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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. Yes, good
to have you guys here with us today. A couple
of things I thought were interesting I want to talk
about real quick. One is there was a study that
was just recently done that says that the whole theory
of couples should never go to bed angry is actually
(00:20):
they say bs. They say people never going to bed
angry isn't always the best advice for couples. Arguing late
at night can make things worse because people are tired, hungry,
and emotional, but experts suggest waiting until you're both calm
and rested to actually work out the argument is probably
(00:42):
the healthier thing to do. It's funny because of I
always have heard in therapists have always said, you don't
ever want to go to bed angry because it's going
to give you a bad night's sleep, and you know
all this stuff.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
My therapist says totally the opposite. Yes, Mike, Karen who
actually going to see you later today? She said, especially
like West and I have learned this the hard way,
where we've tried to come to a resolution. If we're
having some sort of conflict and then it's midnight and
we're both just like exhausted and not our best. But
I like, I think it's better to separate a little
(01:18):
bit and process and calm down and then come back
the next morning and like finish whatever and that you
were talking about.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
That's what the therapists say.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Yeah, it's so much better.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
We can be angry.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
We don't got to be best friends in cool bay
ya and set our differences. But you better say I
love you. Well, here's an interesting I'll go to sleep
and I say I love you.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
I don't like you right now, I love you.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I always say that it's always better to just get
a little angry.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Section, right, huh. Ain't nothing wrong with that person.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
By the way, I will say this to you, And
I've talked to my therapist about this one. My therapist
always says, beware of the people that bring fights up
at night, right before bed, because usually those people are
trying to manipulate your sleep habits. And it's interesting because
I told him, Yeah, a couple of times Chelse and
I would get in fights because I'd bring something up
before bed, and he says, you better be careful. You're
(02:12):
trying to manipulate her sleeping And like, what do you
mean like, he's basically saying, you got a problem, bring
it up at three in the afternoon, Don't bring it
up at you know, nine o'clock at night or ten
o'clock at night. He says, you're manipulating her and her rest,
and he is, that's a little too much, bro.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Honestly, I are.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
You intentionally not wanting her to get a good, nice sleep?
Throw Well, you don't necessarily think you are, but you are.
I think manipulation has an intentionality factor and on it.
But I'll be honest with you, I'd stop doing it.
And I realized that it made me healthier person to say, hey,
I'm a little, you know, upset by something at two
in the afternoon, you know, before the kids are home
(02:50):
and all that. Here's something interesting. Zip coding is a
new dating trend. There's a new dating trend called zip coding,
where people look up it's close to their own zip code.
So the idea of dating the local, because you don't
want to find yourself in a And we're going to
talk about something with Anna a little later this morning
(03:11):
on the show, because Anna is not a very good
zip coding person. But that's interesting. I want to know
if any of our listeners do that. Do you set
your range on whatever your dating app is to be
a lot tighter range because the idea that you don't
potentially want to find yourself driving forty five minutes to
(03:31):
an hour to go see the person. Because they say
that one of the reasons why zip coding is so
good is they find that the relationships last because people
will find themselves more comfortable in that.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
And I like this.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
This is one of those topics where I sat there
and I saw it and I thought, oh, this is
this is actually really good. A woman goes on a
date with a guy when he rejects. When she rejects
his advance chanswers, he asked her to pay him back.
She posted on Reddit. After spending a weekend with the
(04:07):
man who visited her, she received a text later from
him asking to pay for half of the weekend, a
total cost of about one hundred and six dollars, claiming
that she actually should pay for this because it didn't
turn out to be a great date. People on Reddit
are commenting on this saying, yeah, I think that you
(04:28):
should probably pay wow if the date didn't go necessarily
as planned, And then another person said that I don't
think you deserve to have to pay for it. If
he paid for it in the beginning, just because it
didn't turn out great doesn't mean that you should be
paying for it.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
The risk you take going out on a date not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
She claims that she already paid some of the expenses.
She said she paid seventy dollars at a bar, and
she had to pay forty dollars for parking, but the
extra hundred, bless you, the extra hundred and six dollars.
She didn't feel like she needed to pay because he
chose to put his card down initially for that.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Yeah, like ya, I said, that's the risk. Now's a
god f like that's what you. You go out, you pay.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
For the date.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I like the whole before you go on a date
with somebody. I like the whole boy year, Are you
doing okay over there? This is cold and flu season, Michael,
I can you didn't turn your mic off and every
other MIC's on. Remember we're in a little studio here.
But I had a buddy of mine that you should
say or your money back. He used to tell girls
(05:27):
before he would go on the date. He would say
to them, I will promise you a great date or
your money back. And he said that he went with
girls and they were like, oh, okay, great, and they
thought that that was kind of fun, and it was
he would pay for everything that was on the date,
and he found that going into the date with that
attitude was them having more fun knowing, Okay, this is
actually going to be kind of cool. Yeah, he never
(05:49):
got his money back, and I actually use a single
guy still, so uh, texture here in nine five five
zero zero, going to bed angry is actually not the
good thing to do. My husband and I fight all
the time, and I actually think that when we're fighting
at night and we go to bed angry, we wake
up the next morning and carry it on to a
really bad work day.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
And then a couple other people here that say that Mojo,
I think Mojo needs a new therapist. Have a great day, everyone, Probably, Lee,
we were talking about going to bed angry. You wanted
to comment on that, Lee.
Speaker 5 (06:27):
Yeah, I just my mom always told me not to
go to bed angry because you never know, like what
are you or the other person is going to wake up?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
You know, that's actually a really good point.
Speaker 5 (06:40):
I get it with that guilt if God forbid that happen.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Could you imagine, honestly, that would be horrendous guilt to
have to go to UH and live with for the
rest of your life.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
But I'll take my chances. I want a good nights. No,
I'm that way.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
I actually feel that same way, and that's why I'm like,
I got to work it out.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
That's why I feel like.
Speaker 5 (06:59):
Saying I with my husband all the time to make
sure that we're in a good.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Even if you don't solve it.
Speaker 4 (07:07):
In my mind, like you never want to leave a
situation with aiding your heart everyone to go to sleep
with hating your heart, and by saying I love you
that releases some of it, at least in my opinion.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Absolutely, Lee, I think angry sex is about sex too.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
I don't know if you think that, but what do
you think any
Speaker 5 (07:23):
My kids are in the car, so I can't all right,
Sorry about that, Mom,
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. Yes, good
to have you guys here with us today. A couple
of things I thought were interesting I want to talk
about real quick. One is there was a study that
was just recently done that says that the whole theory
of couples should never go to bed angry is actually
(00:20):
they say bs. They say people never going to bed
angry isn't always the best advice for couples. Arguing late
at night can make things worse because people are tired, hungry,
and emotional, but experts suggest waiting until you're both calm
and rested to actually work out the argument is probably
(00:42):
the healthier thing to do. It's funny because of I
always have heard in therapists have always said, you don't
ever want to go to bed angry because it's going
to give you a bad night's sleep, and you know
all this stuff.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
My therapist says totally the opposite. Yes, Mike, Karen who
actually going to see you later today? She said, especially
like West and I have learned this the hard way,
where we've tried to come to a resolution. If we're
having some sort of conflict and then it's midnight and
we're both just like exhausted and not our best. But
I like, I think it's better to separate a little
(01:18):
bit and process and calm down and then come back
the next morning and like finish whatever and that you
were talking about.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
That's what the therapists say.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Yeah, it's so much better.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
We can be angry.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
We don't got to be best friends in cool bay
ya and set our differences. But you better say I
love you. Well, here's an interesting I'll go to sleep
and I say I love you.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
I don't like you right now, I love you.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I always say that it's always better to just get
a little angry.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Section, right, huh. Ain't nothing wrong with that person.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
By the way, I will say this to you, And
I've talked to my therapist about this one. My therapist
always says, beware of the people that bring fights up
at night, right before bed, because usually those people are
trying to manipulate your sleep habits. And it's interesting because
I told him, Yeah, a couple of times Chelse and
I would get in fights because I'd bring something up
before bed, and he says, you better be careful. You're
(02:12):
trying to manipulate her sleeping And like, what do you
mean like, he's basically saying, you got a problem, bring
it up at three in the afternoon, Don't bring it
up at you know, nine o'clock at night or ten
o'clock at night. He says, you're manipulating her and her rest,
and he is, that's a little too much, bro.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Honestly, I are.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
You intentionally not wanting her to get a good, nice sleep?
Throw Well, you don't necessarily think you are, but you are.
I think manipulation has an intentionality factor and on it.
But I'll be honest with you, I'd stop doing it.
And I realized that it made me healthier person to say, hey,
I'm a little, you know, upset by something at two
in the afternoon, you know, before the kids are home
(02:50):
and all that. Here's something interesting. Zip coding is a
new dating trend. There's a new dating trend called zip coding,
where people look up it's close to their own zip code.
So the idea of dating the local, because you don't
want to find yourself in a And we're going to
talk about something with Anna a little later this morning
(03:11):
on the show, because Anna is not a very good
zip coding person. But that's interesting. I want to know
if any of our listeners do that. Do you set
your range on whatever your dating app is to be
a lot tighter range because the idea that you don't
potentially want to find yourself driving forty five minutes to
(03:31):
an hour to go see the person. Because they say
that one of the reasons why zip coding is so
good is they find that the relationships last because people
will find themselves more comfortable in that.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
And I like this.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
This is one of those topics where I sat there
and I saw it and I thought, oh, this is
this is actually really good. A woman goes on a
date with a guy when he rejects. When she rejects
his advance chanswers, he asked her to pay him back.
She posted on Reddit. After spending a weekend with the
(04:07):
man who visited her, she received a text later from
him asking to pay for half of the weekend, a
total cost of about one hundred and six dollars, claiming
that she actually should pay for this because it didn't
turn out to be a great date. People on Reddit
are commenting on this saying, yeah, I think that you
(04:28):
should probably pay wow if the date didn't go necessarily
as planned, And then another person said that I don't
think you deserve to have to pay for it. If
he paid for it in the beginning, just because it
didn't turn out great doesn't mean that you should be
paying for it.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
The risk you take going out on a date not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
She claims that she already paid some of the expenses.
She said she paid seventy dollars at a bar, and
she had to pay forty dollars for parking, but the
extra hundred, bless you, the extra hundred and six dollars.
She didn't feel like she needed to pay because he
chose to put his card down initially for that.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Yeah, like ya, I said, that's the risk. Now's a
god f like that's what you. You go out, you pay.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
For the date.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I like the whole before you go on a date
with somebody. I like the whole boy year, Are you
doing okay over there? This is cold and flu season, Michael,
I can you didn't turn your mic off and every
other MIC's on. Remember we're in a little studio here.
But I had a buddy of mine that you should
say or your money back. He used to tell girls
(05:27):
before he would go on the date. He would say
to them, I will promise you a great date or
your money back. And he said that he went with
girls and they were like, oh, okay, great, and they
thought that that was kind of fun, and it was
he would pay for everything that was on the date,
and he found that going into the date with that
attitude was them having more fun knowing, Okay, this is
actually going to be kind of cool. Yeah, he never
(05:49):
got his money back, and I actually use a single
guy still, so uh, texture here in nine five five
zero zero, going to bed angry is actually not the
good thing to do. My husband and I fight all
the time, and I actually think that when we're fighting
at night and we go to bed angry, we wake
up the next morning and carry it on to a
really bad work day.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
And then a couple other people here that say that Mojo,
I think Mojo needs a new therapist. Have a great day, everyone, Probably, Lee,
we were talking about going to bed angry. You wanted
to comment on that, Lee.
Speaker 5 (06:27):
Yeah, I just my mom always told me not to
go to bed angry because you never know, like what
are you or the other person is going to wake up?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
You know, that's actually a really good point.
Speaker 5 (06:40):
I get it with that guilt if God forbid that happen.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Could you imagine, honestly, that would be horrendous guilt to
have to go to UH and live with for the
rest of your life.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
But I'll take my chances. I want a good nights. No,
I'm that way.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
I actually feel that same way, and that's why I'm like,
I got to work it out.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
That's why I feel like.
Speaker 5 (06:59):
Saying I with my husband all the time to make
sure that we're in a good.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Even if you don't solve it.
Speaker 4 (07:07):
In my mind, like you never want to leave a
situation with aiding your heart everyone to go to sleep
with hating your heart, and by saying I love you
that releases some of it, at least in my opinion.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Absolutely, Lee, I think angry sex is about sex too.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
I don't know if you think that, but what do
you think any
Speaker 5 (07:23):
My kids are in the car, so I can't all right,
Sorry about that, Mom,
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