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Episode eighty two, Why the Law of Attraction Isn't working
for you. My name is Dan Mason. I was overweight,
getting divorced, battling depression, and feeling trapped in a career
where I was successful but bored and unfulfilled. And it's
actually the greatest gift I've ever been given. I use
my pain as a springboard to discover my life's purpose.
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Now I want to share the same tools and strategies
which helped transform my life with you so you can
live life amplify. Henry David throw once wrote that wealth
is the ability to fully experience a life. Makes you
feel warm and fuzzy when you hear it. It looks
good when that quote is on a computer screen, but
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it is not the reality for so many people. You know,
I think a lot of us, if we're being honest,
we still equate wealth to a number on a bank balance,
and that number always seems elusive. It never really feels
like it's enough for us to create the lifestyle that
we want. Is why so many people stayed trapped in
a soul sucking job that they hate because they don't
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believe that they could ever create income in another way,
or that if they took a chance on their dreams,
all the money would evaporate and they would be left
homeless and penniless. I want to give you a couple
of examples of this that I've seen come in and
coaching applications this year, because I really want you to
understand today is we dig into this topic of money,
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which is always a huge trigger for people when I
discussed it on the podcast. But wealth has nothing to
do with the salary you earn or the number in
the bank account. You know. Abundance is a mindset. And
here's a couple of answers to one of the questions
of my coaching application. Now, if you go to Creative
Soul Coaching dot net and you ever decide that you
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want to work one on one with me to create
an amplified career in life, you love. One of the
questions I ask you was, up until now, what are
the top three reasons you aren't experiencing the results you want?
And you best believe if money is not the number
one answer, and I would say seventy percent of the
time it usually is, it is always in the top three.
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Here's a couple of just quotes that I pulled directly
out of my coaching applications. One person shared, I have
no means of savings and live paycheck to paycheck, although
my husband and I make a combined salary well into
the six figures. Somebody else shared my financial advisor says,
I have enough to retire right now, with enough of
a cushion to account for a mistake, but I can't
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shake the ongoing fear that I could lose everything. Isn't
that interesting people who have enough to retire immediately, people
with money in the bank still are not pursuing their
dreams because at the end of the day, it goes
down to the same belief that there is not enough. Now,
what I would tell you is the two examples that
I just gave you represent different attachment styles to money.
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And if you go back to the podcast I did
way back in January of this year, but Stephen love Grove,
where we really did a deep eve into money beliefs,
you heard us talk about anxious and avoidant attachment with money.
Anxious attachment people would be the person who talked to
their financial advisor they have everything that they could possibly
need in the bank. She had an extra quarter of
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a million dollar cushion, but she couldn't pull the trigger
on leaving her job. She believed that if she invested
in herself, or more specifically, invested in her dream for
the business she wanted to create, that that money would
abandon her, It would leave her, and she would be
left with nothing in her golden years. That's a very
common symptom of anxious attachment when it comes to finances.
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You have a belief that you cannot be supported by money,
that it will leave you. A lot of times we
treat money when we're an anxious attachment, like the parent
who never showed up and met our needs. We transfer
all those same feelings of frustration and fear and abandonment
and shame that we had for either the mom or dad,
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or perhaps both who didn't love us enough, and we
transfer that over to money and it keeps us paralyzed.
That's one of the things I really believe is you
don't have a relationship to money per se. You just
have a relationship period. And if you really get clear
on the stories you tell yourself about money, you would
probably notice that this comes up for you in other
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areas of your life, particularly in relationships. Now, the person
who she and her husband were making six figures but
living paycheck to paycheck. That is an example of avoiding attachment.
And those are the people that seem to spend the
money as quickly as it comes in. Now. We do
this for a variety of reasons. Sometimes there is an
underlying fear that the money will not be there in
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the four months, so I have to spend it on
the things that I want right now. Many times there's
just feelings of guilt or unworthiness around having the money,
particularly if you grew up in a home where money
was a struggle. If your parents didn't, you will. If
you have family members right now who are still in
struggle and you don't want to be perceived is being
better than them or having them reject you, a lot
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of times you'll just push the money away, you know.
I talked to a client one time who was head
of HR for a major broadcasting corporation, I mean making
big bank and was still struggling financially because she wasn't
just supporting her husband and kids, she was also supporting
numerous members of the family. She's taking care of mom
and dad, She's sending money out here to keep her
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siblings afloats, which generosity is great and I believe in giving,
but there was nothing left over for her to save
for her future. So that becomes problematic when we are
in an avoiding attachment with money. Certainly, people who were
avoiding don't even like opening the bank statements when they
come in the mail. They're not sure how much is
going out, They're not even sure how much is coming in.
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The whole thing just gives them anxiety. You know. I
talked to a client once who was so unhappy in
her career that she was running up her credit cards
on superficial purchases jenes purses, vacations, cruises, and really put
herself into financial debt. And there was so much shame
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around her avoidance with money that she truly thought her
soul sucking job was just the penance that she had
to pay because somehow God was judging her based on
her credit score, which is not the case. But it
is so indicative of the messaging that we can take
on early on about what's possible for us around guilt
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over owning our worth and earning what we really deserve.
So many factors screwed this up, and a lot of
times when we are in this state of scarcity and
we don't believe that there is enough in the bank.
What do we do. We go to the one universal
law that we've heard about over and over, the law
of attraction. Everybody read The Secrets back in two thousand six,
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and you know we all took on. Man. If I
just think about something, I deserve to have it, and
maybe for the past thirteen fourteen years since that book
came out, you sit on the couch, you visualize the
dollar amounts on your bank balance. You visualize publishers clearing
house showing up with the big one million dollar oversized
check and delivering it to you. Yet you aren't experiencing it.
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In reality, it does not happen. Yet why is that? Well,
many people say, well, I'm just not worthy. Nothing works
out for me. We tend to get into victim mentality
stories about why money is always going to be elusive,
and we just end up creating more of that result.
You know, in turn, now I can tell you, over
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the course of the last four years of my entrepreneurial journey,
I have been both anxious attachment and avoid an attachment
with my personal finances. When I left my soul sucking
corporate job. To launch my coaching business. I did all
the things I thought I should do. I had enough
money saved in the bank where if I didn't make
a penny for nine months, I would still be able
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to pay all of my bills and get by just fine.
And the problem with having that cushion is is I
got very attached. I wanted to start hoarding the money.
I was afraid to spend it on anything. I turned
down working with business mentors who could help me advance
my business because I started saying, I'll just I'll figure
it out on my own. I started saying, when I
make ten thousand dollars a month in my business, then
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I'll invest in mentorships, which made no freaking sense at all.
How was I going to create ten thousand dollars in
a new business when I had never run a new
business before. I needed the help of somebody who was
further ahead, who could help me create that. But I
was so hoarding what I had, an anxious attachment. I
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was in what I would call maintenance energy. I was
just trying to hang on to what I had. And
the problem is when you're living in maintenance energy and
you're just you know, looking to protect more to move forward. Eventually,
are always going to end up back in regression. I
wasn't making the decisions that would forward my life and
my business and my entrepreneurial sense. So that account kept
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getting lower and lower every month because I was paying bills,
but I wasn't bringing much in. You know, back in
those days, I might be making two thousand, at most
three thousand dollars a month, which just was not enough
to keep me afloat. So I waited until the holy
ship point of being down to like my last five
six thousand dollars, and then I went and invested in
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a mentor, thinking well, I'm just gonna put this on
a credit card and either my business is gonna grow
or I'm gonna go bankrupt, and sure enough getting the
support and the help quickly move my business forward. Now
all of a sudden, instead of making three thousand dollars
a month, I'm making fifteen and twenty thousand dollars a
month at that point. But that triggered avoidance attachment because
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I had been living just getting by and having to
go without for so long that when the money came in,
I was like, well, oh, my God, I gotta spin
this right now because it might not be here in
two or three months. So I was very uptight about that,
and that caused another set of problems. So one of
the things that you really want to do around this
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idea of money is, yes, get a coach, get a
mentor who can help you get to the root of
your attachment style and why that is in place. What
are the reasons that you don't believe abundance or prosperity
will last in your life. Why do you believe that
money can't support you and stick around over the long run.
That would be a huge breakthrough in and of itself.
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But the other conversation that we have to have, or
what are the other spiritual laws you need to know,
because if you were focused solely on the law of attraction,
thinking that you're just going to create something by thinking
about it and putting your focus there, you're really only
understanding about of the law around money. And that's what
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I want to tell you today. Money is not some
mythical creature. It's not Bigfoot, it's not unicorn that we
hope to find one day. Money is not something that
is reserved for the quote unquote one percent. Money doesn't
care about who you are, what your background is, whether
you're you know, quote a good enough person to deserve
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the money. I mean, if that were the case, this
idiot Jeffrey Epstein would not have been a billionaire. You know.
So anybody can access this law to generate wealth. Money
follows law. And some of you are rolling your eyes,
going on, I don't believe in this stand and you
don't have to, but I'm telling you that the universal
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laws that I'm going to share with you today are
just as true as the law of gravity. I mean,
you could tell me, Dan, I do not believe in
this law of gravity. I'd be like, all right, well,
good luck. Go walk off the top of that skyscraper
and see how that works out for you. Because the
law of gravity just is, and so are the other
laws that I'm going to share with you today. The
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first one that we need to talk about is is
the law of correspondence. Simply put, the law of correspondent
states that whatever is happening in your inner world will
be reflected in your outer world. You could also call
this the law of cause and effect, which we have
talked about on the podcast many times before that for
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every cause there is a specific and predictable effect, and
for every effect, there is a specific and predictable cause. Now,
as it pertains to wealth and finances, you very well
if you are not experiencing the financial results that you want,
that you truly desire, it is because there is a
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subconscious belief. Not conscious, nobody would ever choose to struggle
with money, but subconsciously that's a different story. And remember,
only four percent of your thoughts, behavior, your actions are
aligned with your conscious thinking. Everything else is happening below
the level of awareness. That Jim Forton podcast from a
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few months ago is such a game changer. We do
a deep, deep dive on this topic, and I want
to give you a practical example of the law of
correspondence in action as it pertains to people's money beliefs.
I was on a friend's Facebook page about a week ago,
and you might have seen this story that Kylie Jenner,
who is of course the youngest of the Kardashian girls,
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ended up in a bit of a controversy. She recently
bought herself a three million dollar Bugatti, which is the
most expensive car in the world, and she posed with
it on Instagram and people lost their mind over this.
Even a lot of her fans, they were really put off, saying, well,
you know, why would you spend all your money on
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this car. If you have money, you should be using
it to help people and your selfish and your this
and that. And on the Facebook thread that I saw
on a friend's page, it was just people railing against
this girl for being successful and launching a makeup line.
And there were people who were literally on the read
saying billionaires shouldn't exist. She doesn't deserve it, she hasn't
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worked hard enough for it, which in and of itself
was very much a clue for me about the money
beliefs that keep people stuck. If you believe that you
have to struggle and climb and scrape in order to
earn your fortune in the world, then according to the
law of correspondence, then that is the reality you're going
to create. You are going to struggle and scratch and
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claw to get ahead. But it doesn't have to be
that way, you know, Kylie Jenner has a pretty charmed life.
I'm sure she works hard, but she's also doing something.
She's passionate about selling those makeup kits to the world.
She has built a brand, whether you agree with her
personal brand or not, whether you think that she is
a good role model. She has put herself out there fully,
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unabashedly and is literally the world's youngest billionaire. There was
another round of comments on the same Facebook thread from
people who were complaining, well, she only built that fortune
because she came for money, so I don't respect it.
People were saying, you know, I didn't come from that background,
I'll never have that same opportunity, which again puts a
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spotlight on some of these people's beliefs that I need
to come for money in order to have an opportunity.
You can have that belief, and you can certainly, according
to the law of correspondence, use that to stay stuck.
That my financial history, my financial biography, will forever be
my destiny. But again it's not the case. In fact,
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we've never had a higher number of millionaires in the
United States than we have currently, and what's interesting is
two thirds of them are completely self made. They created
the fortune on their own. This is why we like
watching shows like Shark Tank to see people who just
figured out how to solve a problem and then they
monetize it and create financial freedom for themselves. So how
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do you know if you have a blind spot when
it comes to finances? One of the teachers I'm working
with right now has a great question that is so simple,
but if you really sent and meditate on this, it
will probably lead you to the blind spot that you
have about money. He says, The only question that you
need to ask yourself is what am I really expecting
when it comes to money in my life? Because you
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have to remember none of us. You know, the law
of attraction says, oh, we get what we think about.
And there's a lot of people who think that we
get what we deserve. But you get what you expect
in life. That's really what the law of correspondence says.
Do you believe that the good times won't last, that
you'll make a good amount of money and then you
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have to wait for the other shoe to drop? Do
you expect that when you earn too much money that
your family is going to get jealous of you? Or
will the family think that you're better than them. One
of my clients recently a very successful business owner. You know,
this guy is one of the most respected people in
his vocation, in his entire state, and what we uncovered recently.
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It was that there was a belief he believes if
he took his business to the seven figure level that
he'd almost be dishonoring the memory of his father who
was just like this lunch pale guy that got up
every day and hustled and grinded and worked himself into
the ground in a factory. And for my clients there
was almost feelings of guilt if he created too much wealth.
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So that is the magic question that I would ask
you to consider this week. And I would love if
you went to our life Amplified Power tribe or private
Facebook group and let me know what came up for
you during that. What are you really expecting when it
comes to money in your life? And remembering that we
don't attract what it is we want, we attract what
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we expect. There is a third spiritual law after the
law of attraction, after law of correspondence, that is called
the law of repulsion. That's right, So in every opportunity
we have the ability to attract what we want, but
simultaneously and usually subconsciously, we can pell the things that
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we think that we want. Now, how does the law
of repulsion work? It basically says that a lack need
or addiction to something repels it out of your life.
And if you don't believe that this is possible, think
of your dating life. Have you ever you know, gone
on one of the online dating apps, or you know
somebody who has and they found the stage five clinger
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who is texting them every ten minutes, and it's just
like love be love be love me, love me, love me.
That energy is not sexy. That energy typically does not
lead to a relationship, unless we're talking about some goofy
sort of like codependent dynamic that people have going on.
But maybe you've noticed in your life that the harder
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you have tried to be loved, the more love seems
to allude you. And the same thing can happen with
money when you are so focused on what is missing
or what you believe that you need or that you
are addicted to, that you have got to have more
of it. Really, where the energy and the focus are
going is on the lack. You are focused on what's
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missing and why you don't have enough, and subconsciously that
law of repulsion just magnifies more lack. You're unknowingly telling
the universe, give me some more lack in my life.
Let's bring on a little bit more neediness. The law
of repulsion is the law that is keeping you from
getting any of the things that you desire in your life.
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And remember, you know, it's not that you're in repulsion
or one percent in attraction. All these laws can be
going simultaneously. So if you are a person like I
explained at the top of the podcast, who is spending
money and pushing it out just as quickly as it
comes in, you probably are attracting fifty percent of the time.
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And in the law of repulsion of the time. If
you are a person who is spending more money than
you have and you're running up credit card bills, that
ratio could be eighty percent repulsion, maybe a undred percent.
So a second question for you to consider this week.
Do you spend more time focusing on repelling the things
that you want subconsciously or are you focused on creating
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the things that you truly desire? Because the energy of
creation is very different, and I'll give you a practical
example of how this would work out when it comes
to investing in yourself. You know, I have many clients
who come to me who really want to sign up
for coaching services, but they focus on why they can't
afford it right now. They will tell me, oh, Dan,
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you know, I just I lack the money. I can't
afford to do this. It would be unfair to my family.
But when I create more money one day, when I
have more in the bank, then I will come back
and I will work with you. By the way of
those people, I never hear from them again. And is
it because they didn't value the coaching Not at all.
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What's really going on is they are expecting something outside
of themselves to change for they make a new decision.
They are in repulsion. When they're focused on what they
don't have and why they can't afford it, They're always
going to be in that energy of lack. So there
is a different response in those situations. When there's an
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opportunity to invest in yourself in your dream, you're allowed
to acknowledge. Right now, I know that money is tight. However,
I feel like there is a higher intelligence that's really
pulling me to make this decision. I feel like I'm
being guided to get help and support around this. So
I am committed to finding a way to making this work.
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And my clients who do that I've had people borrow
money from relatives to sign up for coaching. I've had
people who have sold old things around their house that
they don't want. They've used that to make the investment.
But what happens is is they understand the current circumstances
of their life, but then they make a decision to
move beyond it. That gets you out of that energy
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of repulsion. You're no longer focused on the lack and
you're focused on being generative, which really ties into the
fourth universal law that I wanted to share with you today,
which is the law of circulation. And that law states
that all things in the universe are always flowing in
circulation at an ever expanded rate. So what you give
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to one person, you'll receive from a different source. You
don't have to give with the expectation of receiving back
from the same person, but you can just know and
trust that the money will come back to you multiplied
from different sources. Again, I told you that I've made
some changes in my mentorship over the course of the
past couple of months. I had some great results with
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my last mentor, but I was ready to make a change.
The new coach I signed up with the most expensive
coach I've signed up with, and there was part of
me that was like, well, I probably ought to wait.
You know, things slowed down a little bit in my
business in the summer because people are always traveling. They're
not really you know, focused on getting into coaching programs.
I'll wait until the end of the year and then
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I'll sign up and I coach myself out of this
because I can always spot scarcity mindset now within myself.
And I just told myself, I am going to invest
this money that I know will move my life forward.
And sure enough, within thirty days, I made double of
what I spent on the investment. Because the law circulation
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says it is fine for me to give money away
to things that move my life forward, it will always
return back to me. I believe the act of giving
in and of itself is the highest level of abundance
because you are truly signaling that you live in an
abundant universe. So as you give and you release money,
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you just tap into the natural energy of the universe.
I mean, think about it, what do your lungs do?
They expand and they contract. There is a natural ebb
and flow to life when you go into the hospital.
God forbid, I hope you ever go into the hospital.
But you've probably seen one of the e k G
machines that measure heart rate. What does that do? There
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is a natural up and down. It's just peaks and valleys,
and that is the rhythm to life. So there are
expansions and there are contractions. As you release money, you
allow it to come back to you. And what's interesting
is a lot of people just cut themselves off from
the natural flow of life. How many times have you
struggled to accept something good that has been offered to you?
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Have you ever been at work when a co worker
comes in with some Starbucks and they bring you your
pumpkin spice latte, and then the first thing out of
your mouth, even after you say thank you, that was
so you don't even get into that thank you. It's
so considerate. Oh my god, what do I owe you?
And then you're digging change out of the bottom of
your bag and your what was it? Four dollars and
forty seven cents? I got four dollars? Okay, I I
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owe you a quarter. You're so afraid to even accept
the good things when they're offered to us, and I
want to stress to you today, when you refuse a
gift from anybody, you're not only blocking the flow of
abundance in your life, you're also blocking the flow of
abundance in the giver's life. Because doesn't it feel good
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when you can go out and buy Starbucks for your coworker,
Or doesn't it feel good when you can just do
something nice for somebody? You would have no problem making
an offer to somebody to do something nice for them.
Why is it so difficult for you to receive? And
trust me, if that is showing up with a four
dollar pumpkin spice latte, then it is absolutely going to
show up. When it comes to accepting clients for the
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business that you want to start, you know you'll start
under selling your services because you're afraid to ask people
for your fair market value. Remember, you can't be a
giver without being a receiver. As you allow yourself to
accept gifts, you know that you are helping yourself and
the giver complete the natural cycle that exists in the universe.
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By the way, same thing applies to compliments. You know
how many times have you struggled to even receive a compliment?
You know so often we are not in the energy
of being able to receive. And what I see time
and time again is those are the same people that
have a hard time receiving the financial abundance that they
truly want and deserve. So, if you are a person
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who is trapped in that soul sucking job, maybe you
want to start your own business. Maybe you want to
invest in yourself to get some additional training or a
new skill set that's going to help you pivot into
a different corporate career that feels more aligned with you.
You have to be willing to let go of what
you have so that you can attract even more in
the future. So those are the four spiritual laws. Everybody
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knows about the law of attraction. But we also discussed
today the law of correspondence. Whatever is happening and your
inner world will be reflected in your outer world. We
talked about the law of repulsion that focusing on a
lack or need in your life, where where it comes
to money, a romantic partner, opportunity, you're repelling it out
of your life without even realizing it. And finally, the
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law of circulation, right that there is an ebb and flow,
there is a giving and receiving and as you are
comfortable to give away some of what you have. Now.
I'm not telling you to do this irresponsibly. I'm not
telling you to donate your entire paycheck to charity. But
you can start with a small amount. You can start with,
you know, one percent, three percent of every penny that
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comes in when there's an unexpected check that arrives, giving
some of that away, maybe more generously tipping the barista
or tipping your weiter when you're out to eat. Maybe
it's you know, giving to a charity that you really
feel aligned with, and there's many of them that I've
used over the course of the past year. That's one
of the things that's a foundation of my business is
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every time you invest in working with me, a portion
of your money is going right back out to charities
that are doing good in the world. So you want
to stay in that energetic flow of giving and allowing
yourself to receive. If you would like some additional support
around your money mindset so that you can truly get
out of scarcity and step into a life of abundance financially,
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love relationships Opportunity, I've created a four week coaching offer.
This is something I've never really done before in terms
of four week coaching packages, at least not since the
very beginning of my business back in the day. But
I want to help you overcome this subconscious programming rewire
your brain for abundance so that can be the most
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prosperous year of your life. The program is called Amplified Abundance.
I have only got the opportunity open for a handful
of people right now, but what I can promise you
is is that you're going to get in the flow
of money and end financial stress for good. Now Here
is what we're gonna do over the course of our
four weeks together. We're going to identify and rewire your
specific subconscious blocks that have kept you from generating continual
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for antial abundance. I'm also going to teach you some
things we couldn't get to on the podcast. This week.
You're gonna learn the two things you need to bring
anything new into your reality. We're gonna talk about how
you can feel more supported financially by the universe and
overcome the fear and doubt around your finances. We're gonna
do a much deeper dive on these universal laws that
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nobody is really talking about. By the way, when it
comes to your finances. Plus, you know I told you
this has been such a focus on my life this year,
working with coaches and and creating my own specific money
practices that I use on a daily basis that are
helping me grow my income. I'm going to teach you
the same ones so that you can be in that
consistent flow of receiving. It is four calls in four weeks,
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you're gonna break through. We're gonna get your mindset changed.
And by the way, if you are loving the work
and it's something where you decide you'd like to continue
coaching with me through next year, your investment in the
four week program will count toward a longer term coaching package.
It would be my greatest honor to serve you. You
can fill out a coaching application at my website by
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going to Creative Soul Coaching dot net. If the podcast
is serving you this week, if you know somebody with
some financial grimlin beliefs that they need to overcome, could
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and reviews. Well, it doesn't have to be five stars.
You can just leave an honest review. And for every
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that energy of giving and receiving together as a community.
I love you so much for being here. Thank you
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for listening. It is truly an honor and a privilege
to serve you each week. In the meantime, turn down
the volume on your negativity, turn up the volume on
your purpose so you can live life amplified. I'll talk
to you next week.