War of the Roses Pt 2: Her Boyfriend's Dating Profile

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Joined the discussion. Now eight four four Mojo Live.

Speaker 2 (00:09):
This is Mojo in the morning.

Speaker 1 (00:24):
Four are the Roses trying to.

Speaker 3 (00:29):
Get the girl that he sent the flowers to on
the phone with us. The idea that he's dating yet
he's still on a dating app is interesting, but a
lot of people have experienced this before.

Speaker 1 (00:43):
Hold on a second, will you.

Speaker 3 (00:45):
Of course, one of the things that we were referencing
in the War of the Roses was the person that
actually was just using your picture right on the area.

Speaker 1 (00:52):
It's happened to me so many times.

Speaker 4 (00:53):
But like I've been on plenty of Fish, I've been
on Tinder, I've been on Facebook dating most. I mean,
it's just that is not actually me.

Speaker 3 (01:04):
I had the same thing where somebody had it and
they thought that they were actually talking to me and
then they contacted. But I'll tell you this very interesting
to see how many people actually blatantly have it in
a relationship, which is wild. Not the people just catfishing.
But Sheila, Hi, Hi, Chila. You dated a guy and

(01:26):
he had Tinder and why did he have it?

Speaker 5 (01:30):
So his reason would be because I have social media.
I had Instagram and Facebook, so he was allowed dating app.

Speaker 3 (01:40):
He was saying that it was the social media to him, Yeah.

Speaker 5 (01:45):
And because he met girls easier than guys, it was
much better for him than social media.

Speaker 4 (01:50):
What a manipulator and an idiot?

Speaker 1 (01:53):
And what did you do?

Speaker 3 (01:54):
Did you allow that to happen or did you put
your foot down and say no way, no, I put.

Speaker 5 (01:58):
My foot down and then would like show me, oh, hey,
I found this, And then we actually ended up in
like a couple's counseling, and the therapist was like, do
you realize the difference or are you telling these women
that you're in a relationship. You know, she's forth coming
on social media, but on his dating apps you're not.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (02:20):
So he during the couple's counseling would try to make
it seem like it was just normal.

Speaker 1 (02:28):
Yep, that's amazing.

Speaker 3 (02:32):
It's interesting how many times people will do this. A
couple of about five or six text messages that say
dated a guy for about two years. He would meet
people on Tinder, but he said that he wasn't having
sex with them. Another one here said just caught my
boyfriend of five years on Tinder. He was on it

(02:52):
because he said he never got a chance to try
it before. Andrea, what's going on. How you wanted to comment?

Speaker 6 (02:59):
Yeah, I go morning, guys. I had a question.

Speaker 5 (03:03):
Is Brittany the girl who originally messaged to be with.

Speaker 3 (03:07):
No, it's not yeah, which is honestly what I would
have thought too. But it's not, which is kind of
kind of well, so it's another girl altogether, so he's
obviously got many of them. Ashley, this is a wild story.
Tell everybody what you found on your boyfriend's phone?

Speaker 7 (03:25):
Oh?

Speaker 6 (03:25):
Hi, yeah, first time, long time. Hey, So I found
Tinder on there.

Speaker 2 (03:34):
He was basically saying, you know, he wasn't happy, so
he I found it and so I changed it to
looking for men only.

Speaker 1 (03:43):
Oh my god, stop, that's so good. Did he notice
that or did well?

Speaker 7 (03:50):
It took him a few days, and I was like, well,
at least he's not using it.

Speaker 1 (03:53):
Too much because it took a few days.

Speaker 8 (03:55):
But he actually got more hits from men than he
did from women.

Speaker 1 (04:00):
For hamp that's great.

Speaker 3 (04:02):
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five six five four eight.

Speaker 1 (04:06):
What's up, Elizabeth? Hi, good morning, good morning. What's going on?
You can relate to this?

Speaker 7 (04:12):
I definitely can. So I was with my boyfriend for
five years. First We were friends for like twenty found
out he was on Facebook dating. The girl wrote me
on TikTok and told me that she had been seeing
him for three years. We live in Detroit, the girl
lived in Ohio, and he somehow construed that they were

(04:34):
together and they had a baby.

Speaker 3 (04:36):
Oh no, oh my god, oh my god. How long
had they been together? How long did this go on?

Speaker 7 (04:43):
He said?

Speaker 1 (04:43):
Three years? Wow?

Speaker 7 (04:44):
While we were together for five?

Speaker 1 (04:46):
Wow?

Speaker 7 (04:46):
Was he basically none of our relationship was real?

Speaker 3 (04:49):
Was he going out of state for work? And that's
how he was able to get away with us?

Speaker 6 (04:53):
No?

Speaker 7 (04:53):
He when we would like get in a small argument,
he would leave for the night and come back.

Speaker 3 (04:59):
So how wasn't like whereabouts in Michigan did you live?
And whereabouts in Ohio was he going?

Speaker 1 (05:05):
I live?

Speaker 7 (05:06):
We lived in Detroit and she lived, I believe in Columbia. Okay,
So he would drive like four hours or however.

Speaker 1 (05:14):
You know many hours? It is away, sure, spend the night.

Speaker 7 (05:17):
And then he would re reconcile with me and come backrazy.

Speaker 4 (05:21):
Did you find him like trying to get into fights
with you just so he could go see her?

Speaker 1 (05:26):
That's the funny part. No, Wow, that's a great question.

Speaker 7 (05:29):
She would like it would just be like kind of
me because I was pregnant, I was hormonal. Yeah, and
we would just get into small fights. Like I said,
we were friends for twenty years.

Speaker 1 (05:38):
What did she ever know about you?

Speaker 7 (05:40):
Yes, we have the same friends. She knew, Yeah, she
knew about me. She did tell me that she was
scared to write me, and I think she was scared
to write me because she didn't want to know the
truth either.

Speaker 1 (05:50):
But she was.

Speaker 3 (05:51):
But she was good with the way that the relationship
was going on for a while.

Speaker 1 (05:55):
Apparently for three years. Yep. Yeah, that's amazing. That is unrare. Well,
these stories are wild.

Speaker 3 (06:03):
The Tina one that's so sad about this whole thing
is to just have a guy just basically say, you know,
I'm not doing anything, but then he's sent in flowers
to a couple of different people. Lydia just got a
hang up, a pick up and hang up from that
the person that he sent him to.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
What's up, Nicole?

Speaker 2 (06:25):
Hi Mojo? So I was talking to a dude on
Facebook dating and we ended up having mutual friends, and
I ended up finding his profile, found the girlfriend and
ended up sending her the Hey girly text message, Hey,
your boyfriend's on Facebook dating, and we ended up talking
with her and ended up having a.

Speaker 1 (06:46):
Coffee date with her.

Speaker 3 (06:48):
Oh geez, So you actually can meet good people on
Facebook dating. It's just the person that has the mutual
dating person there.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
Huh the girl?

Speaker 2 (06:58):
No no, no, no, no no no, he was cheating.

Speaker 4 (07:00):
No I know, but I'm saying I got a friend
out of the whole deal.

Speaker 1 (07:04):
Were you guys friendly with each other when you went
on your coffee date?

Speaker 7 (07:08):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (07:08):
Yeah, it was really sweet. She was actually very thankful.
She ended up breaking up with him that day.

Speaker 1 (07:13):
Did you guys share a lot about each other? Like?

Speaker 3 (07:16):
Were you able to share a lot about this guy?
Like did he say the same things to both of you?

Speaker 1 (07:21):
Well?

Speaker 2 (07:22):
I actually knew him from high school?

Speaker 3 (07:24):
Oh okay, so you were able to probably share a
little bit more than she was because you knew him
for a little bit longer.

Speaker 1 (07:31):
That's amazing.

Speaker 3 (07:33):
Beverly dated a guy for how many years?

Speaker 2 (07:37):
For three years?

Speaker 1 (07:39):
And how many years? Was he on a dating app?

Speaker 6 (07:42):
So when me and him first started dating, I noticed it.
We were really out to eat one night and I
had seen and like a notification for a tender pop
up on his phone and I had asked him, I'm like,
you have tender Stiff. He's like, yeah, it's not active,
but I'm like, you're on it, so clearly you're still
using it. And all my friends that are on there

(08:05):
like send me screenshots that is pro following. Every picture
that is on there is changed, like it's different each time.

Speaker 3 (08:12):
Wow, so he's actually updated? Oh yeah, man? Yes, so
you're so you're with him for three years? How many
years do you think he was still on tender I.

Speaker 6 (08:21):
Would probably say it was maybe before me and him
started dating.

Speaker 3 (08:26):
So he's on there the entire time you guys were
dating then, yes, Wow. And keeping it updated too, making
sure he's got fresh photos. Got to keep your photos fresh.
Listen to Bailey here, Bailey, you met on Facebook dating
a guy that you said that you were like head

(08:47):
over heels for.

Speaker 8 (08:49):
Yes, and he was like saying all the right things
to me, and I just so happened to try to
find him on the real Facebook. And when I found him,
he was get married, but I didn't message his wife.
I just ghosted him.

Speaker 3 (09:04):
Oh wow, So he does he know why you ghosted him?

Speaker 6 (09:09):
I don't know.

Speaker 8 (09:10):
Men can put two and two together.

Speaker 1 (09:12):
I don't think he was slow. Why did you not
get the wife involved?

Speaker 8 (09:18):
I just didn't have time for that mess because they
can go one or two ways. He could either lash
out at me or she would be like, thank you
girl for being a girl's girl.

Speaker 1 (09:27):
And I don't got time for like boy crazy women.
So how long have you guys been together?

Speaker 8 (09:33):
We were I was talking to him for about six months.

Speaker 1 (09:35):
But have you ever met him in person?

Speaker 2 (09:38):
Girls?

Speaker 8 (09:39):
Yes, oh my god. He took me out to eat
in downtown Detroit to park and then he took me
out to Royal Oak. No, it was Birmingham. We went
to like the pub in Birmingham.

Speaker 1 (09:48):
Yeah. And where did the guy live with his wife?
I think they live in Detroit.

Speaker 6 (09:55):
I'm not sure.

Speaker 1 (09:55):
I never been to his house.

Speaker 3 (09:57):
What would you do if you guys were out, like say,
you and friends and you happened upon him and the
wife noticing that he knows you?

Speaker 1 (10:06):
Great question.

Speaker 6 (10:08):
I don't know.

Speaker 8 (10:08):
I just knowing me, I'm gonna stay, but I don't know,
just hope for the best. I'm gonna just say, oh
my god, you have one of those faces that looks familiar.

Speaker 3 (10:18):
I don't know, and just kind of like play it
off like you know who he is, but you're not
going to say anything to them about how you really
know who he is.

Speaker 1 (10:28):
Yeah, this is Beverly, This is Bail Bailey. Where are
you from? Bailey, Mississippi. O.

Speaker 8 (10:38):
I know, I really didn't even want to say my
name because I don't know if he listens.

Speaker 1 (10:43):
Too many of Bailey's up here sound like you. Yeah,
you was on the air. Well, thank you for the call.
I appreciate it, of course.

Speaker 7 (10:54):
Bye.