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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is a question that Megan is going to answer
ask this morning, and we got to get you to
call in and text in to us and tell us
what you think. Megan, what's the question?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
So is it kind of like a detriment as a
girl to make more money than the guys that you're dating.
My girlfriend, who I'm so proud of, has really been
working her bought off for this really amazing new job
that she has, and it came with a whole new
(00:29):
life for her, and she was very ready for the
stage of her life and she deserves this. But she
got a new job, a new apartment, new stuff everywhere,
like she is just blossoming and growing. And she has
noticed that her dating style and life is much different
and the reaction she's getting from guys is much different
(00:49):
coming to this new apartment than they did from the
old apartment because the old apartment she was more on
par with the guys that she was dating financially, and
this new apartment she's doing better than the guys that
she's dating, and she's finding that she is not getting
the long term like once they see the place, guys
(01:09):
drop off.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Really, Yes, So guys don't like the idea that she's
got a nicer place than them.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
She's doing better financially.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Interesting, Why would guys be that shallow? That's just well,
you know what I get it. They're just you know,
I don't understand.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
And I think that's a thing for guys that it's
very intimidating if somebody that they're dating is, you know,
has more money in their bank account or more in
their paycheck than them.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
That's like when ladies say that's the little dig energy.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Yeah. By the way, I wonder if the opposite is true.
If a girl sees a guy that's not doing as
well as them, does that turn.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
They're not even talking? Oh boy, what do you think? Really?
The ladies ain't looking for no brokie. Really you don't
think Megan?
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Come on now, Megie, I made it a guy without
a job for a long time.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
That was a while ago. But new Megan ain't doing it.
New Megan's going for a guy with the Megan.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Is just doesn't want to be alone anymore in the city.
I'm telling you, I'm having a difficult time late later.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
It is hard. The city, by the way, is built
for two. It's wild.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
I had a much easier time being single not here
than I did being single here?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Can I ask you a question, are you talking about
a real friend of yours or is this you that
you're talking about because.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
A real friend? It's really actually annoying.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Because the reason why I asked that is you do
have a great place, you do have a really cool job,
and everything's good. And I'm wondering if maybe you're being
faced with seeing guys that don't look at that as
a positive or maybe are intimidated by that, because I
can see where that could happen.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Two things, Let's be honest, if you're living downtown, everybody's
got nice places. The nice place, yes, yeah. And two
I also think it's kind of of an age thing.
And I don't want to be discriminatory towards age, but
I think people my age don't really care who's making
more money. You're just like looking for your person. She's
significantly younger than me. Oh really, yeah, so she's dating guys.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
In their early mid twenties.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
Such a confidence thing, Like okay, so if you're if
you're a female and you're dating somebody that makes less
money than you, like you at least just want that
person to be confident about who they are and what
they do.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Yeah, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (03:21):
That to me is so much more attractive than if
you're making a bajillion dollars correctly, they're going.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Let's take to call it. No okay, Yoshi, what up?
What do you think? Yoshi?
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Do you mind? Good morning?
Speaker 6 (03:30):
Good morning?
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Everybody morning?
Speaker 7 (03:33):
I mean, let me tell you get something, I personally
do not mind.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I don't care.
Speaker 6 (03:39):
I'm dating her.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I know the one's going to reach out on me
or or her to.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
So you actually look at that as a positive. Then
if a woman has her crap together, huh.
Speaker 8 (03:52):
I see it as if she's a hard worker.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
Why why not?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Okay, all right, see that does an open minded guy
right there? You a single man? We got Courtney. What's
going on?
Speaker 6 (04:05):
Hey, guys, So I was just saying to Lydia, I
feel like that I do try to take advantage when
you make more of them and they see that you're
very ambitious. They kind of see as like you can
be the breadwinner. Which it's fine like that you make more.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Than them, but that's a good point.
Speaker 6 (04:20):
But they'll just like they think, like, okay, well then
I can just like slack off and I don't have
to be ambitious anymore. It's like, no, I want to
build with you. I want us to both be ambitious.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
So if you bring a guy back to your place,
you got a nice place, nice car, nice job, everything
like that, that could actually make the guy take advantage
of you.
Speaker 6 (04:38):
You're saying, yeah, sugar mama.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Why do you think that that happens to guy? Really?
Oh yeah, he shakes see.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
A dude, he's doing well, and they think, okay, maybe
I can just chill, maybe he could take care of me.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Do you think that girls do that? You think girls
take care of him? Absolutely? Yeah.
Speaker 5 (04:57):
But I think I think to Megan's point, I think
a little bit of this is how we were raised.
Like you're raised to be the man of the house,
the one that's the provider, the one that's taking care
of the woman, and everything financially, you know, goes through you.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
You're paying the.
Speaker 5 (05:13):
Bills and all of that. Like, I think a lot
of that is just the mentality in which society is
the social construct.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
We've all agreed, your single guy, could you see yourself
dating like a doctor like I would love to for sure? Really,
so that would be intimidate secutives VPS hollered me, all right.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
What Megan?
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Well, I think for the longest time, like I was
striving for like success, and now I'm just striving for happiness, okay.
And I think there's like a age or a time
or a phase in your life where it switches from
I'm looking for financial stability to do things work out
in the end. I'm in this stage of life right
now where it's like things always seem to find a way,
(05:53):
Like I'd rather just be happy.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Add None, what's up A long time time we're bringing out?
I love it, Yoshi? Add None. Where were you broadcasting
to today? I like it? It's the melting pot. What's happening?
Speaker 8 (06:08):
Not much, man, I just feel like if you have
a great partner, when you are both done, you got
each other. So at the end of the day, like
you know, I have a girlfriend right now, and I
was down and I lost my job and thought she
was there for me, and uh, now you know, I
have a job and she's kind of unemployed at the moment,
so I have her, so it's kind of go ahead.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
You guys, that is actually a big plus when you
are in a relationship, and that's also a hard thing too,
Like if you're in a relationship and then they lose
their job, you feel you know, what are Yeah, what's up?
Speaker 7 (06:39):
Tori? Hi?
Speaker 9 (06:41):
Hi? First time, long time. So when I first met
my husband, he always talked about how he wanted to
be a stay at home dad, and eight years down
the road he always brags to all of his friends
that he's a stay at home trophy husband plas home dad. So, honestly,
(07:02):
I think it's just stereotypical in our society nowadays, that
you know, it's you know, it's said that a man
has to make more than women, but nowadays, I feel
like women are more of the bread winner breadwinners nowadays.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
It's cool.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
That's really nice though, that you guys were able to
accomplish that and you were happy with that.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
So that's uh.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
And we had that well, I won't even bring it up,
but we had that were the roses where the poor
state at home guy got cheated on.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
But what's up, Marisa?
Speaker 9 (07:31):
Hi?
Speaker 7 (07:32):
It's Mary, Marisa, how are you?
Speaker 3 (07:36):
What's going on?
Speaker 2 (07:38):
So?
Speaker 7 (07:39):
Way back when I was single and I was still
working full time, my old partner when I was working,
I'm a pharmacist, So he would tell me, don't tell
the guys what you do for a living or how
much you make. And he said it used to irritate
him when women made more money than him or were
smarter than him.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
It was the advice Mary Marissa. Was he an ethnic guy,
because sometimes ethnic guys get a little crazy.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
Like yeah they do no, really what you mean? What
do you mean, lady d And men do this and specifics.
Caldan men don't like when their girls are doing great.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
They do not like when women are in a position
of power or greatness.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I think it's across the board. Well, this is just
from my experience in my culture.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
It screws up their their manhood that you're saying when
they feel like their girls got it going on exactly.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
That's why I'm changing my type. What do you wean?
You're changing your type. I'm changing my type. I'm going
to start dating American guys. Mojo a white guy. Always
the white boys, Why I am Okay, where do you
go white?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
You're gonna go right back?
Speaker 3 (08:48):
That's an interesting thought.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
Huge does your mama know that I've changed?
Speaker 3 (08:52):
Yeah? So does George know? My dad doesn't care. He's like,
just get married or do something. Are you are you
only going white or you you doing other things?
Speaker 4 (09:03):
We'll mix it up a bit.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Somebody in mind already maybe got you a little Backstreet boy.
All right, God, that is interesting though.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
She's right about the healthy and guys, because I could
see where healthy and guys would be like taken by that,
Like they would be like, oh, she's a like a
Keldyan guy dating a doctor, you know, or or a
lawyer or a pharmacist or something like that.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
It's something about boss women. Man who not attracted to bosses.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
Bro Kevin wants and Kevin by the way, I just
want you to know all these doctors and lawyers are
hitting you up right now.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
That's what we have to do.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
Athletes. I don't want an athlete right there, you're right right.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Just somebody nice, nice, she's a nice guy right there.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Let's do let's do the four one K dating uh
uh show where everybody's got to have a good four
one K and they got to show us that they
got a good four one Okay,
This is a question that Megan is going to answer
ask this morning, and we got to get you to
call in and text in to us and tell us
what you think. Megan, what's the question?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
So is it kind of like a detriment as a
girl to make more money than the guys that you're dating.
My girlfriend, who I'm so proud of, has really been
working her bought off for this really amazing new job
that she has, and it came with a whole new
(00:29):
life for her, and she was very ready for the
stage of her life and she deserves this. But she
got a new job, a new apartment, new stuff everywhere,
like she is just blossoming and growing. And she has
noticed that her dating style and life is much different
and the reaction she's getting from guys is much different
(00:49):
coming to this new apartment than they did from the
old apartment because the old apartment she was more on
par with the guys that she was dating financially, and
this new apartment she's doing better than the guys that
she's dating, and she's finding that she is not getting
the long term like once they see the place, guys
(01:09):
drop off.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Really, Yes, So guys don't like the idea that she's
got a nicer place than them.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
She's doing better financially.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Interesting, Why would guys be that shallow? That's just well,
you know what I get it. They're just you know,
I don't understand.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
And I think that's a thing for guys that it's
very intimidating if somebody that they're dating is, you know,
has more money in their bank account or more in
their paycheck than them.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
That's like when ladies say that's the little dig energy.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Yeah. By the way, I wonder if the opposite is true.
If a girl sees a guy that's not doing as
well as them, does that turn.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
They're not even talking? Oh boy, what do you think? Really?
The ladies ain't looking for no brokie. Really you don't
think Megan?
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Come on now, Megie, I made it a guy without
a job for a long time.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
That was a while ago. But new Megan ain't doing it.
New Megan's going for a guy with the Megan.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Is just doesn't want to be alone anymore in the city.
I'm telling you, I'm having a difficult time late later.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
It is hard. The city, by the way, is built
for two. It's wild.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
I had a much easier time being single not here
than I did being single here?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Can I ask you a question, are you talking about
a real friend of yours or is this you that
you're talking about because.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
A real friend? It's really actually annoying.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Because the reason why I asked that is you do
have a great place, you do have a really cool job,
and everything's good. And I'm wondering if maybe you're being
faced with seeing guys that don't look at that as
a positive or maybe are intimidated by that, because I
can see where that could happen.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Two things, Let's be honest, if you're living downtown, everybody's
got nice places. The nice place, yes, yeah. And two
I also think it's kind of of an age thing.
And I don't want to be discriminatory towards age, but
I think people my age don't really care who's making
more money. You're just like looking for your person. She's
significantly younger than me. Oh really, yeah, so she's dating guys.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
In their early mid twenties.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
Such a confidence thing, Like okay, so if you're if
you're a female and you're dating somebody that makes less
money than you, like you at least just want that
person to be confident about who they are and what
they do.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Yeah, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (03:21):
That to me is so much more attractive than if
you're making a bajillion dollars correctly, they're going.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Let's take to call it. No okay, Yoshi, what up?
What do you think? Yoshi?
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Do you mind? Good morning?
Speaker 6 (03:30):
Good morning?
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Everybody morning?
Speaker 7 (03:33):
I mean, let me tell you get something, I personally
do not mind.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I don't care.
Speaker 6 (03:39):
I'm dating her.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I know the one's going to reach out on me
or or her to.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
So you actually look at that as a positive. Then
if a woman has her crap together, huh.
Speaker 8 (03:52):
I see it as if she's a hard worker.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
Why why not?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Okay, all right, see that does an open minded guy
right there? You a single man? We got Courtney. What's
going on?
Speaker 6 (04:05):
Hey, guys, So I was just saying to Lydia, I
feel like that I do try to take advantage when
you make more of them and they see that you're
very ambitious. They kind of see as like you can
be the breadwinner. Which it's fine like that you make more.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Than them, but that's a good point.
Speaker 6 (04:20):
But they'll just like they think, like, okay, well then
I can just like slack off and I don't have
to be ambitious anymore. It's like, no, I want to
build with you. I want us to both be ambitious.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
So if you bring a guy back to your place,
you got a nice place, nice car, nice job, everything
like that, that could actually make the guy take advantage
of you.
Speaker 6 (04:38):
You're saying, yeah, sugar mama.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Why do you think that that happens to guy? Really?
Oh yeah, he shakes see.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
A dude, he's doing well, and they think, okay, maybe
I can just chill, maybe he could take care of me.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Do you think that girls do that? You think girls
take care of him? Absolutely? Yeah.
Speaker 5 (04:57):
But I think I think to Megan's point, I think
a little bit of this is how we were raised.
Like you're raised to be the man of the house,
the one that's the provider, the one that's taking care
of the woman, and everything financially, you know, goes through you.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
You're paying the.
Speaker 5 (05:13):
Bills and all of that. Like, I think a lot
of that is just the mentality in which society is
the social construct.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
We've all agreed, your single guy, could you see yourself
dating like a doctor like I would love to for sure? Really,
so that would be intimidate secutives VPS hollered me, all right.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
What Megan?
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Well, I think for the longest time, like I was
striving for like success, and now I'm just striving for happiness, okay.
And I think there's like a age or a time
or a phase in your life where it switches from
I'm looking for financial stability to do things work out
in the end. I'm in this stage of life right
now where it's like things always seem to find a way,
(05:53):
Like I'd rather just be happy.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Add None, what's up A long time time we're bringing out?
I love it, Yoshi? Add None. Where were you broadcasting
to today? I like it? It's the melting pot. What's happening?
Speaker 8 (06:08):
Not much, man, I just feel like if you have
a great partner, when you are both done, you got
each other. So at the end of the day, like
you know, I have a girlfriend right now, and I
was down and I lost my job and thought she
was there for me, and uh, now you know, I
have a job and she's kind of unemployed at the moment,
so I have her, so it's kind of go ahead.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
You guys, that is actually a big plus when you
are in a relationship, and that's also a hard thing too,
Like if you're in a relationship and then they lose
their job, you feel you know, what are Yeah, what's up?
Speaker 7 (06:39):
Tori? Hi?
Speaker 9 (06:41):
Hi? First time, long time. So when I first met
my husband, he always talked about how he wanted to
be a stay at home dad, and eight years down
the road he always brags to all of his friends
that he's a stay at home trophy husband plas home dad. So, honestly,
(07:02):
I think it's just stereotypical in our society nowadays, that
you know, it's you know, it's said that a man
has to make more than women, but nowadays, I feel
like women are more of the bread winner breadwinners nowadays.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
It's cool.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
That's really nice though, that you guys were able to
accomplish that and you were happy with that.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
So that's uh.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
And we had that well, I won't even bring it up,
but we had that were the roses where the poor
state at home guy got cheated on.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
But what's up, Marisa?
Speaker 9 (07:31):
Hi?
Speaker 7 (07:32):
It's Mary, Marisa, how are you?
Speaker 3 (07:36):
What's going on?
Speaker 2 (07:38):
So?
Speaker 7 (07:39):
Way back when I was single and I was still
working full time, my old partner when I was working,
I'm a pharmacist, So he would tell me, don't tell
the guys what you do for a living or how
much you make. And he said it used to irritate
him when women made more money than him or were
smarter than him.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
It was the advice Mary Marissa. Was he an ethnic guy,
because sometimes ethnic guys get a little crazy.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
Like yeah they do no, really what you mean? What
do you mean, lady d And men do this and specifics.
Caldan men don't like when their girls are doing great.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
They do not like when women are in a position
of power or greatness.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I think it's across the board. Well, this is just
from my experience in my culture.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
It screws up their their manhood that you're saying when
they feel like their girls got it going on exactly.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
That's why I'm changing my type. What do you wean?
You're changing your type. I'm changing my type. I'm going
to start dating American guys. Mojo a white guy. Always
the white boys, Why I am Okay, where do you
go white?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
You're gonna go right back?
Speaker 3 (08:48):
That's an interesting thought.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
Huge does your mama know that I've changed?
Speaker 3 (08:52):
Yeah? So does George know? My dad doesn't care. He's like,
just get married or do something. Are you are you
only going white or you you doing other things?
Speaker 4 (09:03):
We'll mix it up a bit.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Somebody in mind already maybe got you a little Backstreet boy.
All right, God, that is interesting though.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
She's right about the healthy and guys, because I could
see where healthy and guys would be like taken by that,
Like they would be like, oh, she's a like a
Keldyan guy dating a doctor, you know, or or a
lawyer or a pharmacist or something like that.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
It's something about boss women. Man who not attracted to bosses.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
Bro Kevin wants and Kevin by the way, I just
want you to know all these doctors and lawyers are
hitting you up right now.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
That's what we have to do.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
Athletes. I don't want an athlete right there, you're right right.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Just somebody nice, nice, she's a nice guy right there.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Let's do let's do the four one K dating uh
uh show where everybody's got to have a good four
one K and they got to show us that they
got a good four one Okay,
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