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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Kevin, who is a dad, says that he is not
that parent, and he wants to be that parent.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Josiah refuses to do homework with me. He has homework,
and there are days I try to pick him up
from school as much as I can, and then getting
back to his mom so he can take a shower,
get ready to go to school in the morning as
she takes him. But there are moments where I want
to still be involved in what takes place at school,
more specifically studying for tests, if he has exams coming up,
(00:33):
making sure he's sharp, if he has homework, doing my
best to be involved there, because, for one, I want
to be involved and in too. I don't want his
mom to just have to deal with all of that
and I get to just be the fun weekend dad.
But Josiah does not want to do homework with me.
Like he had homework yesterday. I'm like, Joe, you got homework.
He's like, yeah, I got it in Ela, I got
a test in Global Studies tomorrow. I also have math
(00:56):
today and some science. I'm like, all right, best soon
as we get home, we give what's called he called
it chill toms. Yeah, you go home get you a
little thirty hour relaxed, he get a snack something like that.
But now it's on to lock you in and I'm like, Joe,
it's time to do homework. He was like, I don't
want to do homework with you. I want to do
it with my mom. Wait, so what happens if he's
not going to mom's house that night?
Speaker 1 (01:17):
He always goes to take him.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Oh, so you get him and then you bring him
back home before So he's gonna wait to do his homework. Yes, anyway,
And he's not saying that too because he doesn't want
to get in and do his homework and just he
wants to have more chill time. He's saying that, why
because he doesn't want to do homework with you.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Yes, she's the more focused parent, thank god, like a routine.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
I don't know. Okay, he's the smarter bear, That's what
I was going to ask. Is it because he knows
that she could help help him?
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Or is it because you are And we've talked about
this before the quote unquote fun parents. So maybe he
just wants to have fun during his time with you.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
It could be that.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
I think I think it's a little bit of everything
to be honest with you. And she is a smart person,
like she teaches technology to Stu and adults who want
to learn certain things. So I don't know if it's
like the way that she does homework with him more
so fits his style or because I'll be like, let's
check GPT it or like this life you had to do.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
That last week. I had to do that last week. Yeah,
I'm telling you right now.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Some of this stuff I have no like doing integers
and stuff like I remember that word, but I don't remember.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
How to do this type of stuff. I don't even
know what that word is something like that.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
I remember when I was little, my mom specifically came
up to me and she was like, Anna, like you
need to ask your dad for help with more things,
whether it's could I go over to my friend's house
or this. She's like, he just doesn't feel like he's
involved in making those big decisions. But that's something she
told me when I was like ten years old.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Yeah, So, like I feel like children do not necessarily
a favorite parent, but a go to parent, Like I'll
only do certain things with this parent, And I feel
like when it comes to anything that's school related outside
of like a costume or like rama club is coming up,
Like help me with a line, Like he's going along
(03:03):
maybe does he go to you for public?
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Yeah, going to the movies. He's got a play coming up,
Like how does his line sound? All that kind of stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
But you know what, though, I don't think that that's
a bad thing because I maybe it's because I was
the parent that was also like that, Like I think
everybody's got their strengths, and his mom may be more
of the person that is the strengths of helping him
learn it, Like she probably has a good patience where
you're chat GPT and this is the answer, you know
(03:33):
what I mean? Like, I think that I hated when
I was the parent that had to help with projects
and things like that, because I just wanted to do
it exactly and I was like, just let's just get
this thing done so we can, you know, move on to.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Whatever take over kind of. I'm the same way when
it comes to that. Ronda can relate what's up, Randa,
how you doing?
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Hey, I'm doing I got you. What's going on?
Speaker 6 (03:57):
Good?
Speaker 7 (03:57):
First time in a long time.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Okay, you just don't get the new way of doing math,
and you probably confuse him more than he's already. I'm confused, Ronda,
You are absolutely correct. I don't get this new math. Randa,
who's in your household? Who's who's the one that did
the homework? Who is the homework one?
Speaker 6 (04:22):
It was me?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Okay, all right, So.
Speaker 6 (04:25):
I was still confused by the new math anyway?
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Then, Yeah, why do they have to change the math?
It makes no sense. There is no actually makes no sense.
It's like somebody just don't understand it at all.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
I believe the new math was purely just to mess
with parents that all learned the old math, you know
that was kind of.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
A little bit like six seven, Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
And also I'm like, you're gonna use a calculator for
the rest of your life anyway.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Well that's the thing. I mean, I'll be honest with you.
Are we even worried about what these these kids are
gonna act? They're not gonna have to do anything, you
know anymore.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
I was talking to a girlfriend last night and keV,
you know, this smith is my second grader and his
handwriting is absolutely atrocious. I mean, you cannot read this
what this child writes. And my friend was like, stop
stressing about it. They're not going to need to write
a dang thing anyway.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
After Although although I talked to Luke and Luke was
telling me in college, you you you write more like yeah, yeah,
as weird as it says, he said he's screwed. He
said that he's surprised at Michigan State in some of
his classes that there's more writing going on. Because I
said to him, I go, you got what do you
have to type everything? And he's like, no, we don't
type anything. Everything is they want you to. They want
(05:36):
you in class to do writing and then you hand
it in or whatever. Interesting, which is kind of wild
because he's got the worst penmanship. He like writes like
a doctor, you know what I mean. He can't even
read the thing. What's going on, Julie, Let's go to Julie. Hi, Julie, Hi, Hey,
what's happening?
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Julie. Yes, Julie.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Do you think that Josiah is smart in not having
his dad help with any of the homework?
Speaker 6 (06:05):
Well, that's interesting, you said that. My granddaughter's nine going
on ten, and I've helped raise her, so we called
her to always to do masks so she can get
the answer right. In school, they were marking her down
because she went and draw the lines and she went
do all this weird stuff. She goes, why if.
Speaker 4 (06:22):
You do this?
Speaker 6 (06:22):
The answer is right there right. So she got in trouble.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
They got they marked her down, yeah.
Speaker 6 (06:29):
And didn't give her one hundred percent because she did
not do the lines and everything that she said.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
I'm telling you.
Speaker 6 (06:35):
So finally she started doing it. But the question is why,
if you're doing it the right way, why do you
have to She goes, why do you put a line
here in these arrows? Here?
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Yeah, that makes sense, It's it's wild you No, I listen.
I remember that with my kids, having to teach them
or help them go through it, and I'm.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Like, this is stupid. This is the answer. Just put
the answer, don what's up, Liz?
Speaker 7 (07:00):
Two things? I think that uh, Josiah.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Is not Ah, she hung up the phone. I have
no idea what you were going to say. Two things? Oh,
here's she No, here she is hold, Okay, I got her,
she's back, put her on hold.
Speaker 6 (07:24):
She hung up.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
She hung up again. It's a phone line. Hailey, what's up? Hailey?
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Hi?
Speaker 8 (07:30):
Uh So I'm a stepmom to an eight year old girl,
and I'm like the go to parent for her, even
like over her biological parents. So like when she's at
our house, she like completely ignores her dad and comes
to me for everything.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
And then even when.
Speaker 8 (07:44):
She's at her mom's house, she still will like ask
to call me and like still talk to me about
things and like get my advice or like get me
to say yes to things, even if her mom says
yes to I'm like thankful for that relationship, but it
can be like super overwhelming, especially with the bio parents.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
And like the bio mom, what do you do if
she's not with you guys that week?
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Does she just fail her stuff?
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Uh?
Speaker 8 (08:09):
No, to be honest, the teachers just notice, send it.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Home, send it home with the steps.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Yeah, that's that's wild though, what's okay?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
How you doing?
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Hi?
Speaker 7 (08:22):
So I'm just adding on to what she had said
about Smith's handwriting. My daughter of a LA. She is
ten years old in fourth grade, and she has the
worst handwriting on all of her assignments. But I know
that she can write beautifully because she filled out a
form to be like a safety monitor, a hall monitor,
(08:43):
and the handwriting was just beautiful on that.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
I just don't care watch your kids write something for whatever,
like a poster board.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
They'll make it all pretty and everything.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
And then when they're just trying to turn something in
real quick, right letter does Santa? Look, you know what
you should drive me crazy that Luke did and I
don't know. Okay, if your ten year old does this,
Luke will instead of ripping a piece of paper out
of his notebook nicely and have it be nice edges
on the end, let's go.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
And he'll like, oh my gosh, yes, if he will turn.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
In assignments on half papers, you know what I mean,
Like it's crazy. Yes, And I look at him and
I'm like, going, you couldn't do that at work, Like
you couldn't like turn something in like that.
Speaker 7 (09:23):
They're not they're not worried about the end game though.
They're not worried about what the real world is going
to be like.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
And that's a struggle, you know, want to get through it.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
I tell Luke, I said, do your homework like you
play your video games. Give it a little time and effort.
Maybe Josiah needs me to do homework with him.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
He'd be worse than right
All right.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Kevin, who is a dad, says that he is not
that parent, and he wants to be that parent.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Josiah refuses to do homework with me. He has homework,
and there are days I try to pick him up
from school as much as I can, and then getting
back to his mom so he can take a shower,
get ready to go to school in the morning as
she takes him. But there are moments where I want
to still be involved in what takes place at school,
more specifically studying for tests, if he has exams coming up,
(00:33):
making sure he's sharp, if he has homework, doing my
best to be involved there, because, for one, I want
to be involved and in too. I don't want his
mom to just have to deal with all of that
and I get to just be the fun weekend dad.
But Josiah does not want to do homework with me.
Like he had homework yesterday. I'm like, Joe, you got homework.
He's like, yeah, I got it in Ela, I got
a test in Global Studies tomorrow. I also have math
(00:56):
today and some science. I'm like, all right, best soon
as we get home, we give what's called he called
it chill toms. Yeah, you go home get you a
little thirty hour relaxed, he get a snack something like that.
But now it's on to lock you in and I'm like, Joe,
it's time to do homework. He was like, I don't
want to do homework with you. I want to do
it with my mom. Wait, so what happens if he's
not going to mom's house that night?
Speaker 1 (01:17):
He always goes to take him.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Oh, so you get him and then you bring him
back home before So he's gonna wait to do his homework. Yes, anyway,
And he's not saying that too because he doesn't want
to get in and do his homework and just he
wants to have more chill time. He's saying that, why
because he doesn't want to do homework with you.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Yes, she's the more focused parent, thank god, like a routine.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
I don't know. Okay, he's the smarter bear, That's what
I was going to ask. Is it because he knows
that she could help help him?
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Or is it because you are And we've talked about
this before the quote unquote fun parents. So maybe he
just wants to have fun during his time with you.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
It could be that.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
I think I think it's a little bit of everything
to be honest with you. And she is a smart person,
like she teaches technology to Stu and adults who want
to learn certain things. So I don't know if it's
like the way that she does homework with him more
so fits his style or because I'll be like, let's
check GPT it or like this life you had to do.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
That last week. I had to do that last week. Yeah,
I'm telling you right now.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Some of this stuff I have no like doing integers
and stuff like I remember that word, but I don't remember.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
How to do this type of stuff. I don't even
know what that word is something like that.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
I remember when I was little, my mom specifically came
up to me and she was like, Anna, like you
need to ask your dad for help with more things,
whether it's could I go over to my friend's house
or this. She's like, he just doesn't feel like he's
involved in making those big decisions. But that's something she
told me when I was like ten years old.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Yeah, So, like I feel like children do not necessarily
a favorite parent, but a go to parent, Like I'll
only do certain things with this parent, And I feel
like when it comes to anything that's school related outside
of like a costume or like rama club is coming up,
Like help me with a line, Like he's going along
(03:03):
maybe does he go to you for public?
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Yeah, going to the movies. He's got a play coming up,
Like how does his line sound? All that kind of stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
But you know what, though, I don't think that that's
a bad thing because I maybe it's because I was
the parent that was also like that, Like I think
everybody's got their strengths, and his mom may be more
of the person that is the strengths of helping him
learn it, Like she probably has a good patience where
you're chat GPT and this is the answer, you know
(03:33):
what I mean? Like, I think that I hated when
I was the parent that had to help with projects
and things like that, because I just wanted to do
it exactly and I was like, just let's just get
this thing done so we can, you know, move on to.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Whatever take over kind of. I'm the same way when
it comes to that. Ronda can relate what's up, Randa,
how you doing?
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Hey, I'm doing I got you. What's going on?
Speaker 6 (03:57):
Good?
Speaker 7 (03:57):
First time in a long time.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Okay, you just don't get the new way of doing math,
and you probably confuse him more than he's already. I'm confused, Ronda,
You are absolutely correct. I don't get this new math. Randa,
who's in your household? Who's who's the one that did
the homework? Who is the homework one?
Speaker 6 (04:22):
It was me?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Okay, all right, So.
Speaker 6 (04:25):
I was still confused by the new math anyway?
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Then, Yeah, why do they have to change the math?
It makes no sense. There is no actually makes no sense.
It's like somebody just don't understand it at all.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
I believe the new math was purely just to mess
with parents that all learned the old math, you know
that was kind of.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
A little bit like six seven, Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
And also I'm like, you're gonna use a calculator for
the rest of your life anyway.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Well that's the thing. I mean, I'll be honest with you.
Are we even worried about what these these kids are
gonna act? They're not gonna have to do anything, you
know anymore.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
I was talking to a girlfriend last night and keV,
you know, this smith is my second grader and his
handwriting is absolutely atrocious. I mean, you cannot read this
what this child writes. And my friend was like, stop
stressing about it. They're not going to need to write
a dang thing anyway.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
After Although although I talked to Luke and Luke was
telling me in college, you you you write more like yeah, yeah,
as weird as it says, he said he's screwed. He
said that he's surprised at Michigan State in some of
his classes that there's more writing going on. Because I
said to him, I go, you got what do you
have to type everything? And he's like, no, we don't
type anything. Everything is they want you to. They want
(05:36):
you in class to do writing and then you hand
it in or whatever. Interesting, which is kind of wild
because he's got the worst penmanship. He like writes like
a doctor, you know what I mean. He can't even
read the thing. What's going on, Julie, Let's go to Julie. Hi, Julie, Hi, Hey,
what's happening?
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Julie. Yes, Julie.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Do you think that Josiah is smart in not having
his dad help with any of the homework?
Speaker 6 (06:05):
Well, that's interesting, you said that. My granddaughter's nine going
on ten, and I've helped raise her, so we called
her to always to do masks so she can get
the answer right. In school, they were marking her down
because she went and draw the lines and she went
do all this weird stuff. She goes, why if.
Speaker 4 (06:22):
You do this?
Speaker 6 (06:22):
The answer is right there right. So she got in trouble.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
They got they marked her down, yeah.
Speaker 6 (06:29):
And didn't give her one hundred percent because she did
not do the lines and everything that she said.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
I'm telling you.
Speaker 6 (06:35):
So finally she started doing it. But the question is why,
if you're doing it the right way, why do you
have to She goes, why do you put a line
here in these arrows? Here?
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Yeah, that makes sense, It's it's wild you No, I listen.
I remember that with my kids, having to teach them
or help them go through it, and I'm.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Like, this is stupid. This is the answer. Just put
the answer, don what's up, Liz?
Speaker 7 (07:00):
Two things? I think that uh, Josiah.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Is not Ah, she hung up the phone. I have
no idea what you were going to say. Two things? Oh,
here's she No, here she is hold, Okay, I got her,
she's back, put her on hold.
Speaker 6 (07:24):
She hung up.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
She hung up again. It's a phone line. Hailey, what's up? Hailey?
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Hi?
Speaker 8 (07:30):
Uh So I'm a stepmom to an eight year old girl,
and I'm like the go to parent for her, even
like over her biological parents. So like when she's at
our house, she like completely ignores her dad and comes
to me for everything.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
And then even when.
Speaker 8 (07:44):
She's at her mom's house, she still will like ask
to call me and like still talk to me about
things and like get my advice or like get me
to say yes to things, even if her mom says
yes to I'm like thankful for that relationship, but it
can be like super overwhelming, especially with the bio parents.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
And like the bio mom, what do you do if
she's not with you guys that week?
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Does she just fail her stuff?
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Uh?
Speaker 8 (08:09):
No, to be honest, the teachers just notice, send it.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Home, send it home with the steps.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Yeah, that's that's wild though, what's okay?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
How you doing?
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Hi?
Speaker 7 (08:22):
So I'm just adding on to what she had said
about Smith's handwriting. My daughter of a LA. She is
ten years old in fourth grade, and she has the
worst handwriting on all of her assignments. But I know
that she can write beautifully because she filled out a
form to be like a safety monitor, a hall monitor,
(08:43):
and the handwriting was just beautiful on that.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
I just don't care watch your kids write something for whatever,
like a poster board.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
They'll make it all pretty and everything.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
And then when they're just trying to turn something in
real quick, right letter does Santa? Look, you know what
you should drive me crazy that Luke did and I
don't know. Okay, if your ten year old does this,
Luke will instead of ripping a piece of paper out
of his notebook nicely and have it be nice edges
on the end, let's go.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
And he'll like, oh my gosh, yes, if he will turn.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
In assignments on half papers, you know what I mean,
Like it's crazy. Yes, And I look at him and
I'm like, going, you couldn't do that at work, Like
you couldn't like turn something in like that.
Speaker 7 (09:23):
They're not they're not worried about the end game though.
They're not worried about what the real world is going
to be like.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
And that's a struggle, you know, want to get through it.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
I tell Luke, I said, do your homework like you
play your video games. Give it a little time and effort.
Maybe Josiah needs me to do homework with him.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
He'd be worse than right
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