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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. It is
time now for am I the a Hole? On your Home?
Of the War, the Roses Second Date Update and the
Dirty on the thirty Let's hear it. Today's am I
the a Hole?
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hey?
Speaker 3 (00:13):
So I started my boss for free stuff even though
I have a boyfriend, and I'm wondering if I'm an
a hole for it?
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Are you an a hole because you flirt with your
boss for all kinds of stuff?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Like?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
What kind of stuff, Sandra? Are you getting for flirting?
Speaker 4 (00:32):
But am I getting for flirting?
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Yeah? What are you getting?
Speaker 3 (00:35):
Well, let's see kind of free food? I get shifts covered.
I've been told that if I just kind of maintain
my you know, good work and what I'm kind of like,
I don't know, it's a good relationship, I'm probably going
to get out a promotion.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Okay, So you're flirting with the boss and you're getting,
you think, or you say, preferential treatment. Are you an
a hole for.
Speaker 5 (01:04):
Doing that because she's in a relation set because she's
in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Well, whether you're in a relationship or not in a relationship,
is it okay to flirt with your boss to try
to get stuff? For free or get things.
Speaker 6 (01:17):
No not Okay, does your boyfriend know that you do
this or is this like just being a secret.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
No, Yeah, he knows, and he knows that I'm just
having fun with it, and he knows that, like I'm
just keeping it in work, like he says, as long
as I keep it in work, I'm fine.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Yeah. By the way, I feel like generally most people
will flirt to get something, you know what I mean,
Either you're getting sex, which is probably the ultimate right,
or a cocktail or a drink or something like that.
You know, I have never flirted with our boss. You
never flirt with boss. I've never heard, honestly of flirting
with the actual boss. That's what I was going to say. Yeah,
(01:56):
is flirting with a boss to be able to get
something at work? Does that? Is that something that is comment?
Speaker 7 (02:04):
I know at a place that I used to work
a lot of executive assistants would end up dating their
person that they were assisting.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Really.
Speaker 7 (02:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I heard a story about one of the old salespeople
that used to work here at the station that used
to flirt with the sales manager in order to get accounts.
And the stories that I heard were unbelievable about them.
But the wildest was I noticed that that person never
seemed like they were doing a lot of work, and
they had great accounts. I know, exactly so with you,
(02:37):
but but I okay, So here's the thing I would
say to you, Sandra, I think that there are going
to be people that will hold it against you. I
think other women will hold it against you. I think
that there are those that would say, you know, as
long as you're you know, not like you know, sleeping
with them, I don't know.
Speaker 6 (02:55):
But see, I feel like these situations never end, will
exactly because how does it end? Because at a certain
point in time, the flirting has to escalate or maybe
there's retaliation if it doesn't escalate on the on the
you know, the part of the boss yeap, Like I.
Speaker 5 (03:12):
I don't think you're an ahole necessarily. It feels yuck
to me. But I agree with keV, like where does
it go? Because it's like you're setting a bar and
he's gonna want a little more and a little more,
and a little more and a little more.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
And at some point, like what's the next thing? What
if she uses this though against him? And then and
so right if she's the one. If she's the one
that's doing it purposely, does she have a right to
do that?
Speaker 6 (03:38):
What you mean, like to take him the course like
I'm being sexually harassed?
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Yeah, now she's turning it against it hopefully. What's going
on me, Mika is Sandra and a whole She's.
Speaker 8 (03:50):
Totally an ale, regardless of.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Say it again, your phone, your phone got up, regardless
of what.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Regardless of she's in a relationship, ship or not.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
That is just so yuck. Yeah, that she's doing that.
I wonder what kind of would you be able to
tell us what kind of work you do, Sandra, because
that would be interesting to hear what kind of work
you do.
Speaker 4 (04:10):
Yeah, I'm just in the restaurant business, and flirting has
happened so much in that business, and I think that
it's easy to cross those lines and keep it fun.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Though without it going too far.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
So I don't know, like, I just think it's fun
and I get extra stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Is the boss in a relationship? You mentioned you're in
a relationship? Is the Boston one?
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Oh gosh, I don't know, Actually, don't.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
You don't know if your boss is in a relationship
or not? In a relationship.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
No, I mean, I just don't really. I kind of
keep that stuff kind of out in the.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
I guess, like to me, I would think that you
would know that right away because you never know if
his you know, wife or girlfriend or whoever is around,
either she knew or she just not worry. Yeah, and
don't even care as long as you question.
Speaker 7 (05:04):
Does your boss? Do you think he knows that you're
sort of just playing along with it? Or do you
think he thinks you're actually into whatever's going on?
Speaker 4 (05:15):
I think that he's maybe it takes everything with a
grain of salt, like thinks maybe I'm being a little
serious and genuine am I flirt, but also knows that
he's giving me things.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
I think that most people can tell when you're just
flirting to get something. But I think that in regard
he might be actually he might be doing it just
for the flirting, you know what I mean? Like that
they may be the only reason that he's enjoying your
work at you're doing is because you're flirting with him.
What do you think, Patty, I'm surprised that people are
(05:50):
saying anything other than not the ale. Doesn't everybody flirt
with their boss? Well? Not me, But I got to
be honest with you. We got a beautiful boss here
and she's looking great today.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Man.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Yeah, well you know, I mean it's just par for
the course in my opinion. Yeah, Shannon says she never
has batted her eyes at Tony Trevado. Call Tony and
ask him. I want to know that. He thinks. Shannon's like, Hi, Tony,
what's going on? How you doing? Rachel?
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Hey?
Speaker 4 (06:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (06:28):
So my question is like, how hot is your boss?
Speaker 7 (06:31):
Like?
Speaker 8 (06:31):
Is this could this be danger for you? Or is
he like older and just wants to feel good about him?
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Is he an ugly bastard? Or is he good looking?
He's not ugly, so it's not hard to end to flirt.
Oh what do you think then, Rachel, that's a little wrong.
Speaker 8 (06:47):
I mean if you told me like he was in
the sixties.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
And he was like, you know, I just needed to
feel like a little perk.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Yeah, that'd be one thing. But if he's like.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
I don't know, it's like, I don't know, I can't
support you.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
If he's good looking, it's okay. If he's ugly and fat,
then it's not okay. What's up allising?
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Yeah, I don't think you're she's an a hole, But
I just don't think it's a safe situation for everybody,
like Kevin said or Shannon said, like how like how
how far do you go? And did her the question
that was asked like does your boss know that you
all are joking or not? And she wasn't for sure
on that question, like if it's just a friendly flirting,
(07:31):
then both parties should know that it's a friendly flirting,
not you know. So I wouldn't recommend, but go off, girl.
Speaker 5 (07:39):
I feel like it goes sour for someone in that
quote unquote relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Hannah, what did you want to say?
Speaker 2 (07:50):
Hi?
Speaker 8 (07:50):
I think she is in a whole just because this
is exactly why women are still stereotypes in the workforce
your way to the top, or baking cookies your way
to the top. It's really irritating to see.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
What do you think about that, Sandra?
Speaker 4 (08:10):
I mean, I think that if I had some super
corporate job or something, that maybe that would be a thing.
But I'm just in a restaurant business. I'm not I'm
still young. I think that it's fine to use what
you have to gain some assets.
Speaker 7 (08:21):
But you're still getting a promotion out of it.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
Well, I could get a promotion out of it, because
I mean, now he knows I'm pleasant to work with,
and so managers want to workers.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Ben, what do you think.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
I mean, as someone that grew up in the restaurant industry,
just to let her know, we.
Speaker 8 (08:42):
Make fun of you behind your back because you think
you're getting somewhere, but you're not out.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Yeah, so he probably knows what she's doing.
Speaker 8 (08:52):
He knows he's just playing along with it.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Yeah, back, what's going on? What do you think? Becca?
Speaker 7 (09:03):
Hi?
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (09:03):
Sorry I did that here?
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Hi?
Speaker 1 (09:05):
What do you think?
Speaker 6 (09:07):
Hi?
Speaker 3 (09:07):
I think these people are mean, Sandra.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
I don't think you're using anything to get anything.
Speaker 8 (09:12):
It's a kitchen, their.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Fries like Zar five. Have you worked in the restaurant business, Becca,
I do.
Speaker 8 (09:21):
Oh I do, And those are my work husbies and.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
That's just how it goes.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
And what do you get for flirting? Do you flirt
with them? I mean a French fry here and there,
a little bit of a bigger steak is not hurting nobody.
That is interesting. I remember when I worked in a
restaurant and I would be there. All I wished was
that somebody would screw up a meal. So I could
get like the bad meal. But this is interesting. You
know you, Sandra, you probably get all the good meals,
(09:48):
don't you. They probably give your free food all the time.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
I mean I eat pretty well at work.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (09:55):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Stephanie wants to ask a question. What's that question?
Speaker 8 (09:58):
Does your boss know that you you are in a relationship.
Speaker 4 (10:04):
Yeah, I've mentioned that I have a boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Oh okay, then it's fine as long as you guys
are fine. Well, no, because I would say this to
you that he probably is flirting back with you and
he's probably in a relationship. You say you don't know,
but then it's just kind of like everybody's just being
friendly with each other as long as you're not are
you're not sleeping with him? Are you? Or are you
going to have sex with him?
Speaker 2 (10:25):
No?
Speaker 4 (10:26):
I'm not sleeping with him. I'm just flirting with him
at work.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Okay, Because that's the thing I would probably say is
if you're just flirting, isn't flirting just flirting? It's just
innocent flirting. It can go somewhere, bro as long as
you're not like boning them, you know what I mean?
But how does this start start with flirting? Well? Are
you going to take it to the next level, Sandra,
do you think that you would eventually have sex with him? Oh?
Speaker 5 (10:51):
Okay, well, okay, enough said am I the a hole
Speaker 1 (10:57):
The Mojo in the Morning Show.
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. It is
time now for am I the a Hole? On your Home?
Of the War, the Roses Second Date Update and the
Dirty on the thirty Let's hear it. Today's am I
the a Hole?
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hey?
Speaker 3 (00:13):
So I started my boss for free stuff even though
I have a boyfriend, and I'm wondering if I'm an
a hole for it?
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Are you an a hole because you flirt with your
boss for all kinds of stuff?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Like?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
What kind of stuff, Sandra? Are you getting for flirting?
Speaker 4 (00:32):
But am I getting for flirting?
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Yeah? What are you getting?
Speaker 3 (00:35):
Well, let's see kind of free food? I get shifts covered.
I've been told that if I just kind of maintain
my you know, good work and what I'm kind of like,
I don't know, it's a good relationship, I'm probably going
to get out a promotion.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Okay, So you're flirting with the boss and you're getting,
you think, or you say, preferential treatment. Are you an
a hole for.
Speaker 5 (01:04):
Doing that because she's in a relation set because she's
in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Well, whether you're in a relationship or not in a relationship,
is it okay to flirt with your boss to try
to get stuff? For free or get things.
Speaker 6 (01:17):
No not Okay, does your boyfriend know that you do
this or is this like just being a secret.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
No, Yeah, he knows, and he knows that I'm just
having fun with it, and he knows that, like I'm
just keeping it in work, like he says, as long
as I keep it in work, I'm fine.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Yeah. By the way, I feel like generally most people
will flirt to get something, you know what I mean,
Either you're getting sex, which is probably the ultimate right,
or a cocktail or a drink or something like that.
You know, I have never flirted with our boss. You
never flirt with boss. I've never heard, honestly of flirting
with the actual boss. That's what I was going to say. Yeah,
(01:56):
is flirting with a boss to be able to get
something at work? Does that? Is that something that is comment?
Speaker 7 (02:04):
I know at a place that I used to work
a lot of executive assistants would end up dating their
person that they were assisting.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Really.
Speaker 7 (02:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I heard a story about one of the old salespeople
that used to work here at the station that used
to flirt with the sales manager in order to get accounts.
And the stories that I heard were unbelievable about them.
But the wildest was I noticed that that person never
seemed like they were doing a lot of work, and
they had great accounts. I know, exactly so with you,
(02:37):
but but I okay, So here's the thing I would
say to you, Sandra, I think that there are going
to be people that will hold it against you. I
think other women will hold it against you. I think
that there are those that would say, you know, as
long as you're you know, not like you know, sleeping
with them, I don't know.
Speaker 6 (02:55):
But see, I feel like these situations never end, will
exactly because how does it end? Because at a certain
point in time, the flirting has to escalate or maybe
there's retaliation if it doesn't escalate on the on the
you know, the part of the boss yeap, Like I.
Speaker 5 (03:12):
I don't think you're an ahole necessarily. It feels yuck
to me. But I agree with keV, like where does
it go? Because it's like you're setting a bar and
he's gonna want a little more and a little more,
and a little more and a little more.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
And at some point, like what's the next thing? What
if she uses this though against him? And then and
so right if she's the one. If she's the one
that's doing it purposely, does she have a right to
do that?
Speaker 6 (03:38):
What you mean, like to take him the course like
I'm being sexually harassed?
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Yeah, now she's turning it against it hopefully. What's going
on me, Mika is Sandra and a whole She's.
Speaker 8 (03:50):
Totally an ale, regardless of.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Say it again, your phone, your phone got up, regardless
of what.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Regardless of she's in a relationship, ship or not.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
That is just so yuck. Yeah, that she's doing that.
I wonder what kind of would you be able to
tell us what kind of work you do, Sandra, because
that would be interesting to hear what kind of work
you do.
Speaker 4 (04:10):
Yeah, I'm just in the restaurant business, and flirting has
happened so much in that business, and I think that
it's easy to cross those lines and keep it fun.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Though without it going too far.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
So I don't know, like, I just think it's fun
and I get extra stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Is the boss in a relationship? You mentioned you're in
a relationship? Is the Boston one?
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Oh gosh, I don't know, Actually, don't.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
You don't know if your boss is in a relationship
or not? In a relationship.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
No, I mean, I just don't really. I kind of
keep that stuff kind of out in the.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
I guess, like to me, I would think that you
would know that right away because you never know if
his you know, wife or girlfriend or whoever is around,
either she knew or she just not worry. Yeah, and
don't even care as long as you question.
Speaker 7 (05:04):
Does your boss? Do you think he knows that you're
sort of just playing along with it? Or do you
think he thinks you're actually into whatever's going on?
Speaker 4 (05:15):
I think that he's maybe it takes everything with a
grain of salt, like thinks maybe I'm being a little
serious and genuine am I flirt, but also knows that
he's giving me things.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
I think that most people can tell when you're just
flirting to get something. But I think that in regard
he might be actually he might be doing it just
for the flirting, you know what I mean? Like that
they may be the only reason that he's enjoying your
work at you're doing is because you're flirting with him.
What do you think, Patty, I'm surprised that people are
(05:50):
saying anything other than not the ale. Doesn't everybody flirt
with their boss? Well? Not me, But I got to
be honest with you. We got a beautiful boss here
and she's looking great today.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Man.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Yeah, well you know, I mean it's just par for
the course in my opinion. Yeah, Shannon says she never
has batted her eyes at Tony Trevado. Call Tony and
ask him. I want to know that. He thinks. Shannon's like, Hi, Tony,
what's going on? How you doing? Rachel?
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Hey?
Speaker 4 (06:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (06:28):
So my question is like, how hot is your boss?
Speaker 7 (06:31):
Like?
Speaker 8 (06:31):
Is this could this be danger for you? Or is
he like older and just wants to feel good about him?
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Is he an ugly bastard? Or is he good looking?
He's not ugly, so it's not hard to end to flirt.
Oh what do you think then, Rachel, that's a little wrong.
Speaker 8 (06:47):
I mean if you told me like he was in
the sixties.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
And he was like, you know, I just needed to
feel like a little perk.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Yeah, that'd be one thing. But if he's like.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
I don't know, it's like, I don't know, I can't
support you.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
If he's good looking, it's okay. If he's ugly and fat,
then it's not okay. What's up allising?
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Yeah, I don't think you're she's an a hole, But
I just don't think it's a safe situation for everybody,
like Kevin said or Shannon said, like how like how
how far do you go? And did her the question
that was asked like does your boss know that you
all are joking or not? And she wasn't for sure
on that question, like if it's just a friendly flirting,
(07:31):
then both parties should know that it's a friendly flirting,
not you know. So I wouldn't recommend, but go off, girl.
Speaker 5 (07:39):
I feel like it goes sour for someone in that
quote unquote relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Hannah, what did you want to say?
Speaker 2 (07:50):
Hi?
Speaker 8 (07:50):
I think she is in a whole just because this
is exactly why women are still stereotypes in the workforce
your way to the top, or baking cookies your way
to the top. It's really irritating to see.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
What do you think about that, Sandra?
Speaker 4 (08:10):
I mean, I think that if I had some super
corporate job or something, that maybe that would be a thing.
But I'm just in a restaurant business. I'm not I'm
still young. I think that it's fine to use what
you have to gain some assets.
Speaker 7 (08:21):
But you're still getting a promotion out of it.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
Well, I could get a promotion out of it, because
I mean, now he knows I'm pleasant to work with,
and so managers want to workers.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Ben, what do you think.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
I mean, as someone that grew up in the restaurant industry,
just to let her know, we.
Speaker 8 (08:42):
Make fun of you behind your back because you think
you're getting somewhere, but you're not out.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Yeah, so he probably knows what she's doing.
Speaker 8 (08:52):
He knows he's just playing along with it.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Yeah, back, what's going on? What do you think? Becca?
Speaker 7 (09:03):
Hi?
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (09:03):
Sorry I did that here?
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Hi?
Speaker 1 (09:05):
What do you think?
Speaker 6 (09:07):
Hi?
Speaker 3 (09:07):
I think these people are mean, Sandra.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
I don't think you're using anything to get anything.
Speaker 8 (09:12):
It's a kitchen, their.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Fries like Zar five. Have you worked in the restaurant business, Becca,
I do.
Speaker 8 (09:21):
Oh I do, And those are my work husbies and.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
That's just how it goes.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
And what do you get for flirting? Do you flirt
with them? I mean a French fry here and there,
a little bit of a bigger steak is not hurting nobody.
That is interesting. I remember when I worked in a
restaurant and I would be there. All I wished was
that somebody would screw up a meal. So I could
get like the bad meal. But this is interesting. You
know you, Sandra, you probably get all the good meals,
(09:48):
don't you. They probably give your free food all the time.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
I mean I eat pretty well at work.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (09:55):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Stephanie wants to ask a question. What's that question?
Speaker 8 (09:58):
Does your boss know that you you are in a relationship.
Speaker 4 (10:04):
Yeah, I've mentioned that I have a boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Oh okay, then it's fine as long as you guys
are fine. Well, no, because I would say this to
you that he probably is flirting back with you and
he's probably in a relationship. You say you don't know,
but then it's just kind of like everybody's just being
friendly with each other as long as you're not are
you're not sleeping with him? Are you? Or are you
going to have sex with him?
Speaker 2 (10:25):
No?
Speaker 4 (10:26):
I'm not sleeping with him. I'm just flirting with him
at work.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Okay, Because that's the thing I would probably say is
if you're just flirting, isn't flirting just flirting? It's just
innocent flirting. It can go somewhere, bro as long as
you're not like boning them, you know what I mean?
But how does this start start with flirting? Well? Are
you going to take it to the next level, Sandra,
do you think that you would eventually have sex with him? Oh?
Speaker 5 (10:51):
Okay, well, okay, enough said am I the a hole
Speaker 1 (10:57):
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