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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's mo Joe in the Morning Show. When Mom says no,
(00:03):
step dad says yes.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
I mean, we've dealt with this with mom and dad,
with myself and my ex husband and my kids living
in two separate households, and my ex husband and here
and I try to curb this as much as we
possibly can in a line, and we're on the same page,
you know, on almost everything. Well, you guys have been
to my house before, so you know that I have
(00:29):
two different levels almost to my roof, a level that
is slightly closer to the ground and then like a
roof roof. That being said, it's still a roof, and
there is access to that lower level of my roof
from one of Lucy's bedroom windows. And I've taken her
out there maybe two or three times, and we'll sit,
(00:49):
you know, at night and whatever, hangout and it's just
like a fun moment. But she knows she is not
allowed to go out there by herself. Somebody has to
be with her because it's slightly scary to get out there.
On one side, it's sloped and she could fall anyway.
She's been asking me to go out there and lay
a blanket down and read or listen to music, watch
her iPad, whatever, And I keep telling her no because
(01:11):
I'm either busy doing something else, or we have somewhere
to go, whatever the reason. I want to make make
sure that I am up there when she is up there. Well,
lo and behold, I'm doing yard work the other day
and I look up and I see Lucy Grace on
the roof with her little headphones in. She's got her iPad,
(01:31):
and I screamed to her, what the heck are you doing?
I told you know, And she said, but mister West
told me I could. So she went around me asked him,
and I'm pretty sure he heard me tell her no
several times, and he was like, yep, go ahead, do
your thing. So just like you said when mom says no,
(01:52):
Now all of a sudden, Stepdad is trying to be
the favorite and says, yes.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Really, but did he do it?
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Did he say to her that she could just go
up there there one time that he was there, or
what did she.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
He wasn't up there with her?
Speaker 4 (02:03):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (02:03):
Really? No?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Okay, but I'm saying but maybe he just let her
go one time and she just mistook that as she
had free reign or something.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I'm trying to.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
And Wes's defense, he definitely didn't hear that conversation.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Yeah, it's it's funny because now you know she knows
how to sneak out as a teenager. She's about to
be oh god, moving on to middle school and then
high school. And there's Lucy going down the street in
somebody's car because she's snuck out of the house.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
My mom is sleeping.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
But it is funny as a step parent being in
that position, you want your step kids to, you know,
to like you, so you'll kind of go against what
mom or dad says.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Because is that weird?
Speaker 1 (02:49):
By the way, because you are your step mom too, Like,
do you ever tell the kids something that you know
that their dad probably would.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Say no to?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
It's more so I don't. I don't. I can't recall
a time doing that. It's more so I will take
their side in a lot of disagreements they have with Wes,
and they know that I'll usually take their side because.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
He's pretty strict. Yeah, he's a strict dad. Does he
get mad at you?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
And I'm way more laid back, So like Kieran and
Samantha know that I'll usually all side with them and stuff, yeah,
and they come up afterwards and think it's funny.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Early in life, I think I was always.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
The fun parent, the one that you know, was like
the fun person that did fun things and would say
yes to everything. I think that it's changed, the roles
changing now in our relationship. I think that Chelsea was
the strict disciplinarian, and now the kids turned to Chelsea
when they need stuff, especially like money, like if they
want money or whatever, like Luke's calling Mom. I think
(03:49):
I told the story on the air earlier this week.
Luke called Mom and said, it's the seniors last weekend
and I want to buy some rounds? Can you send
some money to me? And I'm listening to this going no,
you got he has to live on an allowance, you
know what I mean. And I get the alerts from
Chase all the time. Your account is fifty dollars or less,
(04:11):
you know what I mean, Like when it comes in
there and I'm like, good, he's got five days to
live on the fifty dollars that is left in his account.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
It's like one round.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
But I think I think in the case the case
with kids, if I had if I had step kids,
I literally would probably be Mickey Mouse or Santa Claus.
Speaker 5 (04:28):
Do you think, like to that point of you saying
the rolls have kind of switched as the children have
gotten older, do you think it's easier or harder to
be that stern parents to younger children or older children.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I think for me, when they were kids, I don't
think I spent as much time as I should have
spent with them because I was working so much. So
I think I made up for it by let's go
to you know we used to go. I remember all
the time we would go to what the hell was
that that? That restaurant that I can't remember that had
the ice cream bar. It had an ice cream bar,
(05:00):
Sparky max Maxim.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Sorry, I'm really excited. It was in a bathtub.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Dang.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I would be like, let's go to Maxims, and the
kids would get all excited over that, and Chelsea would
be like, I just made dinner.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Like you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
It's interesting that you talk about the money, though, because
with two separate households like we had. We just busted
Karen in a in a gas money scandal on where
he He'll ask He'll ask mom, He'll ask mom for
gas money.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
You know, forty bucks for guys or whatever, and.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Then he'll tell He'll come to west and be like,
I don't have any gas and I have gas money,
and then we'll find out your conversation.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
He's double dipping him, by the.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Way, Wait till he goes away to college and he
starts trying to get because they run through their money.
Like you talk about the freshman fifteen, you know, whatever
that they put on, they they put that on because
they're spending money like crazy, Like they're eating out all
the time. They don't want to eat on the campus food.
And then they also are drinking a bunch too. So Erica,
(06:06):
what's up is Mojo in the morning?
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Who knew?
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Hey, guys, mister west Uh is a lightweight. He's like said,
he likes to do whatever push you over.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
I just wanted to know, did he actually know you
already told her no, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
I am fairly certain and he would know. My answer
is no.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Yeah, But I don't see Wes as being the type
of person that would override that for Lucy, Like, I
think he respects you too much to do that in
front of Lucy. I feel like, because I'm in uplitted household.
My husband he married me with with my older son,
and he reasons with me on things that I may
say no to, and he'll may he may say, well
go ahead, let him do it, and I'll let them
(06:45):
do it. But we have that conversation. I don't think
wes knew you told her. I'll tell you.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
I love that you're trying to defend this man. But
he does this to me all the time, with any
anything you could possibly think of. The kids want to
go to Dairy Queen after dinner and I say no,
We've already gone. You know, two times this week, all
of a sudden, everybody disappears.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
I check their location.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Where do you think they are?
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Ah?
Speaker 2 (07:05):
That that that is his mo o.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
So do you think it's malicious?
Speaker 4 (07:10):
Do you think he's just like no.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
He's trying to be the favorite.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
So here's a question for you. He's very strict with
his kids, very is he not? Is he relive in
a little bit of the kid's childhood through Lucy and Smith?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
I think yes, And I think it is difficult for
his kids to see, by the way, how lean he
is with luc and Smith, knowing what kind of dad
he was. I mean he's a very fun guy and
a fun dad, but he was strict. That is strict,
so things that didn't go or didn't fly with them,
(07:43):
and he's letting loosen. It's it's flying with loosen Smith.
They're like, wait a second, but that's the.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Benefit of being him. Yeah, this is the this is
the upside. This is like getting to be the like
the fun one.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
He's every once in a while he's mister Brady or
he's what who are the others? What are the other
sitcoms where there was a stepdad that came into play Step?
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Was that like because they had steps I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Just brain blessed his uncle Jesse. His uncle Jesse didn't
watch step It was kind of before me.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
I can see that in all fairness, in all fairness
for Wes when when I've seen him with the kids,
especially with Smith, it's wild.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Man, how could get away murder?
Speaker 1 (08:28):
But no, but no, he's amazing with that kid. Like
that was actually such an eye opening. I remember we
were at that lip sync thing and I think I
pointed out to you, I'm like, look how amazing he
is with Smith and Ball.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
What's up? Stephanie High, Stephanie.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
So Is it possible that he told me to go
ahead because he knew you were in the art and
would be able to see her.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
The excuses people thereon un believe. We're just don't worry.
It's mo Joe in the Morning Show. When Mom says no,
(00:03):
step dad says yes.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
I mean, we've dealt with this with mom and dad,
with myself and my ex husband and my kids living
in two separate households, and my ex husband and here
and I try to curb this as much as we
possibly can in a line, and we're on the same page,
you know, on almost everything. Well, you guys have been
to my house before, so you know that I have
(00:29):
two different levels almost to my roof, a level that
is slightly closer to the ground and then like a
roof roof. That being said, it's still a roof, and
there is access to that lower level of my roof
from one of Lucy's bedroom windows. And I've taken her
out there maybe two or three times, and we'll sit,
(00:49):
you know, at night and whatever, hangout and it's just
like a fun moment. But she knows she is not
allowed to go out there by herself. Somebody has to
be with her because it's slightly scary to get out there.
On one side, it's sloped and she could fall anyway.
She's been asking me to go out there and lay
a blanket down and read or listen to music, watch
her iPad, whatever, And I keep telling her no because
(01:11):
I'm either busy doing something else, or we have somewhere
to go, whatever the reason. I want to make make
sure that I am up there when she is up there. Well,
lo and behold, I'm doing yard work the other day
and I look up and I see Lucy Grace on
the roof with her little headphones in. She's got her iPad,
(01:31):
and I screamed to her, what the heck are you doing?
I told you know, And she said, but mister West
told me I could. So she went around me asked him,
and I'm pretty sure he heard me tell her no
several times, and he was like, yep, go ahead, do
your thing. So just like you said when mom says no,
(01:52):
Now all of a sudden, Stepdad is trying to be
the favorite and says, yes.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Really, but did he do it?
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Did he say to her that she could just go
up there there one time that he was there, or
what did she.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
He wasn't up there with her?
Speaker 4 (02:03):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (02:03):
Really? No?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Okay, but I'm saying but maybe he just let her
go one time and she just mistook that as she
had free reign or something.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I'm trying to.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
And Wes's defense, he definitely didn't hear that conversation.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Yeah, it's it's funny because now you know she knows
how to sneak out as a teenager. She's about to
be oh god, moving on to middle school and then
high school. And there's Lucy going down the street in
somebody's car because she's snuck out of the house.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
My mom is sleeping.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
But it is funny as a step parent being in
that position, you want your step kids to, you know,
to like you, so you'll kind of go against what
mom or dad says.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Because is that weird?
Speaker 1 (02:49):
By the way, because you are your step mom too, Like,
do you ever tell the kids something that you know
that their dad probably would.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Say no to?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
It's more so I don't. I don't. I can't recall
a time doing that. It's more so I will take
their side in a lot of disagreements they have with Wes,
and they know that I'll usually take their side because.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
He's pretty strict. Yeah, he's a strict dad. Does he
get mad at you?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
And I'm way more laid back, So like Kieran and
Samantha know that I'll usually all side with them and stuff, yeah,
and they come up afterwards and think it's funny.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Early in life, I think I was always.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
The fun parent, the one that you know, was like
the fun person that did fun things and would say
yes to everything. I think that it's changed, the roles
changing now in our relationship. I think that Chelsea was
the strict disciplinarian, and now the kids turned to Chelsea
when they need stuff, especially like money, like if they
want money or whatever, like Luke's calling Mom. I think
(03:49):
I told the story on the air earlier this week.
Luke called Mom and said, it's the seniors last weekend
and I want to buy some rounds? Can you send
some money to me? And I'm listening to this going no,
you got he has to live on an allowance, you
know what I mean. And I get the alerts from
Chase all the time. Your account is fifty dollars or less,
(04:11):
you know what I mean, Like when it comes in
there and I'm like, good, he's got five days to
live on the fifty dollars that is left in his account.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
It's like one round.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
But I think I think in the case the case
with kids, if I had if I had step kids,
I literally would probably be Mickey Mouse or Santa Claus.
Speaker 5 (04:28):
Do you think, like to that point of you saying
the rolls have kind of switched as the children have
gotten older, do you think it's easier or harder to
be that stern parents to younger children or older children.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I think for me, when they were kids, I don't
think I spent as much time as I should have
spent with them because I was working so much. So
I think I made up for it by let's go
to you know we used to go. I remember all
the time we would go to what the hell was
that that? That restaurant that I can't remember that had
the ice cream bar. It had an ice cream bar,
(05:00):
Sparky max Maxim.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Sorry, I'm really excited. It was in a bathtub.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Dang.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I would be like, let's go to Maxims, and the
kids would get all excited over that, and Chelsea would
be like, I just made dinner.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Like you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
It's interesting that you talk about the money, though, because
with two separate households like we had. We just busted
Karen in a in a gas money scandal on where
he He'll ask He'll ask mom, He'll ask mom for
gas money.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
You know, forty bucks for guys or whatever, and.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Then he'll tell He'll come to west and be like,
I don't have any gas and I have gas money,
and then we'll find out your conversation.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
He's double dipping him, by the.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Way, Wait till he goes away to college and he
starts trying to get because they run through their money.
Like you talk about the freshman fifteen, you know, whatever
that they put on, they they put that on because
they're spending money like crazy, Like they're eating out all
the time. They don't want to eat on the campus food.
And then they also are drinking a bunch too. So Erica,
(06:06):
what's up is Mojo in the morning?
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Who knew?
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Hey, guys, mister west Uh is a lightweight. He's like said,
he likes to do whatever push you over.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
I just wanted to know, did he actually know you
already told her no, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
I am fairly certain and he would know. My answer
is no.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Yeah, But I don't see Wes as being the type
of person that would override that for Lucy, Like, I
think he respects you too much to do that in
front of Lucy. I feel like, because I'm in uplitted household.
My husband he married me with with my older son,
and he reasons with me on things that I may
say no to, and he'll may he may say, well
go ahead, let him do it, and I'll let them
(06:45):
do it. But we have that conversation. I don't think
wes knew you told her. I'll tell you.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
I love that you're trying to defend this man. But
he does this to me all the time, with any
anything you could possibly think of. The kids want to
go to Dairy Queen after dinner and I say no,
We've already gone. You know, two times this week, all
of a sudden, everybody disappears.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
I check their location.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Where do you think they are?
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Ah?
Speaker 2 (07:05):
That that that is his mo o.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
So do you think it's malicious?
Speaker 4 (07:10):
Do you think he's just like no.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
He's trying to be the favorite.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
So here's a question for you. He's very strict with
his kids, very is he not? Is he relive in
a little bit of the kid's childhood through Lucy and Smith?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
I think yes, And I think it is difficult for
his kids to see, by the way, how lean he
is with luc and Smith, knowing what kind of dad
he was. I mean he's a very fun guy and
a fun dad, but he was strict. That is strict,
so things that didn't go or didn't fly with them,
(07:43):
and he's letting loosen. It's it's flying with loosen Smith.
They're like, wait a second, but that's the.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Benefit of being him. Yeah, this is the this is
the upside. This is like getting to be the like
the fun one.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
He's every once in a while he's mister Brady or
he's what who are the others? What are the other
sitcoms where there was a stepdad that came into play Step?
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Was that like because they had steps I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Just brain blessed his uncle Jesse. His uncle Jesse didn't
watch step It was kind of before me.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
I can see that in all fairness, in all fairness
for Wes when when I've seen him with the kids,
especially with Smith, it's wild.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Man, how could get away murder?
Speaker 1 (08:28):
But no, but no, he's amazing with that kid. Like
that was actually such an eye opening. I remember we
were at that lip sync thing and I think I
pointed out to you, I'm like, look how amazing he
is with Smith and Ball.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
What's up? Stephanie High, Stephanie.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
So Is it possible that he told me to go
ahead because he knew you were in the art and
would be able to see her.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
The excuses people thereon un believe. We're just don't worry.
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