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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. I feel
horrible because I'm bad with names, but I always have been,
so it's nothing to take personal. But who is this
nice girl that is filling in for Bianca? Her name Maddie.
Is that Maddie, So Maddie's her Maddie has been filling
in so Bianca is our social show director. She is
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taking some time off. She had time off planned, like
this trip plan before this job became available, so she
took the time off, which is interesting because she was
so nervous to tell us that she had this time
off that she was like, first, let me accept the
job and make sure that I get it right, and
then let me see if I got the insurance on
my travel. And we're like, no, no, no, take your
(00:47):
job you got or take your your trip. But then
we also realize we need to have a backup when
any of us are gone. We need to have backups.
And so Maddie, Hi, Maddie, I met you before. Maddie, Maddie,
I get you confused because there's another person that looks
almost like you. Guys could be sisters.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
What's her name, Maggie, Maggie, Maggie.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
Lin hearing classes on the promo team.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
That look a lot of like you guys.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Seriously, that everybody looks like I feel like I'm watching
that Mormon Wives show or something like that where all
the wives look the same or something twins.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
It's wild. So thank you for doing this. What's your background?
What do you do?
Speaker 3 (01:29):
I work a lot in video, a lot in photo.
I've been a video editor for a few years. Yeah,
it's just fun things like that.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
Do you go to school for this or we're school.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
Craft Community College? I love that, graduated with my associates
and three D and videographics.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
Okay, editing. It's funny.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
I actually they got a great program over there. They
also have one of the best chef programs and all.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Shouldn't ambassadors, so I had to talk about it all
the time.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
All right, Well, Maddie, is funny because I'm not going
to know you as that. Because Cavrain in the studio
during one of the commercial breaks, he goes into Lydia's
producer's room, which is where you've been hanging out, which
is for those who don't understand, it's not connected to
our studio here. It's literally like five doors away, like
(02:13):
it's that far away and he comes running in here
with his big old freaking hoofs on and he runs
in here and he goes, you're not gonna believe this.
We got a topic that we got to talk about today.
And I go, well, what's that topic? And he goes,
have you ever heard of asexuals? And I'm like, what's
this all about? First off? Are you okay with talking
(02:34):
about this?
Speaker 4 (02:35):
All right?
Speaker 1 (02:36):
So I want to be so keV came in here
because and Shannon will attest to this because she was
in here too. I never heard him an a sexual
before Kevin Nelson. You never heard of any person that's
a sexual.
Speaker 5 (02:51):
And that's all Maddie is to the first time that
I heard the term asexual was somebody referenced that's what
Michael Jackson was.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Is that true?
Speaker 4 (02:58):
That's that's what I heard.
Speaker 5 (02:59):
I heard Michael Jackson was asexual. He didn't like either.
Can you, first of all, can you give a proper
definition of what a sexually is.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
It's a spectrum of not feeling like sexual attraction. It's
different from romantic attraction, which would be like arrow romantic,
which is where you don't feel like romantic attraction, but
sexual attraction is like separate. Okay, So it's just like
the lack of feeling so like you have and.
Speaker 6 (03:21):
You you identify as asexual and which is why you're
in here obviously if people have not connected to No,
that's not.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
Why you're here. You're in here because you did a
great video work, mere amazing.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I don't so you you just don't feel any need
to have sex with a guy or a girl ever?
Speaker 6 (03:41):
Can I ask like a personal question, go ahead, do
you do you ever feel any need to like pleasure yourself?
Speaker 7 (03:47):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
No, nothing, So there's nothing.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
There's just nothing.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
Different people on the spectrum like feel differently, so some
still participate in some don't. But it's I personally don't
feel anything.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
Wah you say on the spectrum.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
I'm thinking of the show Love on the Spectrum, which
has now become my new favorite show.
Speaker 4 (04:03):
Not that spectrum. It's a different spectrum.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
It's different spectrum. So the spectrum of asexuality. So it's
like basically like one hundred percent is where like you
feel like sexual attraction. There's like zero percent where you
feel Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
By the way, all of this uh considered here, like
in all this, I can't how did it get to
that conversation with kat Cat?
Speaker 5 (04:22):
Is it always leads some way, but in my mind,
like my mind is blown and I'm more inquisitive and
curious because I've never had the opportunity to have a
conversation about this. And if you, if you a sexual,
please a for four Joe Live. If you got it,
let's talk about it.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
So like, are you thinking that if we get a
bunch of a sexuals together we will actually make them
some kind of a sexual?
Speaker 4 (04:43):
I don't know. I ain't think that deep. Do they
have like a group? By the way, are you in
any Facebook groups or anything else?
Speaker 8 (04:48):
I am not.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
I think that would be an interesting group. I don't
know if necessarily I'd be entertained by it. Everybody's just
talking about No, nothing sexual.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
But definitely feel great to like not be alone.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
But so do you date?
Speaker 3 (05:01):
I do?
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Yes?
Speaker 6 (05:02):
So you you make like you want companionship, you want
a connection with somebody, and do you make it very
clear right off the bat that that's just not part
of what you're interested in.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
I usually do, just to be upfront about it, because
a lot of people like that's what they're looking for obviously,
and then that's just not me.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
Is it your profile?
Speaker 7 (05:17):
It is?
Speaker 8 (05:18):
Yes? What is it?
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Like?
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Where does that fall in the profile?
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Like under Usually it's like part of the sexualities, So okay,
you can like click it. You can also like add
it obviously like under like your bio or whatever.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Rights getting too Who are you dating? Are you dating
men or women?
Speaker 8 (05:31):
Men?
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Okay? You kiss people?
Speaker 5 (05:34):
I do, y'all touch and stuff, I suppose, but when
you touch, there's no arousal that takes weight.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
No, it's like I am just there. That's how I
always describe it, Like it's like not a negative thing,
but it's not a positive thing either, Like I'm literally
just there.
Speaker 5 (05:49):
So your partner can get all the things you good
with that, but for you, it's just not you just
doing it for your partner.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (05:56):
Oh see, that's where that's where I misunderstood. I thought
it was like nothing like there, you didn't partake in
any of that because it's.
Speaker 3 (06:02):
Just not interesting, not sex, but you know, any other
things other things.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Yeah, okay, that's really interesting.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
I would think as a partner of yours, as a
guy that's there, I'd be like, this is not fun.
She's not interested at all, She's just doing it. Yeah,
just uh yeah, you know, as as being nice to
me happy.
Speaker 5 (06:19):
Yeah, yeah, have relationships not gone the way that maybe
you would hope for them too, because you're asexual, they.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Usually have like a rough patch because that's obviously always
like a conversation unless it's someone else who's also feels
like like they have a lower libido or they have
like a lack of attraction. But you know, it's been
overall fine. But you know you obviously that I talk
about it at the beginning, so that's something that people
realize upfront and that it's not changing.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
So when did you realize this about yourself?
Speaker 3 (06:48):
About a year ago? Actually I was. I never really
like thought too hard about it. I never thought that
it wasn't like normal that I wasn't feeling this. I
thought it was just like my lack of socialization growing
up because I was homeschooled. Okay, So I was talking
to a friend and we were like relating on something
and I said something and she was like, oh, are
you asexual? And I it just kind of clicked right
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then and there that I was like, oh maybe I am.
Maybe this like fits me.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah, what's up, Shay, It's Mojoe in the morning. We
have Maddie the Battie here in the studio right now.
Speaker 9 (07:23):
Good morning, Maddy the Baddy, Good morning.
Speaker 4 (07:25):
What's going on?
Speaker 9 (07:27):
Well, I have kind of a question and statement type thing,
so let me ask you, and please don't take offense anyway,
But they've come up with all these all these labels, okay,
in the last few years that didn't exist, like fifty seven,
So these things didn't exist when I was younger, and
I can say, like, as a woman, I've gone through
hormonal phases where I don't want to absolutely it's insane.
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And so I'm wondering if this have you had your
homeone check to make sure that there's not I mean,
maybe maybe your homemones are just out of whack.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
That is a possibility. That is something that I've considered.
But it's also it's just never something that I've really
like wanted to partake in. It's never something that I've
been interested in or even like wanted to want to enjoy.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
I guess do you talk to your parents about that?
Speaker 8 (08:10):
Or I do not know.
Speaker 4 (08:12):
Do they know you're a sexual?
Speaker 7 (08:13):
They do not?
Speaker 4 (08:14):
Until now what we should have told them before you
went on the radio with us.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Well, maybe they're not listening.
Speaker 4 (08:19):
Okay, let's hold not.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
It's interesting the last caller's comment, Shay's comment, I think
is something that there was a generation where nobody ever
talked about stuff like this, so it didn't happen. But
also I wonder if doctors if they have a reasoning
for this, like of why you have never felt the
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pleasure of this, or you've even you've never you've never
felt like there's been any pleasure at all.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
No, I usually tend to describe it. So if you're straight,
you obviously like don't feel sexual attraction towards a man,
or if you're straight, you don't feel sexual attraction towards
a woman. That's just kind of how I feel towards
people and arts people.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah, yeah, because it's because we know. And Shannon actually
was open with us when she first started the show.
She was like, I never really had an orgasm, Like
that was one of the things.
Speaker 6 (09:09):
So it's not like there are a lot of you say, damn,
that is that is not uncommon whatsoever with women. There
are so many women that they probably don't want to
admit it, but they cannot orgasm just by having sex,
like something else needs to be happening.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
Well, what's up? It's Mojo on the morning. Hey modre
to go on, good buddy, what's going on?
Speaker 7 (09:29):
Uh?
Speaker 8 (09:29):
So I I would assume that I am also a sexual.
Speaker 9 (09:33):
Uh.
Speaker 8 (09:34):
I just I'm at the point in life where I
don't feel the need to bake cookies, even even bake alone.
Speaker 7 (09:44):
Uh.
Speaker 8 (09:46):
And I don't know, it's it's kind.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
Of uh have you always learned that? Wah?
Speaker 8 (09:51):
No, I actually have five kids under the age of ten.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
WHOA Okay, So are you currently in a relationship.
Speaker 8 (09:58):
And with baby Mama, we are engaged, and I think
it's at a point where it's actually dampering our relationship.
I don't know if it's like low testosterone or what.
But I just I don't, you know, I don't I
don't feel the need for me to have.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
To do anything.
Speaker 8 (10:18):
But then it weighs on my mind that I feel
the need to help, you know her.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
It might be it might be like with that last
caller is saying, go get tested and see or tell
your doctor, your medical doctor and see what their recommendation is.
I mean, I don't, I don't know what. I'm not
a doctor. I just talk on the radio. But I
think that it might be there. You go, I'll take
a doctorate from anybody that wants to give it to me,
but I.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
Will Mojo's gone, Mojo, Well, can I be honest with you?
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Though it could be a testosterone thing like you said,
could also be you got five kids under ten.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
I mean, you don't have a much time for anything
at that time, you know what I mean.
Speaker 8 (10:58):
And that's the only thing is I think that by
the end of the day, I'm so worn out.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
Yeah and yeah, just just that I get it.
Speaker 8 (11:06):
But can I also say one more thing?
Speaker 4 (11:08):
First time, long time? No, no, no, okay, go ahead, Mojo.
Speaker 8 (11:13):
Yes, I want to congratulate you for being nominated.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
Oh, that's very much.
Speaker 9 (11:19):
Right.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
I'm I'm a two time sorry. Let's hope this is
the exact arm. Thank you and the best astrone I've
had in years.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Hence, well, I'm telling I take testosterone. I'm going to
tell you something. I had no drive at all. Now
I'm chasing my wife around like crazy. She actually wishes
you as a sexual.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
I don't need any more kids.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
But I will say that I'll say this, go talk
to your doctor about it seriously. And and Maddie for Maddie,
I'm not going to tell you what you should do too,
but I would actually have this conversation also if you
feel comfortable with your your closest you know people to
you like I actually, you know, like my kids don't
talk to us about their sex lives very much. But
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when my son did tell us that he was gay.
And this is nothing I'm not going to try to
compare or anything like that, but I'm saying when he
did tell us, it made our conversation so much easier
where he didn't have to hide how he felt, Like
I want. I want my kids to be open and
honest with me, like when we're having conversations of things
not to ask and things to ask, right, you know.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
Do you feel like you're hiding that from your parents?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
I wouldn't say hiding it, but it's not something that
I would go and tell them.
Speaker 6 (12:41):
Yeah, a lot of people have different relationships with their
parents too, But that's just not a comfortable thing to
talk to, you know, mom or dad.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
I talk about it with my close friends or they
all hear all of my voice, knows ye.
Speaker 4 (12:52):
Do they find it to be odd or they are
are understanding?
Speaker 3 (12:56):
They all tend to be very understanding. They all at
least like have empathy and understand like where I'm coming from,
even if they don't relate.
Speaker 5 (13:04):
A lot of people, like myself, are ignorant to asexuality.
I'm saying that, right, Yeah, what's like one of the
biggest misconceptions about it.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
That's a great question. I I'm not sure. Actually, I
feel like a lot of people just assume so much
like the moment you say it, and then I'm like
not big on assumption. So people always assume things like
no matter what I say, so then like you know,
it's always inaccurate, like me to a different person, Like
they're gonna wear different people, so it's gonna be different things,
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you know. So I feel like that's like the biggest
things people just assume.
Speaker 6 (13:37):
Yeah, yeah, and I sup today I assumed that there
was nothing happening whatsoever.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
And you're saying that you able to do certain things.
Speaker 7 (13:44):
You know.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Kimberly says that she's asexual and she loves it. Is
that right, Kimberly, I do.
Speaker 9 (13:51):
I don't even talk to guys, no women either.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
That's just gross.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
But well, I don't know if it's gross, but like,
but but well, you're a man. But I but Kimberly,
so you love what do you love about it?
Speaker 7 (14:07):
Oh?
Speaker 9 (14:07):
I don't have to worry about like seizing anybody, and
it's not worth it to me. A man has never
got me off anyway, So what's the point.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
How long when did you realize you were a sexual?
Speaker 9 (14:18):
Probably about two years ago?
Speaker 1 (14:20):
And it? What was it that made you realize that?
Was it another bad experience?
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Well? Yeah, I mean you can only have sex so
many times before you realize.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
That you can do it better yourself.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Okay, well, so you're at least doing it, you're better yourself,
because Mattie's not even doing that.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
Well, I mean, sorry, Maddie, you're good. Hey, can I
you need?
Speaker 9 (14:44):
You need a naughty nubby.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
That's what you need?
Speaker 4 (14:48):
Open his laptop so fast, na naughty nubby they sell him. Yeah?
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Can I say something real quick to you, Kimberly. Yeah,
Carrying all the bad dating stories that the others bring
around here to this show honestly would make me a sexual,
like to hear how bad these guys are out there
right now these days and on dating apps, and how
un I guess romantic it is nowadays to date.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
It's awful.
Speaker 4 (15:19):
I that would make me a sexual.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
I feel like a lot of people are going to
call themselves a sexuals because they've had such bad dates.
Speaker 4 (15:26):
You know.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
I will say I was feeling that way before I
did even start dating. It was just something that like,
it was always like just this lack of feeling, and
I never related to people talking about it. So it's
like something that's kind of always.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Been there, and now you put a name to it.
Now it makes sense to it.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
Yes, and now clicked.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
You never had one of those moments like in school
where you saw somebody.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
I was homeschooled.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
Oh that's right, Yeah, I never saw a neighbor.
Speaker 7 (15:49):
You know.
Speaker 3 (15:49):
I wasn't allowed to talk to my neighbors much.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
Are you part of a cult or are you locked
in your room or something?
Speaker 3 (15:57):
No, I didn't live in a great neighborhood, so I
got the neighbors that were crazy, you know, selling stuff and.
Speaker 4 (16:04):
Oh gosh, live near me.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Quick question, quick question for you. Out of all the
people in this room, asexual Maddie, who are you most
attracted to? Shannon Kevin or myself?
Speaker 7 (16:18):
Obviously she's number one with with everybody, the men and
the women and the asexual Oh wait, a second.
Speaker 4 (16:29):
Maybe you're not a sexual. Look at her.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
A difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attractions. Okay, now
what about the producer studio. I think it's a tie
between Lydia and Channel.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
I just want you to know that if I was
a girl, i'd be a lesbian too. There's there's nothing
nice about Harry Asses.
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. I feel
horrible because I'm bad with names, but I always have been,
so it's nothing to take personal. But who is this
nice girl that is filling in for Bianca? Her name Maddie.
Is that Maddie, So Maddie's her Maddie has been filling
in so Bianca is our social show director. She is
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taking some time off. She had time off planned, like
this trip plan before this job became available, so she
took the time off, which is interesting because she was
so nervous to tell us that she had this time
off that she was like, first, let me accept the
job and make sure that I get it right, and
then let me see if I got the insurance on
my travel. And we're like, no, no, no, take your
(00:47):
job you got or take your your trip. But then
we also realize we need to have a backup when
any of us are gone. We need to have backups.
And so Maddie, Hi, Maddie, I met you before. Maddie, Maddie,
I get you confused because there's another person that looks
almost like you. Guys could be sisters.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
What's her name, Maggie, Maggie, Maggie.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
Lin hearing classes on the promo team.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
That look a lot of like you guys.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Seriously, that everybody looks like I feel like I'm watching
that Mormon Wives show or something like that where all
the wives look the same or something twins.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
It's wild. So thank you for doing this. What's your background?
What do you do?
Speaker 3 (01:29):
I work a lot in video, a lot in photo.
I've been a video editor for a few years. Yeah,
it's just fun things like that.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
Do you go to school for this or we're school.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
Craft Community College? I love that, graduated with my associates
and three D and videographics.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
Okay, editing. It's funny.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
I actually they got a great program over there. They
also have one of the best chef programs and all.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Shouldn't ambassadors, so I had to talk about it all
the time.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
All right, Well, Maddie, is funny because I'm not going
to know you as that. Because Cavrain in the studio
during one of the commercial breaks, he goes into Lydia's
producer's room, which is where you've been hanging out, which
is for those who don't understand, it's not connected to
our studio here. It's literally like five doors away, like
(02:13):
it's that far away and he comes running in here
with his big old freaking hoofs on and he runs
in here and he goes, you're not gonna believe this.
We got a topic that we got to talk about today.
And I go, well, what's that topic? And he goes,
have you ever heard of asexuals? And I'm like, what's
this all about? First off? Are you okay with talking
(02:34):
about this?
Speaker 4 (02:35):
All right?
Speaker 1 (02:36):
So I want to be so keV came in here
because and Shannon will attest to this because she was
in here too. I never heard him an a sexual
before Kevin Nelson. You never heard of any person that's
a sexual.
Speaker 5 (02:51):
And that's all Maddie is to the first time that
I heard the term asexual was somebody referenced that's what
Michael Jackson was.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Is that true?
Speaker 4 (02:58):
That's that's what I heard.
Speaker 5 (02:59):
I heard Michael Jackson was asexual. He didn't like either.
Can you, first of all, can you give a proper
definition of what a sexually is.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
It's a spectrum of not feeling like sexual attraction. It's
different from romantic attraction, which would be like arrow romantic,
which is where you don't feel like romantic attraction, but
sexual attraction is like separate. Okay, So it's just like
the lack of feeling so like you have and.
Speaker 6 (03:21):
You you identify as asexual and which is why you're
in here obviously if people have not connected to No,
that's not.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
Why you're here. You're in here because you did a
great video work, mere amazing.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I don't so you you just don't feel any need
to have sex with a guy or a girl ever?
Speaker 6 (03:41):
Can I ask like a personal question, go ahead, do
you do you ever feel any need to like pleasure yourself?
Speaker 7 (03:47):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
No, nothing, So there's nothing.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
There's just nothing.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
Different people on the spectrum like feel differently, so some
still participate in some don't. But it's I personally don't
feel anything.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
Wah you say on the spectrum.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
I'm thinking of the show Love on the Spectrum, which
has now become my new favorite show.
Speaker 4 (04:03):
Not that spectrum. It's a different spectrum.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
It's different spectrum. So the spectrum of asexuality. So it's
like basically like one hundred percent is where like you
feel like sexual attraction. There's like zero percent where you
feel Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
By the way, all of this uh considered here, like
in all this, I can't how did it get to
that conversation with kat Cat?
Speaker 5 (04:22):
Is it always leads some way, but in my mind,
like my mind is blown and I'm more inquisitive and
curious because I've never had the opportunity to have a
conversation about this. And if you, if you a sexual,
please a for four Joe Live. If you got it,
let's talk about it.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
So like, are you thinking that if we get a
bunch of a sexuals together we will actually make them
some kind of a sexual?
Speaker 4 (04:43):
I don't know. I ain't think that deep. Do they
have like a group? By the way, are you in
any Facebook groups or anything else?
Speaker 8 (04:48):
I am not.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
I think that would be an interesting group. I don't
know if necessarily I'd be entertained by it. Everybody's just
talking about No, nothing sexual.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
But definitely feel great to like not be alone.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
But so do you date?
Speaker 3 (05:01):
I do?
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Yes?
Speaker 6 (05:02):
So you you make like you want companionship, you want
a connection with somebody, and do you make it very
clear right off the bat that that's just not part
of what you're interested in.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
I usually do, just to be upfront about it, because
a lot of people like that's what they're looking for obviously,
and then that's just not me.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
Is it your profile?
Speaker 7 (05:17):
It is?
Speaker 8 (05:18):
Yes? What is it?
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Like?
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Where does that fall in the profile?
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Like under Usually it's like part of the sexualities, So okay,
you can like click it. You can also like add
it obviously like under like your bio or whatever.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Rights getting too Who are you dating? Are you dating
men or women?
Speaker 8 (05:31):
Men?
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Okay? You kiss people?
Speaker 5 (05:34):
I do, y'all touch and stuff, I suppose, but when
you touch, there's no arousal that takes weight.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
No, it's like I am just there. That's how I
always describe it, Like it's like not a negative thing,
but it's not a positive thing either, Like I'm literally
just there.
Speaker 5 (05:49):
So your partner can get all the things you good
with that, but for you, it's just not you just
doing it for your partner.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (05:56):
Oh see, that's where that's where I misunderstood. I thought
it was like nothing like there, you didn't partake in
any of that because it's.
Speaker 3 (06:02):
Just not interesting, not sex, but you know, any other
things other things.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Yeah, okay, that's really interesting.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
I would think as a partner of yours, as a
guy that's there, I'd be like, this is not fun.
She's not interested at all, She's just doing it. Yeah,
just uh yeah, you know, as as being nice to
me happy.
Speaker 5 (06:19):
Yeah, yeah, have relationships not gone the way that maybe
you would hope for them too, because you're asexual, they.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Usually have like a rough patch because that's obviously always
like a conversation unless it's someone else who's also feels
like like they have a lower libido or they have
like a lack of attraction. But you know, it's been
overall fine. But you know you obviously that I talk
about it at the beginning, so that's something that people
realize upfront and that it's not changing.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
So when did you realize this about yourself?
Speaker 3 (06:48):
About a year ago? Actually I was. I never really
like thought too hard about it. I never thought that
it wasn't like normal that I wasn't feeling this. I
thought it was just like my lack of socialization growing
up because I was homeschooled. Okay, So I was talking
to a friend and we were like relating on something
and I said something and she was like, oh, are
you asexual? And I it just kind of clicked right
(07:11):
then and there that I was like, oh maybe I am.
Maybe this like fits me.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah, what's up, Shay, It's Mojoe in the morning. We
have Maddie the Battie here in the studio right now.
Speaker 9 (07:23):
Good morning, Maddy the Baddy, Good morning.
Speaker 4 (07:25):
What's going on?
Speaker 9 (07:27):
Well, I have kind of a question and statement type thing,
so let me ask you, and please don't take offense anyway,
But they've come up with all these all these labels, okay,
in the last few years that didn't exist, like fifty seven,
So these things didn't exist when I was younger, and
I can say, like, as a woman, I've gone through
hormonal phases where I don't want to absolutely it's insane.
(07:48):
And so I'm wondering if this have you had your
homeone check to make sure that there's not I mean,
maybe maybe your homemones are just out of whack.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
That is a possibility. That is something that I've considered.
But it's also it's just never something that I've really
like wanted to partake in. It's never something that I've
been interested in or even like wanted to want to enjoy.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
I guess do you talk to your parents about that?
Speaker 8 (08:10):
Or I do not know.
Speaker 4 (08:12):
Do they know you're a sexual?
Speaker 7 (08:13):
They do not?
Speaker 4 (08:14):
Until now what we should have told them before you
went on the radio with us.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Well, maybe they're not listening.
Speaker 4 (08:19):
Okay, let's hold not.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
It's interesting the last caller's comment, Shay's comment, I think
is something that there was a generation where nobody ever
talked about stuff like this, so it didn't happen. But
also I wonder if doctors if they have a reasoning
for this, like of why you have never felt the
(08:42):
pleasure of this, or you've even you've never you've never
felt like there's been any pleasure at all.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
No, I usually tend to describe it. So if you're straight,
you obviously like don't feel sexual attraction towards a man,
or if you're straight, you don't feel sexual attraction towards
a woman. That's just kind of how I feel towards
people and arts people.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah, yeah, because it's because we know. And Shannon actually
was open with us when she first started the show.
She was like, I never really had an orgasm, Like
that was one of the things.
Speaker 6 (09:09):
So it's not like there are a lot of you say, damn,
that is that is not uncommon whatsoever with women. There
are so many women that they probably don't want to
admit it, but they cannot orgasm just by having sex,
like something else needs to be happening.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
Well, what's up? It's Mojo on the morning. Hey modre
to go on, good buddy, what's going on?
Speaker 7 (09:29):
Uh?
Speaker 8 (09:29):
So I I would assume that I am also a sexual.
Speaker 9 (09:33):
Uh.
Speaker 8 (09:34):
I just I'm at the point in life where I
don't feel the need to bake cookies, even even bake alone.
Speaker 7 (09:44):
Uh.
Speaker 8 (09:46):
And I don't know, it's it's kind.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
Of uh have you always learned that? Wah?
Speaker 8 (09:51):
No, I actually have five kids under the age of ten.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
WHOA Okay, So are you currently in a relationship.
Speaker 8 (09:58):
And with baby Mama, we are engaged, and I think
it's at a point where it's actually dampering our relationship.
I don't know if it's like low testosterone or what.
But I just I don't, you know, I don't I
don't feel the need for me to have.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
To do anything.
Speaker 8 (10:18):
But then it weighs on my mind that I feel
the need to help, you know her.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
It might be it might be like with that last
caller is saying, go get tested and see or tell
your doctor, your medical doctor and see what their recommendation is.
I mean, I don't, I don't know what. I'm not
a doctor. I just talk on the radio. But I
think that it might be there. You go, I'll take
a doctorate from anybody that wants to give it to me,
but I.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
Will Mojo's gone, Mojo, Well, can I be honest with you?
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Though it could be a testosterone thing like you said,
could also be you got five kids under ten.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
I mean, you don't have a much time for anything
at that time, you know what I mean.
Speaker 8 (10:58):
And that's the only thing is I think that by
the end of the day, I'm so worn out.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
Yeah and yeah, just just that I get it.
Speaker 8 (11:06):
But can I also say one more thing?
Speaker 4 (11:08):
First time, long time? No, no, no, okay, go ahead, Mojo.
Speaker 8 (11:13):
Yes, I want to congratulate you for being nominated.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
Oh, that's very much.
Speaker 9 (11:19):
Right.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
I'm I'm a two time sorry. Let's hope this is
the exact arm. Thank you and the best astrone I've
had in years.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Hence, well, I'm telling I take testosterone. I'm going to
tell you something. I had no drive at all. Now
I'm chasing my wife around like crazy. She actually wishes
you as a sexual.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
I don't need any more kids.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
But I will say that I'll say this, go talk
to your doctor about it seriously. And and Maddie for Maddie,
I'm not going to tell you what you should do too,
but I would actually have this conversation also if you
feel comfortable with your your closest you know people to
you like I actually, you know, like my kids don't
talk to us about their sex lives very much. But
(12:12):
when my son did tell us that he was gay.
And this is nothing I'm not going to try to
compare or anything like that, but I'm saying when he
did tell us, it made our conversation so much easier
where he didn't have to hide how he felt, Like
I want. I want my kids to be open and
honest with me, like when we're having conversations of things
not to ask and things to ask, right, you know.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
Do you feel like you're hiding that from your parents?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
I wouldn't say hiding it, but it's not something that
I would go and tell them.
Speaker 6 (12:41):
Yeah, a lot of people have different relationships with their
parents too, But that's just not a comfortable thing to
talk to, you know, mom or dad.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
I talk about it with my close friends or they
all hear all of my voice, knows ye.
Speaker 4 (12:52):
Do they find it to be odd or they are
are understanding?
Speaker 3 (12:56):
They all tend to be very understanding. They all at
least like have empathy and understand like where I'm coming from,
even if they don't relate.
Speaker 5 (13:04):
A lot of people, like myself, are ignorant to asexuality.
I'm saying that, right, Yeah, what's like one of the
biggest misconceptions about it.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
That's a great question. I I'm not sure. Actually, I
feel like a lot of people just assume so much
like the moment you say it, and then I'm like
not big on assumption. So people always assume things like
no matter what I say, so then like you know,
it's always inaccurate, like me to a different person, Like
they're gonna wear different people, so it's gonna be different things,
(13:33):
you know. So I feel like that's like the biggest
things people just assume.
Speaker 6 (13:37):
Yeah, yeah, and I sup today I assumed that there
was nothing happening whatsoever.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
And you're saying that you able to do certain things.
Speaker 7 (13:44):
You know.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Kimberly says that she's asexual and she loves it. Is
that right, Kimberly, I do.
Speaker 9 (13:51):
I don't even talk to guys, no women either.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
That's just gross.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
But well, I don't know if it's gross, but like,
but but well, you're a man. But I but Kimberly,
so you love what do you love about it?
Speaker 7 (14:07):
Oh?
Speaker 9 (14:07):
I don't have to worry about like seizing anybody, and
it's not worth it to me. A man has never
got me off anyway, So what's the point.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
How long when did you realize you were a sexual?
Speaker 9 (14:18):
Probably about two years ago?
Speaker 1 (14:20):
And it? What was it that made you realize that?
Was it another bad experience?
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Well? Yeah, I mean you can only have sex so
many times before you realize.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
That you can do it better yourself.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Okay, well, so you're at least doing it, you're better yourself,
because Mattie's not even doing that.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
Well, I mean, sorry, Maddie, you're good. Hey, can I
you need?
Speaker 9 (14:44):
You need a naughty nubby.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
That's what you need?
Speaker 4 (14:48):
Open his laptop so fast, na naughty nubby they sell him. Yeah?
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Can I say something real quick to you, Kimberly. Yeah,
Carrying all the bad dating stories that the others bring
around here to this show honestly would make me a sexual,
like to hear how bad these guys are out there
right now these days and on dating apps, and how
un I guess romantic it is nowadays to date.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
It's awful.
Speaker 4 (15:19):
I that would make me a sexual.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
I feel like a lot of people are going to
call themselves a sexuals because they've had such bad dates.
Speaker 4 (15:26):
You know.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
I will say I was feeling that way before I
did even start dating. It was just something that like,
it was always like just this lack of feeling, and
I never related to people talking about it. So it's
like something that's kind of always.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Been there, and now you put a name to it.
Now it makes sense to it.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
Yes, and now clicked.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
You never had one of those moments like in school
where you saw somebody.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
I was homeschooled.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
Oh that's right, Yeah, I never saw a neighbor.
Speaker 7 (15:49):
You know.
Speaker 3 (15:49):
I wasn't allowed to talk to my neighbors much.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
Are you part of a cult or are you locked
in your room or something?
Speaker 3 (15:57):
No, I didn't live in a great neighborhood, so I
got the neighbors that were crazy, you know, selling stuff and.
Speaker 4 (16:04):
Oh gosh, live near me.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Quick question, quick question for you. Out of all the
people in this room, asexual Maddie, who are you most
attracted to? Shannon Kevin or myself?
Speaker 7 (16:18):
Obviously she's number one with with everybody, the men and
the women and the asexual Oh wait, a second.
Speaker 4 (16:29):
Maybe you're not a sexual. Look at her.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
A difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attractions. Okay, now
what about the producer studio. I think it's a tie
between Lydia and Channel.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
I just want you to know that if I was
a girl, i'd be a lesbian too. There's there's nothing
nice about Harry Asses.
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