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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Danica, Good morning, good morning, thanks for holding What's going on?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
So I had to call in because I need to
know if I'm being dramatic or if my cousin is
actually just the worst.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
What happened.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
So I'm getting married the first week of July this year,
and my cousin is getting married in the first week
of June. So a lot of weddings happening in my family.
And a few weeks ago, she asked me what song
my fiance and I picked for our first dance, and
I told her because we talk about wedding stuff and
(00:33):
I didn't think twice about it. It turned out that
she really loved the song, maybe too much because my
aunt let it slip to my mom that she's using
the exact same song for her wedding. And I wouldn't
care about it if my wedding was first, but it's not,
because now it's going to look like I copied her
(00:55):
and she.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Stole my idea.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I called her and asked, you know, hey, can I
heard that you are taking the same song after I
told it to you, Can you change it? And she
was like, well, if I find a better song, I will,
And I was like, well, it's really like not cool,
and I was. I was telling her outside I was,
(01:21):
and she called me a bride silla. Right, I'm like,
am I crazy for being mad at this? Wouldn't somebody
else get said? If their cousins stole their first dance
song and got to use it first, do I pick
a new song? Or do I stay on my ground?
So I'm I'm just kind of like, am I crazy?
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Can I guess? I think I know what song it is?
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:45):
I guess sure. I think this is for you to
walk down the aisle?
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Right?
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Is that what you're saying.
Speaker 5 (01:53):
First dance?
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Okay? This is it?
Speaker 4 (02:03):
Words to give me along difficulty and I'm betting on
my toe and I give stone and get the little together.
People around gotta.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Pay something to say now, going.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Back every day saying don't want to be a loneess.
Oh no, I'm never saying anything at all, but nothing supercided.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Right here, you don't dance with your husband.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
They called me hose.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
They called me say see, they call me hose.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
They I've had this song in my head for three days.
Speaker 5 (02:39):
I was like, you've brought that song more than time lately.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
I don't understand why.
Speaker 5 (02:45):
Obviously that's the first dance song.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Okay. I mean if it's not Dan, okay, now you've
got one, and then everyone everyone at the wedding, you'd
be like, must be an inside joke. Do you call
it together or something? With that? What song is it?
Speaker 2 (02:58):
By the way, so funnily enough, because I just played
a few songs ago Beautiful Things by Benson Boone, but
an acoustic version of it Reilly, Yeah, I was like,
this is just like a really cool version. Everybody knows
the song, but h and we really really loved the
song we saw him in concert, but like, the acoustic
(03:19):
version is so sweet, and so I thought it wasn't
going to be a song that many people have chosen.
And so for her to see it and to hear
it and be like, oh, I'm going to feel this
like creative idea that she has, I'm like, are you
kidding me?
Speaker 3 (03:32):
I'd be pissed.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Us.
Speaker 5 (03:36):
I feel like I have experience with fighting with cousins
who had their wedding close to you, because my cousin
scheduled her wedding literally one week right after mine in
the same location. And that's okay because it was a
location that was very near and dear to our entire families.
It was a special place for her and her person too.
But there were there were so many things that I
(03:57):
got mad at my cousin about because of how close
it was. Like she had agreed to do the music
for my wedding, and because she was planning her wedding,
she says it was too stressful, she couldn't do it.
But at the last minute she canceled on that, and
then a lot of people in our family had to
choose which wedding they were going to go to. So
those ones that chose her wedding over mine, I got
mad about. And it's funny because I literally was just
(04:18):
thinking about this. You guys know, because you guys knew
me during wedding time. It was it was not a
controllable anger.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
It was miss.
Speaker 5 (04:30):
Mil He fled over into like this huge fight, like
a screaming match between my aunt and myself, her mom,
And so I was literally thinking about this the other day,
and I'm like, that was so stupid, Like who cares
if some people had to choose.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
That's just what it was.
Speaker 5 (04:45):
It was the last Like this was a ranch that
my family had been going to ever since my mom
was a child, and it was like the last summer
that was available. They didn't have a choice.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Into doing it, otherwise they wouldn't have been able to
get married there too.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
The people that had to choose probably had to pick
what date work cause exactly but at the tzilla exactly.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
So I want to I just want to encourage me
that I know how it feels, and I know how
much that would make me mad at the time. But
as someone who went through that and like is on
the other side of it now, it is not worth
the stress that it's causing in your life. Many people
will use Ben sim boone as their wedding song like
it's a beautiful song. A lot of people using though, Yeah,
(05:27):
I mean, there are so many gorgeous and beautiful songs
that you could use if you really don't want the
same song. I know it seems special to you, but
explore other options or just use it and say, who cares.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Let me ask this, Kyle, where are you now ten
years later since your wedding with your cousin.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
Oh we still don't talk, but I don't think. Yeah,
that's sad to me, But that was like the beginning
of the end of our relationship and growing up we
were all really close, like super close cousins.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
So, yeah, did you got to her wedding? I know
because we had left.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
So did she come to your wedding?
Speaker 5 (06:01):
No, okay, I don't wedding good time. Her mom did
go to my wedding.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Got her mom go to her wedding.
Speaker 5 (06:08):
Her mom did go to her wedding.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
But now I look back, No, she couldn't stay your mom.
Your mom couldn't go to her web. No she did.
My mom went to her wedding. Yeahs you guys hate
each other exactly, But.
Speaker 5 (06:19):
Like, looking back, I was like, that was so it
was so silly, but the emotions were real. Like so
I get it. I empathize with you, but I encourage
you to rise above that for yourself. Like, because they
got me so stressed out, I lost so much weight,
like I was like not eating, Like it was more
stress on my body and on me, and it probably
is for you too, Danica that it's not worth it.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
So how does she rise above? Does she just use
her song too?
Speaker 5 (06:42):
Yeah, because no one's going to be like, oh my gosh,
that wedding was terrible.
Speaker 3 (06:46):
She did? You know, she's the same song.
Speaker 5 (06:48):
They probably don't even remember, right, they probably won't.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
All right, Thank you, Danica, thanks for coming.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
To us, Thank you.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
All right. It's John Jay Rich
Danica, Good morning, good morning, thanks for holding What's going on?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
So I had to call in because I need to
know if I'm being dramatic or if my cousin is
actually just the worst.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
What happened.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
So I'm getting married the first week of July this year,
and my cousin is getting married in the first week
of June. So a lot of weddings happening in my family.
And a few weeks ago, she asked me what song
my fiance and I picked for our first dance, and
I told her because we talk about wedding stuff and
(00:33):
I didn't think twice about it. It turned out that
she really loved the song, maybe too much because my
aunt let it slip to my mom that she's using
the exact same song for her wedding. And I wouldn't
care about it if my wedding was first, but it's not,
because now it's going to look like I copied her
(00:55):
and she.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Stole my idea.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I called her and asked, you know, hey, can I
heard that you are taking the same song after I
told it to you, Can you change it? And she
was like, well, if I find a better song, I will,
And I was like, well, it's really like not cool,
and I was. I was telling her outside I was,
(01:21):
and she called me a bride silla. Right, I'm like,
am I crazy for being mad at this? Wouldn't somebody
else get said? If their cousins stole their first dance
song and got to use it first, do I pick
a new song? Or do I stay on my ground?
So I'm I'm just kind of like, am I crazy?
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Can I guess? I think I know what song it is?
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:45):
I guess sure. I think this is for you to
walk down the aisle?
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Right?
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Is that what you're saying.
Speaker 5 (01:53):
First dance?
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Okay? This is it?
Speaker 4 (02:03):
Words to give me along difficulty and I'm betting on
my toe and I give stone and get the little together.
People around gotta.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Pay something to say now, going.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Back every day saying don't want to be a loneess.
Oh no, I'm never saying anything at all, but nothing supercided.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Right here, you don't dance with your husband.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
They called me hose.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
They called me say see, they call me hose.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
They I've had this song in my head for three days.
Speaker 5 (02:39):
I was like, you've brought that song more than time lately.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
I don't understand why.
Speaker 5 (02:45):
Obviously that's the first dance song.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Okay. I mean if it's not Dan, okay, now you've
got one, and then everyone everyone at the wedding, you'd
be like, must be an inside joke. Do you call
it together or something? With that? What song is it?
Speaker 2 (02:58):
By the way, so funnily enough, because I just played
a few songs ago Beautiful Things by Benson Boone, but
an acoustic version of it Reilly, Yeah, I was like,
this is just like a really cool version. Everybody knows
the song, but h and we really really loved the
song we saw him in concert, but like, the acoustic
(03:19):
version is so sweet, and so I thought it wasn't
going to be a song that many people have chosen.
And so for her to see it and to hear
it and be like, oh, I'm going to feel this
like creative idea that she has, I'm like, are you
kidding me?
Speaker 3 (03:32):
I'd be pissed.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Us.
Speaker 5 (03:36):
I feel like I have experience with fighting with cousins
who had their wedding close to you, because my cousin
scheduled her wedding literally one week right after mine in
the same location. And that's okay because it was a
location that was very near and dear to our entire families.
It was a special place for her and her person too.
But there were there were so many things that I
(03:57):
got mad at my cousin about because of how close
it was. Like she had agreed to do the music
for my wedding, and because she was planning her wedding,
she says it was too stressful, she couldn't do it.
But at the last minute she canceled on that, and
then a lot of people in our family had to
choose which wedding they were going to go to. So
those ones that chose her wedding over mine, I got
mad about. And it's funny because I literally was just
(04:18):
thinking about this. You guys know, because you guys knew
me during wedding time. It was it was not a
controllable anger.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
It was miss.
Speaker 5 (04:30):
Mil He fled over into like this huge fight, like
a screaming match between my aunt and myself, her mom,
And so I was literally thinking about this the other day,
and I'm like, that was so stupid, Like who cares
if some people had to choose.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
That's just what it was.
Speaker 5 (04:45):
It was the last Like this was a ranch that
my family had been going to ever since my mom
was a child, and it was like the last summer
that was available. They didn't have a choice.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Into doing it, otherwise they wouldn't have been able to
get married there too.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
The people that had to choose probably had to pick
what date work cause exactly but at the tzilla exactly.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
So I want to I just want to encourage me
that I know how it feels, and I know how
much that would make me mad at the time. But
as someone who went through that and like is on
the other side of it now, it is not worth
the stress that it's causing in your life. Many people
will use Ben sim boone as their wedding song like
it's a beautiful song. A lot of people using though, Yeah,
(05:27):
I mean, there are so many gorgeous and beautiful songs
that you could use if you really don't want the
same song. I know it seems special to you, but
explore other options or just use it and say, who cares.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Let me ask this, Kyle, where are you now ten
years later since your wedding with your cousin.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
Oh we still don't talk, but I don't think. Yeah,
that's sad to me, But that was like the beginning
of the end of our relationship and growing up we
were all really close, like super close cousins.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
So, yeah, did you got to her wedding? I know
because we had left.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
So did she come to your wedding?
Speaker 5 (06:01):
No, okay, I don't wedding good time. Her mom did
go to my wedding.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Got her mom go to her wedding.
Speaker 5 (06:08):
Her mom did go to her wedding.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
But now I look back, No, she couldn't stay your mom.
Your mom couldn't go to her web. No she did.
My mom went to her wedding. Yeahs you guys hate
each other exactly, But.
Speaker 5 (06:19):
Like, looking back, I was like, that was so it
was so silly, but the emotions were real. Like so
I get it. I empathize with you, but I encourage
you to rise above that for yourself. Like, because they
got me so stressed out, I lost so much weight,
like I was like not eating, Like it was more
stress on my body and on me, and it probably
is for you too, Danica that it's not worth it.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
So how does she rise above? Does she just use
her song too?
Speaker 5 (06:42):
Yeah, because no one's going to be like, oh my gosh,
that wedding was terrible.
Speaker 3 (06:46):
She did? You know, she's the same song.
Speaker 5 (06:48):
They probably don't even remember, right, they probably won't.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
All right, Thank you, Danica, thanks for coming.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
To us, Thank you.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
All right. It's John Jay Rich
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