Friends Who Don't Go Places Without Their Significant Others

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's Mojoe in the Morning. Is good to have Kevin back.

(00:02):
I know he's still not feeling one hundred percent, but
you know what, the guy is a freaking trooper. He's
like Michael Jordan. This is the flu game for him.
Today's a big game. We bagged baby.

Speaker 2 (00:10):
We hear jingle ball. We wouldn't miss it for the world.
I love having a guarantee human. Honestly, you humans get sick.

Speaker 1 (00:17):
You had, yeah, you had ten percent is better than
most at one hundred percent.

Speaker 3 (00:22):
And the energy you bring to this room is awesome,
So I appreciate it.

Speaker 4 (00:25):
Man.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
All right, it's Mojo in the Morning Show. We're gonna
start off with Kevin here and friends who don't go
places without their significant others? Are you calling any of
us out? No saying that's me or Shannon here?

Speaker 2 (00:40):
That I think I've been right, might might be beyond
me this point, but I think I've been places with
all of you, all without your significant other.

Speaker 3 (00:49):
This is one of my homies.

Speaker 2 (00:50):
Man like this. This is one of the guys and
he has a girlfriend. It's a recent relationship two months here,
and we're trying to figure out It's the holiday season
and people are coming in town. So it's the first
time we're all going to be back together in like
a little while, and we're trying to figure it out.
And one of the guys is like, it's significant others
coming and it's like, no, like there's not the time

(01:11):
for that. This is the time for just us to
go out and hang out. And he's like, oh, I
don't think I can come. And it's like, what do
you mean you don't think you can come? Like you
got something going on. He's like, no, I want I
want to bring my girl.

Speaker 3 (01:24):
It's like it's a guy's thing. We're not gonna be guys.

Speaker 2 (01:29):
You can see her later. He like, no, if I
can't bring her, I'm not gonna come. Wow, he's actually
giving you the ultimatum. Literally literally said if.

Speaker 3 (01:37):
She can't come, then I probably won't be there.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
Is it because he wants her there or she is
requiring to be there?

Speaker 2 (01:44):
I mean he's not like he wants her there. He's like,
I want to be with her. I want to bring
her with them.

Speaker 5 (01:49):
I bet you she's pushing him a little bit.

Speaker 3 (01:52):
I mean he's just in that sweet spot.

Speaker 2 (01:56):
But why you can't you can't come out for a
couple hours and hang out with your boy.

Speaker 6 (02:00):
Oh, I agree with you. I agree with you. I'm
just saying, has he.

Speaker 1 (02:04):
Always been this kind of guy, like even before he
was with her, like maybe when he was with other people.

Speaker 2 (02:09):
No, I mean he's a very committed individual. So it's
been moments where it's like, no, I'm gonna hang back
and be with my girl. But he's always come out
and hang out, you know, have things, go to the bar,
do the whole thing. But to be at a position
where you're not going to go because your partner can't
come with you is a place I pray I'll never
get all right, I want to I want to throw
this out there.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
Do you know somebody that's like this? Do you know
a person that always has to have their their significant
their partner with him and wants to call them out?
Or maybe you are that person. You can call eight
four to four Mojo Live and if that person wants
to be on with you too, eight four four six
six six four eight or text call me and Lydia

(02:49):
will call you. If you've got a story that relates
to this. I don't think that's a guys night, it's
a guys night.

Speaker 7 (02:55):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (02:56):
If there are no partners coming. Isn't she gonna feel
out of place being with a bunch of dudes.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
It sounds controlling to me, Like now that you bring
up the point of like she's the one that's pressing it.

Speaker 1 (03:06):
Or or he's controlling her. He doesn't trust her, but
be alone without her, that's all.

Speaker 5 (03:11):
To be at the crib watching Netflix. She doesn't want
him out with all his boys. They're going to be
talking about other females. She just doesn't want that. That's
what I think.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
I feel like that's natural territory though, you know what
I mean, Like that's that's to be expected.

Speaker 3 (03:23):
It ain't like we going you know.

Speaker 1 (03:26):
I think we've all I think we've all had friends
that are like that, Like we've all had friends that
you know and guy, when it's a guy, it's even
tougher when it's a girl. I don't know if it
seems as tough, but maybe the guy. Like if you're
a guy, and like if Chelsea's having a girl's night
and I go, I want to go with you guys,
I'm gonna feel a out of place where a girl

(03:47):
can go and kind of be like, oh, she's just
one of the guys.

Speaker 3 (03:50):
You know what I mean, Like a guy looks like
a fool if he does that.

Speaker 2 (03:53):
Even though even if your girl try to show up,
you go out with the homies and like Chelsea's there.

Speaker 6 (04:03):
I also, I also think that's the downfall of a
relationship right off the get go, because I think it
is so so important for you to spend time separately
and especially with friends.

Speaker 1 (04:13):
Actually, Christy brings up an interesting question because I just
read this, I'm like, oh my god, I never thought
about this. But Christy, what's your question for Govin?

Speaker 8 (04:21):
My question is are they both in from out of town,
your friend.

Speaker 2 (04:25):
And his girlfriend.

Speaker 7 (04:27):
Okay, ye, maybe she would.

Speaker 8 (04:29):
Have nothing to do or wouldn't know anybody, and that
would be kind of them to.

Speaker 9 (04:33):
Not leave her alone.

Speaker 1 (04:34):
Christy, I have had that happen, like when I go
back to Orland Park, Illinois, home of nothing to go visit,
to go visit my family, and back in the day
when I would go back there with Chelse, I felt
weird that Chelsea was staying back by herself or in
a hotel by herself, and I'm going out with all
my guys.

Speaker 8 (04:53):
But she was like, go, I was gonna say, can
I tell you. From Chelsea's perspective, I bet she's like,
please please let me be so I can do my
own thing and binge watch a show and do a
face mask and you know, it looks like Holy hell,
and not have to worry about you being.

Speaker 1 (05:07):
Around unless we were staying in an Pat's house and
then she was like, get me the hell out of
this place.

Speaker 3 (05:12):
What's up? What's up?

Speaker 7 (05:14):
Kia?

Speaker 1 (05:14):
By the way, An Pat had a great moment yesterday.
Judge Mathis was here in the building straight up, So
Xavier and my nephew, who's here to visit hanging with
us for jingle Ball Xavier FaceTime Aunt Pat and Aunt
Pat is a huge Judge Mathis fan. So I got
to see Judge Mathis yesterday.

Speaker 3 (05:33):
We'll have to.

Speaker 1 (05:35):
Call her and talk to her about that experience. What's
up key, how you doing?

Speaker 7 (05:39):
Hi?

Speaker 8 (05:40):
Am good?

Speaker 7 (05:40):
How are you guys?

Speaker 3 (05:41):
Hey?

Speaker 1 (05:42):
What do you think about Kev's buddy that won't leave
his girl at home?

Speaker 3 (05:45):
A man?

Speaker 2 (05:48):
I don't know he maybe he's trying.

Speaker 1 (05:50):
To like kill two birds in one stone.

Speaker 3 (05:53):
I don't know. My husband is the one that always
wants me to be with him.

Speaker 10 (05:56):
And I'd be like, no, go like have fun and
sometimes you like, I mean, you blend in with my homies,
so it's like we're really cool.

Speaker 7 (06:05):
Yeah I'm cool with your friends, but.

Speaker 3 (06:07):
Go be Like, let's get a perspective. Why does why
does he always want you there? Kia?

Speaker 7 (06:16):
Because I mean he has fun with me.

Speaker 1 (06:18):
I know, but still though, if you can't he have
fun without you, Like, what is going on? What is
it that he doesn't want you not to be there for?
Like I wonder if he's worried about you going out
having fun without him.

Speaker 2 (06:31):
I don't know, but he can't go out, and I
just I'm the one that's like, go have fun?

Speaker 3 (06:37):
Is he trying to show you off? Are you a
trophy wife? I wish I wouldn't be going to work
right now, but yeah.

Speaker 5 (06:46):
I really think this comes from a place of insecurity,
whether that's in your relationship or in yourself, because I
was that person when I was in a relationship. I
always had to be with my boyfriend because I didn't
I wanted to know what he was doing now all times,
or like who he was with and what he was
you know.

Speaker 6 (07:03):
That was me high school college and I talked about
this before how many friends I lost during that time
because I did almost nothing with girlfriends. I mean, in
college I got a little bit better, but in high
school I really lost my two best friends because I
was attached to the hit with my boyfriend same Hey, Koy,
what's up?

Speaker 9 (07:22):
Hey mojoh, how you guys doing good?

Speaker 3 (07:24):
Coy? What's going on? What's your comments or question?

Speaker 10 (07:28):
So honestly, I don't really think it's a place of
insecurity more or less, just probably want to hang out.
But I honestly think that she really shouldn't need to
be going because guys require guys time just like girls
require girls time. It just seems a little weird that
he would want.

Speaker 3 (07:43):
Her to be there. It's time for a reset.

Speaker 1 (07:45):
Sometimes you need to have that with your people, you
know what I mean, And especially if there are all
these people like that keV knows that they grew up
together and stuff.

Speaker 3 (07:53):
You're gonna talk about things.

Speaker 2 (07:54):
That you have day night.

Speaker 3 (07:55):
Yeah, have day night.

Speaker 2 (07:57):
And like especially with me, if I'm out with significant other,
I'm going to want to be there for her.

Speaker 3 (08:03):
I'm going to show up for her.

Speaker 2 (08:05):
I'm not going to give my full attention and be
that friend version of myself at a hundred percent and
that's why we're out.

Speaker 3 (08:11):
I watch their friends. I wonder if she doesn't trust
you guys. I don't know why she wouldn't be.

Speaker 7 (08:23):
Penny went up, Patty, Hey, my one of my good
friends would insist on going to work with her husband
at a body shop every day because she couldn't stand
being away from him while he was working. So she
would go take her lap and watch Netflix and just
sit in this autobody shop while he would work on

(08:44):
his card for like eight hours.

Speaker 3 (08:46):
That's even weird. Where to go to work with me?

Speaker 1 (08:48):
Yeah, that's that's craziness, Wendy, What did you want to say?

Speaker 2 (08:54):
Good morning?

Speaker 8 (08:56):
I thank job.

Speaker 9 (08:57):
Too much into a relationship is a little soon to
be demanding to go hang out with your boyfriend with
his boys. And I think your friend keV needs to
be careful to not set a precedent that you're not
willing to continue through your whole relig.

Speaker 3 (09:12):
Yeah.

Speaker 9 (09:13):
Yeah, whatever you allow in the beginning is really hard
to undo the further into this relationship you get. Yeah,
you know, boy time is boy time, girl times girl time.
And if she can't tolerate that, that that me would
be a huge red flag in a relationship.

Speaker 3 (09:27):
Ye absolute precedent.

Speaker 1 (09:28):
Yeah, yeah, what happens if he brings her and you
guys like her more than you like him, you go home.

Speaker 3 (09:36):
You know, I hear.

Speaker 1 (09:40):
People would my guy friends would rather hang out with
Chelsea than hang out with me. I could see that.
One last call on this one. This is interesting, Nathan.
What is it that you and your wife have?

Speaker 4 (09:52):
So we have a rule that we no longer go
out to the bars without each other. And it's more
of a rule for myself. Okay, I had a group
of guys I always went out, you know that we
were the guys. We went out, we got beers and whatever,
and you know, being recently married, we have a little one.
You know, last time I went out with just those group,
I learned how true they were. We got drinking, stuff happened,

(10:15):
I ended up in jail. They all stayed at the bar,
didn't care. I had to call my wife to come
get me. So after that, I made a rule. I'm like, Okay,
I'm not going to the bars without you going. But
the thing is that doesn't mean that I don't spend
guy time alone. You know, we just made it a
rule that we don't go out and do guy time alone,

(10:36):
so you got to look in.

Speaker 1 (10:38):
I want to hear more. I want to hear more
about this. The last time that you went out without
your wife, you ended up in jail.

Speaker 3 (10:44):
What the hell did you do to end up in jail? Oh?

Speaker 4 (10:48):
Well, me and a couple buddies got too much to drink.
We're in a small college town as it is, and
I'm that person people can talk crap to me all
they want. It doesn't bug me. But I'm that person
in the friend group that if you talk crap about
my friend, there's no explanation, there's no nothing like it's on.

(11:08):
It's defender, It's defender be gone.

Speaker 1 (11:11):
You know what I mean. It's crazy, all right? Well,
I like it sounds to me like she is not
your wife. It sounds to me like you might actually
have her as your probation officer.

Speaker 4 (11:22):
Uh some days, yes,