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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. I got
to tell you guys that this has been an amazing year.
A year ago February, I started really kind of focusing
on my health and I started being serious about the
weight loss shot that I actually take a one of
those what do they call them, semi glue tight trids, epetite,
(00:22):
whatever the heck these things are. But I take a
manjournal and this past year I've lost forty eight pounds
do and it hasn't been like weight loss like I've
had with other programs that I've done, and this is
not a program I'm doing. So I just went to
my doctor, and doctor Warner, you know, helped me with us.
(00:42):
So I'm not like promoting anybody, but if anybody wants
me to promote them, I'm a free agent right now. Baby,
I'll promote anybody, any doctor that wants me to. But
it's actually worked out a lot. But I'm doing that
and I'm doing something else. But I have to be
quite honest with you. Losing weight has literally hurt my marriage,
as weird as that sounds. And today we'll explain thank
(01:06):
you for asking today on our we Don't podcast that
gets put up on our I heard radio app when
Zachariah puts it up there. Chelsea and I will discuss
this because there is also something else that I'm doing
that has caused for some issues, and Chelsea and I
discuss that I am doing one of these shots and
(01:26):
I'm being very open about that, but I am also
doing something that my doctor put me on too, which
is I'm taking testosterone. So I had done a blood
test to see what kind of testosterone levels I had,
because I've had friends of mine that have said, hey,
have you ever checked your testosterone. I'm like, yeah, I
think they check it in my blood test. Well, do
(01:47):
you know what it is? I'm like, I don't know
what it is. I mean, I know what my cholesterol is,
which is weird to know that, but I have heart issues,
so I got to figure that out. And I know
like what my blood sugar is because I always worried
I was gonna be a diabetic. Anytime I, you know,
feel like I eat a you know, cupcake or something
like that, I feel like I'm going into a diabetic coma.
But I had no idea what my testosterone was. So
(02:09):
I went into a blood test, and your testosterone should
be like like seven to seven hundred to like over
a thousand, and my testosterone was a hundred.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
I literally was a woman.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
I was changing testosterone testoster there right there are And
then I'm very that's very normal for men, right, low
testosterone once they reach.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
A certain point and it starts going.
Speaker 5 (02:38):
No, I'm sure very villain honestly, but like that's normal though, right.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Shanon, this is wild.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Buddies of mine who are like thirties for sure, thirty
five to thirty six years old, they they went and
got their testosterone done.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Their testosterone is like two fifty or something like that
or three hundred.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
I think it's the food that we're eating.
Speaker 6 (02:55):
Yeah, that's what are you So you're getting your You're
doing testosterone.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Shots a lot.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
So I actually do injections, but there's also there's creams
and things like that.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
But I'm doing it through a doctor.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
I actually, Chelsea, and I found this this doctor that
you know that that you know I went to, and
it was her encouraging me to do it because this
was one of the things that my cardiologist was telling
me was low testosterone could be just as bad for
your heart as as you know, having too high a testosterone,
So you know, trying to figure this thing out was
(03:27):
a big deal. So long story, sure, where this hurts
my marriage is yeah, it has made me horny and
all I want to do is bake cookies and literally
I and we talk about this, Chelsea and I talk
about this on the podcast, And if you want to
call Chelsea, by the way, Lydia, you can give her
a call, because I'm sure that she'll she'll talk about this.
(03:48):
But it's gotten to a point where if you are
a spouse that is taking testosterone, your guy that's doing
it because you're trying to make your health better, but
the libido of your spouse is not keeping up with
your libido. It causes for it honestly causes for issues
where it becomes a situation where you're mismatched. You are
(04:09):
mismatched and Chelsea and also Chelsea feels like and we
talk about this too, And I don't know if there's
any other couples that want to talk about this, because
this is a huge deal amongst people that are trying
to lose weight too. Like others that are trying to
do weight loss things, I think that what ends up
happening is you start losing weight, you start feeling better,
and then your spouse either one of two things feels
(04:32):
like they're not and then they feel like, uh oh,
they're worried that you're cheating, or they worried that you're
out doing it for somebody else, not realizing that you're
you know, you're doing it for yourself and you're kind
of mismatched in that way, or you're again you're not
every woman wants to have sex, according to Chelsea, and
(04:52):
I don't understand that, Chelsea. Are you there, Chelse? My wife,
Chelsea is on the phone, good morning. I think you
lie to me when you say that not every woman
wants to have sex?
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Is he talking about it all the time tells?
Speaker 6 (05:04):
Or is he asking you all the time?
Speaker 2 (05:06):
For both?
Speaker 5 (05:09):
Both?
Speaker 2 (05:11):
So you think so? But I always talked about.
Speaker 7 (05:13):
It though true, that's true.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
But but you liked me with low testosterone. You wanted
me not to have testos.
Speaker 7 (05:21):
I like you with zero testosterone.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Zero zero point zero.
Speaker 7 (05:28):
Yeah, zero point zero?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Were you into it initially? Like when you started to
see this change you were you wanted me to you
wanted me to get healthier.
Speaker 7 (05:38):
I want you, yes, I want you to be healthy.
Speaker 8 (05:41):
I want you to.
Speaker 7 (05:43):
Yeah. I want for your health, absolutely, but it Yeah,
it's turned you into a twenty year old hey issue,
that's part of health. Yeah, well yeah it's not. It's
not fun for the other person.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
It just isn't.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
It's not fun when I wake up pitching a tent.
Speaker 7 (06:06):
Well, it's that fun because it changes the whole your
attitude about everything too, because I hate talking about this
on the radio. But if I don't want to, then
you get upset and you take it personal. It turns
into it It's like a huge thing because then.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
You don't want to hurt his feelings.
Speaker 7 (06:27):
Yeah, I don't want to hurt his feelings. But guess glad,
I'm going to hurt your feelings.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
So you ain't never balls.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Yeah, if Chelsea experienced that painful experience, you never experienced
blue balls before. No, it's worse than childbirth. I'm telling you.
Speaker 5 (06:52):
I'm sorry all the women listening right now, I'm just
I'm really sorry.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Mika. Are you there, Mika? I am what's going on?
Speaker 8 (07:02):
So I'm with you. I'm having trouble in my marriage
as well. I've lost one hundred and three pounds and thank.
Speaker 7 (07:10):
You, and.
Speaker 8 (07:13):
I sleep on the couch for the last year.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Why because he.
Speaker 8 (07:18):
Was making comments about my skin. One time after we had,
you know, some baking cookie time and he was like,
you know, I love you and I support you, and
I told you I would support you through this. He goes,
but if I'm being honest, I prefer you bigger.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 8 (07:38):
And so after that he would make like little comments
like look at your skin. Feel your skin, it's so different,
and I started feeling very uncomfortable as a heavy girl.
I've always been heavy. You have you have self of
steam issues and they don't go away even when you
get skinny.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Wown't. So he didn't look at this is wow, look
at you. You know you're you're you're losing weight. Do
you think that is he? Is he a guy that uh?
Is he a bigger guy?
Speaker 8 (08:08):
No? No, he's always been thin.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Huh. Yep, that's that's wilder.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
Why do you with a guy who doesn't build you
up and is making me feel that about?
Speaker 8 (08:19):
You know, just to let you know, my doctor warned
me when I started losing weight that eighty percent of
people who have weight loss surgery end up getting a divorce.
Speaker 4 (08:31):
Wow, oh my god, that is a crazy statistic. Yeah,
there's a.
Speaker 5 (08:36):
Lot of divorce statistics that are very interesting when it
comes to women in their house.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Did your did your husband encourage the weight loss surgery?
And then earlier in the process.
Speaker 8 (08:44):
And totally was there by my side at the hospital
and everything totally? And then about I want to say,
once I got into Wonderland under two hundred pounds, everything changed.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
That's amazing.
Speaker 5 (08:58):
Everything Well, It's one of my biggest fears when it
comes to dating.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Is because I hear stories like this all the time.
Speaker 5 (09:04):
I talked about it late last year actually on the show,
and it's horrifying the things that people will say.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Have you thought about it?
Speaker 8 (09:12):
Going people, I've noticed that. I'm sorry, go ahead, No.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I was going to ask you. I say what you noticed,
and I'll ask you the question.
Speaker 8 (09:20):
I was just saying, I noticed that people who were
nicer to you when you are heavy are kind of
meaner to you when you lose weight, And people who
were meaner to you when you were heavy are nicer
to you when you lose weight. Interesting you are with
real and who is faith?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Yep, very quickly. You should look for that podcast too.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
When Megan talked about that about people changing and talking
to you differently, But can I ask you this? Have
you thought about going and seeing it if a doctor
can help you with the excess scan and stuff.
Speaker 8 (09:46):
So I have. Unfortunately, with my situation, I have to
lose seven more pounds and then keep them off for
a whole year, getting before my insurance, before my insurance
will cover.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
It, and it's still extensive.
Speaker 8 (10:03):
So I lost one hundred and three pounds actually three
years ago, and I peter back and forth between ninety
seven and one hundred and three.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Wow, do you feel beautiful?
Speaker 8 (10:13):
Really struggling? I'm sorry?
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Do you feel beautiful?
Speaker 7 (10:20):
Sometimes?
Speaker 8 (10:21):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (10:22):
Same same.
Speaker 5 (10:23):
There are times where you're so proud of yourself and
other times you're like, I look worse now.
Speaker 8 (10:27):
Yeah, septem issues just don't go away. They're always there.
Speaker 9 (10:31):
But then you have you have the feeling of accomplishment
of hitting this goal and then looking at yourself in
the mirror and being like, but I don't look the
way that I thought I would look, and it's so disappointing.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Well, that's why a lot of times they'll help tell
you when you do lose weight that you should go still,
go talk to a therapist, talk to me, and then
not having the support of your partner too.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
But then it's also expensive.
Speaker 5 (10:52):
Therapy is expensive, Getting plastic surgery to fix it is expensive.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
It's insane.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Uh, Stacy has oh, oh, guy.
Speaker 10 (11:02):
He's angry. I'm working on.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Stacy says that Chelsea that and my wife, Chelsea is
still on the phone here that uh uh. The testosterone
thing was an issue? Is that right in your relationship
with your husband?
Speaker 8 (11:16):
Yeah, it was on.
Speaker 10 (11:18):
His potosterone was in the one hundred. So when he
first got tested, and you know, he started with the
cream and it literally did nothing for him except for
all the emotional rollercoaster that this man rode. It was
so hard, like just to be there and understand and
(11:38):
sympathize with him sitting at the kitchen table and he
would just start crying and I'm like, bag, what what
is going on? And he's like I don't know, and
I'm like, okay, what can I do? And then it
was later on he's completely slipped to one to eighty
and he's raring and ready to go, and I'm like,
you were just crying your eyesouse ten and he says, oh,
(11:59):
and now you want to just grow upstairs and handle
our business. It's like I didn't know where I was
supposed to be. It took a lot of faith, a
lot of praise, and just a lot of patience.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
Interesting, do you like it that way? Do you get
really emotional?
Speaker 2 (12:14):
No, I mean I get it's just Chelsea.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Do I get more emotional too?
Speaker 7 (12:20):
You don't get like upad like cry emotional, but you
get mad?
Speaker 6 (12:26):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Well, Chelsea's also, But Chelsea's also lost a lot of
weight too, and she looks amazing. And honestly, by the way,
I'm sorry, I'm gonna hang up on you because your
kid is is a little crazy. It's actually making me
have grow gaps right now. My my, my breasts are
lactating when I hear that child crying. But Chelsea's Chelsea's
(12:50):
lost weight, and Chelsea looks amazing, and honestly, if she's
not having sex with me, I'm thinking she wants to
have sex with somebody else. And I look at her
like this way, and I'm like, going, man, I feel
like I'm I feel like I'm trying to look better too,
and I'm thinking that it's going to make us want to,
you know, enjoy each other more, and and it hasn't.
(13:13):
And so part of me then becomes then I then
I start having lack of confidence by myself.
Speaker 6 (13:18):
I mean as a wife, I can understand that. It's
like it's like this circle of craziness because it probably
feels good for you, Chelse to be so desired, but
then at the same time, you don't want to be
having sex all day, every day, so then you say no,
you know, every now and again, and then it pushes
him away and he's like, well, wait a second, why
do And then it just keeps going around and around
and around.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Do you feel good to be desired or do you
or does it not matter to you?
Speaker 4 (13:44):
To me?
Speaker 7 (13:44):
Yeah, I mean I know I'm fine, So because that
does bother me sometimes, like I I and I think
I tell you.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
I think I tell her too much that I love her,
and I think sometimes it just it becomes falling on deaf.
Speaker 4 (14:02):
Yours, oh needy.
Speaker 7 (14:06):
Yeah, I just there's so much more than this whole
break can ever cover. But yes, I think that because
it's making me sound like a horrible wife. But I
want you to be healthy. I want you to lose
the weight, and I want you to be again healthy
for your heart and all of that stuff. But then
it comes. You know, there's also two people in this relationship,
(14:29):
so it just can't be about what you want constantly
all the time. But that's the way it feels, because
if I don't do that, then you're upset and then
it just ruins the night or the day or whatever.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
I get it, and we get more into this discussion
on the podcast later today, and it gets to a
point where it's like we're both She basically is telling
me like, I can't keep up with this, and it's
not about just the sacks. It's just the emotions that
go on with things. I tell you it was more
fun being fat, and you know, I actually do think
this though. I think our relationship sometimes is better when
(15:02):
there's a traumatic situation that happens. So I want to
have another heart issue. I think that she likes me
or loves me more when there's like something going on.
Speaker 7 (15:16):
Let's not do that, please so.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
But otherwise it's it's kind of like I don't know.
It's it's kind of like you have to like as
a kid, you know, you're a kid, and you weren't
getting noticed at all when you're like a sibling, So
would you do you threw something down on the ground
just to piss off your parents.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Sometimes you have to get noticed. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (15:36):
I don't like that being noticed. Making not the heart thing.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
No, no, I'll be fine.
Speaker 5 (15:41):
Couldn't it be like I wish like a finger and
like she has to make soup for me.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
I don't like.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
All right, Well, listen to the podcast day. You can
check it out on the iHeartRadio app. Chelsea, I cannot
believe this should be a topic too, that we should
get some of these people to come on with us.
All these listeners are calling up saying weight loss caused
issues in their relationship. I cannot belie leave how many
of our listeners said that they got they ran into
marital issues after losing weight.
Speaker 7 (16:09):
Well, yeah, I'm sure, I'm sure that does happen.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
For sure, did.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Any time in my eight thousand other weight loss journeys,
did that cause any issues in our relationship?
Speaker 8 (16:20):
No?
Speaker 2 (16:20):
Just the testosterone, just the test asterone. All right, all right,
it's never been about what you look like.
Speaker 7 (16:26):
So that's and I've never got very clear with that
listener that called in. I don't make comments. I don't
you know. I praise you, like, but I don't want
to make it about your looks.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Because that's just not well.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
You also met me and I was fat, and the
only time that it's ever been bad was when you
just worried about me dying.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
You know what I mean? My health?
Speaker 7 (16:45):
Yeah, I don't. I don't place everything on your looks.
I think you're an amazing person with who you are,
so I don't want anyone to think that I'm saying
anything bad about your looks. It's just strictly the testosterone issue.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
Right now, let's end on a positive mark. What did
you want to say?
Speaker 11 (17:01):
I'm always show what's up?
Speaker 8 (17:02):
Brother?
Speaker 11 (17:02):
I'm glad you guys are back. What's up with them lions?
But hey, I was four hundred pounds and right now
I'm like three oh seven. I've just been changing stuff up.
And my my sex life is great. The girl loves it.
We have sex all the time.
Speaker 8 (17:20):
She says.
Speaker 11 (17:21):
It feels so good.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
So girl, and what is what is the what is
the reasoning why the girl thinks it's better?
Speaker 11 (17:33):
She says, it's just because I've always been told that
I have a nice unit. But with losing weight, I
think that my stomach is more out of the way
and my my unit might be maybe an inch or
a little bit longer, a little bit. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Mark. Here's the deal. Mark had a dickey do and
hell yeah. For those that don't know what a dicky
do is. When you're a fat guy, you have your
stick exactly. No more dicky do for you, Mark. All right, buddy,
(18:16):
appreciate it. Take care of yourself.
Speaker 11 (18:18):
I love you, guys, love you.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
And Chelsea. I love you. I will talk to you later.
Speaker 7 (18:26):
I love you. Bye.
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. I got
to tell you guys that this has been an amazing year.
A year ago February, I started really kind of focusing
on my health and I started being serious about the
weight loss shot that I actually take a one of
those what do they call them, semi glue tight trids, epetite,
(00:22):
whatever the heck these things are. But I take a
manjournal and this past year I've lost forty eight pounds
do and it hasn't been like weight loss like I've
had with other programs that I've done, and this is
not a program I'm doing. So I just went to
my doctor, and doctor Warner, you know, helped me with us.
(00:42):
So I'm not like promoting anybody, but if anybody wants
me to promote them, I'm a free agent right now. Baby,
I'll promote anybody, any doctor that wants me to. But
it's actually worked out a lot. But I'm doing that
and I'm doing something else. But I have to be
quite honest with you. Losing weight has literally hurt my marriage,
as weird as that sounds. And today we'll explain thank
(01:06):
you for asking today on our we Don't podcast that
gets put up on our I heard radio app when
Zachariah puts it up there. Chelsea and I will discuss
this because there is also something else that I'm doing
that has caused for some issues, and Chelsea and I
discuss that I am doing one of these shots and
(01:26):
I'm being very open about that, but I am also
doing something that my doctor put me on too, which
is I'm taking testosterone. So I had done a blood
test to see what kind of testosterone levels I had,
because I've had friends of mine that have said, hey,
have you ever checked your testosterone. I'm like, yeah, I
think they check it in my blood test. Well, do
(01:47):
you know what it is? I'm like, I don't know
what it is. I mean, I know what my cholesterol is,
which is weird to know that, but I have heart issues,
so I got to figure that out. And I know
like what my blood sugar is because I always worried
I was gonna be a diabetic. Anytime I, you know,
feel like I eat a you know, cupcake or something
like that, I feel like I'm going into a diabetic coma.
But I had no idea what my testosterone was. So
(02:09):
I went into a blood test, and your testosterone should
be like like seven to seven hundred to like over
a thousand, and my testosterone was a hundred.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
I literally was a woman.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
I was changing testosterone testoster there right there are And
then I'm very that's very normal for men, right, low
testosterone once they reach.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
A certain point and it starts going.
Speaker 5 (02:38):
No, I'm sure very villain honestly, but like that's normal though, right.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Shanon, this is wild.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Buddies of mine who are like thirties for sure, thirty
five to thirty six years old, they they went and
got their testosterone done.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Their testosterone is like two fifty or something like that
or three hundred.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
I think it's the food that we're eating.
Speaker 6 (02:55):
Yeah, that's what are you So you're getting your You're
doing testosterone.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Shots a lot.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
So I actually do injections, but there's also there's creams
and things like that.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
But I'm doing it through a doctor.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
I actually, Chelsea, and I found this this doctor that
you know that that you know I went to, and
it was her encouraging me to do it because this
was one of the things that my cardiologist was telling
me was low testosterone could be just as bad for
your heart as as you know, having too high a testosterone,
So you know, trying to figure this thing out was
(03:27):
a big deal. So long story, sure, where this hurts
my marriage is yeah, it has made me horny and
all I want to do is bake cookies and literally
I and we talk about this, Chelsea and I talk
about this on the podcast, And if you want to
call Chelsea, by the way, Lydia, you can give her
a call, because I'm sure that she'll she'll talk about this.
(03:48):
But it's gotten to a point where if you are
a spouse that is taking testosterone, your guy that's doing
it because you're trying to make your health better, but
the libido of your spouse is not keeping up with
your libido. It causes for it honestly causes for issues
where it becomes a situation where you're mismatched. You are
(04:09):
mismatched and Chelsea and also Chelsea feels like and we
talk about this too, And I don't know if there's
any other couples that want to talk about this, because
this is a huge deal amongst people that are trying
to lose weight too. Like others that are trying to
do weight loss things, I think that what ends up
happening is you start losing weight, you start feeling better,
and then your spouse either one of two things feels
(04:32):
like they're not and then they feel like, uh oh,
they're worried that you're cheating, or they worried that you're
out doing it for somebody else, not realizing that you're
you know, you're doing it for yourself and you're kind
of mismatched in that way, or you're again you're not
every woman wants to have sex, according to Chelsea, and
(04:52):
I don't understand that, Chelsea. Are you there, Chelse? My wife,
Chelsea is on the phone, good morning. I think you
lie to me when you say that not every woman
wants to have sex?
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Is he talking about it all the time tells?
Speaker 6 (05:04):
Or is he asking you all the time?
Speaker 2 (05:06):
For both?
Speaker 5 (05:09):
Both?
Speaker 2 (05:11):
So you think so? But I always talked about.
Speaker 7 (05:13):
It though true, that's true.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
But but you liked me with low testosterone. You wanted
me not to have testos.
Speaker 7 (05:21):
I like you with zero testosterone.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Zero zero point zero.
Speaker 7 (05:28):
Yeah, zero point zero?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Were you into it initially? Like when you started to
see this change you were you wanted me to you
wanted me to get healthier.
Speaker 7 (05:38):
I want you, yes, I want you to be healthy.
Speaker 8 (05:41):
I want you to.
Speaker 7 (05:43):
Yeah. I want for your health, absolutely, but it Yeah,
it's turned you into a twenty year old hey issue,
that's part of health. Yeah, well yeah it's not. It's
not fun for the other person.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
It just isn't.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
It's not fun when I wake up pitching a tent.
Speaker 7 (06:06):
Well, it's that fun because it changes the whole your
attitude about everything too, because I hate talking about this
on the radio. But if I don't want to, then
you get upset and you take it personal. It turns
into it It's like a huge thing because then.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
You don't want to hurt his feelings.
Speaker 7 (06:27):
Yeah, I don't want to hurt his feelings. But guess glad,
I'm going to hurt your feelings.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
So you ain't never balls.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Yeah, if Chelsea experienced that painful experience, you never experienced
blue balls before. No, it's worse than childbirth. I'm telling you.
Speaker 5 (06:52):
I'm sorry all the women listening right now, I'm just
I'm really sorry.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Mika. Are you there, Mika? I am what's going on?
Speaker 8 (07:02):
So I'm with you. I'm having trouble in my marriage
as well. I've lost one hundred and three pounds and thank.
Speaker 7 (07:10):
You, and.
Speaker 8 (07:13):
I sleep on the couch for the last year.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Why because he.
Speaker 8 (07:18):
Was making comments about my skin. One time after we had,
you know, some baking cookie time and he was like,
you know, I love you and I support you, and
I told you I would support you through this. He goes,
but if I'm being honest, I prefer you bigger.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 8 (07:38):
And so after that he would make like little comments
like look at your skin. Feel your skin, it's so different,
and I started feeling very uncomfortable as a heavy girl.
I've always been heavy. You have you have self of
steam issues and they don't go away even when you
get skinny.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Wown't. So he didn't look at this is wow, look
at you. You know you're you're you're losing weight. Do
you think that is he? Is he a guy that uh?
Is he a bigger guy?
Speaker 8 (08:08):
No? No, he's always been thin.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Huh. Yep, that's that's wilder.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
Why do you with a guy who doesn't build you
up and is making me feel that about?
Speaker 8 (08:19):
You know, just to let you know, my doctor warned
me when I started losing weight that eighty percent of
people who have weight loss surgery end up getting a divorce.
Speaker 4 (08:31):
Wow, oh my god, that is a crazy statistic. Yeah,
there's a.
Speaker 5 (08:36):
Lot of divorce statistics that are very interesting when it
comes to women in their house.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Did your did your husband encourage the weight loss surgery?
And then earlier in the process.
Speaker 8 (08:44):
And totally was there by my side at the hospital
and everything totally? And then about I want to say,
once I got into Wonderland under two hundred pounds, everything changed.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
That's amazing.
Speaker 5 (08:58):
Everything Well, It's one of my biggest fears when it
comes to dating.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Is because I hear stories like this all the time.
Speaker 5 (09:04):
I talked about it late last year actually on the show,
and it's horrifying the things that people will say.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Have you thought about it?
Speaker 8 (09:12):
Going people, I've noticed that. I'm sorry, go ahead, No.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I was going to ask you. I say what you noticed,
and I'll ask you the question.
Speaker 8 (09:20):
I was just saying, I noticed that people who were
nicer to you when you are heavy are kind of
meaner to you when you lose weight, And people who
were meaner to you when you were heavy are nicer
to you when you lose weight. Interesting you are with
real and who is faith?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Yep, very quickly. You should look for that podcast too.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
When Megan talked about that about people changing and talking
to you differently, But can I ask you this? Have
you thought about going and seeing it if a doctor
can help you with the excess scan and stuff.
Speaker 8 (09:46):
So I have. Unfortunately, with my situation, I have to
lose seven more pounds and then keep them off for
a whole year, getting before my insurance, before my insurance
will cover.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
It, and it's still extensive.
Speaker 8 (10:03):
So I lost one hundred and three pounds actually three
years ago, and I peter back and forth between ninety
seven and one hundred and three.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Wow, do you feel beautiful?
Speaker 8 (10:13):
Really struggling? I'm sorry?
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Do you feel beautiful?
Speaker 7 (10:20):
Sometimes?
Speaker 8 (10:21):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (10:22):
Same same.
Speaker 5 (10:23):
There are times where you're so proud of yourself and
other times you're like, I look worse now.
Speaker 8 (10:27):
Yeah, septem issues just don't go away. They're always there.
Speaker 9 (10:31):
But then you have you have the feeling of accomplishment
of hitting this goal and then looking at yourself in
the mirror and being like, but I don't look the
way that I thought I would look, and it's so disappointing.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Well, that's why a lot of times they'll help tell
you when you do lose weight that you should go still,
go talk to a therapist, talk to me, and then
not having the support of your partner too.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
But then it's also expensive.
Speaker 5 (10:52):
Therapy is expensive, Getting plastic surgery to fix it is expensive.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
It's insane.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Uh, Stacy has oh, oh, guy.
Speaker 10 (11:02):
He's angry. I'm working on.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Stacy says that Chelsea that and my wife, Chelsea is
still on the phone here that uh uh. The testosterone
thing was an issue? Is that right in your relationship
with your husband?
Speaker 8 (11:16):
Yeah, it was on.
Speaker 10 (11:18):
His potosterone was in the one hundred. So when he
first got tested, and you know, he started with the
cream and it literally did nothing for him except for
all the emotional rollercoaster that this man rode. It was
so hard, like just to be there and understand and
(11:38):
sympathize with him sitting at the kitchen table and he
would just start crying and I'm like, bag, what what
is going on? And he's like I don't know, and
I'm like, okay, what can I do? And then it
was later on he's completely slipped to one to eighty
and he's raring and ready to go, and I'm like,
you were just crying your eyesouse ten and he says, oh,
(11:59):
and now you want to just grow upstairs and handle
our business. It's like I didn't know where I was
supposed to be. It took a lot of faith, a
lot of praise, and just a lot of patience.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
Interesting, do you like it that way? Do you get
really emotional?
Speaker 2 (12:14):
No, I mean I get it's just Chelsea.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Do I get more emotional too?
Speaker 7 (12:20):
You don't get like upad like cry emotional, but you
get mad?
Speaker 6 (12:26):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Well, Chelsea's also, But Chelsea's also lost a lot of
weight too, and she looks amazing. And honestly, by the way,
I'm sorry, I'm gonna hang up on you because your
kid is is a little crazy. It's actually making me
have grow gaps right now. My my, my breasts are
lactating when I hear that child crying. But Chelsea's Chelsea's
(12:50):
lost weight, and Chelsea looks amazing, and honestly, if she's
not having sex with me, I'm thinking she wants to
have sex with somebody else. And I look at her
like this way, and I'm like, going, man, I feel
like I'm I feel like I'm trying to look better too,
and I'm thinking that it's going to make us want to,
you know, enjoy each other more, and and it hasn't.
(13:13):
And so part of me then becomes then I then
I start having lack of confidence by myself.
Speaker 6 (13:18):
I mean as a wife, I can understand that. It's
like it's like this circle of craziness because it probably
feels good for you, Chelse to be so desired, but
then at the same time, you don't want to be
having sex all day, every day, so then you say no,
you know, every now and again, and then it pushes
him away and he's like, well, wait a second, why
do And then it just keeps going around and around
and around.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Do you feel good to be desired or do you
or does it not matter to you?
Speaker 4 (13:44):
To me?
Speaker 7 (13:44):
Yeah, I mean I know I'm fine, So because that
does bother me sometimes, like I I and I think
I tell you.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
I think I tell her too much that I love her,
and I think sometimes it just it becomes falling on deaf.
Speaker 4 (14:02):
Yours, oh needy.
Speaker 7 (14:06):
Yeah, I just there's so much more than this whole
break can ever cover. But yes, I think that because
it's making me sound like a horrible wife. But I
want you to be healthy. I want you to lose
the weight, and I want you to be again healthy
for your heart and all of that stuff. But then
it comes. You know, there's also two people in this relationship,
(14:29):
so it just can't be about what you want constantly
all the time. But that's the way it feels, because
if I don't do that, then you're upset and then
it just ruins the night or the day or whatever.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
I get it, and we get more into this discussion
on the podcast later today, and it gets to a
point where it's like we're both She basically is telling
me like, I can't keep up with this, and it's
not about just the sacks. It's just the emotions that
go on with things. I tell you it was more
fun being fat, and you know, I actually do think
this though. I think our relationship sometimes is better when
(15:02):
there's a traumatic situation that happens. So I want to
have another heart issue. I think that she likes me
or loves me more when there's like something going on.
Speaker 7 (15:16):
Let's not do that, please so.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
But otherwise it's it's kind of like I don't know.
It's it's kind of like you have to like as
a kid, you know, you're a kid, and you weren't
getting noticed at all when you're like a sibling, So
would you do you threw something down on the ground
just to piss off your parents.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Sometimes you have to get noticed. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (15:36):
I don't like that being noticed. Making not the heart thing.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
No, no, I'll be fine.
Speaker 5 (15:41):
Couldn't it be like I wish like a finger and
like she has to make soup for me.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
I don't like.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
All right, Well, listen to the podcast day. You can
check it out on the iHeartRadio app. Chelsea, I cannot
believe this should be a topic too, that we should
get some of these people to come on with us.
All these listeners are calling up saying weight loss caused
issues in their relationship. I cannot belie leave how many
of our listeners said that they got they ran into
marital issues after losing weight.
Speaker 7 (16:09):
Well, yeah, I'm sure, I'm sure that does happen.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
For sure, did.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Any time in my eight thousand other weight loss journeys,
did that cause any issues in our relationship?
Speaker 8 (16:20):
No?
Speaker 2 (16:20):
Just the testosterone, just the test asterone. All right, all right,
it's never been about what you look like.
Speaker 7 (16:26):
So that's and I've never got very clear with that
listener that called in. I don't make comments. I don't
you know. I praise you, like, but I don't want
to make it about your looks.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Because that's just not well.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
You also met me and I was fat, and the
only time that it's ever been bad was when you
just worried about me dying.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
You know what I mean? My health?
Speaker 7 (16:45):
Yeah, I don't. I don't place everything on your looks.
I think you're an amazing person with who you are,
so I don't want anyone to think that I'm saying
anything bad about your looks. It's just strictly the testosterone issue.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
Right now, let's end on a positive mark. What did
you want to say?
Speaker 11 (17:01):
I'm always show what's up?
Speaker 8 (17:02):
Brother?
Speaker 11 (17:02):
I'm glad you guys are back. What's up with them lions?
But hey, I was four hundred pounds and right now
I'm like three oh seven. I've just been changing stuff up.
And my my sex life is great. The girl loves it.
We have sex all the time.
Speaker 8 (17:20):
She says.
Speaker 11 (17:21):
It feels so good.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
So girl, and what is what is the what is
the reasoning why the girl thinks it's better?
Speaker 11 (17:33):
She says, it's just because I've always been told that
I have a nice unit. But with losing weight, I
think that my stomach is more out of the way
and my my unit might be maybe an inch or
a little bit longer, a little bit. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Mark. Here's the deal. Mark had a dickey do and
hell yeah. For those that don't know what a dicky
do is. When you're a fat guy, you have your
stick exactly. No more dicky do for you, Mark. All right, buddy,
(18:16):
appreciate it. Take care of yourself.
Speaker 11 (18:18):
I love you, guys, love you.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
And Chelsea. I love you. I will talk to you later.
Speaker 7 (18:26):
I love you. Bye.
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