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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's Tuesday. That means we're solving a mystery. On second
Ate Update, we got Taya on the line. Taya, give
us a little taste of your situation.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
Yeah, so I ended up cooking up with my date
and it's been a month. I have not heard from him,
no text, no calls.

Speaker 3 (00:15):
All right, let's do it. Second Ate Update starts next
with John Jay and Rich.

Speaker 2 (00:21):
I just woke up from jams.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
It was supposed to be the start of a beautiful relationship,
but somebody screwed it all up.

Speaker 3 (00:34):
Second Date Update right now with John Jay and Rich.

Speaker 1 (00:36):
John Jay, Rich, Time for second Update, Sa Taya, Taya,
thanks for holding what's going on?

Speaker 3 (00:40):
What's your story?

Speaker 2 (00:41):
So my story is, let's see my gate that I
went on that you know, I actually enjoyed, which doesn't
happen too often. It was like the perfect setting, right, Like,
I'm just really into sports, so I was happy that
he wanted to meet up and go to this like
local sports bar that I hang out a lot, and yeah,

(01:02):
so that was made me feel like relaxed. But not
only that, like the vibe was just really good. You know,
I felt like this guy, Cameron, he's just like super
funny kind of kept me on my toes that sort
of thing. And I like the way that I felt
being around him, Like I was kind of thinking, oh,
you know, this guy can have a good time, be
fun to hang out with again, that sort of thing,

(01:25):
And you know, we ended up hooking up that night.
It went in that direction, and that went well. I
thought there was the connection that should be there, Like,
you know, I just didn't think this was only going
to be a one time thing at all. But unfortunately,
it's been oh gosh, almost four weeks now and I

(01:45):
haven't heard anything from him at all. So I figure
that four weeks has gone by, think he's so alive.
I think he's just ghosting.

Speaker 4 (01:54):
Me, you know.

Speaker 2 (01:55):
So I just wanted to know, like what did I miss?
What happened here?

Speaker 5 (02:00):
Yeah, that's that's kind of a mystery. If it was
like a successful hook up, That's what I'm.

Speaker 6 (02:04):
Saying, Like, that's such a bummer. It's like you give
yourself up to somebody and then they don't hit you back,
Like that is so lame.

Speaker 7 (02:10):
And maybe he had a girlfriend and they were on
a break or something and then got back together. Then
it really wasn't like anything that happened during your date
or with the situation. He may have really enjoyed it,
and may have really enjoyed you and just was had
feelings that were unresolved with someone else. I don't know.

Speaker 2 (02:28):
Oh yeah, I mean that sucks too, but just it's
a whole just no text, no call, right, Yeah, well.

Speaker 3 (02:34):
I think it also depends on the level of intimacy.
Did you go all the way with him?

Speaker 8 (02:38):
All the way we did?

Speaker 3 (02:40):
Yeah, That's what I'm saying, you know, but in a
different direction.

Speaker 6 (02:46):
Yeah, teo, what was that conversation like when you guys
were done, did he stay the night or like did
you stay the night? Was there like hey, I'll hit
you up later, I'll talk to you later, or was
it just like okay bye.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
I thought it was gonna go to in that direction
of me spending the night, but I did have like
you had to get up early for work, so we
ends up like just ubering me back to my place.

Speaker 3 (03:10):
Okay. He says his name is Cameron.

Speaker 4 (03:11):
We got his number, we'll call him. Okay, all right,
all right, so hang on, we'll get him on the phone.
Give us a break, give us a second. We have
with the information you have all the information.

Speaker 3 (03:22):
Yeah, okay, all right.

Speaker 1 (03:23):
Second date update continues next with John Jay and Richard
need a chick, him.

Speaker 5 (03:26):
On a chick, trying to found the one that can
fix me.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
One four seven kiss f John Jay Richard the middle.
Second day update, You got Taya on the line. How'd
you guys meet? How'd you meet? Cameron Tya?

Speaker 2 (03:39):
Actually there were a friends of a friend, the sort
of thing, so not a dating app, which was great.

Speaker 1 (03:44):
Okay, through a friend of a friend and you hit
it off. He thought it was great. In fact, you
even spent the night like you slept with him. That
so you did spend the whole night, but you slept
with them. You got intimate, like you know, there was nuduty,
there was all that good stuff. And then it's been
four weeks and in the four weeks you've reached out
to him.

Speaker 3 (03:58):
How many times?

Speaker 2 (04:00):
I reached out him? Twice because I didn't want to look,
you know, crazy. After that point, I would have more,
but yeah, I felt a little self conscious about it.

Speaker 3 (04:09):
You know, I kind of had the same thing on
a friend level.

Speaker 1 (04:12):
I went out to lunch with a new friend last
week and I've texted him twice and he hasn't responded.

Speaker 5 (04:17):
Oh that's sad, and I'm.

Speaker 3 (04:17):
Kind of like, well gifts, Yeah, yeah, we.

Speaker 5 (04:20):
Can to a second lunch date update with you.

Speaker 3 (04:24):
I thought me good lunch order.

Speaker 1 (04:27):
It was good, delicious, you know, I lunch with this guy,
great guy. We both had a salad with salmon on it.
I ate my all my salad, all my salmon. He
took one bite, thought it was delicious, and he didn't
eat the rest of it.

Speaker 3 (04:39):
Did you kill his play? I wanted to, but I
thought it was too simple.

Speaker 8 (04:42):
Yeah.

Speaker 6 (04:42):
I think if you were to be like, can I
have your food, he would really not ever tech out.

Speaker 3 (04:46):
That's the friend level of sleep. It would probably be.

Speaker 7 (04:49):
Like I went to lunch with John Jay and he
ordered an appetizer from for the table and didn't share
with anything.

Speaker 1 (04:56):
Let's call Cameron and see why he's ghosting you.

Speaker 3 (04:59):
Hold off?

Speaker 6 (05:10):
Hello, Hi is Cameron there?

Speaker 2 (05:14):
Yeah?

Speaker 8 (05:14):
Yeah, this is this is Cameron.

Speaker 2 (05:16):
Hi.

Speaker 6 (05:17):
My name's Peyton. I'm with John Jay and Rich and
we just wanted to talk to you on the radio
really quickly if you have time.

Speaker 8 (05:22):
Oh yeah, yeah, sure, what's up?

Speaker 1 (05:25):
Well, the deal is you kind of you went on
a date with a friend of ours, and you're ghosting here,
and we wanted to know why, so we just thought
we'd kind of call you if you don't mind.

Speaker 8 (05:37):
Ah, okay, yeah, sure, what's up?

Speaker 6 (05:43):
Who is it?

Speaker 3 (05:44):
Taya? Taya?

Speaker 8 (05:48):
Okay?

Speaker 1 (05:50):
Man.

Speaker 8 (05:51):
Look, I don't know if ghosting was the best way
to kind of do it or even I mean, I
guess I ghosted, but I honestly I didn't know how
to handle it without sounding like a jerk.

Speaker 3 (06:03):
Does that? Does that make sense? Depends? Why are you
going her?

Speaker 8 (06:07):
Well? Okay, yeah, so she she was like super cool
and we had it. We had a great date. The
date was fun.

Speaker 3 (06:16):
It was high.

Speaker 8 (06:17):
Energy, and I mean, yeah, we hooked up at the end.
But like the thing was, she was just way and
I mean like way more into sports than I was.
That I am period, like diehard fan, screaming at the TV,
quoting stats, talking about the history just and I'm I

(06:42):
was honestly a little embarrassing. I was sitting there feeling
like I was the girl on the date, and I'm like,
I'm just being real. I I she was super cool,
but like I want a girly girl, you know, someone
who there was a brunch and you know, loves the
romcoms and uh, you does all the cute girly stuff

(07:02):
and it's not like outshot outshining me, and in sports
knowledge and uh and knows more about anything football than
I do and stuff like that, Like not that I'm
super into sports in the first place, but it was
just like I said, I felt intimidated.

Speaker 3 (07:19):
I guess I.

Speaker 5 (07:19):
Wonder why you you go and hook it up then
if you don't think it's going to be the one
for you. He's a man rich Yeah, well, man, I.

Speaker 8 (07:35):
Was feeling it, but uh, just after the fact, I
kind of tand it and and dipped.

Speaker 3 (07:41):
I thought you meant like while you were doing it, so.

Speaker 2 (07:43):
I had to jump in.

Speaker 3 (07:44):
I don't mean to jump in jump in before.

Speaker 4 (07:46):
I I'll tell you my little my theory later, but
go ahead, jump in what happened?

Speaker 2 (07:49):
Okay, Okay, I'm just sitting here flabbergausted because I never
you know, there's all kinds of things. Maybe somebody could
go before, but I for my love of sports, Like
that's why I have not heard me because I like
sports too much. Is that what you're telling me?

Speaker 3 (08:06):
Hey?

Speaker 8 (08:07):
Is that you Yeah? It's me My gosh. I didn't
mean to like that, like I just it was No,
you were.

Speaker 2 (08:17):
Very very clear on what you said, so I'll stop
you right there. You I think you said it a
couple of times that you want some type of girly
girl maybe who like just wants to you know, not
rock the boat or something like that. I don't know
if like it's like a nineteen fifty housewife doesn't have
opinions about whatever takes. If you, I'm not sure if

(08:38):
you have any takes, but that's what you said.

Speaker 8 (08:41):
No, I mean, it's it wasn't like about you having opinions.
It was just that like you it hard, like more
than any guy that I know, and it just kind
of made me feel.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
Okay, I know how it made me. It's clear how
it made you feel insecure, and I did. I'm not
gonna lie, I did pick up on that. But like
that's all well and good. But maybe next time, instead
of like ghosting someone, you could just grow a pair
and tell the person.

Speaker 3 (09:07):
I kind of agree with that.

Speaker 5 (09:08):
I mean, once you, once you get like that, it's like,
at least do the phone call and see if maybe
you can work out another date or see where it's going.

Speaker 3 (09:15):
Not just totally just I.

Speaker 1 (09:16):
Would think that he would not sleep with her though, like, well,
that would be like you already unless I was going
to say before she jumped in, was like unless she
was using the sports analogies while they were doing it
right right, like you know, whoa whoa time out, she's
like on top and she puts her fingers on.

Speaker 3 (09:30):
Her shoulders time out, time out, or.

Speaker 1 (09:32):
She's like, you know, oh yeah, Lebron's goat on the
goat you tearing it up?

Speaker 2 (09:37):
Wow?

Speaker 1 (09:37):
Wow?

Speaker 3 (09:37):
Right okay? Or how you like that? Nothing but net,
you weren't doing that right, taya.

Speaker 8 (09:44):
No, there's a time in a place for.

Speaker 3 (09:49):
I kind of love you though your head. That's what
I thought.

Speaker 8 (09:54):
I mean, look like I didn't know how else to
say it without sounding like an idiot, and like clearless
and clearly it's coming across that way.

Speaker 2 (10:04):
No, to put a sports reference in here. You couldn't
care it the ball we'll play that. You know, you
could have a really I think I'm a pretty cool
person who you know, knows the game. We could have
a good time with friends and stuff, but you fumbled.

Speaker 3 (10:19):
Literally, Yeah, I don't see the big deal.

Speaker 1 (10:23):
I think my wife watches a lot more sports than
mere sports.

Speaker 3 (10:26):
She does.

Speaker 1 (10:27):
I mean she loves there's certain sports you watch, certain
teams she watches, and I'm fine with it.

Speaker 7 (10:32):
You may just be more secure in your manhood or
not care about that. Because he was like that he
felt emasculated, but yeah he did.

Speaker 3 (10:38):
That's right. Yeah, you got to chill.

Speaker 6 (10:41):
I can see both sides. So obviously just not a match.

Speaker 3 (10:44):
I would rewind it, take.

Speaker 6 (10:47):
Time to watch the film.

Speaker 7 (10:48):
I would feel like most guys would appreciate and love
that that they don't have to sit there and explain
every part of the game, like watch the game with
your girl friend and maybe she can even teach you
something like that.

Speaker 2 (10:57):
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (10:58):
When I go to game, my wife would be like
that was a foul. Wasn't that a foul? I don't know.

Speaker 6 (11:04):
Because you're on your phone.

Speaker 1 (11:07):
Sorry, all right, So no second date then for you guys,
Cameron Tya, no, no, not for me.

Speaker 3 (11:14):
Okay, you don't want to do best out of seven.
He doesn't want to date us either, all right, all right, well,
thank you both for going there with us. That's second
and update with Jane Rich
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