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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Damon is on the phone today for a first date
follow up, and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Hazel.
So we're gonna call her in a few minutes and
see if she'll tell us why she's ghostinger and maybe
get him another date if he still wants one. But first,
Damon was, Man, how long has it been since you
heard from Hazel.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
It's been a week. It's almost like six days not
since I heard her. Farma, Okay, Yeah, Hazel, we met
on Instagram. One of her paintings came up on my
full you page and I slid on her dm you know,
I saw the painting and that one on her page
saw her. He's a very beautiful woman. So slit her
(00:44):
DMS and inquired about a few paintents for and event
that I was going to have.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
You said into her DMS, But you didn't tell her
straight up it was because you thought she was pretty No,
you know.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I you know, I wanted to see if she would
respond first, so, you know, I kind of just asked
for a couple of pictures, something painting to hold at
my event, you know, just for some aesthetics. But unfortunately
the event never happened. But that didn't stop me, you know,
it didn't stop me from asking her out.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
You had a legit event, though, you didn't make up
an event, just talk to her.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Yeah, no, it just it didn't happen. It wasn't able
to happen because of schedule of conflict with the building,
I had to cancel it. After canceling it, you know,
I still reached out to Hazel and still she wanted
to go out, and she agreed, so we went to
she she mentioned some about the painting step she wanted
(01:40):
to like, she said, she wanted to see how how
I could handle a paintbrush, and you know, but we
ended up going to get Pisa next door through the
painting step and there it was a great evening. You know.
We we was touching, she you know, laughing, joking, and
(02:01):
I think towards the end the piece was making her stick.
So I called the uber you know, to get her home.
We kissed, we you know, last she said she had
a great time with me. I text her and I
haven't heard nothing back in six days now, so I'm
kind of just like, Wow, and so I was just
trying to see watch the ghost of me. Though I
(02:23):
think it might have been because you know, I got
a little anger issue and the young man at the
pizza shot. I kind of had to yell at him
because he, you know, he just couldn't get the order right,
and so I got a little frustrated and kind of
yelled at him. But I hope that Hazel didn't see.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
That when you say he kind of yelled at him,
like how bad? Like how big was the yelling?
Speaker 3 (02:49):
I popped off a little bit, you know, I popped
off a little bit on him for to get his
act together. And it was only pizza that he was
he was taking an order for, so, you know, but
you know, I kind of lost and I feel like
that might be the reason because I kind of lost
my last relationship because of that.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
That's kind of alarming, especially on a first date.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
I think he was high, you know, lazy eyes. I
just red, you know, a little smoothy. I'm like, you know,
I get the benefit of the doubt though, because I'm like, Okay,
it's ten o'clock at night. Probably was tired, but I
don't know, you know, but he probably would have probably
was high.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Okay, I mean, how did she react after you, you know,
hopped off.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Yeah, well I don't I don't know if she really
seen it, because we sat down right after and ate.
Like I say, the night in it great. We kissed
after before she got her uber. She said she had
a great time, and like I said, I text her
and I haven't hearing nothing for six days now, Okay.
Definitely not something that I would think that, not heard
from a person for six days after a night like that,
(03:54):
I really thought this was the one.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
I mean, she could have been buzzed, she couldn't needed
the pizza to absorb it. She could have just wanted
to get out of there. I hope not for your sake.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
But yeah, I mean, well we'll see, man, We'll play
a song and then come back and call her and
see she'll tell us and maybe get you another date. Okay, okay, man, great,
all right, man, play as song, come back, get your
first day follow up next. In the middle of your
first day follow up if you're just joining us, Damon
is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by a
(04:24):
woman named Hazel. He said that he had a great
date with her, and he doesn't know why so we're
about to call her in a second see if she'll
tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
another date. But before we do that, damon, why don't
you catch us up on your date with Hazel?
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Yeah? Man, so the date was great. I met Hazel
on Instagram. He I saw my FORU page, reached out
to her about some paintings for an event that never
really happened for me, but we still ended up going
out to us painting trip and when it got some pizza,
the night was going great. You know, I had to
pop off a little bit, got a little angry at
(04:57):
the waiter for you know seen you know, in need riated,
so you know, it was really splush straight. But like
I said, the date ended very well. We embraced, We
gave each other kids, and you know, order an uber
and make sure she got home safely. But I just
haven't heard it from a stick to baby.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Okay, man, Well we're gonna call it right now, soshall
tell us Okay, are you ready?
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Yes, sir? All right, here we go. Hello, I may
speak to Hazel please.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Yeah, this is she?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Hey, Hazel, how are you? My name is Jewbel and
I'm calling from a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Gangs all here, Hazel, my name's nes What, my name's
Nina also on the.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
Show, and I'm Victoria. What's going on?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Well, we do a thing on our show it's called
the First eight follow Up. That's where if you go
out on a date with somebody and then you end
up ghosting them, that person can email us to call
you and ask why you're ghosting them. So we got
an email about you from a dude named Damon.
Speaker 4 (06:03):
Oh yeah, this is like my worst nightmare right now,
you guys, I swear I've been thinking about this for days.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
And days talking to us. No this no.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
First of all, I feel terrible. I really didn't mean
to like let it go on for so long. I
guess it has been almost a week now. I guess
it is ghosting. I was going to say, like that
seems like too strong of a term, but honestly, all
I've been trying to do is is kind of like
worked my own, uh like feelings out about this. I guess, Okay,
(06:38):
getting nervous. Yeah, okay, so I have I have a thing.
It's called miscephonia. Do you guys know miss aphonia. It's
the sensitivity to to sounds okay and and uh, like
auditory stimuli, and it is a lot of times triggered
(06:59):
by saying that most people would consider normal, like chewing.
I did have a wonderful, wonderful time with Damon, and
we have definitely a lot of chemistry. I was so
excited to meet him and find out that he was
so much everything I had sort of hoped he was,
and then also things I didn't even think to hope for.
(07:23):
And when it became time to actually, you know, sit
down and have dinner, oh my god, the chewing, Like
I have a pretty good handle on, you know, getting
ready to expect like, okay, there's going to be human
chewing sounds.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
I'm gonna be okay.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
But oh, you guys, it was next level.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
His chewing is too loud for you? Is it next
level for you or for anybody?
Speaker 4 (07:48):
No, it's for anybody, because I understand my predisposition to
feel like, oh my god, this is terrible. But it
was like it became not just auditorium also visual, because
there was so much like open and down chomping, like uh,
I could not I didn't even know how to tell
him He's like taking tiny bites and then just chewing
(08:12):
them so big and so much, and it's so splashy.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
And I couldn't. I couldn't.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
I could not even like focus anymore, and it ruined
the whole thing for me, and I felt so embarrassed.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
I was like, by the.
Speaker 4 (08:27):
Time it had gone on for so long, I'm like,
I can't tell him this now. I usually don't tell
people about this like right away, because I don't want
them to feel self conscious. And it's something that I
had a pretty good hold on. Usually I'll bring it
up after a few dates or whatever.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
But I just I've.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Never had like such an intense problem like this, and
it just felt too late to tell him. So I
feel awful, and I've been trying to figure out, like,
how do I address this with him? How do you
talk to somebody about this after it's already happened.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
I regret it.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
I feel I have like a problem with know confrontation
or and it didn't have to be confrontation, right, I
just needed to be direct. But I I just like,
I don't know what happened so fast, and I couldn't
think of a way. I was too just I was
having a reaction, and I was afraid that in the
middle of a reaction, I wasn't going to be able
to say it in a way that was thoughtful enough
(09:18):
or kind enough. And also just how do you tell
someone that?
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yeah, I don't, I don't know how you would tell
somebody that, especially in a thoughtful way, because it's just like, bro,
your tiny little mouth.
Speaker 4 (09:33):
This sound this sounds so stupid, and I can't. I
feel so embarrassed that you guys are like even involved
in it now and that I haven't just dealt with
like an adult.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
On my own.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
But I honestly, this has just never happened to me before.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Damon. Do you know that you chew that loud? Wow? Wow?
You know my mom used to yell at me all
the time about the way I I just thought she
was picking on me. No one feel anything to me
about it.
Speaker 4 (10:03):
Okay, wait, why are you? He's on the phone.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
You have him on the phone.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
And wants to start to you.
Speaker 4 (10:10):
Okay, Wow, I'm I'm I'm really sorry, Damon. Hi, I'm
sorry that's taking me so long to talk to you
about this.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Well, how you doing? Hey? Bil? Like, in my defense,
the piece was really good wasn't it. It was really good.
It was worth it was worth too loud for man, Wow,
I do I do have. I feel very embarrassed. It's
(10:39):
something I should have listened to my mom tell me
a long time ago, learned how to chew at your
mouth closed. But you know, but I would really love
a second chance with you, the you know, just to
be able to go out with you and show you that,
you know, I'm not this. I'mnoxious, you know, chomping cookie monster,
eating with his mouth open, you know, live fool rind everywhere. Yeah,
(11:03):
I guess stuffing that you know, I definitely will work on,
uh because if you know, I want my friend back,
you know, I want to be able to see how you're.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Doing well, Hazel. Would you like to go on another
date with Damon? We'll pay for it, Guys.
Speaker 4 (11:18):
I feel so bad and and but also thank you.
I really needed to just say this. I can't even
tell you, like how sick I felt to realize what
was going on, and then now just to be like,
I can't believe it could have been over this easily.
And yeah, I definitely want to go on a second date.
I had such a great time. I really really did
(11:38):
and in the future. Well, now that I know, Damon,
that you can be so open to this feedback, I
guess I just feel so much more comfortable and I
won't let it get to.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
This point anymore. Well, you know what, Thank you, thank
you you. Uh can wait to go out with you again,
About to ask you, about to go get on YouTube
right now and look at a couple of videos of
mice eating and see how those guys do it so quietly.
(12:13):
Don't want this to happen.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Congratulations.
Speaker 4 (12:20):
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