October 19, 2025 • 33 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Broadcasting live across the world right now.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
This is the.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
John Jay and Rich radio program.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Welcome to another edition of the John Jay and Ridge
Couples podcast. What you'll be hearing today is Kyle and Fish,
good old Fish and Kyle back at it again, back
at it again with the White Fans. So if you
listened to the show this week, you may have heard
a topic come up where I said that I saw
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a whole new side of Scott and it was invigorating
and inspiring and just just beautiful. And there were some
questions asked about you, hun that I couldn't answer, and
I said, you know what, I think that is a
great opportunity to dive a little deeper into that in
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the podcast. And what I saw in you was when
Wednesday night you helped coach ADDIE's flag football team, and
I said, I have never seen you in that way,
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And it was so cool because you were engaging the girls,
You were having fun with them, they were kicking butt
like they were doing a great job. And I think
it's because they maybe had the right motivation from you.
And I've always kind of it's not like it's been
a dream of mine or anything like that to have
you coach the kids' teams? It's a cool thought like.
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It's a cool like because I think, as a kid,
it would be kind of cool to have your parents
coached a team. And so I think about the experience
of Addie and Easton and their childhoods, and it's our
job to sort of shape them. And there you were,
you were doing it, and I didn't understand why you've
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always said you would never coach a team. I mean,
our kids have been on how many team playing teams,
football teams, baseball teams. I mean, obviously you wouldn't coach dance.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
But like you, is that your dream too?
Speaker 2 (02:09):
No? There has always been the question that you fill
out when you're filling out the form for the team,
are you or willing to coach? And I've always been like,
you should coach a team, and your answer was absolute no.
And when I saw you actually coaching the team and
doing such an amazing job, I wondered to myself, why why?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Yeah, why I was doing an amazing job.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
I feel like you're you've been God has gifted you
this talent and it's going to waste and I saw
a little glimmer of it and I just sort of
feel like, man, it was like the tip of an iceberg.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Well, sorry that I haven't lived up to being the
man you want me to be until that.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
No, we don't need to go Okay, we're gonna be.
We're gonna the victim. I was trying to give you
a compliment. It was great to see you in that way.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Well, it's pretty easy. It's pretty easy answer, because I
think it's important for our children to be able to learn,
take direction, and understand adversity from someone other than their parent,
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which is the person who's doing it all the time anyways.
So I think it's good for their growth and for
them to be able to flap their little wings and
fly by learning and seeing another adult as a figure
of authority or teaching or so on and so forth.
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If it's just me, you're a whole little thing of
be so fun. If my dad was my football coach,
well guess what, I'm already their life coach.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Bam, wow, my drop. I think we should stop the
podcast right here.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Okay, one, see you next.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
That's a great point. I get that, and I agree
it is important for them to have different sets of
authority and influence, but it's not like I'm asking you
to coach every single one of their teams all the
time better once in a while.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Wouldn't it be wouldn't I be in a better light
if I came in and was the hero every once
in a while and they had a better taste after
I left, instead of me trying to be the hero
every week or every game. I think it's better. It's
like Dad was really fun at football tonight and I
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really enjoyed that, instead of me trying to be fun
at football every night.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
I think it's fun all the time. Who wants to
be fun all the time? Do that? Yeah? I mean,
did it hurt you even just a little bit when
you when Addie asked you are you going to coach again?
And you said no? And she goes, oh, she was disappointed.
She did I don't remember that, and I quote it.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Was this, oh blocked out.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
I put it all into the well now that I've
put that in your brain, and she had so much
fun she wanted you to coach again. Doesn't put a
little dagger right there goes life.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Coach again. Sometimes we don't always get what we want. Kid,
Damn bam, see you next month. Folks, enjoy the show.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
So that's that's you. That's you. Okay, well, thank you
for carrying that up.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
I really I also think that it's tough being a
coach of eleven year olds and eight year olds because
the parents are never satisfied. I e myself at what
the coaches are doing. So I had a great time
with the kids Wednesday night, and we had fun running
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around and laughed and stuff. But were we like getting
better at football now?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
No?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Yes, And here's why. Right now, at eleven years old,
is the time where kids should be fostering the love
of the game and of course the basics. But you're
not really I mean unless you're like already in the
club and you've been playing since five years old. This
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is a rec league, and it's like it's supposed to
be fun and they're supposed to learn a little bit too.
So I kind of feel like, yeah, I mean, right now,
I'd rather her have a great time and learn a
little bit of football along the way and create and
foster a love of it. And that's when you get
the kids that when they're in high school, they have
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a discipline for the game because they've already fostered a
love for it.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Okay, Well that's one parent's opinion, because I know another
parent who wants them to learn the exes and oh no,
that wants them to run to space, that wants them
to have misdirection in the plays, that wants them to
perfect their timing at eleven years old. You can't please everyone. Bam.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Oh my gosh, stop with the bam bam, No more bam. Uh. Yeah,
you're right, No, you can't please everyone. And I think
when you're in that position, so you don't want the
pressure of being the coach, the pressure, the parental pressure.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
I appreciate the coaches that do it because that's, you know,
that's a commitment and there's time spent, and it's away
from work, it's away from family, and so I respect that,
and I just I just think it's more important for
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our kids to learn from someone else for a little
chunk of time in their little, tiny lives.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
They learn from someone else every day for a big
chunk of their day, pretty much the entire day. It's
called school.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
But yes, yeah, but this is another slice of life.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
I need you to be honest. I have a question.
Was there a little bit of you, just a teeny
bit and I won't bring this back and try to
convince you to be the coach, but I need you
to be honest. Teeny bit of you at all, whilst
you were coaching, think to yourself, I could do this.
I could probably do a better job than some of
the other coaches we've had in the past, because I
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like our coaches right now. But teeny bit of you
have that thought run through your mind, like, never think
that I.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Could do a better job. But I know I could
do it. I know I could do it.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
You just don't want it.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I just don't think it's I would much rather go
in there for one night helping out, have fun, have
some laughs.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Step beside, step back, Okay, Okay, I appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Is that good enough for you?
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Do you think that our kids there?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Let me ask you a question, are there other areas
in my life that I could possibly live up to
what you want me to be?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
I feel like in all areas of your life you
exceed expectations. Actually, that's kind of funny.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Have gone.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Okay, So we just got the kids report cards, right
we did agreement. Let's create our marriage report card right now. Okay,
So in all the subjects, was first we have to
create the subjects. What are the subjects of the marriage
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report card?
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Do we just go mathematics?
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Love languages? Oh so, like mathematics would be like our budget.
I don't know, I like it got over this equals budget?
Uh let's say language arts equals our communication?
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Okay? What other subjects are? Social studies? What would social
study pe P? You can fill in the blank, but
you think there what would social studies be? In science?
Speaker 1 (10:21):
In social studies would be how we involve like other
people outside of our lives, like friendship and.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Oh okay, like okay, social literally social social stuff. And
then science maybe I don't dinner dinner, dinner, love to
get love that? Okay? What other what other topics are there? Okay?
So we have PE, language, arts, math, social studies, and science.
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The basics. We're not going extracurricular here right now, just
the basics. Okay, all right, So you have to verbally
give your marriage report card to me and I you okay?
And you know how like on the report card they
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have outstanding satisfactory pleasure to have in class or like
what are the other ones challenging to have in class?
Does not respect authority?
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Like right, yeah, all.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Right, So should we go tit for tat so we
go down or do you want to give me your
entire report card and then I give you my entire
report card or we go social studies? Your grade grade?
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Yeah? Grades?
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Okay, so we'll start with science, which you said was dinner.
We all know. I feel like I've been very open
about this on the show and maybe even here on
the Couple's podcast that I don't know what invisible contract
we signed where I just became the dinner planner, creator
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and organizer as part.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
Of your grade you're giving right here because.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
But no, I'm setting it up, but I have that's
my job in the household. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
That's not a contract. It just makes sense because your
work day ends what very early in the day.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
It varies. You're blessed veries from day to day. I
also wake up very early.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
You have signed an invisible contract with me that when
five o'clock comes around, I just have to drop everything.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
That was an invisible contract. That was a verbal contract
where I said you need to come home.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
So back to my point, it just makes sense that
if most days I'm still working at five o'clock, and
because of your job. We go to bed early. Someone
has to do dinner. Okay, grade, I give you, I
give you an A A. Yeah right, no, I do.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Okay, I am the worst cook. I know. I like
a menu of five things and they're not even done well.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
But look who you're talking to. I have eaten the
same thing at lunch for probably four months in a row,
turkey sandwich and almonds every single day.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
I know, an you know he's not even exaggerating it
literally is every single day.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
I am just fine eating the same thing every weeknight.
And you do a great job. Hey, well done.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
I think, I actually think this is one reason why
I love you is that you are not a foodie
and you have a very simple palette. You don't need
a whole lot, because if you did, you probably would
give me an F right there, which is probably what
I actually deserve in the dinner department. Okay, your grade
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would be an A because you eat everything.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
I cook, and I make burgers one night a week
and one night order properly.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Yeah, Welle, night and week you do burgers, and it
usually ends up being on the night where I'm so tired.
I can't I just can't. I can't do dinner that night,
and you swoop in and you're like burgers tonight.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
So we're off time A great start. Okay, good.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
So now we move on to social studies, our interaction
socially with friends and whatnot.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Ye you want me to go first. You're very friendly.
I am not very friendly, So I give you a
for effort. But if we're if the grade coming from
my perspective, it's gotten better, it's gotten better. So I
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would say it to be okay because I can. My
choice of using free time is to not use social studies,
so I've had to get used to that. And we've
spent a lot of time with friends lately and I
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have grown to enjoy that. So that's that's where the
beat comes from.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Okay, that's great.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
But do we have to all the time?
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Okay, So that's where my grade comes in. Okay. My
grade for you on this with love is a c.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
CS get degree.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
And partially because I understand like not wanting to do things,
because we all get that every once in a while,
like the social battery is just dead and you don't
want to And I understand that our social batteries have
a different life. Mine drains a little slower than yours does.
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But I have so much fun being with people, and
you're so fun once you have a couple of cocktails
and we're all hanging out and really funny, and people
get to see that and that's great.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
And so what if I coached with a couple cocktails.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Oh my god, No, that would be bad. You're not
gonna do You're not gonna go there. You didn't need it,
that's the thing. You didn't even need it, And that,
like spark came out in you. We've already passed that.
You don't have to be a coach. So see, just
because I would love to hang out with people more,
but you don't.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
So there, that's just that's just the way it is.
And there's been growth. You have to acknowledge I've grown
this semester.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
I also feel like you have to acknowledge I have
not planned as many things.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
It's hard hard to accept that because we just came
off of something just mere hours ago.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
But before that, it had been a little while before that,
no schedule, okay, no, before that. Before that, it was
like a month since we hung out with our friends.
That was a long time. It was a long break.
You've got a long break. Guess what Europe. It is
the holidays, so there's gonna be a lot of things. Okay.
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I think our grades are an indication of our compromise
to make each other happy.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
So I would normally be a D, but I'm a C.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
You're a C for compromise. Okay, Okay, math equals budget.
We are in the middle of our marriage report card
with each other.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
And I give us a C.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Plus C plus on budget. You know what, I disagree,
I'm giving us a B right now. Without getting into specifics,
I have to say I'm proud of us because we've
had some I wouldn't call them financial challenges, although I
will call them financial challenges because that's technically what they are.
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We've had financial challenges over the last year, and I
feel like we have risen to the occasion.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Yeah. Well, I think everybody can relate, like when you
get your credit card bill at the end of the
month and you're like, what what did we spend all
of this money on?
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Right?
Speaker 1 (18:13):
So we've gotten so much better at that, and.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
I think everyone can relate, like, right now, everything costs
so much more and I don't know, I don't know
anybody that's getting raises right now at.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
Work, continued employment, you're raised.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
That's what I'm saying. I think it's like right now,
it's such a blessing just to even still have a job.
So it's I think a lot of people have to
get creative right now.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
But what as we try harder and harder. Like the
first couple months that we quote unquote cut back, it
felt like a cutback. It doesn't feel like that anymore.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
And I think, norm I feel like our credit card
bill has gotten less. I have less of a heart
attack when I see it.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Yeah, we're doing much better.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
So that's why gave us a B because wow, it's
much It's much different now than it was, I would say,
and just.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
A little peak behind the curtain. I felt like I
was the one who was most critical about our credit
card purchases over the past few years, so I would
have started at a D. Now we're to C plus
because we can always be better.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Well, you know what C plus is almost a B,
so I feel like we're pretty close on that one there,
All right, language arts communication? What is your grade for
our marriage report card?
Speaker 1 (19:38):
I feel like it's an A. I feel like you
make me talk and I feel like I over how.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
Long have we been married, thirteen years?
Speaker 1 (19:50):
I feel like I've gotten so much better at that.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
Yeah, oh I.
Speaker 3 (19:54):
Agree, excuse me, Yes, you sometimes really loud. All you
want to do is be with friends, don't hurt me.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
That's that's Scot thirteen years ago. And now you're like,
I just don't want to hang out with your friends
all the time. But I like you know me, I
like direct communication. I don't want to sit and guess
how you're thinking or feeling.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
You are super direct and that was hard to get
used to.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Because you're a words of affirmation person and that's the
bottom of my lovely affirmation person.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Sappy and yeah, and that's You've gotten a little better
at that. But I've come to accept that you're not
a words of safformation And because you cut me down
with words doesn't mean that you don't love me.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
So do I cut you down with words?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Yes? You do? You know you do? Anybody anyone listening
to this is like, yeah, oh no, I know Kyle
Well is the sweet, innocent, lovely one radio, but we
all know who she is. I you don't take it.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
I love fiercely, but I also will not be walked
all over by anyone. Yeah, I think the things that
you think are sharp in my mind exactly are.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Not, see exactly, that's it right there, Like if, for instance,
I say, why do you say it like that? And
you're like, oh, you'll know when I'm mad when I
say it like this. Yeah, so your levels are different
than my levels. It's just and I've come to get
used to that.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
But I also try to lift you up as well.
Didn't you hear the beginning of this podcast, I was
telling you how great you were, right, Yeah, you don't acknowledge.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Thanks, that's great. Thanks.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
See. I think being married to me has made you
not a words of affirmation I don't I want to
take the test again.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
Yeah, I think it would be interesting.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Because I feel like you've changed.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
And maybe maybe you've.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
Just become I honestly think that I'm not a words
of affirmation person because growing up one of the youngest
of eight kids, you're not allowed really to be sensitive.
You're really not siblings. Siblings just kind of train you
to grow a little bit, a little bit thicker skin.
Not like I have no feelings, you know, obviously I do.
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But it's also I think a product of my environment.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Could also be that my shell was just hardened.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
That's why I'm saying, still.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
A sweet, tender little flower underneath that hardened shell that
you've tallused.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
You are, That's what I think. I think you're not
dead inside yet, but you have you have grown the shell. Okay,
I think we were doing great on communication. I think
we talk a lot, we talk through things and.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
Yeah, well you have a rule that we if we're
angry at each other, it has to be figured out
before bedtime, which is sometimes hard. You just want to
go to bed.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
I want to go to bed too all the time.
I want to go to bed right now. But look
at us communicating, communicating.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
But we really don't have those very often.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
No, I think it's rare. But I think when we do,
I do feel like we address it right away, which
is helpful because I think when you don't, it becomes.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Yeah, worse. But you also have these things where like
let's talk about, for instance, yesterday you were annoyed, you
were in one of your moods, because this happens every
time you schedule one of these. We're going to go
to Schneppe Farms, and we're going to meet friends, and
this is a whole big deal. It's going to be awesome.
And when things aren't off to a roaring start, you
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do that face and you get so mad and so
angry and so peeved at the world. Know that all
we got to do. And I've told the kids it's like,
just wade through the rough waters right now, it's going.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
To be okay, okay. Do you even know what happened
yesterday before we left? I do. We had a very
small window of time to be on time. And it's
one thing if it's just our family going to Schnef
to have a great night, there's no time like it
opened at noon. We could have gone any time of
the day, but we had told people we were going
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to be there, so now we're accountable. Now I would
like to be on time so that these people aren't
waiting for us, so to not be rude. And we
got home, and this is another reason why I feel
that I'm going to I'm going to put the petition
out to end homework at school. I just think it's
it leaves kids who are already tired and braindead from
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eight hours of class in a stressed situation to achieve
any anything else like family time is important. Kids should
be able to breathe a little bit after school and
not have to go do more school. I tell the
kids homework, I disagree with it, but if you're going
to try to look it through it with a silver lining,
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sometime I have home or I have homework every night
for work, So you're never really going to get away
from homework. That's always going to kind of be a thing.
And so there's that benefit of it. But other than that,
it's busy work. It's it's I'm not even gonna get
on that soapbox right now. We should end homework. Easton
was having an incredibly hard time with some homework. Had
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to melt down to the point where he was saying
he wanted to kill himself. Now, as mother, I hear
that from my eight year old son, and I'm devastated.
The fact that he's that frustrated over this, and the
fact that I was part of that frustration because I
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wanted to help him get it done so that we
could go have fun was terrible. It was horrible. That
was where the stress came from.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
Let me say something real quick, and I don't want
to diminish what he said, because that's very serious. But
he also says that to push your.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
Buttons doesn't matter. I don't want to hear any one
of my kids say that ever, ever, ever, ever.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
But he knows how to play.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
He's never said there how to work. He's never sat
upore that a new one. I don't know where that
came from. And so it was stressful because yes, I
have an incredibly tender heart when it comes to the kids.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
This is weird when he's crying. So I just talked
about how how much of a tender peach I am
because I'm a words of affirmation, But when it comes
to our kids and the way that we parent, we flip.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
We flip drastically.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Yeah. So my dad, he's the nicest person on the planet, really,
but as a dad, you knew exactly where the line
was and that was it. So he was a stern parent,
but he was extremely fair. And so I feel like
I'm a more, way more stern parent than you are,
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way more So It's it's kind of weird how you.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
Don't acknowledge gray areas. No I don't, but there's gray
areas in life, so you have to. Well, we've talked
about this before it's okay, it's good. We have a
good good cop, bad cop situation. And the stress did
not come from It came from the incredible time crunch
and this serious thing that happened, and so that that
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was that. But but I will not deny that sometimes
when we're trying to get ready for something, there is
stress that comes from me and it is projected. I
think the example of last night was that was different.
That was a different stress, Like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
It was just one of the many's it's it's always something, but.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
It just it's always something. Okay you know what changed
that to a bee talking it out? Change the communication
to a no, okay a now anyways, I do feel
I don't want to leave this. I do feel like
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Easton and I sort of talked through his stress and
he did end up having a really fun time, which
I was grateful for. And that's it. Like as our
kids get older, I know, like so I have two
bonus kids who are now they're adults. They're adults, they're
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in their twenties, and so I'm new at this. Like
as they grow older, I think the worries get bigger,
like the scale. It's not just like oh, you're going
to trip and skin your knee. It's like, Wow, my
eight year old just said something horrifying, and I don't
like that. But I guess we're all growing. As I'm
(28:56):
growing as a parent, they're growing as kids. So we'll
get through it together, right yep? Okay, So the last
subject on our marital report card is PE. Yeah, now
where do we want to take this? Because I would
go physical education and I would give myself an F
because I haven't worked out in about five years maybe ten.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
No, that's not I know what.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
You are thinking.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
This is this is the love you.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Were thinking, it's the physic I okay, I give ourselves
an A. You're you're gonna give us a D because
you always want you.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
When I want, I want more PE class. I wish
PE class which on the schedule, or I give us
a B? A B? Yeah okay, but I feel, man,
we could go really deep into this, like how personal
do you want to give? You have to go super personal?
(30:01):
But so I feel bad because sometimes I feel like
it's PE class is just for me. In fact, you
feel that a lot, and I feel bad about that
because I want you to be excited for PE class too,
(30:25):
and I think that's the that's the plus and minus
of scheduling PE class. If it's not on the schedule,
sometimes it doesn't happen. Right, that's real life.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
That's real life. I think people go months and years
a long time. I have I have friends that it's
I mean, because you just get busy and life happens.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
But if it's a if it's a planned schedule, then
sometimes it feels less.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
It's not spontaneous at all, So it takes a little
bit of the excitement out of it. Although that would
be looking at it all wrong because the excitement is
the lead up.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
Well, sure, I play games with myself all the time,
like PE class is coming. It's like she can't she
can't handle not coming to PE class. And guess what
here she comes for PE class.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
There.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
I am so p I just the only reason I
give us a B is because I want more PE class.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
Right, I know, I was expecting a lower grade because
of the more.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
Heck no, I'm when I'm at PE class, I'm very
happy with PG class. I mean, look at you, Damn
look at you. I'm a lucky dude. So PE class
is my favorite class.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Okay, well, I too feel very lucky to have you.
So look at us. We're so cute. So we just
we just have some areas of improvement on our report card.
But I think that that is good because, yeah, it's
a I think if we thought we were perfect, we
would be delusional, totally. Okay. I feel like that's a
really good podcast, unless you want to deep dive into
(32:11):
something else. Okay, Well, thank you so much for joining
our couples Man podcast. What I didn't are you kidding me?
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Record?
Speaker 2 (32:20):
You did? You don't make mistakes like that. You're Scottish.
Speaker 1 (32:24):
I did hit record.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
You're Scott Fisher. I knew you would. I wasn't even
scared for a second. You're too good at what you do.
Ham Okay, I have a great day. Thanks for joining us.
Birthday by the way, Oh yeah, thanks, My birthday was yesterday. Well,
my birthday is tomorrow because we're actually recording this on Friday.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
Here's a question about PE class. If PE class falls
on your birthday. You know there's such a thing as
birthday PE class.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Yeah, there is, But I.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
Feel like if PE class falls on your birthday, you
would be like, it's my birthday. I do whatever I want,
which is no pe class.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Who said, whatever I want is no pe class. This
girl likes pe class too, Okay, okay, right, all right, okay,
thanks for joining us, Have a great day until next time.
Broadcasting live across the world right now.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
This is the.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
John Jay and Rich radio program.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Welcome to another edition of the John Jay and Ridge
Couples podcast. What you'll be hearing today is Kyle and Fish,
good old Fish and Kyle back at it again, back
at it again with the White Fans. So if you
listened to the show this week, you may have heard
a topic come up where I said that I saw
(00:31):
a whole new side of Scott and it was invigorating
and inspiring and just just beautiful. And there were some
questions asked about you, hun that I couldn't answer, and
I said, you know what, I think that is a
great opportunity to dive a little deeper into that in
(00:51):
the podcast. And what I saw in you was when
Wednesday night you helped coach ADDIE's flag football team, and
I said, I have never seen you in that way,
(01:12):
And it was so cool because you were engaging the girls,
You were having fun with them, they were kicking butt
like they were doing a great job. And I think
it's because they maybe had the right motivation from you.
And I've always kind of it's not like it's been
a dream of mine or anything like that to have
you coach the kids' teams? It's a cool thought like.
(01:35):
It's a cool like because I think, as a kid,
it would be kind of cool to have your parents
coached a team. And so I think about the experience
of Addie and Easton and their childhoods, and it's our
job to sort of shape them. And there you were,
you were doing it, and I didn't understand why you've
(01:56):
always said you would never coach a team. I mean,
our kids have been on how many team playing teams,
football teams, baseball teams. I mean, obviously you wouldn't coach dance.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
But like you, is that your dream too?
Speaker 2 (02:09):
No? There has always been the question that you fill
out when you're filling out the form for the team,
are you or willing to coach? And I've always been like,
you should coach a team, and your answer was absolute no.
And when I saw you actually coaching the team and
doing such an amazing job, I wondered to myself, why why?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Yeah, why I was doing an amazing job.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
I feel like you're you've been God has gifted you
this talent and it's going to waste and I saw
a little glimmer of it and I just sort of
feel like, man, it was like the tip of an iceberg.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Well, sorry that I haven't lived up to being the
man you want me to be until that.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
No, we don't need to go Okay, we're gonna be.
We're gonna the victim. I was trying to give you
a compliment. It was great to see you in that way.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Well, it's pretty easy. It's pretty easy answer, because I
think it's important for our children to be able to learn,
take direction, and understand adversity from someone other than their parent,
(03:26):
which is the person who's doing it all the time anyways.
So I think it's good for their growth and for
them to be able to flap their little wings and
fly by learning and seeing another adult as a figure
of authority or teaching or so on and so forth.
(03:49):
If it's just me, you're a whole little thing of
be so fun. If my dad was my football coach,
well guess what, I'm already their life coach.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Bam, wow, my drop. I think we should stop the
podcast right here.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Okay, one, see you next.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
That's a great point. I get that, and I agree
it is important for them to have different sets of
authority and influence, but it's not like I'm asking you
to coach every single one of their teams all the
time better once in a while.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Wouldn't it be wouldn't I be in a better light
if I came in and was the hero every once
in a while and they had a better taste after
I left, instead of me trying to be the hero
every week or every game. I think it's better. It's
like Dad was really fun at football tonight and I
(04:49):
really enjoyed that, instead of me trying to be fun
at football every night.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
I think it's fun all the time. Who wants to
be fun all the time? Do that? Yeah? I mean,
did it hurt you even just a little bit when
you when Addie asked you are you going to coach again?
And you said no? And she goes, oh, she was disappointed.
She did I don't remember that, and I quote it.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Was this, oh blocked out.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
I put it all into the well now that I've
put that in your brain, and she had so much
fun she wanted you to coach again. Doesn't put a
little dagger right there goes life.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Coach again. Sometimes we don't always get what we want. Kid,
Damn bam, see you next month. Folks, enjoy the show.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
So that's that's you. That's you. Okay, well, thank you
for carrying that up.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
I really I also think that it's tough being a
coach of eleven year olds and eight year olds because
the parents are never satisfied. I e myself at what
the coaches are doing. So I had a great time
with the kids Wednesday night, and we had fun running
(06:08):
around and laughed and stuff. But were we like getting
better at football now?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
No?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Yes, And here's why. Right now, at eleven years old,
is the time where kids should be fostering the love
of the game and of course the basics. But you're
not really I mean unless you're like already in the
club and you've been playing since five years old. This
(06:36):
is a rec league, and it's like it's supposed to
be fun and they're supposed to learn a little bit too.
So I kind of feel like, yeah, I mean, right now,
I'd rather her have a great time and learn a
little bit of football along the way and create and
foster a love of it. And that's when you get
the kids that when they're in high school, they have
(06:59):
a discipline for the game because they've already fostered a
love for it.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Okay, Well that's one parent's opinion, because I know another
parent who wants them to learn the exes and oh no,
that wants them to run to space, that wants them
to have misdirection in the plays, that wants them to
perfect their timing at eleven years old. You can't please everyone. Bam.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Oh my gosh, stop with the bam bam, No more bam. Uh. Yeah,
you're right, No, you can't please everyone. And I think
when you're in that position, so you don't want the
pressure of being the coach, the pressure, the parental pressure.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
I appreciate the coaches that do it because that's, you know,
that's a commitment and there's time spent, and it's away
from work, it's away from family, and so I respect that,
and I just I just think it's more important for
(08:04):
our kids to learn from someone else for a little
chunk of time in their little, tiny lives.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
They learn from someone else every day for a big
chunk of their day, pretty much the entire day. It's
called school.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
But yes, yeah, but this is another slice of life.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
I need you to be honest. I have a question.
Was there a little bit of you, just a teeny
bit and I won't bring this back and try to
convince you to be the coach, but I need you
to be honest. Teeny bit of you at all, whilst
you were coaching, think to yourself, I could do this.
I could probably do a better job than some of
the other coaches we've had in the past, because I
(08:39):
like our coaches right now. But teeny bit of you
have that thought run through your mind, like, never think
that I.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Could do a better job. But I know I could
do it. I know I could do it.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
You just don't want it.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I just don't think it's I would much rather go
in there for one night helping out, have fun, have
some laughs.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Step beside, step back, Okay, Okay, I appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Is that good enough for you?
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Do you think that our kids there?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Let me ask you a question, are there other areas
in my life that I could possibly live up to
what you want me to be?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
I feel like in all areas of your life you
exceed expectations. Actually, that's kind of funny.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Have gone.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Okay, So we just got the kids report cards, right
we did agreement. Let's create our marriage report card right now. Okay,
So in all the subjects, was first we have to
create the subjects. What are the subjects of the marriage
(09:43):
report card?
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Do we just go mathematics?
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Love languages? Oh so, like mathematics would be like our budget.
I don't know, I like it got over this equals budget?
Uh let's say language arts equals our communication?
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Okay? What other subjects are? Social studies? What would social
study pe P? You can fill in the blank, but
you think there what would social studies be? In science?
Speaker 1 (10:21):
In social studies would be how we involve like other
people outside of our lives, like friendship and.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Oh okay, like okay, social literally social social stuff. And
then science maybe I don't dinner dinner, dinner, love to
get love that? Okay? What other what other topics are there? Okay?
So we have PE, language, arts, math, social studies, and science.
(10:51):
The basics. We're not going extracurricular here right now, just
the basics. Okay, all right, So you have to verbally
give your marriage report card to me and I you okay?
And you know how like on the report card they
(11:12):
have outstanding satisfactory pleasure to have in class or like
what are the other ones challenging to have in class?
Does not respect authority?
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Like right, yeah, all.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Right, So should we go tit for tat so we
go down or do you want to give me your
entire report card and then I give you my entire
report card or we go social studies? Your grade grade?
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Yeah? Grades?
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Okay, so we'll start with science, which you said was dinner.
We all know. I feel like I've been very open
about this on the show and maybe even here on
the Couple's podcast that I don't know what invisible contract
we signed where I just became the dinner planner, creator
(12:02):
and organizer as part.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
Of your grade you're giving right here because.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
But no, I'm setting it up, but I have that's
my job in the household. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
That's not a contract. It just makes sense because your
work day ends what very early in the day.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
It varies. You're blessed veries from day to day. I
also wake up very early.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
You have signed an invisible contract with me that when
five o'clock comes around, I just have to drop everything.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
That was an invisible contract. That was a verbal contract
where I said you need to come home.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
So back to my point, it just makes sense that
if most days I'm still working at five o'clock, and
because of your job. We go to bed early. Someone
has to do dinner. Okay, grade, I give you, I
give you an A A. Yeah right, no, I do.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Okay, I am the worst cook. I know. I like
a menu of five things and they're not even done well.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
But look who you're talking to. I have eaten the
same thing at lunch for probably four months in a row,
turkey sandwich and almonds every single day.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
I know, an you know he's not even exaggerating it
literally is every single day.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
I am just fine eating the same thing every weeknight.
And you do a great job. Hey, well done.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
I think, I actually think this is one reason why
I love you is that you are not a foodie
and you have a very simple palette. You don't need
a whole lot, because if you did, you probably would
give me an F right there, which is probably what
I actually deserve in the dinner department. Okay, your grade
(13:53):
would be an A because you eat everything.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
I cook, and I make burgers one night a week
and one night order properly.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Yeah, Welle, night and week you do burgers, and it
usually ends up being on the night where I'm so tired.
I can't I just can't. I can't do dinner that night,
and you swoop in and you're like burgers tonight.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
So we're off time A great start. Okay, good.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
So now we move on to social studies, our interaction
socially with friends and whatnot.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Ye you want me to go first. You're very friendly.
I am not very friendly, So I give you a
for effort. But if we're if the grade coming from
my perspective, it's gotten better, it's gotten better. So I
(14:47):
would say it to be okay because I can. My
choice of using free time is to not use social studies,
so I've had to get used to that. And we've
spent a lot of time with friends lately and I
(15:08):
have grown to enjoy that. So that's that's where the
beat comes from.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Okay, that's great.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
But do we have to all the time?
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Okay, So that's where my grade comes in. Okay. My
grade for you on this with love is a c.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
CS get degree.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
And partially because I understand like not wanting to do things,
because we all get that every once in a while,
like the social battery is just dead and you don't
want to And I understand that our social batteries have
a different life. Mine drains a little slower than yours does.
(15:51):
But I have so much fun being with people, and
you're so fun once you have a couple of cocktails
and we're all hanging out and really funny, and people
get to see that and that's great.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
And so what if I coached with a couple cocktails.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Oh my god, No, that would be bad. You're not
gonna do You're not gonna go there. You didn't need it,
that's the thing. You didn't even need it, And that,
like spark came out in you. We've already passed that.
You don't have to be a coach. So see, just
because I would love to hang out with people more,
but you don't.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
So there, that's just that's just the way it is.
And there's been growth. You have to acknowledge I've grown
this semester.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
I also feel like you have to acknowledge I have
not planned as many things.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
It's hard hard to accept that because we just came
off of something just mere hours ago.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
But before that, it had been a little while before that,
no schedule, okay, no, before that. Before that, it was
like a month since we hung out with our friends.
That was a long time. It was a long break.
You've got a long break. Guess what Europe. It is
the holidays, so there's gonna be a lot of things. Okay.
(17:10):
I think our grades are an indication of our compromise
to make each other happy.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
So I would normally be a D, but I'm a C.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
You're a C for compromise. Okay, Okay, math equals budget.
We are in the middle of our marriage report card
with each other.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
And I give us a C.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Plus C plus on budget. You know what, I disagree,
I'm giving us a B right now. Without getting into specifics,
I have to say I'm proud of us because we've
had some I wouldn't call them financial challenges, although I
will call them financial challenges because that's technically what they are.
(17:54):
We've had financial challenges over the last year, and I
feel like we have risen to the occasion.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Yeah. Well, I think everybody can relate, like when you
get your credit card bill at the end of the
month and you're like, what what did we spend all
of this money on?
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Right?
Speaker 1 (18:13):
So we've gotten so much better at that, and.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
I think everyone can relate, like, right now, everything costs
so much more and I don't know, I don't know
anybody that's getting raises right now at.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
Work, continued employment, you're raised.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
That's what I'm saying. I think it's like right now,
it's such a blessing just to even still have a job.
So it's I think a lot of people have to
get creative right now.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
But what as we try harder and harder. Like the
first couple months that we quote unquote cut back, it
felt like a cutback. It doesn't feel like that anymore.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
And I think, norm I feel like our credit card
bill has gotten less. I have less of a heart
attack when I see it.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Yeah, we're doing much better.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
So that's why gave us a B because wow, it's
much It's much different now than it was, I would say,
and just.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
A little peak behind the curtain. I felt like I
was the one who was most critical about our credit
card purchases over the past few years, so I would
have started at a D. Now we're to C plus
because we can always be better.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Well, you know what C plus is almost a B,
so I feel like we're pretty close on that one there,
All right, language arts communication? What is your grade for
our marriage report card?
Speaker 1 (19:38):
I feel like it's an A. I feel like you
make me talk and I feel like I over how.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
Long have we been married, thirteen years?
Speaker 1 (19:50):
I feel like I've gotten so much better at that.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
Yeah, oh I.
Speaker 3 (19:54):
Agree, excuse me, Yes, you sometimes really loud. All you
want to do is be with friends, don't hurt me.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
That's that's Scot thirteen years ago. And now you're like,
I just don't want to hang out with your friends
all the time. But I like you know me, I
like direct communication. I don't want to sit and guess
how you're thinking or feeling.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
You are super direct and that was hard to get
used to.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Because you're a words of affirmation person and that's the
bottom of my lovely affirmation person.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Sappy and yeah, and that's You've gotten a little better
at that. But I've come to accept that you're not
a words of safformation And because you cut me down
with words doesn't mean that you don't love me.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
So do I cut you down with words?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Yes? You do? You know you do? Anybody anyone listening
to this is like, yeah, oh no, I know Kyle
Well is the sweet, innocent, lovely one radio, but we
all know who she is. I you don't take it.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
I love fiercely, but I also will not be walked
all over by anyone. Yeah, I think the things that
you think are sharp in my mind exactly are.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Not, see exactly, that's it right there, Like if, for instance,
I say, why do you say it like that? And
you're like, oh, you'll know when I'm mad when I
say it like this. Yeah, so your levels are different
than my levels. It's just and I've come to get
used to that.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
But I also try to lift you up as well.
Didn't you hear the beginning of this podcast, I was
telling you how great you were, right, Yeah, you don't acknowledge.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Thanks, that's great. Thanks.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
See. I think being married to me has made you
not a words of affirmation I don't I want to
take the test again.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
Yeah, I think it would be interesting.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Because I feel like you've changed.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
And maybe maybe you've.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
Just become I honestly think that I'm not a words
of affirmation person because growing up one of the youngest
of eight kids, you're not allowed really to be sensitive.
You're really not siblings. Siblings just kind of train you
to grow a little bit, a little bit thicker skin.
Not like I have no feelings, you know, obviously I do.
(22:26):
But it's also I think a product of my environment.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Could also be that my shell was just hardened.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
That's why I'm saying, still.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
A sweet, tender little flower underneath that hardened shell that
you've tallused.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
You are, That's what I think. I think you're not
dead inside yet, but you have you have grown the shell. Okay,
I think we were doing great on communication. I think
we talk a lot, we talk through things and.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
Yeah, well you have a rule that we if we're
angry at each other, it has to be figured out
before bedtime, which is sometimes hard. You just want to
go to bed.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
I want to go to bed too all the time.
I want to go to bed right now. But look
at us communicating, communicating.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
But we really don't have those very often.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
No, I think it's rare. But I think when we do,
I do feel like we address it right away, which
is helpful because I think when you don't, it becomes.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Yeah, worse. But you also have these things where like
let's talk about, for instance, yesterday you were annoyed, you
were in one of your moods, because this happens every
time you schedule one of these. We're going to go
to Schneppe Farms, and we're going to meet friends, and
this is a whole big deal. It's going to be awesome.
And when things aren't off to a roaring start, you
(23:44):
do that face and you get so mad and so
angry and so peeved at the world. Know that all
we got to do. And I've told the kids it's like,
just wade through the rough waters right now, it's going.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
To be okay, okay. Do you even know what happened
yesterday before we left? I do. We had a very
small window of time to be on time. And it's
one thing if it's just our family going to Schnef
to have a great night, there's no time like it
opened at noon. We could have gone any time of
the day, but we had told people we were going
(24:19):
to be there, so now we're accountable. Now I would
like to be on time so that these people aren't
waiting for us, so to not be rude. And we
got home, and this is another reason why I feel
that I'm going to I'm going to put the petition
out to end homework at school. I just think it's
it leaves kids who are already tired and braindead from
(24:42):
eight hours of class in a stressed situation to achieve
any anything else like family time is important. Kids should
be able to breathe a little bit after school and
not have to go do more school. I tell the
kids homework, I disagree with it, but if you're going
to try to look it through it with a silver lining,
(25:04):
sometime I have home or I have homework every night
for work, So you're never really going to get away
from homework. That's always going to kind of be a thing.
And so there's that benefit of it. But other than that,
it's busy work. It's it's I'm not even gonna get
on that soapbox right now. We should end homework. Easton
was having an incredibly hard time with some homework. Had
(25:27):
to melt down to the point where he was saying
he wanted to kill himself. Now, as mother, I hear
that from my eight year old son, and I'm devastated.
The fact that he's that frustrated over this, and the
fact that I was part of that frustration because I
(25:49):
wanted to help him get it done so that we
could go have fun was terrible. It was horrible. That
was where the stress came from.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
Let me say something real quick, and I don't want
to diminish what he said, because that's very serious. But
he also says that to push your.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
Buttons doesn't matter. I don't want to hear any one
of my kids say that ever, ever, ever, ever.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
But he knows how to play.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
He's never said there how to work. He's never sat
upore that a new one. I don't know where that
came from. And so it was stressful because yes, I
have an incredibly tender heart when it comes to the kids.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
This is weird when he's crying. So I just talked
about how how much of a tender peach I am
because I'm a words of affirmation, But when it comes
to our kids and the way that we parent, we flip.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
We flip drastically.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Yeah. So my dad, he's the nicest person on the planet, really,
but as a dad, you knew exactly where the line
was and that was it. So he was a stern parent,
but he was extremely fair. And so I feel like
I'm a more, way more stern parent than you are,
(27:05):
way more So It's it's kind of weird how you.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
Don't acknowledge gray areas. No I don't, but there's gray
areas in life, so you have to. Well, we've talked
about this before it's okay, it's good. We have a
good good cop, bad cop situation. And the stress did
not come from It came from the incredible time crunch
and this serious thing that happened, and so that that
(27:33):
was that. But but I will not deny that sometimes
when we're trying to get ready for something, there is
stress that comes from me and it is projected. I
think the example of last night was that was different.
That was a different stress, Like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
It was just one of the many's it's it's always something, but.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
It just it's always something. Okay you know what changed
that to a bee talking it out? Change the communication
to a no, okay a now anyways, I do feel
I don't want to leave this. I do feel like
(28:13):
Easton and I sort of talked through his stress and
he did end up having a really fun time, which
I was grateful for. And that's it. Like as our
kids get older, I know, like so I have two
bonus kids who are now they're adults. They're adults, they're
(28:35):
in their twenties, and so I'm new at this. Like
as they grow older, I think the worries get bigger,
like the scale. It's not just like oh, you're going
to trip and skin your knee. It's like, Wow, my
eight year old just said something horrifying, and I don't
like that. But I guess we're all growing. As I'm
(28:56):
growing as a parent, they're growing as kids. So we'll
get through it together, right yep? Okay, So the last
subject on our marital report card is PE. Yeah, now
where do we want to take this? Because I would
go physical education and I would give myself an F
because I haven't worked out in about five years maybe ten.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
No, that's not I know what.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
You are thinking.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
This is this is the love you.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Were thinking, it's the physic I okay, I give ourselves
an A. You're you're gonna give us a D because
you always want you.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
When I want, I want more PE class. I wish
PE class which on the schedule, or I give us
a B? A B? Yeah okay, but I feel, man,
we could go really deep into this, like how personal
do you want to give? You have to go super personal?
(30:01):
But so I feel bad because sometimes I feel like
it's PE class is just for me. In fact, you
feel that a lot, and I feel bad about that
because I want you to be excited for PE class too,
(30:25):
and I think that's the that's the plus and minus
of scheduling PE class. If it's not on the schedule,
sometimes it doesn't happen. Right, that's real life.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
That's real life. I think people go months and years
a long time. I have I have friends that it's
I mean, because you just get busy and life happens.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
But if it's a if it's a planned schedule, then
sometimes it feels less.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
It's not spontaneous at all, So it takes a little
bit of the excitement out of it. Although that would
be looking at it all wrong because the excitement is
the lead up.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
Well, sure, I play games with myself all the time,
like PE class is coming. It's like she can't she
can't handle not coming to PE class. And guess what
here she comes for PE class.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
There.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
I am so p I just the only reason I
give us a B is because I want more PE class.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
Right, I know, I was expecting a lower grade because
of the more.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
Heck no, I'm when I'm at PE class, I'm very
happy with PG class. I mean, look at you, Damn
look at you. I'm a lucky dude. So PE class
is my favorite class.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Okay, well, I too feel very lucky to have you.
So look at us. We're so cute. So we just
we just have some areas of improvement on our report card.
But I think that that is good because, yeah, it's
a I think if we thought we were perfect, we
would be delusional, totally. Okay. I feel like that's a
really good podcast, unless you want to deep dive into
(32:11):
something else. Okay, Well, thank you so much for joining
our couples Man podcast. What I didn't are you kidding me?
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Record?
Speaker 2 (32:20):
You did? You don't make mistakes like that. You're Scottish.
Speaker 1 (32:24):
I did hit record.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
You're Scott Fisher. I knew you would. I wasn't even
scared for a second. You're too good at what you do.
Ham Okay, I have a great day. Thanks for joining us.
Birthday by the way, Oh yeah, thanks, My birthday was yesterday. Well,
my birthday is tomorrow because we're actually recording this on Friday.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
Here's a question about PE class. If PE class falls
on your birthday. You know there's such a thing as
birthday PE class.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Yeah, there is, But I.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
Feel like if PE class falls on your birthday, you
would be like, it's my birthday. I do whatever I want,
which is no pe class.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Who said, whatever I want is no pe class. This
girl likes pe class too, Okay, okay, right, all right, okay,
thanks for joining us, Have a great day until next time.
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