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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Calvin, I'm gonna jump on here just to wrap up
the call. I need to inform you of one last
thing and then we will let you off this call.
While you've been sending the flowers off, your girlfriend, Lena
has been on the phone the entire time and just
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heard you send them to another woman. Did you say, Lena?
How Lina has been listening to this entire phone call
and just heard you send flowers to another woman. And
I understand that you guys just recently had a baby. Calvin, No,
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this is.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Both Lena.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
We've been trying to call him as he contacted you
since we last had had talked.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
No, he's probably a polar stephany.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
He truly doesn't care about me or his kid.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
We've been trying to call her number two and we'll
continue to do that. Stay right here, Okay, okay, we'
are the roses here on the Mojo in the morning show.
It's just awful. It's it's an awful situation. And you
just get done having a baby, and you got it.
Obviously a lot of things that you are having happened
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to your life that's changing and should be changing for
the best. And then you hear a story like this.
This is not good. Alyssa wants to comment eight four
four Mojo Live eight four four six six what's up, Alissa?
Speaker 5 (01:54):
Hi Hi?
Speaker 4 (01:57):
I would just like to say that women are social strong.
They can push out a baby. They could do it
all right. Instead of trying to figure out where to
figure out who Stephanie is, she needs to figure out
how to get out of the relationship. I'm not sure
if everyone's married or not legal reasons, but women, you know,
that's the thing. Men they won't rever respect you even
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if they do this after you have a baby, so
there's not much you can do after that besides just leave.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
When you ask that question of you're not sure if
everyone's married, are you talking about uh, those two because
they're not married, or are you talking about all of
us on the show?
Speaker 5 (02:34):
No?
Speaker 4 (02:34):
No, no, it's on those two.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
No, no, because I was going to say, I don't
know if you're new to the show at all, but I, uh,
those two are they're not married. I don't know what
their intentions were as far as if they were going
to get married.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
Yeah, and you know, respect you later.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
And it's one of those it's one of those where
you look at you look at what this is going
on here, and obviously his life changed. And I will
say this, I've had three children, and the first one
I was overjoyed over how great it was to be
a dad. The second one, I was a little freaked out.
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I was freaked out over the fact that my responsibilities
now just doubled, okay or tripled, basically because we now
we have a bigger family. And I will say this
as a guy, when that happened when Jacob was born,
I don't think that my attentiveness to Chelsea was as
good as it was when she had Joey. And I
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see this happening with guys. I see where guys all
of a sudden will have a baby. I see that
they don't understand how much they need to be there
to help out because there's a lot of hormonal things
that go on. Postpartum is a big deal. And I
see a lot of times where and I did this
with Jacob. I checked out and I wasn't the guy
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that I should have been, and I regretted immensely. It's
something that literally to this day, I go and have therapy.
I've never went out and had the affair on Chelsea
during that time. But I could see where that could happen.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
I think that feel though, you know what.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
I'm saying, They push out, they do all that, then
they have the baby. Then they have to deal with
the emotional part after, you know for sure.
Speaker 6 (04:17):
And I give Mojo credit that's where That's what he's
trying to say. And and also like, guys, this is
when your partner needs the most amount of support, even
if you feel like she's pushing away. Our brains are
like mushy after we have a baby.
Speaker 7 (04:34):
And all it is is amazing. And one hundred percent agree.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I think.
Speaker 7 (04:41):
Who's prepared in this situation because we always say, like,
you can't prepare yourself to have a child, And I
feel like a woman obviously, like your body is changing,
your body has been changing for however long you've been
having this baby.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Like you're more nurturing, you're more caring.
Speaker 7 (04:57):
Like, as a guy, how do you even like develop
that that mindset at times? Because I will say I was,
I was really attended to Sharill during that experience, But
I know there are a lot of guys that didn't
grow up that way who have, like you know, a
mom in their life. Or a woman in their life
to kind of show them how it is, or they
didn't have sisters or aunts with kids, Like, how do
you get to that place where you know how to
be there and support your woman fully.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
When you have a baby. You should both not have
any time to go out to bars and hang out
and be at work longer like you should It should not.
It should not happen because now your your life has
completely changed as far as what your responsibilities are all about.
But I do think that this is something and I
remember saying this to a coworker of ours whose uh
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spouse went through postpartum. I don't believe that they talk
to the couples enough well during the pregnancy about how
this will affect your marriage. And I know that there's
a or a relationship in this case because they're not married.
I don't think that it comes up. And I think
that that's something that you should if you're getting ready
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to have a baby, seriously have conversations with each other
about if not a professional about which would probably be better.
Because here's a guy who she says, up until the
time that she had this baby, this guy was amazing,
you know what I mean? Like this guy was there
for her. He didn't go out party, he didn't worry
about him, you know, himself as much. And then all
of a sudden, he has a baby and he's You have.
Speaker 6 (06:21):
To understand there is going to be a transition, It
is going to be different, especially in those first couple
of weeks and months. If you are not getting as
a guy. I'm saying this, if you are not getting
the same amount of attention that you did, just know
that it's you know, if this is a huge transition period,
not just for your partner, for you too, and like
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that's it's very normal. It's not like in this case.
You know, he was being ignored on purpose.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
And weird, I mean, no means saying that Calvin is
getting any respect from us the guy. The guy is
if he's the son of a bitch, okay, And I
think that what he's done is is horrible. But I
do think that I can see where this could happen
more often, And I think you got to be careful.
What's up, Nicole, Hey, Hey, what's happening where the roses?
Speaker 5 (07:13):
Hey?
Speaker 6 (07:14):
Hey?
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Yeah, I just this isn't the first time I've heard
a guy say this, But I just think it's comical
that he says this is BS but he got caught,
but doesn't think it's BS that he cheated on his
girl and his family. So yeah, it's always it's always
BS that you know, they feel they we're tricked, correct,
but you're cheating, so you're tricking your your signatick and others.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
So yeah, no, I know, well that's it. That's his reaction.
The guy. First off, he didn't sound like the brightest
guy in the world. I mean, I hate to say it,
they just I mean, I obviously got caught off guard. Uh,
and he also fell for a telemarketer scam. I mean,
you know, look at that. But Lydia, I don't know
how you can get that. We had a collar that
was on hold that want to be voice guys, and
I don't don't know if they just waiting on hold
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too long and then they rethought about their story. But
their story when I looked at your call screen looked
really amazing. I think it could have added to this.
So I don't know how we go back in it. Yeah,
see if we can get this person back on, because
it's somebody that has dealt with exactly this. A couple
of Texters can't go on the air because it's still
so fresh. This is two four eight. But my husband
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cheated on me right after we had our baby. It
was the worst thing that happened to me at the
time that I should have been so overjoyed, I was
completely paranoid for years to come.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
See.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
I wonder how.
Speaker 7 (08:38):
Many people want to leave their relationship and then just
use the baby as like an excuse, because I don't
know how you unless you just weren't happy at all,
Because I don't know how you have a child and
you're in love and then all of a sudden that
just goes away, Like if you really are in love
with this person and in love with this child, I
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don't know how to happen.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
It has to be something else. And that's the thing.
We asked her that question. Uh, you know, we asked
Lena this question. We said, Hey, was he not, you know,
during the pregnancy? Really good? She said, no, it was great.
Was after she had the baby. What's up? Bart?
Speaker 5 (09:15):
Hey? By someone calling me bart.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Because your name says bart On this thing here? What
is your name?
Speaker 5 (09:22):
My name is Art.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
But we'll fix it right now. We'll fix it on
the call screen thing he said it first. How long
time are you? First time?
Speaker 5 (09:35):
Long time? No? No, no, no, hold on, hey, long
time all the time.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
We remember, Yeah, yeah, we said it, but we said
it as bart though. So what's going on right.
Speaker 5 (09:49):
Expect Hey, but I'm listening. I'm listening to this dude, right,
and I'm not gonna lie. I hope M's accountable for
a lot of stuff. So where he did that? Little?
Uh uh? She did this? Lena did this? I mean, dude,
dude is playing or whatever? You know what I mean?
Because in my like, I've done it before, but not
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in no relationship like that. Now that happened to me.
I got cheated on and I tried to say fay
fays a relationship and everything. I ended up with my daughter,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
So wait, the mother of your child cheated on.
Speaker 5 (10:23):
You, and oh my god, listen, I got too many
calls talking about something I did this, I did that.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
We don't hear that often, the women who just had
a baby going out in cheating. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (10:36):
Man, Hey, honestly, I've never said this before. You know, like,
it was a lot to take in. I was in
a place, you know what I mean, where I couldn't
do nothing. And you know I got I own my mistakes,
you know what I mean. I had to change, you know,
with the life I was given. You know, it was
a struggle, but I'm not going to use it as
an excuse. And but when I walked out, I swear
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to I swear to God, I'll put this one. Everything
I loved my daughter was right there both times, you
know what I mean. Like it sounds so horrible, I
know it does, but I didn't have a ton of
guidance growing up. I had to get it from the streets,
formogs and stuff like that. But you know, like now
my daughter's twenty one, she graduated smart, beautiful intelligence, just
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one of the kind. And you know, like I had
full cutsy ever walking out. You know, when I went
to the court, I mean I was scared to death,
but you know I held my own and I got it,
you know what I mean. But it's I just tell
you what. You know, like my wife now, like my
best friend, you know, like she stepped in, she helped
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the brother out, you know, I mean, because I went
through the struggle. Man, we're living on the streets everything,
you know, But a long story short, Hey started from
the bottom now we're here. Yea, no more judging, No
more judging, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
That's that's so nice to hear. And you know what,
your daughter will be better for it because of you.
What's up Asia? Going on? This morning's wore the roses
just had a baby and he cheated on her. What's up?
Speaker 5 (12:14):
Why?
Speaker 8 (12:16):
I was calling because I was married and my ex
husband actually had a baby on me when I was
pregnant as well.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
Oh my god.
Speaker 8 (12:26):
Yeah, we both had what had our babies about four
months apart, and he actually got another woman pregnant too.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Oh my god, baby was Yeah.
Speaker 8 (12:33):
So it was a whole lot going on.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
How did you find out about these other pregnancies?
Speaker 8 (12:39):
Well, he ended up telling me he thought that we
were going to have like a sister wife situation.
Speaker 5 (12:45):
I guess.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
So he was doing this intentionally, he was trying to
do that's at the same time.
Speaker 8 (12:49):
Yes he was, he was because she lost the baby
at first and then went back and got a pregnant again.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Shew. That guy, by the way, should be he should
be castrated. Did you know of these women or were
they just random?
Speaker 8 (13:03):
No? I didn't, they were random, but he brought us
together like, oh, we're gonna be one big, happy family.
And I actually tried for a minute, but.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
No, do the kids hang out with each other?
Speaker 8 (13:17):
No, I haven't seen that man in like over ten years.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
So he's not involved in your child's life. Is he
involved in any of the other women's children's life.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
I think so.
Speaker 8 (13:29):
I had his second and third kid. He has probably
like eight or nine now.
Speaker 7 (13:33):
So when you say you tried the sister wife thing,
kind of does that mean?
Speaker 8 (13:39):
Well, when I had my son and then she had hers,
she went back to work and I stayed home and
I was taking care of my child, my newborn and
her newborn.
Speaker 5 (13:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
I know, right, Asia, this is like literally a reality
show or some kind of a movie. That's crazy. Well
is baby healthy? And are you healthy?
Speaker 5 (14:05):
Well?
Speaker 8 (14:05):
My son now is fourteen, and I'm fine.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
That's crazy Asia. Well, yes, we love you, Asia talk women.
Like Shannon said, women are strong, they can give birth
to babies, and you guys can deal with all kinds
of crap. Thank you for thank you for calling in,
and thanks for trusting us enough to share that story
a long time.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Yes, thank you, I love.
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