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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. Full disclosure.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I got into a big argument with Chelsea the other night,
and full disclosure, I was the one that started it.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
What did you do? I'm not going to tell you.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
You want to know, I'm not going to tell you
because it's about you.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Impossible, No, it's not.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It's about you calling Chelsea up and her having a
conversation with you and being all sexy and stuff on
the phone. By the way, you turned me on when
you did that this morning. No, it was honestly, it's
about just the stress of these last few months, and
I just have been kind of keeping a little bit
of it in and it's been like one thing after another,
(00:44):
between the stress of obviously Chelsea being diagnosed with cancer
and then her going and getting you know, surgery, and
then the recovery and all.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
That stuff, which I will tell you this.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I think that her diagnosis, her surgery was not as stressful,
and I know it's more stressful everything for her than
it is for me. It was the recovery process of
making sure that she doesn't fall into a bad recovery,
so that was really stressful. Then I've got five or
six friends that are going through some stuff right now.
(01:19):
Family members that are going through issues, people that are
buddies of mine that are getting fired from jobs and
lost their work. Buddy of mine is about to possibly
lose his business right now because the economy sucks so bad,
and everybody calls and I do not want to turn
anybody away. And my problem is that I am a
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person that doesn't just listen and give an ear.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I'm a person that wants to try to fix everything.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
So I came home the other day and I was
just a total jag off, and I just I could
I couldn't take any more.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
We got into an argument.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I yelled, I screamed, I pouted, got very upset about things.
And then she goes, I'm going on a girls' night,
and she left and she went away with her friend Jessica,
and they went away for you know, of the evening,
and I went to bed and I went and slept.
So long story short, we went the entire night and
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then the next day morning and didn't talk at all.
So it was interesting because this brings up some questions.
And here's where my questions coming to play, and then
I'll recap of where we are right now. Question that
comes into play is how soon after a fight can
you have makeup sex? Okay, yeah, and here so here's
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the question, and I got like four of them. Who
usually breaks the silence first, the one who caused the
fight or the one that is still mad?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
And I want to know this.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Is there a minimum cool period before you go back
and communicate about things, and a minimum period before you
start having a little sexy time? And do couples skip
the apology and go right to the bedroom? Have that
ever happened where you get into a fight with each
other and you just go right to the athen what's
(03:22):
your What was.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Your second question?
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Because that was the one that an answer came immediately
to my mind, But I want to hear you.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Repeat it my second question about the waiting period before
you start talking?
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Or which one was that was that second? Before that?
Speaker 4 (03:34):
I think it was the who who apologies apologizes?
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I think the person that apologizes first is the person
that is most codependent on the other person's energy.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Oh wait a second, that's that a good thing or
a bad thing.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
I think it's a bad thing because you could not
have been the problem, but since you need that other
person's love and attention. You'll try to fix it just
so that person can be back in your life and
on good terms. Well, so let me tell you how
things went with us.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
So we got into it at probably about four o'clock
in the evening the night before last. We argued until
probably about six Jessica pulled up in the driveway and
picked Chelsea up. At six fifteen. I hung out with
Henry and Louis. I made an omelet and toast for dinner.
Speaker 4 (04:25):
Henry and Louie, by the way, are his talks.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Yeah, Henry and Louis are two guys. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
And then I puted Doug's bed, I went to bed,
I slept. She came home some time after I don't
know when it was, and then did the whole show
yesterday when the entire show did not text it once.
Usually we'd send a texting each other, I'd sleep, good morning,
love you whatever.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Stuff.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Didn't send a text once, and then she called me
when we were in the midst of doing some post
shows taping. I picked up her call. I couldn't talk
for a second, and she's got a friend that's now
in town. So I said, all right, I'm going to
run out of the room. Remember when I read out
of the room yesterday for a while, I ran out
of the room and I went into that little cubby room.
You actually watched me because you're like, oh, you're.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Going to say something.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
That's always the room I have to go into to
resolve something.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
And I went in that room and it was like
a church confessional. We both talked, and I think she
understood my frustration. I did apologize, but probably not as
well as I should have apologized for the fact that
I took a lot out on her because I know
she's gone through a lot and and that that I
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was really frustrated. But she did understand my frustrations of
where I'm at right now, in my stress level that
I'm at right now. And we had a good night
last night. Her friend's there, her friend Isn't this weirdest saying?
Tell me that this is not appropriate? Her friend Jenny
is in town.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
Her friend Jenny one who introduced you guys.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Her friend Jenny is how Chelsea I have met. Jenny
was dating Josh, my roommate, and Chelsea was Jenny's friend
that would come over.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Isn't that weird? It just all happened that did that.
Speaker 4 (06:07):
Help your argument?
Speaker 5 (06:08):
Like to just go back, because sometimes I feel like
when you go back to the beginning and you remember,
like what it is that sparked this whole thing, it
kind of helps you, like I don't know it rekindles
the wrong word, but like fuel, you.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Mean, it helps that Jenny's in town and it brings
back the memories of the beginning.
Speaker 5 (06:25):
Yes, because and the reason I ask that is because
this has happened to Wes and I. It actually happened
very recently where we were not in a good place
and then I had a friend coming into town and
it's like, oh my god, I don't want to tell
my friend not to come into town. But at the
same time we have stuff that we need to work on.
This is like the worst timing ever. But in your case,
I wonder if Jenny coming into town and going, do
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you guys remember when you know Jenny's helped.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Jenny's not. Really, we did not get into that at all.
She did not.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Jenny's here for Chelsea. She's here because of you know,
she wants to be there for Chelsea post her surgery,
and she it was fun to talk last night. I
think we talked a little bit about family and stuff,
but we didn't really get into it a bunch.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
It's good for Chelsea that she's got Jenny right now.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
For us, I don't know necessarily if it's it correlates
the same way, but I think that it's good for
Chelsea to have something good and she and Jenny can
laugh and have fun and they can do like they've
been you know, some of the oldest friends. They know
they're sisters, and so I think it's good. It's probably
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gonna be good for me that she's there. But Chelsea
and I really don't have an issue right now. I
got an issue. I have an issue right now because
I feel like I somebody told me the caretaker, the
person who's caretaking for somebody who's sick, which Chelsea has
done numerous times for me, and this is the first
time that I've ever had to do it for her,
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has to be careful of their depression, and I think.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
It's hit me. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
So with that said, and I don't want to cry,
because this is not a crying thing. I want to
talk about this.
Speaker 5 (08:00):
Because there was sex in there somewhere.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
I can't have sex, so I can't have sex. Chelsea
can't have sex because of this?
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Is that why you were about to go?
Speaker 2 (08:11):
No, no, no, I'm not going to ask my wife
that just had cancer to give me a you know,
I'm not going to. I won't listen if she wants
to do anything to me, I'm willing to excite, but
I will say, but I will say this to you
that the one I'm going to go on record to
say this before I start grabbing, calls her going through
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this and this is the first fight that we've had
since then, and I cannot believe it's this close to
when she went through it, because she's only been seven
weeks or something like that or eight weeks. Made me
realize how much I love her, because normally I would
have mother after still to this day. But it made
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me realize how she's my person, having her in my
life because I saw her go through what she went
through and the stress of seeing her go through that,
but then to see how much yesterday even just us
in a quick conversation, it was very quick because she
was picking Jenny up at the airport. Was she was
concerned about me, like she was worried about me, and
I'm worried about her, like I'm still worried about her
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recovery and worried about the fact that she's got to
continue to keep on getting scans and things like that question.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
If Chelsea did not call you, would you have called her.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I was going to call her when we were down
with everything, but I was going to wait a little
bit longer because we had so much crap to do yesterday.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
But you're right on that.
Speaker 4 (09:33):
And who apologizes first with you guys.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Normally, honestly, I'm probably Chelsea will maybe agree or disagree,
but I think I'm the one that goes and apologizes first,
almost to the point where the apology probably doesn't matter
because I just go, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, Army something
you really you hold out and it's.
Speaker 5 (09:52):
Not that I'm holding a grudge, like this is something
that we literally went to therapy yesterday and we talked about.
Speaker 4 (09:57):
I am.
Speaker 5 (09:58):
It takes me a very long time I'm to process
something like if we're get to if we have conflict,
we're get into an argument, it takes me a really
long time to like calm myself down and go back
and like play it through and go, Okay, this is
where you know I was wrong in particular, and come
back and apologize. So he's always like I always you
are a next day like figure out an apology, mister.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
We talked about this recently on the show. They used
to say, don't go to bad angry at each other.
I think I have to. I think you got to
go to bed because I think you need a good,
nice sleep. Me going to Bad and sleeping I was
much needed because especially the Monday night football game screwed
me up. But I needed to have a clearer head,
and honestly I needed to have a waiting period because
it wasn't about Chelsea.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Again.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
I didn't need to talk to anybody because if I
talked to anybody, I was still in such a bat
mood and a bit of depression. Angela wants to say something.
What's up Angela, Good morning, guys.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Morning.
Speaker 6 (10:54):
I was sitting here listening to you guys while I'm driving,
and I was so intrigued by what.
Speaker 7 (10:59):
Hapen said, because.
Speaker 6 (11:02):
When me and my fiancee get into an argument, he
apologizes ninety eight percent of the time. I'm more like Shannon,
where I shut down. I have to think about it.
I have to, you know, I have to digest the
whole thing and he's more like he can't even work
the next day, he's calling me, and once I say
I'm okay, it's like he takes a sigh of relief.
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And I never under and we're going on three.
Speaker 7 (11:26):
Years, and I never understood why he apologizes so much
and so fast. And when Kevin said that, it was
like a light bulb.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
You heard your answer right there?
Speaker 6 (11:37):
Yeah, yeah, like maybe that's it, Like he seems like
he just cannot go on with his day until we're.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Okay, and he's afraid of you, Angela.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
But it's danger in that also though, it's dangerous in
the fact that he may not have been the problem
in some of those instances, and you'll put kind of
your values to the side in order to regain that
moment in that relationship.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
And I don't think that's a good thing.
Speaker 7 (12:05):
No, Yeah, I never understood that until you said it
like that, and then it's.
Speaker 6 (12:11):
In And I don't know, why don't you talk to
him about that, to think about a whole bunch of
other things.
Speaker 7 (12:17):
But I think I'm going to.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
This podcast and don't let him know that you're on
as a caller, because now he's listening to you.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Hear that you know, right say hey, I heard this
this morning.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
You should listen to it, and then you'll pop up
as a caller and he'll go, holy crap, what's going on?
And the next thing, you know, you guys are going
to be banging and.
Speaker 7 (12:37):
Then he'll never apologize to me again.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
That is true. I've been listening to that voice. Disguise Jay,
what's up?
Speaker 8 (12:44):
Jay?
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Initial Jay?
Speaker 9 (12:47):
Hey, how you guys doing that?
Speaker 1 (12:49):
We're doing good? What's going on?
Speaker 2 (12:50):
We're talking about how soon after the fight do you
apologize or makeup sex?
Speaker 6 (12:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (12:57):
So it's crazy because my wife and I are literally
in an argument like right now as we speak, and
we've been texting back and forth. Just last night we
had an argument and after the argument, you know, we
kind of separated ourselves. Well, she text me what she felt,
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and then after I read what she felt, I kind
of understood where she was coming from. And then I
basically was realized that I caused a bigger problem than
what it was, and you know, I started apologizing. But usually,
you know, she'll understand from that point and we kind
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of move on. But this time she's not. She's not
going for it, So it's taken her a little bit
more time to really get over it. And I'm not
usually the person that just apologize right off back. She's
the person that you auly does that. But if I
do apologize, I hold myself accountable at that moment because
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I don't.
Speaker 4 (14:06):
I don't want us.
Speaker 9 (14:07):
To manifest on this, and then you know, it affects
how our daily routine would go. Well, No, we have
to take care of the kids, We have to get
to work and everything.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
That's the heart.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Isn't that the hardest when you got to do your
daily routine, especially when the kids are involved, because don't
want them to be in this issue.
Speaker 4 (14:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 9 (14:28):
Yeah, And it was very much harder last night because
my daughter couldn't even sleep and I kind of feel
like she She's only four years old, but I kind
of felt like that she kind of knew what was
going on.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Parents can feel your stress.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
Kids can kill yourself. Kids, Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Yeah, Jay, good luck today with us. Good luck trying
to get her and you to be and you may
never be on the same page, may take a while,
but you just guys got to just have the same priorities.
Speaker 4 (14:59):
Right right exactly?
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Thank you, Joe, take care, body appreciate you. Uh, Nia,
what's up? It's Mojo in the morning. Hi, Nia Hill,
are you We're good? What's going on?
Speaker 6 (15:12):
Well?
Speaker 10 (15:12):
First, I when I sat out my one year wedding anniversary,
have the universary?
Speaker 2 (15:17):
I like you too much happiness though, come on, we're
all talking about fighting. Maybe get into a fight for
your one year anniversaries. You can have good makeup sacks.
Makeup sacks is the best sacks.
Speaker 10 (15:28):
Oh yeah, actually we I've only done it one time,
but it definitely was really good.
Speaker 4 (15:35):
One time.
Speaker 10 (15:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
Oh man, you guys have a good relationship.
Speaker 10 (15:40):
Yeah. And the thing that can say, like I agree
with that about like me being the one that try
to apologize first because like being dependent like on his
energy and like you know, not wanting to have that
kind of weird vibe and energy in the in the space.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
So who's usually the one that or that you have
when you've had a fight with each other, they apologizes first.
Speaker 10 (16:03):
Oh, that's usually me, because to be honest, I'm the
one that usually is the cause of that.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Oh you're the pain of the ass.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
She want to start them arguments so she can have
that makeup six and one time wasn't enough.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
They Yeah, me a happy anniversary. Go do something fun today,
thank you.
Speaker 10 (16:25):
Yeah, We're going to go to yard House.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
I love that place. Yeah, I was kind of thinking
Victoria's Secret.
Speaker 10 (16:33):
Oh yes, I've never been, but he's brought me leftovers
and it was really tasty. So I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Enjoy.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Okay, Robert and his girlfriend haven't spoken since their last
their fight that they had.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
When was your fight?
Speaker 8 (16:48):
Our fight was two days ago yesterday I got home.
I want to start off by saying.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
Good morning, crew, morning, we appreciate you.
Speaker 8 (16:57):
Good morning. Yeah, so we had to fight two days ago.
Yesterday it kind of got a little bit more escalated,
and I would say it started off, but you know,
you know, I kind of related what you said. You know,
you'd like to take care of people. You know, you
like to be there for people if they're in need,
and that's what you know, I usually do all the
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time with my family and friends. But my girlfriend, you know,
we have our ups and downs. But even though we
talked about it, you know, you have to accept the
other other. You know, person you're sharing your moments with.
You got to accept their flaws and their cons you know,
their times and pros. So we sat down and we
talked about that a few days ago. We were on
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the same page. But you know, everything that goes on,
you know, you go to work, you go pay bills.
It does accumulate stress.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
But it's tough, isn't it to go to work. It
was tough yesterday just to be here working. And you
know that I you know, and Chelsea and I were
not good. But so when are you going to sit
down with her her and talk to her and try
to you know, make mad passionate love, make up love.
Speaker 8 (18:06):
So I I kind of came up with a solution.
I was like, well, when I get home, I'll talk
to her about it over you know what, what what
is the problem?
Speaker 10 (18:14):
What we would like to, you know.
Speaker 8 (18:16):
Do different and hopefully, yeah, that'll spark something. But we
had a baby four weeks ago.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
Wait a second, hold on to make changes.
Speaker 4 (18:26):
Yeah, that changes everything.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Did you feel bad getting into a fight with her
after she gave birth to your child four weeks ago?
Because I felt horrible having an argument with Chelsea afterwards
after she went through the surgeries she went through.
Speaker 8 (18:39):
Definitely, And if you know that's your person, at the
end of the day, you just say sorry and you
understand where one is coming from and then make make
up from there.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Well, good luck to you man, I appreciate it. I
appreciate you, and thanks for that. And good luck to
you guys on your trying to make another baby.
Speaker 8 (18:58):
Thank you you got God bless you guys.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
I appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Here's something interesting to bring up at a later time
for maybe another topic. But yesterday, one of the conversations
that Chelsea had and I said is I just got
to get back into therapy with Dennis and you know,
my therapist, and I just got to like dish out
a bunch of crap to him and have him be
the guy that I give the pounding to. And Chelsea's like, no,
I want to be your person, like I want you
to be able to tell me how you're feeling and
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how hard you are and what's going on right now.
And I said to her, I go, sometimes, I don't
want to do that. I want to do that with
my therapist because I want us to be good. And
she says, well, that takes the intimacy out of the
two of us. And it's interesting because she wants me
to say to her, I'm struggling right now, and in turn,
I want to say it to Dennis because I won't.
I don't want her to see me struggling, you know,
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because she's she needs me to see me stronger, I think.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
So I can't wait for the next week on podcast
and be a good one, can I be honest with you.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I'm gonna hold out on her and I'm gonna tell
her no unless she does the stuff Anna is telling
me that she should be doing.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
You Anna, Anna is like, well, she can do other things.
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. Full disclosure.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I got into a big argument with Chelsea the other night,
and full disclosure, I was the one that started it.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
What did you do? I'm not going to tell you.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
You want to know, I'm not going to tell you
because it's about you.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Impossible, No, it's not.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It's about you calling Chelsea up and her having a
conversation with you and being all sexy and stuff on
the phone. By the way, you turned me on when
you did that this morning. No, it was honestly, it's
about just the stress of these last few months, and
I just have been kind of keeping a little bit
of it in and it's been like one thing after another,
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between the stress of obviously Chelsea being diagnosed with cancer
and then her going and getting you know, surgery, and
then the recovery and all.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
That stuff, which I will tell you this.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I think that her diagnosis, her surgery was not as stressful,
and I know it's more stressful everything for her than
it is for me. It was the recovery process of
making sure that she doesn't fall into a bad recovery,
so that was really stressful. Then I've got five or
six friends that are going through some stuff right now.
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Family members that are going through issues, people that are
buddies of mine that are getting fired from jobs and
lost their work. Buddy of mine is about to possibly
lose his business right now because the economy sucks so bad,
and everybody calls and I do not want to turn
anybody away. And my problem is that I am a
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person that doesn't just listen and give an ear.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I'm a person that wants to try to fix everything.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
So I came home the other day and I was
just a total jag off, and I just I could
I couldn't take any more.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
We got into an argument.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I yelled, I screamed, I pouted, got very upset about things.
And then she goes, I'm going on a girls' night,
and she left and she went away with her friend Jessica,
and they went away for you know, of the evening,
and I went to bed and I went and slept.
So long story short, we went the entire night and
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then the next day morning and didn't talk at all.
So it was interesting because this brings up some questions.
And here's where my questions coming to play, and then
I'll recap of where we are right now. Question that
comes into play is how soon after a fight can
you have makeup sex? Okay, yeah, and here so here's
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the question, and I got like four of them. Who
usually breaks the silence first, the one who caused the
fight or the one that is still mad?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
And I want to know this.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Is there a minimum cool period before you go back
and communicate about things, and a minimum period before you
start having a little sexy time? And do couples skip
the apology and go right to the bedroom? Have that
ever happened where you get into a fight with each
other and you just go right to the athen what's
(03:22):
your What was.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Your second question?
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Because that was the one that an answer came immediately
to my mind, But I want to hear you.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Repeat it my second question about the waiting period before
you start talking?
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Or which one was that was that second? Before that?
Speaker 4 (03:34):
I think it was the who who apologies apologizes?
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I think the person that apologizes first is the person
that is most codependent on the other person's energy.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Oh wait a second, that's that a good thing or
a bad thing.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
I think it's a bad thing because you could not
have been the problem, but since you need that other
person's love and attention. You'll try to fix it just
so that person can be back in your life and
on good terms. Well, so let me tell you how
things went with us.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
So we got into it at probably about four o'clock
in the evening the night before last. We argued until
probably about six Jessica pulled up in the driveway and
picked Chelsea up. At six fifteen. I hung out with
Henry and Louis. I made an omelet and toast for dinner.
Speaker 4 (04:25):
Henry and Louie, by the way, are his talks.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Yeah, Henry and Louis are two guys. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
And then I puted Doug's bed, I went to bed,
I slept. She came home some time after I don't
know when it was, and then did the whole show
yesterday when the entire show did not text it once.
Usually we'd send a texting each other, I'd sleep, good morning,
love you whatever.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Stuff.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Didn't send a text once, and then she called me
when we were in the midst of doing some post
shows taping. I picked up her call. I couldn't talk
for a second, and she's got a friend that's now
in town. So I said, all right, I'm going to
run out of the room. Remember when I read out
of the room yesterday for a while, I ran out
of the room and I went into that little cubby room.
You actually watched me because you're like, oh, you're.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Going to say something.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
That's always the room I have to go into to
resolve something.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
And I went in that room and it was like
a church confessional. We both talked, and I think she
understood my frustration. I did apologize, but probably not as
well as I should have apologized for the fact that
I took a lot out on her because I know
she's gone through a lot and and that that I
(05:36):
was really frustrated. But she did understand my frustrations of
where I'm at right now, in my stress level that
I'm at right now. And we had a good night
last night. Her friend's there, her friend Isn't this weirdest saying?
Tell me that this is not appropriate? Her friend Jenny
is in town.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
Her friend Jenny one who introduced you guys.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Her friend Jenny is how Chelsea I have met. Jenny
was dating Josh, my roommate, and Chelsea was Jenny's friend
that would come over.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Isn't that weird? It just all happened that did that.
Speaker 4 (06:07):
Help your argument?
Speaker 5 (06:08):
Like to just go back, because sometimes I feel like
when you go back to the beginning and you remember,
like what it is that sparked this whole thing, it
kind of helps you, like I don't know it rekindles
the wrong word, but like fuel, you.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Mean, it helps that Jenny's in town and it brings
back the memories of the beginning.
Speaker 5 (06:25):
Yes, because and the reason I ask that is because
this has happened to Wes and I. It actually happened
very recently where we were not in a good place
and then I had a friend coming into town and
it's like, oh my god, I don't want to tell
my friend not to come into town. But at the
same time we have stuff that we need to work on.
This is like the worst timing ever. But in your case,
I wonder if Jenny coming into town and going, do
(06:46):
you guys remember when you know Jenny's helped.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Jenny's not. Really, we did not get into that at all.
She did not.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Jenny's here for Chelsea. She's here because of you know,
she wants to be there for Chelsea post her surgery,
and she it was fun to talk last night. I
think we talked a little bit about family and stuff,
but we didn't really get into it a bunch.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
It's good for Chelsea that she's got Jenny right now.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
For us, I don't know necessarily if it's it correlates
the same way, but I think that it's good for
Chelsea to have something good and she and Jenny can
laugh and have fun and they can do like they've
been you know, some of the oldest friends. They know
they're sisters, and so I think it's good. It's probably
(07:29):
gonna be good for me that she's there. But Chelsea
and I really don't have an issue right now. I
got an issue. I have an issue right now because
I feel like I somebody told me the caretaker, the
person who's caretaking for somebody who's sick, which Chelsea has
done numerous times for me, and this is the first
time that I've ever had to do it for her,
(07:51):
has to be careful of their depression, and I think.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
It's hit me. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
So with that said, and I don't want to cry,
because this is not a crying thing. I want to
talk about this.
Speaker 5 (08:00):
Because there was sex in there somewhere.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
I can't have sex, so I can't have sex. Chelsea
can't have sex because of this?
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Is that why you were about to go?
Speaker 2 (08:11):
No, no, no, I'm not going to ask my wife
that just had cancer to give me a you know,
I'm not going to. I won't listen if she wants
to do anything to me, I'm willing to excite, but
I will say, but I will say this to you
that the one I'm going to go on record to
say this before I start grabbing, calls her going through
(08:33):
this and this is the first fight that we've had
since then, and I cannot believe it's this close to
when she went through it, because she's only been seven
weeks or something like that or eight weeks. Made me
realize how much I love her, because normally I would
have mother after still to this day. But it made
(08:55):
me realize how she's my person, having her in my
life because I saw her go through what she went
through and the stress of seeing her go through that,
but then to see how much yesterday even just us
in a quick conversation, it was very quick because she
was picking Jenny up at the airport. Was she was
concerned about me, like she was worried about me, and
I'm worried about her, like I'm still worried about her
(09:16):
recovery and worried about the fact that she's got to
continue to keep on getting scans and things like that question.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
If Chelsea did not call you, would you have called her.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I was going to call her when we were down
with everything, but I was going to wait a little
bit longer because we had so much crap to do yesterday.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
But you're right on that.
Speaker 4 (09:33):
And who apologizes first with you guys.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Normally, honestly, I'm probably Chelsea will maybe agree or disagree,
but I think I'm the one that goes and apologizes first,
almost to the point where the apology probably doesn't matter
because I just go, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, Army something
you really you hold out and it's.
Speaker 5 (09:52):
Not that I'm holding a grudge, like this is something
that we literally went to therapy yesterday and we talked about.
Speaker 4 (09:57):
I am.
Speaker 5 (09:58):
It takes me a very long time I'm to process
something like if we're get to if we have conflict,
we're get into an argument, it takes me a really
long time to like calm myself down and go back
and like play it through and go, Okay, this is
where you know I was wrong in particular, and come
back and apologize. So he's always like I always you
are a next day like figure out an apology, mister.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
We talked about this recently on the show. They used
to say, don't go to bad angry at each other.
I think I have to. I think you got to
go to bed because I think you need a good,
nice sleep. Me going to Bad and sleeping I was
much needed because especially the Monday night football game screwed
me up. But I needed to have a clearer head,
and honestly I needed to have a waiting period because
it wasn't about Chelsea.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Again.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
I didn't need to talk to anybody because if I
talked to anybody, I was still in such a bat
mood and a bit of depression. Angela wants to say something.
What's up Angela, Good morning, guys.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Morning.
Speaker 6 (10:54):
I was sitting here listening to you guys while I'm driving,
and I was so intrigued by what.
Speaker 7 (10:59):
Hapen said, because.
Speaker 6 (11:02):
When me and my fiancee get into an argument, he
apologizes ninety eight percent of the time. I'm more like Shannon,
where I shut down. I have to think about it.
I have to, you know, I have to digest the
whole thing and he's more like he can't even work
the next day, he's calling me, and once I say
I'm okay, it's like he takes a sigh of relief.
(11:24):
And I never under and we're going on three.
Speaker 7 (11:26):
Years, and I never understood why he apologizes so much
and so fast. And when Kevin said that, it was
like a light bulb.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
You heard your answer right there?
Speaker 6 (11:37):
Yeah, yeah, like maybe that's it, Like he seems like
he just cannot go on with his day until we're.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Okay, and he's afraid of you, Angela.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
But it's danger in that also though, it's dangerous in
the fact that he may not have been the problem
in some of those instances, and you'll put kind of
your values to the side in order to regain that
moment in that relationship.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
And I don't think that's a good thing.
Speaker 7 (12:05):
No, Yeah, I never understood that until you said it
like that, and then it's.
Speaker 6 (12:11):
In And I don't know, why don't you talk to
him about that, to think about a whole bunch of
other things.
Speaker 7 (12:17):
But I think I'm going to.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
This podcast and don't let him know that you're on
as a caller, because now he's listening to you.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Hear that you know, right say hey, I heard this
this morning.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
You should listen to it, and then you'll pop up
as a caller and he'll go, holy crap, what's going on?
And the next thing, you know, you guys are going
to be banging and.
Speaker 7 (12:37):
Then he'll never apologize to me again.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
That is true. I've been listening to that voice. Disguise Jay,
what's up?
Speaker 8 (12:44):
Jay?
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Initial Jay?
Speaker 9 (12:47):
Hey, how you guys doing that?
Speaker 1 (12:49):
We're doing good? What's going on?
Speaker 2 (12:50):
We're talking about how soon after the fight do you
apologize or makeup sex?
Speaker 6 (12:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (12:57):
So it's crazy because my wife and I are literally
in an argument like right now as we speak, and
we've been texting back and forth. Just last night we
had an argument and after the argument, you know, we
kind of separated ourselves. Well, she text me what she felt,
(13:21):
and then after I read what she felt, I kind
of understood where she was coming from. And then I
basically was realized that I caused a bigger problem than
what it was, and you know, I started apologizing. But usually,
you know, she'll understand from that point and we kind
(13:43):
of move on. But this time she's not. She's not
going for it, So it's taken her a little bit
more time to really get over it. And I'm not
usually the person that just apologize right off back. She's
the person that you auly does that. But if I
do apologize, I hold myself accountable at that moment because
(14:06):
I don't.
Speaker 4 (14:06):
I don't want us.
Speaker 9 (14:07):
To manifest on this, and then you know, it affects
how our daily routine would go. Well, No, we have
to take care of the kids, We have to get
to work and everything.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
That's the heart.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Isn't that the hardest when you got to do your
daily routine, especially when the kids are involved, because don't
want them to be in this issue.
Speaker 4 (14:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 9 (14:28):
Yeah, And it was very much harder last night because
my daughter couldn't even sleep and I kind of feel
like she She's only four years old, but I kind
of felt like that she kind of knew what was
going on.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Parents can feel your stress.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
Kids can kill yourself. Kids, Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Yeah, Jay, good luck today with us. Good luck trying
to get her and you to be and you may
never be on the same page, may take a while,
but you just guys got to just have the same priorities.
Speaker 4 (14:59):
Right right exactly?
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Thank you, Joe, take care, body appreciate you. Uh, Nia,
what's up? It's Mojo in the morning. Hi, Nia Hill,
are you We're good? What's going on?
Speaker 6 (15:12):
Well?
Speaker 10 (15:12):
First, I when I sat out my one year wedding anniversary,
have the universary?
Speaker 2 (15:17):
I like you too much happiness though, come on, we're
all talking about fighting. Maybe get into a fight for
your one year anniversaries. You can have good makeup sacks.
Makeup sacks is the best sacks.
Speaker 10 (15:28):
Oh yeah, actually we I've only done it one time,
but it definitely was really good.
Speaker 4 (15:35):
One time.
Speaker 10 (15:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
Oh man, you guys have a good relationship.
Speaker 10 (15:40):
Yeah. And the thing that can say, like I agree
with that about like me being the one that try
to apologize first because like being dependent like on his
energy and like you know, not wanting to have that
kind of weird vibe and energy in the in the space.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
So who's usually the one that or that you have
when you've had a fight with each other, they apologizes first.
Speaker 10 (16:03):
Oh, that's usually me, because to be honest, I'm the
one that usually is the cause of that.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Oh you're the pain of the ass.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
She want to start them arguments so she can have
that makeup six and one time wasn't enough.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
They Yeah, me a happy anniversary. Go do something fun today,
thank you.
Speaker 10 (16:25):
Yeah, We're going to go to yard House.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
I love that place. Yeah, I was kind of thinking
Victoria's Secret.
Speaker 10 (16:33):
Oh yes, I've never been, but he's brought me leftovers
and it was really tasty. So I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Enjoy.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Okay, Robert and his girlfriend haven't spoken since their last
their fight that they had.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
When was your fight?
Speaker 8 (16:48):
Our fight was two days ago yesterday I got home.
I want to start off by saying.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
Good morning, crew, morning, we appreciate you.
Speaker 8 (16:57):
Good morning. Yeah, so we had to fight two days ago.
Yesterday it kind of got a little bit more escalated,
and I would say it started off, but you know,
you know, I kind of related what you said. You know,
you'd like to take care of people. You know, you
like to be there for people if they're in need,
and that's what you know, I usually do all the
(17:18):
time with my family and friends. But my girlfriend, you know,
we have our ups and downs. But even though we
talked about it, you know, you have to accept the
other other. You know, person you're sharing your moments with.
You got to accept their flaws and their cons you know,
their times and pros. So we sat down and we
talked about that a few days ago. We were on
(17:40):
the same page. But you know, everything that goes on,
you know, you go to work, you go pay bills.
It does accumulate stress.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
But it's tough, isn't it to go to work. It
was tough yesterday just to be here working. And you
know that I you know, and Chelsea and I were
not good. But so when are you going to sit
down with her her and talk to her and try
to you know, make mad passionate love, make up love.
Speaker 8 (18:06):
So I I kind of came up with a solution.
I was like, well, when I get home, I'll talk
to her about it over you know what, what what
is the problem?
Speaker 10 (18:14):
What we would like to, you know.
Speaker 8 (18:16):
Do different and hopefully, yeah, that'll spark something. But we
had a baby four weeks ago.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
Wait a second, hold on to make changes.
Speaker 4 (18:26):
Yeah, that changes everything.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Did you feel bad getting into a fight with her
after she gave birth to your child four weeks ago?
Because I felt horrible having an argument with Chelsea afterwards
after she went through the surgeries she went through.
Speaker 8 (18:39):
Definitely, And if you know that's your person, at the
end of the day, you just say sorry and you
understand where one is coming from and then make make
up from there.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Well, good luck to you man, I appreciate it. I
appreciate you, and thanks for that. And good luck to
you guys on your trying to make another baby.
Speaker 8 (18:58):
Thank you you got God bless you guys.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
I appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Here's something interesting to bring up at a later time
for maybe another topic. But yesterday, one of the conversations
that Chelsea had and I said is I just got
to get back into therapy with Dennis and you know,
my therapist, and I just got to like dish out
a bunch of crap to him and have him be
the guy that I give the pounding to. And Chelsea's like, no,
I want to be your person, like I want you
to be able to tell me how you're feeling and
(19:25):
how hard you are and what's going on right now.
And I said to her, I go, sometimes, I don't
want to do that. I want to do that with
my therapist because I want us to be good. And
she says, well, that takes the intimacy out of the
two of us. And it's interesting because she wants me
to say to her, I'm struggling right now, and in turn,
I want to say it to Dennis because I won't.
I don't want her to see me struggling, you know,
(19:46):
because she's she needs me to see me stronger, I think.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
So I can't wait for the next week on podcast
and be a good one, can I be honest with you.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I'm gonna hold out on her and I'm gonna tell
her no unless she does the stuff Anna is telling
me that she should be doing.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
You Anna, Anna is like, well, she can do other things.
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