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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time now here on Mojo in the Morning for am
I the A Hole. And this is something that's easy
for you to do if you would like to be
on am I the A Hole. It's where you can
tell us what's going on in your life, that you
got a little bit of a worry that you might
get called out for, and then we'll bring it to
(00:21):
the air and we'll open it up to our listeners
as well as us for a little piece of advice.
You may get called an a hole, but please don't
say the full word because we can't do that on
our radio show. This week's am I the A Hole.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Hi, So, I turned thirty this year and if my
boyfriend doesn't propose to me by the end of the year,
I'm bringing up with him.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Wow, it just seems pretty cut and dry.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Turning thirty this year and if boyfriend will not propose
by the end of the year, he's got an ultimatum. Oh,
she's breaking up with him. How long her name is, Angie?
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Hi?
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Angie? Hey, how long have you guys been together?
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Like four years?
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Okay, that's a good amount of time.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Did you tell him this or is this just something
that you know for yourself that if he doesn't do this, Like,
does he have an ultimatum on his hands or is
this just your time frame?
Speaker 4 (01:15):
Yeah? No, he knows. I've been very clear.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Oh wow, So you guys have talked about getting engaged
in the in you know, over the past couple of
years or months. Yeah, I mean, like we talk about marriage.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
He said that he wanted to repose for like a
year now, and I'm just like, I'm tired.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Of no accent.
Speaker 5 (01:33):
You know.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Have you gone ring shopping?
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Well no, but I'm not doing that, Like he needs
to do that.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Oh so you don't want to say so, and what
your ring is going to be? You You're going to
let him go do it? But you don't even know
because I would think that nowadays, guys pretty much are
going to bring their girl with just to at least
get an idea.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Yeah, so he's not he's not even thinking.
Speaker 6 (01:54):
About this texture.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Okay, okay?
Speaker 5 (01:57):
Is this like, are you happy in the relations reationship?
Is this the only deal breaker for you?
Speaker 4 (02:04):
I'm very happy, but this turns me off, you know, like,
if you want something, get it, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I think your situation is a little different because you
guys have talked about getting engaged, So it's definitely a thought.
It's like, it's not like he's not interested in getting
married or committing that way or as I know, we've
talked to couples before who that's not even a topic
of conversation. I just wonder why if he's been if
he's if he's been saying for a year now that
(02:34):
he wants to and it hasn't happened, what's the I.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Have a different thought, and I'm gonna tell you my
thought when we call it when it comes to Ideahle,
I think if you were to have said to us,
I want to get married by the end of the
year or get engaged to by the end of the year,
and if I don't get engaged to by the end
of the year, then I'm going to break up, you
would have said when I asked the question, does he
know that? No, he doesn't know that, But that's just
(02:58):
in my head. I wouldn't say you're in a hole.
I think the fact that you told him that he
has to do it is an ultimatum. And I think
that no matter you guys been together for four years
or one year. I think the problem with that is
you just took away the sincerity or the him wanting
(03:22):
to do it. Now you made it, you need to
do it.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I actually agree with you. And the thing that I
hate about ultimatums that have been vocalized is that now
if I were you, Angie, I would get a little nervous.
That's he's doing it because he feels like he has to,
not because he actually wants to.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
And you know what else, Shannon, I think that it
will come up one time or two or four or
twenty eight in their relationship.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
It's something to be resentful over.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 5 (03:50):
You want the relationship, You want the relationship to progress naturally.
You don't want to force somebody into becoming somebody at
they're not. That's a whole another seid problem.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
That being said, if I've been in a relationship for
four years and we've talked about getting engaged, and we've
looked at rings on Pinterest or whatever, I'm also going,
why isn't he in the back of my head? As
a woman, I know how I would feel about that,
and I'd be going, why not yet?
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Gil, what's up?
Speaker 7 (04:16):
Am I?
Speaker 3 (04:17):
The A hole is Angie and a hole Morning.
Speaker 7 (04:20):
Mojo on the team partial partially the a hole because
maasures of our compromise. So it's not going to be
the way you want it to be all the time,
and you have to grow and understand that. And just
know that she gives them an ultimatum, Shanna kind of
stole my thunder. If she gives them the ultimatum, she's
going to make him do it before.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
He is totally, totally.
Speaker 7 (04:43):
Ready, and it's going to be downhill from that point.
So I think she should exercise a little bit more
patience with him, communicate with him and let him know
how important it is, and then go with him for
the rings, because guys, you got to spell it out
for him. So don't I showed you a ring on Pinterest.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
You make it happy, buddy.
Speaker 7 (05:03):
No, heyhn, let's go ring shopping and then show him
what you want.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
So sometimes you have.
Speaker 7 (05:07):
To lead us, but still, you know, give a direction
and then we'll take it from there. I agree with
you start yeah, because you cant have ring on your
finger physically, and he sees it and you light up.
Now the wheels are turning. The ball is gonna be
rolling the way you want it to be.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
I agree with you on the case of bringing her
in to go look at the rings. Don't you show
a picture because there'll be some other complaint that will
come up about the ring. But I don't like the
idea that I don't like the idea that she told
him that by the end of the year he's got
to do this thing. I just think that he's going
to feel like he was forced into it. Amanda, what's up, Hi?
Speaker 6 (05:47):
Good morning. I think she is not the A hole
because you know I'm saying about we're not worried about
him being the A hole?
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Is she the a hole?
Speaker 6 (05:58):
No, she's not. If you are already set up like
a conversation with your person, and he said, this is
how long I'm willing to be in a relationship before
I see it moving forward or before we take the steps,
then that's your own boundary. Why you just need to
know the relationship is going somewhere. It's not weird to
dring someone along by saying, oh, I want to, but
I you know, what.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Do you think ahead of time?
Speaker 1 (06:20):
What do you think about her telling him though that
that's what she's she wants him to do.
Speaker 6 (06:27):
Well, I that's what I told my husband that I
had to set time frame in mind and if it
didn't happen and we weren't pursuing each other or going
further in our relationship, then what were we doing?
Speaker 1 (06:39):
So you told him he had to do this? And
does he ever use that against you in any kind
of court of law?
Speaker 6 (06:46):
No, not at all. No, no, no, Because I had a
time frame that I wanted to spend with my partner
before we took steps into furthering our relationship, and that
was just something that I had in mind, and he
had known from the beginning.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
How long have been together?
Speaker 6 (07:02):
Eight years?
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Okay? And when did when? When did you give him
the ultimatum? And what was it?
Speaker 6 (07:07):
It wasn't like an ultimatum. It was more of like, hey,
this is my time frame that I think is acceptable.
And it started to come up on that timeframe of
I don't want to waste more time if it's not
going to go anywhere. And I already knew I wanted
marriage and he knew, and we both wanted the same thing.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
It's wasn't happening, and I think that there's ways to
get that from them before without giving like the actual date,
Like I mean, you know who are the marrying type
and you know who aren't, And if the guy's not
an acting type guy. If he's an inaction kind of guy,
do you really want to marry that? I honestly agree,
(07:43):
I don't know if you want to be in that relationship.
What's up, Mike? How you doing morning?
Speaker 3 (07:47):
How you guys doing good? Do you think she's an
a hole? Absolutely? Well?
Speaker 8 (07:59):
Being to for four years and you're gonna leave someone
because maybe they're not ready to be in that type
of relationship, so U basically give them an ultimatum after
four years and just throw all that away as completely long.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
See, I don't.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
I don't think that that's that's what makes her an
a whole I don't think that the four year part
in her throwing away the relationship, because she has a
say in this too. I think the a whole part
in her is how she presented it to him.
Speaker 8 (08:30):
Absolutely and at the end of the day, it's just
a piece of paper too.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
So well, I disagree with that, but I mean it's
it also some people think a covenant and you know,
but I I but I Mike, I'm gonna tell you, Mike,
you're a single guy.
Speaker 8 (08:45):
No, I'm married as well.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
Your wife.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Find how long did you date before you guys got engaged.
Speaker 8 (08:52):
Uh, we were together about I don't know about the
same time for four.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
Or five years.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Do you think your wife's gonna be happy when she
finds out the you say, it's just a piece of
a piece of paper.
Speaker 8 (09:02):
Oh, I told her, And plus you don't listen to
the radio.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
But I've told her many time.
Speaker 5 (09:06):
So I'll just be careful throwing away a perfect person
because they don't fit your marriage.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Tom.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
I think though that this though keV sometimes calls out
the people who are the imperfect people too, Like I think,
when it comes.
Speaker 5 (09:18):
To you, so this side was perfect, so I'm the
only thing that will make me perfect is if I
say I'm going to marry you.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
No, but I think that it's it's what makes her
also happy too. Like there are some people that don't
ever want to get married, and God bless them, you
know what I mean, Like that's their thing. But then
there are others that that's not what they see their
story being. And I think that those that don't see
themselves getting married should they should fit the same story
(09:44):
for sure.
Speaker 5 (09:45):
I just want to say, if you already have a
perfect love story and the only thing that isn't perfect
is that part. Then you could find that part with
someone else, but everything else won't be perfect.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Yeah, I uh and I listen. I agree one hundred percent.
And this is one of those makers break type situation.
This is either going to be a fantastic thing for
her this year.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
But do you mean now?
Speaker 3 (10:06):
I'm like, yeah, he's got special Bruce. What's up?
Speaker 8 (10:11):
All right?
Speaker 4 (10:11):
We're going on. I just want to say I think
she hate whole. I want to say she to hate hope,
but she's that category. I think that because a lot
of people throw away their relationship. I think they might
to get something new out there. But guess what the
new person that you think you won't do they want
to marry you? Do they think you marriage material. It's
better off stand with what you got before you are
hinded with nothing and then be having two hands in.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
You know, isn't it amazing all these guys that are
calling up this is unbelievable relationship.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
He's ad a bird in hand better than That's kind
of what he's said. What's up?
Speaker 4 (10:42):
Tim High?
Speaker 3 (10:44):
Another guy?
Speaker 4 (10:45):
Yeah? Yeah, I just wanted to comment. I figure this
is going to be drawn out till the last day.
Speaker 6 (10:52):
Of this year.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
I would hope, I hope he.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
Propose it's going to be December thirtieth.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
Man, that's home. That would be the greatest moment.
Time now here on Mojo in the Morning for am
I the A Hole. And this is something that's easy
for you to do if you would like to be
on am I the A Hole. It's where you can
tell us what's going on in your life, that you
got a little bit of a worry that you might
get called out for, and then we'll bring it to
(00:21):
the air and we'll open it up to our listeners
as well as us for a little piece of advice.
You may get called an a hole, but please don't
say the full word because we can't do that on
our radio show. This week's am I the A Hole.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Hi, So, I turned thirty this year and if my
boyfriend doesn't propose to me by the end of the year,
I'm bringing up with him.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Wow, it just seems pretty cut and dry.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Turning thirty this year and if boyfriend will not propose
by the end of the year, he's got an ultimatum. Oh,
she's breaking up with him. How long her name is, Angie?
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Hi?
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Angie? Hey, how long have you guys been together?
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Like four years?
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Okay, that's a good amount of time.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Did you tell him this or is this just something
that you know for yourself that if he doesn't do this, Like,
does he have an ultimatum on his hands or is
this just your time frame?
Speaker 4 (01:15):
Yeah? No, he knows. I've been very clear.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Oh wow, So you guys have talked about getting engaged
in the in you know, over the past couple of
years or months. Yeah, I mean, like we talk about marriage.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
He said that he wanted to repose for like a
year now, and I'm just like, I'm tired.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Of no accent.
Speaker 5 (01:33):
You know.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Have you gone ring shopping?
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Well no, but I'm not doing that, Like he needs
to do that.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Oh so you don't want to say so, and what
your ring is going to be? You You're going to
let him go do it? But you don't even know
because I would think that nowadays, guys pretty much are
going to bring their girl with just to at least
get an idea.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Yeah, so he's not he's not even thinking.
Speaker 6 (01:54):
About this texture.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Okay, okay?
Speaker 5 (01:57):
Is this like, are you happy in the relations reationship?
Is this the only deal breaker for you?
Speaker 4 (02:04):
I'm very happy, but this turns me off, you know, like,
if you want something, get it, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I think your situation is a little different because you
guys have talked about getting engaged, So it's definitely a thought.
It's like, it's not like he's not interested in getting
married or committing that way or as I know, we've
talked to couples before who that's not even a topic
of conversation. I just wonder why if he's been if
he's if he's been saying for a year now that
(02:34):
he wants to and it hasn't happened, what's the I.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Have a different thought, and I'm gonna tell you my
thought when we call it when it comes to Ideahle,
I think if you were to have said to us,
I want to get married by the end of the
year or get engaged to by the end of the year,
and if I don't get engaged to by the end
of the year, then I'm going to break up, you
would have said when I asked the question, does he
know that? No, he doesn't know that, But that's just
(02:58):
in my head. I wouldn't say you're in a hole.
I think the fact that you told him that he
has to do it is an ultimatum. And I think
that no matter you guys been together for four years
or one year. I think the problem with that is
you just took away the sincerity or the him wanting
(03:22):
to do it. Now you made it, you need to
do it.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I actually agree with you. And the thing that I
hate about ultimatums that have been vocalized is that now
if I were you, Angie, I would get a little nervous.
That's he's doing it because he feels like he has to,
not because he actually wants to.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
And you know what else, Shannon, I think that it
will come up one time or two or four or
twenty eight in their relationship.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
It's something to be resentful over.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 5 (03:50):
You want the relationship, You want the relationship to progress naturally.
You don't want to force somebody into becoming somebody at
they're not. That's a whole another seid problem.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
That being said, if I've been in a relationship for
four years and we've talked about getting engaged, and we've
looked at rings on Pinterest or whatever, I'm also going,
why isn't he in the back of my head? As
a woman, I know how I would feel about that,
and I'd be going, why not yet?
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Gil, what's up?
Speaker 7 (04:16):
Am I?
Speaker 3 (04:17):
The A hole is Angie and a hole Morning.
Speaker 7 (04:20):
Mojo on the team partial partially the a hole because
maasures of our compromise. So it's not going to be
the way you want it to be all the time,
and you have to grow and understand that. And just
know that she gives them an ultimatum, Shanna kind of
stole my thunder. If she gives them the ultimatum, she's
going to make him do it before.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
He is totally, totally.
Speaker 7 (04:43):
Ready, and it's going to be downhill from that point.
So I think she should exercise a little bit more
patience with him, communicate with him and let him know
how important it is, and then go with him for
the rings, because guys, you got to spell it out
for him. So don't I showed you a ring on Pinterest.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
You make it happy, buddy.
Speaker 7 (05:03):
No, heyhn, let's go ring shopping and then show him
what you want.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
So sometimes you have.
Speaker 7 (05:07):
To lead us, but still, you know, give a direction
and then we'll take it from there. I agree with
you start yeah, because you cant have ring on your
finger physically, and he sees it and you light up.
Now the wheels are turning. The ball is gonna be
rolling the way you want it to be.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
I agree with you on the case of bringing her
in to go look at the rings. Don't you show
a picture because there'll be some other complaint that will
come up about the ring. But I don't like the
idea that I don't like the idea that she told
him that by the end of the year he's got
to do this thing. I just think that he's going
to feel like he was forced into it. Amanda, what's up, Hi?
Speaker 6 (05:47):
Good morning. I think she is not the A hole
because you know I'm saying about we're not worried about
him being the A hole?
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Is she the a hole?
Speaker 6 (05:58):
No, she's not. If you are already set up like
a conversation with your person, and he said, this is
how long I'm willing to be in a relationship before
I see it moving forward or before we take the steps,
then that's your own boundary. Why you just need to
know the relationship is going somewhere. It's not weird to
dring someone along by saying, oh, I want to, but
I you know, what.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Do you think ahead of time?
Speaker 1 (06:20):
What do you think about her telling him though that
that's what she's she wants him to do.
Speaker 6 (06:27):
Well, I that's what I told my husband that I
had to set time frame in mind and if it
didn't happen and we weren't pursuing each other or going
further in our relationship, then what were we doing?
Speaker 1 (06:39):
So you told him he had to do this? And
does he ever use that against you in any kind
of court of law?
Speaker 6 (06:46):
No, not at all. No, no, no, Because I had a
time frame that I wanted to spend with my partner
before we took steps into furthering our relationship, and that
was just something that I had in mind, and he
had known from the beginning.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
How long have been together?
Speaker 6 (07:02):
Eight years?
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Okay? And when did when? When did you give him
the ultimatum? And what was it?
Speaker 6 (07:07):
It wasn't like an ultimatum. It was more of like, hey,
this is my time frame that I think is acceptable.
And it started to come up on that timeframe of
I don't want to waste more time if it's not
going to go anywhere. And I already knew I wanted
marriage and he knew, and we both wanted the same thing.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
It's wasn't happening, and I think that there's ways to
get that from them before without giving like the actual date,
Like I mean, you know who are the marrying type
and you know who aren't, And if the guy's not
an acting type guy. If he's an inaction kind of guy,
do you really want to marry that? I honestly agree,
(07:43):
I don't know if you want to be in that relationship.
What's up, Mike? How you doing morning?
Speaker 3 (07:47):
How you guys doing good? Do you think she's an
a hole? Absolutely? Well?
Speaker 8 (07:59):
Being to for four years and you're gonna leave someone
because maybe they're not ready to be in that type
of relationship, so U basically give them an ultimatum after
four years and just throw all that away as completely long.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
See, I don't.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
I don't think that that's that's what makes her an
a whole I don't think that the four year part
in her throwing away the relationship, because she has a
say in this too. I think the a whole part
in her is how she presented it to him.
Speaker 8 (08:30):
Absolutely and at the end of the day, it's just
a piece of paper too.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
So well, I disagree with that, but I mean it's
it also some people think a covenant and you know,
but I I but I Mike, I'm gonna tell you, Mike,
you're a single guy.
Speaker 8 (08:45):
No, I'm married as well.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
Your wife.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Find how long did you date before you guys got engaged.
Speaker 8 (08:52):
Uh, we were together about I don't know about the
same time for four.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
Or five years.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Do you think your wife's gonna be happy when she
finds out the you say, it's just a piece of
a piece of paper.
Speaker 8 (09:02):
Oh, I told her, And plus you don't listen to
the radio.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
But I've told her many time.
Speaker 5 (09:06):
So I'll just be careful throwing away a perfect person
because they don't fit your marriage.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Tom.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
I think though that this though keV sometimes calls out
the people who are the imperfect people too, Like I think,
when it comes.
Speaker 5 (09:18):
To you, so this side was perfect, so I'm the
only thing that will make me perfect is if I
say I'm going to marry you.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
No, but I think that it's it's what makes her
also happy too. Like there are some people that don't
ever want to get married, and God bless them, you
know what I mean, Like that's their thing. But then
there are others that that's not what they see their
story being. And I think that those that don't see
themselves getting married should they should fit the same story
(09:44):
for sure.
Speaker 5 (09:45):
I just want to say, if you already have a
perfect love story and the only thing that isn't perfect
is that part. Then you could find that part with
someone else, but everything else won't be perfect.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Yeah, I uh and I listen. I agree one hundred percent.
And this is one of those makers break type situation.
This is either going to be a fantastic thing for
her this year.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
But do you mean now?
Speaker 3 (10:06):
I'm like, yeah, he's got special Bruce. What's up?
Speaker 8 (10:11):
All right?
Speaker 4 (10:11):
We're going on. I just want to say I think
she hate whole. I want to say she to hate hope,
but she's that category. I think that because a lot
of people throw away their relationship. I think they might
to get something new out there. But guess what the
new person that you think you won't do they want
to marry you? Do they think you marriage material. It's
better off stand with what you got before you are
hinded with nothing and then be having two hands in.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
You know, isn't it amazing all these guys that are
calling up this is unbelievable relationship.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
He's ad a bird in hand better than That's kind
of what he's said. What's up?
Speaker 4 (10:42):
Tim High?
Speaker 3 (10:44):
Another guy?
Speaker 4 (10:45):
Yeah? Yeah, I just wanted to comment. I figure this
is going to be drawn out till the last day.
Speaker 6 (10:52):
Of this year.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
I would hope, I hope he.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
Propose it's going to be December thirtieth.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
Man, that's home. That would be the greatest moment.
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