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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's Mojo in the morning show, so keV. She doesn't
like men with kids. So you've been talking to a
girl and what's going on? Yeah, Now I feel like
and maybe people out there can relate. Sometimes it is
extremely difficult to date when you have a child and
not for the fact of time being a worry, or
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being able to figure out your schedule and how you're
going to give your all to this person without you know,
I guess, feeling guilty if you're not giving your all
to your children. But there are people out there who
simply will not date someone because they have a child,
for fear that the relationship that you have with your
child's father or mother still exists.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
And lately we've.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Done a lot of talking about my son's mom Jasmine
on the air, and this girl that I'm talking to
date and whatever the case may be, happens to listen,
And she was of the elk of the cloth at
a certain point, like I feel like most people are
with I'll never date a person with children. I'll never
That won't be my story, that's not going to be
my mission I'm doing. But as you grow older and
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you start to give up some of your I don't
know list so to speak of things you won't do,
that's one of the things that she's scratched off, like, Okay,
I'm not gonna limit myself to only men who don't
have children when I could be removing myself from a
huge population of guys that actually like but as we
can even talk about Jazz when she's like, man, this
this doesn't feel like you're still away from her, so
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to speak, like the door is the door, possibility could
be over well.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
You'll never be away from her.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Away from her in the sense of like, okay, yeah,
but the way we talk about her on the show,
like her name's and brought up a lot in this lies.
Speaker 4 (01:41):
I mean, we did just talk about you guys potentially
having another baby together. I get where she's coming from.
Speaker 5 (01:48):
I actually think that's more attractive though not your situation specifically,
but knowing that you are cordial with your child's mother, like,
to me, that shows a lot of like, I just
respect for you, because a lot of people aren't.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
All right, so you say that, you say that that,
but I wonder if there are any people that don't
like the idea or wouldn't like the idea of the
U X being still in the picture as much as
they are. And I'm not saying that Kevin and Jasmine
are way too into the picture. I think they co
paring great. We talked about this yesterday. I think they're
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awesome at that. But there are some people that probably
would like to have you to themselves.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Absolutely, Yeah, but that's just I don't get that will
never be your reality ever, alright, because Jasmine and Josiah
are always going to be part of your life no
matter why.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
All right, I want pros and cons now eight four
to four Mojo Live eight four four six six five
sixty five four eight Tell me what you'd rather? Tell
me what you'd rather have a to date a guy
or to be in a relationship with a guy that
has a great relationship with his acts and still is
you know, still is very close or no relationship at all,
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or cut off or or hostile, well hostile be makes
it would definitely sway that opinion, because I don't think
you want a hostile via.
Speaker 4 (03:10):
But I'm telling you there are people I think that
would rather it be messy so that you're like the
good guy in the relationship. Does that make sense?
Speaker 3 (03:19):
M H, I mean, yeah, I've felt like that in
previous relationships, Like the less communication I had with Jasmine,
the better my current relationship was because it made them, Yeah,
that was what they enjoyed. And then their you know,
whatever they went through in their life or whatever they
had in their past, as far as the relationships, it
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made them feel secure knowing that I was all about
them and there wasn't even a sliver of hope that
Jasmine and I would ever establish a relationship in that coupatty.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
And you know what happens in those relationships than the
tougher it is for the kids, Yeah, exactly, and then
they're the ones that suffer.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
For for Mojo life or you can text call me
and Lydio will if you want to comment on this, Jackie,
what's up?
Speaker 6 (04:04):
Hi?
Speaker 7 (04:04):
So, I just wanted to make a comment. I feel
I was with my ex husband for fifteen years and
we have three kids, and we still to this day
after three three solid years of the divorce, we can't
get along and it's horrible, and I just I am
so jealous of the people who can Kevin and his
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past relationship, that's beautiful for the child, and I'm just
that's how it should.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Be so Yeah, and you guys, you guys are what
Shannon was talking about the I cannot get along, which
is tough because it makes it tough on you guys
trying to parent and co parent the kids. But what
if you were in a relationship or tell me, Jackie,
what if your relationship was that you guys were still
really close and there was even like jokes and stuff
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that were thrown out there about you guys being so close,
you could see you guys getting back together. Do you
think that would make a guy feel comfortable?
Speaker 7 (05:04):
No, yeah, I agree on that point. I don't think
my my current relationship, he would not appreciate those types
of jokes. But I don't think we're so secure. I
don't think he would. It would mess with us. I
don't think it would hurt our relationship. I don't think
he would appreciate it. There are boundaries.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Sorry, No, that's okay. What are you getting? What do
you get there?
Speaker 4 (05:29):
I'm gonna get.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
And two Hash Browns and two Hash brons. I love.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Strawberry jelly. Don't give me that grape stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Yeah, that is crrect. Back to the topic. Jennifer, Hello, Jennifer,
good morning. How are you good. What's better? Which one
is the better thing?
Speaker 6 (05:53):
Getting along is much better. I have both situations in
my household and my ex pusend and I were married
for a very own time and he has a significant
other and I'm remarried and we do things together for children. Now,
mind you, we have a lot of children together. But
we get along and people think that they abnormal and weird.
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But we also have the toxic relationship with my husband's
ex wife. Oh yeah, so it makes it very difficult.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Why do you think Why do you think it's toxic
with her?
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Do you think she's jealous of you?
Speaker 8 (06:29):
No?
Speaker 6 (06:30):
I just think there's a tad bit of narcissism there.
And it's even with the kids, not just me, Like
it's a pattern.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Wow, it's wild that you can have such a cool
experience on one side, but then such an awful experience
on the other side.
Speaker 6 (06:48):
You know, it makes it so difficult.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
Does he does your ex husband realize that?
Speaker 9 (06:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (06:58):
And has he ever talked to you about that and
said he was upset about how she is?
Speaker 6 (07:04):
Oh yeah, yeah all the time. And I think the
kids have even said that.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Wow, that's too bad.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
He needs to be a man, and man up and
tell her stop this crap.
Speaker 6 (07:14):
Uh he does, and she cried and it's all about her,
not about you know, the real issues.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
And the sad thing is he probably is worried because
he doesn't want to cause any more problems and go
through another you know, marital issue. But that makes it tough.
But he's the guys he's got to call. He's got
to call the shots on that one. What's going on, Leslie?
Speaker 8 (07:36):
Good morning crew.
Speaker 9 (07:38):
So my ex husband and I share are dogs. It's
my doggy daddy, Okay, and my current and I just
got remarried almost a year ago. And my husband now
and my ex did get along just fine. They actually
transport the dogs back and forth and it is so
much better to get along and not had to split
the dogs up. So getting along is way better.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Yeah, I thought she'd swore too. But Leslie, I wonder
if this is this is interesting. I wonder if if
dogs are different. No offense to people who are doggy parents,
but when you know that you could actually, you know,
romantically get together and make a child.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
You can't really make puppies.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
But I wonder, I wonder if there is a little
bit of that though that causes the issue, Like especially
the topic we did bring up last week of you
and Josiah's mom, should you know, try to have another kid.
I didn't even realize you're in a relationship with a
girl that would have a hard time with that. Laship
is a strong word. Well you said you call her
kind of dating. But what's up Jacqueline High?
Speaker 10 (08:40):
Hey, good morning you guys. So I have I have
an ex husband of eight years now and we have
six kids together, some are grown, but we do all
of our holidays together still in birthday celebrations.
Speaker 11 (08:53):
And vacations, and I.
Speaker 10 (08:56):
Can't see if someone had a problem with it, then
I would have a big problem with not that I
wouldn't understand how where they're coming from, but it really.
Speaker 11 (09:06):
Comes down to my kids being first, and if it
lets them feel like they have a family unit still,
that's really what our goal is. So just what we
do is we don't I mean, we don't really bring.
Speaker 10 (09:16):
People in front of our kids, like if we're dating
and stuff, unless it's something that's going to be long
term serious. But I think people that get jealous of
that they don't realize how important the family unit is.
Speaker 4 (09:27):
For the kids.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Yeah, It's nice though, that you guys have everything together.
That's it's honestly, I think it's rare.
Speaker 11 (09:33):
Maybe a lot of work. It's a lot of work.
Speaker 10 (09:35):
It's a lot of work putting aside a lot of feelings.
But whenever I see my kids and realize, I don't
ever want them to feel like, oh, we can't invite
mom or we can't invite dad because they don't get
along like that would be my worst feeling for them.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Well, the funny thing is as much as you feel
in a bad situation, the pressure that the kids are
going to feel it ten more times and have to
deal with it. Sue said that she chose not to
day eight Men with Kids, but she had a different reason.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Why is that so, good morning, guys.
Speaker 7 (10:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 12 (10:07):
So when I back in the day when I was dating,
the reason I didn't was because I was afraid of
getting attached to the child, you know, and building a
relationship with that child, and then what if the relationship
with the father didn't work out.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
I didn't even think.
Speaker 6 (10:24):
About, you know, I wasn't really more.
Speaker 12 (10:27):
It wasn't concerned about the relationship that you know, with
the mother. It was more knowing me as a person
that I easily get attached to people. Yeah, and you know,
and especially children, and so that was one of the
reasons I chose not to.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Think I could see that to be even tougher.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Yeah, you start liking the kids, and you see a
lot of times where people will break up and the
kids will still talk to what's up Melissa, Hi? Hi,
You're going through divorce right now, So what's going on?
Speaker 13 (10:57):
I am.
Speaker 9 (10:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (10:59):
We were very sixteen years, but together eighteen years, and
we have a fourteen year old son, and he's definitely
anoxiousist and it's very He does not communicate with me,
and so I try my best to.
Speaker 13 (11:13):
Include him, like even now that I've moved out, like,
you know, to keep us together for the sake of
my son, because he's an only child. And so I
try my best. But a lot of times he doesn't
return my calls. And but I started talking to, you know,
other guys, just because, like honestly, after being with someone
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sixteen years, like being by myself is you know, I
got to get used to that. And so I've started
like getting on some dating apps, and I was talking
to this guy that had two kids, but he had
a thirteen year old son, but hardly talk to him
and like, to me, that's a rest don't take Yeah,
when men don't take care of their child, like to me,
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that a ret eggs. Yeah, but I don't mind that
they have kids. I think it would kind of be
good for my son if they're around, you know.
Speaker 10 (12:08):
His age.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Hey, I got to get you over to Bell Tire
and get a new muffler on that car. Is that
a muffler or.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
What is that?
Speaker 8 (12:15):
Actually it's my heat?
Speaker 13 (12:17):
Sorry, oh it's your heat, my car, my car, Gordon Chevrolet.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
So well do you want does that thing? Is that
your heat? Makes that noise?
Speaker 6 (12:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 13 (12:28):
Well it was on, you know, because it's cold this morning,
so but I just turned it off.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
But well, no, turn it back up because I'm gonna
have Mike Porter. Mike, we get that car service. We're
gonna get that car serviced over there. Do you want
Is it bad? Is it working or what is going on?
Speaker 10 (12:43):
Oh?
Speaker 6 (12:43):
Yeah, it's it's working.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
It's just a noise it makes. Okay if you need.
Speaker 8 (12:48):
It, yeah, because I have it on full blast.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Oh where's the noise coming from?
Speaker 7 (12:53):
Though?
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Sounds like.
Speaker 8 (12:57):
I don't know, it's not my I don't know if
it's my car or the phone line.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
So your car is not making the noise, it's the
phone line that's making the noise.
Speaker 9 (13:06):
It could could be.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Okay, Lydia talked to her, and it might be your
phone line. And then if it's the phone line, let's
find out what phone service that is and let's figure
that out. It sounded like it was like a rummer.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
I I often say this in in relations you know,
friends who have relationships and their divorce. The ultimate thing
would be that everybody gets along so much that you
gain friendships out of this, like we're the exit. It
would be amazing, Like it would be unbelievable. Could you
see if Jasmine started dating somebody? Could you see if
she dated a dude, you hanging out with the guy,
being buds with him because he's going to be around
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your son maybe.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
I mean.
Speaker 4 (13:43):
Maybe best friends, but at.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Least absolutely because wouldn't it.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Be able to sit next to each other at a play.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
But wouldn't it wouldn't it be cool if she if
she chose a guy that you thought was a real
positive influence on Joe Sie, and the guy could call
you up, hey, keV, you know, to let you know,
Josiah had this really cool thing because and vice versa
with you choosing a woman to be in a relationship
that treated her with respect.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
So all right, all right,