SPEAK ON IT with calls - What Is Complicated In Your Situation?

SPEAK ON IT with calls - What Is Complicated In Your Situation?

Episode Transcript

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Welcome to another episode of the BigBoy Boy Speak On It on It podcast
Big Boy Neighborhood. Alrighty, nowAnnie is up in here. What up,
Honnie? What up? Fit?Oh? Nothing? What you got?
We had our listener Stephanie in theneighborhood one day. She was talking
about we're talking about side pieces abouteverything. Do you have a side piece?
What are the rules? And shetold us she was in a twelve

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year relationship with her man. Theyhave kids, they live together, but
he is okay with her having aside piece. He only has one rule
and this is what it is.Alrighty w L O L. We love
our listeners. Stephanie up in hereactually told me like, no, I
don't even care what you do.I just don't want to find out about
it, and I don't want nobodyto present it to them. I'm like,
okay, he knows about your sidepiece. Yeah, And they we're

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like if we're together in the street, like having a family time, and
we see him and be like,oh man, go yo dude, Like
okay, oh my god. Sothere's been times y'all just been rolling down
the street and you'll see your sidepiece. It's do y'all live together.
Yeah, we lived together? Allthat do you still have in? Of
course you smash your side piece,ain't you smash your boyfriend? No?
I don't smash my boyfriend. Youknow, that's what the side piece gets

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mad at and he and he'll expectbecause he doesn't know my husband. You
know, like you've been with thisguy for five years, Stephanie, and
you've never smashed? No I did? Is he out doing somebody else?
Then? Like what a tangled webwe weave? Like he's definitely not waiting
on you, right, yeah,definitely not. Why is he there?
Sometimes when you're in a long relationship, you need to have some kind of

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like excitement like I don't know,like when I'm mad at him, No,
why why is the side piece there? If he got a girl that
has a man that has kids thathe's not smashing, why is the side
piece? Then he really want meto my main to be with him.
But it's like boy, you knowthe real like you know what I'm saying?
You know what? Hey, man, that's just like how girls you

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waiting for the guy to get ready, but at least they smashing ay man,
I guess see, I feel guilty, like if I do happen to
slip up? Also? And allthis, I just can't look at HND
for like a couple of days.See, she said, if I do
slip up, so they still smashhim. But hey, we love our
listener, Stephanie. Yes, welove our listeners. And that right there,

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that's complicated. Yeah, it washard to follow along. Yeah,
alrighty, So we want to hearfrom you as well, ma'am. What's
complicated in your situation? What iscomplicated in your situation? Alrighty? And
when I say, what's complicated inyour situation? Or do baby dads have
to get together for the holidays?Did a friend take your man? How

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are you dating a girl that usedto be with your one of your homies?
Whatever it may be, what's complicatedin your situation? We're going to
bring Natalie into the neighborhood. Seeit's going down with Natalie. Up and
here Natalie, Hello, Hello,Hello there Natalie, Natalie, what's complicated
in your situation? Okay, sotasty, it's not my situation. But

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so my best friend's ex boyfriend gotmarried last week, right, I was.
We were all friends in college,so I got invited to the wedding
but check this out big. Herfamily got invited to the wedding. But
the question is, should my bestfriend had gotten an invitation because I was

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inviting her family was invited. Damnand she and she's the exe he invited.
Did the family go? Yeah,Natalie, the family went. Now,
Natalie, you're that's your mutual friendas well. Right, you guys
are all friends. So you went, you went to the wedding, right
right? Okay, I kind ofI feel kind of, you know,

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in the middle, like it wasokay that I went, but but the
family down. I was, butthe familyation when my mom got remarried,
like, obviously I'm gonna go there. My mom gets remarried, my dad
wasn't invited, but my dad's familymembers were invited. And I think my
mom might have invited my dad.But I think he like politely declined as

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well. They had a really greatrelationship like friendship afterwards. But yeah,
that's tough, he declined, though, Yeah, I know he was.
He was like, Okay, youknow I've been there before. Okay,
So yeah, so Natalie, soof course you still talk to your best
friend's ex as a friend. Yes, does she talk to the to the

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ex as well every now and then, okay, and the man that she
Okay, the I'm trying to figurethis out. The woman that he married,
when we say it was the complicate, what's complicated in your situation?
The woman that he's married, shewas fine with him inviting his exes family

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see looks and you know what.I haven't asked this, but I don't
even know if he told her hisnew wife that that was her family.
Wow, that's the way that he'sgonna start and his I do when I
don't now what about your friend?Is your friend? Man? At you
your best friend? She's a littlesofty. She's more safty with her family
because she's like, why are y'allgoing? I didn't even get an invite?

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I don't understand. I want.All I wanted to do was wish
him will you well wishes? Butyou know, yeah, what did she
do that day? She was watchinglike old episodes of Shark Tank You I
don't know. Already We're going tobring Allure into the neighborhood and see what
up with Allure? Allure? Hello, hello, big boy, Hello,

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are you I'm doing well? Allure? I love the name Allure. What's
complicated? In your situation. Well, what's complicated is I got all dressed
up going to the BP Awards andeverything, and I you know, I'm
not looking all good and everything,and I'm being posted and stuff. And

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then one of my exes saw me, and he was like, okay,
let me hit her, you know, because me and my wife is having
complications anyway, and since I've beenknowing her forever and that's how we met,
I'm gonna see how, you know, if we can rekindle stuff.
So he calls me and everything andnot rekindled, basically talking about things that

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came up like a harbord. Sowe were talking and everything, and he
told me like, yeah, Igot married and all this stuff, and
I'm single, so I don't havea problem with, you know, seeing
other people. So he started talkingto me about, you know, his
relationship and how it was good andeverything, and then it just started going
sour. But he just you know, brought up a lot of things of

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the past and stuff how we've beenknowing each other, like since I was
sixteen, and how you know,we were cool and everything and he really
loved his wife and all this stuff. But things was going sour and I
was like, I'm wondering, like, what what is he expecting of me?
You know, I'm a single woman. I'm not gonna date no guy.
I had gave up on separated guys, people that I was married and

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all this stuff because they say theyseparated, but they still be obligated to
the other woman. She could callhim and at the drop of dot he
would go running, and I waslike, you know, I felt like
I was tied in between the two. Yeah, I didn't know how to
really deal with that. Alrighty,So are you talking to him now?
Because I know we're talking about what'scomplicated in your situation and what you're talking

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about, you're complicated because I'm tryingto fall along with what's going down,
But are you guys? So areyou talking with him? Are you cut
them off? Or are you noteven exploring it? I basically went to
the cutoff, but I felt likeit was something that didn't you know,
we were just really cool, andhe felt like it was best interest to

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talk to me about things that cameup that you know, he was dealing
with in his life that involved andhe didn't want to talk to other people
about it. So when we startedtalking, about it, alrighty about that?
Yeah, man, it was goingon for a while. A loure,
We got it. He wants totalk to her. She's not in

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a position to talk to him.Let's bring Alejandra to the neighborhood and see
what's going down with Alejandra. Alejandra, Hello, Hello, Hello, Alejandro.
Was complicated in your situation? Okay, Alejandra, your phone just broke

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up? Say it again. Ihave a sugar daddy, and I'm also
seeing this other guy. Uh sothat's kind of interesting. It is so
sugar Doddy's cool, you know,it's it's nothing serious. But the other
guy that I'm seeing is serious andI really like him a lot too,
and you know, he takes hetakes good care of me and stuff.

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And I'm also kind of talking tomy ex a little bit. Oh lord,
it's really complicated. And what's youknow you're from Alejandra. Man,
I've been talking to Alejandra from Lato Jesus Christ. So I'm in that
too, now, Alejandra. Soyou have a sugar daddy, you have
a guy, another guy that you'rereally kind of feeling, and then you

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also so you are feeling him andyou have your ex, alrighty. So
with your with your sugar daddy,does he know about the guy that you're
feeling that you're really feeling. No, they don't know anything. So no
one knows about the other. Howdo you find the time for this,

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Your Lord, have mercy? Sowith the sugar daddy, what is what
does the sugar daddy bring? Doeshe bring like money? Is he taking
care of you? Yeah? Youknow, he he gets me, gives
he gives me money, and youknow, like you know, I'm struggling.
I'm a struggling artist. So andthen the other guy, you know,
he's he's really great. I've knownhim for like eight years. You've

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been together like on and off,like we had a thing for a while.
We kind of stopped talking, butthen we kind of got back in
contact from my ex and I brokeup because he's an alcoholic and I had
to end it even though I didn'twant to, you know, but man,
I need to do a full inthe show, like man, good
Lord have mercy, alrighty. Soit's a lot So with with the with

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the sugar daddy. Is the sugardaddy is he older? He's older?
They're both older, right, andhow do you Alejandra, I'm thirty two,
thirty two, And how does thesugar daddy he's like forty four.
I heard that. Alrighty, it'scomplicated. Now keep her because I want
to do a longer segment with her. I definitely want to do a longer

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segment with Alejandra. What's complicated inyour situation? You want to hear from?
You hit us up Big boys neighborhood, Adie. You're frying a big
boy from Big Boy's neighborhood on iHeartRadio. There's another in case you missed it,
moment with us, Louie j.So they're this company that I guess

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bought out some other smaller companies andnow they decided to do major layoffs.
And the way they did it,which is even worse, is through zoom.
And what they didn't do is mutetheir mics, so everybody's mics with
unmuted. The girl from Billy Brolisten to her. I'm so disgusted.
I'm the only one sort goods everythinggood, one with the you got scre

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David. If anything, he's lostdown so many times and in so many
ways. Here's the problem, notthe people actually to the world. Oh
whoever David is dog, you justgot to put it on black. Thank
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