February 1, 2020 • 32 mins
The world is still processing the loss of Los Angeles Lakers great Kobe Bryant, his 13-year-old daughter Gianna and seven other people in a horrible helicopter crash in Southern California.
But if there's something we're all learning from the aftermath, it's how amazing Kobe lived his life. It seems so many people have a story about Kobe and how he impacted them.
After retiring from a 20 year NBA career, Kobe moved into so many other projects and ventures. He was constantly learning and reinventing himself.
If you've thought about doing the same, there are 8 lessons we can learn from the amazing life of Kobe Bryant that can help you live your life amplified.
Things discussed in this episode include...
- Expanding your vision past what you know and having the audacity to dream big.
- Why it's important to plan ahead for the next steps in your life.
- How it's okay to start from scratch, no matter where you are in your career and in life.
- The power of having mentors in your life.
- Why you need to start TODAY.
- The power behind facing your fears.
- The importance of giving back to the world.
- How to grow from your mistakes.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, it's Dan. You promised yourself twenty would be different,
less time in the office and more time for yourself
and your passions, more time with family and friends. Maybe
you'd finally cross off some of those bucket list items.
You've made these resolutions many times, but here you are
sitting behind the desk once again, buried under an endless
(00:20):
pile of deadlines into dues. If you're one of my listeners,
I know you're a high performer. You embrace your strong
work ethic and you want to crush it in your
career in life. But now you're so overworked and overwhelmed.
Nothing seems to get done. You feel unproductive, unfocused, and
uninspired at work. The more you try to soldier through,
(00:40):
sometimes it feels like the more you fall behind. And
at home you're too exhausted to do much beyond have
a drink and watch Netflix. Maybe you're short tempered and
grumpy with the people that you love and now you're
isolating is a way to not deal with the guilt?
What do you do when the paychecks benefits for a
one k are awesome, but you feel like you have
to choose between having financial wealth and emotional wealth. You
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don't have to choose between making more money and having
a meaningful life. Now really, I'm going to teach you
how to do it. I'm hosting a free online master
class February twelve called the Life Work Balance Blueprint. Why
am I doing this training because it's time for you
to stop overworking, be more productive, and create more balance, happiness,
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and fulfillment at home and at work. Spots are limited
for this training. You can go to the link in
the show notes reserve your space today. I will see
you live and in person February twelve for The Life
Work Balance Blueprint and now episode ninety one eight lessons
on creating an epic life transition that we learned from
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Kobe Bryant's. My name is Dan Mason. I was overweight,
getting divorced, battling depression, and feeling trapped in a career
where I was successful but bored and unfulfilled. And it's
actually greatest gift I've ever been given. I used my
pain as a springboard to discover my life's purpose. Now
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I want to share the same tools and strategies which
helped transform my life with you so you can live
life amplify. It seems only appropriate. This week, we start
with a quote from the late Kobe Bryant who said,
the beauty and being blessed with talent is rising above
doubters to create a beautiful moment. How many of us
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are playing down to the expectations of our naysayers and
not truly stepping into the greatness that is in store
for us. Let's be honest, It's easy for us to
do it. Kobe Bryant is a shining example of a
man who made it to the very top of his
career but realized there was still a next level in
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a greater sense of creativity and self expression that he
wanted to share with the world. He made it happen
this week. We know that success leads clues. We're gonna
go back and I'm gonna give you eight valuable life
lessons that I've taken away from the Kobe Bryant story.
This week is a way to honor one of the
ten greatest basketball players who ever put on a jersey,
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and I think it's really going to inspire you to
think about what's next for you. I know you're already
a high performer, but maybe there's something else out there,
a new career a new idea, a new business you
want to start. Let's learn from Kobe Bryant. We're gonna
get to that content coming up in just a moment,
but before we do it, I want to acknowledge our
listener of the week. It is Alice. One of the
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many emails that I got on last week's episode about
being a workaholic, Alice said, I recognized myself in the
story of being a workaholic. I sent this episode to
six people, including my sister. One friend has already listened
to the whole thing. It was a great conversation around
why we do what we do, even when it's fear based,
she said. And then I walked upstairs to my office
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to work another five hours because I promised a client
a Sunday night deadline. Becoming aware is a good first step.
Blocking out all weekends on my calendar is another amen
to that, Alice. There is a huge difference between listening
to a podcast going to a personal growth seminar intellectually
understanding the content versus actually embodying it. But what I
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want to stress in this workaholic topic, because I think
Kobe Bryant even demonstrates this, there's nothing wrong with working
long hours. You know, you can burn the midnight oil,
you can put in a weekend, but it all depends
on what you're doing after that. Are you taking time
for rest and recuperation or you're you just chasing the
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next goal for the sake of chasing a goal. Is
it really taking you away from the other things you value,
you know, your health and exercise, your family, your friendships.
That is really the key that we have to look
at and one of the topics I'll be going into
more in depth and that training that I mentioned on
February twelve when we talk about the life work balance blueprint.
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But Alice, I appreciate ate you listening, sending you so
much love and if any of the content that we
provide here on the podcast each week is making a
difference for you, feel free to share this with a friend.
You can screenshot the podcast to upload it to Instagram
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Dan Mason and we will shout you out on the
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podcast as well. So as I'm recording this podcast, it's
been a few days since the tragic news of Kobe
Bryant's death and it's been fascinating just to watch on
social media from people who were sports fans, but even
people who aren't. When we lose a celebrity of this
magnitude and somebody who has achieved that level of greatness,
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I think one of the things is it that it
does is it holds a mirror up to all of us,
and it forces us to stare at our own mortality.
I think the story of Kobe, and certainly when you
look at his just thirteen year old daughter that had
her whole life ahead of her, was destined to go
on and play professional basketball in the w n b A,
it just minds us that none of us are getting
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out of here alive. That death is the one thing,
it's the one experience that we all have in common.
So the question becomes, how are you living while you're here?
And one of the things that I just admire most
about this Kobe Bryant story. And this is not going
to be a podcast talking about how late he stayed
in the gym and how hard he worked out and
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all his basketball accomplishments, because that story has been told
over and over. In fact, when I look at the
legacy of Kobe Bryant, for me, it's not about the
twenty year basketball career. It's not about the fifteen time
All Stars selections, it's not about winning five championships. I
think the most interesting chapter of his life was still unfolding,
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because how many people have the courage to completely walk
away from a career where they had reached the absolute
top of their profession and go pursue a new creative endeavor,
to go chase a higher level of self expression in
an area where they had no previous experience. Kobe Bryant
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not only did it, he did it quickly. I mean,
this is a man that you know, started a venture
capital firm, He won an oscar, he was writing children's stories,
producing podcast. He accomplished more in three years after retiring
from basketball than many people accomplish in a lifetime. So
what enabled that to happen? What were the mindset ships?
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Those are the things that I want to get into today.
I want to talk about the eight keys to an
epic life reinvention, and we're gonna do eight of them,
because well, that was one of the numbers that he
wore over the course of his career, and quite honestly,
nobody wants to sit through twenty four success tips that
would be like a seven hour podcast, So let's dive
in and do this. The first thing that really stands
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out to me was he had the audacity to dream bigger.
How many people get to the end of a successful
corporate career, or maybe they're no longer there's no intrinsic
motivation for the work anymore. You've been there, you've done that,
You're going through the motions, but then you segue into
a new career that's just adjacent to the old one.
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I've seen this happen with, you know, so many people
who are sales professionals who are like, well, I'm tired
of hitting the road and selling, I'm just going to
teach selling, you know, and become a corporate trainer. Or
people who leave a successful industry and then they become
a consultant for that industry. Certainly in sports, you know,
most ex athletes with a high profile just move into
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broadcasting or they become a talking head about the old sports.
So many of us just doing what's familiar. The most
typical response I get from my clients who are unsatisfied
in their current line of work and they want to
find their next level. When I ask him what it
is they really want to do. It's always the same response,
I don't know. Confusion is just a pattern, it's never
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really a thing, because if you're confused about what you
want to do next because you're not sure if you
can make it happen, then you'll never allow yourself to
have clarity. Anytime you find yourself saying I don't know,
that's a dissociative response. You're trying to shut down because
you believe that if you really spoke up about what
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you wanted, that it would sound stupid or that it's unrealistic.
Maybe you'd get a crappy response from your friends or family.
But I just did a coaching call last night with
one of my clients when I really pressed her to
go beyond I don't know, and I actually used the
Kobe Bryant analogy. It was like, what if you knew
that you had one year left on the planet and
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that you could chase one dream that was most meaningful bloom?
She answered that in about two seconds. You know, if
we knew exactly how much time we had, maybe we
wouldn't be so scared to go after our dreams. But
you know, we we take time for granted. We tend
to chase money more than anything, and that's not the
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currency that matters. Money comes and goes, goes up and down.
Your investment accounts, your four oh one K fluctuate with
the stock market. You know, if the if the economy
went south tomorrow, you'd lose half your net worth and
it would all just be numbers somewhere on a computer screen.
Time is the one thing you'll never get back. Though
money will come back eventually, you know, the stock investments
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that fall off will always climb again after a recession. Time,
you're never getting back. So this idea of just allowing
yourself to dream bigger, to honor your desires and speak
out loud about what you want is so so key.
You know. I had a client one time, one of
my earliest clients in my first year of coaching, who
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it took her about three sessions before I could even
get her to admit what she wanted. And then of
course she set it up with Okay, we'll promise you
won't laugh at me, you know, because she was aready
preparing herself for rejection, which I never do as a coach.
I believe you have a desire because you also have
a path in the ability to create it. But her
biggest dream was to become a host on a major
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cable TV network. But the problem is she had never
done television. She had no agent, no audition reel, no
head shots, no anything. So on the surface, of course,
it would make no sense for for us to think
that she would want to do it, except that I
just don't operate by that model of reality. So I
worked with her and we did the best that we could.
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She didn't have a TV audition reel, but she sent
in an MP three a voice memo of her and
her iPhone talking about products that she really believed in
because it was one of those home shopping network jobs.
So she sent that in with a head shot that
she just had a photographer friend take and that was it.
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She bought some cute clothes off the sale racket target.
She wasn't all made up with like a glamour shot,
and she sent that in, which, again to somebody within
the TV industry, they would scoff and say, oh, that's
the most unprofessional package ever. But the very next day
she got a call back from the casting agent because
they were so into her energy and the audacity that
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she would even produce the dream. So within eleven weeks
of working together, she was in New York at a
national TV audition in front of the executives of a
major cable network. It never could have happened if she
didn't allow herself to dream big. So that's the first
life lesson that we have to look at if we
want to up level in our life is expanding the
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vision beyond what we know and what's safe, and truly
honoring our soul's desires for expansion and growth. From there,
if you look at the trajectory of Kobe Bryant, he
planned ahead. He didn't just randomly retire from basketball and
throw everything into this dream that he had. He spent
years before retire meant, especially as he got older and
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he felt his body starting to change, and he knew
that there was going to be an expiration date on
his professional athletic career. He planned ahead. So many people,
I think it's stuck in this idea of well, I
have to be in this job because I can't afford
to quit, And maybe you can't afford to quit your
career right now. I understand it. You got kids, you
might have family, you might be trying to pay for college.
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You might be trying to buy your dream home, but
you can still start taking steps towards your next dream
while you're collecting the paycheck at the corporate job. In fact,
for somebody who's really burned out and miserable on the
job that you're in, if you're taking consistent, aligned baby
steps towards your bigger dream, you can almost find gratitude
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for what used to be the soul sucking job, because
it's almost like they're the venture capitalist investing in you
to keep you afloat while you work toward plan B.
So what does planning ahead look like for you? In
the case of Kobe Bryant, you know, he started finding
mint tours and cold calling the most successful people in
the world in their in line of work. We're gonna
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get to that in just a moment. But what does
planning ahead look like for you? If you want to
transition to a brand new career you've never done, what
would you need to do to start acquiring the skills
and the knowledge and the contacts right now? How could
you start networking if you want to start that dream business.
I've had some of my clients start their dream business
as a side hustle, work at it for a year
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in the you know, morning hours before they went into
their day job, or in the evening hours when they
came home, until they got to the point where they
were making enough money that they could quit the day job.
I've had other people go to a part time schedule
at their current job while they build out their next thing.
And then, of course, look there's some crazy people like me.
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I quit my corporate career called turkey and dove into
the deep into the pool because I'm disorganized. Attachment and
chaos is my jam for better or worse. But that's
not the right approach for every You can plan ahead
right now. You can start saving money for your big leap.
Maybe there's a little less money going out on happy
hours and buying the new iPhone, and you can start
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putting that away so that you got a little nest
day get in the bank to keep you comfortable. But
once we honor the intention, we have to start laying
plans to make it happen, which brings me to point
number three from the Kobe Bryant journey. He was humble
enough and had the humility to become a student and
start from scratch he knew he wanted to get into storytelling,
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he didn't quite know how to make it happen. But
this guy started cold calling people like J. K. Rowling
wanting to talk about the art of storytelling. He contacted
Ron Howard, the movie director, and was just trying to
get lunch is scheduled. And by the way, you know,
you and I look at this from the perspective of
just everyday normal people. If Kobe Bryant calls you and I,
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we are picking up the phone and taking that call.
But these are people who are the Kobe Bryant of
their own world. They're not impressed by celebrity. Kobe had
to call these people multiple times a day to even
get them to answer the phone. Think about it. If
you're J. K. Rowling and you've made, you know, pretty
much the biggest book series in the history of publishing,
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What do you want to talk to an NBA player for?
Why are you going to take him? Seriously? He didn't
have his assistant call. He put himself out there graciously
and humbly and blew these people up until he could
get through and schedule the meeting. I read a quote
famously Deepak Chopra's son is a filmmaker and Kobe wanted
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to get with him to talk about a documentary he
wanted to produce. And Deepak's son, whose name eludes me
right now, I feel terrible about that, couldn't do the meeting,
and Kobe Bryant was like, that's fine, I'll reschedule it.
He rescheduled the dinner meeting to his actual birthday. He
gave up his birthday just to go be a student
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and learn from people who were farther ahead in the
area that he wanted to go into. So that's a
question you have to ask yourself. If you've desired a
major transition in your life to get to the next level,
has your ego gotten in the way? Has there been
part of you that things maybe you're above having to
start from the ground up. You know, when I first
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started considering my career change, long before I was really
down a personal development path or I ever thought about
being a coach, you know, I was really into theater.
I knew that that was an interest of mine. I
had studied it in college, so I wasn't dreaming beyond
the level that I knew. But I also knew that
I had a flair for marketing and creating promotions. That
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was a big thing that I did was create a
lot of publicity stunts when I worked in the radio world.
So I started meeting with Broadway producers in New York
trying to figure out how could I get in the
ground door of of becoming marketing. But a lot of
those entry level jobs in the city we're paying, you know,
maybe forty dollars a year tops, and I thought that
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that was beneath me. At that point in my life,
I wouldn't really go pursue the jobs. And there was
somebody who was like, hey, you'd be great at this.
You should start at the ground level, but my ego
got in the way and I wanted to start at
the top. All things considered, in hindsight, that wasn't the
right path for me. Anyway, things worked out exactly the
way that they should. But can you approach this next
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level with a sense of humility and understanding that the
goal here is to be a student? And after all,
what is a master at the end of the day.
A master is a beginner who never stopped beginning, which
leads me to point number four in an epic life transition,
as taught to us by Kobe bryant mentorship. Kobe had
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mentors every step of the way. He did it in basketball,
where he started learning from people like Michael Jordan's who
was a hero. Michael saw the fire in Kobe's eyes
and was willing to really talk to him about the game,
and he continued to find mentors in the business world.
Think about this, Kobe Bryant never even went to college.
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He skipped from high school straight to the NBA when
he was seventeen years old. So this is not a
man who had a bunch of fancy degrees in the
back of his pocket, and yet he wanted to start
a venture capital firm. So what did he have to do.
He had to find existing people who were successful in
the world of business and learned from them. Just one
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of the things I admire most about this guy. How
many people sit back and say, well, I can't do
the thing that I want because I don't have a
degree in it. You know, I saw a Facebook message
recently from somebody in my timeline who just got laid
off at a job. You know, there's an industry where
there's a bunch of layoffs happening. It's my old industry
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in radio, and there's been massive layoffs at multiple companies recently.
And this person was going on and on about, oh
my god, you know I have this degree that is
now worthless. I spent thirty thous and dollars to get
this degree and it means nothing. But here's the thing.
Every degree means nothing at the end of the day.
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And I'm not anti college, I'm not anti learning. But
your value is not defined by an expensive piece of paper.
We've talked about this. Your value are your gifts and
your creativity and your ideas and your empathy and compassion
that you're sharing with the world. Go back and listen
to the episode I think it was two episodes back,
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about how to really own your inner value. We do
a deep dive on that topic. I come across so
many people who want to do what I do as
a coach, and they're like, oh, well, you know, I
need to go back, I need to get a certification,
and then they get it, and then they want six
more certifications and other modalities before they feel ready. I'm
making air quotes as I say that you're ready when
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you decide you are. And I think that that's one
of the beautiful things that we learned. Kobe Bryant, is
you start today, you just learn and you make it happen. Obviously,
if you want to get into some precision field and
you want to become a heart surgeon, that is going
to require a fair amount of schooling that you have
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to go through. But many of the soft skills and
the things that allow us to use our creativity and
empathy doesn't require any training at all. I mean, you
can get started. If you want to help people, you
can help people right now. I think in four and
a half years of coaching, three people have asked me
about my training and certifications. People who are in pain
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just want to know that you can help them through
that pain that they're experiencing in their lives. Kobe Bryant
did not go to college to get a degree in writing.
He didn't go get an m b A. He just
dove in and followed his desires because he knew his
desires were aligned with his destiny, and he learned from
mentors who could help him speed up the process. Let's
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move into the fifth point on how to create an
epic life reinvention. Kobe Bryant faced his fear. There's a
great article on ESPN recently by Ramona Shelborne who talked
about Kobe mentoring women's basketball star Candice Parker and Kobe
talked to her before the final game of the w
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NBA Finals. Candice Parker is somebody who had wanted every
level of her career except professionally, and her failure to
do so was starting to become a defining characteristic of
her life. So, according to the story, Kobe called her
and asked her, what are you afraid of? And I
love this quote. He said, You're either going to lose scared,
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or you're going to win. It's that simple. And as
the article goes on to explain, Kobe is not a
guy who was fearless. He wasn't born with some different
d n A. Of course, he experienced fears just like
everybody else, but he had this uncanny ability to will
himself beyond it. Here's a quote directly from Kobe. He says,
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to a certain extent, every day I was vulnerable. You're
always dealing with fear, with something in your imagination, something
that you think can happen. But you just say, I
don't know if I can do that, but I'll give
it a try. There's a great story about Kobe recovering
from an achilles tendon injury that he blew it out
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on the basketball court and missed play for about a year.
But during his time off rehabbing, he became obsessed with
the legend of Achilles, who was the warrior from Greek
mythology who chose a short life that would be remembered
for eternity over a long life of little consequence. And
you can see that that's why Kobe showed up to
face his fears. I think, you know, maybe on some
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soul level, he knew that he wouldn't be here for
seventy or eighty years, and he lived every day like
it was his last. Could you and I harness that
same energy and do the same? Could we honor Kobe's legacy?
I mean, it's not even about honoring Kobe's legacy. Can
you honor your personal legacy? Can you honor your desires
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and your purpose and your internal calling into the world?
Is it worth risking the scary action step? The next
point about an epic life reinvention, and I think it's
just the foundation of an amplified life period. Kobe was
a man that lived in gratitude. The morning after he
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played his final professional basketball game, which, by the way,
he put up sixty points in his final career game.
He got up and he went to church the next morning.
So many athletes, we've seen the stories. They sink into
depression after their career is over. People do it in
corporate America as well. People do it after they lose
a job. People don't know what to do with themselves.
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Kobe got up the following morning after his final game
and he went to church. Here's a great quote. He said,
I think after twenty years, I think it's important to
give thanks for having such a blessed of life. I
wanted to make sure I went and paid my respects
and just said thank you. So many of the blessings
in your life. You might be taking them for granted
right now, the things that were one's dreams. Once we
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get there, we just making an expectation. I've done it
in my life. I am not innocent on this. I've
told you the story about working this whole career as
a coach to live on the beach in Lahoya and
then finding myself so stressed out. I'm not even spending
time looking at this beautiful beach outside my window, like
I would be out walking my dog, just focused on
what do I have to do next, and not being
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grateful for where I was. But the key here is
to trade in the expectations for gratitude, because you can't
be depressed, you can't be piste off, you can't be
feeling sorry for yourself when you are in a state
of gratitude. And it really does you know. I think
it's one of the two master keys to unlock your
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next level in life. What is the second master key? Well,
that gets here into the seventh point in creating an
epic re invention in your life. It's about giving back.
It's about contribution. Kobe was quoted as saying, I enjoy
passing things on. Some people want to take it with
him to the grave, like Lord of the Rings. The
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world is filled with a lot of people who can't
let go of the damn ring. He gave up basketball altogether.
He turned it over to future generations, but he also
gave back and started mentoring people in other sports. Djokovic,
the world class tennis player. Kobe Bryant was a mentor
of his. It's been said that when he saw something
special and someone who reached out to him, he always
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tried to answer. He said, people who I know are
passionate about what they do. I just like seeing them
do great things. That's what I enjoy. He would always
text people back. Sometimes it was one line, sometimes it
was an emoji. When you talk to people who were
close to him, he had a knack for telling people
what it is that they needed to hear in the moment.
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Also very generous with charity as well, over two hundred
wishes granted through Make a Wish Foundation. Social media was
just littered with all the times that he went and
showed up and visited six children in the hospital, never
took a pr team or cameras until he never wanted
the attention. He just did it out of the kindness
of his heart. And that'll bring us to the final
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piece of the puzzle. As we talk about all the
life lessons we can learn from Kobe Bryant. He is,
without question, a man who grew from his mistakes. And look,
I don't want to sugarcoat this. I don't think you
can talk about the legacy of Kobe Bryant without talking
about the rape allegations that happened in Colorado. You know,
twenty years ago, Kobe's admission in court was that he
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believed it was a consensual experience, and he realized in
hindsight that it was not. I don't know. I wasn't there.
I don't know exactly what happened, and that's between Kobe
and the accuser. Quite honestly, I know that there was
an apology. I know that you know there was a
financial settlement. But what I also know is that the
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man who passed away last week at forty one years
old was very different than the twenty four year old
guy that got in trouble. And I also say this
just I want to be clear. I understand and empathize
with the people who can't see beyond the incident that
happened in Colorado. I get that what happened was terrible,
but he had become and was becoming even more of
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an exceptional human being in the aftermath. Whatever went down
in that experience, he learned from it. He grew, and
he was showing up. I mean, you saw him showing
up as a bother, as a husband, coaching girls basketball,
sponsoring children's basketball, to grow the game running is you know,
the Mamba academy that he had, and one of the
things that I was really moved by over the last
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week because as a guy, I've got so many other
guy friends who have grown up raising daughters. They've gone
on to have like a you know, a wife, a
house full of daughters, and you almost hear people complain
about that. Sometimes we're like, oh my god, all these
women in the house. And sometimes people will even say
that if you have a male friend who is surrounded
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by a house full of women, you know, it's it
becomes a joke for people sometimes, Oh how do you
deal with that? Must drive you crazy. Kobe embraced it,
and now all of a sudden this week on social media,
I see all those same men showing up putting pictures
of themselves and their daughters and their wives and hashtag
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and girl dad, which was how Kobe described himself. So
it's been amazing to see men showing up more powerfully
as a father and really taking pride in ownership. And
I'm not saying that they didn't before, but it's not
a punchline anymore. It's something to be embraced and celebrated.
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You know. I don't know if kids will be part
of my life one day, but I would be honored,
you know, to be one half of the father that
Kobe Bryant was with the course of his life. When
we talk about life and career reinventions, Kobe Bryant's left
us eight steps to help you create that. Number one,
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Expand your vision, dream bigger. Number two. Plan ahead. Don't
do it by the seat of your pants. There are
multiple routes for you to get there. You could start aside,
hustle while you're in your job. You could go back
to school while you're in your job. You could cut
to part time at your current employer. You could do
what I did. You could quit cold turkey, but have
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a plan in place. Number three. Have the humility to
become a student. Number four. Get mentorship. Number five, Face
your fears. Number six. Gratitude is the bedrock of any
amplified life. Number seven It's about contributing and giving back
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to the people who were behind you. The whole reason
that we want to grow is so that we have
something to pass on that we can share with other people.
It's why I continue to spend money investing in myself
and my personal development. The more I learn, the more
I can serve you on this podcast, the more I
can serve my clients. And finally, number eight, growing from
your mistakes and just getting one percent better? Can you
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be a better person today than you were yesterday? What
about tomorrow? And if you and I can commit to
putting these principles into practice, I don't think that there's
anything that you and I can't achieve in and beyond.
Thank you so much for listening to the podcast. If
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for yet in the show notes. And maybe there's some
of these steps you haven't been able to do on
your own. Maybe you're stuck right now and struggling to
expand your vision. Maybe you can't really put a plan
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in lace for your next level. Maybe what you need
is some mentorship. That's what my coaching programs are designed
to do. I would be honored to help you up
level your career in life. In You can apply for
v I P Coaching at my website Creative Soul Coaching
dot net. I love you for listening, thank you for
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being here, and don't forget. Turned down the volume on
your negativity, turned up the volume on your purpose so
you can live life amplified. I'll talk to you next week.
Hey, it's Dan. You promised yourself twenty would be different,
less time in the office and more time for yourself
and your passions, more time with family and friends. Maybe
you'd finally cross off some of those bucket list items.
You've made these resolutions many times, but here you are
sitting behind the desk once again, buried under an endless
(00:20):
pile of deadlines into dues. If you're one of my listeners,
I know you're a high performer. You embrace your strong
work ethic and you want to crush it in your
career in life. But now you're so overworked and overwhelmed.
Nothing seems to get done. You feel unproductive, unfocused, and
uninspired at work. The more you try to soldier through,
(00:40):
sometimes it feels like the more you fall behind. And
at home you're too exhausted to do much beyond have
a drink and watch Netflix. Maybe you're short tempered and
grumpy with the people that you love and now you're
isolating is a way to not deal with the guilt?
What do you do when the paychecks benefits for a
one k are awesome, but you feel like you have
to choose between having financial wealth and emotional wealth. You
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don't have to choose between making more money and having
a meaningful life. Now really, I'm going to teach you
how to do it. I'm hosting a free online master
class February twelve called the Life Work Balance Blueprint. Why
am I doing this training because it's time for you
to stop overworking, be more productive, and create more balance, happiness,
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and fulfillment at home and at work. Spots are limited
for this training. You can go to the link in
the show notes reserve your space today. I will see
you live and in person February twelve for The Life
Work Balance Blueprint and now episode ninety one eight lessons
on creating an epic life transition that we learned from
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Kobe Bryant's. My name is Dan Mason. I was overweight,
getting divorced, battling depression, and feeling trapped in a career
where I was successful but bored and unfulfilled. And it's
actually greatest gift I've ever been given. I used my
pain as a springboard to discover my life's purpose. Now
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I want to share the same tools and strategies which
helped transform my life with you so you can live
life amplify. It seems only appropriate. This week, we start
with a quote from the late Kobe Bryant who said,
the beauty and being blessed with talent is rising above
doubters to create a beautiful moment. How many of us
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are playing down to the expectations of our naysayers and
not truly stepping into the greatness that is in store
for us. Let's be honest, It's easy for us to
do it. Kobe Bryant is a shining example of a
man who made it to the very top of his
career but realized there was still a next level in
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a greater sense of creativity and self expression that he
wanted to share with the world. He made it happen
this week. We know that success leads clues. We're gonna
go back and I'm gonna give you eight valuable life
lessons that I've taken away from the Kobe Bryant story.
This week is a way to honor one of the
ten greatest basketball players who ever put on a jersey,
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and I think it's really going to inspire you to
think about what's next for you. I know you're already
a high performer, but maybe there's something else out there,
a new career a new idea, a new business you
want to start. Let's learn from Kobe Bryant. We're gonna
get to that content coming up in just a moment,
but before we do it, I want to acknowledge our
listener of the week. It is Alice. One of the
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many emails that I got on last week's episode about
being a workaholic, Alice said, I recognized myself in the
story of being a workaholic. I sent this episode to
six people, including my sister. One friend has already listened
to the whole thing. It was a great conversation around
why we do what we do, even when it's fear based,
she said. And then I walked upstairs to my office
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to work another five hours because I promised a client
a Sunday night deadline. Becoming aware is a good first step.
Blocking out all weekends on my calendar is another amen
to that, Alice. There is a huge difference between listening
to a podcast going to a personal growth seminar intellectually
understanding the content versus actually embodying it. But what I
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want to stress in this workaholic topic, because I think
Kobe Bryant even demonstrates this, there's nothing wrong with working
long hours. You know, you can burn the midnight oil,
you can put in a weekend, but it all depends
on what you're doing after that. Are you taking time
for rest and recuperation or you're you just chasing the
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next goal for the sake of chasing a goal. Is
it really taking you away from the other things you value,
you know, your health and exercise, your family, your friendships.
That is really the key that we have to look
at and one of the topics I'll be going into
more in depth and that training that I mentioned on
February twelve when we talk about the life work balance blueprint.
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But Alice, I appreciate ate you listening, sending you so
much love and if any of the content that we
provide here on the podcast each week is making a
difference for you, feel free to share this with a friend.
You can screenshot the podcast to upload it to Instagram
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Dan Mason and we will shout you out on the
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podcast as well. So as I'm recording this podcast, it's
been a few days since the tragic news of Kobe
Bryant's death and it's been fascinating just to watch on
social media from people who were sports fans, but even
people who aren't. When we lose a celebrity of this
magnitude and somebody who has achieved that level of greatness,
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I think one of the things is it that it
does is it holds a mirror up to all of us,
and it forces us to stare at our own mortality.
I think the story of Kobe, and certainly when you
look at his just thirteen year old daughter that had
her whole life ahead of her, was destined to go
on and play professional basketball in the w n b A,
it just minds us that none of us are getting
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out of here alive. That death is the one thing,
it's the one experience that we all have in common.
So the question becomes, how are you living while you're here?
And one of the things that I just admire most
about this Kobe Bryant story. And this is not going
to be a podcast talking about how late he stayed
in the gym and how hard he worked out and
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all his basketball accomplishments, because that story has been told
over and over. In fact, when I look at the
legacy of Kobe Bryant, for me, it's not about the
twenty year basketball career. It's not about the fifteen time
All Stars selections, it's not about winning five championships. I
think the most interesting chapter of his life was still unfolding,
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because how many people have the courage to completely walk
away from a career where they had reached the absolute
top of their profession and go pursue a new creative endeavor,
to go chase a higher level of self expression in
an area where they had no previous experience. Kobe Bryant
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not only did it, he did it quickly. I mean,
this is a man that you know, started a venture
capital firm, He won an oscar, he was writing children's stories,
producing podcast. He accomplished more in three years after retiring
from basketball than many people accomplish in a lifetime. So
what enabled that to happen? What were the mindset ships?
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Those are the things that I want to get into today.
I want to talk about the eight keys to an
epic life reinvention, and we're gonna do eight of them,
because well, that was one of the numbers that he
wore over the course of his career, and quite honestly,
nobody wants to sit through twenty four success tips that
would be like a seven hour podcast, So let's dive
in and do this. The first thing that really stands
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out to me was he had the audacity to dream bigger.
How many people get to the end of a successful
corporate career, or maybe they're no longer there's no intrinsic
motivation for the work anymore. You've been there, you've done that,
You're going through the motions, but then you segue into
a new career that's just adjacent to the old one.
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I've seen this happen with, you know, so many people
who are sales professionals who are like, well, I'm tired
of hitting the road and selling, I'm just going to
teach selling, you know, and become a corporate trainer. Or
people who leave a successful industry and then they become
a consultant for that industry. Certainly in sports, you know,
most ex athletes with a high profile just move into
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broadcasting or they become a talking head about the old sports.
So many of us just doing what's familiar. The most
typical response I get from my clients who are unsatisfied
in their current line of work and they want to
find their next level. When I ask him what it
is they really want to do. It's always the same response,
I don't know. Confusion is just a pattern, it's never
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really a thing, because if you're confused about what you
want to do next because you're not sure if you
can make it happen, then you'll never allow yourself to
have clarity. Anytime you find yourself saying I don't know,
that's a dissociative response. You're trying to shut down because
you believe that if you really spoke up about what
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you wanted, that it would sound stupid or that it's unrealistic.
Maybe you'd get a crappy response from your friends or family.
But I just did a coaching call last night with
one of my clients when I really pressed her to
go beyond I don't know, and I actually used the
Kobe Bryant analogy. It was like, what if you knew
that you had one year left on the planet and
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that you could chase one dream that was most meaningful bloom?
She answered that in about two seconds. You know, if
we knew exactly how much time we had, maybe we
wouldn't be so scared to go after our dreams. But
you know, we we take time for granted. We tend
to chase money more than anything, and that's not the
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currency that matters. Money comes and goes, goes up and down.
Your investment accounts, your four oh one K fluctuate with
the stock market. You know, if the if the economy
went south tomorrow, you'd lose half your net worth and
it would all just be numbers somewhere on a computer screen.
Time is the one thing you'll never get back. Though
money will come back eventually, you know, the stock investments
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that fall off will always climb again after a recession. Time,
you're never getting back. So this idea of just allowing
yourself to dream bigger, to honor your desires and speak
out loud about what you want is so so key.
You know. I had a client one time, one of
my earliest clients in my first year of coaching, who
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it took her about three sessions before I could even
get her to admit what she wanted. And then of
course she set it up with Okay, we'll promise you
won't laugh at me, you know, because she was aready
preparing herself for rejection, which I never do as a coach.
I believe you have a desire because you also have
a path in the ability to create it. But her
biggest dream was to become a host on a major
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cable TV network. But the problem is she had never
done television. She had no agent, no audition reel, no
head shots, no anything. So on the surface, of course,
it would make no sense for for us to think
that she would want to do it, except that I
just don't operate by that model of reality. So I
worked with her and we did the best that we could.
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She didn't have a TV audition reel, but she sent
in an MP three a voice memo of her and
her iPhone talking about products that she really believed in
because it was one of those home shopping network jobs.
So she sent that in with a head shot that
she just had a photographer friend take and that was it.
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She bought some cute clothes off the sale racket target.
She wasn't all made up with like a glamour shot,
and she sent that in, which, again to somebody within
the TV industry, they would scoff and say, oh, that's
the most unprofessional package ever. But the very next day
she got a call back from the casting agent because
they were so into her energy and the audacity that
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she would even produce the dream. So within eleven weeks
of working together, she was in New York at a
national TV audition in front of the executives of a
major cable network. It never could have happened if she
didn't allow herself to dream big. So that's the first
life lesson that we have to look at if we
want to up level in our life is expanding the
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vision beyond what we know and what's safe, and truly
honoring our soul's desires for expansion and growth. From there,
if you look at the trajectory of Kobe Bryant, he
planned ahead. He didn't just randomly retire from basketball and
throw everything into this dream that he had. He spent
years before retire meant, especially as he got older and
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he felt his body starting to change, and he knew
that there was going to be an expiration date on
his professional athletic career. He planned ahead. So many people,
I think it's stuck in this idea of well, I
have to be in this job because I can't afford
to quit, And maybe you can't afford to quit your
career right now. I understand it. You got kids, you
might have family, you might be trying to pay for college.
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You might be trying to buy your dream home, but
you can still start taking steps towards your next dream
while you're collecting the paycheck at the corporate job. In fact,
for somebody who's really burned out and miserable on the
job that you're in, if you're taking consistent, aligned baby
steps towards your bigger dream, you can almost find gratitude
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for what used to be the soul sucking job, because
it's almost like they're the venture capitalist investing in you
to keep you afloat while you work toward plan B.
So what does planning ahead look like for you? In
the case of Kobe Bryant, you know, he started finding
mint tours and cold calling the most successful people in
the world in their in line of work. We're gonna
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get to that in just a moment. But what does
planning ahead look like for you? If you want to
transition to a brand new career you've never done, what
would you need to do to start acquiring the skills
and the knowledge and the contacts right now? How could
you start networking if you want to start that dream business.
I've had some of my clients start their dream business
as a side hustle, work at it for a year
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in the you know, morning hours before they went into
their day job, or in the evening hours when they
came home, until they got to the point where they
were making enough money that they could quit the day job.
I've had other people go to a part time schedule
at their current job while they build out their next thing.
And then, of course, look there's some crazy people like me.
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I quit my corporate career called turkey and dove into
the deep into the pool because I'm disorganized. Attachment and
chaos is my jam for better or worse. But that's
not the right approach for every You can plan ahead
right now. You can start saving money for your big leap.
Maybe there's a little less money going out on happy
hours and buying the new iPhone, and you can start
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putting that away so that you got a little nest
day get in the bank to keep you comfortable. But
once we honor the intention, we have to start laying
plans to make it happen, which brings me to point
number three from the Kobe Bryant journey. He was humble
enough and had the humility to become a student and
start from scratch he knew he wanted to get into storytelling,
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he didn't quite know how to make it happen. But
this guy started cold calling people like J. K. Rowling
wanting to talk about the art of storytelling. He contacted
Ron Howard, the movie director, and was just trying to
get lunch is scheduled. And by the way, you know,
you and I look at this from the perspective of
just everyday normal people. If Kobe Bryant calls you and I,
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we are picking up the phone and taking that call.
But these are people who are the Kobe Bryant of
their own world. They're not impressed by celebrity. Kobe had
to call these people multiple times a day to even
get them to answer the phone. Think about it. If
you're J. K. Rowling and you've made, you know, pretty
much the biggest book series in the history of publishing,
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What do you want to talk to an NBA player for?
Why are you going to take him? Seriously? He didn't
have his assistant call. He put himself out there graciously
and humbly and blew these people up until he could
get through and schedule the meeting. I read a quote
famously Deepak Chopra's son is a filmmaker and Kobe wanted
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to get with him to talk about a documentary he
wanted to produce. And Deepak's son, whose name eludes me
right now, I feel terrible about that, couldn't do the meeting,
and Kobe Bryant was like, that's fine, I'll reschedule it.
He rescheduled the dinner meeting to his actual birthday. He
gave up his birthday just to go be a student
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and learn from people who were farther ahead in the
area that he wanted to go into. So that's a
question you have to ask yourself. If you've desired a
major transition in your life to get to the next level,
has your ego gotten in the way? Has there been
part of you that things maybe you're above having to
start from the ground up. You know, when I first
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started considering my career change, long before I was really
down a personal development path or I ever thought about
being a coach, you know, I was really into theater.
I knew that that was an interest of mine. I
had studied it in college, so I wasn't dreaming beyond
the level that I knew. But I also knew that
I had a flair for marketing and creating promotions. That
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was a big thing that I did was create a
lot of publicity stunts when I worked in the radio world.
So I started meeting with Broadway producers in New York
trying to figure out how could I get in the
ground door of of becoming marketing. But a lot of
those entry level jobs in the city we're paying, you know,
maybe forty dollars a year tops, and I thought that
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that was beneath me. At that point in my life,
I wouldn't really go pursue the jobs. And there was
somebody who was like, hey, you'd be great at this.
You should start at the ground level, but my ego
got in the way and I wanted to start at
the top. All things considered, in hindsight, that wasn't the
right path for me. Anyway, things worked out exactly the
way that they should. But can you approach this next
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level with a sense of humility and understanding that the
goal here is to be a student? And after all,
what is a master at the end of the day.
A master is a beginner who never stopped beginning, which
leads me to point number four in an epic life transition,
as taught to us by Kobe bryant mentorship. Kobe had
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mentors every step of the way. He did it in basketball,
where he started learning from people like Michael Jordan's who
was a hero. Michael saw the fire in Kobe's eyes
and was willing to really talk to him about the game,
and he continued to find mentors in the business world.
Think about this, Kobe Bryant never even went to college.
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He skipped from high school straight to the NBA when
he was seventeen years old. So this is not a
man who had a bunch of fancy degrees in the
back of his pocket, and yet he wanted to start
a venture capital firm. So what did he have to do.
He had to find existing people who were successful in
the world of business and learned from them. Just one
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of the things I admire most about this guy. How
many people sit back and say, well, I can't do
the thing that I want because I don't have a
degree in it. You know, I saw a Facebook message
recently from somebody in my timeline who just got laid
off at a job. You know, there's an industry where
there's a bunch of layoffs happening. It's my old industry
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in radio, and there's been massive layoffs at multiple companies recently.
And this person was going on and on about, oh
my god, you know I have this degree that is
now worthless. I spent thirty thous and dollars to get
this degree and it means nothing. But here's the thing.
Every degree means nothing at the end of the day.
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And I'm not anti college, I'm not anti learning. But
your value is not defined by an expensive piece of paper.
We've talked about this. Your value are your gifts and
your creativity and your ideas and your empathy and compassion
that you're sharing with the world. Go back and listen
to the episode I think it was two episodes back,
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about how to really own your inner value. We do
a deep dive on that topic. I come across so
many people who want to do what I do as
a coach, and they're like, oh, well, you know, I
need to go back, I need to get a certification,
and then they get it, and then they want six
more certifications and other modalities before they feel ready. I'm
making air quotes as I say that you're ready when
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you decide you are. And I think that that's one
of the beautiful things that we learned. Kobe Bryant, is
you start today, you just learn and you make it happen. Obviously,
if you want to get into some precision field and
you want to become a heart surgeon, that is going
to require a fair amount of schooling that you have
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to go through. But many of the soft skills and
the things that allow us to use our creativity and
empathy doesn't require any training at all. I mean, you
can get started. If you want to help people, you
can help people right now. I think in four and
a half years of coaching, three people have asked me
about my training and certifications. People who are in pain
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just want to know that you can help them through
that pain that they're experiencing in their lives. Kobe Bryant
did not go to college to get a degree in writing.
He didn't go get an m b A. He just
dove in and followed his desires because he knew his
desires were aligned with his destiny, and he learned from
mentors who could help him speed up the process. Let's
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move into the fifth point on how to create an
epic life reinvention. Kobe Bryant faced his fear. There's a
great article on ESPN recently by Ramona Shelborne who talked
about Kobe mentoring women's basketball star Candice Parker and Kobe
talked to her before the final game of the w
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NBA Finals. Candice Parker is somebody who had wanted every
level of her career except professionally, and her failure to
do so was starting to become a defining characteristic of
her life. So, according to the story, Kobe called her
and asked her, what are you afraid of? And I
love this quote. He said, You're either going to lose scared,
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or you're going to win. It's that simple. And as
the article goes on to explain, Kobe is not a
guy who was fearless. He wasn't born with some different
d n A. Of course, he experienced fears just like
everybody else, but he had this uncanny ability to will
himself beyond it. Here's a quote directly from Kobe. He says,
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to a certain extent, every day I was vulnerable. You're
always dealing with fear, with something in your imagination, something
that you think can happen. But you just say, I
don't know if I can do that, but I'll give
it a try. There's a great story about Kobe recovering
from an achilles tendon injury that he blew it out
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on the basketball court and missed play for about a year.
But during his time off rehabbing, he became obsessed with
the legend of Achilles, who was the warrior from Greek
mythology who chose a short life that would be remembered
for eternity over a long life of little consequence. And
you can see that that's why Kobe showed up to
face his fears. I think, you know, maybe on some
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soul level, he knew that he wouldn't be here for
seventy or eighty years, and he lived every day like
it was his last. Could you and I harness that
same energy and do the same? Could we honor Kobe's legacy?
I mean, it's not even about honoring Kobe's legacy. Can
you honor your personal legacy? Can you honor your desires
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and your purpose and your internal calling into the world?
Is it worth risking the scary action step? The next
point about an epic life reinvention, and I think it's
just the foundation of an amplified life period. Kobe was
a man that lived in gratitude. The morning after he
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played his final professional basketball game, which, by the way,
he put up sixty points in his final career game.
He got up and he went to church the next morning.
So many athletes, we've seen the stories. They sink into
depression after their career is over. People do it in
corporate America as well. People do it after they lose
a job. People don't know what to do with themselves.
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Kobe got up the following morning after his final game
and he went to church. Here's a great quote. He said,
I think after twenty years, I think it's important to
give thanks for having such a blessed of life. I
wanted to make sure I went and paid my respects
and just said thank you. So many of the blessings
in your life. You might be taking them for granted
right now, the things that were one's dreams. Once we
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get there, we just making an expectation. I've done it
in my life. I am not innocent on this. I've
told you the story about working this whole career as
a coach to live on the beach in Lahoya and
then finding myself so stressed out. I'm not even spending
time looking at this beautiful beach outside my window, like
I would be out walking my dog, just focused on
what do I have to do next, and not being
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grateful for where I was. But the key here is
to trade in the expectations for gratitude, because you can't
be depressed, you can't be piste off, you can't be
feeling sorry for yourself when you are in a state
of gratitude. And it really does you know. I think
it's one of the two master keys to unlock your
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next level in life. What is the second master key? Well,
that gets here into the seventh point in creating an
epic re invention in your life. It's about giving back.
It's about contribution. Kobe was quoted as saying, I enjoy
passing things on. Some people want to take it with
him to the grave, like Lord of the Rings. The
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world is filled with a lot of people who can't
let go of the damn ring. He gave up basketball altogether.
He turned it over to future generations, but he also
gave back and started mentoring people in other sports. Djokovic,
the world class tennis player. Kobe Bryant was a mentor
of his. It's been said that when he saw something
special and someone who reached out to him, he always
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tried to answer. He said, people who I know are
passionate about what they do. I just like seeing them
do great things. That's what I enjoy. He would always
text people back. Sometimes it was one line, sometimes it
was an emoji. When you talk to people who were
close to him, he had a knack for telling people
what it is that they needed to hear in the moment.
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Also very generous with charity as well, over two hundred
wishes granted through Make a Wish Foundation. Social media was
just littered with all the times that he went and
showed up and visited six children in the hospital, never
took a pr team or cameras until he never wanted
the attention. He just did it out of the kindness
of his heart. And that'll bring us to the final
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piece of the puzzle. As we talk about all the
life lessons we can learn from Kobe Bryant. He is,
without question, a man who grew from his mistakes. And look,
I don't want to sugarcoat this. I don't think you
can talk about the legacy of Kobe Bryant without talking
about the rape allegations that happened in Colorado. You know,
twenty years ago, Kobe's admission in court was that he
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believed it was a consensual experience, and he realized in
hindsight that it was not. I don't know. I wasn't there.
I don't know exactly what happened, and that's between Kobe
and the accuser. Quite honestly, I know that there was
an apology. I know that you know there was a
financial settlement. But what I also know is that the
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man who passed away last week at forty one years
old was very different than the twenty four year old
guy that got in trouble. And I also say this
just I want to be clear. I understand and empathize
with the people who can't see beyond the incident that
happened in Colorado. I get that what happened was terrible,
but he had become and was becoming even more of
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an exceptional human being in the aftermath. Whatever went down
in that experience, he learned from it. He grew, and
he was showing up. I mean, you saw him showing
up as a bother, as a husband, coaching girls basketball,
sponsoring children's basketball, to grow the game running is you know,
the Mamba academy that he had, and one of the
things that I was really moved by over the last
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week because as a guy, I've got so many other
guy friends who have grown up raising daughters. They've gone
on to have like a you know, a wife, a
house full of daughters, and you almost hear people complain
about that. Sometimes we're like, oh my god, all these
women in the house. And sometimes people will even say
that if you have a male friend who is surrounded
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by a house full of women, you know, it's it
becomes a joke for people sometimes, Oh how do you
deal with that? Must drive you crazy. Kobe embraced it,
and now all of a sudden this week on social media,
I see all those same men showing up putting pictures
of themselves and their daughters and their wives and hashtag
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and girl dad, which was how Kobe described himself. So
it's been amazing to see men showing up more powerfully
as a father and really taking pride in ownership. And
I'm not saying that they didn't before, but it's not
a punchline anymore. It's something to be embraced and celebrated.
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You know. I don't know if kids will be part
of my life one day, but I would be honored,
you know, to be one half of the father that
Kobe Bryant was with the course of his life. When
we talk about life and career reinventions, Kobe Bryant's left
us eight steps to help you create that. Number one,
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Expand your vision, dream bigger. Number two. Plan ahead. Don't
do it by the seat of your pants. There are
multiple routes for you to get there. You could start aside,
hustle while you're in your job. You could go back
to school while you're in your job. You could cut
to part time at your current employer. You could do
what I did. You could quit cold turkey, but have
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a plan in place. Number three. Have the humility to
become a student. Number four. Get mentorship. Number five, Face
your fears. Number six. Gratitude is the bedrock of any
amplified life. Number seven It's about contributing and giving back
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to the people who were behind you. The whole reason
that we want to grow is so that we have
something to pass on that we can share with other people.
It's why I continue to spend money investing in myself
and my personal development. The more I learn, the more
I can serve you on this podcast, the more I
can serve my clients. And finally, number eight, growing from
your mistakes and just getting one percent better? Can you
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be a better person today than you were yesterday? What
about tomorrow? And if you and I can commit to
putting these principles into practice, I don't think that there's
anything that you and I can't achieve in and beyond.
Thank you so much for listening to the podcast. If
this serves you, if you'd love to share it with
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can tag me at c sc Dan Mason. You can
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Life Amplified Power Tribe. Will leave a link for that
for yet in the show notes. And maybe there's some
of these steps you haven't been able to do on
your own. Maybe you're stuck right now and struggling to
expand your vision. Maybe you can't really put a plan
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in lace for your next level. Maybe what you need
is some mentorship. That's what my coaching programs are designed
to do. I would be honored to help you up
level your career in life. In You can apply for
v I P Coaching at my website Creative Soul Coaching
dot net. I love you for listening, thank you for
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being here, and don't forget. Turned down the volume on
your negativity, turned up the volume on your purpose so
you can live life amplified. I'll talk to you next week.
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