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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is Mojo in the Morning phone number
eight four four Mojo Live textas nine to five to
five zero zero. I want you guys, tell me if
you think this is a red flag. We have a
friend who has been dating a guy for gosh over
a month or so, and he still hasn't told his
(00:20):
friends or co workers that he's dating this this girl,
and I want to know. They're staying at each other's
places and uh, touching naughty bits and hanging out with
each other all the time. They're going to dinners, they
hold hands, they do things like that red flag if
(00:41):
you don't tell friends, like you don't tell your actual
close friends, or you don't tell like your family that hey,
I've been seeing this person. I think that there's something
that you got to be aware that this is not
a relationship. This is not going to be for some reason,
he's something crazy, there's something shady.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
So you're saying the person that's being dated if the
other person doesn't tell everybody, I should think that's a
real yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Like, like we were having a conversation and we said, hey,
you know, uh, so as have you met like anybody
like you've been together for a couple of months.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
I think it has been. Have you you know so.
Speaker 4 (01:17):
It has it hasn't just been. I was just gonna
saycause a month to me is not that crazy.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Like her friends have met, but.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
His friends haven't, and I just think that they're like
to me, I would do war the roses on this guy.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
It's too early. I would think that there's somebody else.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
Bro.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
I would tell you that when wesn't I started dating,
that I had started dating somebody because I was trying
to keep our newness in this little protective cocoon, just
to see like, Okay, I want this, do I want this?
Speaker 3 (01:44):
But do you go somewhere?
Speaker 4 (01:45):
And then I was like, Okay, now I can tell everybody,
but you told somebody.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
I guarantee you told oh yeah somebody, Yeah, tell you
didn't tell us because we're you know, the show. But
I guarantee you told your closest friends. You're right, I did, Yeah,
and maybe family like your sister or somebody knew. But
so this is this is weird. He has not told anybody.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Yeah serious to him?
Speaker 5 (02:06):
Huh?
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Is it that serious to him?
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Well?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I could tell you this that he looks like he's
enjoying every bit of her.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
See that's the thing though, Bro, I've been in situations
before where the girl and I we were just smashed
and she would come over, we would do our thing.
We might go outside, go get a bite to eat,
hit the movies. But it's not a relationship. So it's
not going to be something that I feel is serious
enough for me to involve other people.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
If you're a guy and you don't let your best
guy friends know that you met somebody, you're not into
that person.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
That's what I'm saying. It's not serious. Now.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
I can be into the person, but it doesn't mean
that I see this person as somebody I'm going to
be in.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
A relationship with her.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
And if I was a girl, I would think that
that is a I would be red flagging that and
taking this from a guy that you know has dated
but also has a lot of friends that date. I
have a lot of guy friends. I know when they're
serious about a girl when they're telling the group text,
Hey man, it went out with her, we had a
great time like stuff like that, or.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
I don't know, Bro, I've never liked that.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
See I agree with that if I know, if I
if I'm dating a guy, hypothetically obviously, if I'm dating
a guy and it's been two three months and he
hasn't told any of his friends about me or family,
I haven't met anybody, I'm thinking there something is very
very wrong now.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
And I think that if you're spending like weekends like
where you're spending the whole weekend. And I said this
to her, I said, hey, like, does he take calls
when you guys are around? And he goes, no, He's
really good about like not picking up his phone or
doing stuff like we spend time together.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
We really are with each other.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I'm like going, Okay, guess what, he's turning his phone
off because he doesn't want people know he's got somebody over.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
I hold most hiding.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I hold my friends and my family to the highest
of standards, and everybody just not about to come around
and meet them.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
It's some of my family members.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I've only met one person that I've dealt with literally okay.
And it's not because I was ashamed of the person
or I was hiding them. I just like, no, my
family is my f like, but they're gonna meet the one.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
But have you been consistent you're solo with or you're
only with that person, and you still haven't even talked.
You're with other people exactly. That's what I'm saying. I
think that she's got to be worried about I think
she's got to be worried that there's other people that are.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Are we are? Do we believe that she's only dealing
with him? Yes?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
I know her intentions, she's she's she's a friend. What's
going on, Gina? What do you think?
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Hey?
Speaker 5 (04:40):
Gina and Nathan time?
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Why what's happening? Guys?
Speaker 5 (04:48):
So we're just in here listening.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
We think that it's not a red flack because what
if the family is crazy and they just get all
up in their business and try to interfere in their relationship.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Yeah, but what about friends though? What about close guy buddies?
What about that? What about he hasn't told anybody, She
has not met, She has not met anybody associated with him,
not even co workers, not, you know what I mean, Like,
it's the only person that she she has. Matt is
the DoorDash delivery guy that comes and brings food to
(05:22):
their house when they go over to his playoffs.
Speaker 6 (05:26):
Yeah, I mean, maybe maybe he just wants a little
privacy and he just don't want empty in this business.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Yeah, that's a DoorDash driver.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Sometimes people rush into stuff too much and start introducing
him to everybody.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Is my other?
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Like?
Speaker 3 (05:38):
No, take it easy, bro, slow down.
Speaker 6 (05:40):
I don't even know what this is like too about
you know, maybe it's just now I'm curious.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
You don't even get health assurance to you ninety days in?
Why are you? Melissa?
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Do you agree that it's not a red flag like
the last callers?
Speaker 4 (05:55):
Oh no, it's a big red fer.
Speaker 5 (05:57):
Even my twelve year old daughter, she's the one who
texts that in thinks it's a big red flash.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Oh my gosh, I like it. I like we're taking
advice from a twelve year old daughter. What's going on, Melissa?
Speaker 5 (06:07):
He's right here, so Bella say hi, Hi, Bella, Bella.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
How do you know it's a red flag? Are you
a twelve year old that actually is? Dates?
Speaker 4 (06:16):
No, my uncle is doing it right now.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Oh wait, a second, hold on your uncles. Let's sell
out your uncle here a little bit. He's hiding a
girl from everybody.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
Yes, how do you know?
Speaker 5 (06:29):
Because we're still friends with her?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Oh you really do you think that you your do
you think your uncle is uh? He's got some other
girls on the side, some potential. Yes, really, Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
I like this.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
By the way, we need to have we need to
have more twelve year old moments where they're given a
absolutely all they're they're giving us all the gossip about
what's going on in their family's business.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Exact Melissa, are you are you with?
Speaker 5 (06:59):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Uh? You know a guy right now? Or who you?
What do you got in your life?
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Uh?
Speaker 5 (07:06):
Sort of?
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Yeah, yes, yes I am. Did your daughter give you
advice on relationships?
Speaker 4 (07:11):
Oh?
Speaker 6 (07:11):
Yeah, she's my built and best friend, and she gives
advice to you, guys, just not on the phone on
the way to school every morning.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Are there any red flags with mom's boyfriend?
Speaker 6 (07:25):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (07:25):
Many? Which ones are right?
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Does she know this?
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Yes? Flags?
Speaker 4 (07:36):
The way he acts like what specifically, just.
Speaker 6 (07:41):
Like he's like his emotions.
Speaker 5 (07:43):
He's still like I don't know how to explain it,
but he's back and forth, up.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
And down, hot and cold.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Yes, this is amazing. You think that kids don't notice
stuff that goes on. They notice everything that's unbelievable. You
guys need to call us more often.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
I like that. Anaya, what's up a naya morning?
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Guys? Good morning.
Speaker 6 (08:05):
I say it's definitely a red flag or maybe even
yellow flag, because my first date with my now boyfriend
of five years is actually with his best friends.
Speaker 5 (08:14):
So it.
Speaker 6 (08:19):
Was more so like his best friends mean the world
to him. So if I kind of passed that test
with mingling with his friends and I was good to go.
So now we're five years star.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
I agree, if you are that good, he's going to
bring everybody and want you to be around everybody because
his goal is that he wants to show you off
first day.
Speaker 6 (08:39):
So you could ask her though, if the guy, if
his friends are that important to where they really need
to know within the.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
First first date with best friends, I feel like you
don't know how you know, you know, you don't know
how to operate on your own.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
But within the first within the first month or two,
you you can't wait to introduce him to your family
unless your family is like Shannon's family and they're embarrassing,
then you.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Don't want personally some of them. What's up tivity high?
Speaker 5 (09:07):
Yeah, I think it's a red flag.
Speaker 6 (09:08):
I kind of feel dumb, but I.
Speaker 5 (09:12):
Dated a guy for six years and never met any
of his friends or coworkers.
Speaker 4 (09:16):
Yeah, why why was he keeping you a secret.
Speaker 5 (09:22):
Well, he was cheating the whole entire time, but he
was cheating with coworkers and he was a er nurse,
but they cheated within the whole entire you know, working industry.
But I've heard, yeah I met his family, but yeah,
I never met any of his coworkers or friends.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
Yeah, that's I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
I think this is maybe not going to go six
years before he introduces, But I think that there is
something to this relationship not introducing to people that you
supposedly care about, including your best friend.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Has had a lot of failed relationships. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
I don't know this that maybe he's like, I don't
want to just keep introducing people. I want to make
sure this is someone that will last and then I'll introduce.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
Or maybe you're the embarrassing friend.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
I'm not. I'm actually not. I'm friends with We're friends
with her.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
So that's why why I'm bringing up, you know, because
I think that there's definitely something to be said about that.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
But thank you for the caller, Appreciate it.
All right, it is Mojo in the Morning phone number
eight four four Mojo Live textas nine to five to
five zero zero. I want you guys, tell me if
you think this is a red flag. We have a
friend who has been dating a guy for gosh over
a month or so, and he still hasn't told his
(00:20):
friends or co workers that he's dating this this girl,
and I want to know. They're staying at each other's
places and uh, touching naughty bits and hanging out with
each other all the time. They're going to dinners, they
hold hands, they do things like that red flag if
(00:41):
you don't tell friends, like you don't tell your actual
close friends, or you don't tell like your family that hey,
I've been seeing this person. I think that there's something
that you got to be aware that this is not
a relationship. This is not going to be for some reason,
he's something crazy, there's something shady.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
So you're saying the person that's being dated if the
other person doesn't tell everybody, I should think that's a
real yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Like, like we were having a conversation and we said, hey,
you know, uh, so as have you met like anybody
like you've been together for a couple of months.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
I think it has been. Have you you know so.
Speaker 4 (01:17):
It has it hasn't just been. I was just gonna
saycause a month to me is not that crazy.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Like her friends have met, but.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
His friends haven't, and I just think that they're like
to me, I would do war the roses on this guy.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
It's too early. I would think that there's somebody else.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
Bro.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
I would tell you that when wesn't I started dating,
that I had started dating somebody because I was trying
to keep our newness in this little protective cocoon, just
to see like, Okay, I want this, do I want this?
Speaker 3 (01:44):
But do you go somewhere?
Speaker 4 (01:45):
And then I was like, Okay, now I can tell everybody,
but you told somebody.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
I guarantee you told oh yeah somebody, Yeah, tell you
didn't tell us because we're you know, the show. But
I guarantee you told your closest friends. You're right, I did, Yeah,
and maybe family like your sister or somebody knew. But
so this is this is weird. He has not told anybody.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Yeah serious to him?
Speaker 5 (02:06):
Huh?
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Is it that serious to him?
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Well?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I could tell you this that he looks like he's
enjoying every bit of her.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
See that's the thing though, Bro, I've been in situations
before where the girl and I we were just smashed
and she would come over, we would do our thing.
We might go outside, go get a bite to eat,
hit the movies. But it's not a relationship. So it's
not going to be something that I feel is serious
enough for me to involve other people.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
If you're a guy and you don't let your best
guy friends know that you met somebody, you're not into
that person.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
That's what I'm saying. It's not serious. Now.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
I can be into the person, but it doesn't mean
that I see this person as somebody I'm going to
be in.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
A relationship with her.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
And if I was a girl, I would think that
that is a I would be red flagging that and
taking this from a guy that you know has dated
but also has a lot of friends that date. I
have a lot of guy friends. I know when they're
serious about a girl when they're telling the group text,
Hey man, it went out with her, we had a
great time like stuff like that, or.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
I don't know, Bro, I've never liked that.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
See I agree with that if I know, if I
if I'm dating a guy, hypothetically obviously, if I'm dating
a guy and it's been two three months and he
hasn't told any of his friends about me or family,
I haven't met anybody, I'm thinking there something is very
very wrong now.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
And I think that if you're spending like weekends like
where you're spending the whole weekend. And I said this
to her, I said, hey, like, does he take calls
when you guys are around? And he goes, no, He's
really good about like not picking up his phone or
doing stuff like we spend time together.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
We really are with each other.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I'm like going, Okay, guess what, he's turning his phone
off because he doesn't want people know he's got somebody over.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
I hold most hiding.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I hold my friends and my family to the highest
of standards, and everybody just not about to come around
and meet them.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
It's some of my family members.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I've only met one person that I've dealt with literally okay.
And it's not because I was ashamed of the person
or I was hiding them. I just like, no, my
family is my f like, but they're gonna meet the one.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
But have you been consistent you're solo with or you're
only with that person, and you still haven't even talked.
You're with other people exactly. That's what I'm saying. I
think that she's got to be worried about I think
she's got to be worried that there's other people that are.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Are we are? Do we believe that she's only dealing
with him? Yes?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
I know her intentions, she's she's she's a friend. What's
going on, Gina? What do you think?
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Hey?
Speaker 5 (04:40):
Gina and Nathan time?
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Why what's happening? Guys?
Speaker 5 (04:48):
So we're just in here listening.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
We think that it's not a red flack because what
if the family is crazy and they just get all
up in their business and try to interfere in their relationship.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Yeah, but what about friends though? What about close guy buddies?
What about that? What about he hasn't told anybody, She
has not met, She has not met anybody associated with him,
not even co workers, not, you know what I mean, Like,
it's the only person that she she has. Matt is
the DoorDash delivery guy that comes and brings food to
(05:22):
their house when they go over to his playoffs.
Speaker 6 (05:26):
Yeah, I mean, maybe maybe he just wants a little
privacy and he just don't want empty in this business.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Yeah, that's a DoorDash driver.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Sometimes people rush into stuff too much and start introducing
him to everybody.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Is my other?
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Like?
Speaker 3 (05:38):
No, take it easy, bro, slow down.
Speaker 6 (05:40):
I don't even know what this is like too about
you know, maybe it's just now I'm curious.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
You don't even get health assurance to you ninety days in?
Why are you? Melissa?
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Do you agree that it's not a red flag like
the last callers?
Speaker 4 (05:55):
Oh no, it's a big red fer.
Speaker 5 (05:57):
Even my twelve year old daughter, she's the one who
texts that in thinks it's a big red flash.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Oh my gosh, I like it. I like we're taking
advice from a twelve year old daughter. What's going on, Melissa?
Speaker 5 (06:07):
He's right here, so Bella say hi, Hi, Bella, Bella.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
How do you know it's a red flag? Are you
a twelve year old that actually is? Dates?
Speaker 4 (06:16):
No, my uncle is doing it right now.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Oh wait, a second, hold on your uncles. Let's sell
out your uncle here a little bit. He's hiding a
girl from everybody.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
Yes, how do you know?
Speaker 5 (06:29):
Because we're still friends with her?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Oh you really do you think that you your do
you think your uncle is uh? He's got some other
girls on the side, some potential. Yes, really, Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
I like this.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
By the way, we need to have we need to
have more twelve year old moments where they're given a
absolutely all they're they're giving us all the gossip about
what's going on in their family's business.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Exact Melissa, are you are you with?
Speaker 5 (06:59):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Uh? You know a guy right now? Or who you?
What do you got in your life?
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Uh?
Speaker 5 (07:06):
Sort of?
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Yeah, yes, yes I am. Did your daughter give you
advice on relationships?
Speaker 4 (07:11):
Oh?
Speaker 6 (07:11):
Yeah, she's my built and best friend, and she gives
advice to you, guys, just not on the phone on
the way to school every morning.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Are there any red flags with mom's boyfriend?
Speaker 6 (07:25):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (07:25):
Many? Which ones are right?
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Does she know this?
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Yes? Flags?
Speaker 4 (07:36):
The way he acts like what specifically, just.
Speaker 6 (07:41):
Like he's like his emotions.
Speaker 5 (07:43):
He's still like I don't know how to explain it,
but he's back and forth, up.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
And down, hot and cold.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Yes, this is amazing. You think that kids don't notice
stuff that goes on. They notice everything that's unbelievable. You
guys need to call us more often.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
I like that. Anaya, what's up a naya morning?
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Guys? Good morning.
Speaker 6 (08:05):
I say it's definitely a red flag or maybe even
yellow flag, because my first date with my now boyfriend
of five years is actually with his best friends.
Speaker 5 (08:14):
So it.
Speaker 6 (08:19):
Was more so like his best friends mean the world
to him. So if I kind of passed that test
with mingling with his friends and I was good to go.
So now we're five years star.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
I agree, if you are that good, he's going to
bring everybody and want you to be around everybody because
his goal is that he wants to show you off
first day.
Speaker 6 (08:39):
So you could ask her though, if the guy, if
his friends are that important to where they really need
to know within the.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
First first date with best friends, I feel like you
don't know how you know, you know, you don't know
how to operate on your own.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
But within the first within the first month or two,
you you can't wait to introduce him to your family
unless your family is like Shannon's family and they're embarrassing,
then you.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Don't want personally some of them. What's up tivity high?
Speaker 5 (09:07):
Yeah, I think it's a red flag.
Speaker 6 (09:08):
I kind of feel dumb, but I.
Speaker 5 (09:12):
Dated a guy for six years and never met any
of his friends or coworkers.
Speaker 4 (09:16):
Yeah, why why was he keeping you a secret.
Speaker 5 (09:22):
Well, he was cheating the whole entire time, but he
was cheating with coworkers and he was a er nurse,
but they cheated within the whole entire you know, working industry.
But I've heard, yeah I met his family, but yeah,
I never met any of his coworkers or friends.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
Yeah, that's I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
I think this is maybe not going to go six
years before he introduces, But I think that there is
something to this relationship not introducing to people that you
supposedly care about, including your best friend.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Has had a lot of failed relationships. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
I don't know this that maybe he's like, I don't
want to just keep introducing people. I want to make
sure this is someone that will last and then I'll introduce.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
Or maybe you're the embarrassing friend.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
I'm not. I'm actually not. I'm friends with We're friends
with her.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
So that's why why I'm bringing up, you know, because
I think that there's definitely something to be said about that.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
But thank you for the caller, Appreciate it.
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