Anna Picked the Wrong Guy in the Friend Group

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is Mojo in the morning show. You know,

(00:02):
we haven't started with Anna and a bit Anna, Rob.
It's good to have you got here with us. Did
you have a good weekend? Did you have a good time?

Speaker 2 (00:09):
I had a great weekend.

Speaker 1 (00:12):
But yes, I need help. Oh but okay, all right,
what did you do anything you do anything fun or exciting?

Speaker 2 (00:19):
I did a lot. So Saturday, I had a little
meet day. I did all of my favorite things, like
going to Eastern Market, my favorite coffee shops. And then
yesterday I volunteered and was just outside watching the lines
for you.

Speaker 3 (00:34):
Dope.

Speaker 2 (00:34):
Yeah, it was cool. This was so I volunteer a lot,
but this time it was like in the neighborhood that
I live in, so it was right downtown. So we
were passing out food and I was like passing out
food to people that I see every day walking the streets.
So it was like cool to finally talk to them
and hear a little bit about their story.

Speaker 3 (00:52):
And so I'm good for you. That's awesome. So what
was the thing that you need to help with now?

Speaker 2 (00:57):
Yes, okay, So I went out last night to watch
the Lions game and I saw this guy that I
have a huge crush on I would love us to
have a thing. But here's the catcher. He is really
good friends with somebody that I talked to earlier this year.
So I don't know if this is like a conflict

(01:19):
of interest. I don't think that he knows that me
and his friend talked either.

Speaker 4 (01:24):
Just talked or like, did you date for like a
couple of months.

Speaker 2 (01:27):
It was like a casual dating thing for like three months,
Like we went out a couple of times, Like I
would go over to his crib, he would come over
to my apartment, Like I liked his friend, but I
like this other guy more.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
I always wonder, like when Shannon, I'm happy that you
said that just talk? Does just talk and then coming
over to your place mean he's is he touching you?

Speaker 2 (01:49):
Is he he was?

Speaker 3 (01:53):
Okay? All right?

Speaker 1 (01:54):
So because I think that's where I was wondering. It's
like just talk or yeah, casual whatever the deal? All right, guys,
if you guys have if you guys have even kissed, okay,
take a side. If you guys have actually touched each
other's naughties, I think you got to say something like
I think if you kiss his friend, you know what

(02:14):
I mean? It's got to be something that comes up,
because otherwise it's going to come up.

Speaker 3 (02:20):
Between the two friends.

Speaker 4 (02:21):
Is the guy that that you have a crush on
aware that you have a crush on him, know that that, yeah,
you talked to his friend.

Speaker 2 (02:29):
See, I don't know. I don't think so. I definitely
didn't say anything. He doesn't act like he knows because
the guy that I have a crush on is in
my DMS like like you all my stuff, hard eyes.
So I feel like he wouldn't be doing that he
knew that I used to talk to us.

Speaker 4 (02:44):
I was gonna say, I kind of think this is
more between them.

Speaker 1 (02:47):
Right, But she's got to be the disclosure, don't you
think anything. She's got to say, hey, by the way,
you know we have a mutual friend or we have a.

Speaker 5 (02:55):
I think the guy you're interested in, which is the
more recent guy, you should tell him a by the way,
just so you know your frie Yeah for sure.

Speaker 2 (03:06):
I mean how would I say that, like just so
you know, say.

Speaker 5 (03:09):
It, oh, by the way, because you don't want to
get blindsided by that or kiss him and then now
they're brother.

Speaker 3 (03:16):
That's what I'm saying. Yeah, you don't want to get
blindsided with that information.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
E then what would you do though, Like, do you
think this guy would that's a turn off.

Speaker 5 (03:24):
It depends on what you did with my friend, you
know what I mecause if I'm or like you know,
my nephews.

Speaker 1 (03:30):
Are now you know, you know he's going to be
like sloppy seconds exactly. You don't want to be the sloppy.

Speaker 2 (03:35):
Second than so I really picked the wrong one to.

Speaker 3 (03:38):
Start, you know what.

Speaker 1 (03:39):
Sometimes they that usually happens, and then you find and
then the one that you then with end up with
second is usually the one they end up in a
longer term relationship with. And that's okay. I would say
the earlier you tell them, the better. We have friends
that are married to uh. I have a friend who's
married to a twin and dated the brother first. No, yeah,

(04:01):
they dated the brother when they were in college and
out of college, you know, you know, went their separate
ways and then ended up back with the brother and
dated the brother, which, by the way, definitely made the
right choice to go secondary because not all twins are identical.

Speaker 3 (04:19):
This guy was my best friend too.

Speaker 2 (04:21):
Really yeah, actually she's so my best friend. Her sister
is dating a guy that my friend used to date,
so like her sister's now dating.

Speaker 6 (04:31):
You.

Speaker 1 (04:31):
Guys are Kaldians, though that happens all the time. It's
called called being a Caldean. No, okay, it's a white friend.

Speaker 3 (04:39):
So I think it's okay.

Speaker 2 (04:39):
I think she should just do whateverver she wants.

Speaker 6 (04:42):
What's going on, Taylor, Yeah, I definitely think you should
go for it, honestly, because guys are a little different
than girls, Like I do.

Speaker 2 (04:50):
Think you should bring it up, like so that he
knows that, like, there was a thing, but.

Speaker 1 (04:55):
At the end of the day, he'll tell you that.

Speaker 4 (04:57):
He's uncomfortable with it.

Speaker 1 (04:58):
Most guys aren't really though, to like uncomfortable those things.

Speaker 3 (05:03):
I disagree with you.

Speaker 1 (05:06):
You don't think that most guys would be uncomfortable with
the idea that their friend was with the girl that
now they're starting.

Speaker 3 (05:12):
To talk to.

Speaker 6 (05:14):
But they weren't.

Speaker 1 (05:15):
They were just talking, Yeah, but they were they were
doing more than just talking. It sounds like I don't
know exactly the extent of it, but I'm telling you
I think that I think most guys at first would
be a little freaked out by the whole thing.

Speaker 5 (05:27):
It depends on the severity of the interaction. You had
with my friend, and if I really, like if if
you and not seeing you Anna, just speaking in general,
if I'm not viewing this as anything serious, Like if
I'm not trying to date you with intention, then I
don't care what you did with anybody as long as
you do that same thing with me and hopefully even more.
But if you're somebody I'm actually interested in pursuing, then

(05:47):
it'll matter.

Speaker 3 (05:49):
Corey. What's up? Hi? Hi Corey? Long time? I love
you too.

Speaker 6 (06:00):
I was just I called him last week.

Speaker 5 (06:02):
And was talking about how Anna needed some guidance, like
if this was happening.

Speaker 3 (06:06):
Reverse and it was like one of her friends and
whatever it may be, it would be totally she'd be upset.
So like, you gotta let this guy know. What do
you think about that? Anna? If you put the shoe
on the other foot, I do.

Speaker 2 (06:20):
I think it's different for girls. I mean I personally
would also. I wonder like, is it my place to
tell him or should this be a conversation between him
and his friend.

Speaker 3 (06:31):
You're afraid that if you tell him it ruins the mood?
Aren't you a little bit?

Speaker 5 (06:35):
You should tell him?

Speaker 6 (06:36):
Or it's like you're keeping a secret.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
It's not that serious between me and this guy. Like,
I don't even know if I should pursue it, like
pursue it because I'm wondering if this will be problematic.
Maybe I'll just leave him a.

Speaker 1 (06:47):
No, I think you pursue I think I think you problematic. Well, Corey,
you're very optimistic man. You're kind of You're kind of
a glass is half empty kind of guy, aren't you.

Speaker 6 (07:01):
Uh not really, I'm just trying to help guide this
young woman.

Speaker 1 (07:04):
Okay, all right, Well, thanks for looking out for Anna.

Speaker 3 (07:07):
We appreciate it. But I think you shouldn't give up
on it.

Speaker 1 (07:11):
But I think that it's just a quick little hey,
by the way, we have mutual friend.

Speaker 2 (07:15):
Well, after I heard Kevin talk about his little how
he feels about it, now I'm rethinking of like, I
don't think he'll ever take me seriously.

Speaker 1 (07:24):
Now, Yeah, because here's the deal. As a guy, if
I knew that, and I'm going to go right for it.
But if I knew that the girl was having sex
with the buddy of mine, I think the whole time
that we were together, I'd be thinking, oh my god,
she yeah, yeah, like I would be thinking about that
kissing is you know whatever, or pursuing and stuff like that.
But it's all of a sudden like, Okay, he's going

(07:45):
to forever have that on me.

Speaker 3 (07:47):
What's up? Justin?

Speaker 6 (07:49):
Hey, good morning, guys, good morning.

Speaker 3 (07:51):
How you doing.

Speaker 1 (07:51):
Are you a little bit more of a hopeful person
here than Corey was that we just talked to.

Speaker 3 (07:57):
So here's my theory. I think the guy knows maybe
they talked and they said, oh yeah, and that's why
he's in her DMS and stuff like in all these
pictures and stuff. Right, you know what this is?

Speaker 1 (08:08):
This is uh, this is kind of a Yelp review
of dating a right Honestly, can I tell you something
that there have been a lot of times as a
guy where you saw your friends dating a girl and
you're like, why are they with them? And you will
look at them in a totally different light like I
would like I would see guys sometimes with with girls

(08:28):
and I go, he's definitely not right. But then it
you know, people like word of mouth, Right, you go, right,
you go to your you know, favorite restaurant because somebody said, hey,
this place was great. I mean, how many times do
we have that happen? Where you go see a movie
because somebody said that movie was great. They're saying, Anna
Rob is great, right, justin.

Speaker 2 (08:49):
I don't like that. I'm a good or service. That's
being harder.

Speaker 3 (08:56):
Do you remember when you remember in high school?

Speaker 1 (08:58):
Honestly, in high school, you used to date the girls
or the guys that usually other people would date, and
you would hear a stories. I remember when my son
Joe was in high school, it felt like everybody.

Speaker 4 (09:10):
Was kind of every member of the friend group dated
every member of the boyfriend group.

Speaker 1 (09:15):
Especially he went to a small high school, so it
was kind of you know, there was only limited guys
and girls in the entire school, and it was wild.
You'd be like at homecoming pictures, No you're not, Morris, Maurice.
I will be with you in one second. I remember
you go to homecoming pictures and You're like, this is
so weird. That was Joe's homecoming date last year, Maurice. Now,
I'll talk to you, Hi, Maurice. How you doing, Hey?

Speaker 6 (09:37):
Man, I'm good about you. Man good.

Speaker 1 (09:39):
I appreciate you asking that, because sometimes I'll pick up
phone lines and people would just keep They'll be having
their own conversations.

Speaker 6 (09:46):
Man. I was confused because I was like Why am
I hearing people right now.

Speaker 3 (09:51):
This conversation.

Speaker 1 (09:52):
Well, we do have we have like a whole thing
where you can listen to us on hold so that
you don't you know, when we tell you to turn
your radio down, you at least know what's going on.

Speaker 3 (09:59):
But now I'm excited to hear what he has to say. Yeah,
what's the story?

Speaker 6 (10:04):
No, man, I'm saying this from experience, and I'm gonna
be honest messing with Like you know, I've had friends
who who dated women. In fact, I bought my home
with a woman who I didn't know at the time,
but her two kids is by a man who she's
actually the third woman in common that I've had with
this man in passing.

Speaker 3 (10:24):
Through a similar Wow.

Speaker 6 (10:27):
Well, in a small town, you know that'll happen sometimes,
and when you know, they're gonna do what they do.
So the thing is is for me, if I have
a friend, if a woman says, hey, I mess with
your friend before you know, and it was all of that,
like she's going to his house, he going to her house,
He's probably gonna tell me no matter what she wants

(10:49):
to believe, at some point when she tells me, I'm
gonna say something to him, and he's gonna give me
all the details. It's gonna be hard in the long
run to have a serious relationship with So it depends
on what she wants and what what she trying to do.
Like if she's trying to just have is she trying
to just talk and you're gonna come over.

Speaker 3 (11:11):
Yeah, but we're not.

Speaker 6 (11:12):
We're not We're not gonna be posting each other. You know,
that's not happening. But and that and that's real, you know.
So I would say, if you're gonna pursue him, to
do it with reservation, like, understand that that this man,
even if you do act like he want to have
a relationship with you, once he smashed, he might just
get weird with you, because that's that's just what happens,

(11:34):
you know.

Speaker 1 (11:35):
So, but I think you have to say something before
you smash. If you say something after the fact, I
think that that's where it we'll get back.

Speaker 6 (11:43):
Yeah, yeah, but most guys don't. I got to say,
like me, honestly myself, like when I felt that way,
I've had times in my life with women where I
looked out the corner of my like uh, with the
like I already made my mind up, like after today,
I am not talking to her now. Wow. So sometimes
just yeah, you you have tur men do that.

Speaker 1 (12:02):
Hey, hold on a second. Amy wants to say something
more recent. I want you to hear this. Amy says
that Anna's got to beware why Amy, Anna, don't.

Speaker 2 (12:12):
Be a homie hopper girl.

Speaker 6 (12:15):
All right, man, they're's.

Speaker 2 (12:17):
Just gonna talk about you without you knowing, And that's
just so awkward like that.

Speaker 6 (12:22):
I feel like that's what would happened, like if you
smashed one and you go smash the other.

Speaker 5 (12:27):
They're gonna converse without you knowing, because that guy probably
already knows, to be honest with you, he probably already
knows what he's doing. What he's doing.

Speaker 3 (12:35):
All right, guys, thank you for the call. We appreciate it.