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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it's Mojo in the morning. Now.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Lydia posed the idea to me, do you think that
this is a good idea to do this topic at
this time? And I said, who's the topic with it?
She goes Kevin. I go, no, but we have kids
in the car. And Kevin promised he's going to keep
it clean because Kevin wants to talk about something, and
what is it that you want to talk about?
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Master?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
B you so bad? Now it's going to be clean
from here on out. It's frowned upon, like masturbating on
an airplane. So Josiah's twelve years old. And although he,
in my eyes hasn't expressed yearning for any type of
(00:44):
physical touch from the other sex, which he's articulated that
he's interested in. That's why I say that he's articulated
that he's interested. He I don't know when to have
the talk or when to have the conversation around that.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
The masturbation. Well, I mean, I see you through.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I feel like that startsated. Yeah, I feel like the
masters starts before the actual sex talk and with you know,
when I was younger, I didn't have as many avenues
of internet and technology that these kids have these days,
So my brain probably wasn't on that as soon as
his brain probably could be based on the things that
he's consuming.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
You haven't had to talk with your son and he's
in middle school since what seventh grade? Yeah, I think
you have to have to talk by at least now. Really,
I really do is that you have. I know, we
got parents in cars and with their kids, and I
don't want to like go crazy, but maybe your kids
can help with this one.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
What age do you have the talk?
Speaker 4 (01:40):
Like?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I feel like you can't wait till they're in high school?
But first off, you know how you know, kids explore themselves.
You know, probably I would think a couple three years
before this. Now Josiah is aware. Obviously he knows how
he got here. He we've had those type of conversations
like he's aware, things like that. But I mean, like
(02:01):
a legitimate sit down, this is what happens, this is
where things go, like like all of that type of conversation.
I think that your conversation doesn't have to be all
of that. I think your conversation is about safety and
about don't feel bad about your body and all that
stuff you're gonna you know, but can I be honest
with no, can I be honest? You don't need me,
(02:23):
and you definitely don't need you talking about I know you.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
You'd be like, let me put some music on.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Here, you know what.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
I even what you just said though, was like extremely
helpful because I didn't even think about of course I
thought about the safety, but like, don't be ashamed of
your like that never even crossed my mind even.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Say yeah, like those are normal feelings.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
I think that one of the biggest things we don't
want is we don't want to feel either bad about ourselves,
shame about ourselves or shame about our thoughts and things
that come up too.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Like I think that.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
There's a level of if you do that, it makes
it you more repressed.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
You know.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
I never had to talk, and I don't know if
that was a good thing or a bad thing.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Wow, I don't think sometimes you need it, Like I
never got to talk either. But my older brother, I
think when I was going into high school, I was
going to hang out with a bunch of girls, and
he knew that. He was just like, do you you
know are you active? And I go active?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
What do you mean? Like I've run around?
Speaker 2 (03:20):
I didn't know it right, and then he basically said
to me, he goes, if you ever get with any girls,
you got to make.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Sure, you know, you have protection and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
And I'm like, oh man, you know, and he was like, hey,
I've got him in my room, Like he told me
about that whole thing.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
But what's up, mickey, Hey, good morning.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
I had to talk with my daughter when she was ten,
and I could have had it sooner. Honestly, I think
it's smart to do it younger rather than to wait.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
Well, they also learn in school. I know for Lucy
it was fourth and fifth grade they start to learn
about their bodies and hygiene and their bodies changing. And
then this year I think they in sixth grade they
take it like a little bit of a step further
so that it really is age appropriate. Like I think
some people hear ten and are going, oh my god,
no way, but that's when they're learning about it.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
In our school, we had only one male that was anywhere.
It was the janitor, and so when we were so
when we had health class, they were gonna for the
boys bring the janitor in, and thank god, one of
the dads who is a doctor, volunteered and did the
health version of that. But how weird would it be
to have your janitor with all the keys dangling like
(04:31):
doing it mister Ferris giving us the sex talk?
Speaker 1 (04:34):
What's up, Brianna? How you doing.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
Good?
Speaker 1 (04:37):
How are you guys good? What's going on?
Speaker 6 (04:40):
Okay, So kind of have a question for you when
you were in school growing up, because I feel like
we're around sand Age. I'm thirty, so I was born
in ninety five. They did the videos in fourth and
fifth grade for opposite, So didn't you do that too?
Speaker 1 (04:53):
I don't think we did videos.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
We didn't.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
I don't like literally, and I'm a very forgiveful. I
don't remember ever having like even a sex it. Maybe
I was just playing around the high school and just
didn't even pay attention, but definitely not in middle school.
I don't think we ever brought up sex. And if
it did, it was glossed over. It wasn't like a
real conversation. It was just a box they had to check,
see they I.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Remember that we even got partying gifts, Like wait a second,
I do remember in the eighth grade.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Okay, maybe this is in eighth this is more of
a deterrent or this is what you can expect should
you not use contraceptives.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
In eighth grade, they gave us.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
All like this fake baby with like a wristband and
a baby had a hole in the back, and if
the baby cried or something, you put the wristband in
the back and you had to carry it around for
a weekend. And it was like your baby. It woke
up at any time of the morning. You had to
change the diapers like. That was kind of this is
what it feels like you have a baby. But we
never had like a sex talk. Honestly, the only thing
(05:55):
I remember from school was a sex talk. As weird
does it sound?
Speaker 1 (05:58):
You know, it's not shock me. That was. That was
like the only one.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
It was missus Lens teaching it, and then one of
our you know kids from school's dad doing it too,
But it was it was interesting. And then the thing
that you were talking about we had to have. We
had to carry a bag of rice around.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
I had a bag of flower I had a white baby.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
You had a white what's up, d D.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
Hey everyone, good morning, Good morning. So I have two daughters.
They are both older. One is sixteen and one is
now twenty one. It is a very touchy kind of
some maybe uncomfortable conversation. But one thing that I would
say that was most important to me was I wanted
(06:45):
to make sure that they had the most accurate information
before their peers gave them the wrong and right, because
not everyone has that talk. Sometimes kids here certain things
and then they elaborated differently, and now your kid is
uninformed and doesn't get to make an informed decision for themselves.
So my most important advice is to like, for my girls,
(07:07):
I've always made sure that I was very open that
it was something that they wanted to do, that they
were protected, and it was their choice.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
It's funny you talking about that, and I'm all I'm
thinking about is that for boys? But for girls you
have to worry about it too. You have to worry
about the girls talking about it with the other girls.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Oh for sure. For sure.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
My oldest daughter actually what started to talk for her
was that she came home and told me a discussion
that some girls had at school and she was like,
what are they even talking about?
Speaker 3 (07:34):
And I was like, oh, Lord.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Was it about that them already being active or being sexually?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (07:42):
Interesting, yes, And it was about Joe's age. But they
believe it or not even though our kids are you know,
innocent and great kids, Like, there's a lot of kids unfortunately,
for whatever reason, you know, do things a little bit earlier,
and so you can't you can't stop that part of it,
you know what I mean, And even thinking about it,
(08:03):
you know, like I'm gonna be very honest. My one
daughter that's twenty one, Like once she did start you know,
those sort of interactions, she was very open with me,
and so that created a very good, you know, like
a much better relationship. I was able to make sure,
you know that after she did experience it her first time,
you know, that it was something that she wanted and
that she was comfortable about her you know, her decision,
(08:25):
and made sure that she was okay with it.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Yeah, it's interesting.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
I coached middle school basketball, and one of the teams
I coached, I think every kid on that team, i'd
get warnings from the school, like he got caught today
in the gym with a girl. I mean, like, oh my,
all those kids. If you don't think that these kids
are already making the moves and doing things, they're doing
it even probably younger than middle school, I mean I
think that, Yeah, Katie there, Yeah, I'm there, what's going on?
Speaker 1 (08:55):
So?
Speaker 7 (08:55):
I also have a twelve year old son and recently
caught him, you know, touching himself.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Oh no, but no kid wants that. No boy wants
to have mom catching him doing that.
Speaker 7 (09:09):
You know, At first I told my husband, I said,
you're gonna have to go and talk to him, because
you know, I I don't know anything you know about
that with boys, And you know, we sat him down
and said, you know, it's okay to explore your body,
but don't go beyond that, and don't go looking for
anything online to help you with that.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Would you do? Did you walk in the room without knocking?
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (09:32):
Well he had the door cracked and I was looking
for him. So I walked back to the room and
opened the door.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
And I what did what did you do? Did you scream?
Speaker 7 (09:41):
I just I just closed the door and turned around.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
And what did he do? Did he scream?
Speaker 7 (09:46):
Together? No, he just threw the blanket over himself.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
How awkward was the dinner conversation that night?
Speaker 7 (09:53):
So awkward?
Speaker 4 (09:54):
Well?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I was.
Speaker 7 (09:55):
I wanted to tell my husband and he kind of
acted mad, and I was like, it's okay for him
to explore I mean his body.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
What did you have for dinner that night? Did everything
just look like.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Alison, what's up?
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:13):
So it's kind of embarrassing. But like I was saying
I sent in the text.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
I never my mom never had that talk with me.
Speaker 4 (10:22):
And I have a sixteen year old boy and a
six year old boy, so it's like, how do I
have that talk if the talk was never had with me?
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Is there a father in their lives? No?
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Not all?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Well, then guess what Kevin's gonna have to talk with
Joe his son Josiah.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I'm gonna make a YouTube video. Kevin's holding the class
Alison a pointer and everything.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Hello kids, Uh, perhaps good luck, good luck do something though, Honestly,
you know what boys and girls, you even know what
men and women are like.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Just talk to them. Just tell them to just be
saved and tell them.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Here's the biggest thing I would say as a dad, Allison,
that you gotta be able to say to them if
there's anything that you need to talk about before you
do anything.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
I want you to come to me first.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
I don't want you to go I don't want you
to go to like that mom talked about the kids
in school.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (11:28):
And you got to just be you gotta be okay
with them knowing that it's okay.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Yeah, definitely all right. Thank you for the call. I
appreciate it. You take care of yourself.
All right, it's Mojo in the morning. Now.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Lydia posed the idea to me, do you think that
this is a good idea to do this topic at
this time? And I said, who's the topic with it?
She goes Kevin. I go, no, but we have kids
in the car. And Kevin promised he's going to keep
it clean because Kevin wants to talk about something, and
what is it that you want to talk about?
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Master?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
B you so bad? Now it's going to be clean
from here on out. It's frowned upon, like masturbating on
an airplane. So Josiah's twelve years old. And although he,
in my eyes hasn't expressed yearning for any type of
(00:44):
physical touch from the other sex, which he's articulated that
he's interested in. That's why I say that he's articulated
that he's interested. He I don't know when to have
the talk or when to have the conversation around that.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
The masturbation. Well, I mean, I see you through.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I feel like that startsated. Yeah, I feel like the
masters starts before the actual sex talk and with you know,
when I was younger, I didn't have as many avenues
of internet and technology that these kids have these days,
So my brain probably wasn't on that as soon as
his brain probably could be based on the things that
he's consuming.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
You haven't had to talk with your son and he's
in middle school since what seventh grade? Yeah, I think
you have to have to talk by at least now. Really,
I really do is that you have. I know, we
got parents in cars and with their kids, and I
don't want to like go crazy, but maybe your kids
can help with this one.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
What age do you have the talk?
Speaker 4 (01:40):
Like?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I feel like you can't wait till they're in high school?
But first off, you know how you know, kids explore themselves.
You know, probably I would think a couple three years
before this. Now Josiah is aware. Obviously he knows how
he got here. He we've had those type of conversations
like he's aware, things like that. But I mean, like
(02:01):
a legitimate sit down, this is what happens, this is
where things go, like like all of that type of conversation.
I think that your conversation doesn't have to be all
of that. I think your conversation is about safety and
about don't feel bad about your body and all that
stuff you're gonna you know, but can I be honest
with no, can I be honest? You don't need me,
(02:23):
and you definitely don't need you talking about I know you.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
You'd be like, let me put some music on.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Here, you know what.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
I even what you just said though, was like extremely
helpful because I didn't even think about of course I
thought about the safety, but like, don't be ashamed of
your like that never even crossed my mind even.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Say yeah, like those are normal feelings.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
I think that one of the biggest things we don't
want is we don't want to feel either bad about ourselves,
shame about ourselves or shame about our thoughts and things
that come up too.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Like I think that.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
There's a level of if you do that, it makes
it you more repressed.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
You know.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
I never had to talk, and I don't know if
that was a good thing or a bad thing.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Wow, I don't think sometimes you need it, Like I
never got to talk either. But my older brother, I
think when I was going into high school, I was
going to hang out with a bunch of girls, and
he knew that. He was just like, do you you
know are you active? And I go active?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
What do you mean? Like I've run around?
Speaker 2 (03:20):
I didn't know it right, and then he basically said
to me, he goes, if you ever get with any girls,
you got to make.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Sure, you know, you have protection and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
And I'm like, oh man, you know, and he was like, hey,
I've got him in my room, Like he told me
about that whole thing.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
But what's up, mickey, Hey, good morning.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
I had to talk with my daughter when she was ten,
and I could have had it sooner. Honestly, I think
it's smart to do it younger rather than to wait.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
Well, they also learn in school. I know for Lucy
it was fourth and fifth grade they start to learn
about their bodies and hygiene and their bodies changing. And
then this year I think they in sixth grade they
take it like a little bit of a step further
so that it really is age appropriate. Like I think
some people hear ten and are going, oh my god,
no way, but that's when they're learning about it.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
In our school, we had only one male that was anywhere.
It was the janitor, and so when we were so
when we had health class, they were gonna for the
boys bring the janitor in, and thank god, one of
the dads who is a doctor, volunteered and did the
health version of that. But how weird would it be
to have your janitor with all the keys dangling like
(04:31):
doing it mister Ferris giving us the sex talk?
Speaker 1 (04:34):
What's up, Brianna? How you doing.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
Good?
Speaker 1 (04:37):
How are you guys good? What's going on?
Speaker 6 (04:40):
Okay, So kind of have a question for you when
you were in school growing up, because I feel like
we're around sand Age. I'm thirty, so I was born
in ninety five. They did the videos in fourth and
fifth grade for opposite, So didn't you do that too?
Speaker 1 (04:53):
I don't think we did videos.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
We didn't.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
I don't like literally, and I'm a very forgiveful. I
don't remember ever having like even a sex it. Maybe
I was just playing around the high school and just
didn't even pay attention, but definitely not in middle school.
I don't think we ever brought up sex. And if
it did, it was glossed over. It wasn't like a
real conversation. It was just a box they had to check,
see they I.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Remember that we even got partying gifts, Like wait a second,
I do remember in the eighth grade.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Okay, maybe this is in eighth this is more of
a deterrent or this is what you can expect should
you not use contraceptives.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
In eighth grade, they gave us.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
All like this fake baby with like a wristband and
a baby had a hole in the back, and if
the baby cried or something, you put the wristband in
the back and you had to carry it around for
a weekend. And it was like your baby. It woke
up at any time of the morning. You had to
change the diapers like. That was kind of this is
what it feels like you have a baby. But we
never had like a sex talk. Honestly, the only thing
(05:55):
I remember from school was a sex talk. As weird
does it sound?
Speaker 1 (05:58):
You know, it's not shock me. That was. That was
like the only one.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
It was missus Lens teaching it, and then one of
our you know kids from school's dad doing it too,
But it was it was interesting. And then the thing
that you were talking about we had to have. We
had to carry a bag of rice around.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
I had a bag of flower I had a white baby.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
You had a white what's up, d D.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
Hey everyone, good morning, Good morning. So I have two daughters.
They are both older. One is sixteen and one is
now twenty one. It is a very touchy kind of
some maybe uncomfortable conversation. But one thing that I would
say that was most important to me was I wanted
(06:45):
to make sure that they had the most accurate information
before their peers gave them the wrong and right, because
not everyone has that talk. Sometimes kids here certain things
and then they elaborated differently, and now your kid is
uninformed and doesn't get to make an informed decision for themselves.
So my most important advice is to like, for my girls,
(07:07):
I've always made sure that I was very open that
it was something that they wanted to do, that they
were protected, and it was their choice.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
It's funny you talking about that, and I'm all I'm
thinking about is that for boys? But for girls you
have to worry about it too. You have to worry
about the girls talking about it with the other girls.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Oh for sure. For sure.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
My oldest daughter actually what started to talk for her
was that she came home and told me a discussion
that some girls had at school and she was like,
what are they even talking about?
Speaker 3 (07:34):
And I was like, oh, Lord.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Was it about that them already being active or being sexually?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (07:42):
Interesting, yes, And it was about Joe's age. But they
believe it or not even though our kids are you know,
innocent and great kids, Like, there's a lot of kids unfortunately,
for whatever reason, you know, do things a little bit earlier,
and so you can't you can't stop that part of it,
you know what I mean, And even thinking about it,
(08:03):
you know, like I'm gonna be very honest. My one
daughter that's twenty one, Like once she did start you know,
those sort of interactions, she was very open with me,
and so that created a very good, you know, like
a much better relationship. I was able to make sure,
you know that after she did experience it her first time,
you know, that it was something that she wanted and
that she was comfortable about her you know, her decision,
(08:25):
and made sure that she was okay with it.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Yeah, it's interesting.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
I coached middle school basketball, and one of the teams
I coached, I think every kid on that team, i'd
get warnings from the school, like he got caught today
in the gym with a girl. I mean, like, oh my,
all those kids. If you don't think that these kids
are already making the moves and doing things, they're doing
it even probably younger than middle school, I mean I
think that, Yeah, Katie there, Yeah, I'm there, what's going on?
Speaker 1 (08:55):
So?
Speaker 7 (08:55):
I also have a twelve year old son and recently
caught him, you know, touching himself.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Oh no, but no kid wants that. No boy wants
to have mom catching him doing that.
Speaker 7 (09:09):
You know, At first I told my husband, I said,
you're gonna have to go and talk to him, because
you know, I I don't know anything you know about
that with boys, And you know, we sat him down
and said, you know, it's okay to explore your body,
but don't go beyond that, and don't go looking for
anything online to help you with that.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Would you do? Did you walk in the room without knocking?
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (09:32):
Well he had the door cracked and I was looking
for him. So I walked back to the room and
opened the door.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
And I what did what did you do? Did you scream?
Speaker 7 (09:41):
I just I just closed the door and turned around.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
And what did he do? Did he scream?
Speaker 7 (09:46):
Together? No, he just threw the blanket over himself.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
How awkward was the dinner conversation that night?
Speaker 7 (09:53):
So awkward?
Speaker 4 (09:54):
Well?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I was.
Speaker 7 (09:55):
I wanted to tell my husband and he kind of
acted mad, and I was like, it's okay for him
to explore I mean his body.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
What did you have for dinner that night? Did everything
just look like.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Alison, what's up?
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:13):
So it's kind of embarrassing. But like I was saying
I sent in the text.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
I never my mom never had that talk with me.
Speaker 4 (10:22):
And I have a sixteen year old boy and a
six year old boy, so it's like, how do I
have that talk if the talk was never had with me?
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Is there a father in their lives? No?
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Not all?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Well, then guess what Kevin's gonna have to talk with
Joe his son Josiah.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I'm gonna make a YouTube video. Kevin's holding the class
Alison a pointer and everything.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Hello kids, Uh, perhaps good luck, good luck do something though, Honestly,
you know what boys and girls, you even know what
men and women are like.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Just talk to them. Just tell them to just be
saved and tell them.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Here's the biggest thing I would say as a dad, Allison,
that you gotta be able to say to them if
there's anything that you need to talk about before you
do anything.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
I want you to come to me first.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
I don't want you to go I don't want you
to go to like that mom talked about the kids
in school.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (11:28):
And you got to just be you gotta be okay
with them knowing that it's okay.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Yeah, definitely all right. Thank you for the call. I
appreciate it. You take care of yourself.
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