September 11, 2024 • 40 mins
Have you ever wondered why your prayers aren’t being ‘answered’? Or why it seems like you continue to have faith, ask the Universe, and put in your hard work but what you want doesn’t really come to fruition… OR it does but you feel completely burnt out after?
In this episode we dive deep into how you can tap into your "spirit team" or the unseen energetic forces that support you, rather than relying solely on your own effort and hustle. I dive into my personal journey of growing up with a more traditional, goal-oriented mindset, and how I learned to balance that with a more surrendered, flow-based approach.
Key lessons covered:
Ready to connect with your inner goddess so you can MANIFEST your desires with more ease and confidence, flow with the Universe (instead of forcing) and RADIATE your powerful energy? Access the Awaken the Goddess Within Masterclass for FREE here: https://coachlaurenashley.com/goddess-within-live-series/
In this episode we dive deep into how you can tap into your "spirit team" or the unseen energetic forces that support you, rather than relying solely on your own effort and hustle. I dive into my personal journey of growing up with a more traditional, goal-oriented mindset, and how I learned to balance that with a more surrendered, flow-based approach.
Key lessons covered:
- Shifting from a desperate, needy prayer/manifestation approach to one of declaring your desires, stepping into your power and asking for guidance.
- The importance of practicing gratitude, both for what you currently have and for what you wish to manifest.
- Recognizing that you have the power within you to co-create your reality, rather than seeing it as something outside of you.
- Balancing the masculine "hustle" energy with the feminine "flow" energy.
Ready to connect with your inner goddess so you can MANIFEST your desires with more ease and confidence, flow with the Universe (instead of forcing) and RADIATE your powerful energy? Access the Awaken the Goddess Within Masterclass for FREE here: https://coachlaurenashley.com/goddess-within-live-series/
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, I gotta be super real with you right now.
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Last week's podcast episode, if you watched on YouTube, what
the fuck was my hair? So I'm so proud of
me for putting that episode out, but also watching it
back and likely, fuck, that's so cringey. But I think
this is part of the work that we do. Sometimes
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it's better to get something out there life period than
to have it perfect. And I just need to make
a little commentary here. It is currently ten to one
and I'm just sitting down to record. I have been
spending like the last three hours getting my ass ready,
making my hair look cute, doing my makeup, tidying. I
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just don't know. I don't know how people do all
the things. Welcome to the Lined and Magnetic I'm your host,
Laura Ashley, intuitive business coach, certified by the International Coaching Federation,
and they call me the Money, Mindset and Manifestation Queen.
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I take a spiritual and practical approach that's backed by
neuroscience to help you make your vision a reality, but
more importantly, doing it in a way that lights you
the fuck up. If you're ready to create an aligned,
magnetic and profitable business so you can live a life
and do the work you are absolutely in love with.
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You're in the right place. Get ready to hear the
powerful questions and raw lessons that you need to create
success your way. Thank you so much for being here.
Let's dive in. Before I started recording, I pulled an
oracle card from my new oracle deck. This one is
by Rebecca Campbell. It's the Healing Waters Oracle deck. It's
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super beautiful. It's funny because I didn't want to get
the other one because everyone fucking has it and I
don't like that. I don't like to be super mainstream.
And so when I was looking at oracle DEXs, this
one really stood out to me. And I know the
power of water just from my experience in Mexico, having
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the ocean there, the syne of things, I really learned
a lot about the energy of water, the element of water,
and what that brings to healing, what that brings to
our lives. And even though in Montreal we are surrounded
by water, it's literally an island and there's water everywhere,
I still felt like, okay, bringing in this element of
water would be really good. So anyway, that's besides the
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point a little tangent there. But I pulled a card
and two popped out, and I'm going to read you
one of them because I think it's really pertinent to
this episode today when it speaks beautifully. I asked for
guidance to guide the conversation. Of course, as always. Okay,
the car that popped out, which was actually in reverse.
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This book doesn't talk about cards in reverse, but typically
what a reverse card means is that the energy is
yet to be integrated, or it's like there but has
to be worked on to bring into your life. At
least that's my interpretation. The card that popped out that
was in reverse is the planetary wave, and it says
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your soul chose to come into this body, on this
planet at this moment in time. You didn't come here
on your own. You're part of a larger soul team.
Sometimes it can feel as if it's just you and
this thing all alone, but that couldn't be further from
the truth. Your one droplet in a vast ocean of consciousness,
here to flow with life. You're being called to trust
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the current of your own river and to answer the
call deep within. Take off the weight of responsibility that
you need to travel this life on your own calling.
The ones who get you realize that you are part
of a larger team. You are but one thread in
this great tapestry of life. Your mission is clear. Keep
doing what you're called to do. You'll never know the
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full impact that you're being here on this planet will
have and is already having. Keep trusting the call deep within.
The more you embrace who you truly are and surrender
to and flow with the current you're being called to,
the easier it will be for your people to find
you like two rivers that meet, and remember that they're
made of the same things. You're not alone in your calling,
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And there's just an affirmation that says, I trust my
inner calling and play my part in the greater plan.
So I love this card. I feel like it really
encompasses all of the lessons that I learned in Mexico
and that I'm being reminded to bring into this life.
I knew that when I moved to Montreal that I
would be tested, that I would have to work really
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hard to bring in the lessons that I learned in
Mexico because it's such a okay. So Montreal is way
different than like Toronto, and other big cities in the
sense that it's a little bit more laid back unless
you're driving. People are a little bit they tend to
be more like into nature and you know, chilling, and
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the people here are just really different. They're travelers. I
would say that they are people who are similar to
the people that you would find in Mexico. They're a
little bit more eccentric anyway. So the vibe here is
definitely a lot more chill than other really big cities,
particularly Toronto. But it's still a lot of people, a
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lot of movement, a lot of hustle and bustle, and
the lifestyle is different. Right. All of that to say
is I knew I would have to bring my teachings,
my lessons, my biggest lessons from Mexico to here. Now,
I want to start by saying, like, I did not
live my entire life this way. I did not live
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or grow up learning how to go with the flow.
I grew up learning how to set goals and achieve them.
I grew up learning how to work hard. I grew
up learning how to study and do the work and
get the thing that you want, which I don't think
is necessarily a bad thing. But I've noticed that there
are two types of people in the world. There are
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the people who go with the flow of life and
they just flow with the wind, and I think that's
so beautiful. And then there are people who are really
here to hustle and grind it out and achieve big things.
And it's more of that boss babe hustle culture. And
I've lived in both. So I want to bring the
two together for you today and help you see how
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you can shift things in your business, how you can
shift things in your spiritual practice to actually achieve better
results in not such a run yourself into the ground
kind of way, because that's been me right. I've been
there when I first started my business. In fact, I
was doing all the things. I was showing up on Facebook,
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I was posting in grew so I was doing the lives.
I was doing this, I was doing that, and I
had all of the steps right like, I was doing
the work, but the results were not there. I was
really struggling to see results. And I've shared this story
so many times so it's probably familiar to you by
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this point. But I would help my peers to break
through their limitations, their limiting beliefs and reach their goals.
And I kept thinking I was so happy for them
because I learned that in life, it's not about being jealous.
It's not about jealousy. It's not about oh, she had this,
now I can't have that. There is more than enough
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for everyone. And I think when we feel feelings of jealousy,
it's just showing us what we want and maybe don't
believe we can have. And so I was always very
happy for my peers, always super happy to support them.
But it made me question what am I doing wrong
that I can't achieve that goal as well? Right because
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I had worked through my limiting beliefs, I was doing
the physical, action oriented work to get there. So I
want to share with you now this is going to
be over the next couple of episodes. You're going to
hear me talking more about this alignment piece, more about
the energetics of business, and more about spirituality. I believe
that there is one hundred percent practical shit we need
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to do. There is stuff that we can look at
in your visibility strategy. There is stuff we can look
at in your messaging. There are stuff we can look
at in what exactly you are doing to get clients.
There are very practical steps that we can take. And
also what happens when you're doing all the practical steps
and shit's still not working out for you. What happens
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when you are trying so hard and putting so much
time and effort in and things are still not really
going the way that you want them to go. And
so this month I'm dedicating to really diving deeper into
those less and that I learned in Mexico in hopes
that you can learn something and that you can alchemize
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that energy of yes goal achievement. And also how do
we surrender, go with the flow and trust in our
spirit team or trust in the universe the power of
the universe to help us and to co create that result.
I'm all about co creation. I'm all about your magnetism.
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And unfortunately, you can't really alchimize these two different ways
of being if you're so focused on that hustle right now.
We can approach this topic from many different angles. I
sometimes talk about this in the sense of talking about
masculine and feminine energy, which I know there's you know
stuff people don't always agree with the masculine and feminine,
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but it's essentially just two opposite energies, and that is
a law of the universe that you know, opposite attract,
and there are opposite energies, and so, oh, whatever you
want to call it, if it's yin and yang, black
and white, whatever, but there are two opposing energies and
we need to learn how to work with them and
flow through them in order to, like I said, alchemize
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that and bring in the results that you really desire
in this lifetime without feeling so stressed out. So if
you are a coach, if you're a healer, if you
are a service provider, and you know that you're here
to make a difference in the world while also doing
the work that you love and making money to support
the lifestyle that you desire to live. Your ultimate desire
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is to do that work that you love and have
that impact in other people's lives. But you have that
tendency to maybe stay caught up in your office and
grinding it out and looking at your to do list.
Trust me, I'm a Capricorn. I'm very familiar with this vibe.
I was literally taught to keep going, keep going, like
we did not take weekends off as a kid, and
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secretly low key. You're doing all these things to make
shit happen, but the thing that you actually want to
be doing is living your life more. Whether that's spending
time with your kids, taking them out skipping school one day,
taking them out on an adventure, or skinny dipping on
the beach at sunset, or skinny dipping in the lake,
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and just receiving and being in that nice flowy I'm
gonna call it feminine, but that energy of receiving, in
that energy of pure bliss and enjoyment. You want more
of that in your life. This episode is for you.
So today we're gonna be talking about tapping into your
spirit team and shifting the way that you ask or
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pray for guidance. Okay, So I was introduced to prayer,
I would say through my nana. I would go and
spend my summers with her in this cottage in Quebec
and ps, I'm living like a couple blocks away from
where my grandparents grew up. I had no idea, but
I think that's so cool. Okay, we digress. We would
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lay in bed together at the end of the day
and my nana would always pray, and she would pray
for she would say the Lord's prayer, Father, who were
in heaven, Holy be thy name, blah blah blah blah,
and she would thank God for everything that she had,
and she would ask for prayers for everyone that she
knew or could remember and even encountered in that day.
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And it's funny because as a kid, I didn't really
get this. I didn't really understand why she was doing this.
I was again whatever, and it was It's funny because
I would always be like, Okay, now it's time to sleep,
and then she would say something else, oh, and God
bless so and so, and that would just keep going
on until she fell asleep. And so that was like
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my big intro to prayer. We weren't big religious people
growing up. We would go to church here and there,
but neither of my parents were like super religious. My
dad did dip his toe into more of the Bible
and everything as he grew old, and I learned a
little bit from him, and we've had really great conversations
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about it. But I would say, in general, my family's
pretty open minded. We don't necessarily believe in like a
rule book or like the Bible that was written how
many thousands of years ago. Anyway, we're not going to
argue about the Bible just right now. But all of
that to say is we weren't huge on religion. So
religion though at that time because like we're not super
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spiritual people either, Like I didn't come from necessarily like
a spiritual family. It was always like, okay, our spirituality
was linked to church, even though we weren't that religious.
My experience with spirituality was pray for all the things
you want, and I just felt like really disappointed in God.
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At the time. I didn't even know that the universe
like what that was, but I was always disappointed in
God because I felt like he never really answered my prayers.
And mind you, at the time it was stupid shit,
Please let this boy ask me out like stupid stuff.
But thank god God didn't answer all of my prayers
because who knows where we would be. But I do
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remember feeling disappointed. I do remember feeling just doubtful and
not really having that faith. So that experience really propelled
me into this state of being where and I think
society puts this on us as well, where I had
to make everything happen on my own and if I
wanted this outcome. I was responsible for achieving it. And
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you know, if I wanted to graduate university with honors,
I had to do it all on my own and
I had to put the work in and I had
to YadA YadA, YadA YadA. And while I do believe
that we do have to do the work to get
the results that we desire, I also believe that there's
a large I would say the majority of people are
not tapping into the energetic team, the spirit team, the
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energy and the essence that we cannot tangibly see, but
that is there, the essence that essentially brings us all together,
that makes us all connected. I believe that people are
not tapping into this enough. And I include myself in this.
Even though I have learned these lessons, my propensity is
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still to go to hustle right, and then I burn
out and then I'm like, oh yeah, Lauren, ask for help.
So I worked hard my whole young adult life. I
would work two jobs, sometimes at a time. And I
have to tell you, I grew up pretty privileged. I
did not struggle that much. Yes, I have traumas and
little things here and there. I had to wear ugly
clothes to school, that I felt so ashamed of wearing.
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But overall like we were always provided for, We always
had a roof over our heads. And I think the
work that I can do now, though, is to really
elevate some of the things that I did hear because
money was certainly a topic of conversation in my household
and not in a good way. And I think that
has had a really big impact on my relationship to
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abundance and money. And some of these lessons that I'm
going to talk through today have been pivotal lessons in
my ability to call in and receive more money in
my business. So when I first started my business, I
took this same mentality, this hustle mentality, this get all
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the things done, do all the things, this strategic sort
of essence into my business. And what ended up happening
for me is that the strategy I I feel like
I went so extreme with it. Oh, everything has to
be perfect, everything has to be what's the word optimize,
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Everything has to have a reason, and I have to
achieve these numbers to get this result in all of
these things which ended up act just putting a ton
of pressure on me. Now we know from neuroscience and
we teach this in coaching, but we know from neuroscience
that when we feel stressed and under pressure, it activates
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the part of our brain that wants to keep us safe.
So when we are thinking from a place of I
just need to be safe, I need to protect myself,
then the possibilities and the other opportunities that are available
to us are typically closed off in our minds because
we're not thinking from that part of the brain that
can explore, can problem solve, can see different paths forward.
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So when we are in this hyper I'm going to
call it toxic masculinity because that's just what I refer
to it as. You can call it whatever you want.
But I believe that our world is so out of balance.
And this is something that I really understood when I
moved to Mexico because so many people are like, all
we do is hustle, right, we work out really hard,
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we have to get all of the things done. We're
holding so much stuff we are and stuff meaning like
tasks to do. We have to do this, we have
to do that, and our lives basically just become this
like fucking checklist of things that we have to do
that puts so much mental pressure on myself anyway. I
don't know about you, but when I get overloaded with
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tasks to do, I feel heavy. I feel like my
head is like spinning. And often energetically this translates in
me just spiraling in circles, acting like a tornado, and
I'm not really sure. Of course, I get shit done,
but it just feels like really chaotic. And sometimes that's
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one extreme. But sometimes when I don't feel energized that
to do lists and that stress will just shut me down.
I completely. Like they call it analysis paralysis, right, like,
we just shut down. We can't do anything because we're
in that fight flight or freeze mode. Analysis paralysis being
freeze like, we don't know what to do, so we
just our body shuts down. So I remember when I
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first started my business and then I was also learning
about manifestation, that I would just pray for three thousand
dollars a month. I would pray and God, please just
send me like my next two clients, Please just send
me three thousand dollars. Please just this, please just that,
just show me how to do it. And I believe
that this is a form of prayer. But I want
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to touch on a couple of things that you can
do to tweak your asking, to tweak the way in
which you pray and the way in which you work
with the universe to get the thing that you want.
So something that really changed the game for me was
reading the book Asking It is given by Abraham Hicks.
That was a really big game changer. Being in Mexico,
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it really allowed me the space and the time to
reflect on my circumstances. I also actually joined a women's
circle at that time that really helped me to alchemize
all of these different energies. This women's circle is actually
the idea that sparked Rise God is for me. We
grow up in a society that's so cold and closed off,
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and we really miss out on the wisdom that a
lot of us have, deeper wisdom that each of us hold.
That is exactly what Rise Goddess provides. A space to
learn from one another, a space to support one another,
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a space to collaborate, to share and to process, for sure,
but to learn from other women who have learned valuable
lessons and who can reflect their journeys and whatever it
is that they're reflecting on and bring that into the
space for other women. To learn. It's so powerful to
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hear from other people who are all also on a
journey of self awareness, a journey of personal growth, and
to hear the connections that they're making in their minds
about their life path and what they're learning in the world,
and how everyone can take those lessons and bring them
into their lives. It's so beautiful to have a space
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where every woman has a gift that they can bring
to the table. So anyway, that is what I created
Rise God Is for, because I noticed that this was
a really big missing area in the business world and
in the Western culture that I believe we really need
more of. So I read Abraham Hicks, I joined the
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Women's Circle, and then I had to put a lot
of my awareness into practice, because we can have awareness
and we can have knowledge of things right, but if
we don't actually practice that in reality, we are not
integrating the lesson. Having a bunch of knowledge does absolutely
nothing for you if you don't have follow through. If
you don't have so you might very well be versed
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in a lot of spiritual concepts. You might know a
lot about energetics, you might know a lot about masculine
and feminine. You might not know a lot about yourself,
but if you are not doing anything with that information,
then it's not serving you in any way. It's almost
as if you didn't know it at all. I want
to highlight now the top mistakes that you might be
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making in your co creative relationship with God or the universe,
and opportunities for you to step more into your power.
So the reason that this came up is I was
actually on a little mini vacation, so Alexis and I
went and ran a Spartan race, my first ever Spartan
race in Mo Treumbla here in Quebec. It was beautiful.
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We stayed at this gorgeous little cottage that I absolutely loved,
and being in this city, I'm super sensitive, and I
think after being in Mexico for a while, I am
even more sensitive. I'm very sensitive to energy. I can
literally feel my heart racing when I come back at
night from my walks with my dogs. And this isn't
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something that I've felt before. It's just pretty much been
something that has been happening here. But I just I
find it super interesting. And when we got to this
little cottage out in the Laurn tides, it was so peaceful.
It was like I could connect with myself again. I
could feel my power again, I could feel the energy
of the universe and of spirit, and I felt connected,
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I felt one with it, and it was a really
beautiful experience to go through that. After being in Montreal
for a couple months now and just going through that,
Oh my god, I'm so anxious energy. So what I
notice is that a lot of let me just speak
from my own experience, because I don't know necessarily how
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you work with prayer. I noticed for myself that when
I'm in a place of dust, or when I'm in
a place of not trusting my path and not trusting myself,
that my prayers feel more desperate. My prayers feel more
out of like deep need, like God, I really need this,
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please please send me, please help me. Please. Oh oh,
I just you know what I mean, and kind of
like a little bit more whiny, which again, nothing wrong
with this, right, I think there is something very beautiful
about surrendering to a higher power and being in that
place of Lord. I really don't know or God or universe.
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I really don't know what's next for me. I don't
know how I'm going to make this work. I really
need you and I really need your guidance. I think
that's really beautiful energy. And I also think that there
is such a powerful energy in shifting into this is
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what I need and this is what I'm going to
make happen. And God, Angels, universe, spirit, please guide me
because this is where I'm headed. Right. But it's less
of asking, like almost like asking for permission to let's say,
make ten k oh, please? Can I please just make
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ten k then I'll feel better, right, And it's more
so like, hey, man, listen, this is what I need,
This is what I feel deserving and worthy of. This
is what will make me feel safe and secure. This
is my next step. Please show me anything in the
way of me getting there. Please guide me. Please tell
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me exactly what I need to do. Show me what
I need to do, because this is mine and I
will get there no matter what. Now it's funny because
as I am saying this, I'm like, I just told
them that it's not about hustle and doing it all
on your own. This is a very different energy than
hustle because we're not saying to ourselves like I'm going
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to get there on my own and I'm going to
make this work, and I have to do all of
this shit to get to XYZ. This is more of
this is what I'm achieving. This is what I say,
I'm going to make happen. And please guide me and
please show me how, and please whatever something that I
believe this is taught pretty universally and manifestation. But the
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desires that come to us, it is believed that those
also come from God, that those are your divine right
to have, and so a lot of people and here's
something that really tripped me up is I would have
a desire, but then I would talk myself down from
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having that, saying, oh, you don't really need that, or
there are other people who could use more of that, right,
or like, just chill, you don't really need that much.
You can do. You're doing fine, just getting by and
just covering your bills. You're fine, don't worry. So if
this desire mixed with I would say maybe limiting beliefs
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and like old patterns in there, and so it's really
important as a next step to filter that out. But
let's stay on topics. Asking from a place of desperation,
what I would invite you to do is shift into
this is where I'm headed. Show me the fucking way,
you know what I mean. So this isn't necessarily about
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I'm going to figure out how to do this, and
it's not no one else is gonna help me. So
I'm gonna get there on my own. Like I'll show
you bitsch kind of energy. It's more of like a
declaring of this is it help me get there. So
this realization really came to me because I was stretching
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on the deck one morning and I could feel like
all of my senses were just ignited, and I was
talking to myself and I was like, God, please help
me make consistent ten k months so I can do
this more often. That's what happened. I was at the
cottage and I was like, oh my god, I need
to do this more often. I need this, I need this,
I need this. And what's interesting is for me again,
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like I don't know about you, but for me, I
will feel into something that I want, example being at
that cottage, but then I will stress myself out about
making the money to manifest being at that cottage. Where
what I've learned about manifestation is that there are so
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many other ways that we can manifest and bring something
to life. So that energy of just focusing on, oh,
I need to do this, I need to make more money,
and that totally shuts off my creativity and puts me
into that fight flight er freeze mode. Then I get overwhelmed,
and then I'm like, oh my god, why am I
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even here? I hate my life. Lift. So when we
ask from a place of need rather than this is
what I'm calling in, it creates very desperate vibes. And
when we look at the emotional scale, each emotion has
a frequency associated with it. And if you just think
about the law of attraction in and of itself, asking
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from a place of desperation, it's just going to lead
to more desperation. Whereas when we ask from a place
of like gratitude maybe and look at all of the
things that I have, I am so fucking grateful for this,
and can I please call in more of this. Let's
call in more of this energy, right, this is more
of what I desire, This is what I desire to be,
and this is what I love. That's going to bring
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in a way different experience than oh my god, I
need more of this, please help me, And all of
that energy and you know, my entrepreneurial brain instantly goes
into Okay, how can we create more of this? And
this is something that my wife is always telling me.
But as soon as I identify something that I want,
I'm like, Okay, how can I make this happen and
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thinking of all of the ways and like, okay, maybe
I could do this, or maybe I could do this.
And what I realized in that moment as I was
laying on that deck is I was like, let's just
stop and appreciate, because here's the thing, right, Like, whenever
we are in this sort of place, like where we
really love something that we are in, and then we're
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trying to strategize and think about how we can have
more of that and how we can do more of
whatever it is that we're really enjoying at that moment,
we are completely taking ourselves out of the present moment
and robbing ourselves with the opportunity to manifest more of
that thing that we want because we're too busy strategizing
about the future. Right, so we really want to come
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back and shift into the present moment and really be
grateful for all of the things that we have and
all of the things that are available to you. So
gratitude is a really calm, known practice in manifestation. And
I don't think that a lot of people actually know
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how to practice gratitude. And I say this just because
I didn't know how to practice gratitude. When I first
started doing gratitude, it was like a check the boxes
situation and I didn't really see the benefits of it.
Then when I moved to Mexico and learned, Okay, this
is actually what gratitude is, it became more of a
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really feeling deeply into the expansiveness of the gratitude. So
gratitude is a feeling, right like, have you ever had
an experience where you just felt so freaking happy and
so grateful for something, whether somebody gave you something and
you were just like, oh my god, I am so grateful,
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or where I don't know, maybe you fell in love
and you just like were so thankful for that person
in your life. That those feelings of gratitude is what
we want to admit. And so when we're doing our
daily gratitude practices, taking a moment and if it's becoming
like a checklist item for you, I would highly encourage
you to shift how you're practicing gratitude, but really taking
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moments throughout the day or just even in the morning
to be present with what you have and to really
feel into all of the things. So something that I
like to do is I like to go for a
walk in the morning, and I like to be grateful
for the breeze, grateful for the weather, grateful for the trees,
grateful for my surroundings, grateful for my girls, and the
list goes on, right, But really taking that moment to
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sit there and be in that energy is so potent
and powerful, and that's going to shift the way that
you manifest. Now. I've talked about gratitude and the sense
of something you already have, and something that I've learned
is that we can be grateful for what we have
but also shift from what we have into the future
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state as well. So let's say you are launching a
new program and you're like, I don't know who's going
to sign up for this, blah blah blah blah blah,
and like all of these limiting beliefs are coming up
for you, which is fine that happens. What you can
do is, instead of trusting in those limiting beliefs, and
those doubts, you can actually sit in gratitude with all
that you currently do have. So that might look like, hey,
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I'm like super if you don't have any clients yet,
I'm super grateful for my Instagram community and for the
people who interact with my shit. Did you know that
nobody is required to interact with you? We take so
much for granted as an entrepreneur because we expect shit
to happen as a result of our actions, and that
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takes the gratitude away from the experience. It becomes entitled,
and that energy is not the energy that is going
to get you more of what you want. Instead, I
urge you to practice being so fucking grateful that people
are even interested. You have to say that people are
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responding to you, that people are interacting with you and
coming to you for help and support. Right, And if
you're not there yet, then how can you be grateful
for something below that? Maybe that you have found content
online that can help you to start your business. If
you are at the place of having clients, how can
you express gratitude for those people and know that more
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are coming. And so, something that I practice every day
is I thank God the universe for my clients and
I say their name out loud and I say thank you,
thank you, thank you for this client. I'm so grateful
to be able to work with them and to support
them on their journey. And this practice just reminds you.
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It shifts your frequency, first of all, but it reminds
you of what you already have, which is so helpful
because I think so many people are operating in this
state of I need more, I need more, I need more,
I need more in it, and then when does it
ever end? It doesn't end right. Your asks just get
bigger and bigger, and so I think learning how to
live in the present and be super happy with the
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present is really important. I share more about this in
me Awaken the Goddess Within course, you can access that
via the link in the description. I will make sure
that is there. The biggest takeaway that I want to
leave you with is that what you are asking for
is already within you. I think that a lot of
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people are asking from a place of I don't yet
have this, I need this, and it is not in me.
Something beyond me needs to bring it to me. And
this is a huge mistake that you might be making. Instead,
I want to invite you to shift into your power
and your inner knowing that you can make change. I
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believe that we all have the creator within us. If
you believe in God, I believe God is within you.
If you believe in spirit, I believe Spirit is within you.
If you believe in the universe, the universe is within you.
We have the capacity and the capability to create worlds,
to create whatever it is that we want. And I
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believe that we did come here to master manifestation, to
master creation, to master ourselves and living in a world
that can be pretty hellish, but creating our reality intentionally
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despite the setbacks, despite the shit, despite what everyone tells
you is impossible, or what everyone undermines you about. You know,
so remember that you do have the power within you.
And whenever you feel kind of passive about your manifestations
or like I need this but it's not happening, and
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I don't know, like if you're in that state of
doubt and you're in that state of God, I really
just need this thing, but I you know, you're kind
of like giving away your power there. Remember to shift
back into bitch, You've got this, You fucking got this,
and you can do it and you have the power
within you to co create with the universe. Okay, I'll
be diving deeper into how you can tap into your
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power over the next couple of episodes, so make sure
you're following along. If you haven't hit that download button,
make sure you do that. Make sure you're following us
on Instagram, Aligned and Magnetic or coach Lauren Ashley. I'm
super excited to get into it. If you know that
you are in a place where you need to tap
back into your power and you want to learn how
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to leverage your intuition to guide you to the desires
that you have, I highly recommend jumping in on my
workshop called Own your Intuition. It comes with many trainings
their bite size, you can listen and implement, reflect and
it also comes with an entire workbook as well and
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a meditation to activate your intuition. Click the link in
the description and it'll take you to the Own your
Intuition Workshop. This is super powerful for anyone who feels
like they've kind of lost their sense of power in
their business and you're kind of just getting overwhelmed by
the to dos and the strategies and all of that jazz.
This is going to help you to reconnect with yourself
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and to lead your business intuitively and following what lights
you up, versus feeling stressed out and like you have
to push yourself to do all these things that you
really don't want to do. So I believe that when
we do the actions that are calling us forth, and
when we take the action that is in alignment with
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us by trusting in our body and our inner guidance system,
those are the actions that are going to have traction.
Those are the actions that are right for us and
our always leading us in the right direction. That is
something that I know, trust and believe. Our body is
always guiding us in the right direction. But most of
us aren't listening because we're trying to think our way
to success. We're trying to think our way to the
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strategy that is going to knock your socks off and
change the game in your business. Well, it's not always
about a strategy. It is often about learning to tune
into your body, your inner guidance and ask the universe
for support. Okay, we'll see you in the next episode.
If you haven't left a review yet, I would love
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love you. Thank you so much for tuning into the
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I mentioned today, and until next time, I'm sending you
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waves of abundance.
All right, I gotta be super real with you right now.
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Last week's podcast episode, if you watched on YouTube, what
the fuck was my hair? So I'm so proud of
me for putting that episode out, but also watching it
back and likely, fuck, that's so cringey. But I think
this is part of the work that we do. Sometimes
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it's better to get something out there life period than
to have it perfect. And I just need to make
a little commentary here. It is currently ten to one
and I'm just sitting down to record. I have been
spending like the last three hours getting my ass ready,
making my hair look cute, doing my makeup, tidying. I
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just don't know. I don't know how people do all
the things. Welcome to the Lined and Magnetic I'm your host,
Laura Ashley, intuitive business coach, certified by the International Coaching Federation,
and they call me the Money, Mindset and Manifestation Queen.
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I take a spiritual and practical approach that's backed by
neuroscience to help you make your vision a reality, but
more importantly, doing it in a way that lights you
the fuck up. If you're ready to create an aligned,
magnetic and profitable business so you can live a life
and do the work you are absolutely in love with.
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You're in the right place. Get ready to hear the
powerful questions and raw lessons that you need to create
success your way. Thank you so much for being here.
Let's dive in. Before I started recording, I pulled an
oracle card from my new oracle deck. This one is
by Rebecca Campbell. It's the Healing Waters Oracle deck. It's
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super beautiful. It's funny because I didn't want to get
the other one because everyone fucking has it and I
don't like that. I don't like to be super mainstream.
And so when I was looking at oracle DEXs, this
one really stood out to me. And I know the
power of water just from my experience in Mexico, having
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the ocean there, the syne of things, I really learned
a lot about the energy of water, the element of water,
and what that brings to healing, what that brings to
our lives. And even though in Montreal we are surrounded
by water, it's literally an island and there's water everywhere,
I still felt like, okay, bringing in this element of
water would be really good. So anyway, that's besides the
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point a little tangent there. But I pulled a card
and two popped out, and I'm going to read you
one of them because I think it's really pertinent to
this episode today when it speaks beautifully. I asked for
guidance to guide the conversation. Of course, as always. Okay,
the car that popped out, which was actually in reverse.
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This book doesn't talk about cards in reverse, but typically
what a reverse card means is that the energy is
yet to be integrated, or it's like there but has
to be worked on to bring into your life. At
least that's my interpretation. The card that popped out that
was in reverse is the planetary wave, and it says
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your soul chose to come into this body, on this
planet at this moment in time. You didn't come here
on your own. You're part of a larger soul team.
Sometimes it can feel as if it's just you and
this thing all alone, but that couldn't be further from
the truth. Your one droplet in a vast ocean of consciousness,
here to flow with life. You're being called to trust
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the current of your own river and to answer the
call deep within. Take off the weight of responsibility that
you need to travel this life on your own calling.
The ones who get you realize that you are part
of a larger team. You are but one thread in
this great tapestry of life. Your mission is clear. Keep
doing what you're called to do. You'll never know the
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full impact that you're being here on this planet will
have and is already having. Keep trusting the call deep within.
The more you embrace who you truly are and surrender
to and flow with the current you're being called to,
the easier it will be for your people to find
you like two rivers that meet, and remember that they're
made of the same things. You're not alone in your calling,
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And there's just an affirmation that says, I trust my
inner calling and play my part in the greater plan.
So I love this card. I feel like it really
encompasses all of the lessons that I learned in Mexico
and that I'm being reminded to bring into this life.
I knew that when I moved to Montreal that I
would be tested, that I would have to work really
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hard to bring in the lessons that I learned in
Mexico because it's such a okay. So Montreal is way
different than like Toronto, and other big cities in the
sense that it's a little bit more laid back unless
you're driving. People are a little bit they tend to
be more like into nature and you know, chilling, and
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the people here are just really different. They're travelers. I
would say that they are people who are similar to
the people that you would find in Mexico. They're a
little bit more eccentric anyway. So the vibe here is
definitely a lot more chill than other really big cities,
particularly Toronto. But it's still a lot of people, a
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lot of movement, a lot of hustle and bustle, and
the lifestyle is different. Right. All of that to say
is I knew I would have to bring my teachings,
my lessons, my biggest lessons from Mexico to here. Now,
I want to start by saying, like, I did not
live my entire life this way. I did not live
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or grow up learning how to go with the flow.
I grew up learning how to set goals and achieve them.
I grew up learning how to work hard. I grew
up learning how to study and do the work and
get the thing that you want, which I don't think
is necessarily a bad thing. But I've noticed that there
are two types of people in the world. There are
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the people who go with the flow of life and
they just flow with the wind, and I think that's
so beautiful. And then there are people who are really
here to hustle and grind it out and achieve big things.
And it's more of that boss babe hustle culture. And
I've lived in both. So I want to bring the
two together for you today and help you see how
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you can shift things in your business, how you can
shift things in your spiritual practice to actually achieve better
results in not such a run yourself into the ground
kind of way, because that's been me right. I've been
there when I first started my business. In fact, I
was doing all the things. I was showing up on Facebook,
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I was posting in grew so I was doing the lives.
I was doing this, I was doing that, and I
had all of the steps right like, I was doing
the work, but the results were not there. I was
really struggling to see results. And I've shared this story
so many times so it's probably familiar to you by
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this point. But I would help my peers to break
through their limitations, their limiting beliefs and reach their goals.
And I kept thinking I was so happy for them
because I learned that in life, it's not about being jealous.
It's not about jealousy. It's not about oh, she had this,
now I can't have that. There is more than enough
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for everyone. And I think when we feel feelings of jealousy,
it's just showing us what we want and maybe don't
believe we can have. And so I was always very
happy for my peers, always super happy to support them.
But it made me question what am I doing wrong
that I can't achieve that goal as well? Right because
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I had worked through my limiting beliefs, I was doing
the physical, action oriented work to get there. So I
want to share with you now this is going to
be over the next couple of episodes. You're going to
hear me talking more about this alignment piece, more about
the energetics of business, and more about spirituality. I believe
that there is one hundred percent practical shit we need
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to do. There is stuff that we can look at
in your visibility strategy. There is stuff we can look
at in your messaging. There are stuff we can look
at in what exactly you are doing to get clients.
There are very practical steps that we can take. And
also what happens when you're doing all the practical steps
and shit's still not working out for you. What happens
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when you are trying so hard and putting so much
time and effort in and things are still not really
going the way that you want them to go. And
so this month I'm dedicating to really diving deeper into
those less and that I learned in Mexico in hopes
that you can learn something and that you can alchemize
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that energy of yes goal achievement. And also how do
we surrender, go with the flow and trust in our
spirit team or trust in the universe the power of
the universe to help us and to co create that result.
I'm all about co creation. I'm all about your magnetism.
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And unfortunately, you can't really alchimize these two different ways
of being if you're so focused on that hustle right now.
We can approach this topic from many different angles. I
sometimes talk about this in the sense of talking about
masculine and feminine energy, which I know there's you know
stuff people don't always agree with the masculine and feminine,
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but it's essentially just two opposite energies, and that is
a law of the universe that you know, opposite attract,
and there are opposite energies, and so, oh, whatever you
want to call it, if it's yin and yang, black
and white, whatever, but there are two opposing energies and
we need to learn how to work with them and
flow through them in order to, like I said, alchemize
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that and bring in the results that you really desire
in this lifetime without feeling so stressed out. So if
you are a coach, if you're a healer, if you
are a service provider, and you know that you're here
to make a difference in the world while also doing
the work that you love and making money to support
the lifestyle that you desire to live. Your ultimate desire
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is to do that work that you love and have
that impact in other people's lives. But you have that
tendency to maybe stay caught up in your office and
grinding it out and looking at your to do list.
Trust me, I'm a Capricorn. I'm very familiar with this vibe.
I was literally taught to keep going, keep going, like
we did not take weekends off as a kid, and
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secretly low key. You're doing all these things to make
shit happen, but the thing that you actually want to
be doing is living your life more. Whether that's spending
time with your kids, taking them out skipping school one day,
taking them out on an adventure, or skinny dipping on
the beach at sunset, or skinny dipping in the lake,
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and just receiving and being in that nice flowy I'm
gonna call it feminine, but that energy of receiving, in
that energy of pure bliss and enjoyment. You want more
of that in your life. This episode is for you.
So today we're gonna be talking about tapping into your
spirit team and shifting the way that you ask or
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pray for guidance. Okay, So I was introduced to prayer,
I would say through my nana. I would go and
spend my summers with her in this cottage in Quebec
and ps, I'm living like a couple blocks away from
where my grandparents grew up. I had no idea, but
I think that's so cool. Okay, we digress. We would
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lay in bed together at the end of the day
and my nana would always pray, and she would pray
for she would say the Lord's prayer, Father, who were
in heaven, Holy be thy name, blah blah blah blah,
and she would thank God for everything that she had,
and she would ask for prayers for everyone that she
knew or could remember and even encountered in that day.
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And it's funny because as a kid, I didn't really
get this. I didn't really understand why she was doing this.
I was again whatever, and it was It's funny because
I would always be like, Okay, now it's time to sleep,
and then she would say something else, oh, and God
bless so and so, and that would just keep going
on until she fell asleep. And so that was like
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my big intro to prayer. We weren't big religious people
growing up. We would go to church here and there,
but neither of my parents were like super religious. My
dad did dip his toe into more of the Bible
and everything as he grew old, and I learned a
little bit from him, and we've had really great conversations
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about it. But I would say, in general, my family's
pretty open minded. We don't necessarily believe in like a
rule book or like the Bible that was written how
many thousands of years ago. Anyway, we're not going to
argue about the Bible just right now. But all of
that to say is we weren't huge on religion. So
religion though at that time because like we're not super
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spiritual people either, Like I didn't come from necessarily like
a spiritual family. It was always like, okay, our spirituality
was linked to church, even though we weren't that religious.
My experience with spirituality was pray for all the things
you want, and I just felt like really disappointed in God.
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At the time. I didn't even know that the universe
like what that was, but I was always disappointed in
God because I felt like he never really answered my prayers.
And mind you, at the time it was stupid shit,
Please let this boy ask me out like stupid stuff.
But thank god God didn't answer all of my prayers
because who knows where we would be. But I do
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remember feeling disappointed. I do remember feeling just doubtful and
not really having that faith. So that experience really propelled
me into this state of being where and I think
society puts this on us as well, where I had
to make everything happen on my own and if I
wanted this outcome. I was responsible for achieving it. And
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you know, if I wanted to graduate university with honors,
I had to do it all on my own and
I had to put the work in and I had
to YadA YadA, YadA YadA. And while I do believe
that we do have to do the work to get
the results that we desire, I also believe that there's
a large I would say the majority of people are
not tapping into the energetic team, the spirit team, the
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energy and the essence that we cannot tangibly see, but
that is there, the essence that essentially brings us all together,
that makes us all connected. I believe that people are
not tapping into this enough. And I include myself in this.
Even though I have learned these lessons, my propensity is
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still to go to hustle right, and then I burn
out and then I'm like, oh yeah, Lauren, ask for help.
So I worked hard my whole young adult life. I
would work two jobs, sometimes at a time. And I
have to tell you, I grew up pretty privileged. I
did not struggle that much. Yes, I have traumas and
little things here and there. I had to wear ugly
clothes to school, that I felt so ashamed of wearing.
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But overall like we were always provided for, We always
had a roof over our heads. And I think the
work that I can do now, though, is to really
elevate some of the things that I did hear because
money was certainly a topic of conversation in my household
and not in a good way. And I think that
has had a really big impact on my relationship to
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abundance and money. And some of these lessons that I'm
going to talk through today have been pivotal lessons in
my ability to call in and receive more money in
my business. So when I first started my business, I
took this same mentality, this hustle mentality, this get all
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the things done, do all the things, this strategic sort
of essence into my business. And what ended up happening
for me is that the strategy I I feel like
I went so extreme with it. Oh, everything has to
be perfect, everything has to be what's the word optimize,
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Everything has to have a reason, and I have to
achieve these numbers to get this result in all of
these things which ended up act just putting a ton
of pressure on me. Now we know from neuroscience and
we teach this in coaching, but we know from neuroscience
that when we feel stressed and under pressure, it activates
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the part of our brain that wants to keep us safe.
So when we are thinking from a place of I
just need to be safe, I need to protect myself,
then the possibilities and the other opportunities that are available
to us are typically closed off in our minds because
we're not thinking from that part of the brain that
can explore, can problem solve, can see different paths forward.
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So when we are in this hyper I'm going to
call it toxic masculinity because that's just what I refer
to it as. You can call it whatever you want.
But I believe that our world is so out of balance.
And this is something that I really understood when I
moved to Mexico because so many people are like, all
we do is hustle, right, we work out really hard,
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we have to get all of the things done. We're
holding so much stuff we are and stuff meaning like
tasks to do. We have to do this, we have
to do that, and our lives basically just become this
like fucking checklist of things that we have to do
that puts so much mental pressure on myself anyway. I
don't know about you, but when I get overloaded with
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tasks to do, I feel heavy. I feel like my
head is like spinning. And often energetically this translates in
me just spiraling in circles, acting like a tornado, and
I'm not really sure. Of course, I get shit done,
but it just feels like really chaotic. And sometimes that's
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one extreme. But sometimes when I don't feel energized that
to do lists and that stress will just shut me down.
I completely. Like they call it analysis paralysis, right, like,
we just shut down. We can't do anything because we're
in that fight flight or freeze mode. Analysis paralysis being
freeze like, we don't know what to do, so we
just our body shuts down. So I remember when I
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first started my business and then I was also learning
about manifestation, that I would just pray for three thousand
dollars a month. I would pray and God, please just
send me like my next two clients, Please just send
me three thousand dollars. Please just this, please just that,
just show me how to do it. And I believe
that this is a form of prayer. But I want
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to touch on a couple of things that you can
do to tweak your asking, to tweak the way in
which you pray and the way in which you work
with the universe to get the thing that you want.
So something that really changed the game for me was
reading the book Asking It is given by Abraham Hicks.
That was a really big game changer. Being in Mexico,
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it really allowed me the space and the time to
reflect on my circumstances. I also actually joined a women's
circle at that time that really helped me to alchemize
all of these different energies. This women's circle is actually
the idea that sparked Rise God is for me. We
grow up in a society that's so cold and closed off,
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and we really miss out on the wisdom that a
lot of us have, deeper wisdom that each of us hold.
That is exactly what Rise Goddess provides. A space to
learn from one another, a space to support one another,
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a space to collaborate, to share and to process, for sure,
but to learn from other women who have learned valuable
lessons and who can reflect their journeys and whatever it
is that they're reflecting on and bring that into the
space for other women. To learn. It's so powerful to
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hear from other people who are all also on a
journey of self awareness, a journey of personal growth, and
to hear the connections that they're making in their minds
about their life path and what they're learning in the world,
and how everyone can take those lessons and bring them
into their lives. It's so beautiful to have a space
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where every woman has a gift that they can bring
to the table. So anyway, that is what I created
Rise God Is for, because I noticed that this was
a really big missing area in the business world and
in the Western culture that I believe we really need
more of. So I read Abraham Hicks, I joined the
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Women's Circle, and then I had to put a lot
of my awareness into practice, because we can have awareness
and we can have knowledge of things right, but if
we don't actually practice that in reality, we are not
integrating the lesson. Having a bunch of knowledge does absolutely
nothing for you if you don't have follow through. If
you don't have so you might very well be versed
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in a lot of spiritual concepts. You might know a
lot about energetics, you might know a lot about masculine
and feminine. You might not know a lot about yourself,
but if you are not doing anything with that information,
then it's not serving you in any way. It's almost
as if you didn't know it at all. I want
to highlight now the top mistakes that you might be
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making in your co creative relationship with God or the universe,
and opportunities for you to step more into your power.
So the reason that this came up is I was
actually on a little mini vacation, so Alexis and I
went and ran a Spartan race, my first ever Spartan
race in Mo Treumbla here in Quebec. It was beautiful.
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We stayed at this gorgeous little cottage that I absolutely loved,
and being in this city, I'm super sensitive, and I
think after being in Mexico for a while, I am
even more sensitive. I'm very sensitive to energy. I can
literally feel my heart racing when I come back at
night from my walks with my dogs. And this isn't
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something that I've felt before. It's just pretty much been
something that has been happening here. But I just I
find it super interesting. And when we got to this
little cottage out in the Laurn tides, it was so peaceful.
It was like I could connect with myself again. I
could feel my power again, I could feel the energy
of the universe and of spirit, and I felt connected,
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I felt one with it, and it was a really
beautiful experience to go through that. After being in Montreal
for a couple months now and just going through that,
Oh my god, I'm so anxious energy. So what I
notice is that a lot of let me just speak
from my own experience, because I don't know necessarily how
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you work with prayer. I noticed for myself that when
I'm in a place of dust, or when I'm in
a place of not trusting my path and not trusting myself,
that my prayers feel more desperate. My prayers feel more
out of like deep need, like God, I really need this,
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please please send me, please help me. Please. Oh oh,
I just you know what I mean, and kind of
like a little bit more whiny, which again, nothing wrong
with this, right, I think there is something very beautiful
about surrendering to a higher power and being in that
place of Lord. I really don't know or God or universe.
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I really don't know what's next for me. I don't
know how I'm going to make this work. I really
need you and I really need your guidance. I think
that's really beautiful energy. And I also think that there
is such a powerful energy in shifting into this is
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what I need and this is what I'm going to
make happen. And God, Angels, universe, spirit, please guide me
because this is where I'm headed. Right. But it's less
of asking, like almost like asking for permission to let's say,
make ten k oh, please? Can I please just make
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ten k then I'll feel better, right, And it's more
so like, hey, man, listen, this is what I need,
This is what I feel deserving and worthy of. This
is what will make me feel safe and secure. This
is my next step. Please show me anything in the
way of me getting there. Please guide me. Please tell
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me exactly what I need to do. Show me what
I need to do, because this is mine and I
will get there no matter what. Now it's funny because
as I am saying this, I'm like, I just told
them that it's not about hustle and doing it all
on your own. This is a very different energy than
hustle because we're not saying to ourselves like I'm going
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to get there on my own and I'm going to
make this work, and I have to do all of
this shit to get to XYZ. This is more of
this is what I'm achieving. This is what I say,
I'm going to make happen. And please guide me and
please show me how, and please whatever something that I
believe this is taught pretty universally and manifestation. But the
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desires that come to us, it is believed that those
also come from God, that those are your divine right
to have, and so a lot of people and here's
something that really tripped me up is I would have
a desire, but then I would talk myself down from
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having that, saying, oh, you don't really need that, or
there are other people who could use more of that, right,
or like, just chill, you don't really need that much.
You can do. You're doing fine, just getting by and
just covering your bills. You're fine, don't worry. So if
this desire mixed with I would say maybe limiting beliefs
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and like old patterns in there, and so it's really
important as a next step to filter that out. But
let's stay on topics. Asking from a place of desperation,
what I would invite you to do is shift into
this is where I'm headed. Show me the fucking way,
you know what I mean. So this isn't necessarily about
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I'm going to figure out how to do this, and
it's not no one else is gonna help me. So
I'm gonna get there on my own. Like I'll show
you bitsch kind of energy. It's more of like a
declaring of this is it help me get there. So
this realization really came to me because I was stretching
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on the deck one morning and I could feel like
all of my senses were just ignited, and I was
talking to myself and I was like, God, please help
me make consistent ten k months so I can do
this more often. That's what happened. I was at the
cottage and I was like, oh my god, I need
to do this more often. I need this, I need this,
I need this. And what's interesting is for me again,
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like I don't know about you, but for me, I
will feel into something that I want, example being at
that cottage, but then I will stress myself out about
making the money to manifest being at that cottage. Where
what I've learned about manifestation is that there are so
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many other ways that we can manifest and bring something
to life. So that energy of just focusing on, oh,
I need to do this, I need to make more money,
and that totally shuts off my creativity and puts me
into that fight flight er freeze mode. Then I get overwhelmed,
and then I'm like, oh my god, why am I
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even here? I hate my life. Lift. So when we
ask from a place of need rather than this is
what I'm calling in, it creates very desperate vibes. And
when we look at the emotional scale, each emotion has
a frequency associated with it. And if you just think
about the law of attraction in and of itself, asking
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from a place of desperation, it's just going to lead
to more desperation. Whereas when we ask from a place
of like gratitude maybe and look at all of the
things that I have, I am so fucking grateful for this,
and can I please call in more of this. Let's
call in more of this energy, right, this is more
of what I desire, This is what I desire to be,
and this is what I love. That's going to bring
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in a way different experience than oh my god, I
need more of this, please help me, And all of
that energy and you know, my entrepreneurial brain instantly goes
into Okay, how can we create more of this? And
this is something that my wife is always telling me.
But as soon as I identify something that I want,
I'm like, Okay, how can I make this happen and
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thinking of all of the ways and like, okay, maybe
I could do this, or maybe I could do this.
And what I realized in that moment as I was
laying on that deck is I was like, let's just
stop and appreciate, because here's the thing, right, Like, whenever
we are in this sort of place, like where we
really love something that we are in, and then we're
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trying to strategize and think about how we can have
more of that and how we can do more of
whatever it is that we're really enjoying at that moment,
we are completely taking ourselves out of the present moment
and robbing ourselves with the opportunity to manifest more of
that thing that we want because we're too busy strategizing
about the future. Right, so we really want to come
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back and shift into the present moment and really be
grateful for all of the things that we have and
all of the things that are available to you. So
gratitude is a really calm, known practice in manifestation. And
I don't think that a lot of people actually know
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how to practice gratitude. And I say this just because
I didn't know how to practice gratitude. When I first
started doing gratitude, it was like a check the boxes
situation and I didn't really see the benefits of it.
Then when I moved to Mexico and learned, Okay, this
is actually what gratitude is, it became more of a
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really feeling deeply into the expansiveness of the gratitude. So
gratitude is a feeling, right like, have you ever had
an experience where you just felt so freaking happy and
so grateful for something, whether somebody gave you something and
you were just like, oh my god, I am so grateful,
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or where I don't know, maybe you fell in love
and you just like were so thankful for that person
in your life. That those feelings of gratitude is what
we want to admit. And so when we're doing our
daily gratitude practices, taking a moment and if it's becoming
like a checklist item for you, I would highly encourage
you to shift how you're practicing gratitude, but really taking
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moments throughout the day or just even in the morning
to be present with what you have and to really
feel into all of the things. So something that I
like to do is I like to go for a
walk in the morning, and I like to be grateful
for the breeze, grateful for the weather, grateful for the trees,
grateful for my surroundings, grateful for my girls, and the
list goes on, right, But really taking that moment to
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sit there and be in that energy is so potent
and powerful, and that's going to shift the way that
you manifest. Now. I've talked about gratitude and the sense
of something you already have, and something that I've learned
is that we can be grateful for what we have
but also shift from what we have into the future
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state as well. So let's say you are launching a
new program and you're like, I don't know who's going
to sign up for this, blah blah blah blah blah,
and like all of these limiting beliefs are coming up
for you, which is fine that happens. What you can
do is, instead of trusting in those limiting beliefs, and
those doubts, you can actually sit in gratitude with all
that you currently do have. So that might look like, hey,
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I'm like super if you don't have any clients yet,
I'm super grateful for my Instagram community and for the
people who interact with my shit. Did you know that
nobody is required to interact with you? We take so
much for granted as an entrepreneur because we expect shit
to happen as a result of our actions, and that
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takes the gratitude away from the experience. It becomes entitled,
and that energy is not the energy that is going
to get you more of what you want. Instead, I
urge you to practice being so fucking grateful that people
are even interested. You have to say that people are
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responding to you, that people are interacting with you and
coming to you for help and support. Right, And if
you're not there yet, then how can you be grateful
for something below that? Maybe that you have found content
online that can help you to start your business. If
you are at the place of having clients, how can
you express gratitude for those people and know that more
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are coming. And so, something that I practice every day
is I thank God the universe for my clients and
I say their name out loud and I say thank you,
thank you, thank you for this client. I'm so grateful
to be able to work with them and to support
them on their journey. And this practice just reminds you.
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It shifts your frequency, first of all, but it reminds
you of what you already have, which is so helpful
because I think so many people are operating in this
state of I need more, I need more, I need more,
I need more in it, and then when does it
ever end? It doesn't end right. Your asks just get
bigger and bigger, and so I think learning how to
live in the present and be super happy with the
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present is really important. I share more about this in
me Awaken the Goddess Within course, you can access that
via the link in the description. I will make sure
that is there. The biggest takeaway that I want to
leave you with is that what you are asking for
is already within you. I think that a lot of
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people are asking from a place of I don't yet
have this, I need this, and it is not in me.
Something beyond me needs to bring it to me. And
this is a huge mistake that you might be making. Instead,
I want to invite you to shift into your power
and your inner knowing that you can make change. I
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believe that we all have the creator within us. If
you believe in God, I believe God is within you.
If you believe in spirit, I believe Spirit is within you.
If you believe in the universe, the universe is within you.
We have the capacity and the capability to create worlds,
to create whatever it is that we want. And I
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believe that we did come here to master manifestation, to
master creation, to master ourselves and living in a world
that can be pretty hellish, but creating our reality intentionally
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despite the setbacks, despite the shit, despite what everyone tells
you is impossible, or what everyone undermines you about. You know,
so remember that you do have the power within you.
And whenever you feel kind of passive about your manifestations
or like I need this but it's not happening, and
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I don't know, like if you're in that state of
doubt and you're in that state of God, I really
just need this thing, but I you know, you're kind
of like giving away your power there. Remember to shift
back into bitch, You've got this, You fucking got this,
and you can do it and you have the power
within you to co create with the universe. Okay, I'll
be diving deeper into how you can tap into your
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power over the next couple of episodes, so make sure
you're following along. If you haven't hit that download button,
make sure you do that. Make sure you're following us
on Instagram, Aligned and Magnetic or coach Lauren Ashley. I'm
super excited to get into it. If you know that
you are in a place where you need to tap
back into your power and you want to learn how
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to leverage your intuition to guide you to the desires
that you have, I highly recommend jumping in on my
workshop called Own your Intuition. It comes with many trainings
their bite size, you can listen and implement, reflect and
it also comes with an entire workbook as well and
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a meditation to activate your intuition. Click the link in
the description and it'll take you to the Own your
Intuition Workshop. This is super powerful for anyone who feels
like they've kind of lost their sense of power in
their business and you're kind of just getting overwhelmed by
the to dos and the strategies and all of that jazz.
This is going to help you to reconnect with yourself
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and to lead your business intuitively and following what lights
you up, versus feeling stressed out and like you have
to push yourself to do all these things that you
really don't want to do. So I believe that when
we do the actions that are calling us forth, and
when we take the action that is in alignment with
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us by trusting in our body and our inner guidance system,
those are the actions that are going to have traction.
Those are the actions that are right for us and
our always leading us in the right direction. That is
something that I know, trust and believe. Our body is
always guiding us in the right direction. But most of
us aren't listening because we're trying to think our way
to success. We're trying to think our way to the
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strategy that is going to knock your socks off and
change the game in your business. Well, it's not always
about a strategy. It is often about learning to tune
into your body, your inner guidance and ask the universe
for support. Okay, we'll see you in the next episode.
If you haven't left a review yet, I would love
it if you did, or if there's something that you're
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taking away from this episode today, I would love to
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and I'll definitely see you in the next episode. I
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love you. Thank you so much for tuning into the
podcast today. If you like what you heard, I would
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I mentioned today, and until next time, I'm sending you
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waves of abundance.
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