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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Jade is on the phone today for a first date
follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Ty.
So we're about to help her out see if we
can get him on the phone and find out why
he's ghosting and maybe get her another date. But first
let's find out about the date. Jade. Hello, Hey, Jade,
how long has it been since you heard from Ty?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
It's been four days, which might not sound like a
lot to some people, but that's a lot.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
For me, okay, because you've just never gone four days
without hearing from somebody.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Yeah, I feel like people just physically get fafted me
pretty quickly, so I'm feeling really insecure about it.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
How many times have you tried to reach out to
him in the four days? Did you try it all?
Speaker 4 (00:45):
Well?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
No, because when we left off, he said he would
call me, so I felt like it might feel desperate
to text again.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
All right, So tell us a little bit about your date.
Speaker 5 (00:54):
Then.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
The date was really awesome. We actually met filed back,
like almost probably all us ten years ago through mutual friends,
and I thought he was really cute, but like nothing
really went down at the time, but we recently matched
on Hinge and we did like a cute little walk
(01:16):
date and we had some coffee and it just felt
really natural walk.
Speaker 4 (01:22):
It's so nice.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Yeah, it was really sweet and cozy, and I just
felt like I'd done him for a long time, which
I guess I do, but like I felt a deeper connection,
you know, and we even like extended the date spontaneously,
which I feel like is always a good mutual sign. Yeah,
we went out to like a sports bar. We got
some snacks and stuff. She did actually have to like
(01:48):
dash because he has a daughter and she had texted
or maybe the Babylon had texted about like the daughter
being sick, so he did have to dash, which I
didn't mind. Totally get the responsibility of being a parent.
But after that, you know, I wanted him to know
that I'd really had a really awesome time and felt
so comfortable with him, and I was interested in it
(02:10):
going somewhere. He texted me, you know, thanking me for
my understanding, and I was like, yeah, no problem. I
hope your daughter feels better soon. I want to do
this again. And he was like cool, I'll call you.
And that's kind of where it's been for the last
four days.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
So he studied call and he did it, and maybe
things got wrapped up with this kid.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Yeah, yeah, maybe. I just feel like call is really specific,
like intention to follow up, and so I'm definitely freaking
out a little bit.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Did anything happen on the date, like, other than that call?
Was there any awkward moments? Was anything said that could
have made things a little bit weirder? Like, you know,
was there any flags?
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I don't think there were any flags. I mean again,
like he did we really abruptly and I ended up
paying the check. But again, I totally didn't mind. It
seemed like a genuine emergency.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Okay, So that's not like he goes out and he's like, Okay, whoops,
my kid's sick, thanks for dinner. Yeah, I would be
the worst.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Scam of all time. But what if it is also
scam boy? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:15):
Do we know for sure?
Speaker 1 (03:16):
He's the worst thing I've had happen on a date.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
So, but do we know for sure that he's a dad?
Speaker 1 (03:23):
I'm pretty sure, just because like we have mutual friends
and whatnot, and so I've heard about.
Speaker 4 (03:27):
The child before the date.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
So, okay, I'm pretty sure it's a real hope.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Okay, is there any I mean, anything else you can
think of that might be a reason that he's ghosting you.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
I don't know. I mean maybe if he just like
changes mind and you or maybe I'm just like totally
crazy and really thought it went well and he was like,
oh my God, get me out of here, and he's
trying to be like polite about it.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
I feel like sometimes.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
People think it's nicer to ghost, which I do not
agree with.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
But okay, well, we'll try to figure out for you
our song come Back, and then call him and see
if he'll tell us why is ghosting you, and maybe
get you another date if you still want one. Okay, Okay,
all right, we'll play a song come Back, and get
your first Day follow up next if you're just joining
us for today's First Day follow up. Jade is on
the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named
ty We're about to call him see if he'll tell
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us why he's ghosting and maybe get her another date.
Before we do that, though, Jad, why don't you refresh
everybody's memory about your day with thy Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Tyan actually met a while ago, never really got together.
We matched on pinge, went on a cute walk, and
even like chose to extend a date for lunch. He
had to run because his daughter was sick, which was
no big deal for me, but we lost off with
him planning to call me. And now it's been four days,
(04:47):
so I'm just wondering if maybe something changed his mind
or Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Well and you did end up paying for the dates,
so we need to make sure it's not a scam
just to.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Get a free day. Are you ready for us to
call him?
Speaker 4 (04:59):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Okay, here we go.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
Hello.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Hi, man speaking to Tie? Please, this is speaking Ty.
What's up?
Speaker 5 (05:16):
Man?
Speaker 2 (05:16):
How are you? This is a Jewbel from a radio
show called The Jewbel Show.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Yeah, and the whole show is here. My name is Nina.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Hi, I'm Victoria. How are you say there?
Speaker 4 (05:27):
I'm doing pretty good? Did I win something?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Not sure yet? Do you ever listen to the show?
Speaker 4 (05:33):
I have a couple of times.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Have you ever heard of first day follow Up? No?
Speaker 4 (05:37):
I haven't caught it.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
A First day follow up is a segment with you
on the show where if you go out with someone
and then you end up ghosting them, that person can
email us to get you on the phone and ask
why you're ghosting them. So you are currently ghosting somebody?
Do you know who that is ghosting anyone that?
Speaker 4 (05:53):
No, I haven't. I can't think I'm ghosting anybody right now.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Have you gone in any dates recently?
Speaker 5 (06:00):
I went on a date just like a couple of
days ago with a girl that I actually kind of
really enjoyed. But I I think it would be way
too soon for her to even think.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I guess here have you messaged back to her?
Speaker 4 (06:14):
I'm actually a dad and I got a kid that's
been sick. She knows that my kid was sick.
Speaker 5 (06:19):
Because I had to leave the day and we spoke
the following day. I thought, I'm going to call her back.
But my kids not in the best condition. My baby mama.
Speaker 4 (06:32):
Is also sick.
Speaker 5 (06:33):
I'm taking care of my kid and working from home,
and you know, just treading water.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Oh wow, super Dad, we're talking about Jade. Is that
who you're talking about?
Speaker 5 (06:42):
Wait?
Speaker 4 (06:42):
Is it Jade?
Speaker 5 (06:43):
Because I would not want to have left her feeling
like that, because I did have a great time with her,
and I definitely do want to see her.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
I've just haven't been able.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
To come up for air at all these past three days.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Wow, Sheade probably would like to know that Jade's on
the phone and has been listening.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
Hi a wow, Hey jid Hi, how are you doing?
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Not the greatest, but okay?
Speaker 2 (07:17):
How are you?
Speaker 4 (07:18):
Oh? Yeah, taking care of a sick kid, trying to
people work just didn't buy right now.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Yeah, I didn't know what happened, so I kind of
just thought maybe you weren't that in to me and
didn't know how to say it.
Speaker 5 (07:35):
Oh no, Hun, I'm just kind of in a unique
place where, you know, I really had an amazing time
and I actually would love to see you again. It's
just I got a kid and I got to make
sure she's okay, and her mom's also sick, so she's
(07:55):
been with me since that date, and that's the reason
that you haven't heard.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
Best with you. No, my daughter's ball taking care of
the kid.
Speaker 5 (08:09):
We're just good, copare so we're friends, So I don't
mind getting some extra time with my daughter.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Yeah, I guess when you said I'll call you, I
just kind of thought you would call me sooner, And
since I didn't know what was going on, I definitely
was wondering if maybe, like, yeah, you change your mind
or like things aren't wrapped up with your daughter's mother
and was totally fine. I just would rather know the
truth than like being hanging out wondering.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
I'm so sorry that you felt that way, babe. That
was not my infession at all. It's just I've just
been really just busy with my daughter and Ken are well,
and that the plan wilts to give you a fall
because you know, I think it's probably just a cold,
and yeah, it's probably just gonna be a couple more
days and then you can have my full attention. That's
(09:03):
kind of where I wanted to be, was more available.
Speaker 5 (09:06):
I didn't want to schedule another day than then after
pail last minute because one of your time.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Oh that's sweet boring, Okay, Oh.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
I think sweet?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
You know why I think this is sweet?
Speaker 4 (09:17):
I think it's no.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
I think that Jade's feelings are super valid. I know
four days doesn't seem like a long time, but if
something goes really good, you can't help but question things
about yourself. So and especially if you're dealing with somebody
with kids, like, can I ask you if it's about me?
Speaker 2 (09:30):
Or is this about you?
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Because I kind of understand, but I can't help but
feeling a little bit insecure, you know what I mean.
So this communication is actually really sweet.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Yeah, I'm like, I totally get that, and I'm now
like a little embarrassed that I'm doing in secure.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
I think it's normal. Ty, would you like to go
on another day with Jade? Will pay for it.
Speaker 4 (09:49):
I would love to see you day great, Okay, doctor
on go.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
So then you can say I'm just kidding, that's not right.
You have to go to your kid always.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Yeah, I would love to see you again.
Speaker 4 (10:03):
I guess I just want to make like.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
One hundred one thousand, one million percent shirt. Things with
you and your daughter's mother are like totally over, no
chance you're moving on.
Speaker 5 (10:17):
Yeah, I think you can rest a shirt on that fact.
We're pretty much just, you know, platonic friends. We're good
co parents, but there's definitely not a spark like the
one that I feel like you she's super hot, but
we're honestly just fronts.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Okay, all right, well, congratulations Jade, you got another date.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Honesty is really happening.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
You will the first date follow up