Episode #5: GIRL, GET UP -- I Didn't See That Coming!

It was the faux pas on steriods! I mixed up the days for an event where I was supposed to work and no one checked in with me to say, "Hey, you're not here. Are you okay?"

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Episode Transcript

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I've ever done something, so I'mgoing to use the word dumb. So
dumb. So how did that happen? What was I thinking? That you
felt like a total failure? Abig fat zero. That happened to me
today. I've been processing it allday long. Yes, I'm having my

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girl get up moment. Join meas we talk about mistakes and how we
deal with them. It's a woman'splace, girl get up. So I

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was supposed to work at an event. I had taken the training during the
week. I had mold over whatI would wear. It wasn't a gala,
but it was I kind of dressup moment. I was just helping
with behind the scenes stuff and checkin and check out, and I really

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looked forward to supporting the event.So today I got up this morning.
I have been thinking all weekend,Friday and Saturday, what shall I wear.
I don't have a lot of partyclothes, and I don't have a
lot of fancy tops. I haveskirts and I have pants, but I
don't have a lot of fancy tops. So I agonized over what am I

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going to wear? And last nightI tried on this, I tried on
that, imagined this with that,and just none of it really seemed to
be working. And it got uptoday and I started my hair and my
makeup early and got my hair right, my makeup right, and decided what
I was going to wear and boundit out the door, got in the
car, and I had a coupleof problems trying to find the place.

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It's only about five ten minutes fromwhere I lived, but for some reason
I couldn't find it. Finally getthere, and there's really no parking.
So I circled the block a coupleof times and I noticed that a car.
I should recognize it's not there,but oh, so what. I
go up to the door and Ipull on it. It is locked,
and I'm like, why is itlocked so supposed to be open for us?

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Why ring the doorbell? And theyopened it as this big old empty
space and nothing's happened, And Imentioned why I'm there, and they go,
oh, that was last night,And I go, are you kidding?
Me said yeah, they just cameand picked up their step. Wow.
I felt like the earth had openedand swallowed me. How did I'm

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not How did I get the datesmixed up? How did I get the
days mixed up? I didn't getthe date mixed up. I got the
days mixed up. I thought thatthe date the event was to happen was
on a Sunday, not a Saturday. And here's the deal. I received
an email from the director of theevent, and at the beginning the director

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wrote see you Saturday, and atthe end, see you Saturday. I
barely glanced at the email because Iknew all the information. I just looked
at the body of it. Ididn't see the beginning. I didn't see
the end. And I show up, dressed up, made up, ready
to step into whatever role they hadlaid out for me, and the event

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was yesterday. But that's not thekicker for me. They did not call
me. They did not email me. I was supposed to be there three
hours before the events started, sothey could have called and said, hey,
Donna, where are you. I'monly five ten minutes away. I
could have thrown on a wig,put on some clothes, thrown some lipstick

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on it, some earrings, andbeen there. But they did not call
me. They did not text me, they did not email me. And
when I called both the director andthe person who was overseeing the event,
the director was very understanding. Ithappens. Maybe you weren't supposed to be

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there for a reason, Maybe itprotected you from something. The overseer of
the events, we didn't want tobother you, and we had plenty of
people. So let me tell youhow I took it. For those of
you who don't know havning figured outabout my picture, I'm an African American
woman and it hit me like thatas an African American woman. Now some
of you will say, Oh,you're doing too much. You're doing too

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much. But why wouldn't you callme? We thought something must have come
out, But why wouldn't you callme to check to see if I was
okay? Why wouldn't you check inwith me? Because now what it looks
like is I'm just a flake.This is in my head and I'm wondering

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the reason why you didn't call meis because maybe in the back of your
mind you suppose that this is whatblack people do. They say yes and
then they don't show up. Orthe second thing that besides that hitting me
as a black woman, and thesecond thing as I had no value,
had no value to the event.Oh, we had plenty of volunteers,

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We had plenty of people who werethere to help us? So I had
no value. It wasn't important enoughto reach out and say, hey,
we have you on the schedule.You're not here? Where are you?
So as it appears as though Ihave no integrity, not only do I
not show up, but I don'teven bother to call to let you know

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I'm not coming? What does thatsay of your view of me? And
so I'm just all over the place, Number one, kicking myself because how
did I get the date the daywrong? How did it get the day
wrong? Did I have the datewrong? At the day wrong? I
was a day behind? And thenthe other of it not being important enough

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to check in with me just tosee what's going on. And that's what
life does to us sometimes, right, it just kicks us right in the
pants, blindsides us, and leavesus standing there going what happened? But
what happened with me is how isit that I got the day wrong?

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And how is it that no onefelt it important enough to reach out to
me to say are you okay?Are you coming? And so what I'm
fighting against is becoming the mistake Imade a mistake. It did not impact
the event, blind not being therehad no effect on it at all.

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They had plenty of people to helpand do what needed to be done.
But I wanted to be there.I wanted to see it. I wanted
to see the people that I know. They're in a different light, dressed
up and ready to have fun andto celebrate. Yeah, so that's where
I am right now. And Iguess I have to ask you the question

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when you when you have a great, big faux Paul like that, when
you this bigfaul Paul, how doyou deal with it? How do you
handle it? What do you sayto yourself? In the name of this
podcast is girl, get up?And so I'm having to say to him

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myself, Donna get up, Getup, out of that, get over
that, move forward. But Istill I'm just a little bothered by the
image people might have of me,simply because I didn't show up and no
one checked to see why I didn'tshow up. I'm about keeping my word

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about being committed about showing up whenI'm supposed to show up. In fact,
I will show up early, maybetoo early, but I will show
up early. And I went throughoutthe day. I went in hand man
nails done yesterday for the event didn'toccur to me. I went throughout the

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entire day. It never occurred tome, went through getting them prepared and
ready to day, never occurred tome, seriously, never occurred to me
that I had the wrong day.I suppose maybe there's a message for me
in it. Maybe God is tryingto tell me something. Maybe the timing

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was not mine. I mean,as I said earlier, it took me
forever to find the place, whichis only five to ten minutes from where
I live. But every time Iput in the address Siri, the navigator
whoever was talking to me, keptgetting it mixed up, kept saying it

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wrong, kept pointing to another city. I would ask for this city,
this street, and it would giveme the street as the city and the
city as the street. And I'mlike, what is wrong with you?
Why are you giving me such ahard time with this? There was something
in this that I'm seriously going tohave to talk to God about. Because

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I was blocked all the way throughit, all the way through, it
blocked yesterday, all the way through. We just had training on Thursday,
so there's only Friday and then Saturdayblocked out all the way through it.
Ever, not once. Did itoccur to me, Donna, you have

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the wrong day yesterday. Had someonecalled me, didn't I say this earlier.
Could have thrown on the wigs andlet's stick a top, some pants
and band there. Oh, maybea little late, but I would have
been there. So that's where Iwas. Sorry, I hit the wrong

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button. That's where I was yesterday, just blinthully, going through my day,
going to Starbucks for my now favoriteiced peach green lemonade, checking out
the crowd at the newly opened Chickfil A, and decided I will go
on Monday or Tuesday, kind oflooking for another top to wear to the

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event on the wrong day. Donna, get up, get up, and
get over this. This is notthe end of the world. However,
I'm going to make sure that peopleunderstand I didn't not show up, just
not to show up. In fact, when the oversea of the event texted

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me back and said it was okay, we just didn't want to bother you.
Figured something came out but you didn'tcheck. And I texted back,
well, I'm glad, You're gladall went well, and I really wanted
to be at the event, andit just bothers me that it looks like

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I ghosted, like I just didn'tshow up, shaking my head. I
use those in the radials, shakingmy head. There are moments like these

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for me. I don't know ifI can speak for you, but for
me, where I have to realizethat my value is not in what I
do. My value is not howI appear. My value is ascribed to

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me by God. He calls medaughter, Jesus calls me friend, and
I am called to represent him wellwherever I may find myself, and to
accept the fact that I am fallible, that I am subject to make mistakes,

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but I am not that mistake.And someday I will laugh about it.
But right now I'm not feeling toogreat about any of it. I
had all this product in my hair, trying to get my hair just right,

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and it looked good. I willadmit it. It looks good,
got it to that style and shapeI wanted it to be in. But
sitting here stewing in my own juices, I got up and washed my hair.
Kinna, get up, get thatproduct out of your hair. Move

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forward. That was then. Thisis now. You've explained it to the
people that need to know it exactlywhat happened. And to the others who
may ask what happened, I don'tknow how I did it, but I
got the day wrong. But I'mglad you all had a good time and

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everything went well. Oh and Idid bid online for one of the items
that I won the bid, Soit shows that I was interested in supporting
the event even if I didn't physicallyshow up. So when you have those
moments like this moment I just sharedwith you, say to yourself, girl,

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get up. It's time to moveforward. There's no need to sit
there mulling over it and mulling overit and mulling over get up and move
forward. Next is waiting for you. And as the director of the event
said, maybe you weren't supposed tobe there. Maybe you were protected from

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something by not being there. There'sa reason behind a God knows, because
not one thing reminded me maybe theevent is today rather than tomorrow. So

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what's a woman's place of woman's placesin the will of God? And God,
whatever your will is for me,that's where I want to be found.
And if your will was that Iwas not supposed to be there last
night, can I accept that Iappreciate the fact that grace was extended to
me by both individuals, but Iam still kind of bummed that no one
thought enough of it to call me, to text me, to email me.

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And maybe they were so busy doingwhat they were doing that they couldn't
take the time to do it.Not one person, not just the director
of the overseer of the event,but the people with whom I was supposed
to work. Not one person thoughtmaybe we should check on her, make

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sure she's okay. But still,regardless of how things appear to be and
whatever people may think as a resultof it, our lives are still in
God's hands. Our destiny still isbefore us. Goodness and mercy still follow

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us, and we can bless thename of the Lord as we trust him
for dext So I just wanted toshare with you how my day went to
day. I pray you've had agreater day, a better day, that
things have fallen in place and allis well. So until next time,

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remember, a woman's place is inthe will of God, and whatever comes
your way, don't you dare sitdown, listen, slay fear, and
stay fearless. Get up and getmoving, girl, Get up