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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's Mojo in the Morning. So I saw something on Instagram.
I think it was last week. I sent it to
Lydia and I said, you know what, this is actually
a pretty good topic for the show. There's somebody I
follow on Instagram. She's very popular. Her name is Scarlet Longstreet,
and Scarlet will post kind of weird stuff sometimes. I mean,
sometimes she gets a little too touchy philly with her
(00:20):
man and I'm okay with it.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
I actually enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
But she posted something that I think for some of
our listeners that have kids and they're in a situation
where they have a family, where they've gotten divorced, they
don't come to their senses and think of their kids.
They think of just themselves. And I want to play
what Scarlet posted, and then I want to comment on it.
(00:44):
And also I want to get Scarlet on if she's
willing to join us.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I want to share a really disturbing story about divorce.
I spent the morning volunteering at my daughter's elementary school. Now,
the PTA runs something called the Penguin Holiday Gift Shop.
This is simply a makeshift gift shop that they put
together were all the students can come and shop for
their loved ones. They're sent with envelopes, and the envelopes
have their loved ones names on them and the amount
of money that they're allowed to spend on each family member.
(01:08):
It is truly a joy to see how thoughtful and
excited these kids are about picking things out for the
people that they love most. One child's envelope was sent
in and next to the spot that said mom, the
father had written out the words eye roll. The child
shared that their father hates their mother. The mother was
never going to see the hurtful thing that was written
about her, only the child, maybe the teacher and the
(01:30):
volunteers working. Instead of simply allowing his daughter to have
a fun and care free holiday moment shopping for her
loved ones, he had to take it and ruin it.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
He had to make it about the most painful.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
Thing that that child has likely ever experienced, all because
he couldn't put his cruelty and emotional immaturity aside. I
wish this wasn't the norm. I wish that I didn't
hear from adult children of divorce all the time that
decades later, their parents still can't even be in the
same room together that they were panicked when they got
engaged because they didn't know who to tell first, and
(02:01):
they couldn't put them in the same group chat together.
When you carry this kind of anger and resentment, not
only do you make your kid's childhood painful, you mess
up every significant event for them going forward, birthdays, dances,
sporting events, their wedding.
Speaker 5 (02:16):
You take the joy.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Out of what should be a special and exciting time
for them, and you make it about you and your
inability to grow up and do what's right.
Speaker 5 (02:25):
And you should be deeply ashamed of yourselves.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
That is That's an unreal and unbelievable thing that I
hear all too common, where there is a bitter parent
that has to bring their child into it. And Scarlett
is on with us this morning, Scarlett, that was a
great post.
Speaker 5 (02:43):
Hi, Scarlet, Hi, good morning.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Thanks for having me good morning.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
That is an incredible post, and that is something that
I think people need to see. The unfortunate thing is
the eye rolling dad will see that and just be
bitter at you for making that post.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
You know, I hope he sees it.
Speaker 5 (03:02):
Had I have known the family myself, I would have
reached out to them. So I do hope that he
gets it, and whoever else that needs to be a
gitta too.
Speaker 6 (03:13):
You know what makes me so sad about that is
you said that the little girl actually commented that, oh, yeah,
my dad doesn't like my mom, that she is so
very aware that that is the case. Because I'm sure
it's more than a written comment on an envelope. It's
probably comments that are vocalized at home.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:32):
If that is what somebody is doing publicly for public consumption,
you know that what is going on behind closed doors
is so much worse.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I can't imagine why somebody would want their child to
know that they hate their mother or vice versa mother,
you know, hating the father so much. Like, why would
you want your kid to get involved in in that,
And why would you not want your kid to just
know that you were made out of love and that
(04:04):
your parents have gone, you know, to live happy lives
separately and honestly hopefully together. I still don't get when
people get divorced why it is that you can't do
things together as a divorced couple so that your kids
don't have to choose between two different households.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
Totally, it's just a lack of skills and you know,
they don't know how to process adult adult emotions and
keep their kids out of it.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
It's really sad. I wish it wasn't common.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
I hear from people all the time where like one
of their parents refuse to even go to their own
wedding because the other parent.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
Was going to be there.
Speaker 5 (04:45):
Just really really insane, insane stuff.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
And I mean, I think that we forget that. I
read somewhere that like, when you criticize the.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
Other parent, it doesn't make your child hate the other parent.
It makes them hate themselves because that is part of
who they are. So our kids don't, like developmentally know.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
How to separate those things.
Speaker 5 (05:06):
So when you say, oh I hate mom or oh
I hate Dad, they think, oh, well that you hate
part of me then yeah.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
And also then it makes the child have to defend
the other parent, and they should not be in that
situation at all.
Speaker 5 (05:19):
Ever, Totally, a child should never have to carry or worry.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
About like, oh I can't say this in front of mom,
or oh Dad's gonna get jealous if I talk about
what I did at Mom's house. The kids just have
to cut off parts of themselves. And really, what it.
Speaker 5 (05:32):
Does is it impacts your own parent child relationship negatively
because later as they grow up, Right when they're little,
they miss stuff like.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
This, right, they don't really fully understand what's going on.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
But come the teen years, your kids know, they're able
to clock.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
It, and they all put up with it.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Yeah, you know what, I kind of feel. I don't
know how the school handled this, you know, with this child.
I feel like the school needs to address it, Like
I feel like the teacher, the principal, a counselor. I'm
sure that if they have a counselor in school need
to address it and they need to pull dad in
(06:10):
and they need to explain to dad, because I think
that the problem is if we ignore it because we
don't want to get involved, we only make it worse
for the child for the next comment that comes. And
I truly believe that in education we need to educate
and not just the children. We sometimes need to educate
the parent and you know, they're I never took a
(06:33):
class when I got married. You know, we took premarital
counseling from some couple that you know. You know, basically
we're talking to us about how many kids we wanted
to have, But we never took a class on how
to be a parent, and the problem is that that's
the problem that we have nowadays with a lot of
parents that choose their happiness over their children's happiness. So
(06:55):
I do think that that's one of those things. And
did the school even address at all, do you know?
Speaker 4 (07:02):
No? And you know, it is such a difficult thing
because it's like, I am a.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
Firm believer that our educators are truly so overwhelmed.
Speaker 4 (07:10):
They have such low budgets and they're trying to you know,
stretch thin.
Speaker 5 (07:14):
So yeah, it's like you never know what you want
to saddle them with in addition to like just the
like teaching our kids.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
How to add I understand and read.
Speaker 5 (07:24):
Yeah, but no, no, I agree with you, because right
these are the people who are in contact with our kids,
you know, more than most of us once their kids
are are school age. So it is just a really
important intervention like place for intervention. But no, I'm not
sure I didn't.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Take it to because here's the thing, though, Scarlett, Because
if the child was being verbally abused, physically abused, or
mentally abused in the household, they would step in. In
this case, this child's being being mentally abused by this Scarlett.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Stay right there.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
I'm going to voice this guy as a caller here
and you'll hear them on hold, and then you can
comment on this. Jay wants to make a comment. What's up, Jay,
You're being voice disguised.
Speaker 7 (08:04):
So I'm still dealing with this. We got divorced when
my youngest daughter was like five, and he's been bad
mouthing me ever since My birthday's in August. She had
some fish one time and the mom fish ate the
baby fish and my daughter didn't understand why, and he
told her it's because people born in August were evil
(08:24):
or she's had anger issues because of his abuse. And
I tried getting her in therapy and he bad mouthed
it the whole time because it was my idea, so
she wasn't even what's the word I'm looking for, open
to the therapy. Because of it, she's gotten in multiple
problems at school, and then when I tried to explain
(08:47):
to the school what she's going through at home, they
ended up calling CPS, and then that made it even
worse for me.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Are there any things that you guys can't agree on together?
If you can't agree on your child together. How can
you agree on anything together?
Speaker 7 (09:03):
He literally won't speak to me.
Speaker 5 (09:05):
That's anything that said we had to go through.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
What's he so bitter about?
Speaker 6 (09:09):
You?
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Did you? Did you guys have infidelity? What was What's
the thing that made this guy such a dick?
Speaker 7 (09:16):
I never cheated on him, not once.
Speaker 5 (09:19):
I was all about him and my kids. But he
was still abusive. Yeah, physically it was never enough.
Speaker 7 (09:25):
He's remarried now.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Wow, still, and he's probably and he's probably equally as
bad to that the woman that he's now married to.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
And hopefully he doesn't bring any more kids into this world.
Speaker 7 (09:36):
They have a kid together. But yeah, said to her,
and it's bad.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Well, it's sad because and I'm sure this ways on
your daughter, doesn't it.
Speaker 5 (09:45):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (09:46):
Yeah, she doesn't even want to go over there no more,
but she's forced to go over there to the court.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Wow, well that's there's a problem right there, the court.
You know you, Scarlett a long straight down with us.
The teachers are overwhelmed, the courts are overwhelm, but the
courts probably aren't even in a position to help in
a situation like that. Let me grab another collar. Janelle
wants to comment, what's up Janelle High.
Speaker 8 (10:07):
Yeah, my daughter just turned eighteen, so I've been divorced
for sixteen years. And it wasn't just only their father,
it was quite a bit of their stepmom. In fact,
she refused to take his last name because I still
had it and my daughter just turned eighteen like a
week ago, and she commented her, well, will your mom
(10:28):
changed your last name the last name now because she
wants to get the last name, Like it's there's no
reason for that.
Speaker 6 (10:35):
And also in those situations, guess what you're going to
be around forever and ever and ever and ever because
your mom?
Speaker 5 (10:43):
Yeah, yes, exactly, that's uh, that's wilds the level Yeah,
I was just saying, like the level of emotional immaturity
there is really astounding. My ex husband and I really.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
Had I mean, I think it was.
Speaker 5 (10:57):
It didn't even need to be said. We were never
going to repartner with people who couldn't handle the complexity
of co parenting. Like that's unattractive to me. I don't
want to be with a partner who behaves that way.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
I want to be with an adult, not a child.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Did you guys ever have any issues at all?
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Like, was there ever any point you know, even early
on where there was a little bitter in a stem.
Speaker 5 (11:21):
Oh, for sure, divorce is a death. It's a rupture
of your family.
Speaker 4 (11:26):
You have to rebuild, you know.
Speaker 5 (11:28):
It's really traumatizing. And I always say, like we don't
co parent well because we are best friends or we
don't have conflict, we still have conflict. Conflict is a
part of every relationship. So yeah, especially in the beginning,
things were challenging.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
But it's not about you know, our kids didn't choose this.
Speaker 5 (11:47):
We chose divorce, and it's our job not to make
them suffer because of our adult decisions. So yeah, we've
had conflicts. We do, and we just we navigate it.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
Because the priority is our kids.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
I coached basketball at our kids' school. It was a
Catholic school, it was Notre Dame Prep Maris, and we
had some divorced parents that were on the team that
I was coaching, and it made me sad when the
kids brought to me the situation of the thing that
bothered them the most was they had to look at
two areas of the gym to see if their parents
were there because the parent the parents couldn't sit on
(12:23):
one bleacher together. And I'm gonna say this. If you're
a parent of a child and you're in a situation
where you are going through a divorce, the idea that
your kid has to sit there and look through a
crowd to find their parents because they won't be together,
Understand the hurt that that does cause that child. That
that's the money.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
Yeah, go ahead, No, I'm just like, so this is
also something I actually just my last video was about this.
This is something that is just like.
Speaker 5 (12:51):
Foundational for my ex husband and I like, while your kids,
so we always sit together, all of us, and it's
insane that you're kid is maybe even a sporting event
and then it's distracted and can't focus on the sport they.
Speaker 4 (13:05):
Love or it is. It's it's ridiculous. People really need
to grow up and get it together and then be
reminded that all my parents.
Speaker 5 (13:13):
Hate each other when they're supposed to be, you know,
just like having a happy childhood.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Yeah, Scarlet, I loved this post.
Speaker 6 (13:20):
All your content so good.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
I appreciate you coming on the air with us and
sharing your thoughts on this one because I think it's
something that we especially with the holidays here and knowing
that it's tougher on families of divorce where you got
to have like twelve different Christmases for God's sakes.
Speaker 5 (13:33):
You know, definitely, definitely, Well thanks for just giving it
some airtime.
Speaker 4 (13:38):
Because it is a really important issue and I appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Guys appreciate you too. Scarlet long Street there on the
Mojo Show, that's.
Speaker 6 (13:45):
The only thing my kids like about having divorced parents,
Like we get.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Two really do they? Yeah, they do.
Speaker 6 (13:52):
They get twice as many gifts and all celebrated dads. Well,
you know their dad, and I years ago said I'm
going to do half. You're going to do half because
we're not gonna That went out, all right,
It's Mojo in the Morning. So I saw something on Instagram.
I think it was last week. I sent it to
Lydia and I said, you know what, this is actually
a pretty good topic for the show. There's somebody I
follow on Instagram. She's very popular. Her name is Scarlet Longstreet,
and Scarlet will post kind of weird stuff sometimes. I mean,
sometimes she gets a little too touchy philly with her
(00:20):
man and I'm okay with it.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
I actually enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
But she posted something that I think for some of
our listeners that have kids and they're in a situation
where they have a family, where they've gotten divorced, they
don't come to their senses and think of their kids.
They think of just themselves. And I want to play
what Scarlet posted, and then I want to comment on it.
(00:44):
And also I want to get Scarlet on if she's
willing to join us.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I want to share a really disturbing story about divorce.
I spent the morning volunteering at my daughter's elementary school. Now,
the PTA runs something called the Penguin Holiday Gift Shop.
This is simply a makeshift gift shop that they put
together were all the students can come and shop for
their loved ones. They're sent with envelopes, and the envelopes
have their loved ones names on them and the amount
of money that they're allowed to spend on each family member.
(01:08):
It is truly a joy to see how thoughtful and
excited these kids are about picking things out for the
people that they love most. One child's envelope was sent
in and next to the spot that said mom, the
father had written out the words eye roll. The child
shared that their father hates their mother. The mother was
never going to see the hurtful thing that was written
about her, only the child, maybe the teacher and the
(01:30):
volunteers working. Instead of simply allowing his daughter to have
a fun and care free holiday moment shopping for her
loved ones, he had to take it and ruin it.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
He had to make it about the most painful.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
Thing that that child has likely ever experienced, all because
he couldn't put his cruelty and emotional immaturity aside. I
wish this wasn't the norm. I wish that I didn't
hear from adult children of divorce all the time that
decades later, their parents still can't even be in the
same room together that they were panicked when they got
engaged because they didn't know who to tell first, and
(02:01):
they couldn't put them in the same group chat together.
When you carry this kind of anger and resentment, not
only do you make your kid's childhood painful, you mess
up every significant event for them going forward, birthdays, dances,
sporting events, their wedding.
Speaker 5 (02:16):
You take the joy.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Out of what should be a special and exciting time
for them, and you make it about you and your
inability to grow up and do what's right.
Speaker 5 (02:25):
And you should be deeply ashamed of yourselves.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
That is That's an unreal and unbelievable thing that I
hear all too common, where there is a bitter parent
that has to bring their child into it. And Scarlett
is on with us this morning, Scarlett, that was a
great post.
Speaker 5 (02:43):
Hi, Scarlet, Hi, good morning.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Thanks for having me good morning.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
That is an incredible post, and that is something that
I think people need to see. The unfortunate thing is
the eye rolling dad will see that and just be
bitter at you for making that post.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
You know, I hope he sees it.
Speaker 5 (03:02):
Had I have known the family myself, I would have
reached out to them. So I do hope that he
gets it, and whoever else that needs to be a
gitta too.
Speaker 6 (03:13):
You know what makes me so sad about that is
you said that the little girl actually commented that, oh, yeah,
my dad doesn't like my mom, that she is so
very aware that that is the case. Because I'm sure
it's more than a written comment on an envelope. It's
probably comments that are vocalized at home.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:32):
If that is what somebody is doing publicly for public consumption,
you know that what is going on behind closed doors
is so much worse.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I can't imagine why somebody would want their child to
know that they hate their mother or vice versa mother,
you know, hating the father so much. Like, why would
you want your kid to get involved in in that,
And why would you not want your kid to just
know that you were made out of love and that
(04:04):
your parents have gone, you know, to live happy lives
separately and honestly hopefully together. I still don't get when
people get divorced why it is that you can't do
things together as a divorced couple so that your kids
don't have to choose between two different households.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
Totally, it's just a lack of skills and you know,
they don't know how to process adult adult emotions and
keep their kids out of it.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
It's really sad. I wish it wasn't common.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
I hear from people all the time where like one
of their parents refuse to even go to their own
wedding because the other parent.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
Was going to be there.
Speaker 5 (04:45):
Just really really insane, insane stuff.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
And I mean, I think that we forget that. I
read somewhere that like, when you criticize the.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
Other parent, it doesn't make your child hate the other parent.
It makes them hate themselves because that is part of
who they are. So our kids don't, like developmentally know.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
How to separate those things.
Speaker 5 (05:06):
So when you say, oh I hate mom or oh
I hate Dad, they think, oh, well that you hate
part of me then yeah.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
And also then it makes the child have to defend
the other parent, and they should not be in that
situation at all.
Speaker 5 (05:19):
Ever, Totally, a child should never have to carry or worry.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
About like, oh I can't say this in front of mom,
or oh Dad's gonna get jealous if I talk about
what I did at Mom's house. The kids just have
to cut off parts of themselves. And really, what it.
Speaker 5 (05:32):
Does is it impacts your own parent child relationship negatively
because later as they grow up, Right when they're little,
they miss stuff like.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
This, right, they don't really fully understand what's going on.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
But come the teen years, your kids know, they're able
to clock.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
It, and they all put up with it.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Yeah, you know what, I kind of feel. I don't
know how the school handled this, you know, with this child.
I feel like the school needs to address it, Like
I feel like the teacher, the principal, a counselor. I'm
sure that if they have a counselor in school need
to address it and they need to pull dad in
(06:10):
and they need to explain to dad, because I think
that the problem is if we ignore it because we
don't want to get involved, we only make it worse
for the child for the next comment that comes. And
I truly believe that in education we need to educate
and not just the children. We sometimes need to educate
the parent and you know, they're I never took a
(06:33):
class when I got married. You know, we took premarital
counseling from some couple that you know. You know, basically
we're talking to us about how many kids we wanted
to have, But we never took a class on how
to be a parent, and the problem is that that's
the problem that we have nowadays with a lot of
parents that choose their happiness over their children's happiness. So
(06:55):
I do think that that's one of those things. And
did the school even address at all, do you know?
Speaker 4 (07:02):
No? And you know, it is such a difficult thing
because it's like, I am a.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
Firm believer that our educators are truly so overwhelmed.
Speaker 4 (07:10):
They have such low budgets and they're trying to you know,
stretch thin.
Speaker 5 (07:14):
So yeah, it's like you never know what you want
to saddle them with in addition to like just the
like teaching our kids.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
How to add I understand and read.
Speaker 5 (07:24):
Yeah, but no, no, I agree with you, because right
these are the people who are in contact with our kids,
you know, more than most of us once their kids
are are school age. So it is just a really
important intervention like place for intervention. But no, I'm not
sure I didn't.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Take it to because here's the thing, though, Scarlett, Because
if the child was being verbally abused, physically abused, or
mentally abused in the household, they would step in. In
this case, this child's being being mentally abused by this Scarlett.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Stay right there.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
I'm going to voice this guy as a caller here
and you'll hear them on hold, and then you can
comment on this. Jay wants to make a comment. What's up, Jay,
You're being voice disguised.
Speaker 7 (08:04):
So I'm still dealing with this. We got divorced when
my youngest daughter was like five, and he's been bad
mouthing me ever since My birthday's in August. She had
some fish one time and the mom fish ate the
baby fish and my daughter didn't understand why, and he
told her it's because people born in August were evil
(08:24):
or she's had anger issues because of his abuse. And
I tried getting her in therapy and he bad mouthed
it the whole time because it was my idea, so
she wasn't even what's the word I'm looking for, open
to the therapy. Because of it, she's gotten in multiple
problems at school, and then when I tried to explain
(08:47):
to the school what she's going through at home, they
ended up calling CPS, and then that made it even
worse for me.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Are there any things that you guys can't agree on together?
If you can't agree on your child together. How can
you agree on anything together?
Speaker 7 (09:03):
He literally won't speak to me.
Speaker 5 (09:05):
That's anything that said we had to go through.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
What's he so bitter about?
Speaker 6 (09:09):
You?
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Did you? Did you guys have infidelity? What was What's
the thing that made this guy such a dick?
Speaker 7 (09:16):
I never cheated on him, not once.
Speaker 5 (09:19):
I was all about him and my kids. But he
was still abusive. Yeah, physically it was never enough.
Speaker 7 (09:25):
He's remarried now.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Wow, still, and he's probably and he's probably equally as
bad to that the woman that he's now married to.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
And hopefully he doesn't bring any more kids into this world.
Speaker 7 (09:36):
They have a kid together. But yeah, said to her,
and it's bad.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Well, it's sad because and I'm sure this ways on
your daughter, doesn't it.
Speaker 5 (09:45):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (09:46):
Yeah, she doesn't even want to go over there no more,
but she's forced to go over there to the court.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Wow, well that's there's a problem right there, the court.
You know you, Scarlett a long straight down with us.
The teachers are overwhelmed, the courts are overwhelm, but the
courts probably aren't even in a position to help in
a situation like that. Let me grab another collar. Janelle
wants to comment, what's up Janelle High.
Speaker 8 (10:07):
Yeah, my daughter just turned eighteen, so I've been divorced
for sixteen years. And it wasn't just only their father,
it was quite a bit of their stepmom. In fact,
she refused to take his last name because I still
had it and my daughter just turned eighteen like a
week ago, and she commented her, well, will your mom
(10:28):
changed your last name the last name now because she
wants to get the last name, Like it's there's no
reason for that.
Speaker 6 (10:35):
And also in those situations, guess what you're going to
be around forever and ever and ever and ever because
your mom?
Speaker 5 (10:43):
Yeah, yes, exactly, that's uh, that's wilds the level Yeah,
I was just saying, like the level of emotional immaturity
there is really astounding. My ex husband and I really.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
Had I mean, I think it was.
Speaker 5 (10:57):
It didn't even need to be said. We were never
going to repartner with people who couldn't handle the complexity
of co parenting. Like that's unattractive to me. I don't
want to be with a partner who behaves that way.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
I want to be with an adult, not a child.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Did you guys ever have any issues at all?
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Like, was there ever any point you know, even early
on where there was a little bitter in a stem.
Speaker 5 (11:21):
Oh, for sure, divorce is a death. It's a rupture
of your family.
Speaker 4 (11:26):
You have to rebuild, you know.
Speaker 5 (11:28):
It's really traumatizing. And I always say, like we don't
co parent well because we are best friends or we
don't have conflict, we still have conflict. Conflict is a
part of every relationship. So yeah, especially in the beginning,
things were challenging.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
But it's not about you know, our kids didn't choose this.
Speaker 5 (11:47):
We chose divorce, and it's our job not to make
them suffer because of our adult decisions. So yeah, we've
had conflicts. We do, and we just we navigate it.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
Because the priority is our kids.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
I coached basketball at our kids' school. It was a
Catholic school, it was Notre Dame Prep Maris, and we
had some divorced parents that were on the team that
I was coaching, and it made me sad when the
kids brought to me the situation of the thing that
bothered them the most was they had to look at
two areas of the gym to see if their parents
were there because the parent the parents couldn't sit on
(12:23):
one bleacher together. And I'm gonna say this. If you're
a parent of a child and you're in a situation
where you are going through a divorce, the idea that
your kid has to sit there and look through a
crowd to find their parents because they won't be together,
Understand the hurt that that does cause that child. That
that's the money.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
Yeah, go ahead, No, I'm just like, so this is
also something I actually just my last video was about this.
This is something that is just like.
Speaker 5 (12:51):
Foundational for my ex husband and I like, while your kids,
so we always sit together, all of us, and it's
insane that you're kid is maybe even a sporting event
and then it's distracted and can't focus on the sport they.
Speaker 4 (13:05):
Love or it is. It's it's ridiculous. People really need
to grow up and get it together and then be
reminded that all my parents.
Speaker 5 (13:13):
Hate each other when they're supposed to be, you know,
just like having a happy childhood.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Yeah, Scarlet, I loved this post.
Speaker 6 (13:20):
All your content so good.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
I appreciate you coming on the air with us and
sharing your thoughts on this one because I think it's
something that we especially with the holidays here and knowing
that it's tougher on families of divorce where you got
to have like twelve different Christmases for God's sakes.
Speaker 5 (13:33):
You know, definitely, definitely, Well thanks for just giving it
some airtime.
Speaker 4 (13:38):
Because it is a really important issue and I appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Guys appreciate you too. Scarlet long Street there on the
Mojo Show, that's.
Speaker 6 (13:45):
The only thing my kids like about having divorced parents,
Like we get.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Two really do they? Yeah, they do.
Speaker 6 (13:52):
They get twice as many gifts and all celebrated dads. Well,
you know their dad, and I years ago said I'm
going to do half. You're going to do half because
we're not gonna That went out, all right,
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