May 2, 2025 • 9 mins
It's finally been revealed... The big fight Johnjay got into with his wife, Blake! Who's side are you on???
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I don't tell anybody. John Jay and Rich gave me
their personal cell phone number. Where is my freaking phone?
Eight seven seven nine three seven one oh four seven.
It's John Jay and Ridge.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hi, Nikki, good morning.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
How are you so? You texted us? How can we
help you?
Speaker 2 (00:17):
I did well? I so I'm behind. I listened to
your podcast every day and I'm I don't know, probably
two three weeks behind. But I knew that you and
Blake had had this argument and you were going to
wait until you did the couples therapy to talk about
it and all of that. So I was excited, excited, excited,
waiting to listen to see how it got resolved, what happened,
(00:41):
and you two just started around the whole thing in.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
The Couple's podcast. We did, yes, we did.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
We we kind of talked about it, but you didn't
really like I didn't say what it was about. You didn't.
I was I was dying to find out what actually happened,
and you guys didn't really talk about it, and you said, well,
there's another there's another podcast that by, but at that point,
you guys, that will be old news.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
I don't think I've even told you guys, about the fight. No,
I could tell you that it ended, and it did end.
But at one point she was parked with her hands,
her face in her hands, crying. I know I have
never experienced that before, and I was like, good one, No,
I didn't do that.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Well, you said that if you told, if you presented it,
you felt like people would think that you were right?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Is what you said? Right? I would? I think. I
think if I tell you the argument and don't tell
you who's who, I think everyone will think I'm right.
But when I tell you who's who, everyone, most people
are probably gonna stid on blake because most people don't
enjoy me or my rightness.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Well, can you do that?
Speaker 1 (01:44):
No, it's too difficult, I think. I mean, I could try,
but I just think it'd be too difficult if I
was so. My wife when she goes to the airport,
she likes to get the airport warily, warily, like it
even stresses her out if she's not early enough. Do
you know what I mean? I go to the airport
most of the time as the door's closing, especially if
(02:05):
I have a seat on the plane. If it's southwest,
whole different ball game, right, But if I have a
seat on the plane. I'm not stressed about it. And
about a month ago, I was going to the airport.
Remember I was going to Atlanta, yep. And I had
it all And normally, if I'm going to go to
the airport and I'm gonna not leave my car here
and not drive to the airport, Rich picks me up
in the morning. And I had not conferred with Rich
(02:26):
about picking me up, so I just assumed I'm going
to drive to the airport after the show, and that's
what I was going to do. My flight was bording
at ten thirty. At ten ten, my wife calls me
and says, hey, I'm going to take it to the airport,
and I'm like my flight boards. You know, we're right
by the airport, and I'm like my flight boards in
(02:46):
ten minutes, like I want to be on that flight,
just don't take the airport like okay. And I'm like, well, okay,
so where are you thinking you're She's like, oh, I'm
just leaving the Biltmore area and I'm.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Like whoa, oh that you get to the gate and.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Right not only that, but my car's downstairs right in
front of the building, which means i'd have to park
my car underneath the awning, and I gotta let the
security guard know that my car is gonna be there
for a couple of days. Right, So there's a lot
going on in my head, and I'm like, I'm just
gonna go. I'm just gonna go to the airport.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
I go.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Plus, then you got to pick me up. She says no,
but I'll pick you up and go, and you're gonna
be on time when you pick me up, Like when
I come out, you're gonna be there. I just go
to my car and she's like, I'm gonna pick it up.
So I go downstairs, I grab my car, park it
under the awning. I find the security guard. I'll let
him know what's going on, and I she picks me
up and I get to my flight on time. Believe
it or not, it's crazy. I'm not the first one.
I mean, I make it because my seat's saved my
(03:35):
I mean, I get on the plane, plane doors of clothing, whatever.
I made it. Yeah, So here's where the fight happens.
I land and she's not here. And I even had
a conversation. We talked for twenty five minutes. When I
was at the Atlanta Airport, I was there so early
at the Atlanta airport. Twenty five minutes. We're just shooting
the poop out of everything about how my event went.
Everything went, And I'm like, all right, so you got
my flight info? I land and say at noon, and
(03:57):
she's like, yeah, okay, I pick a noon. I said, okay.
By the way, iPhone has a thing where you plug
in the flight number and it'll tell you if the
plane's earlier, the plane's late. And she goes, I got it.
She goes, okay, I'll be there. So I get off
the plane. I look on my app three sixty and
she's still home. I walk outside and she's not there,
and I thought, and so I call her and she's
(04:18):
like hello, hey, and I go, why aren't you here? Right? Yeah,
And that's where she's like she loses her mind for
the way I spoke to her. Right. But I'm also
extremely irritated that all this is because you want to
take me to the airport, Like this is like I'm
moving to be home. I could be now. I wait
(04:38):
twelve minutes for her. Twelve minutes. She picks me up,
and she said, and she says, it's cold, and she
picks me up and I go, why weren't you here
to pick me up? A time show? You had to
wait twelve minutes? Yeah, I had had wait twelve minutes.
But that's not the point. The point is because you
want to take me there, this whole thing. By the
time we get to the radio station, which is right
here to get my car, she's crying. I get out
of the car, I get out of the car, I
(04:58):
get in my car, and I look at her. She
pulls off to the side of one of the parking
lots and we'll buy those vans over there. Yeah, and
she's sitting there with her hands, her face and her
hands crying.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
That's the worst feeling.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I felt terrible. I felt terrible.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
I waited twelve minutes.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Like that's not the point. That's not the point.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Right, responsible to each other, and like you you kind
of like you kind of made a little bit of
a sacrifice to be late because she wanted to pick
you up.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
I'm excited to see you. Why can't you be excited
to see me? Very I go, you know what if
I would have gone to my car, if I would
have got to my car, driven home, and you're in
the kitchen with a big smile on your face when
I come home, that's awesome. But you're coming to pick
me up like she wants me to be happy that
she's coming to pick me up, and I'm more a
little irritated. Yeah, yeah, no, I can't look at that.
If you took me to the airport, rich and the
(05:49):
whole plan was for her to pick me up, and
I said to her, this might be a virgo thing,
this might be a first born thing, I said, but
I was already and so that was what our whole
argument was. And by the time we got home, by
the time I met her and we talked in the
kitchen and everything's fine. And then a couple of times
had to go see if I would have come home
right now, that's that's not helpful, So that makes it worse.
But see, now, if I would tell this story with
(06:11):
person A in person B, I think EVER would be
siding on my side. Oh yeah, yeah, that's what I'm saying.
What'd you say? What'd you say?
Speaker 2 (06:21):
You only had to wait twelve minutes, though, right, But
I wouldn't have.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
To wait at all. You just drove my car. I plan.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I think you're missing the point of the twelve minutes.
People are leaning on twelve minutes. You're like sort of like,
if we do this, is this going to be okay?
Because you don't want I mean, you probably planned the
whole thing to hit it and be out of the airport.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I had to wait twelve minutes. But had I had
my car there, I'm probably I mean, I'm saying I
got outside of way twelve minutes. Yeah. When I would
have got out of the plane, I would have walked
totally different direction. I would have got right to my car,
no worse part. So anyway, that was what the fight
was about.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Well, and you did say in the podcast that you
apologized I did.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
I did for some reason. I'm all wrong.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Yes, you are always wrong.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
If I would have taken Southwest, I would have been screwed,
bit no kidding. Yeah. And then on my way back,
I got to deal with the freaking lady this got
the huge German shepherd dog that's taken on my phone. Yeah,
so I was like irritated already. I was so irritated,
and I took an edible the night before because Payton
Say would help me sleep, and I had the worst
night of sleep my mind, I even and then we
(07:26):
keep on. We spoke for twenty five minutes forgot on
the plane and I told her. I go, I was like, man,
I didn't sleep very well's terrible. She's like, I'm prepared
to handle your grumpiness, is what she said. Also so
that when I landed, I'm grumpy. She was not prepared.
She wasn't just that she wasn't there. There was a
lot of other factories, all the rest the arguments going on,
and things are unfolded. I started waiting a minute, and
(07:47):
I go, we spoke no, see, I knew no matter
what that's like.
Speaker 4 (07:51):
Yeah, I feel like that is a virgo thing, like
I feel like I mean, and just in you telling
this story, John Jay, there's so many people that this
is their fault that you were upset. Feel in this
type of play, it's like, okay, Blake's late, I was
the reason that you didn't get any sleep. Like it's
okay to wait twelve minutes for your wife that wants
to see you.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
It's okay, right, but also, and you're gonna go around circles.
I mean, I was trying to avoid that twelve minutes.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
I get it, I guess I get it.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
But that's definitely being a.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Hard efficient efficient. I totally feel that, Oh thank you.
I would think that's also.
Speaker 5 (08:22):
You being tired, because you may have been able and
irritated from the flight. You may have been able to
tolerate the twelve minutes a little better if you didn't
have a terrible night sleep and you weren't already irritated
from the lady with the dog on the plane.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
No, no, but I had already before when she said
I'm coming to pick you up, I was like, wait
a minute, dude. Point of view. So you had a plan,
a plan.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Once somebody inserts themselves in your plan and you and
you give a little bit for them. Now they've screwed
up the plan.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Like if you would have said to me the day before,
do you want me to take take an airport and
pick you up? I would have been like, well, let
me let me call rich which can come pick me
up that way? It's easy and there's not a car here. Yeah, simple,
Like it's happened for one hundred times before. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
It's like when you have a mission and God, there's
something about people. John Jay's not late. People who are late,
they don't like you to be late either.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Right, anyway, so that's what happens. So thank you for texting.
I get it.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
See what you've done, NICKI, well, thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Yeah, I know. I know.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Curious though, what was her reason why she was late
to begin Why wasn't she at the airport? She didn't
realize what time it was.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Because it's just my wife doing things, just nothing. She's
doing things, hanging out, talking to our kids, like whatever.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Well, thank you so much. I was dying to know
what the story.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Is like now I know when I picked her up
at the airport. I'm in the cell phone lot waiting
for her, and I'll be like, text me when you land,
and I'm going to drive around and drive around, drive
around until you're ready to go or I wait. Anyway,
it's a virgo thing. Have a gret day, Nikki. Thanks
for calling in.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Thank you Okay,
I don't tell anybody. John Jay and Rich gave me
their personal cell phone number. Where is my freaking phone?
Eight seven seven nine three seven one oh four seven.
It's John Jay and Ridge.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hi, Nikki, good morning.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
How are you so? You texted us? How can we
help you?
Speaker 2 (00:17):
I did well? I so I'm behind. I listened to
your podcast every day and I'm I don't know, probably
two three weeks behind. But I knew that you and
Blake had had this argument and you were going to
wait until you did the couples therapy to talk about
it and all of that. So I was excited, excited, excited,
waiting to listen to see how it got resolved, what happened,
(00:41):
and you two just started around the whole thing in.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
The Couple's podcast. We did, yes, we did.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
We we kind of talked about it, but you didn't
really like I didn't say what it was about. You didn't.
I was I was dying to find out what actually happened,
and you guys didn't really talk about it, and you said, well,
there's another there's another podcast that by, but at that point,
you guys, that will be old news.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
I don't think I've even told you guys, about the fight. No,
I could tell you that it ended, and it did end.
But at one point she was parked with her hands,
her face in her hands, crying. I know I have
never experienced that before, and I was like, good one, No,
I didn't do that.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Well, you said that if you told, if you presented it,
you felt like people would think that you were right?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Is what you said? Right? I would? I think. I
think if I tell you the argument and don't tell
you who's who, I think everyone will think I'm right.
But when I tell you who's who, everyone, most people
are probably gonna stid on blake because most people don't
enjoy me or my rightness.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Well, can you do that?
Speaker 1 (01:44):
No, it's too difficult, I think. I mean, I could try,
but I just think it'd be too difficult if I
was so. My wife when she goes to the airport,
she likes to get the airport warily, warily, like it
even stresses her out if she's not early enough. Do
you know what I mean? I go to the airport
most of the time as the door's closing, especially if
(02:05):
I have a seat on the plane. If it's southwest,
whole different ball game, right, But if I have a
seat on the plane. I'm not stressed about it. And
about a month ago, I was going to the airport.
Remember I was going to Atlanta, yep. And I had
it all And normally, if I'm going to go to
the airport and I'm gonna not leave my car here
and not drive to the airport, Rich picks me up
in the morning. And I had not conferred with Rich
(02:26):
about picking me up, so I just assumed I'm going
to drive to the airport after the show, and that's
what I was going to do. My flight was bording
at ten thirty. At ten ten, my wife calls me
and says, hey, I'm going to take it to the airport,
and I'm like my flight boards. You know, we're right
by the airport, and I'm like my flight boards in
(02:46):
ten minutes, like I want to be on that flight,
just don't take the airport like okay. And I'm like, well, okay,
so where are you thinking you're She's like, oh, I'm
just leaving the Biltmore area and I'm.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Like whoa, oh that you get to the gate and.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Right not only that, but my car's downstairs right in
front of the building, which means i'd have to park
my car underneath the awning, and I gotta let the
security guard know that my car is gonna be there
for a couple of days. Right, So there's a lot
going on in my head, and I'm like, I'm just
gonna go. I'm just gonna go to the airport.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
I go.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Plus, then you got to pick me up. She says no,
but I'll pick you up and go, and you're gonna
be on time when you pick me up, Like when
I come out, you're gonna be there. I just go
to my car and she's like, I'm gonna pick it up.
So I go downstairs, I grab my car, park it
under the awning. I find the security guard. I'll let
him know what's going on, and I she picks me
up and I get to my flight on time. Believe
it or not, it's crazy. I'm not the first one.
I mean, I make it because my seat's saved my
(03:35):
I mean, I get on the plane, plane doors of clothing, whatever.
I made it. Yeah, So here's where the fight happens.
I land and she's not here. And I even had
a conversation. We talked for twenty five minutes. When I
was at the Atlanta Airport, I was there so early
at the Atlanta airport. Twenty five minutes. We're just shooting
the poop out of everything about how my event went.
Everything went, And I'm like, all right, so you got
my flight info? I land and say at noon, and
(03:57):
she's like, yeah, okay, I pick a noon. I said, okay.
By the way, iPhone has a thing where you plug
in the flight number and it'll tell you if the
plane's earlier, the plane's late. And she goes, I got it.
She goes, okay, I'll be there. So I get off
the plane. I look on my app three sixty and
she's still home. I walk outside and she's not there,
and I thought, and so I call her and she's
(04:18):
like hello, hey, and I go, why aren't you here? Right? Yeah,
And that's where she's like she loses her mind for
the way I spoke to her. Right. But I'm also
extremely irritated that all this is because you want to
take me to the airport, Like this is like I'm
moving to be home. I could be now. I wait
(04:38):
twelve minutes for her. Twelve minutes. She picks me up,
and she said, and she says, it's cold, and she
picks me up and I go, why weren't you here
to pick me up? A time show? You had to
wait twelve minutes? Yeah, I had had wait twelve minutes.
But that's not the point. The point is because you
want to take me there, this whole thing. By the
time we get to the radio station, which is right
here to get my car, she's crying. I get out
of the car, I get out of the car, I
(04:58):
get in my car, and I look at her. She
pulls off to the side of one of the parking
lots and we'll buy those vans over there. Yeah, and
she's sitting there with her hands, her face and her
hands crying.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
That's the worst feeling.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I felt terrible. I felt terrible.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
I waited twelve minutes.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Like that's not the point. That's not the point.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Right, responsible to each other, and like you you kind
of like you kind of made a little bit of
a sacrifice to be late because she wanted to pick
you up.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
I'm excited to see you. Why can't you be excited
to see me? Very I go, you know what if
I would have gone to my car, if I would
have got to my car, driven home, and you're in
the kitchen with a big smile on your face when
I come home, that's awesome. But you're coming to pick
me up like she wants me to be happy that
she's coming to pick me up, and I'm more a
little irritated. Yeah, yeah, no, I can't look at that.
If you took me to the airport, rich and the
(05:49):
whole plan was for her to pick me up, and
I said to her, this might be a virgo thing,
this might be a first born thing, I said, but
I was already and so that was what our whole
argument was. And by the time we got home, by
the time I met her and we talked in the
kitchen and everything's fine. And then a couple of times
had to go see if I would have come home
right now, that's that's not helpful, So that makes it worse.
But see, now, if I would tell this story with
(06:11):
person A in person B, I think EVER would be
siding on my side. Oh yeah, yeah, that's what I'm saying.
What'd you say? What'd you say?
Speaker 2 (06:21):
You only had to wait twelve minutes, though, right, But
I wouldn't have.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
To wait at all. You just drove my car. I plan.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I think you're missing the point of the twelve minutes.
People are leaning on twelve minutes. You're like sort of like,
if we do this, is this going to be okay?
Because you don't want I mean, you probably planned the
whole thing to hit it and be out of the airport.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I had to wait twelve minutes. But had I had
my car there, I'm probably I mean, I'm saying I
got outside of way twelve minutes. Yeah. When I would
have got out of the plane, I would have walked
totally different direction. I would have got right to my car,
no worse part. So anyway, that was what the fight
was about.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Well, and you did say in the podcast that you
apologized I did.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
I did for some reason. I'm all wrong.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Yes, you are always wrong.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
If I would have taken Southwest, I would have been screwed,
bit no kidding. Yeah. And then on my way back,
I got to deal with the freaking lady this got
the huge German shepherd dog that's taken on my phone. Yeah,
so I was like irritated already. I was so irritated,
and I took an edible the night before because Payton
Say would help me sleep, and I had the worst
night of sleep my mind, I even and then we
(07:26):
keep on. We spoke for twenty five minutes forgot on
the plane and I told her. I go, I was like, man,
I didn't sleep very well's terrible. She's like, I'm prepared
to handle your grumpiness, is what she said. Also so
that when I landed, I'm grumpy. She was not prepared.
She wasn't just that she wasn't there. There was a
lot of other factories, all the rest the arguments going on,
and things are unfolded. I started waiting a minute, and
(07:47):
I go, we spoke no, see, I knew no matter
what that's like.
Speaker 4 (07:51):
Yeah, I feel like that is a virgo thing, like
I feel like I mean, and just in you telling
this story, John Jay, there's so many people that this
is their fault that you were upset. Feel in this
type of play, it's like, okay, Blake's late, I was
the reason that you didn't get any sleep. Like it's
okay to wait twelve minutes for your wife that wants
to see you.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
It's okay, right, but also, and you're gonna go around circles.
I mean, I was trying to avoid that twelve minutes.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
I get it, I guess I get it.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
But that's definitely being a.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Hard efficient efficient. I totally feel that, Oh thank you.
I would think that's also.
Speaker 5 (08:22):
You being tired, because you may have been able and
irritated from the flight. You may have been able to
tolerate the twelve minutes a little better if you didn't
have a terrible night sleep and you weren't already irritated
from the lady with the dog on the plane.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
No, no, but I had already before when she said
I'm coming to pick you up, I was like, wait
a minute, dude. Point of view. So you had a plan,
a plan.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Once somebody inserts themselves in your plan and you and
you give a little bit for them. Now they've screwed
up the plan.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Like if you would have said to me the day before,
do you want me to take take an airport and
pick you up? I would have been like, well, let
me let me call rich which can come pick me
up that way? It's easy and there's not a car here. Yeah, simple,
Like it's happened for one hundred times before. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
It's like when you have a mission and God, there's
something about people. John Jay's not late. People who are late,
they don't like you to be late either.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Right, anyway, so that's what happens. So thank you for texting.
I get it.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
See what you've done, NICKI, well, thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Yeah, I know. I know.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Curious though, what was her reason why she was late
to begin Why wasn't she at the airport? She didn't
realize what time it was.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Because it's just my wife doing things, just nothing. She's
doing things, hanging out, talking to our kids, like whatever.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Well, thank you so much. I was dying to know
what the story.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Is like now I know when I picked her up
at the airport. I'm in the cell phone lot waiting
for her, and I'll be like, text me when you land,
and I'm going to drive around and drive around, drive
around until you're ready to go or I wait. Anyway,
it's a virgo thing. Have a gret day, Nikki. Thanks
for calling in.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Thank you Okay,
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!