smile at one
person today, they'll smile at another person, They'll smile at
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two more people, and eventually everybody's smiling at each other
and feeling better. Hey, Wendy, hold on one second. I
cut the button. Eighty eight three four three one six
one eighty eight three four three one oh six one.
If you're struggling, something, calls up. If you're not struggling
with something, you're happy, call us up. I just want
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us all as a group to not be alone and
hit up everybody, you know. I'm streaming this on YouTube
live right now, streaming on Facebook Live. I wasn't gonna
stream it on TikTok, but I'm not active enough on TikTok,
so I didn't know how to do it, so I'm
not streaming on TikTok right now, but you can go
check it out on the YouTube as well. Facebook. Jewel Show,
just get as many people to join us right now
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as possible so that we can all not be alone.
Eight to eight three four three one six one eight
eight eight three four three one oh six one. Hey, Whindy,
what's up? How are you? Hi? Drew? Hi Jewel. I'm good,
And thank you for saying what you're saying and bring
attention to it, because man, you are so spot on.
(08:49):
Thank you. I appreciate that. Yeah, I mean later on
today I'm gonna have to send the meeting and guarantee it,
or I'm gonna have to get phone calls and go
what were you doing? Why do you do that? Because
you're not supposed to do this kind of stuff. They
want me to talk for like five minutes, make you
laugh and then that's it. Well, we played that Selena
Gomez Selena Gomez, right, Yeah, we played that Selena Gomez
new song the other day, and that song is all
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about mental health. Everybody's talking about it now, which I
think is a great thing, except you know who's not
talking about it, the people in charge that can make
some changes, right, exactly, so exactly what. I just want
people to not feel alone. That's all I want today.
That's why, that's why I said, get as many ears
on this as possible, get as many eyes on it
as possible. Of streaming it, I want people to know
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that they're not alone, Wendy, in your life, is there
anything that you're going through that you could share that
will let someone out there who's feeling alone and struggling
with something similar, No, that they're not. Yeah, um my
myself and my young adult son, we're both to say old.
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I'm on the which is only eight forty a month.
You know what the rents look like. We're currently homeless.
I'm living in our car and it's winter and it's
really flipping cold. We both have health issues. A couple
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of friends were nice enough to get us a motel
room through the weekend. This weekend and I'm literally sitting
in my montel room packing up, knowing we have to
be out of here by eleven and it's just so hard.
And I understand the opioid crisis and everybody battling addiction,
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but currently, all of the funds are going to homing
at rehousing emergency housing people struggling with active addiction that
are currently using If you're not an addict, if you're
just homeless because of economic reasons, the wait list is
months and months long. Right. And see, that's where the
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one thing is compassion. You have some friends that are
very compassion and they helped you. I feel compassion for
you for sure, right. I know you'll be okay. I
do because everybody's always okay everything, Like, even if you
have the most terrible thing ever, there's another side of it.
So Wendy, you will be okay. Right, Yeah, every single
struggle in your life has a lesson. Right now, there
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is a lesson you're learning. You might not even be
able to see it, but I promise you, when this
is over and this tough time is over, you will
look back on it and go, oh oh, now I
figured out this in my life. But people will be
stronger for it eventually getting through it. Yeah, And I
guarantee you that there's a lot of people listening to
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this right now going through the same thing, saying the
same thing, like, hey, um, if it's just for economic reasons,
they're not really helping. Right. The opioid crisis in the
country is directly related to the mental health epidemic that
we're having. People are numbing, right, Ye, people are numbing,
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And I trust me, I've numbed with every kind of
thing you can pretty much. I've tried. I've I've been
on almost every single antidepressant. I've been on legal things,
tom I've been on illegal things tonamic And until I
learned how to do it inside and for my own
mental health, then I didn't need any of that stuff exactly.
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That those services are hard to come by now, Yes
they are, and that's why we need to do something.
That's why I wanted to talk about it today because
I was just tired of it. Like I'm sitting here,
We're about to do a segment on twelve things that
people like less as they get older, and I'm like,
you know what, there's more important things right now. There's
people like you, Wendy, and there's people like you listening
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who need some help, and we need some changes right
There needs to be things and services for people like
you and the people that are struggling with the opioid crisis,
and there also needs to be. I'm definitely not knocking
them getting help because that is a huge thing. They
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absolutely need to help. Yeah, but you can't forget about
the rest of the people either, and that's what's going on. Yeah, absolutely,
And compassion is what I was talking about, right. Compassion
is if you see somebody who's on the streets, there's
not a lot of compassion for them. No, Wendy. Wendy
is um essentially homeless right now. But it's not out
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of a lack of trying. It's not because you're addicted,
it's not because of any of that. But if someone
were to see you on the corner, they would judge you,
and we need to yea, they have this. Do you
know how hard it is? You never realize how hard
it is to find a rest of to us until
your home and people look at you just decide that
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you must be an addict or you must want to
be there. So why are we going to help you?
So somebody that comes to stress in a suit going
to the office for the day, they get let into
the gas station restroom. But somebody who's homeless, and I mean,
even though we're homeless, we're still clean. Where it's still
you know, there. We can shower at gym's. We got
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a gym membership to be able to shower and stuff.
But they see that you're living in your car, they
assume you want to beither. They assume you're an addict.
So all of a sudden, the sign goes up or
they say, sorry, the restrooms out of order, even though
you just saw a man in a suit walk out
of the restaurant. That's happened so many times. It's tough. Wendy.
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Just know, like I said, things will be okay, and
there's somebody listening this right now who might be able
to help you out and put you on hold. We'll
get your number if you can help Wendy out with
anything calls up eight three one six one eight eight
eight three four three one six one. It doesn't have
to be anything monetary, doesn't have to be just if
like maybe you have a lead on a job. I
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just want to show people that we are not alone
and that we can all help each other out. Eight
to eight three four three one oh six one. Thank
you and the eight to eight three four three one
oh six one. I think the one of the biggest
things that we need in this country is is reform
as far as mental health goes in the workplace, honestly,
(15:29):
because I just saw over the weak one of the
reasons that I'm talking about this, I just saw this
over the weekend. I do nothing, but my obsession is
feeling good. Right. The people say, um, can you be
addicted to feeling good? Yeah? Absolutely, addicted to things like
I'm addicted to happiness. When I found happiness, actual happiness,
I got addicted to it, right. I'll do anything to
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stay happy. I'll do anything to not be stressed out.
I will do anything to not be burnt out, whatever
that is. And the CDC just literally the other day
classified burnout on the job as a legit health reason.
Oh wow, Yeah, a legit health reason. And companies all
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over the place don't think about the fact that their
employees are struggling. They don't think about the fact that
their employees are people, and they want them to act
a certain way, and they want them to be a
certain way, and they want them to act professionally. Look,
I've been unprofessional in my whole life. What I'm doing
right now severely unprofessional. But I like to challenge the
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social norms because I think that's the only way that
things can get better. That's the only way that people
can feel good is for somebody to go, you know
what's screw it. I'm just going to take an hour
of the show. Whatever happens happens to me. But at
least you can see that you're not alone today call
us up eight to eight three four three one six
one eighty eight three four three one six one. And
the time change is one of the things that bugs
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me the most. The time changes tear for people. The
time chame is literally there are more car accidents today
when we spring forward a fallback the day after the
time change, there's more car accidents, there's more heart attacks,
there's all kinds of things that go wrong with our bodies.
Because they put this thing in place in the seventies
right to in this I mean, sorry, the eighteen seventies
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to chure seventeen ers, I don't know. Stop asking me
about the day. But they put this thing into place
to try to save energy. But there's no way to
measure like it didn't work. But we've done daylight savings
time since then for no reason. But the only thing
that they can measure is daylight savings time is bad
for human beings. It has no other value, and that's
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not a value. It's bad for human beings. But because
our system is so screwed up and people don't want
to change how they normally do things, and people don't
want to challenge stuff, this has been an effect for
how many years, And they finally have put a thing
in the government to try to stop they like saving
time because they're like, oh, hey, this actually kills people.
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We probably shouldn't do that, and it's probably not going
to get past because people don't think about people. And
I just want people to start looking at things differently. Right,
challenge the way you do things today. If like you're
in a bad mood, backflip on it. A backflip is
kind of my theory on life, Like, do the opposite
of what you want to do. If you want to
scream at somebody in traffic today, just smile at them.
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It probably feel better for you. It would save you
from having to have a headache thinking about how terrible
they're driving. And also you never know what could happen.
You don't know what someone else is going through, right,
you could do something the wrong person and then they
lose it. Eighty eight three four three one six, one
eighty eight three four three one oh six one. Hey Kramer, Yeah,
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what's that? Man? Not too bad? Pretty good? Actually, I mean,
I know, maybe I don't sound like it. Maybe it
sound like I'm going through it. I'm not sure, but
I'm not like. I'm just I just saw this stories
over the weekend of how they made burnout on the job.
The CDC said that burnout on the job is a
legit health issue. I have been reading about it for weeks,
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how the country's in a mental health epidemic. I see
it when I'm out on the streets, man, Like you
go to the gas station to get some lotto tickets
and the person behind the counter has so much anxiety
they can't even look you in the eye. They can't
even talk to you. Because everybody's dealing with so much
anxiety and we don't have to. There's ways that you
can calm anxiety by playing with your pinkie. That sounds dirty,
(19:30):
it's not, but there literally are things that you can
do to calm anxiety. Everybody's talks about anxiety, Like I said,
anybody talks about this stuff on TikTok and it's getting
a million views on how to feel better. And I
have a little bit of knowledge on that because I've
been doing it my whole life, right, and that's why
I'm staying called supp right now eight to eight, three
four three, one oh six one. I just want people
to not feel alone. And I want everybody to see
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that we are a community and we can all help
each other out and we can all feel good today.
And you should feel positive today. You should feel happy today.
You shouldn't feel stressed out about the time. You should
feel stressed out about nothing really, right, everybody should just
be happy and show each other compassion and know that
we're not alone, and we'll all start feeling better. What
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are you going through today, crime, Are you going through
anything or you just call up to say say that
you're not going through anything. Well, you know I was
going through something, and you know, for the past i'd
say a year or so, I just really struggled. And
you know, COVID the shutdown didn't help. I struggled the
last year or so. And you know, there was mornings
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where I wake up and it was just a struggle
to get through to day and there was no light
at the end of the tunnel. And one thing that
was important for me was surrounding myself with supportive loved
ones and close friends who you know, I could lean on.
And you know, I was really going through it about
six months ago and I finally woke up one morning
(20:57):
and you said, you know what, I said to myself.
You know what, I got to do something about this
because I feel like this is out of my control.
And UM, I took the next step. I made an
appointment to go talk to somebody, to go see somebody,
and UM, you know I I got on some medication
and it completely completely turned things around for me. Um,
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I wake up happy. I do see the light at
the end of the tunnel. UM, I can finally see
all the things that I have going right it for myself. UM,
and I try to just spread that, like I said,
surrounding myself with loved ones, UM who are supportive and
UM you know I give you got to give uh
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people a lot more credit around yourself that they can,
UM you know, be there for you and UM you're
not alone. Because it is embarrassing. It it was shameful.
It was like I couldn't beat this. I couldn't beat this.
But UM, you know I talked to somebody, and like
I said, surround yourself with loved ones, um and lean
on those people because they're there for you. They're there
(22:03):
to help you. Absolutely. You can't get through air lighted
at the tunnel. Definitely, And thanks for calling man eight
to eight three four, three and six one. Appreciate your camera.
Good job, dude. Appreciate Yeah, eight eight three three six
one eight eight three four three one oh six one.
Great that dude said something there that is really profound. Okay,
because there is a lot of shame associated with not
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feeling good. I've been misunderstood my whole life when I
talk about this stuff because I've learned to be an
incredibly happy person. You can be happy and sad at
the same time. I've had a very long road to
get there, but I've been there for a while now
and it feels amazing. Also still sad. Sometimes you can
be sad and happy at the same time. But when
you talk about things in a serious way like I
(22:45):
am right now, somebody out there might be perceiving this
as a downer. This is not a downer what I'm
doing right now. I want to be very clear because communication,
this is a positive thing. This is showing you that
you're not alone, and this is showing you that thing
can look up for you, and they are and you
will feel better. Yeah, and if you're not going through anything,
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then skip about that. Rejoice about that that you feel good.
There's always something good in everything, even a struggle. When
you say things like this, when you talk about this,
people might take it is wow, you're talking about You're
being a downer, right, You're being sad. People don't want
to hear about sad. No, No, you need to hear
about sad to appreciate the happy. You need to hear
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that dude story to know. Also, if you identify with
that and you're like, man, I haven't told anybody that
I'm going through it. I got a group of friends
around me, nobody knows. I go out to the bar
and I fake a smile. I go home and I cry.
Nobody knows because I'm ashamed. Don't be ashamed of how
you feel. That's the other thing too, that we need
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to do is reform in the way that we think
about mental health. You should be able to walk up
to a stranger and go, hey, I'm really struggling right now,
and they should have enough compassion to talk to you
and go, man, that's sad. Let me help you out
with some advice or whatever. Right, you should definitely be
able to say it to the people that are closest
to you. Definitely, and you can. And people like Cramer
(24:12):
who just called us, they sit there quietly. I suffered
a lot in silence, and they're in a room full
of people, but they feel alone. You might be in
a room full of people right now, or you feel alone.
You might be in your car on a road full
of people, but you feel alone. And that's why I
decided to do this this morning, is because you're not.
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And I want everybody to not feel alone for a
little while today. And you should tell somebody, you should
talk about it. There should be no shame around not
feeling good. It's actually way worse for you if you
fake that smile. It's actually way worse for you if
you're not honest with people about how you're feeling. Trust me,
(24:54):
I've been there. It is way worse. And that's why
I get perceived sometime as a negative person. When I'm not.
I have to literally say it with my words all
the time. I am positive, I am happy. You know,
people still don't believe me, right, because they just perceive
it that way. Because I also talk because I'm truthful.
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I talk about the good and the bad. You can't
only have good. It would be impossible to have good
if you didn't have bad, and you should not be
ashamed of not feeling good. It's like, you know, how,
something awkward happens and everybody wants to laugh it off
and pretend like it didn't happen, and then the vibe
(25:35):
in the room is crunchy for a while until it
goes away. The vibe in the room is crunchy because
nobody said, Wow, that was really awkward, let's talk about it.
So that's what you're doing to yourself by not saying anything.
You're making yourself feel crunchy all day. You're like, man,
I'm sad, but I just filed. I just smiled and
told him I'm great because I didn't want them to
feel bad because I feel bad. Well, they're not responsible
(25:57):
for how you feel. They should also care enough if
they're in your life, to listen to you and let
you know that they do care. I know it's hard
to talk about it because of like you said, shame.
A lot of people feel ashamed of it. There should
be no shame about saying, hey, I need some help.
There should also be no shame around saying like, hey,
I'm feeling great. Man. I've got enough. I've got enough
(26:18):
mental capacity. Right now, we can talk about your sadness.
I've got a boutch of happiness. Let me give you
some happiness and then you can walk down the street
and think about something good. That's what I'm trying to
do right now. Eighty eight three four three one o
six one eighty eight three four three one oh six one.
Hey Peter, Yeah, what's up man? How are you? I'm um,
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not too shabby. Not looking forward to the meetings and
phone calls I'm gonna get after we get off the
air today for them being like, why did you just
blow up eight o'clock hour and do whatever you want it?
But I think it's worth it, so anyway, look bad
and now I think job with that. I think it's
a good thing. Jebile appreciates it. So what's going on
(26:59):
with you? Man? Now? Well, I don't know. There's a
lot of things wrong to be probably, but no, I
mean it's been a struggle. I've been out of work
for I broke my leg on the job, and I've
been out of work for not out of work on
OJI for like ten months, and then with my profession, it's, uh,
I gotta go back to work, but I still feet
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cleared by a different examiner. So now I'm doing unemployment
and the life. It's a struggle, but you know what,
we can all pull through on this stuff, because for me,
the hardest thing is like waking up every day thinking
can I support my woman, can I support my kids?
Can I make it through the day? And two days
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ago it was a setback. It sucked. Now you have
to do unemployment until I can get you know, clear
to go back to work. So it's a struggle, right,
it is. It is a struggle. But when you go
back to work, you know you'll also very appreciative of
that and you know this might be an opportunity to
see there's an opportunity in every problem. Like That's the
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thing that I got to is if you see problems today,
you're only going to see problems. And I'm not saying
that's what you're saying, Peter. What I'm saying is there's
an opportunity in every problem. There's a way to capitalize
on it somehow. So you know, you being unemployment, your
legs messed up, out of work, you're worried, right if
you can take if you can take car? And absolutely
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is the worry. The worry is probably the thing you
think about the most of your life right now. Huh yeah, yeah, exactly,
you know. And that's the thing you think you have
your life set, everything's like moving forward, you're on a
good path and then boom, it just gets taken away.
And that I think we need to understand day to
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day like we only we must be grateful for today,
right for the next thing? Yeah, and for me if
after this just happened, it's like a huge struggle right
for sure, definitely. And you know, like I said, the
worry is what you're worrying about all the time, just
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like a lot of people out there. Once again proof
if you're listening to this day, you're not alone like
Peter's worried. You're worried about something. Here's a tip for you, Peter.
And it's hard to do, but you can replace that
worry with something else. That's why I say there's a
positive and there's a way to to find an opportunity
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in a problem, Right, you've got a problem. Worrying is
obviously just gonna it's gonna it's gonna cause your anxiety
to get worse. It's gonna cause you to get wound
up every single time you notice, what's that? Go ahead?
Oh no, I'm sorry to cut you out. You know,
that's the biggest thing. It's Yeah, it's so easy for
all of us in life to get our anxiety to
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just get wound up. Right, we forget the big picture,
exactly right, We forget the big picture, We forget to
be in the moment, we forget the hate. You know,
at the end of the day, we're all going to
the same place, and we don't even know what it is.
It might be amazing, you know, none of us really. Actually,
the only people who know what happens after we leave
this planet is the people who have gone there. And
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unless you've talked to them, which I haven't, then you
don't know how it is. We don't know. And excepting
that we don't know, I think is one of the
keys to being comfortable. Just except we don't know and
just live be in the moment. Right, Look around you,
look at the trees, Look how beautiful they are. Appreciate
something beautiful, and Peter, every single time you notice one
of those thoughts in your head right where you're like, Man,
I'm worried, I'm worried, I'm worried. We're worried. I guarantee
there's something that you are interested in, something that you
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like to do something right. I don't know. I don't
know you, so I don't know. And you can literally
notice when you're feeling that way, when you're feeling worried,
when you're thinking about it, and if you do this enough,
if you notice it and then replace it with the
thing you want to do, whatever it is. I don't
know you, Peter, but let's say you wanted to make
money on Instagram selling knitted T shirts because Peter, and
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it's good T shirts. I think you knit good T shirts.
That's what it sounds like to me. Peter. Then yeah, yeah,
I do, absolutely, Yeah, that's fine. Yeah, put the effort
of that worry into the nit T shirts. Actively pay
attention to the worry, and then go Nope, I'm going
to knit some T shirts. And before you know it,
all that time you've been worrying, you've just knitted a
bunch of T shirts and you're gonna make a billion
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dollars on Instagram. I don't know if nitted T shirts
will sell that well, Peter, I hope you don't actually
take that advice. But no, thanks, No, It's just it
doesn't matter what we do in this world. That's the thing,
Like you we can have every profession is harderd in
my mind. And and when you think you have things
big and things are going well and then all of
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a sudden things are stopped away, yeah from you, for sure,
it's terrifying. And then you start to realize how little
we are, but how big we can be. And but
it's a struggle. And I think what you're doing is
awesome than all the time, like this is this is
like this is great. Thank you man, thank you very
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appreciate O're doing this like you have. I think a
lot of people do good. Well, I hope so you know,
I really do um because it was kind of like
it was literally on a on a whim. I was
just like, you know what, screw it, And well that's
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the thing though, like like if it's day to day, right,
we need to appreciate today and hope for tomorrow. But yeah,
if as long as we do everything we can today,
it makes it better. But even talking to you about
it out loud, it's helped a lot, and I really
appreciate it. Appreciate it, man, Appreciate you. Eight to eight
three four three one six one eight eight three four
three one oh six one. All we're doing right now
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on The Jewel Show is helping people not feel alone,
because loneliness is a big problem. The world is in
the middle of a mental health epidemic. People are finally
starting to talk about it more and just thinking about
time this morning and the time change and how bad
that is for people, and then just me being really
bad with the schedule of thinking about things I have
to do going. I'm just sick and tired of having
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to worry about time. Because if you're worried about time,
you're wasting time. Time you enjoy doing something you want
to do is never time wasted. So in every moment,
do something you want to do and appreciate it, Like
look at something around you, Like I said, look at
the leaves on the trees. There's trees around you. Look
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at something that you find interesting and just be curious
about it. That's not wasted time, and I do think
that companies need to pay attention to the fact that
there's a lot of employees out there who are burned out.
There's nothing worse than going to a job that you
don't want to go to. Trust me, I have done it.
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I used to go. I used to have this marketing job.
Every single day I would drive there. I would cry.
When I first started working in the workforce, I like
out of high school. I would cry and I would
get to the exit and then I would think, Man,
what would happen if I just kept driving? What if
I just kept driving? You know what happened? I don't know,
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but it probably would have been better than crying. And
going is sit at a cubicle for eight hours a
day pretending to work. And if you're going in there
right now, don't get down about what I just said.
Just think about that. Go. There is something I could
do right, and there's also something that companies can do.
We need some real reform in this country as far
as mental health goes with the workforce. There really is,
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like there should be a mental health There should be
a mandatory mental health day every single month for the
entire country, right just a day off like Christmas. Every
single month. There's a comment on YouTube because we're live
on YouTube. It says from Kimberly, Honestly, I lose sleep
because I'm so anxious about getting up on time to
get to work on time. Right, I'm so tired. Yeah,
everybody's tired. Ey body is tired, and everybody needs a
(35:02):
day off. And the thing that is, like, if you're
like I said, we're just we're just spending an hour
not being alone. That's why I said I want as
many people listening as possible. Text your friends, text your family,
time to listen right now, because who knows they may
not be able to listen tomorrow, Because I might, I
might get in trouble for just blowing off the hour
and doing what I want right. But I want us
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to all not feel alone and realize that we are
not alone and together. The vibe of the entire world
can raise if we all just think a little differently
and think positively and just are open about how we're
feeling and stop being quiet about stuff and stop making
people feel alone. Hey, it's been a last week. I
just want to say I took the steps to find
a therapist, and you know, I think This is a
(35:43):
big step because in the black community, mental health is
not discussed enough. And personally, I feel like I'm going
through a lot right now. You know, you're talking about burnout.
We work a lot here. I'm going through a separation
which has been really difficult, and through that separation a
lot of trauma from my upbringing. I grew up in
Phloster Care, was in and out of Phloster Care for
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like ten years, so a lot of that trauma has
like emerged and it's in my life. And I have
a lot of anxiety. The other day, I was driving
in the car thinking about a bunch of things and
like literally burst it out, crying, and I'm like, oh
my gosh, this is anxiety right here, this is it.
And for such a long time, I'm like, maybe I
should talk to someone about like my rough past. Maybe
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I should talk to someone about crying in the car
while trying to get home. And I did that, and
I'm good, you know, on the path and on the
journey to you know, become better and to work through
those things. And thank you. Absolutely. I think it's important
to say, as like a black man in America, you know,
coming from where I come from, what I've been through.
It's important to say, like, it's okay to reach out
to someone. You know, we have the people that are
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around us, people we love, our friends or family, but
sometimes it's important to reach out to someone who is
professionally trained and can really help you work through those things. So,
you know, just from myself to any one that's listening
that might be dealing with some trauma or just the
day today, it's okay to get help. It's all right
to reach out to somewhere and you'll become bigger and
better at the other end of things. Absolutely, and the like.
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That's a very good point that a lot of people
they don't even have access to the service. There are
places you can go online now. Actually, here is proof
of taking a problem and creating an opportunity. There's all
kinds of online resources now for counseling that are very
(37:34):
cheap that you can go to and you can literally
be matched up with a counselor and do the telehealth
thing that wasn't there before COVID. COVID was an incredibly
negative thing. There are some positive things that have come
out of it, though. There's people that started businesses, there's
people that change their whole life. There's some workers that
love their life now because they get to work at home.
(37:56):
And that's what I mean. We talk a lot about
the struggles in life, and then we don't talk about
the positive, or if you're talking about the positive, you
can only talk about the positive. Don't be a downer, right,
But they do all this research whenever they go over
the show, and they tell us things that people want
to hear, what they don't want to hear. They told
us one thing, people don't want to be alone. And
I'm like, well, let's make them not feel alone right
(38:18):
right now, that's what we're doing. Call us eighty eight
three four three one o six one eighty eight three
four three one oh six one. I guarantee if someone's
going through something similar as you, and I guarantee that
you can help them just by letting them know that
you're also going through whatever it is, happy or sad.
And then they go people want real talk, and then
they tell us that you know, you gotta be careful
(38:41):
along you do it before, you gotta be careful how
you do it. I wanted to prove people wrong today. Right,
Hopefully this hour of the show goes down as one
of the most highly rated hours ever. It might not. Also,
I tried. I tried for a moment to help people
feel a little better. I took a risk, and that's
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what you should do. And that's what a lot of
people did during COVID. We don't talk about the build
up after a bad thing. We talked about how terrible
COVID was, how lone everybody felt, blah blah blah blah blah,
what it's caused, right, we don't often highlight the good
thing that it's caused. September eleventh. I think September twelfth
should also be a national holiday. You want to know why,
because September eleventh, when those towers went down, was one
(39:26):
of the worst things in this country's history, in the
world's history. Right. So many people passed away, so many
people died, And I think the day after should also
be recognized, because the day was the day that the
people who lost someone there and the people in this
country that also lost some innocence if you weren't there
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and had to deal with it directly. The next day
was the day people got back up and rebuilt. However
long it took them, they rebuilt. So whatever you're going
through right now in your life. If it's not the
best thing for you, there's always a rebuild. There's people
that experienced some of the biggest traumas in their life
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and on September eleventh and then September twelve, they kept
going and some of them have figured out something new
that they always wanted to do and took a risk
because they realize, you know what, life is too short
to be stressed out. I'm just gonna be and I'm
just gonna be happy, and I'm gonna be sad, and
I'm gonna be okay with it, and I'm just gonna
(40:31):
be me uncomfortable in my own skin. Call us eight
at eight three four three one six one eight eight
eight three four three one six one. We are live
on YouTube at the Jewel Show. I got another message
in it says it's also important for your mental health
to cut toxic people out of your life for the
sake of your mental health. Yeah, so just definitely mind
that one out. Absolutely. Yeah, at the end of the day,
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there's you don't at the end of the day, everybody
only has themselves, right. If you're not going to look
out for yourself, you can't expect other people too. If
you can't take care of your own happiness, other people
can't make you happy. Happiness exists in side of you.
How you feel exists inside of you, and you can
change that just by being honest about it, right, by
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being honest about your successes and your failures in like
business and just in life in general. Eight eight six
one eight eight three four three one six one. Kevin, Hey,
how you doing, man, good man? How are you hanging
in there? Life's life? You know, it's a beautiful phrase
right there, life is life. So I was driving in today, Sir,
(41:37):
I listened to you a lot. Me and my daughter
thank you both of my waters. I'm a single dad
and I drive all the way from Tacoma to Renting
every day, or every Monday and Tuesday when I have
my daughters. Um, and my daughter mentioned to me, she said, well, Dad,
I have a story. And she's a Type one diabetic.
(41:58):
She was diagnosed eighteen months and so I have to,
you know, stay on top of that and it ain't
the easiest thing. But for her to express that to me,
you know, being a type one diabetic and uh, going
through the things that she's gone through in her life.
(42:19):
It just kind of made me feel like, you know, everything,
like you said, is gonna be okay because she's only
saving right now and she's just gone through so much. Yeah,
and I'm a divorced I'm an I've been you know,
through a lot too in the last couple of years
or divorced through the pandemic and what have you. So
being lonely is like I just can't even like I
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don't know. Yeah, I can tell you my whole life
right now, you know what I mean. That's lonely. I
am lately, but I don't know this. Uh, this this
segment that you have, it definitely is needed. Uh and uh,
I'm kind of mad because she wanted to hear her
hearing me on the radio call about it. But we'll
get you well after you after we're done talking to
(43:04):
you for y'all, hold um and we'll get your email stuff.
We'll send you it so that she can hear it
because she should. I'd appreciate it. But like I said,
she she's the want to make me do this, and
like I live for my daughters. And it's just like
I said, life, it's uh, it's life, but it can
get hard. It can get lonely and people are struggling.
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I mean, I'm in the middle of start my own business.
I'm a flooring installer. I'm in the middle of start
my own flooring business. So I had to like change
my whole situation, uh because of my daughter, you know,
her being a type woman, having to adjust to my
hours to be able to uh take care of her.
So it's it's, uh, it ain't the easiest you know, yeah,
(43:48):
but we get through it and we struggle, but we
also uh persevere too. Human wolf not the easiest wool,
but we stand up. We put our chin up. Every day,
we smile, you know, if we got to cry with
going the other room when we come back to our
kids and we do what we gotta do, you know exactly.
So everybody's and every everybody's doing that at some point
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right right right, And I'm not the best communicator. I
don't even know if I'm like getting everything out like
I'm supposed to get it out. But I thought it
was great. Yeah, you can have this job if you
want to. She's the one that gave me, like she's
the one that told me to call and just like
let everybody know, you know, at seven years old. One guy. Yeah,
(44:30):
thing's gonna be okay. You know, that's awesome. So that
with you guys. And then also I wanted to know,
you know, I wanted to hear this for sure. We'll
send this to you so she can hear it. And also, um,
you know she needs to know this too. That her
her asking you to call as incredibly brave. There's also
another seven year old out there, probably going through a
similar issue, maybe in the backseat of a car somewhere
(44:52):
listening right right right, my four year old smiling at me.
That's awesome. I'm putohn hoole man. We'll get you information.
We'll make sure you get a copy of that. Let
everybody know it'll be okay. Yeah, absolutely, there you go.
That's the perfect way to end hour. Everybody know it'll
be okay, it will it will be okay. There's a
(45:15):
lot of work to do in the world for people,
and I really think the leaders of this country, like dude,
I thought about him, like, I want to run for
an office. I don't even know how to run for
an office. I don't have an education to run for
an office. Um, I've got a life education that I
think could help in some ways right, But I'm like,
does anybody know how to run for an office? What
office could I run for that I could even try
(45:35):
to change anything? It can you even change anything? Right?
Because it does like companies need to take more responsibility
for their employees mental health. The leaders of our country
need to take more responsibility for what they do for
the citizens mental health. And I know that because we
are in the middle of a mental health epidemic. But
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he said it perfectly. It'll be okay, and also real
quick four I end this hour and then we go
back to the ridiculous Internet question, which is coming up
at nine ten. He said he talked about loneliness and
now he's going through a divorce and he's like, never
felt so lonely. And there's a lot of people that
feel lonely right now. I know that because we get
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research on our listeners and they say that people want
people just want to not feel alone. So I'm glad
that you hung out with us for an hour and
didn't feel alone. I'm really I'm happy about that. It
was nice. It was nice hearing about the good and
the bad, hearing about hope, and hearing about being able
to endure life. It was awesome, And if you feel alone,
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I will tell you this. If you feel alone, the
secret to not feeling alone and not being alone is
to take care of your mental health at all costs.
To practice self care, to do all those kind of things,
to talk to somebody, to not put shame on yourself.
(47:00):
Get yourself to a place where you love you, where
you love you, where you like hanging out with you.
You'll never be alone. Become your best friend, because if
you can become your best friend, you'll literally never be alone.
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That's probably the last thing I want to say about that.
I don't know. Maybe we should do this more often. Yeah,
I know that I'm gonna have to be in a
meeting leader where they're like, don't do that ever again.
But let us know. Call u up a to day
three four three six one Tex and email us let
us know if we should do stuff like that more
often and just not feel alone for a while.
I want to talk about you for a second. It's
(00:02):
The Jewel Show's one to six point one. And when
I say you, I mean you. If you can hear
my voice right now, if you're in the studio, I'm
talking to you directly, call us up eight eight three
four three one six one eighty eight three four three
one oh six one. I want to talk about you
because you know what, We're supposed to do something here,
the twelve things that people like less as they get older,
and I just decided I don't want to do that,
(00:24):
like literally, right this second, right before we went on
the air, I decided I don't want to do that.
I just I don't want to do something different, and
I want to shake it up a little bit oke
and change the change the way you got. You gotta
mix it up a little bit once in a while, right,
And that's why I want to talk to you, because
I don't know if you realize this or not, but
(00:44):
the United States in the world is in the middle
of a mental health epidemic. For real. It's a problem.
And I'm not being a downer here, I'm being positive.
I'm being super positive. I get misunderstood a lot whenever
I talk about this stuff because in order to be
positive you all, I have to talk about some of
the sad stuff. And I know for a fact that
(01:04):
you listening to my voice right now, you are struggling
with something. There's something going on in your life that
is not easy for you. I guarantee it, because you
can't walk around this planet. You can't have to worry
about getting to work on time and rushing around and
paying attention to a clock and dealing with all the
(01:25):
anxiety that we deal with on a daily basis and
not have something going on. I also know this for
a fact that there are a lot of people that
feel alone and they're not and I want to help
you not feel alone this morning. It's just been on
my mind a lot lately, and especially with the clock changing,
(01:45):
thinking about just like I'm tired of having to be
on time, I'm tired of having to get places on time.
And there's a lot of people going to work today
in their car to a job that they don't want
to go to stress out for no reason. Really, if
you really think about it, whoever made up time made
it up so we could stress out. Basically, that's the
way I feel. Right when they created time. They created
(02:07):
stress times, a made up thing that we put on
ourselves to stress out. So chill for a little bit
and not feel alone, and whatever I want to say
right now, I want you to do a favor if
you can hear my voice right now, if you're listening
to this, text your friends, text your family members, text
everybody you know and tell them just to listen for
a minute. I want as many ears on this as possible, Okay,
because I know that at the end of the day
(02:27):
I'm probably gonna have a meeting where they're gonna go
that was a dumb move, just going on the air
and talking about whatever and blowing off everything just to
make people feel not alone. And I know for a
fact that people feel alone because we do the research.
They have a bunch of research right work for a
big company, and they do all this research on the
people that listen, and they found that people just want
(02:50):
to not feel alone. I also know that's a fact
because anytime I talk about this stuff, we get text messages,
we get emails, we get phone calls from people who
go thank you or saying something about X, Y and
Z because it made me feel not alone today. So
I want all of us, you us in studio, everybody
(03:10):
to not be alone for a minute and to talk
about what's going on in the world. Because now that
we're getting back to normal ish, COVID really did a
number on us, right mentally, Like I walk around and
people can't even look anybody in the eye. People are
dealing with so much anxiety. Anytime anybody has a helpful
(03:32):
hint about mental health on TikTok, it goes viral with
millions and millions and millions and millions of years. There's
a reason for that, right, And I bring up, Hey,
I want to talk about more mental health stuff on
the air. I want to talk about people struggling, but
also in a positive way to let them know that
they're not alone. And the consultants and the people that
(03:53):
are in it for the business part, because I've never
been in it for the business part. Right, They go,
you can't do that because the ratings will go down
because people don't want to feel good that way. Right,
Like I'll make you laugh for sure, right, you might
laugh during this. What I'm saying is they say, don't
take risks, and they say, don't do this kind of stuff,
(04:15):
and they say stay in a box and be somebody
who we want you to be. And they don't want
people to challenge things, and I've always been somebody who's
about challenging things. I started talking about my struggles with
mental health ten fifteen years ago, and back then, not
that many people were talking about it right, And back then,
even I would get every single time I would do it,
(04:37):
same thing, You shouldn't say that stuff on there? How
do you talk about depression? How do you talk about
all this stuff? Right? You shouldn't do that. And then
I get message after message after message after message from
people saying thank you for saying something so right now,
because I know that we're in the middle of a
mental health epidemic in this world, and I know that
you are feeling lonely and alone, and I know that
you are probably going to a job you don't want
(04:58):
to go to, a job that doesn't take your mental
health seriously enough, and they see you as a number
and not as a person. And I want us all
to not feel alone. If you're struggling with something, call
up right now eight at eight three four three one
six one eight eight eight three four three one oh
six one. If you're happy about something, call us up
(05:18):
right now eight eight eight three four three one oh
six one, because if you don't know anything about me,
I've been out in and out mostly in therapy since skindergarden, right,
So I've had a headstart on a lot of people, right,
not because of great reasons, but I have. And so
(05:39):
I've devoted my life really to dissecting myself and dissecting
emotions and doing all that right, and I talk about it.
And because I don't have any initials after my name,
people think I don't know what I'm talking about, but
I do, and I know that if if I can't
give you some advice, if Alex can't give you some advice,
if Bennett can't give you some advice, if Victoria can't
(06:00):
give you some advice, if Richard's sitting in the corner
of the room there being a weirdo can't give you
some advice, then we can at least point you in
the right direction, or you can hear from another listener
who is also going through something similar, so you know
that you're not alone. I think that's the biggest problem
that's going on today is there's a lack of connection
in the world. Right up on social media and the
(06:21):
social media is great because people can feel connected, except
social media for a lot of people makes you feel
more disconnected. And then you see people living these lives
that you want to live, which you can live any
life you want. I want to show people that you're
powerful enough to do whatever you want to do, and
I want to show people that you really aren't alone,
and that we live in a global community and a
(06:43):
global society and we can all have each other's back.
So call us up eight to eight three four three
one six one eight eight eight three four three one
oh six one. I'm blowing off everything. I don't know
how long I'm going to talk. I can talk about
this stuff forever, just asking my wife should be like, yeah,
he never shuts up about it, right, I don't know,
because like I'm tired of dealing with time. I'm literally
(07:04):
tired of dealing with time, and I'm tired of being misunderstood.
And so are you. I guarantee you're feeling the same way.
Right We're on this little ball in the middle of space,
running around trying to make a paycheck for what things
we can't take with us, but you know what we
can take with us throughout the day is a little
bit of positivity and a little bit of love, and
(07:26):
the knowing that we're not alone, right, and knowing that
people out there are feeling the same way. And you
can look people in the eye when you're out. You
don't have to be scared, right, and you can say hi,
you can smile at someone. It's all about raising the
vibe in the world, raising the vibe in this country,
and raising the vibe for you in your life so
that you can feel better. If you smile at one
person today, they'll smile at another person, They'll smile at
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two more people, and eventually everybody's smiling at each other
and feeling better. Hey, Wendy, hold on one second. I
cut the button. Eighty eight three four three one six
one eighty eight three four three one oh six one.
If you're struggling, something, calls up. If you're not struggling
with something, you're happy, call us up. I just want
(08:08):
us all as a group to not be alone and
hit up everybody, you know. I'm streaming this on YouTube
live right now, streaming on Facebook Live. I wasn't gonna
stream it on TikTok, but I'm not active enough on TikTok,
so I didn't know how to do it, so I'm
not streaming on TikTok right now, but you can go
check it out on the YouTube as well. Facebook. Jewel Show,
just get as many people to join us right now
(08:28):
as possible so that we can all not be alone.
Eight to eight three four three one six one eight
eight eight three four three one oh six one. Hey, Whindy,
what's up? How are you? Hi? Drew? Hi Jewel. I'm good,
And thank you for saying what you're saying and bring
attention to it, because man, you are so spot on.
(08:49):
Thank you. I appreciate that. Yeah, I mean later on
today I'm gonna have to send the meeting and guarantee it,
or I'm gonna have to get phone calls and go
what were you doing? Why do you do that? Because
you're not supposed to do this kind of stuff. They
want me to talk for like five minutes, make you
laugh and then that's it. Well, we played that Selena
Gomez Selena Gomez, right, Yeah, we played that Selena Gomez
new song the other day, and that song is all
(09:13):
about mental health. Everybody's talking about it now, which I
think is a great thing, except you know who's not
talking about it, the people in charge that can make
some changes, right, exactly, so exactly what. I just want
people to not feel alone. That's all I want today.
That's why, that's why I said, get as many ears
on this as possible, get as many eyes on it
as possible. Of streaming it, I want people to know
(09:34):
that they're not alone, Wendy, in your life, is there
anything that you're going through that you could share that
will let someone out there who's feeling alone and struggling
with something similar, No, that they're not. Yeah, um my
myself and my young adult son, we're both to say old.
(09:58):
I'm on the which is only eight forty a month.
You know what the rents look like. We're currently homeless.
I'm living in our car and it's winter and it's
really flipping cold. We both have health issues. A couple
(10:19):
of friends were nice enough to get us a motel
room through the weekend. This weekend and I'm literally sitting
in my montel room packing up, knowing we have to
be out of here by eleven and it's just so hard.
And I understand the opioid crisis and everybody battling addiction,
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but currently, all of the funds are going to homing
at rehousing emergency housing people struggling with active addiction that
are currently using If you're not an addict, if you're
just homeless because of economic reasons, the wait list is
months and months long. Right. And see, that's where the
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one thing is compassion. You have some friends that are
very compassion and they helped you. I feel compassion for
you for sure, right. I know you'll be okay. I
do because everybody's always okay everything, Like, even if you
have the most terrible thing ever, there's another side of it.
So Wendy, you will be okay. Right, Yeah, every single
struggle in your life has a lesson. Right now, there
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is a lesson you're learning. You might not even be
able to see it, but I promise you, when this
is over and this tough time is over, you will
look back on it and go, oh oh, now I
figured out this in my life. But people will be
stronger for it eventually getting through it. Yeah, And I
guarantee you that there's a lot of people listening to
(11:49):
this right now going through the same thing, saying the
same thing, like, hey, um, if it's just for economic reasons,
they're not really helping. Right. The opioid crisis in the
country is directly related to the mental health epidemic that
we're having. People are numbing, right, Ye, people are numbing,
(12:11):
And I trust me, I've numbed with every kind of
thing you can pretty much. I've tried. I've I've been
on almost every single antidepressant. I've been on legal things,
tom I've been on illegal things tonamic And until I
learned how to do it inside and for my own
mental health, then I didn't need any of that stuff exactly.
(12:32):
That those services are hard to come by now, Yes
they are, and that's why we need to do something.
That's why I wanted to talk about it today because
I was just tired of it. Like I'm sitting here,
We're about to do a segment on twelve things that
people like less as they get older, and I'm like,
you know what, there's more important things right now. There's
people like you, Wendy, and there's people like you listening
(12:53):
who need some help, and we need some changes right
There needs to be things and services for people like
you and the people that are struggling with the opioid crisis,
and there also needs to be. I'm definitely not knocking
them getting help because that is a huge thing. They
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absolutely need to help. Yeah, but you can't forget about
the rest of the people either, and that's what's going on. Yeah, absolutely,
And compassion is what I was talking about, right. Compassion
is if you see somebody who's on the streets, there's
not a lot of compassion for them. No, Wendy. Wendy
is um essentially homeless right now. But it's not out
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of a lack of trying. It's not because you're addicted,
it's not because of any of that. But if someone
were to see you on the corner, they would judge you,
and we need to yea, they have this. Do you
know how hard it is? You never realize how hard
it is to find a rest of to us until
your home and people look at you just decide that
(14:03):
you must be an addict or you must want to
be there. So why are we going to help you?
So somebody that comes to stress in a suit going
to the office for the day, they get let into
the gas station restroom. But somebody who's homeless, and I mean,
even though we're homeless, we're still clean. Where it's still
you know, there. We can shower at gym's. We got
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a gym membership to be able to shower and stuff.
But they see that you're living in your car, they
assume you want to beither. They assume you're an addict.
So all of a sudden, the sign goes up or
they say, sorry, the restrooms out of order, even though
you just saw a man in a suit walk out
of the restaurant. That's happened so many times. It's tough. Wendy.
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Just know, like I said, things will be okay, and
there's somebody listening this right now who might be able
to help you out and put you on hold. We'll
get your number if you can help Wendy out with
anything calls up eight three one six one eight eight
eight three four three one six one. It doesn't have
to be anything monetary, doesn't have to be just if
like maybe you have a lead on a job. I
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just want to show people that we are not alone
and that we can all help each other out. Eight
to eight three four three one oh six one. Thank
you and the eight to eight three four three one
oh six one. I think the one of the biggest
things that we need in this country is is reform
as far as mental health goes in the workplace, honestly,
(15:29):
because I just saw over the weak one of the
reasons that I'm talking about this, I just saw this
over the weekend. I do nothing, but my obsession is
feeling good. Right. The people say, um, can you be
addicted to feeling good? Yeah? Absolutely, addicted to things like
I'm addicted to happiness. When I found happiness, actual happiness,
I got addicted to it, right. I'll do anything to
(15:52):
stay happy. I'll do anything to not be stressed out.
I will do anything to not be burnt out, whatever
that is. And the CDC just literally the other day
classified burnout on the job as a legit health reason.
Oh wow, Yeah, a legit health reason. And companies all
(16:14):
over the place don't think about the fact that their
employees are struggling. They don't think about the fact that
their employees are people, and they want them to act
a certain way, and they want them to be a
certain way, and they want them to act professionally. Look,
I've been unprofessional in my whole life. What I'm doing
right now severely unprofessional. But I like to challenge the
(16:37):
social norms because I think that's the only way that
things can get better. That's the only way that people
can feel good is for somebody to go, you know
what's screw it. I'm just going to take an hour
of the show. Whatever happens happens to me. But at
least you can see that you're not alone today call
us up eight to eight three four three one six
one eighty eight three four three one six one. And
the time change is one of the things that bugs
(16:58):
me the most. The time changes tear for people. The
time chame is literally there are more car accidents today
when we spring forward a fallback the day after the
time change, there's more car accidents, there's more heart attacks,
there's all kinds of things that go wrong with our bodies.
Because they put this thing in place in the seventies
right to in this I mean, sorry, the eighteen seventies
(17:21):
to chure seventeen ers, I don't know. Stop asking me
about the day. But they put this thing into place
to try to save energy. But there's no way to
measure like it didn't work. But we've done daylight savings
time since then for no reason. But the only thing
that they can measure is daylight savings time is bad
for human beings. It has no other value, and that's
(17:42):
not a value. It's bad for human beings. But because
our system is so screwed up and people don't want
to change how they normally do things, and people don't
want to challenge stuff, this has been an effect for
how many years, And they finally have put a thing
in the government to try to stop they like saving
time because they're like, oh, hey, this actually kills people.
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We probably shouldn't do that, and it's probably not going
to get past because people don't think about people. And
I just want people to start looking at things differently. Right,
challenge the way you do things today. If like you're
in a bad mood, backflip on it. A backflip is
kind of my theory on life, Like, do the opposite
of what you want to do. If you want to
scream at somebody in traffic today, just smile at them.
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It probably feel better for you. It would save you
from having to have a headache thinking about how terrible
they're driving. And also you never know what could happen.
You don't know what someone else is going through, right,
you could do something the wrong person and then they
lose it. Eighty eight three four three one six, one
eighty eight three four three one oh six one. Hey Kramer, Yeah,
(18:45):
what's that? Man? Not too bad? Pretty good? Actually, I mean,
I know, maybe I don't sound like it. Maybe it
sound like I'm going through it. I'm not sure, but
I'm not like. I'm just I just saw this stories
over the weekend of how they made burnout on the job.
The CDC said that burnout on the job is a
legit health issue. I have been reading about it for weeks,
(19:08):
how the country's in a mental health epidemic. I see
it when I'm out on the streets, man, Like you
go to the gas station to get some lotto tickets
and the person behind the counter has so much anxiety
they can't even look you in the eye. They can't
even talk to you. Because everybody's dealing with so much
anxiety and we don't have to. There's ways that you
can calm anxiety by playing with your pinkie. That sounds dirty,
(19:30):
it's not, but there literally are things that you can
do to calm anxiety. Everybody's talks about anxiety, Like I said,
anybody talks about this stuff on TikTok and it's getting
a million views on how to feel better. And I
have a little bit of knowledge on that because I've
been doing it my whole life, right, and that's why
I'm staying called supp right now eight to eight, three
four three, one oh six one. I just want people
to not feel alone. And I want everybody to see
(19:51):
that we are a community and we can all help
each other out and we can all feel good today.
And you should feel positive today. You should feel happy today.
You shouldn't feel stressed out about the time. You should
feel stressed out about nothing really, right, everybody should just
be happy and show each other compassion and know that
we're not alone, and we'll all start feeling better. What
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are you going through today, crime, Are you going through
anything or you just call up to say say that
you're not going through anything. Well, you know I was
going through something, and you know, for the past i'd
say a year or so, I just really struggled. And
you know, COVID the shutdown didn't help. I struggled the
last year or so. And you know, there was mornings
(20:36):
where I wake up and it was just a struggle
to get through to day and there was no light
at the end of the tunnel. And one thing that
was important for me was surrounding myself with supportive loved
ones and close friends who you know, I could lean on.
And you know, I was really going through it about
six months ago and I finally woke up one morning
(20:57):
and you said, you know what, I said to myself.
You know what, I got to do something about this
because I feel like this is out of my control.
And UM, I took the next step. I made an
appointment to go talk to somebody, to go see somebody,
and UM, you know I I got on some medication
and it completely completely turned things around for me. Um,
(21:20):
I wake up happy. I do see the light at
the end of the tunnel. UM, I can finally see
all the things that I have going right it for myself. UM,
and I try to just spread that, like I said,
surrounding myself with loved ones, UM who are supportive and
UM you know I give you got to give uh
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people a lot more credit around yourself that they can,
UM you know, be there for you and UM you're
not alone. Because it is embarrassing. It it was shameful.
It was like I couldn't beat this. I couldn't beat this.
But UM, you know I talked to somebody, and like
I said, surround yourself with loved ones, um and lean
on those people because they're there for you. They're there
(22:03):
to help you. Absolutely. You can't get through air lighted
at the tunnel. Definitely, And thanks for calling man eight
to eight three four, three and six one. Appreciate your camera.
Good job, dude. Appreciate Yeah, eight eight three three six
one eight eight three four three one oh six one.
Great that dude said something there that is really profound. Okay,
because there is a lot of shame associated with not
(22:24):
feeling good. I've been misunderstood my whole life when I
talk about this stuff because I've learned to be an
incredibly happy person. You can be happy and sad at
the same time. I've had a very long road to
get there, but I've been there for a while now
and it feels amazing. Also still sad. Sometimes you can
be sad and happy at the same time. But when
you talk about things in a serious way like I
(22:45):
am right now, somebody out there might be perceiving this
as a downer. This is not a downer what I'm
doing right now. I want to be very clear because communication,
this is a positive thing. This is showing you that
you're not alone, and this is showing you that thing
can look up for you, and they are and you
will feel better. Yeah, and if you're not going through anything,
(23:06):
then skip about that. Rejoice about that that you feel good.
There's always something good in everything, even a struggle. When
you say things like this, when you talk about this,
people might take it is wow, you're talking about You're
being a downer, right, You're being sad. People don't want
to hear about sad. No, No, you need to hear
about sad to appreciate the happy. You need to hear
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that dude story to know. Also, if you identify with
that and you're like, man, I haven't told anybody that
I'm going through it. I got a group of friends
around me, nobody knows. I go out to the bar
and I fake a smile. I go home and I cry.
Nobody knows because I'm ashamed. Don't be ashamed of how
you feel. That's the other thing too, that we need
(23:48):
to do is reform in the way that we think
about mental health. You should be able to walk up
to a stranger and go, hey, I'm really struggling right now,
and they should have enough compassion to talk to you
and go, man, that's sad. Let me help you out
with some advice or whatever. Right, you should definitely be
able to say it to the people that are closest
to you. Definitely, and you can. And people like Cramer
(24:12):
who just called us, they sit there quietly. I suffered
a lot in silence, and they're in a room full
of people, but they feel alone. You might be in
a room full of people right now, or you feel alone.
You might be in your car on a road full
of people, but you feel alone. And that's why I
decided to do this this morning, is because you're not.
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And I want everybody to not feel alone for a
little while today. And you should tell somebody, you should
talk about it. There should be no shame around not
feeling good. It's actually way worse for you if you
fake that smile. It's actually way worse for you if
you're not honest with people about how you're feeling. Trust me,
(24:54):
I've been there. It is way worse. And that's why
I get perceived sometime as a negative person. When I'm not.
I have to literally say it with my words all
the time. I am positive, I am happy. You know,
people still don't believe me, right, because they just perceive
it that way. Because I also talk because I'm truthful.
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I talk about the good and the bad. You can't
only have good. It would be impossible to have good
if you didn't have bad, and you should not be
ashamed of not feeling good. It's like, you know, how,
something awkward happens and everybody wants to laugh it off
and pretend like it didn't happen, and then the vibe
(25:35):
in the room is crunchy for a while until it
goes away. The vibe in the room is crunchy because
nobody said, Wow, that was really awkward, let's talk about it.
So that's what you're doing to yourself by not saying anything.
You're making yourself feel crunchy all day. You're like, man,
I'm sad, but I just filed. I just smiled and
told him I'm great because I didn't want them to
feel bad because I feel bad. Well, they're not responsible
(25:57):
for how you feel. They should also care enough if
they're in your life, to listen to you and let
you know that they do care. I know it's hard
to talk about it because of like you said, shame.
A lot of people feel ashamed of it. There should
be no shame about saying, hey, I need some help.
There should also be no shame around saying like, hey,
I'm feeling great. Man. I've got enough. I've got enough
(26:18):
mental capacity. Right now, we can talk about your sadness.
I've got a boutch of happiness. Let me give you
some happiness and then you can walk down the street
and think about something good. That's what I'm trying to
do right now. Eighty eight three four three one o
six one eighty eight three four three one oh six one.
Hey Peter, Yeah, what's up man? How are you? I'm um,
(26:38):
not too shabby. Not looking forward to the meetings and
phone calls I'm gonna get after we get off the
air today for them being like, why did you just
blow up eight o'clock hour and do whatever you want it?
But I think it's worth it, so anyway, look bad
and now I think job with that. I think it's
a good thing. Jebile appreciates it. So what's going on
(26:59):
with you? Man? Now? Well, I don't know. There's a
lot of things wrong to be probably, but no, I
mean it's been a struggle. I've been out of work
for I broke my leg on the job, and I've
been out of work for not out of work on
OJI for like ten months, and then with my profession, it's, uh,
I gotta go back to work, but I still feet
(27:21):
cleared by a different examiner. So now I'm doing unemployment
and the life. It's a struggle, but you know what,
we can all pull through on this stuff, because for me,
the hardest thing is like waking up every day thinking
can I support my woman, can I support my kids?
Can I make it through the day? And two days
(27:45):
ago it was a setback. It sucked. Now you have
to do unemployment until I can get you know, clear
to go back to work. So it's a struggle, right,
it is. It is a struggle. But when you go
back to work, you know you'll also very appreciative of
that and you know this might be an opportunity to
see there's an opportunity in every problem. Like That's the
(28:07):
thing that I got to is if you see problems today,
you're only going to see problems. And I'm not saying
that's what you're saying, Peter. What I'm saying is there's
an opportunity in every problem. There's a way to capitalize
on it somehow. So you know, you being unemployment, your
legs messed up, out of work, you're worried, right if
you can take if you can take car? And absolutely
(28:31):
is the worry. The worry is probably the thing you
think about the most of your life right now. Huh yeah, yeah, exactly,
you know. And that's the thing you think you have
your life set, everything's like moving forward, you're on a
good path and then boom, it just gets taken away.
And that I think we need to understand day to
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day like we only we must be grateful for today,
right for the next thing? Yeah, and for me if
after this just happened, it's like a huge struggle right
for sure, definitely. And you know, like I said, the
worry is what you're worrying about all the time, just
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like a lot of people out there. Once again proof
if you're listening to this day, you're not alone like
Peter's worried. You're worried about something. Here's a tip for you, Peter.
And it's hard to do, but you can replace that
worry with something else. That's why I say there's a
positive and there's a way to to find an opportunity
(29:32):
in a problem, Right, you've got a problem. Worrying is
obviously just gonna it's gonna it's gonna cause your anxiety
to get worse. It's gonna cause you to get wound
up every single time you notice, what's that? Go ahead?
Oh no, I'm sorry to cut you out. You know,
that's the biggest thing. It's Yeah, it's so easy for
all of us in life to get our anxiety to
(29:52):
just get wound up. Right, we forget the big picture,
exactly right, We forget the big picture, We forget to
be in the moment, we forget the hate. You know,
at the end of the day, we're all going to
the same place, and we don't even know what it is.
It might be amazing, you know, none of us really. Actually,
the only people who know what happens after we leave
this planet is the people who have gone there. And
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unless you've talked to them, which I haven't, then you
don't know how it is. We don't know. And excepting
that we don't know, I think is one of the
keys to being comfortable. Just except we don't know and
just live be in the moment. Right, Look around you,
look at the trees, Look how beautiful they are. Appreciate
something beautiful, and Peter, every single time you notice one
of those thoughts in your head right where you're like, Man,
I'm worried, I'm worried, I'm worried. We're worried. I guarantee
there's something that you are interested in, something that you
(30:40):
like to do something right. I don't know. I don't
know you, so I don't know. And you can literally
notice when you're feeling that way, when you're feeling worried,
when you're thinking about it, and if you do this enough,
if you notice it and then replace it with the
thing you want to do, whatever it is. I don't
know you, Peter, but let's say you wanted to make
money on Instagram selling knitted T shirts because Peter, and
(31:03):
it's good T shirts. I think you knit good T shirts.
That's what it sounds like to me. Peter. Then yeah, yeah,
I do, absolutely, Yeah, that's fine. Yeah, put the effort
of that worry into the nit T shirts. Actively pay
attention to the worry, and then go Nope, I'm going
to knit some T shirts. And before you know it,
all that time you've been worrying, you've just knitted a
bunch of T shirts and you're gonna make a billion
(31:24):
dollars on Instagram. I don't know if nitted T shirts
will sell that well, Peter, I hope you don't actually
take that advice. But no, thanks, No, It's just it
doesn't matter what we do in this world. That's the thing,
Like you we can have every profession is harderd in
my mind. And and when you think you have things
big and things are going well and then all of
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a sudden things are stopped away, yeah from you, for sure,
it's terrifying. And then you start to realize how little
we are, but how big we can be. And but
it's a struggle. And I think what you're doing is
awesome than all the time, like this is this is
like this is great. Thank you man, thank you very
(32:06):
appreciate O're doing this like you have. I think a
lot of people do good. Well, I hope so you know,
I really do um because it was kind of like
it was literally on a on a whim. I was
just like, you know what, screw it, And well that's
(32:27):
the thing though, like like if it's day to day, right,
we need to appreciate today and hope for tomorrow. But yeah,
if as long as we do everything we can today,
it makes it better. But even talking to you about
it out loud, it's helped a lot, and I really
appreciate it. Appreciate it, man, Appreciate you. Eight to eight
three four three one six one eight eight three four
three one oh six one. All we're doing right now
(32:50):
on The Jewel Show is helping people not feel alone,
because loneliness is a big problem. The world is in
the middle of a mental health epidemic. People are finally
starting to talk about it more and just thinking about
time this morning and the time change and how bad
that is for people, and then just me being really
bad with the schedule of thinking about things I have
to do going. I'm just sick and tired of having
(33:13):
to worry about time. Because if you're worried about time,
you're wasting time. Time you enjoy doing something you want
to do is never time wasted. So in every moment,
do something you want to do and appreciate it, Like
look at something around you, Like I said, look at
the leaves on the trees. There's trees around you. Look
(33:34):
at something that you find interesting and just be curious
about it. That's not wasted time, and I do think
that companies need to pay attention to the fact that
there's a lot of employees out there who are burned out.
There's nothing worse than going to a job that you
don't want to go to. Trust me, I have done it.
(33:54):
I used to go. I used to have this marketing job.
Every single day I would drive there. I would cry.
When I first started working in the workforce, I like
out of high school. I would cry and I would
get to the exit and then I would think, Man,
what would happen if I just kept driving? What if
I just kept driving? You know what happened? I don't know,
(34:14):
but it probably would have been better than crying. And
going is sit at a cubicle for eight hours a
day pretending to work. And if you're going in there
right now, don't get down about what I just said.
Just think about that. Go. There is something I could
do right, and there's also something that companies can do.
We need some real reform in this country as far
as mental health goes with the workforce. There really is,
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like there should be a mental health There should be
a mandatory mental health day every single month for the
entire country, right just a day off like Christmas. Every
single month. There's a comment on YouTube because we're live
on YouTube. It says from Kimberly, Honestly, I lose sleep
because I'm so anxious about getting up on time to
get to work on time. Right, I'm so tired. Yeah,
everybody's tired. Ey body is tired, and everybody needs a
(35:02):
day off. And the thing that is, like, if you're
like I said, we're just we're just spending an hour
not being alone. That's why I said I want as
many people listening as possible. Text your friends, text your family,
time to listen right now, because who knows they may
not be able to listen tomorrow, Because I might, I
might get in trouble for just blowing off the hour
and doing what I want right. But I want us
(35:22):
to all not feel alone and realize that we are
not alone and together. The vibe of the entire world
can raise if we all just think a little differently
and think positively and just are open about how we're
feeling and stop being quiet about stuff and stop making
people feel alone. Hey, it's been a last week. I
just want to say I took the steps to find
a therapist, and you know, I think This is a
(35:43):
big step because in the black community, mental health is
not discussed enough. And personally, I feel like I'm going
through a lot right now. You know, you're talking about burnout.
We work a lot here. I'm going through a separation
which has been really difficult, and through that separation a
lot of trauma from my upbringing. I grew up in
Phloster Care, was in and out of Phloster Care for
(36:05):
like ten years, so a lot of that trauma has
like emerged and it's in my life. And I have
a lot of anxiety. The other day, I was driving
in the car thinking about a bunch of things and
like literally burst it out, crying, and I'm like, oh
my gosh, this is anxiety right here, this is it.
And for such a long time, I'm like, maybe I
should talk to someone about like my rough past. Maybe
(36:26):
I should talk to someone about crying in the car
while trying to get home. And I did that, and
I'm good, you know, on the path and on the
journey to you know, become better and to work through
those things. And thank you. Absolutely. I think it's important
to say, as like a black man in America, you know,
coming from where I come from, what I've been through.
It's important to say, like, it's okay to reach out
to someone. You know, we have the people that are
(36:48):
around us, people we love, our friends or family, but
sometimes it's important to reach out to someone who is
professionally trained and can really help you work through those things. So,
you know, just from myself to any one that's listening
that might be dealing with some trauma or just the
day today, it's okay to get help. It's all right
to reach out to somewhere and you'll become bigger and
better at the other end of things. Absolutely, and the like.
(37:13):
That's a very good point that a lot of people
they don't even have access to the service. There are
places you can go online now. Actually, here is proof
of taking a problem and creating an opportunity. There's all
kinds of online resources now for counseling that are very
(37:34):
cheap that you can go to and you can literally
be matched up with a counselor and do the telehealth
thing that wasn't there before COVID. COVID was an incredibly
negative thing. There are some positive things that have come
out of it, though. There's people that started businesses, there's
people that change their whole life. There's some workers that
love their life now because they get to work at home.
(37:56):
And that's what I mean. We talk a lot about
the struggles in life, and then we don't talk about
the positive, or if you're talking about the positive, you
can only talk about the positive. Don't be a downer, right,
But they do all this research whenever they go over
the show, and they tell us things that people want
to hear, what they don't want to hear. They told
us one thing, people don't want to be alone. And
I'm like, well, let's make them not feel alone right
(38:18):
right now, that's what we're doing. Call us eighty eight
three four three one o six one eighty eight three
four three one oh six one. I guarantee if someone's
going through something similar as you, and I guarantee that
you can help them just by letting them know that
you're also going through whatever it is, happy or sad.
And then they go people want real talk, and then
they tell us that you know, you gotta be careful
(38:41):
along you do it before, you gotta be careful how
you do it. I wanted to prove people wrong today. Right,
Hopefully this hour of the show goes down as one
of the most highly rated hours ever. It might not. Also,
I tried. I tried for a moment to help people
feel a little better. I took a risk, and that's
(39:05):
what you should do. And that's what a lot of
people did during COVID. We don't talk about the build
up after a bad thing. We talked about how terrible
COVID was, how lone everybody felt, blah blah blah blah blah,
what it's caused, right, we don't often highlight the good
thing that it's caused. September eleventh. I think September twelfth
should also be a national holiday. You want to know why,
because September eleventh, when those towers went down, was one
(39:26):
of the worst things in this country's history, in the
world's history. Right. So many people passed away, so many
people died, And I think the day after should also
be recognized, because the day was the day that the
people who lost someone there and the people in this
country that also lost some innocence if you weren't there
(39:48):
and had to deal with it directly. The next day
was the day people got back up and rebuilt. However
long it took them, they rebuilt. So whatever you're going
through right now in your life. If it's not the
best thing for you, there's always a rebuild. There's people
that experienced some of the biggest traumas in their life
(40:09):
and on September eleventh and then September twelve, they kept
going and some of them have figured out something new
that they always wanted to do and took a risk
because they realize, you know what, life is too short
to be stressed out. I'm just gonna be and I'm
just gonna be happy, and I'm gonna be sad, and
I'm gonna be okay with it, and I'm just gonna
(40:31):
be me uncomfortable in my own skin. Call us eight
at eight three four three one six one eight eight
eight three four three one six one. We are live
on YouTube at the Jewel Show. I got another message
in it says it's also important for your mental health
to cut toxic people out of your life for the
sake of your mental health. Yeah, so just definitely mind
that one out. Absolutely. Yeah, at the end of the day,
(40:51):
there's you don't at the end of the day, everybody
only has themselves, right. If you're not going to look
out for yourself, you can't expect other people too. If
you can't take care of your own happiness, other people
can't make you happy. Happiness exists in side of you.
How you feel exists inside of you, and you can
change that just by being honest about it, right, by
(41:14):
being honest about your successes and your failures in like
business and just in life in general. Eight eight six
one eight eight three four three one six one. Kevin, Hey,
how you doing, man, good man? How are you hanging
in there? Life's life? You know, it's a beautiful phrase
right there, life is life. So I was driving in today, Sir,
(41:37):
I listened to you a lot. Me and my daughter
thank you both of my waters. I'm a single dad
and I drive all the way from Tacoma to Renting
every day, or every Monday and Tuesday when I have
my daughters. Um, and my daughter mentioned to me, she said, well, Dad,
I have a story. And she's a Type one diabetic.
(41:58):
She was diagnosed eighteen months and so I have to,
you know, stay on top of that and it ain't
the easiest thing. But for her to express that to me,
you know, being a type one diabetic and uh, going
through the things that she's gone through in her life.
(42:19):
It just kind of made me feel like, you know, everything,
like you said, is gonna be okay because she's only
saving right now and she's just gone through so much. Yeah,
and I'm a divorced I'm an I've been you know,
through a lot too in the last couple of years
or divorced through the pandemic and what have you. So
being lonely is like I just can't even like I
(42:42):
don't know. Yeah, I can tell you my whole life
right now, you know what I mean. That's lonely. I
am lately, but I don't know this. Uh, this this
segment that you have, it definitely is needed. Uh and uh,
I'm kind of mad because she wanted to hear her
hearing me on the radio call about it. But we'll
get you well after you after we're done talking to
(43:04):
you for y'all, hold um and we'll get your email stuff.
We'll send you it so that she can hear it
because she should. I'd appreciate it. But like I said,
she she's the want to make me do this, and
like I live for my daughters. And it's just like
I said, life, it's uh, it's life, but it can
get hard. It can get lonely and people are struggling.
(43:25):
I mean, I'm in the middle of start my own business.
I'm a flooring installer. I'm in the middle of start
my own flooring business. So I had to like change
my whole situation, uh because of my daughter, you know,
her being a type woman, having to adjust to my
hours to be able to uh take care of her.
So it's it's, uh, it ain't the easiest you know, yeah,
(43:48):
but we get through it and we struggle, but we
also uh persevere too. Human wolf not the easiest wool,
but we stand up. We put our chin up. Every day,
we smile, you know, if we got to cry with
going the other room when we come back to our
kids and we do what we gotta do, you know exactly.
So everybody's and every everybody's doing that at some point
(44:09):
right right right, And I'm not the best communicator. I
don't even know if I'm like getting everything out like
I'm supposed to get it out. But I thought it
was great. Yeah, you can have this job if you
want to. She's the one that gave me, like she's
the one that told me to call and just like
let everybody know, you know, at seven years old. One guy. Yeah,
(44:30):
thing's gonna be okay. You know, that's awesome. So that
with you guys. And then also I wanted to know,
you know, I wanted to hear this for sure. We'll
send this to you so she can hear it. And also, um,
you know she needs to know this too. That her
her asking you to call as incredibly brave. There's also
another seven year old out there, probably going through a
similar issue, maybe in the backseat of a car somewhere
(44:52):
listening right right right, my four year old smiling at me.
That's awesome. I'm putohn hoole man. We'll get you information.
We'll make sure you get a copy of that. Let
everybody know it'll be okay. Yeah, absolutely, there you go.
That's the perfect way to end hour. Everybody know it'll
be okay, it will it will be okay. There's a
(45:15):
lot of work to do in the world for people,
and I really think the leaders of this country, like dude,
I thought about him, like, I want to run for
an office. I don't even know how to run for
an office. I don't have an education to run for
an office. Um, I've got a life education that I
think could help in some ways right, But I'm like,
does anybody know how to run for an office? What
office could I run for that I could even try
(45:35):
to change anything? It can you even change anything? Right?
Because it does like companies need to take more responsibility
for their employees mental health. The leaders of our country
need to take more responsibility for what they do for
the citizens mental health. And I know that because we
are in the middle of a mental health epidemic. But
(45:56):
he said it perfectly. It'll be okay, and also real
quick four I end this hour and then we go
back to the ridiculous Internet question, which is coming up
at nine ten. He said he talked about loneliness and
now he's going through a divorce and he's like, never
felt so lonely. And there's a lot of people that
feel lonely right now. I know that because we get
(46:16):
research on our listeners and they say that people want
people just want to not feel alone. So I'm glad
that you hung out with us for an hour and
didn't feel alone. I'm really I'm happy about that. It
was nice. It was nice hearing about the good and
the bad, hearing about hope, and hearing about being able
to endure life. It was awesome, And if you feel alone,
(46:40):
I will tell you this. If you feel alone, the
secret to not feeling alone and not being alone is
to take care of your mental health at all costs.
To practice self care, to do all those kind of things,
to talk to somebody, to not put shame on yourself.
(47:00):
Get yourself to a place where you love you, where
you love you, where you like hanging out with you.
You'll never be alone. Become your best friend, because if
you can become your best friend, you'll literally never be alone.
(47:24):
That's probably the last thing I want to say about that.
I don't know. Maybe we should do this more often. Yeah,
I know that I'm gonna have to be in a
meeting leader where they're like, don't do that ever again.
But let us know. Call u up a to day
three four three six one Tex and email us let
us know if we should do stuff like that more
often and just not feel alone for a while.
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