February 19, 2020 • 40 mins
Dan often talks about the importance of stacking the deck in your favor on this podcast, creating a firewall of support around you.
Last time Jeanette Scheider was on the podcast, she was promoting her new book, Lore: Harnessing Your Past to Create Your Future. At the time, she was still working in her corporate career after working in it for 23 years. She wasn't sure what the next step in her life was going to be at that moment.
Now she's back and things sure have changed! She has completely reinvented her career!
Today, Jeanette is the CEO of her own media and software company, LIV Media, Inc. She's also a speaker and the host of her podcast, "Gold with Jeanette Schneider."
Topics Jeanette and Dan will discuss today include:
- How to truly plan your exit from your current job so you can get busy living your purpose and creating a new chapter.
- The importance of knowing your financials and truly preparing for the next phase of your life.
- The power of purpose and how when you harness yours the universe helps you to move forward.
- How accountability can be a powerful tool to keep you moving in the right direction.
- Why you need to surround yourself with strong people in business and in life that see your blind spots, cheer you on and keep you moving in the right direction.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Episode ninety three, How to Achieve More through Accountability with
Jeanette Schneider. My name is Dan Mason. In I was overweight,
getting divorced, battling depression, and feeling trapped in a career
where I was successful but bored and unfulfilled. And it's
actually the greatest gift I've ever been given. I used
my pain as a springboard to discover my life's purpose.
(00:23):
Now I want to share the same tools and strategies
which helped transform my life with you so you can
live life amplify. The basketball player Joe Dumars once said
that on good teams, coaches hold players accountable. On great teams,
players old players accountable. Hello, and welcome back everybody to
(00:44):
Life Amplified. Shout out to you for investing thirty five
minutes in your personal growth this week, and thank you
so much for making this podcast a part of that time.
One of the messages that I'm always preaching on this
show is the importance of stacking the deck in your favor,
creating a firewall of support around you in every direction. Now,
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I truly believe that one of the fastest, most efficient
ways to get clarity of your purpose understand the subconscious
blocks that are holding you back and create your action
plan forward is to work with a one on one coach.
When I'm working with my one on one clients, I
can help anybody recreate their inner environment. But our guest
today is going to reinforce the idea of having an
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external environment that supports the person that you want to become.
Last time, my friend Jeanette Schneider was on the podcast.
She was here to promote her book Lore Harnessing Your
Past to Create Your Future. But at that time, Jeanette
was still in the twenty third year of her corporate
financial career and still uncertain about how she wanted to
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show up and how she wanted to live her purpose
in the world. As she explains today, having the right
support and accountability partners in business and in life have
helped her completely reinvent her career. Today, she is the
CEO of her own media and software company called Live Media, Inc.
As well as being a speaker and host of the
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podcast Gold with Jeanette Schneider. Jeanette's work has been featured
at Thrive, Global, Mind, Body, Green Elite, Daily, Bustle, and
many other media outlets. Some of the topics she and
I will discuss today are how to truly plan your
exit from your current job so you can get busy
living your purpose and creating a new chapter. She'll talk
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about the importance of knowing your financials and truly preparing
for the next phase of your life. We'll discuss the
power of purpose and how when you harness yours, the
universe works to help you move forward, How accountability can
be a powerful tool to keep you moving in the
right direction, and why you need to surround yourself with
strong people in business and in life that see your
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blind spots, cheer you on and keep you moving in
the right direction. Plus, we're going to discuss her new app,
the Live Kick Coach, which is a great resource to
start asking those bigger questions about who you want to be,
Plus an app that will give you some built in
accountability so that you can massively up level your life
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in One of the things I love most about Jeanette
is just this beautiful balance between her masculine and feminine energy.
You know, this is a woman who is very driven.
She is so goal oriented. She is making amazing things
happen in her business and in her life. But it's
really led by that feminine energy, desire for connection and
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for love and for nurturing. So it's always a pleasure
to talk to her. I think you're going to enjoy
the conversation, and if you do, please screenshot this podcast.
You can upload it to Instagram, tag me at c
SC Dan Mason, and you can follow Jeannette at MS
Jeanette Schneider. If you're stuck in a job where you
love your paycheck but you know you're not living your purpose,
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Janette's going to fire you. She has found the exit plan.
She'll share it with us this week as we talk
about the power of accountability on Life Amplified. Jeanette Schneider,
Welcome back to Life Amplified. You think I love having
conversations with you. This is amazing. First of all, I
always love when podcast guests go on to become friends
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and people that I actually get to work with on projects.
So we're going to talk about all the exciting things
that you've got going on and that I've been so
privileged that you invited me to be part of. But
I think it's interesting for context because people could go
back and listen to the first podcast that we did.
I think it was around the fall of and at
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that point you were promoting your book, which was amazing,
and we had a great conversation about that, but behind
the scenes, you were still laying the groundwork for the
next phase of your life. You had not fully completed
that big leap into chasing your dreams. So can you
talk a little bit about just what the last year
and a half has been? Like? Where were you at
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when you had the book and really just trying to
figure out what the hell you were going to do
next throughout the journey of believing Corporate and now where
you're at now. I know I lived like multiple lives
in the course of twenty four months. It's been really insane.
And you know, to think back to when I was
promoting the book and you and I were talking like
that was like, I was so proud of what I
had accomplished, and I'm so proud of putting this book
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into the world. And I, at the time had not
yet left my job in Corporate America. I was a
senior vice president, a wealth management advisor, and I had
this beautiful book. I knew that I was going to leave,
but I didn't know what that looked like. I didn't
know where that was going to leave me. I just
knew I loved having a platform. I love talking about
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things that were important to me and helping other people.
What I was doing was no longer really feeding my soul,
and my company was because I had my investment licensing,
I was regulated and so they were like, hey, you
can do some media, but not a lot of media.
You're not allowed to have a manager, You're not allowed
to have a podcast. We have to like review every
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pr opportunity that you have. And I was like, okay,
so I have to sit in this little kind of
box right in order to talk about the things that
really light me up. But I have this amazing career, um,
but it just it didn't match anymore. And I think
it's kind of funny because sometimes when you're on the
precipice of something new, or you are starting to kind
of look over the wall and be like, there's something
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else out there, like you can feel like a separation
within yourself. You can almost feel like your soul splitting.
You're kind of like, Okay, this doesn't feel natural to
me anymore. I'm not lit up in the same way.
I kind of want to go over here, and even
if over here means uncertainty and no benefits and no money,
like you're kind of like, I'll figure it out. So
that's kind of where I was. And then I decided
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to leave Corporate America shortly after we talked. I knew
I was leaving, but I finally made the choice, like,
this is what I'm gonna do. I need to go
spend some time away and figure out what my platform
is going to be. I knew I was going to
create a platform, I didn't know what it was going
to look like. I know I had a media company
and me. What I didn't realize is I had both
the media and a software company in me. I know
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that's crazy, isn't it just to say that out loud.
I made the leap, and I did a lot of
research to figure out what was next and call in partners.
And it was a big It was a big shift.
Tell me about that journey of being there in the
job and sort of having to wear a mask to
go in and be the responsible financial person every day.
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Was there a pressure for you to sort of play
down or maybe dim your light in order to tow
the company line or to be what they needed you
to be. So and we've met in person, so you know,
it's very hard for me to like to dim my life,
very difficult. So I did talk very openly about the
fact that I had written a book and then I
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had been writing for years, and I did not get
into a lot of detail right about what I wanted
to do, and it was more like, oh, this was
just something that like, it was my activism and it
was something I needed to get done. So I played
it down a lot. But it was very hard for
me not to talk about, you know, the book and
what I was learning, and especially with my colleagues, um
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with clients, they all looked at me like I was nuts.
So I did. I was very conscientious because the idea
of someone who's managing money writing a self development book
kind of makes their eyes cross a little bit. They're like,
I'm sorry what. So there definitely was kind of like
a divorcing of that part of my personality depending on
who was in front of me and making sure that
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I kind of justified it. It It was kind of like
when I want on maternity leave, like I'm like, I'm
pregnant and I'm excited about this part of my life,
but not a percent excited because I'm still going to
be here for you, Like, do you have to be
like this whole part of my life is like so amazing,
but it's it's not as amazing as you are right
this it's like a game. And I love the fact
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you share that. And the other thing that I just
wanted to touch on that I'm hearing you share is
taking the leap before you have clarity, acting with courage,
before you're really clear on the destination. I meet so
many people and here from so many listeners at this
podcast who are like, damn, I'm close. You know, as
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long as I have the entire map planned out and
I know exactly where I'm going, and I know how
the benefits are going to be paid and how much
money is going to come in, then I'll go chase
after my dreams. What was the resistance for you? How
long did you grapple with that? And really what was
the moment where you said the hell with it, I'll
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build the parachute on the way down. I knew for
about two years that I was going to move from corporate,
but I also made a really good living. Um, so
it was kind of hard because I had created a lifestyle.
An I think I had wrote my head around that too,
like do you walk away from? And it was an
identity d I had created an identity. I was so
proud of my title and all of that stuff. But
what helped me, And this is one of the things
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I tell other people, get clear on your money. And
I think for me, I struggle with coaches who are like,
leave now and you'll figure it out, but they don't
really know the financial situation of the person um. So
for me, like I aged her, I knew like what
my safety net, what was what my buffer was, how
much time I would have before I would have to
go get another job. I really had that planned out,
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and I knew my numbers so well, and my background
was financed, so that made sense. But I didn't know
what day it was going to be. And you know,
in my career there's a lot of in fighting and
you know, arguing over clients and money, who's going to
pay who what, and who gets to split of what
and all of that stuff. Everyone feels like they want
to throw their hat in the ring and get credit
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for deals. And I had gone through it for I
mean my entire career, and there there was finally one
last fight. And every time I had gone into my
boss's office and like she's like so and so feels
that they should get this part of this or so.
Once I was upset about that and they're calling me
because they want you to stand down, I would walk
out and I would be like, I have enough money
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to start my own yoga studio. I have enough money
to start my own this and so like all these
little things woul bubble into my head. And it was
a final day. We were sitting across the table and
I was in an argument with someone about the way
we're going to have a client, like how we were
going to work on a client deal. And I finally
I was like, this is it's today. Today's the day
I just knew. I just knew within my my being.
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And after everyone left the room, I asked to talk
to my boss and I was like, it's time for
me to go. And she looked at me. She's like, no,
what do you like? Don't let this And I was like, no,
this is all I do. I fight all the time.
I'm tired of fighting all the time, and I have
this other stuff that lights me up. It makes me
so happy, like I'll figure it out. And I asked him, like,
can I stay on until September? I told her, I
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think it July, and she said, you're going to stay
on through the end of the year, so we make
sure that we bonus you out for everything that you
did this year. UM, I will continue. She ended up
paying me for another eight months, even though I didn't
show up in the office for six of those. UM. Yeah.
And she even said, she's like, hey, just wrap up
your stuff, like, make sure your clients are introduced to
their new teams, make sure that you're flying around and
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sitting in those initial meetings. And then if you don't
want to come in, you don't have to come in.
And she just wanted me to be okay, and that
is unusual. It's such proof also that I think like
people looking at all, well, you had a generous boss,
Yes you did, but then when you make the committed decision,
the universe has a way of opening up and providing
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for you so that you're okay. I've seen that happen
with so many clients as well. Once they make the
committed decision, you know, an income source or a revenue
stream pops up that they didn't see before. And there's
always a way to fund that gap between taking the
leap and creating the new thing. And I am very grateful.
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I'm very grateful because it provided me a little bit
more space, space to create based two questions, space to
poke at what this was going to be. When you
make those were footed steps, and sometimes they're not sure
footed right. Sometimes they're just like I'll figure this out,
like you said, like build a parachute on the way down.
But once you move into purpose, I think that the
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universe is very benevolent. I love that. I love that
so much. Let's also talk for a moment, just because
I want to get into the topic today about accountability.
One more loose end to tie up. For the person
who doesn't necessarily have the financial means, they don't have
the nest each does that mean that they can't start
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on a dream or does it just look differently for
that person? Absolutely not. And keep in mind my writing,
and I mean I wrote for magazines in Las Vegas
and a couple of different um cities for years, and
that had been approved because I would write about stuffing
had nothing to do with what I did for a living.
I did that for ten years you can absolutely have
a side hustle that you lean into and you start
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to I would never be prepared to write a book
and leave my firm had I not spent ten years
writing publicly, had I not been a subject matter expert
on gender lens investing from my firm, which gave me
the opportunity to both be like an executive with a platform,
but also dig a little bit into public speaking around
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issues that were important to me. So I was able
to find ways to build up my experience as a
side hustle and in some ways marrying my interest with
my my firm, so that by the time I was
ready to make the leap, I had a really I
had really strong legs. I wasn't jumping into something that
I hadn't already played within. And so that's what I
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would say with someone who doesn't have, you know, the
the income or the nest egg. Create your side hustle
and if you wanted people like, oh my god, that's
so much work, Okay, well you don't want it bad enough,
then yes, time is limited, But I bend time. I
am able. I was. At the time that I was
writing my book, I was divorced, co parenting traveling the
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country for a job and writing a book. When I
had my daughter, it was seven days on, seven days off.
I was a mom. When I did not have my daughter,
or I was on a plane, I was writing like
a fiend. Um. If you want something bad enough, you
will make it happen. So somebody's listening, going, well, you know,
Jeanette had the retirement benefits and her company took care
of her on the way out. You know, well, she's
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she's just the lucky one, you know. But having the
financial nest egg is no guarantee that moving into the
next phase of your life you'll be a success. Absolutely,
absolutely not. I have panic attacks on like seven days
a week. I'm so out of seven days six days
a week, I'm like, this is amazing. I'm living my dream.
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And one day a week I'm like waking up, like,
all right, Jeanette, get your head around your mindset. You're
not a total failure. Yeah no, there's no there's no guarantees.
And I bring that up just because I think people
make this conversation all about money when it comes to
moving into a next level in your life. They think, well,
you know, the money is what makes it happen. No.
I mean, look, money helps, but you've also got to
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have your mindset in place. You need the team, the
support around you. And that's why I wanted to talk
today about accountability. How much did that factor in? What
was the support that you enlisted in your life that
helped you make this leap, as you said, not just
into a media company but now also a software company. Absolutely,
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for me, the people who surround me have always been
my greatest resource. They are my my backbone. And it
wasn't always that way. My divorce was very hard, hard time,
and when I went through my divorce, I was still
working for my firm, and I realized shortly after in
the process of divorcing my ex, that I was surrounded
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by toxic friends and toxic people, and that they didn't
want to see me win, and that I would have
to mute my excitement and my successes. And I realized,
like it's time for me to clean house, and I did,
and I've done that a couple of times where I
looked around and I was like, these people aren't for me.
And I ended some friendships and I moved into another
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friend group where we all just wanted to see each
other when and we wanted to support each other, and
we all kind of skyrocketed into our own kind of
careers and trajectories where now these two friends of mine
are living their dreams and other cities, and we still
check in with each other, but we've all done the
things that we were talking about when we were sitting
around the table having coffee or wine. And my friendships
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are not friendships, and my partnerships are not partnerships where
we sit around and we gossip. We sit around and
we talk about how we want to change the world,
how we want to grow ourselves, what kind of relationships
we want to be in, Like we don't we we
don't have in Style magazine or lip glass. I mean, yeah,
I'll read them if I need some brain candy, because
I've been working crazy hours, but a very different mindset
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than I had previously, where my girlfriends were just where
I went to complain and um wine and gossip and
all of that stuff. And now especially I knew how
important it was going to be for me to surround
myself with with really valuable, high vibe people who could
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provide me the support I needed, but that I could
I could provide some kind of help back. So I
have a very tight little crew now of friends. And
I have to even say partners and specialists and advisors
that I've brought in to help me specifically with my
company have turned into people who will become lifelong friends
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because there is a trust that is built when you
value someone and you work on your relationship and they
want to see you in. And I recognize how lucky
I am. Even with my developer, it took me four
months to convince him that he wanted to build the
up with me, the Live Pocket Coach, and he wasn't
sure because he's like, there's enough apps out there in
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the world. But I had talked to other developers and
I loved talking to him, and I knew that he
would be a great partnership, and I knew that we
spoke the same language. And here it is. We we
contracted in June. It's now February as we record this.
We have an app out, it's already won words, and
he's doing stuff he doesn't need to do, Like tonight
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we're getting on a phone call because he's gonna help
me build a click funnel. He's going to help me
do this. This is because we have built such a
beautiful friendship that I call him my work soul mate.
It's so important and valuable to call in the people
that you know that you want to do business with
or life with on a long term basis. Where does
somebody go to find that? I think about where I
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was in my old career, same way, you know, working
in the radio industry, sitting around at lunch, gossiping about
who wore what at the oscars and making you know, snarky,
awful judgments, all comments about other people. But because that
met a need for connection at that point in time,
I certainly couldn't have set down with a lot of
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those people and had deep conversations about overcoming your deepest,
darkest traumas and living your purpose. Where does somebody even go?
If there, if they notice that they are surrounded by
low vibe friends, who are into the gossip, who are
into happy hour, where do they go? I think, once
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you set the intention that you want to bring in
those really beautiful people into your life and you start
on a kind of your self development journey, the old
friends like it's that same kind of separation right all
of a sudden, You're like, they don't feel as good
and then these new people start to come into your life.
Like for me, I have a lot of faith, I
pray a lot, and I talked to the universal regular basis,
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And as I got to know people, I would kind
of feel them out and I literally mean, like, how
do they feel when I'm talking to them? How does
this relationship? How is it building? Could I see a
long term relationship with them? Let me spend some time
getting to know them and knowing whether or not this
is someone that I want in my circle right And
for me, it's it's finding those people who are on
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the journey with you. And that's that's absolutely why. Like
we created Sean, So my developer and I we kept
talking about accountability because he's like everyone in my life
is like I just want someone to hold me accountable.
And I am very high achieving and I hold myself
at a very high regard, but I also need those
people to be like, hey, Jeanette, don't forget this. Hey Jeanette,
didn't you say you were going to do this? Why
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are you falling asleep at the wheel on this thing?
And so we kept having this conversation over and over
and over again. So we actually decided to build it
within the app called Circles. It's basically accountability group, so
that you can find community when you're working on up
leveling your life. You can join a space where people
are trying to achieve the same types of goals that
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you are, that are like minded. But you can find
that at conferences, you can find those in online groups,
you can find them within your community when you're looking
for it. Jeanette, you mentioned the app the Live Pocket Coach,
which is part of your software company that you're developing now.
In addition to media, talk a little bit more about
the genesis of where that came from, and just talked
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about all the amazing features that you have for people
when they sign up for the app. The genesis. It's
so funny. As I was leaving corporate and I was
kind of staring into this guy, like what is this
thing that I'm building? I checked into so many different platforms.
I was like, is this kajabi? Is it teachable? Is
it going on Facebook? Is it a coaching practice? Is
it a live event? Is it a retreat? And I don't.
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I don't honestly, I don't think of myself as as
a coach, So I was like, none of none of
those things felt aligned with what I wanted to create,
Like I've always felt like the cruise director, like the curator,
and so I'm like, Okay, well, how do I how
do I curate an experience where people will have access
to uplovel their lives? And one day, after playing with
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a bunch of different platforms, I realized it needs to
be an app, and so I kind of put that
out there in the in the universe, and like, literally
within two days, I had gotten an email from one
of Shawn's colleagues kind of pitching me on a social
media product that they had, and it was the best
written pitch i'd read. I got a lot of pitches,
and I was like, I'm just curious. I clicked on
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the profile and linked in and it's like we also
developed apps, and I was like, oh, well, that's crazy.
So I reached out to them. We got on the phone,
we had several conversations, and as we were talking about
mental health and accountability and quieting the noise and how
to use technology as a platform for good and a
content distribution platform that would be readily accessible and available
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but also not feel like a bunch of noise coming
at you, UM a place where you feel safe and
not judged. It kind of grew and became and it's
so funny because now as I look at it, I mean,
you can go in and you can set goals, and
as you set your goals, we actually will curate content
and send it to you so that you have audiophiles
from coaches. Dan included, you have a fantastic five day challenge.
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I joked that I am the token penis in the group,
like like all the all the commercials I've seen for
Live or all these like women with really soothing voices,
and like, I'm going to teach you about self love
and I'm your meditation and self care coach. And it's like, hey,
I'm damn token penis. Let's talk about your career. Now
we've got to UM well. And I was like some
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I was like, are you just is this just for women?
And I'm like, absolutely not, and I love my partner.
Is so funny. One of his friends was like, hey, yeah,
so like this is like a chick thing, right, and
he like turning, He's like, absolutely not. I listened to it.
He actually listened to your challenge and was like, I
realized that my work environment is toxic. I was like, amazing,
you know, I'll throw it out there too, because I
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go to plenty of these personal development conferences and things
like that where it usually is eight women in the audience.
More than ever, this is such a time for men
to doing their own work, to really be finding their purpose,
to affect how we step up as partners, as parents,
as leaders in the world. And you're seeing the effects
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just in the news of decades of toxic masculinity and
the effect on our society. And I think for men,
it's hard. It's hard to reach out and ask for help,
and it's hard to find a good first step on
where to go. And that's why I think something like this,
where you can do it in the privacy of your
own home. It's not the end goal, but it's such
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a powerful first step to even get you exploring those
deeper questions about who am I and what do I
want to do with my life? And that's why I
I was telling someone the other day, I'm like, I
feel like the cruise director where I'm literally like, come
in and meet my friends, because I think this is
something I wish I would have had when I was
going through such a terrible time after my divorce. I
mean that was literally two to three years of me
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pulling myself out of the depth of health. I was
going to every conference, I was reading every book. I
was like, if you had this is really funny. I
would go on Pinterest and I created a board that
was literally just self help quote so that when I
was having a really dark day, I would just go
in there and read it. And I didn't realize that
as I was pinning that people could see what I
was pinning and I had to reach out and there like, hey,
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are you going through something like what's going on? I
was like, oh my god, Well, because you're such a
high performer, and you know, I consider myself to be one.
That is such a difficult thing. When you're a high
performer and so much of your value and self worth
is based on what you're accomplishing and being like head
of the class. To have those moments of vulnerability to say,
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you know, what, things aren't going the way I want
and I feel lonely or I feel unfulfilled. It's a
difficult thing for high performers to do, but it's such
a powerful thing for high performers to do well. I
think you have to be in charge of your mindset
every single morning. You know, I was joking the other day.
I woke up and I don't wait up like, hey guys,
I'm changing the world. I wake up with fears and
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doubts and all kinds of stuff. And I literally spent
a few minutes in bed every morning having a conversation
about with myself about all of the positive things that
are going on. And maybe it wouldn't be the same
like when I would wake up in my former career.
I'd wake up and I'd be like, oh, I don't
want to buy the opposite. I've got to deal with
this loan dog. I've got a deal completely different thing.
There was some security there right, like I knew I
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was going to get a paycheck, even though I had
to deal with drama. Where now I wake up and
all of the fears about that big league that I made,
or you know, is this going to pop? Are people going?
Am I going to get the subscriptions that we need?
Are people really going to respond to it? All of
those things pop into my head. So I've actually created
a note in my phone. It's a pep talk to
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myself that I can read on the days that I don't.
So it's it's moved on from a Pinterest board now
to the pep talk. But one of the things that
I think is really beautiful is that I just want
to shorten the distance for the next person, Right, I
want to invite them into this space where they can
be um introduced to coaches that they've they may not
have access to you, right, And once you start following
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one or two of them, you're going to kind of
be pulled into this little vortex of positivity. Right, You're
going to become kind of match in this circle of
people who are trying to make their lives better as
well as if you're opting into the circles, because then
you're actually going to build a little community of people
who are working on the same goals with you. So
you have this really beautiful space for you to start.
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It's like the gateway. Maybe it's maybe it's the gateway
to to coaching and the gateway to a better life.
It's funny because I'm up on some of the dating
apps is a single guy and I don't even know
which one it is. Maybe it's Bumble that has like
you know that the generic sort of like feeder questions
to help you get to know people. There's a question about,
you know, who is the person or thing that that
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holds you most accountable in your life? And I noticed
this trend with so many women have seen on the
apps where the answer is myself, I keep myself accountable,
and for me, I always look at that and maybe
maybe this is wrong. I'd love to get your take
on this, you know, from your side, I always view
that as a red flag. I'm like, oh, there's somebody
in avoidance. That is somebody that likes to just kind
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of go into their hole and do things on their own.
Can people really truly hold themselves accountable and reach the
levels of success that they want and that they desire,
or is this something that we truly need to do
in community? We have to do it in community. As
an a side, that could be marketing. It could be
them saying I'm like an amazing independent woman, do you
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know what I mean? So you, as a coach may
see it one way, they may see it as another.
If you look at any high achieving CEO, most of
the time they talk about their circle or their spouse,
how their spouse had so much to do with their success.
How the people that are around them have so much
to do with your success Because you can have amazing
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accountability tools, but you're working in a vacuum, you are alone.
It's the same as when we were building the app,
Like we thought it was absolutely gorgeous, but then we
would sit in front of a room of twenty people
and say pick it apart for us, and they every
single time would come up with like, hey, I would
change this. I would change that when you're working in
a vacuum alone, And and God bless the people who
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have their own accountability practices. Um, I think that's amazing.
I do too. We go off track, we get into
our old stories, we get into our heads. So sometimes
you need those people around you who are going to
look at you and be like not today, sis, And
I think that you have to have that. Like I was,
this is kind of funny, but back in the day,
my friendships were all about gossip, right, And then I
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was like, I'm not doing this anymore because it makes
me feel bad, Like I've never felt so insecure about
my body. If you're in my life and you make
my shoulders slump in or make me question the way
I look. I don't want you in my life anymore. Right,
But I moved everyone out and then I brought in
a new circle of friends and it was all like,
all right, what are we working on, what are we doing?
Blah blah blah blah blah, And we all just achieved,
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we did a great job. There was no gossiping. And
then as everyone kind of went in their separate directions
because everyone moved to new cities to go after those
big dreams. Um, I brought in this new group of
people and like one of them is an attorney and
she's a dear friend of mine, and she'll sit across
the table for me and she's like, Okay, right now
i'm your friend or at this moment, i'm gonna I'm
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talking to you like an attorney. Um. And there's been
a couple of times where she's like, I've seen you
do this before, where you're right at the precipice of
like getting ready to have something big happen, and you
wonder if it was worth it. And I'm just going
to tell you this, this this is a pattern that you
have that you don't realize that you do. I've seen
you do it three times, now, knock it off, push through.
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You're about You're about to pop. And I'm like, oh
my god, you know what I mean, Like, what a
beautiful friendship. And then I was at the gym yesterday.
I was telling my my boyfriend about this. I was
at the gym yesterday, had just taken in a amazing
yoga class. I was so sweaty, so like wrung out
in this like really great zen place. Go take a shower,
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come back to the lockers, start to change, and these
two women walk in and they plopped down right behind
me on a bench and they start talking about this girl.
And it was terrible the way they were talking about her.
They called her all kinds of names. One of them
said like, I'm afraid if I go near her, I'm
gonna get like her bees or crabs. And they started
laughing and for like ten or fifteen minutes, and I
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was like, I literally I looked at them and they
were happy. And that's the thing that I was like,
I'm so thrown by this because they were leaning in
towards each other, they were finding connection, they were finding
this this what we we want. We want a friend
to hear us and see us and agree with us,
but in such a terrible and toxic way that I
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literally grabbed all of my bags that moved to another
area to get dressed, because I'm like, I don't even
want to hear that, Like I'm afraid it's going to
seep into my pores, you know. And also connection, But
also what I'm hearing Janette is like that we do this.
I see people do this all the time, that need
for significance. You can be significant in what you're contributing
and how you offer your gifts and live your purpose
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in the world, or you can be significant by tearing
down other people. Right, It's much easier to be significant
by tearing down other people, unfortunately, but is that really
the life that you want to live? Well? And I
never want to sit across from anyone ever again who
feels the need to break someone down to make me
feel like I'm at that point in my life where
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I'm like, that was a long time ago, that was
another woman, and I'm really Sometimes we have those moments
of reflection, right when we see something from our new
space and we're like, oh my god, I've grown so much,
you know, Like I don't feel the need to do
those things. I don't feel the need to to hurt
or bully another. And I mean I never was a bully,
but I certainly sat around and talked to some some trash.
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I think when you get to the headspace or when
you start to bring in people who will not put
up with that from you, right, Like, that's I think
that's that's one of the things. Is my friend group
now that holds me accountable will not put up with
that from me or anyone else. The subject is immediately changed.
And even if we have someone that comes in, like
we did a photo shoot recently for the app and
there was a couple of people there that were kind
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of on the outskirts, kind of new. You could tell
the difference. But you could see that the women who
have done so much work on themselves were wanting to
bring them in and lift them up. Right. It was
almost like, cam, here, we've got you. But you have
to operate at this level. Sure. I think the quote
from Dan Sullivan who says, you know, surround yourself with
people who remind you of your future instead of your past.
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Love that. So for people who really want to a
do some deeper personal work and to build that accountability
in their life and to connect with the right people.
Tell us where we can go to get the Live
Pocket Coach app and how it's going to help them
do it. If they want to go to Apple, it's
(34:56):
we're putting on Andrew Droid a promise. It's just not
there yet. We wanted to work at the Pinks on Apple.
It's Live Pocket Coach download on Apple. Go in, set
some goals. You can actually create your own circle by
inviting in people that you feel would keep you accountable.
And then we are going to be Our first curated
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circle is called Next Level Love. You'll have the ability
to opt into it shortly. It starts on the so
we'll be sending kind of a push notification to the phones.
And that is for people who really want to up
level their love life. I'll spend ninety days interviewing coaches, therapists,
and relationship experts talking about value and worth and all
of all of the things we deal with as humans. Forgiveness, heartbreak, UM,
(35:40):
calling in a new partner, or upleveling the love that
you have in deepening the connection with the person you're
you're currently with. UM, We've got another one coming UM
in the springtime on mindset, we have one that we're
planning around money, and these are people who are working
on the same things, who want to up level those
aspects of their life. And uh, we are creating Facebook
(36:02):
groups so that as the circle's end after ninety days,
those friendships can remain within the Facebook groups. Amazing and
I am so honored to be part of the project
and to support you guys. So encourage everybody to go
check it out the Live Pocket Coach l I V.
By the way, they can look it up in the
Apple Store, do the download. It's coming for androids soon, Jeanette.
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Anything you want to leave the audience with today, like
that amplified piece of advice that's going to help propel
them forward in the only piece of advice I would
give you is just make a decision. Make a decision
that you want to live a better life, and then
watch it unfold. You have to take action. And I'm
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not going to believe that you sit back and you
wait for the universe to conspire in your favor. You
co create, but you have to first make that decision
and commit to yourself and then those those steps come.
They just kind of show up in front of you,
and these are your first steps. Beautiful words, my friend.
I appreciate you, so excited for the app and thanks
so much for coming on today. I appreciate you. Thanks
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for being part of the project. We're honored to have you,
so thanks for thanks for being part of this. Three
things that really stood out to me in that interview.
We talk a lot about how our identities are wrapped
up in our jobs. Normally, when you and I go
out and we introduce ourselves to somebody, what do we
lead with the job title? But Jeanette made such an
(37:29):
interesting point that a lot of times our lifestyle becomes
part of our identity. If you're collecting that cushy corporate
paycheck and you've got the nice house and you can
drive a nice car where the designer closed, that can
be such a barrier for people to let go of,
you know, that illusion of having made it and really
allowing that to be a barrier for moving forward into
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the thing that you know you should be doing. I
love what she shared with her boss the day she
resigned that she was tired of fighting all the time
about commissions and deals in the financial world. And I
think sometimes we also just get tired of fighting with ourselves,
being in that ego versus soul battle where the ego says, hey,
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you've already made it, You've got all this success. How
could you let go of this? But really, at a
spiritual level, knowing that you're here to expand that you
want to do all the things, sometimes that fight can
be even more exhausting than what we experience, you know,
going through the corporate bs in the workplace. And my
favorite quote that I wrote down in this interview that
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I hope you take away today, she said time is limited,
but I beend time. Oh. That one gave me goose
bumps when she said it, and I just love it
so much because if you want something bad enough, you
will make it happen. I've said before on this podcast,
one of the best ways to realize how you value
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yourself is how you value your time. And are you
really taking this dream that you say you have in
making that a daily devotion, even thirty minutes a day
to move forward on it, or are you're treating your
dream like your side piece, you know, where you sneak
away and see it for an hour on the weekends
and then you know kind of ask it to go
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back in the closet and so you can make time
for it again. So I think that those are really
three powerful takeaways. But I'd love to know what you
loved this week. Screenshot this podcast. You can upload it
to Instagram, be sure to tag Jeanette and I. You
can find me at c sc Dan Mason, and you
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can also join our private Facebook community to continue the
conversation there. We have a length for the Life Amplified
Power Tribe in the show notes. And if you're so
inspired to do so and you're looking for a little
bit of coaching and accountability, check out the Live Pocket
Coach app available right now in the Apple Store and
coming very soon for Android. If Jeanette's story has inspired
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you and you are that high performer stuck in a
job that pays well but isn't a line with your
purpose and you want to get clear on not just
what you do, but who you are and what you're
here to contribute, I've got some spots open for one
on one v I P coaching in the month of March.
You can get the information on that and submit an
application by going to my website Creative Soul Coaching dot net.
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Thank you so much for spending thirty forty minutes with
me this week. It means the world. If you have
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In the meantime, you've got to turn down the volume
on your negativity and turn up the volume on your
purpose so you can live life amplified. I'll talk to
you next week.
Episode ninety three, How to Achieve More through Accountability with
Jeanette Schneider. My name is Dan Mason. In I was overweight,
getting divorced, battling depression, and feeling trapped in a career
where I was successful but bored and unfulfilled. And it's
actually the greatest gift I've ever been given. I used
my pain as a springboard to discover my life's purpose.
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Now I want to share the same tools and strategies
which helped transform my life with you so you can
live life amplify. The basketball player Joe Dumars once said
that on good teams, coaches hold players accountable. On great teams,
players old players accountable. Hello, and welcome back everybody to
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Life Amplified. Shout out to you for investing thirty five
minutes in your personal growth this week, and thank you
so much for making this podcast a part of that time.
One of the messages that I'm always preaching on this
show is the importance of stacking the deck in your favor,
creating a firewall of support around you in every direction. Now,
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I truly believe that one of the fastest, most efficient
ways to get clarity of your purpose understand the subconscious
blocks that are holding you back and create your action
plan forward is to work with a one on one coach.
When I'm working with my one on one clients, I
can help anybody recreate their inner environment. But our guest
today is going to reinforce the idea of having an
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external environment that supports the person that you want to become.
Last time, my friend Jeanette Schneider was on the podcast.
She was here to promote her book Lore Harnessing Your
Past to Create Your Future. But at that time, Jeanette
was still in the twenty third year of her corporate
financial career and still uncertain about how she wanted to
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show up and how she wanted to live her purpose
in the world. As she explains today, having the right
support and accountability partners in business and in life have
helped her completely reinvent her career. Today, she is the
CEO of her own media and software company called Live Media, Inc.
As well as being a speaker and host of the
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podcast Gold with Jeanette Schneider. Jeanette's work has been featured
at Thrive, Global, Mind, Body, Green Elite, Daily, Bustle, and
many other media outlets. Some of the topics she and
I will discuss today are how to truly plan your
exit from your current job so you can get busy
living your purpose and creating a new chapter. She'll talk
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about the importance of knowing your financials and truly preparing
for the next phase of your life. We'll discuss the
power of purpose and how when you harness yours, the
universe works to help you move forward, How accountability can
be a powerful tool to keep you moving in the
right direction, and why you need to surround yourself with
strong people in business and in life that see your
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blind spots, cheer you on and keep you moving in
the right direction. Plus, we're going to discuss her new app,
the Live Kick Coach, which is a great resource to
start asking those bigger questions about who you want to be,
Plus an app that will give you some built in
accountability so that you can massively up level your life
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in One of the things I love most about Jeanette
is just this beautiful balance between her masculine and feminine energy.
You know, this is a woman who is very driven.
She is so goal oriented. She is making amazing things
happen in her business and in her life. But it's
really led by that feminine energy, desire for connection and
(03:37):
for love and for nurturing. So it's always a pleasure
to talk to her. I think you're going to enjoy
the conversation, and if you do, please screenshot this podcast.
You can upload it to Instagram, tag me at c
SC Dan Mason, and you can follow Jeannette at MS
Jeanette Schneider. If you're stuck in a job where you
love your paycheck but you know you're not living your purpose,
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Janette's going to fire you. She has found the exit plan.
She'll share it with us this week as we talk
about the power of accountability on Life Amplified. Jeanette Schneider,
Welcome back to Life Amplified. You think I love having
conversations with you. This is amazing. First of all, I
always love when podcast guests go on to become friends
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and people that I actually get to work with on projects.
So we're going to talk about all the exciting things
that you've got going on and that I've been so
privileged that you invited me to be part of. But
I think it's interesting for context because people could go
back and listen to the first podcast that we did.
I think it was around the fall of and at
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that point you were promoting your book, which was amazing,
and we had a great conversation about that, but behind
the scenes, you were still laying the groundwork for the
next phase of your life. You had not fully completed
that big leap into chasing your dreams. So can you
talk a little bit about just what the last year
and a half has been? Like? Where were you at
(05:04):
when you had the book and really just trying to
figure out what the hell you were going to do
next throughout the journey of believing Corporate and now where
you're at now. I know I lived like multiple lives
in the course of twenty four months. It's been really insane.
And you know, to think back to when I was
promoting the book and you and I were talking like
that was like, I was so proud of what I
had accomplished, and I'm so proud of putting this book
(05:26):
into the world. And I, at the time had not
yet left my job in Corporate America. I was a
senior vice president, a wealth management advisor, and I had
this beautiful book. I knew that I was going to leave,
but I didn't know what that looked like. I didn't
know where that was going to leave me. I just
knew I loved having a platform. I love talking about
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things that were important to me and helping other people.
What I was doing was no longer really feeding my soul,
and my company was because I had my investment licensing,
I was regulated and so they were like, hey, you
can do some media, but not a lot of media.
You're not allowed to have a manager, You're not allowed
to have a podcast. We have to like review every
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pr opportunity that you have. And I was like, okay,
so I have to sit in this little kind of
box right in order to talk about the things that
really light me up. But I have this amazing career, um,
but it just it didn't match anymore. And I think
it's kind of funny because sometimes when you're on the
precipice of something new, or you are starting to kind
of look over the wall and be like, there's something
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else out there, like you can feel like a separation
within yourself. You can almost feel like your soul splitting.
You're kind of like, Okay, this doesn't feel natural to
me anymore. I'm not lit up in the same way.
I kind of want to go over here, and even
if over here means uncertainty and no benefits and no money,
like you're kind of like, I'll figure it out. So
that's kind of where I was. And then I decided
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to leave Corporate America shortly after we talked. I knew
I was leaving, but I finally made the choice, like,
this is what I'm gonna do. I need to go
spend some time away and figure out what my platform
is going to be. I knew I was going to
create a platform, I didn't know what it was going
to look like. I know I had a media company
and me. What I didn't realize is I had both
the media and a software company in me. I know
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that's crazy, isn't it just to say that out loud.
I made the leap, and I did a lot of
research to figure out what was next and call in partners.
And it was a big It was a big shift.
Tell me about that journey of being there in the
job and sort of having to wear a mask to
go in and be the responsible financial person every day.
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Was there a pressure for you to sort of play
down or maybe dim your light in order to tow
the company line or to be what they needed you
to be. So and we've met in person, so you know,
it's very hard for me to like to dim my life,
very difficult. So I did talk very openly about the
fact that I had written a book and then I
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had been writing for years, and I did not get
into a lot of detail right about what I wanted
to do, and it was more like, oh, this was
just something that like, it was my activism and it
was something I needed to get done. So I played
it down a lot. But it was very hard for
me not to talk about, you know, the book and
what I was learning, and especially with my colleagues, um
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with clients, they all looked at me like I was nuts.
So I did. I was very conscientious because the idea
of someone who's managing money writing a self development book
kind of makes their eyes cross a little bit. They're like,
I'm sorry what. So there definitely was kind of like
a divorcing of that part of my personality depending on
who was in front of me and making sure that
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I kind of justified it. It It was kind of like
when I want on maternity leave, like I'm like, I'm
pregnant and I'm excited about this part of my life,
but not a percent excited because I'm still going to
be here for you, Like, do you have to be
like this whole part of my life is like so amazing,
but it's it's not as amazing as you are right
this it's like a game. And I love the fact
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you share that. And the other thing that I just
wanted to touch on that I'm hearing you share is
taking the leap before you have clarity, acting with courage,
before you're really clear on the destination. I meet so
many people and here from so many listeners at this
podcast who are like, damn, I'm close. You know, as
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long as I have the entire map planned out and
I know exactly where I'm going, and I know how
the benefits are going to be paid and how much
money is going to come in, then I'll go chase
after my dreams. What was the resistance for you? How
long did you grapple with that? And really what was
the moment where you said the hell with it, I'll
(09:44):
build the parachute on the way down. I knew for
about two years that I was going to move from corporate,
but I also made a really good living. Um, so
it was kind of hard because I had created a lifestyle.
An I think I had wrote my head around that too,
like do you walk away from? And it was an
identity d I had created an identity. I was so
proud of my title and all of that stuff. But
what helped me, And this is one of the things
(10:05):
I tell other people, get clear on your money. And
I think for me, I struggle with coaches who are like,
leave now and you'll figure it out, but they don't
really know the financial situation of the person um. So
for me, like I aged her, I knew like what
my safety net, what was what my buffer was, how
much time I would have before I would have to
go get another job. I really had that planned out,
(10:26):
and I knew my numbers so well, and my background
was financed, so that made sense. But I didn't know
what day it was going to be. And you know,
in my career there's a lot of in fighting and
you know, arguing over clients and money, who's going to
pay who what, and who gets to split of what
and all of that stuff. Everyone feels like they want
to throw their hat in the ring and get credit
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for deals. And I had gone through it for I
mean my entire career, and there there was finally one
last fight. And every time I had gone into my
boss's office and like she's like so and so feels
that they should get this part of this or so.
Once I was upset about that and they're calling me
because they want you to stand down, I would walk
out and I would be like, I have enough money
(11:07):
to start my own yoga studio. I have enough money
to start my own this and so like all these
little things woul bubble into my head. And it was
a final day. We were sitting across the table and
I was in an argument with someone about the way
we're going to have a client, like how we were
going to work on a client deal. And I finally
I was like, this is it's today. Today's the day
I just knew. I just knew within my my being.
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And after everyone left the room, I asked to talk
to my boss and I was like, it's time for
me to go. And she looked at me. She's like, no,
what do you like? Don't let this And I was like, no,
this is all I do. I fight all the time.
I'm tired of fighting all the time, and I have
this other stuff that lights me up. It makes me
so happy, like I'll figure it out. And I asked him, like,
can I stay on until September? I told her, I
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think it July, and she said, you're going to stay
on through the end of the year, so we make
sure that we bonus you out for everything that you
did this year. UM, I will continue. She ended up
paying me for another eight months, even though I didn't
show up in the office for six of those. UM. Yeah.
And she even said, she's like, hey, just wrap up
your stuff, like, make sure your clients are introduced to
their new teams, make sure that you're flying around and
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sitting in those initial meetings. And then if you don't
want to come in, you don't have to come in.
And she just wanted me to be okay, and that
is unusual. It's such proof also that I think like
people looking at all, well, you had a generous boss,
Yes you did, but then when you make the committed decision,
the universe has a way of opening up and providing
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for you so that you're okay. I've seen that happen
with so many clients as well. Once they make the
committed decision, you know, an income source or a revenue
stream pops up that they didn't see before. And there's
always a way to fund that gap between taking the
leap and creating the new thing. And I am very grateful.
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I'm very grateful because it provided me a little bit
more space, space to create based two questions, space to
poke at what this was going to be. When you
make those were footed steps, and sometimes they're not sure
footed right. Sometimes they're just like I'll figure this out,
like you said, like build a parachute on the way down.
But once you move into purpose, I think that the
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universe is very benevolent. I love that. I love that
so much. Let's also talk for a moment, just because
I want to get into the topic today about accountability.
One more loose end to tie up. For the person
who doesn't necessarily have the financial means, they don't have
the nest each does that mean that they can't start
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on a dream or does it just look differently for
that person? Absolutely not. And keep in mind my writing,
and I mean I wrote for magazines in Las Vegas
and a couple of different um cities for years, and
that had been approved because I would write about stuffing
had nothing to do with what I did for a living.
I did that for ten years you can absolutely have
a side hustle that you lean into and you start
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to I would never be prepared to write a book
and leave my firm had I not spent ten years
writing publicly, had I not been a subject matter expert
on gender lens investing from my firm, which gave me
the opportunity to both be like an executive with a platform,
but also dig a little bit into public speaking around
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issues that were important to me. So I was able
to find ways to build up my experience as a
side hustle and in some ways marrying my interest with
my my firm, so that by the time I was
ready to make the leap, I had a really I
had really strong legs. I wasn't jumping into something that
I hadn't already played within. And so that's what I
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would say with someone who doesn't have, you know, the
the income or the nest egg. Create your side hustle
and if you wanted people like, oh my god, that's
so much work, Okay, well you don't want it bad enough,
then yes, time is limited, But I bend time. I
am able. I was. At the time that I was
writing my book, I was divorced, co parenting traveling the
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country for a job and writing a book. When I
had my daughter, it was seven days on, seven days off.
I was a mom. When I did not have my daughter,
or I was on a plane, I was writing like
a fiend. Um. If you want something bad enough, you
will make it happen. So somebody's listening, going, well, you know,
Jeanette had the retirement benefits and her company took care
of her on the way out. You know, well, she's
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she's just the lucky one, you know. But having the
financial nest egg is no guarantee that moving into the
next phase of your life you'll be a success. Absolutely,
absolutely not. I have panic attacks on like seven days
a week. I'm so out of seven days six days
a week, I'm like, this is amazing. I'm living my dream.
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And one day a week I'm like waking up, like,
all right, Jeanette, get your head around your mindset. You're
not a total failure. Yeah no, there's no there's no guarantees.
And I bring that up just because I think people
make this conversation all about money when it comes to
moving into a next level in your life. They think, well,
you know, the money is what makes it happen. No.
I mean, look, money helps, but you've also got to
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have your mindset in place. You need the team, the
support around you. And that's why I wanted to talk
today about accountability. How much did that factor in? What
was the support that you enlisted in your life that
helped you make this leap, as you said, not just
into a media company but now also a software company. Absolutely,
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for me, the people who surround me have always been
my greatest resource. They are my my backbone. And it
wasn't always that way. My divorce was very hard, hard time,
and when I went through my divorce, I was still
working for my firm, and I realized shortly after in
the process of divorcing my ex, that I was surrounded
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by toxic friends and toxic people, and that they didn't
want to see me win, and that I would have
to mute my excitement and my successes. And I realized,
like it's time for me to clean house, and I did,
and I've done that a couple of times where I
looked around and I was like, these people aren't for me.
And I ended some friendships and I moved into another
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friend group where we all just wanted to see each
other when and we wanted to support each other, and
we all kind of skyrocketed into our own kind of
careers and trajectories where now these two friends of mine
are living their dreams and other cities, and we still
check in with each other, but we've all done the
things that we were talking about when we were sitting
around the table having coffee or wine. And my friendships
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are not friendships, and my partnerships are not partnerships where
we sit around and we gossip. We sit around and
we talk about how we want to change the world,
how we want to grow ourselves, what kind of relationships
we want to be in, Like we don't we we
don't have in Style magazine or lip glass. I mean, yeah,
I'll read them if I need some brain candy, because
I've been working crazy hours, but a very different mindset
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than I had previously, where my girlfriends were just where
I went to complain and um wine and gossip and
all of that stuff. And now especially I knew how
important it was going to be for me to surround
myself with with really valuable, high vibe people who could
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provide me the support I needed, but that I could
I could provide some kind of help back. So I
have a very tight little crew now of friends. And
I have to even say partners and specialists and advisors
that I've brought in to help me specifically with my
company have turned into people who will become lifelong friends
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because there is a trust that is built when you
value someone and you work on your relationship and they
want to see you in. And I recognize how lucky
I am. Even with my developer, it took me four
months to convince him that he wanted to build the
up with me, the Live Pocket Coach, and he wasn't
sure because he's like, there's enough apps out there in
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the world. But I had talked to other developers and
I loved talking to him, and I knew that he
would be a great partnership, and I knew that we
spoke the same language. And here it is. We we
contracted in June. It's now February as we record this.
We have an app out, it's already won words, and
he's doing stuff he doesn't need to do, Like tonight
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we're getting on a phone call because he's gonna help
me build a click funnel. He's going to help me
do this. This is because we have built such a
beautiful friendship that I call him my work soul mate.
It's so important and valuable to call in the people
that you know that you want to do business with
or life with on a long term basis. Where does
somebody go to find that? I think about where I
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was in my old career, same way, you know, working
in the radio industry, sitting around at lunch, gossiping about
who wore what at the oscars and making you know, snarky,
awful judgments, all comments about other people. But because that
met a need for connection at that point in time,
I certainly couldn't have set down with a lot of
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those people and had deep conversations about overcoming your deepest,
darkest traumas and living your purpose. Where does somebody even go?
If there, if they notice that they are surrounded by
low vibe friends, who are into the gossip, who are
into happy hour, where do they go? I think, once
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you set the intention that you want to bring in
those really beautiful people into your life and you start
on a kind of your self development journey, the old
friends like it's that same kind of separation right all
of a sudden, You're like, they don't feel as good
and then these new people start to come into your life.
Like for me, I have a lot of faith, I
pray a lot, and I talked to the universal regular basis,
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And as I got to know people, I would kind
of feel them out and I literally mean, like, how
do they feel when I'm talking to them? How does
this relationship? How is it building? Could I see a
long term relationship with them? Let me spend some time
getting to know them and knowing whether or not this
is someone that I want in my circle right And
for me, it's it's finding those people who are on
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the journey with you. And that's that's absolutely why. Like
we created Sean, So my developer and I we kept
talking about accountability because he's like everyone in my life
is like I just want someone to hold me accountable.
And I am very high achieving and I hold myself
at a very high regard, but I also need those
people to be like, hey, Jeanette, don't forget this. Hey Jeanette,
didn't you say you were going to do this? Why
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are you falling asleep at the wheel on this thing?
And so we kept having this conversation over and over
and over again. So we actually decided to build it
within the app called Circles. It's basically accountability group, so
that you can find community when you're working on up
leveling your life. You can join a space where people
are trying to achieve the same types of goals that
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you are, that are like minded. But you can find
that at conferences, you can find those in online groups,
you can find them within your community when you're looking
for it. Jeanette, you mentioned the app the Live Pocket Coach,
which is part of your software company that you're developing now.
In addition to media, talk a little bit more about
the genesis of where that came from, and just talked
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about all the amazing features that you have for people
when they sign up for the app. The genesis. It's
so funny. As I was leaving corporate and I was
kind of staring into this guy, like what is this
thing that I'm building? I checked into so many different platforms.
I was like, is this kajabi? Is it teachable? Is
it going on Facebook? Is it a coaching practice? Is
it a live event? Is it a retreat? And I don't.
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I don't honestly, I don't think of myself as as
a coach, So I was like, none of none of
those things felt aligned with what I wanted to create,
Like I've always felt like the cruise director, like the curator,
and so I'm like, Okay, well, how do I how
do I curate an experience where people will have access
to uplovel their lives? And one day, after playing with
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a bunch of different platforms, I realized it needs to
be an app, and so I kind of put that
out there in the in the universe, and like, literally
within two days, I had gotten an email from one
of Shawn's colleagues kind of pitching me on a social
media product that they had, and it was the best
written pitch i'd read. I got a lot of pitches,
and I was like, I'm just curious. I clicked on
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the profile and linked in and it's like we also
developed apps, and I was like, oh, well, that's crazy.
So I reached out to them. We got on the phone,
we had several conversations, and as we were talking about
mental health and accountability and quieting the noise and how
to use technology as a platform for good and a
content distribution platform that would be readily accessible and available
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but also not feel like a bunch of noise coming
at you, UM a place where you feel safe and
not judged. It kind of grew and became and it's
so funny because now as I look at it, I mean,
you can go in and you can set goals, and
as you set your goals, we actually will curate content
and send it to you so that you have audiophiles
from coaches. Dan included, you have a fantastic five day challenge.
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I joked that I am the token penis in the group,
like like all the all the commercials I've seen for
Live or all these like women with really soothing voices,
and like, I'm going to teach you about self love
and I'm your meditation and self care coach. And it's like, hey,
I'm damn token penis. Let's talk about your career. Now
we've got to UM well. And I was like some
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I was like, are you just is this just for women?
And I'm like, absolutely not, and I love my partner.
Is so funny. One of his friends was like, hey, yeah,
so like this is like a chick thing, right, and
he like turning, He's like, absolutely not. I listened to it.
He actually listened to your challenge and was like, I
realized that my work environment is toxic. I was like, amazing,
you know, I'll throw it out there too, because I
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go to plenty of these personal development conferences and things
like that where it usually is eight women in the audience.
More than ever, this is such a time for men
to doing their own work, to really be finding their purpose,
to affect how we step up as partners, as parents,
as leaders in the world. And you're seeing the effects
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just in the news of decades of toxic masculinity and
the effect on our society. And I think for men,
it's hard. It's hard to reach out and ask for help,
and it's hard to find a good first step on
where to go. And that's why I think something like this,
where you can do it in the privacy of your
own home. It's not the end goal, but it's such
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a powerful first step to even get you exploring those
deeper questions about who am I and what do I
want to do with my life? And that's why I
I was telling someone the other day, I'm like, I
feel like the cruise director where I'm literally like, come
in and meet my friends, because I think this is
something I wish I would have had when I was
going through such a terrible time after my divorce. I
mean that was literally two to three years of me
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pulling myself out of the depth of health. I was
going to every conference, I was reading every book. I
was like, if you had this is really funny. I
would go on Pinterest and I created a board that
was literally just self help quote so that when I
was having a really dark day, I would just go
in there and read it. And I didn't realize that
as I was pinning that people could see what I
was pinning and I had to reach out and there like, hey,
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are you going through something like what's going on? I
was like, oh my god, Well, because you're such a
high performer, and you know, I consider myself to be one.
That is such a difficult thing. When you're a high
performer and so much of your value and self worth
is based on what you're accomplishing and being like head
of the class. To have those moments of vulnerability to say,
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you know, what, things aren't going the way I want
and I feel lonely or I feel unfulfilled. It's a
difficult thing for high performers to do, but it's such
a powerful thing for high performers to do well. I
think you have to be in charge of your mindset
every single morning. You know, I was joking the other day.
I woke up and I don't wait up like, hey guys,
I'm changing the world. I wake up with fears and
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doubts and all kinds of stuff. And I literally spent
a few minutes in bed every morning having a conversation
about with myself about all of the positive things that
are going on. And maybe it wouldn't be the same
like when I would wake up in my former career.
I'd wake up and I'd be like, oh, I don't
want to buy the opposite. I've got to deal with
this loan dog. I've got a deal completely different thing.
There was some security there right, like I knew I
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was going to get a paycheck, even though I had
to deal with drama. Where now I wake up and
all of the fears about that big league that I made,
or you know, is this going to pop? Are people going?
Am I going to get the subscriptions that we need?
Are people really going to respond to it? All of
those things pop into my head. So I've actually created
a note in my phone. It's a pep talk to
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myself that I can read on the days that I don't.
So it's it's moved on from a Pinterest board now
to the pep talk. But one of the things that
I think is really beautiful is that I just want
to shorten the distance for the next person, Right, I
want to invite them into this space where they can
be um introduced to coaches that they've they may not
have access to you, right, And once you start following
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one or two of them, you're going to kind of
be pulled into this little vortex of positivity. Right, You're
going to become kind of match in this circle of
people who are trying to make their lives better as
well as if you're opting into the circles, because then
you're actually going to build a little community of people
who are working on the same goals with you. So
you have this really beautiful space for you to start.
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It's like the gateway. Maybe it's maybe it's the gateway
to to coaching and the gateway to a better life.
It's funny because I'm up on some of the dating
apps is a single guy and I don't even know
which one it is. Maybe it's Bumble that has like
you know that the generic sort of like feeder questions
to help you get to know people. There's a question about,
you know, who is the person or thing that that
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holds you most accountable in your life? And I noticed
this trend with so many women have seen on the
apps where the answer is myself, I keep myself accountable,
and for me, I always look at that and maybe
maybe this is wrong. I'd love to get your take
on this, you know, from your side, I always view
that as a red flag. I'm like, oh, there's somebody
in avoidance. That is somebody that likes to just kind
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of go into their hole and do things on their own.
Can people really truly hold themselves accountable and reach the
levels of success that they want and that they desire,
or is this something that we truly need to do
in community? We have to do it in community. As
an a side, that could be marketing. It could be
them saying I'm like an amazing independent woman, do you
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know what I mean? So you, as a coach may
see it one way, they may see it as another.
If you look at any high achieving CEO, most of
the time they talk about their circle or their spouse,
how their spouse had so much to do with their success.
How the people that are around them have so much
to do with your success Because you can have amazing
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accountability tools, but you're working in a vacuum, you are alone.
It's the same as when we were building the app,
Like we thought it was absolutely gorgeous, but then we
would sit in front of a room of twenty people
and say pick it apart for us, and they every
single time would come up with like, hey, I would
change this. I would change that when you're working in
a vacuum alone, And and God bless the people who
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have their own accountability practices. Um, I think that's amazing.
I do too. We go off track, we get into
our old stories, we get into our heads. So sometimes
you need those people around you who are going to
look at you and be like not today, sis, And
I think that you have to have that. Like I was,
this is kind of funny, but back in the day,
my friendships were all about gossip, right, And then I
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was like, I'm not doing this anymore because it makes
me feel bad, Like I've never felt so insecure about
my body. If you're in my life and you make
my shoulders slump in or make me question the way
I look. I don't want you in my life anymore. Right,
But I moved everyone out and then I brought in
a new circle of friends and it was all like,
all right, what are we working on, what are we doing?
Blah blah blah blah blah, And we all just achieved,
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we did a great job. There was no gossiping. And
then as everyone kind of went in their separate directions
because everyone moved to new cities to go after those
big dreams. Um, I brought in this new group of
people and like one of them is an attorney and
she's a dear friend of mine, and she'll sit across
the table for me and she's like, Okay, right now
i'm your friend or at this moment, i'm gonna I'm
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talking to you like an attorney. Um. And there's been
a couple of times where she's like, I've seen you
do this before, where you're right at the precipice of
like getting ready to have something big happen, and you
wonder if it was worth it. And I'm just going
to tell you this, this this is a pattern that you
have that you don't realize that you do. I've seen
you do it three times, now, knock it off, push through.
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You're about You're about to pop. And I'm like, oh
my god, you know what I mean, Like, what a
beautiful friendship. And then I was at the gym yesterday.
I was telling my my boyfriend about this. I was
at the gym yesterday, had just taken in a amazing
yoga class. I was so sweaty, so like wrung out
in this like really great zen place. Go take a shower,
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come back to the lockers, start to change, and these
two women walk in and they plopped down right behind
me on a bench and they start talking about this girl.
And it was terrible the way they were talking about her.
They called her all kinds of names. One of them
said like, I'm afraid if I go near her, I'm
gonna get like her bees or crabs. And they started
laughing and for like ten or fifteen minutes, and I
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was like, I literally I looked at them and they
were happy. And that's the thing that I was like,
I'm so thrown by this because they were leaning in
towards each other, they were finding connection, they were finding
this this what we we want. We want a friend
to hear us and see us and agree with us,
but in such a terrible and toxic way that I
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literally grabbed all of my bags that moved to another
area to get dressed, because I'm like, I don't even
want to hear that, Like I'm afraid it's going to
seep into my pores, you know. And also connection, But
also what I'm hearing Janette is like that we do this.
I see people do this all the time, that need
for significance. You can be significant in what you're contributing
and how you offer your gifts and live your purpose
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in the world, or you can be significant by tearing
down other people. Right, It's much easier to be significant
by tearing down other people, unfortunately, but is that really
the life that you want to live? Well? And I
never want to sit across from anyone ever again who
feels the need to break someone down to make me
feel like I'm at that point in my life where
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I'm like, that was a long time ago, that was
another woman, and I'm really Sometimes we have those moments
of reflection, right when we see something from our new
space and we're like, oh my god, I've grown so much,
you know, Like I don't feel the need to do
those things. I don't feel the need to to hurt
or bully another. And I mean I never was a bully,
but I certainly sat around and talked to some some trash.
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I think when you get to the headspace or when
you start to bring in people who will not put
up with that from you, right, Like, that's I think
that's that's one of the things. Is my friend group
now that holds me accountable will not put up with
that from me or anyone else. The subject is immediately changed.
And even if we have someone that comes in, like
we did a photo shoot recently for the app and
there was a couple of people there that were kind
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of on the outskirts, kind of new. You could tell
the difference. But you could see that the women who
have done so much work on themselves were wanting to
bring them in and lift them up. Right. It was
almost like, cam, here, we've got you. But you have
to operate at this level. Sure. I think the quote
from Dan Sullivan who says, you know, surround yourself with
people who remind you of your future instead of your past.
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Love that. So for people who really want to a
do some deeper personal work and to build that accountability
in their life and to connect with the right people.
Tell us where we can go to get the Live
Pocket Coach app and how it's going to help them
do it. If they want to go to Apple, it's
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we're putting on Andrew Droid a promise. It's just not
there yet. We wanted to work at the Pinks on Apple.
It's Live Pocket Coach download on Apple. Go in, set
some goals. You can actually create your own circle by
inviting in people that you feel would keep you accountable.
And then we are going to be Our first curated
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circle is called Next Level Love. You'll have the ability
to opt into it shortly. It starts on the so
we'll be sending kind of a push notification to the phones.
And that is for people who really want to up
level their love life. I'll spend ninety days interviewing coaches, therapists,
and relationship experts talking about value and worth and all
of all of the things we deal with as humans. Forgiveness, heartbreak, UM,
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calling in a new partner, or upleveling the love that
you have in deepening the connection with the person you're
you're currently with. UM, We've got another one coming UM
in the springtime on mindset, we have one that we're
planning around money, and these are people who are working
on the same things, who want to up level those
aspects of their life. And uh, we are creating Facebook
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groups so that as the circle's end after ninety days,
those friendships can remain within the Facebook groups. Amazing and
I am so honored to be part of the project
and to support you guys. So encourage everybody to go
check it out the Live Pocket Coach l I V.
By the way, they can look it up in the
Apple Store, do the download. It's coming for androids soon, Jeanette.
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Anything you want to leave the audience with today, like
that amplified piece of advice that's going to help propel
them forward in the only piece of advice I would
give you is just make a decision. Make a decision
that you want to live a better life, and then
watch it unfold. You have to take action. And I'm
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not going to believe that you sit back and you
wait for the universe to conspire in your favor. You
co create, but you have to first make that decision
and commit to yourself and then those those steps come.
They just kind of show up in front of you,
and these are your first steps. Beautiful words, my friend.
I appreciate you, so excited for the app and thanks
so much for coming on today. I appreciate you. Thanks
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for being part of the project. We're honored to have you,
so thanks for thanks for being part of this. Three
things that really stood out to me in that interview.
We talk a lot about how our identities are wrapped
up in our jobs. Normally, when you and I go
out and we introduce ourselves to somebody, what do we
lead with the job title? But Jeanette made such an
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interesting point that a lot of times our lifestyle becomes
part of our identity. If you're collecting that cushy corporate
paycheck and you've got the nice house and you can
drive a nice car where the designer closed, that can
be such a barrier for people to let go of,
you know, that illusion of having made it and really
allowing that to be a barrier for moving forward into
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the thing that you know you should be doing. I
love what she shared with her boss the day she
resigned that she was tired of fighting all the time
about commissions and deals in the financial world. And I
think sometimes we also just get tired of fighting with ourselves,
being in that ego versus soul battle where the ego says, hey,
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you've already made it, You've got all this success. How
could you let go of this? But really, at a
spiritual level, knowing that you're here to expand that you
want to do all the things, sometimes that fight can
be even more exhausting than what we experience, you know,
going through the corporate bs in the workplace. And my
favorite quote that I wrote down in this interview that
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I hope you take away today, she said time is limited,
but I beend time. Oh. That one gave me goose
bumps when she said it, and I just love it
so much because if you want something bad enough, you
will make it happen. I've said before on this podcast,
one of the best ways to realize how you value
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yourself is how you value your time. And are you
really taking this dream that you say you have in
making that a daily devotion, even thirty minutes a day
to move forward on it, or are you're treating your
dream like your side piece, you know, where you sneak
away and see it for an hour on the weekends
and then you know kind of ask it to go
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back in the closet and so you can make time
for it again. So I think that those are really
three powerful takeaways. But I'd love to know what you
loved this week. Screenshot this podcast. You can upload it
to Instagram, be sure to tag Jeanette and I. You
can find me at c sc Dan Mason, and you
can follow Jeannette at Miss Jeanette Schneider don't forget. You
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can also join our private Facebook community to continue the
conversation there. We have a length for the Life Amplified
Power Tribe in the show notes. And if you're so
inspired to do so and you're looking for a little
bit of coaching and accountability, check out the Live Pocket
Coach app available right now in the Apple Store and
coming very soon for Android. If Jeanette's story has inspired
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you and you are that high performer stuck in a
job that pays well but isn't a line with your
purpose and you want to get clear on not just
what you do, but who you are and what you're
here to contribute, I've got some spots open for one
on one v I P coaching in the month of March.
You can get the information on that and submit an
application by going to my website Creative Soul Coaching dot net.
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Thank you so much for spending thirty forty minutes with
me this week. It means the world. If you have
an extra nineties seconds to give, I would love if
you could leave those five star ratings and reviews for
us up on Apple. It definitely helps us with the algorithm,
or just give us a follow here on the I
Heart Radio app for whichever platform that you're listening to.
(40:44):
In the meantime, you've got to turn down the volume
on your negativity and turn up the volume on your
purpose so you can live life amplified. I'll talk to
you next week.
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