December 14, 2025 • 6 mins
In this episode the crew shares their thoughts on the Christmas rules that are going viral on Tik Tok.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
My daughter in law just sent the Christmas Rules VRS
follows one. No gifts that make noise, contain sugar, or
require any batteries. Number two, all wrapping paper must be
neutral tone. No Santa faces. That's over stimulating for the children.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
I hate this already.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
No Santa.
Speaker 4 (00:19):
It has me neutral wrapping paper. Now they want to
control the wrapping paper. Then you're wrapping the gifts in
Oh boy, oh my god.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Number three. If you bring a dish, label all ingredients,
list any aldergens, and note emotional intentions. Interesting.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Who is this woman? John?
Speaker 5 (00:38):
Some lady?
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Oh it was her daughter in law that wrote the
list when she posted the list, So she's roasting our daughta.
Speaker 5 (00:44):
Correct her daughter and it's like it's never one in
the comments was like, this is the only time I'll
agree with someone's mother, right, okay.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Number four refer from comparing Christmas pass they're creating new
traditions and don't want to blur our past with their present.
Number five. No photos unless everyone can, sents, signs and
approves the lighting. Number six. No questions about politics, religion,
or how you're doing emotionally. Number seven, don't question how.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
You're doing emotionally. You can't. You can't have a conversation
about your life.
Speaker 5 (01:17):
Now, yeah, you have to be a robot.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
So far, I think politics is the big ones, the
big one. That's the big one.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Hands down, here, children on what kind of cookies that
they loved? Santa, he gets kale and water for heiration. Wait,
be prepared to leave promptly at eleven thirty.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Hold on, hold on, hold on.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
Santa gets kale in water in water, not cookies and milk.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
No one is going to this woman's house for holidays.
Speaker 5 (01:43):
I would have blocked her. I blocked her.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
You blocked on every platform. Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
An hour and a half is ample time to celebrate.
And finally, number nine, all the cars must be parked
facing forward because the HOA man cemetery. I'll be spreading
my holiday cheer courtesy of Jim Beam and check.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Should what's the HOA.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
That's probably at condos. If you're condo, Yeah, you know
the HOA. They have rules.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Yeah, yeah, so your car has to be parked facing forward.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
I mean I can understand that one.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
If they have rules where you live, you know, I
understand that you have neighbors, but some of these other things,
it's just absolutely crazy, insane.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
I think family members should rise up and someone say
I'll do the holidays, yeah, and don't invite her.
Speaker 5 (02:35):
Right what everyone else responded? I would love to know.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Yeah, it's just it's just so controlling. It takes the
fun right out of it. The holidays are supposed to
be fun.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Yeah, but let's face it, the holidays do traditionally bring
family drama.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Oh everything, I mean crazy.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
It starts with where we're having the holidays. Whose house
we're going to. That's always the first big issue. You know,
we had it at that house last year. We got
to have it here, and then like you know, we're
gonna go, We decide on a place, and then one
person complains becomes a whole fiasco. That's the initial argument.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
How about the one if he's going, I'm not coming,
Oh my god. Yeah, that's a project because a lot
of people in the family, the extended family, haven't spoken
for years. Yeah, they may have had an argument like
twenty years ago. They're still holding a grudge. So that
person's not allowed.
Speaker 4 (03:27):
Right, right, Uncle Mark is whoever is posting on Facebook
crazy stuff?
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Yes, there's always a crazy social.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
There's always a fighting on social media. All the time.
So Jihanna, what do you do for the holidays.
Speaker 5 (03:39):
My family's a little different because I have two sides.
I have my mom's side in my dad's side because
they're not together right, So I always get really stressed
out because I try to satisfy both sides. I have
to go to one go to the other especially, and
then Thanksgiving always falls around my birthday, so both sides
like to have a cake. So I'm always like, Okay,
(04:00):
I need to get to my mom's at this time,
and then I need to go back to my dad's
house at this age.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Oh and then who had the better cake?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Who is? And this and that.
Speaker 5 (04:06):
It's like and I'm so thankful to have, you know,
two sides of the family. And now that I have
my boyfriend Jake, his side lives in New Jersey, So
that's a whole other player that we have to figure
out this year.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
That's another thing with the extended family. Sometimes you have
to go visit one that's in New Jersey to day
with the one here. And for years I did Christmas
Eve at my house when I was raising my family
in Lynnfield, Big I just invited everybody, everybody from the neighborhood,
the whole extended family, everybody, and then nobody's complaining. You know,
if you don't like him, go to another part of
(04:39):
the house. Yeah, God, leave each other alone.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Okay, what do you do now?
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Last year was the first year that my son, Chris
Chris Costa took over Christmas Eve and it was awesome.
He and Hannah, his wife, had the family Christmas Eve,
which is my birthday and name I can make ad night.
I hope they don't make a deal about it anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
But yeah, John, And did you know Billy's birthday is
Christmas Eve?
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I did.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
It's the forgotten birthday. It's good for us because we
can rope two gifts into one. So your one gift
is his Christmas present and his Birthday gift too.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
That's a nice way of putting it. Really, Thank God,
I could save you a couple of times.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
I'm just being honest. That's how it is.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
The other issue when it comes to to get together
is during the holidays is alcohol. Yes, you know, there's
always somebody or multiple people that get too drunk. There's
always an outburst. Does that happen in your any of
your families?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
You don't even know.
Speaker 5 (05:35):
And it also ties into politics, because that's the only
rule that I could agree with that this girl on
because you mix alcohol in politics. My family, a lot
of people think the complete opposite. They have different views.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
So you have a divide in your.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
I have a divide in my family on my mom's side.
And one year it resulted in you know, I think
things were thrown, somebody mooned, somebody.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Oh yeah, it was always a celebratory thing.
Speaker 5 (06:01):
I'm not gonna say what relative. It's funny now, but
I was trying to traumatized me as a child, and
it was all over politics, and they had.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Some liquor justin I gotta tell you a funny story
about my brother. Okay, he lived down in Sarasota, Florida,
And so my niece, Gina, who works for ihearted in
New York, the headquarters. You've got a big gig. She's
a liberal and my dad is hardcore conservative.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Your brother.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Yeah, So whenever she brings the kids to visit my
brother down in Sarasota, she has to stay in the
guest bedroom and my brother intentionally has a giant framed
picture of President.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Trump in the bedroom. This is what I'm talking about. Disaster, disaster.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
Yeah, it's it's so divisive. It takes all the fund
right out of the family. Let me tell you
My daughter in law just sent the Christmas Rules VRS
follows one. No gifts that make noise, contain sugar, or
require any batteries. Number two, all wrapping paper must be
neutral tone. No Santa faces. That's over stimulating for the children.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
I hate this already.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
No Santa.
Speaker 4 (00:19):
It has me neutral wrapping paper. Now they want to
control the wrapping paper. Then you're wrapping the gifts in
Oh boy, oh my god.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Number three. If you bring a dish, label all ingredients,
list any aldergens, and note emotional intentions. Interesting.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Who is this woman? John?
Speaker 5 (00:38):
Some lady?
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Oh it was her daughter in law that wrote the
list when she posted the list, So she's roasting our daughta.
Speaker 5 (00:44):
Correct her daughter and it's like it's never one in
the comments was like, this is the only time I'll
agree with someone's mother, right, okay.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Number four refer from comparing Christmas pass they're creating new
traditions and don't want to blur our past with their present.
Number five. No photos unless everyone can, sents, signs and
approves the lighting. Number six. No questions about politics, religion,
or how you're doing emotionally. Number seven, don't question how.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
You're doing emotionally. You can't. You can't have a conversation
about your life.
Speaker 5 (01:17):
Now, yeah, you have to be a robot.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
So far, I think politics is the big ones, the
big one. That's the big one.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Hands down, here, children on what kind of cookies that
they loved? Santa, he gets kale and water for heiration. Wait,
be prepared to leave promptly at eleven thirty.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Hold on, hold on, hold on.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
Santa gets kale in water in water, not cookies and milk.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
No one is going to this woman's house for holidays.
Speaker 5 (01:43):
I would have blocked her. I blocked her.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
You blocked on every platform. Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
An hour and a half is ample time to celebrate.
And finally, number nine, all the cars must be parked
facing forward because the HOA man cemetery. I'll be spreading
my holiday cheer courtesy of Jim Beam and check.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Should what's the HOA.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
That's probably at condos. If you're condo, Yeah, you know
the HOA. They have rules.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Yeah, yeah, so your car has to be parked facing forward.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
I mean I can understand that one.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
If they have rules where you live, you know, I
understand that you have neighbors, but some of these other things,
it's just absolutely crazy, insane.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
I think family members should rise up and someone say
I'll do the holidays, yeah, and don't invite her.
Speaker 5 (02:35):
Right what everyone else responded? I would love to know.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Yeah, it's just it's just so controlling. It takes the
fun right out of it. The holidays are supposed to
be fun.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Yeah, but let's face it, the holidays do traditionally bring
family drama.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Oh everything, I mean crazy.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
It starts with where we're having the holidays. Whose house
we're going to. That's always the first big issue. You know,
we had it at that house last year. We got
to have it here, and then like you know, we're
gonna go, We decide on a place, and then one
person complains becomes a whole fiasco. That's the initial argument.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
How about the one if he's going, I'm not coming,
Oh my god. Yeah, that's a project because a lot
of people in the family, the extended family, haven't spoken
for years. Yeah, they may have had an argument like
twenty years ago. They're still holding a grudge. So that
person's not allowed.
Speaker 4 (03:27):
Right, right, Uncle Mark is whoever is posting on Facebook
crazy stuff?
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Yes, there's always a crazy social.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
There's always a fighting on social media. All the time.
So Jihanna, what do you do for the holidays.
Speaker 5 (03:39):
My family's a little different because I have two sides.
I have my mom's side in my dad's side because
they're not together right, So I always get really stressed
out because I try to satisfy both sides. I have
to go to one go to the other especially, and
then Thanksgiving always falls around my birthday, so both sides
like to have a cake. So I'm always like, Okay,
(04:00):
I need to get to my mom's at this time,
and then I need to go back to my dad's
house at this age.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Oh and then who had the better cake?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Who is? And this and that.
Speaker 5 (04:06):
It's like and I'm so thankful to have, you know,
two sides of the family. And now that I have
my boyfriend Jake, his side lives in New Jersey, So
that's a whole other player that we have to figure
out this year.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
That's another thing with the extended family. Sometimes you have
to go visit one that's in New Jersey to day
with the one here. And for years I did Christmas
Eve at my house when I was raising my family
in Lynnfield, Big I just invited everybody, everybody from the neighborhood,
the whole extended family, everybody, and then nobody's complaining. You know,
if you don't like him, go to another part of
(04:39):
the house. Yeah, God, leave each other alone.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Okay, what do you do now?
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Last year was the first year that my son, Chris
Chris Costa took over Christmas Eve and it was awesome.
He and Hannah, his wife, had the family Christmas Eve,
which is my birthday and name I can make ad night.
I hope they don't make a deal about it anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
But yeah, John, And did you know Billy's birthday is
Christmas Eve?
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I did.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
It's the forgotten birthday. It's good for us because we
can rope two gifts into one. So your one gift
is his Christmas present and his Birthday gift too.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
That's a nice way of putting it. Really, Thank God,
I could save you a couple of times.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
I'm just being honest. That's how it is.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
The other issue when it comes to to get together
is during the holidays is alcohol. Yes, you know, there's
always somebody or multiple people that get too drunk. There's
always an outburst. Does that happen in your any of
your families?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
You don't even know.
Speaker 5 (05:35):
And it also ties into politics, because that's the only
rule that I could agree with that this girl on
because you mix alcohol in politics. My family, a lot
of people think the complete opposite. They have different views.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
So you have a divide in your.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
I have a divide in my family on my mom's side.
And one year it resulted in you know, I think
things were thrown, somebody mooned, somebody.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Oh yeah, it was always a celebratory thing.
Speaker 5 (06:01):
I'm not gonna say what relative. It's funny now, but
I was trying to traumatized me as a child, and
it was all over politics, and they had.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Some liquor justin I gotta tell you a funny story
about my brother. Okay, he lived down in Sarasota, Florida,
And so my niece, Gina, who works for ihearted in
New York, the headquarters. You've got a big gig. She's
a liberal and my dad is hardcore conservative.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Your brother.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Yeah, So whenever she brings the kids to visit my
brother down in Sarasota, she has to stay in the
guest bedroom and my brother intentionally has a giant framed
picture of President.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Trump in the bedroom. This is what I'm talking about. Disaster, disaster.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
Yeah, it's it's so divisive. It takes all the fund
right out of the family. Let me tell you
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