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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Oliver sent me a DM and I was like, Oliver,
you asked that question on there. It's a lot to
answer on the DM. So what's your question, Oliver?

Speaker 2 (00:08):
Oh, yeah, good morning. I just was going through some
dating apps the other day, right, because that's the world
that we live in, and everybody likes to put fixtures
with their friends on their dating apps. And what seems
to happen is sometimes you'll match with somebody and'll be like,
I don't know if I can date this person because

(00:29):
I'm more attracted to their friends. So my question is,
on a scale of one to ten, you know, how
reasonable is it to shoot your shot at their friend
through a dating app?

Speaker 3 (00:42):
That's pretty wild because it's like you don't really have
any loyalty to that person yet, because it's not like
you've hung out with them, right and haven't made an
emotional connection yet.

Speaker 4 (00:52):
So I don't know.

Speaker 3 (00:53):
I mean, it's kind of messed up. But I kind
of also feel like maybe fair game.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
So you would send the DM or you send a
message going, hey, we're not right for each other, but
that blonde on the right, I mean, I.

Speaker 3 (01:04):
Don't think you go about it that way.

Speaker 1 (01:05):
How do you do it?

Speaker 2 (01:07):
Do it.

Speaker 3 (01:07):
I think you have to do recon and find out
who that person.

Speaker 4 (01:09):
You say, hey, tell me about what this picture is,
who are your friends? Who are you with? Like that
kind of thing, and then you can do a little
recon because that friend could be totally married. I feel
like that's messy to do it like that though, Like
you just have to do your own investigative work, get
on Instagram, Facebook.

Speaker 1 (01:23):
And figure it out, because if you try to say.

Speaker 4 (01:26):
Hey, oh, who are you with? What are they like?
Like that just makes you seem that much more shady
of a human. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:31):
No, it's gonna be messy no matter why. Because let's
say you do finally reach out to someone. Let's say
you do your own research, you find out who her
friend is, and you make a connection. You know her
friend is going to see you and go, oh my god,
I match with that guy.

Speaker 4 (01:47):
Oh yeah, So.

Speaker 1 (01:47):
On a scale of one to ten, you said, how
okay is it to shoot your shot at their friends
in their pictures? So what was on your mind when
you said that, like? Who, like, how would you do it?
And now that we gave you a couple of different examples.

Speaker 2 (01:59):
Oh man, I don't I don't even know I'm so.
I don't even know why we live in a culture
where people shoot their shot and d ms personally because.

Speaker 1 (02:07):
It works sometimes. Here's how I looked at it, like this,
when you ask you a question, I looked at it
like it's the new version. It's the digital version of
like you're out at the club and there's a you're
with a group of guys there with a group of girls,
and you like this one girl, but she doesn't like you,
she likes your friend. I mean, I think we've all
been in that situation. Or you like the friend and
you're so it's like, it's just the digital version us.
You got to figure out how to shoot your shot
in the classic way where I guess you don't look.

(02:29):
And also, if you're the person posting the picture with
your friends, don't post your hot friends.

Speaker 3 (02:36):
You should only post pictures of yourself.

Speaker 1 (02:38):
And all my pictures are usually me and rich, safe
and looking one right.

Speaker 4 (02:49):
The one thing you could do, Oliver, is if you
if you really start a relationship with this person, you
find out that the dating person is more of your friend. Anyway,
they might have a friend that they can hook you
up with. There's no there's no harm and having friends
that are of the opposite sex you know, and then
not have to turn in a relationship. So maybe if
you come in like that first, you might realize that

(03:09):
maybe you hooked up with them for the right reason,
maybe there is something between you and the dating app
person or not.

Speaker 1 (03:16):
Agree with that, well, good luck, Oliver said his pictures
of all these hot friends.

Speaker 2 (03:23):
I'll do my best, all right, brother, I have.

Speaker 1 (03:24):
A great day. Thank you for listening next to the
DM of course,