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Speaker 1 (00:10):
John Jay and Rich Friday, we had a big speed
dating event in the studio.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
We had quite a few people and then we had Brett.
My friend.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Brett was the bachelor, thirty eight years old, single dad,
very uh. He's an author, pretty successful dude, works with athletes,
pro athletes, CEOs, all kinds of stuff, you know, train
the Rock Demi Lovado. But he's also i mean that's
the training like you know at the gym. But he
also now is a success coach with like CEOs and everything.
So we had a bunch of women in here and
(00:40):
they did the speed dating thing and he picked one person.
They picked each other and they weren't able to come
on yesterday because they were both so busy.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
But they went out last night. Good morning, Brett, Good
morning man.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Your Dulcet tones, you know, just eating me into the
morning like nothing.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Dulcet tones. Don't know what that means exactly. Dulcet is
that anyone anyone rich?
Speaker 4 (01:03):
She means captivating.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Okay, well, so Brett, who would you pick and how
to go?
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Yeah? So I picked Lindsay and it went great. We
went out on a date last night and it all
went really well. We hung out for about two and
a half hours.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
Wait, wait, hold on a second, which one is Lindsay?
What is her world like?
Speaker 3 (01:23):
Oh? Yeah, great, So Lindsay is a pharmaceutical sales rep
and she is from Mississippi originally and then moved to White.
She would have asked the first question. She was the
one that, if you recall the treadmill didn't work, she
was able to pivot and yeah, the brunette. Yeah, I'm
just trying to be as I don't know what you
guys have already talked about. But yes, we went out
(01:43):
last night, went to the Whining Pig, had a few
glasses of wine, talked about everything from travel, parenting books, values,
you name it, and so, yeah, do you want to
the questions do you want to fool overview? And just
for me to drone on?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I don't want you to drone on, but I want
to recap of the day. Was there was there chemistry?
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Yeah? Absolutely. I Mean one thing that really stood out
to me is just how intelligent she is. And that's
kryptonite to me. I need I need a balance of brains, bantering,
a little bit of bite, right, And so that was
something that that really stood out. And we have a
second day planned.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
So I'm like, oh, because we're trying to get her
on right now, but she can't go on for whatever reason.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
But she's listening. What yeah, I know she can see Nick.
What did she say? She can't jump on with this
right now? Whenever you get a chance?
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Morning?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
What busy morning, busy morning, that's it. Busy morning, cheese Louise.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Well, wouldn't it have been better if I said, Actually,
she's right here. She lied to Nick and wanted to
come off like a lady.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
I like that too. Is that a possibility?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
No?
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Was there a kiss at the end of the night.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Uh? There, no, this listen, try to slow burn. Want
to respect boundaries, you know, and uh she was really
she was really open about you know, a lot of stuff,
pass relationships, things like that, and I want to respect that,
you know. I mean, I'm a I'm a single parent,
I have a business. She has to manage her kiddo,
and so I get that, and I also understand that
everybody moves along at their own pace.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
So I like that.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
But there is there is there is a second date.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Plan, and when is the second date?
Speaker 3 (03:19):
It's soon as the impossible. I'm about to texture that
right now.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I'd like to go on that date with you.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Yeah, I'm totally going, like sunglasses and were I wear
my my my new medaglasses. Yeah yeah, watching in the
room ahead, I.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
Thought there was a little bit of chemistry between you
two when you were in here. But for all all
four girls, I mean, it takes a lot to put
yourself out there and then do it on the radio
as well, and all of them handled it so well.
They're all so cool, So you almost couldn't have made
a better choice. But I did sense a little bit
of chemistry between you and your choice, so that that
(04:00):
is pretty cool that that's working out okay for sure.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I mean, and it's early, you know, and that like
like good company is always something to be grateful for sure,
no matter where it leads. And so I think one
thing that was really fun about the date, and I
think you guys would appreciate this is we started talking
about we're both huge hip hop fans. We started talking
about the Drake and Kendrick Lamar Beef and I go, listen,
this is what's got to happen and our next date.
(04:24):
We're deconstructing this because she was like, you know, I
do think that they should have. You know, there's so
many other things in the world. Why were they arguing
about this? And I'm like, no, it's really about that.
And so what was funny is we talked deeply about
different books and like I said, parenting values, where we
grew up, all the things, you know, trying to get
to know somebody, but then finding somebody who's eyes lit up,
like she loves the weekend, she likes Kendrick Lamar, she
(04:46):
likes old school hip hop, and those are things like
you want to see excitement from different areas of people's life.
Somebody that's not just passionate about one thing, is it
defined by one thing. So whether it's silly to people
listening or not, you know, like those are fun. They
allow the conversation to go a lot of different places.
So we'll have fun second date. I'll make sure of it.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
That's awesome, good. I'm real happy for it, because you
know what's funny.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
After Friday, I got so many messages from women that
wanted to meet you, and I was trying to filter them,
and then I was first I was going to send
them to you, and then I thought, well, they could
do the research to try to find them on their own.
But I don't know if anyone ever reached out to you.
But you stick with Lindsay for a while.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely, I'm not the type that you know this.
Uh it was fun doing that experience, but there's like
dating is not something that I want to plan on
making a hobby, right.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
So do you just want to marry her?
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Then?
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Did you tell her that you love her.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Such a hobby with you marry me?
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Can you turn off your like your motivational coach when
you're on a date, so you're not in show mode,
you know mode?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Because I want to I mean, like, you know, special
interest story, right, I've been I need somebody that is
emotionally expressive, warm, loving, right Like in my last relationship,
I had to do a lot of the emotional lifting.
So I want to shut up and probe and respectfully
and ask them questions. Right. I don't want to be
the focus of attention on the date. I'm looking for
(06:08):
somebody like because I'm always looking for those subtle signs. Right,
can that person no matter, we all have external responsibilities,
but can you show up in this case like a
woman and also nurture love, be passionate and those things
because that stuff I have to make space for being
a single dat or business owner too, Like, no matter what,
you have to shut that off and still make that
(06:28):
other person feel like a priority. And so I try
to ask a lot of thoughtful questions to engauge if
that's likely, because it's not awesome, No worries. Everybody's got
their boundaries, everybody's got their kind of bandwidth limitations. But yeah,
I can absolutely turn that stuff off. I just like
to I like to enjoy the moment.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Did you tell her what a big fan of Joe
Goldberg you are? Huh?
Speaker 3 (06:52):
This is obviously an inside Joe.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
No, you're not watching, you say, because you're talking about
books you. I'd love to keep you in a plexiglass
cage in my base.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
It's a TV show called You, season five.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
How have you not watched you?
Speaker 3 (07:05):
I won't lie to you. I asked her what book
she was reading right now, and I think she said
she was reading a book named dead Man's Aisle. And
so I would be completely lying if I said I
didn't do a full internet about everything about dead Man's Aisle.
And I think there's killing, I think there's loss, I
think there's crazy relationships. So, I mean, he's going to
be an interesting roller coaster. I'm ready to go.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
Good.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Then then go google Joe Goldberg and then watch all
his stuff.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Read all his He's a different sort of motivational speaker.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
He's in a TV show.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Oh okay, yeah, I'll do it. When you said he
was trapped in a cage, I didn't know what.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
No, no. I wonder she watches that?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
All right, Brett, thank you so much for chumping on
there with this, dude, Thank you man, congratulations.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Pleasure take care of guys.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
Thank you. I mean, I think what you can say
is we do a pretty good job setting up speed dates.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Rights you do, we do that whole other thing, maybe
like an event someday, Oh we have today September?
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Is that one that one of your friends that she's
coming to meet her? You can peggyback on it.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
I just need to find some
Speaker 3 (08:02):
I think September twenty fourth is the date that it's
getting locked in, so that'll be exciting.
John Jay and Rich Friday, we had a big speed
dating event in the studio.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
We had quite a few people and then we had Brett.
My friend.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Brett was the bachelor, thirty eight years old, single dad,
very uh. He's an author, pretty successful dude, works with athletes,
pro athletes, CEOs, all kinds of stuff, you know, train
the Rock Demi Lovado. But he's also i mean that's
the training like you know at the gym. But he
also now is a success coach with like CEOs and everything.
So we had a bunch of women in here and
(00:40):
they did the speed dating thing and he picked one person.
They picked each other and they weren't able to come
on yesterday because they were both so busy.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
But they went out last night. Good morning, Brett, Good
morning man.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Your Dulcet tones, you know, just eating me into the
morning like nothing.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Dulcet tones. Don't know what that means exactly. Dulcet is
that anyone anyone rich?
Speaker 4 (01:03):
She means captivating.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Okay, well, so Brett, who would you pick and how
to go?
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Yeah? So I picked Lindsay and it went great. We
went out on a date last night and it all
went really well. We hung out for about two and
a half hours.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
Wait, wait, hold on a second, which one is Lindsay?
What is her world like?
Speaker 3 (01:23):
Oh? Yeah, great, So Lindsay is a pharmaceutical sales rep
and she is from Mississippi originally and then moved to White.
She would have asked the first question. She was the
one that, if you recall the treadmill didn't work, she
was able to pivot and yeah, the brunette. Yeah, I'm
just trying to be as I don't know what you
guys have already talked about. But yes, we went out
(01:43):
last night, went to the Whining Pig, had a few
glasses of wine, talked about everything from travel, parenting books, values,
you name it, and so, yeah, do you want to
the questions do you want to fool overview? And just
for me to drone on?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I don't want you to drone on, but I want
to recap of the day. Was there was there chemistry?
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Yeah? Absolutely. I Mean one thing that really stood out
to me is just how intelligent she is. And that's
kryptonite to me. I need I need a balance of brains, bantering,
a little bit of bite, right, And so that was
something that that really stood out. And we have a
second day planned.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
So I'm like, oh, because we're trying to get her
on right now, but she can't go on for whatever reason.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
But she's listening. What yeah, I know she can see Nick.
What did she say? She can't jump on with this
right now? Whenever you get a chance?
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Morning?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
What busy morning, busy morning, that's it. Busy morning, cheese Louise.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Well, wouldn't it have been better if I said, Actually,
she's right here. She lied to Nick and wanted to
come off like a lady.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
I like that too. Is that a possibility?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
No?
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Was there a kiss at the end of the night.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Uh? There, no, this listen, try to slow burn. Want
to respect boundaries, you know, and uh she was really
she was really open about you know, a lot of stuff,
pass relationships, things like that, and I want to respect that,
you know. I mean, I'm a I'm a single parent,
I have a business. She has to manage her kiddo,
and so I get that, and I also understand that
everybody moves along at their own pace.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
So I like that.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
But there is there is there is a second date.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Plan, and when is the second date?
Speaker 3 (03:19):
It's soon as the impossible. I'm about to texture that
right now.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I'd like to go on that date with you.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Yeah, I'm totally going, like sunglasses and were I wear
my my my new medaglasses. Yeah yeah, watching in the
room ahead, I.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
Thought there was a little bit of chemistry between you
two when you were in here. But for all all
four girls, I mean, it takes a lot to put
yourself out there and then do it on the radio
as well, and all of them handled it so well.
They're all so cool, So you almost couldn't have made
a better choice. But I did sense a little bit
of chemistry between you and your choice, so that that
(04:00):
is pretty cool that that's working out okay for sure.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I mean, and it's early, you know, and that like
like good company is always something to be grateful for sure,
no matter where it leads. And so I think one
thing that was really fun about the date, and I
think you guys would appreciate this is we started talking
about we're both huge hip hop fans. We started talking
about the Drake and Kendrick Lamar Beef and I go, listen,
this is what's got to happen and our next date.
(04:24):
We're deconstructing this because she was like, you know, I
do think that they should have. You know, there's so
many other things in the world. Why were they arguing
about this? And I'm like, no, it's really about that.
And so what was funny is we talked deeply about
different books and like I said, parenting values, where we
grew up, all the things, you know, trying to get
to know somebody, but then finding somebody who's eyes lit up,
like she loves the weekend, she likes Kendrick Lamar, she
(04:46):
likes old school hip hop, and those are things like
you want to see excitement from different areas of people's life.
Somebody that's not just passionate about one thing, is it
defined by one thing. So whether it's silly to people
listening or not, you know, like those are fun. They
allow the conversation to go a lot of different places.
So we'll have fun second date. I'll make sure of it.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
That's awesome, good. I'm real happy for it, because you
know what's funny.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
After Friday, I got so many messages from women that
wanted to meet you, and I was trying to filter them,
and then I was first I was going to send
them to you, and then I thought, well, they could
do the research to try to find them on their own.
But I don't know if anyone ever reached out to you.
But you stick with Lindsay for a while.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely, I'm not the type that you know this.
Uh it was fun doing that experience, but there's like
dating is not something that I want to plan on
making a hobby, right.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
So do you just want to marry her?
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Then?
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Did you tell her that you love her.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Such a hobby with you marry me?
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Can you turn off your like your motivational coach when
you're on a date, so you're not in show mode,
you know mode?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Because I want to I mean, like, you know, special
interest story, right, I've been I need somebody that is
emotionally expressive, warm, loving, right Like in my last relationship,
I had to do a lot of the emotional lifting.
So I want to shut up and probe and respectfully
and ask them questions. Right. I don't want to be
the focus of attention on the date. I'm looking for
(06:08):
somebody like because I'm always looking for those subtle signs. Right,
can that person no matter, we all have external responsibilities,
but can you show up in this case like a
woman and also nurture love, be passionate and those things
because that stuff I have to make space for being
a single dat or business owner too, Like, no matter what,
you have to shut that off and still make that
(06:28):
other person feel like a priority. And so I try
to ask a lot of thoughtful questions to engauge if
that's likely, because it's not awesome, No worries. Everybody's got
their boundaries, everybody's got their kind of bandwidth limitations. But yeah,
I can absolutely turn that stuff off. I just like
to I like to enjoy the moment.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Did you tell her what a big fan of Joe
Goldberg you are? Huh?
Speaker 3 (06:52):
This is obviously an inside Joe.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
No, you're not watching, you say, because you're talking about
books you. I'd love to keep you in a plexiglass
cage in my base.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
It's a TV show called You, season five.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
How have you not watched you?
Speaker 3 (07:05):
I won't lie to you. I asked her what book
she was reading right now, and I think she said
she was reading a book named dead Man's Aisle. And
so I would be completely lying if I said I
didn't do a full internet about everything about dead Man's Aisle.
And I think there's killing, I think there's loss, I
think there's crazy relationships. So, I mean, he's going to
be an interesting roller coaster. I'm ready to go.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
Good.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Then then go google Joe Goldberg and then watch all
his stuff.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Read all his He's a different sort of motivational speaker.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
He's in a TV show.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Oh okay, yeah, I'll do it. When you said he
was trapped in a cage, I didn't know what.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
No, no. I wonder she watches that?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
All right, Brett, thank you so much for chumping on
there with this, dude, Thank you man, congratulations.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Pleasure take care of guys.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
Thank you. I mean, I think what you can say
is we do a pretty good job setting up speed dates.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Rights you do, we do that whole other thing, maybe
like an event someday, Oh we have today September?
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Is that one that one of your friends that she's
coming to meet her? You can peggyback on it.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
I just need to find some
Speaker 3 (08:02):
I think September twenty fourth is the date that it's
getting locked in, so that'll be exciting.
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