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Speaker 1 (00:07):
While we were trying to figure out how to get
Melinda's dad back on the phone. Melinda ended up calling
her mom to explain to her what had just happened.
And her mom is on the phone with us right now,
we cannot get her dad back on Stina.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Are you there, Hi, I'm here.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Hello, Hi, Stina, It's Mojo in the morning. Mojo and
Shannon and Megan and keV and everybody else here.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Hi, good morning.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
And I appreciate you for talking to us, but you
were just having a conversation with Melinda about what we
just did, and we wanted to kind of just get
from you, you to tell us what you just told
us a second ago when we weren't able to uh
(01:05):
to record you.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Oh well, then I just think you should just ignorant,
just ignore.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
It, just ignore that she found out that her dad's
sending flowers to another woman.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
There's nothing I can do about it. It's not like
it's the first time.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Were you aware that this was like currently happening.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Not specifically, but you know, I just it's like I said,
this has happened before, as you know, so I think
there's nothing to be done about it.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
I'm kind of shocked because you don't sound that upset
about this.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
You know, when it first happened, it almost broke me.
But then I think you just have to, you know,
make your decisions. So there's nothing I mean, look, he's a.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Good dad to you.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I think that's what you should focus on.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
So this has been something that has been an ongoing
thing that he's done and where he's had other women
in his life.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Oh yeah, yeah, I mean, Linda, you know that. I'm
sure you remember. So yeah. I mean it's I think
initially it was like, okay, what am I going to do?
And then you just sort of make your bed.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
You know, do you know who this particular woman is?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
No, I don't want to know. I don't want to know.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I don't know we Linda, how you doing?
Speaker 6 (02:58):
I just like, don't understand why you're putting up with this?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Well you know, I mean we got married when I
was younger than you about that, and you know, it's
we've been together a long time and it's uh, you know,
I mean I think you just take the person for
who they are and move on.
Speaker 7 (03:28):
You know, Misstina, I'm trying to understand this and maybe
you can help me since you guys have been together
so long you don't even see this as cheating on
the relationship. This is us.
Speaker 6 (03:41):
I wouldn't go that far.
Speaker 5 (03:45):
I would not say that it's it's I wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
I wouldn't wish this for you know, Melinda, But it's
what it is, and you know, I think you just
I guess I try to focus of the positive parts
of you know. I think relationships are complicated.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Are you worried about what you're telling Melinda when you
stay with him? When he does this and now she
knows about it?
Speaker 6 (04:17):
Oh mean question?
Speaker 2 (04:25):
I don't know. I would. I would wish differently for her,
but you know, she'll have to see. You know, life is,
you know, like relationships are not easy. They just are complicated.
Speaker 8 (04:39):
But does it change things for you now that she
is aware? Because I'm guessing that the reason you stayed
was for her, and now that she is aware, I.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Guess I would. I guess. I don't know. Maybe after
this conversation, I'll think about this more, But I mean,
this is just how it's always been, so it's hard
for me to imagine. It's like starting over and thinking
it'd be different with someone else.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
I guess we Linda, I'm going to take a lot
of this and let you guys talk to each other
so that we're not getting all your family's business out here.
But if there was an opportunity to be able to
talk to your dad right now and say something to
your dad, what would you say to him?
Speaker 6 (05:34):
I just tom, I'm really disappointed because he always says
I should be with somebody who's amazing to me, and
I can't believe not like that with my mom.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Yeah, Oh that makes me crying. You should be with
so much amazing.
Speaker 6 (05:57):
Well, I guess I just think you deserve that too. Mom.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Well, that's nice to hear.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
I'm gonna let you guys have your time with each other. Okay, yeah,
all right, hold on one second. Mojo in the morning, Amanda, Hi.
Speaker 5 (06:19):
Hello, first time long time? Yeah yeah, yeah, yes.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
By the way, it's so weird to do a first
time long time after get mom crying, so I feel
weird about it. So, but we definitely deserve your first
time long time. Go ahead. Do you want to comment
on this?
Speaker 5 (06:36):
Yeah? I really feel like the mom is just in denial,
and oh my goodness, it just breaks my heart for
that daughter.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
I very sad that she hears this, uh this way,
and a lot of people were upset that we did this.
There was a lot of people that thought that, you know,
even though she's you know, a grown adult woman, that
she should stay out of her mom's business. Absolutely not,
And I think, honestly, somebody needs to be there for
(07:05):
the mom, because you're right, I think the mom is
in a little bit of denial.
Speaker 5 (07:09):
Oh yeah, she needs all the support she can get.
One percent. And I don't think there's anything wrong with
the daughter. I have two myself, and oh, just like
it's just crazy. But I'm glad that she did this,
and you know, shame on him, And I just hope
(07:30):
the boy has spells her mom actually gets a grip
of this and actually realizes that it's wrong.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Yeah, it's it's not good for your daughter to see
how you're living this life right now. You wouldn't want
her to do the same initial A wants to be
voice disguised. Why is that initial A or right?
Speaker 4 (07:50):
Just because I'm going to do the same thing and
I kind of just don't want my business everywhere.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Are you the daughter or the mom in the situation,
I'm the mom, Okay, so you're the mom that is
trying to protect your kids from the infidelity that's going
on in your relationship.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
Yes, you know, and I know what people listening probably think.
It's absolutely insane, you know, it's the last few years
has been done just to eat. Especially my children are involved.
When you have a history with the person, you know,
you try to give them the benefit of the doubt
that you know things are going to change, that you
(08:29):
know they truly love you and they have their own
issues to work out, you know.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
But do you think your kids are aware? Do you
think they have any idea?
Speaker 4 (08:39):
No, my kids are young, Okay, so they Yeah, so
they don't have any idea yet, you know. But I
do have a daughter, and it is something that I
struggle with, you know, because you know, like Steve said,
I don't wish this.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
On my daughter at all.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Help my son ends up being a better person.
Speaker 7 (08:59):
Still, how long have you been aware?
Speaker 4 (09:04):
This has been going on for years.
Speaker 7 (09:07):
And with the same person, with one person, or with
multiple people, multiple people.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
It has been me occurring with some of.
Speaker 9 (09:16):
The same people.
Speaker 5 (09:17):
Though.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Wow, well you said the kids are young, they don't
know about this. Hearing this and what you know, Uh,
Melinda's going through with her mom Stina, what do you
think that does for you? Does that make you think,
oh boy, I don't what was that?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (09:35):
What does that make you think? Does it make you think, like, hey,
this might be my inspiration to get out of this situation?
Speaker 4 (09:44):
I mean yes, I know, Like like I said, you know,
it's yeah, I kind of feel the same way as her.
You know, it is what it is. You know, I
feel like I'm who facing at this point.
Speaker 6 (09:56):
Uh.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
And but like I said, you know, yeah, it is
kind of inspiring to know that other people are going.
Speaker 6 (10:03):
To the same thing, and you.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
Know, maybe one day it will change. Maybe one day
I will have that courage.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
And you know it does for you. I really hope
it does for you.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
We all hope the best for you. Moje other morning, Erica, Hi, Erica, Hi,
good morning, Good morning boy. Right, you were one of
our first people that called in to us here about this.
Explain your situation.
Speaker 10 (10:27):
So when I was about sixteen seventeen years old, I
actually received a text message from my dad that said
I love.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
You blah blah blah, which was his.
Speaker 10 (10:37):
Girlfriend at the time. My parents were married, So I
did tell my mom like, hey, I think that's cheating.
I received this text message and she was like, I
kind of assumed and it ended up being our uniform
delivery girl wow, for our family's business.
Speaker 5 (10:58):
So she was well aware.
Speaker 10 (10:59):
My dad was married for many years and it ended
up leading to their divorce. Wow.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
What did your dad do when he found out that
you saw that text message and knew that he was
a cheater.
Speaker 10 (11:12):
He definitely was not happy. We had a very rocky
relationship for quite a few years throughout college. Is when
I finally, you know, we grew back together and we're
pretty close now. But he is still dating the same girl.
Speaker 7 (11:27):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
It's interesting. You know, you talk about how you had
a rocky relationship, you would think that he'd be doing
everything he can to kiss your ass to make sure
that he didn't lose you as a daughter.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
Or did he blame you?
Speaker 10 (11:40):
I don't think he necessarily blamed me. But he also
left me to watch my younger brother so he can
go out with her all the time.
Speaker 5 (11:49):
After the divorce.
Speaker 9 (11:50):
Oh wow.
Speaker 10 (11:51):
How about so there is a lot of times like
he wouldn't come home. I have a younger brother from
his other previous affair that I'm mom stayed with him.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Oh wow, And he would be.
Speaker 10 (12:03):
Out partying and stuff like that with the new girlfriend.
So it was very rocky until I moved out at nineteen.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
How about this as the daughter and when Melinda's mom said,
I want better for you as a daughter. Does this
make you look at guys a little differently knowing that
what your dad did, or does it make you look
for guys differently when you're looking for a guy that
you want.
Speaker 10 (12:27):
To be with. It definitely made it very hard to
trust anyone for many years. But luckily I got a
man now that I'm married to, happily married for the
last three years, and I can trust him fully. But
there's still those doubts because you know, I look at
my dad and I'm like, he would never be the
guy who did you know would do that? He was
a great father, still is a great father, but he just, yeah,
(12:51):
wasn't a good spouse.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Amazing phone call. Thank you for Colin. I think that
will help a lot of people, and especially Melinda. Jenny,
what was your comment.
Speaker 9 (13:01):
This herd is just broken for the mom and the daughter.
My ex husband was cheating on me. This is like
eight years ago now, and my daughter found out from
her Besty. Her Besty was friends with my ex's my
ex her sorry, her father. So he had a picture
on his phone and she saw it and snapped a
(13:21):
picture and showed it to my daughter. So I can
only imagine how that daughter's just feeling her dad lied
to her. You know, it's not only the cheating on
the mom, you know it's awful.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
Yeah, well, their relationship will never be the same.
Speaker 9 (13:38):
No, never, And my daughter to this day doesn't trust
her father anymore. Like she's like, no, he told me
how important family was, family first, this step and the other.
He was stripped on her about dating, and she just
to this day is just like, no, that's just not
Everything you taught me is just out the window now.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Yeah, crazy, crazy, crazy crazy. A lot of people dealing
with us. I'm still amazed to see that there are
people that are upset that the daughter's getting involved in
this relationship, like saying that the daughter has no business
to be involved in her parents' relationship. I don't understand
that point of view. It's obviously there. It's her family, right,
(14:18):
She's trying to protect her mom, and sometimes as a child,
you become the protector for your parent. Were the roses
the whole, But the second date update. This is Mojo
in the Morning
While we were trying to figure out how to get
Melinda's dad back on the phone. Melinda ended up calling
her mom to explain to her what had just happened.
And her mom is on the phone with us right now,
we cannot get her dad back on Stina.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Are you there, Hi, I'm here.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Hello, Hi, Stina, It's Mojo in the morning. Mojo and
Shannon and Megan and keV and everybody else here.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Hi, good morning.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
And I appreciate you for talking to us, but you
were just having a conversation with Melinda about what we
just did, and we wanted to kind of just get
from you, you to tell us what you just told
us a second ago when we weren't able to uh
(01:05):
to record you.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Oh well, then I just think you should just ignorant,
just ignore.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
It, just ignore that she found out that her dad's
sending flowers to another woman.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
There's nothing I can do about it. It's not like
it's the first time.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Were you aware that this was like currently happening.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Not specifically, but you know, I just it's like I said,
this has happened before, as you know, so I think
there's nothing to be done about it.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
I'm kind of shocked because you don't sound that upset
about this.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
You know, when it first happened, it almost broke me.
But then I think you just have to, you know,
make your decisions. So there's nothing I mean, look, he's a.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Good dad to you.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I think that's what you should focus on.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
So this has been something that has been an ongoing
thing that he's done and where he's had other women
in his life.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Oh yeah, yeah, I mean, Linda, you know that. I'm
sure you remember. So yeah. I mean it's I think
initially it was like, okay, what am I going to do?
And then you just sort of make your bed.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
You know, do you know who this particular woman is?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
No, I don't want to know. I don't want to know.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I don't know we Linda, how you doing?
Speaker 6 (02:58):
I just like, don't understand why you're putting up with this?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Well you know, I mean we got married when I
was younger than you about that, and you know, it's
we've been together a long time and it's uh, you know,
I mean I think you just take the person for
who they are and move on.
Speaker 7 (03:28):
You know, Misstina, I'm trying to understand this and maybe
you can help me since you guys have been together
so long you don't even see this as cheating on
the relationship. This is us.
Speaker 6 (03:41):
I wouldn't go that far.
Speaker 5 (03:45):
I would not say that it's it's I wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
I wouldn't wish this for you know, Melinda, But it's
what it is, and you know, I think you just
I guess I try to focus of the positive parts
of you know. I think relationships are complicated.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Are you worried about what you're telling Melinda when you
stay with him? When he does this and now she
knows about it?
Speaker 6 (04:17):
Oh mean question?
Speaker 2 (04:25):
I don't know. I would. I would wish differently for her,
but you know, she'll have to see. You know, life is,
you know, like relationships are not easy. They just are complicated.
Speaker 8 (04:39):
But does it change things for you now that she
is aware? Because I'm guessing that the reason you stayed
was for her, and now that she is aware, I.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Guess I would. I guess. I don't know. Maybe after
this conversation, I'll think about this more, But I mean,
this is just how it's always been, so it's hard
for me to imagine. It's like starting over and thinking
it'd be different with someone else.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
I guess we Linda, I'm going to take a lot
of this and let you guys talk to each other
so that we're not getting all your family's business out here.
But if there was an opportunity to be able to
talk to your dad right now and say something to
your dad, what would you say to him?
Speaker 6 (05:34):
I just tom, I'm really disappointed because he always says
I should be with somebody who's amazing to me, and
I can't believe not like that with my mom.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Yeah, Oh that makes me crying. You should be with
so much amazing.
Speaker 6 (05:57):
Well, I guess I just think you deserve that too. Mom.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Well, that's nice to hear.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
I'm gonna let you guys have your time with each other. Okay, yeah,
all right, hold on one second. Mojo in the morning, Amanda, Hi.
Speaker 5 (06:19):
Hello, first time long time? Yeah yeah, yeah, yes.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
By the way, it's so weird to do a first
time long time after get mom crying, so I feel
weird about it. So, but we definitely deserve your first
time long time. Go ahead. Do you want to comment
on this?
Speaker 5 (06:36):
Yeah? I really feel like the mom is just in denial,
and oh my goodness, it just breaks my heart for
that daughter.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
I very sad that she hears this, uh this way,
and a lot of people were upset that we did this.
There was a lot of people that thought that, you know,
even though she's you know, a grown adult woman, that
she should stay out of her mom's business. Absolutely not,
And I think, honestly, somebody needs to be there for
(07:05):
the mom, because you're right, I think the mom is
in a little bit of denial.
Speaker 5 (07:09):
Oh yeah, she needs all the support she can get.
One percent. And I don't think there's anything wrong with
the daughter. I have two myself, and oh, just like
it's just crazy. But I'm glad that she did this,
and you know, shame on him, And I just hope
(07:30):
the boy has spells her mom actually gets a grip
of this and actually realizes that it's wrong.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Yeah, it's it's not good for your daughter to see
how you're living this life right now. You wouldn't want
her to do the same initial A wants to be
voice disguised. Why is that initial A or right?
Speaker 4 (07:50):
Just because I'm going to do the same thing and
I kind of just don't want my business everywhere.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Are you the daughter or the mom in the situation,
I'm the mom, Okay, so you're the mom that is
trying to protect your kids from the infidelity that's going
on in your relationship.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
Yes, you know, and I know what people listening probably think.
It's absolutely insane, you know, it's the last few years
has been done just to eat. Especially my children are involved.
When you have a history with the person, you know,
you try to give them the benefit of the doubt
that you know things are going to change, that you
(08:29):
know they truly love you and they have their own
issues to work out, you know.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
But do you think your kids are aware? Do you
think they have any idea?
Speaker 4 (08:39):
No, my kids are young, Okay, so they Yeah, so
they don't have any idea yet, you know. But I
do have a daughter, and it is something that I
struggle with, you know, because you know, like Steve said,
I don't wish this.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
On my daughter at all.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Help my son ends up being a better person.
Speaker 7 (08:59):
Still, how long have you been aware?
Speaker 4 (09:04):
This has been going on for years.
Speaker 7 (09:07):
And with the same person, with one person, or with
multiple people, multiple people.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
It has been me occurring with some of.
Speaker 9 (09:16):
The same people.
Speaker 5 (09:17):
Though.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Wow, well you said the kids are young, they don't
know about this. Hearing this and what you know, Uh,
Melinda's going through with her mom Stina, what do you
think that does for you? Does that make you think,
oh boy, I don't what was that?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (09:35):
What does that make you think? Does it make you think, like, hey,
this might be my inspiration to get out of this situation?
Speaker 4 (09:44):
I mean yes, I know, Like like I said, you know,
it's yeah, I kind of feel the same way as her.
You know, it is what it is. You know, I
feel like I'm who facing at this point.
Speaker 6 (09:56):
Uh.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
And but like I said, you know, yeah, it is
kind of inspiring to know that other people are going.
Speaker 6 (10:03):
To the same thing, and you.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
Know, maybe one day it will change. Maybe one day
I will have that courage.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
And you know it does for you. I really hope
it does for you.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
We all hope the best for you. Moje other morning, Erica, Hi, Erica, Hi,
good morning, Good morning boy. Right, you were one of
our first people that called in to us here about this.
Explain your situation.
Speaker 10 (10:27):
So when I was about sixteen seventeen years old, I
actually received a text message from my dad that said
I love.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
You blah blah blah, which was his.
Speaker 10 (10:37):
Girlfriend at the time. My parents were married, So I
did tell my mom like, hey, I think that's cheating.
I received this text message and she was like, I
kind of assumed and it ended up being our uniform
delivery girl wow, for our family's business.
Speaker 5 (10:58):
So she was well aware.
Speaker 10 (10:59):
My dad was married for many years and it ended
up leading to their divorce. Wow.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
What did your dad do when he found out that
you saw that text message and knew that he was
a cheater.
Speaker 10 (11:12):
He definitely was not happy. We had a very rocky
relationship for quite a few years throughout college. Is when
I finally, you know, we grew back together and we're
pretty close now. But he is still dating the same girl.
Speaker 7 (11:27):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
It's interesting. You know, you talk about how you had
a rocky relationship, you would think that he'd be doing
everything he can to kiss your ass to make sure
that he didn't lose you as a daughter.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
Or did he blame you?
Speaker 10 (11:40):
I don't think he necessarily blamed me. But he also
left me to watch my younger brother so he can
go out with her all the time.
Speaker 5 (11:49):
After the divorce.
Speaker 9 (11:50):
Oh wow.
Speaker 10 (11:51):
How about so there is a lot of times like
he wouldn't come home. I have a younger brother from
his other previous affair that I'm mom stayed with him.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Oh wow, And he would be.
Speaker 10 (12:03):
Out partying and stuff like that with the new girlfriend.
So it was very rocky until I moved out at nineteen.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
How about this as the daughter and when Melinda's mom said,
I want better for you as a daughter. Does this
make you look at guys a little differently knowing that
what your dad did, or does it make you look
for guys differently when you're looking for a guy that
you want.
Speaker 10 (12:27):
To be with. It definitely made it very hard to
trust anyone for many years. But luckily I got a
man now that I'm married to, happily married for the
last three years, and I can trust him fully. But
there's still those doubts because you know, I look at
my dad and I'm like, he would never be the
guy who did you know would do that? He was
a great father, still is a great father, but he just, yeah,
(12:51):
wasn't a good spouse.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Amazing phone call. Thank you for Colin. I think that
will help a lot of people, and especially Melinda. Jenny,
what was your comment.
Speaker 9 (13:01):
This herd is just broken for the mom and the daughter.
My ex husband was cheating on me. This is like
eight years ago now, and my daughter found out from
her Besty. Her Besty was friends with my ex's my
ex her sorry, her father. So he had a picture
on his phone and she saw it and snapped a
(13:21):
picture and showed it to my daughter. So I can
only imagine how that daughter's just feeling her dad lied
to her. You know, it's not only the cheating on
the mom, you know it's awful.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
Yeah, well, their relationship will never be the same.
Speaker 9 (13:38):
No, never, And my daughter to this day doesn't trust
her father anymore. Like she's like, no, he told me
how important family was, family first, this step and the other.
He was stripped on her about dating, and she just
to this day is just like, no, that's just not
Everything you taught me is just out the window now.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Yeah, crazy, crazy, crazy crazy. A lot of people dealing
with us. I'm still amazed to see that there are
people that are upset that the daughter's getting involved in
this relationship, like saying that the daughter has no business
to be involved in her parents' relationship. I don't understand
that point of view. It's obviously there. It's her family, right,
(14:18):
She's trying to protect her mom, and sometimes as a child,
you become the protector for your parent. Were the roses
the whole, But the second date update. This is Mojo
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