December 18, 2024 • 34 mins
In this episode, I dive deep into the potential pitfalls of human design, and how it can either empower or limit us, depending on how we use it. While human design was a game-changer in my business, I caution against over-identifying with it or any other personal development tool as a way to avoid taking action or trusting ourselves. In this episode, I urge you to stop overthinking, reconnect with your body and intuition, and start embodying your true design for long-lasting success and fulfillment.
In this episode, we discuss:
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In this episode, we discuss:
- How I transitioned through a challenging move to Montreal and how routine and self-care were key to shifting my energy and mindset.
- The importance of listening to your body and prioritizing your mental health to avoid burnout, especially as an entrepreneur.
- A controversial take on Human Design - why it can be both empowering and limiting if not approached correctly.
- How using Human Design to box yourself in can lead to missed opportunities, burnout, and confusion.
- The role of intuition in aligning your energy to manifest success and abundance without relying solely on external tools.
- Why self-awareness tools like Human Design, astrology, and other personality tests can be more damaging than helpful when used as an excuse to avoid taking action or stepping out of your comfort zone.
- My personal experience with Human Design and how it unlocked my ability to manifest significant results in my business.
- How to embody your Human Design and align your actions with your true energy to create lasting business success.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The thing that is even more damaging is overthinking and
over identifying with your human design. Welcome to the Aligned
and Magnetic Podcast. I'm your host, Laura Ashley, Intuitive business
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coach certified by the International Coaching Federation, and they call
me the Money, Mindset and Manifestation Queen. I take a
spiritual and practical approach that's backed by neuroscience to help
you make your vision a reality, but more importantly, doing
it in a way that lights you the fuck up.
If you're ready to create an aligned, magnetic and profitable
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business so you can live a life and do the
work you are absolutely in love with, You're in the
right place. Get ready to hear the powerful questions and
raw lessons that you need to create success your way.
Thank you so much for being here. Let's dive in. Hey, love, So,
this is an episode that I've recorded back I think
in January twenty twenty four. It is currently November twenty eighth,
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twenty twenty four, and a lot was going on for me.
I want to post it anyway so that you can
see the evolution. For context, I had just moved to Montreal.
I was under so much stress and so much pressure
because we just pretty much like doubled our lifestyle, and
I knew that an up level was coming. The move
was hard, the move was stressful. It wasn't that it
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was hard, and it wasn't that like I didn't know
that it was right. It was definitely right, and I
definitely knew that I had to do it. But it
obviously comes with an adjustment period. So I'm releasing this
episode today just to showcase the lessons that I was
learning at that time. I'm in such a different space now.
It's really amazing to see how time and definitely like
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routine and taking care of yourself just really can change everything.
There are really good nuggets in here about human design,
but be I want to share with you, like the
lifestyle pieces that I had been going through when I
first got to Montreal back in January. Yeah, I hope
you enjoy this episode.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I say, Hi datny and.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
I know flat Okay, Hi, Hi Loves, Welcome back to
the podcast today. I want to share I guess a
little bit of a controversial opinion about human design, and
it is the problem with human design.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Now, before we get into this.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I'm just stepping out of an energy where I felt
super stressed I felt super like, how are we going
to do it all? And when you're in that level
of energy, it definitely impacts I would say, your energy levels,
but not just your energy levels, it totally impacts the
way that you are being right. So instead of a
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approaching things from like a calm relax.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
I got this, I can do this.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I'm open to receiving God Angel's universe show me the way.
Instead of being in that state, you're more in the
very high stress, like your nervous system is shot. You're
completely just operating spam an empty battery.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
In a sense, but like you have no choice but
to keep going.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
So a big lesson from that is like create more space.
So first thing, create more space, and second thing to
just not do so much. It's not even just like
doing a lot, because actually we can do a lot,
but when we're coming at all of those things that
we're doing for a place of like energetic tightness and
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stress and like I just got to get through this,
and we just feel like we're taking all of the
burdens on our shoulders and we're just trying to make
it through. If you tune into your body and tune
into that frequency, it probably doesn't feel the greatest. You
probably feel very irritated. If anyone interrupts you, you're probably
gonna snap like things like that. That is how you
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know you're not in alignment energetically with your highest self
and where you need to be headed. So I've been
taking vitamins, I've been meditating. I recorded myself a hypnosis
that I listened to every morning before getting out of bed. Now,
I can't say that I've been perfect at maintaining like
really healthy habits because I'm just kind of trying to
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get back into a rhythm and a routine that works
for me. So for the most part, though, I've really
been trying to do yoga every day.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
I'm taking the stairs more.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I'm really trying to get to the gym as well.
But it's like I have to slowly build that because
when I first got here to Montreal and I came
back from vacation, I was working like from nine o'clock
in the morning until seven pm. And I just realized
that I cannot sustain that, and that I deserve to
have free time.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I deserve to take care of my body.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
And I know that a lot of entrepreneurs struggle with
this like, I am so driven by my work. I
am such a motivated and driven person. I want to succeed,
I want to help people. I want to do all
of the things. And just because you want to do
it doesn't mean you have to do all of that right.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
And what's so important, and this is why I.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
You know, was health coaching in the beginning, because it's
so necessary to take care of our body, to nourish
our body, to take our vitamins, to forgive, to forgive ourselves,
to forgive others, to do the energy work and the
mindset work that really allows us to operate in a
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higher frequency, if this makes sense, and that is more
relaxed and not high strung and stress the fuck out
right anyway, I just wanted to kind of share that
just in case anybody listening is struggling with this too.
I want you to know that, first of all, you're
not alone. It happens. But second of all, that you
really need to slow down and to start taking care
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of your body and your mental health. Your mental health
needs to be priority, especially when you're interested in up leveling.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
If you feel like.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
You're kind of in a state of stagnancy in your business,
I can probably guarantee you that it's because you haven't
done your energy work and your mindset work. I'm also
coming to this realization that, like, holy shit, I kind
of like put my mindset work on the back burner
for too long, and I need to circle back. And
I'm so thankful it's such a game changer to just
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come back to what is your goal, what is your vision?
And how can you energetically start to clear the stuff
that's keeping you stuck and to make space for that
goal and to stay committed to that goal. I find
so many people set these big, lofty goals, but then
they don't stay the course right. It's like they want
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that goal, but they don't believe that they can have it,
and so therefore they give up halfway through on their
way to the goal. I love you, Tea. You're just cute.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Do my little buddy?
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I like to sit in this chair. I'll sit on
the couch, or I go to the bedroom and she
just flotows me and she's.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Like, fem mom, are you okay? Can I get to pet?
Please get to see it?
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Back to the topic.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
So what I really wanted to talk to you guys
about today's human design and the problem with human design.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Now, this might be a shocking episode to you.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Because anybody who has been like, if you've been here
for any sort of minutes, if you've been in my
community for even like I don't know, a couple months,
you know that I love human design. You know that
my business literally fucking changed after I started embodying my
human design. Leading up to that change, I was learning
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a lot about business. I was learning a lot about
mindset and manifestation, and I had been doing a lot
of the exercises. Strategically speaking, my business was great, right
Like my strategy was perfect, it was on point.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
In terms of my mindset. I knew I was worthy.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
I was able to coach other people to five ks
eight k like hay in full clients twenty k months,
no problem.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
But when it came to.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Me and my manifestation, I was doing the manifestation work,
I was doing my mindset work, and I had the
perfect strategy, and.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I still wasn't getting resolved.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Some people might chalk this up to like, oh, well,
you just didn't like stay the course, and that's not
true either, because I had been working at my business
and like launching and promoting and doing a lot of
the same thing time and time again. I did the strategy,
I did the numbers, I did all of that. I
looked at the things I needed to look at from
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a realistic and like entrepreneurial perspective.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
There was something missing.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
And that thing that was missing was my human design,
just embracing my energy and how I am designed to
function in this world. So if you know anything about
my story, if you don't, I'm going to tell you
right now. Basically what happened is I learned my business strategy.
I was learning mindset and manifestation. Human design is what
unlocked my next level. So up until to that point,
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I had made like I think the highest month that
I made was like two thousand dollars maybe three thousand
something around that in my business, and it was like
a one time thing. I was making consistently around one thousand,
sometimes one thousand, five hundred. Once I integrated my human design,
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so I learned about human design. I was like learning
a lot, learning a lot, But once I really started
to embody my human design and like seriously give myself
permission to let go, seriously give myself permission to be
myself seriously give myself permission to follow my gut.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Seriously give myself.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Permission to go all in on my vision and my
dreams and what I knew was possible for me. Seriously
give myself permission to let go of the doubts and
just really lean on faith. That is when I had
my first fifteen thousand dollars launch. That is when I
started making five thousand dollars a month. I had eight
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K month as well, And I promise you like this
was such a game changer in my business.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
But I see something happen.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
A lot for people who are just learning about human design,
and it's a really big problem that can actually create
more blockages than you originally came to human design with right.
So a lot of people come to human design because
they want to uncover the secret way that they can
be in order to reach their next level, or why
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things don't feel right, or why whatever like insert what
you want. A lot of people come to human design
not just as a self development and awarees tool, but
to figure out a problem right, to solve a problem
that they're experiencing, which is totally valid. I often hear,
though people say things like and let me know if
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you resonate with this, Oh I'm a projector I shouldn't
work more than four hours a day, or oh, I'm
an emotional authority, so therefore I shouldn't make any commitments,
or I'm a generator, so I can't commit to more
than one thing. Now, I've recently actually found myself using
human design, my human design as a way of giving
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myself way too much permission to over commit myself and
my energy, which is actually what got me into that
place of burnout that I kind of introduced at the
beginning of this episode. So I'll tell you more about
exactly what got me there, and like what I would
do differently.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
And how I thought I was following my design but
I really wasn't.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
It is super easy to slip into excl explaining away
or behavior with human design when it's actually just societal conditioning.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
That's the last thing I want to say about what
I just said.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I'll explain that later, because I want to first focus
on the big problem with human design, and so the
thing that is even more damaging is over thinking and
over identifying with your human design. This isn't even just
about human design itself. It's also about astrology. It's also
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about gene keys, it's also about numerology. It's also about
you know, personality tests like the Meyers Brakes tests for example,
any sort of tool, any agraam, any sort of tool
that you use for self awareness and to really help
you understand more about who you are. There is potential
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for this to happen. So I want you to be
really aware of it because it is a big problem
that I see a lot of entrepreneurs being affected by.
So I notice this issue with a lot of people
who are overachievers. It also happens in people who don't
trust themselves.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
So just have that at the back.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Of your mind as you listen through this episode, and
just keep your finger on like, Okay, what is it
that's really the root of this issue. If this is
something that resonates with you, The thing is that overachievers,
people who don't trust in themselves or feel insecure, is
that they're searching for some sort of answer that is
outside of themselves. They're searching for some sort of external validation,
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some sort of external reason why, some sort of external
answer that's going to give them the secret key to
success or the secret blueprint to their dream life. Right,
And I have a news flash for you. There is
no tool and no person for that matter, who can
give you that answer. You only know that answer, and
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only you can really dig and like discover what that
answer is. It's part of the reason why I love
coaching so much, because coaching helps to facilitate you in
getting to that answer. Contrary to what a lot of
people believe coaching is, coaching is not about like people
instructing you on how to find what answer you're supposed
to do or whatever. It's actually about helping you to
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tap into your subconscious mind and find the answers that
are already there that maybe you're not saying or maybe
not connected with. So these people think that they are
missing something, that they're missing something in their business, they're
missing something in their life, and that human design, if
they just know more about their human design, is going
to somehow unlock the magic recipe for their life. And
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while yes, hear me when I say human design can
really help human design change the game for me, but
human design is not a tool to obsess over and
to just box you in even further than you already are. Okay, example,
when I see posts of like coaches or people in
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the industry like they are like, oh my god, I
have this like social media job posting.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
I need a social media.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Manager, but they have to be a generator. I really
need a generator on my team. Or you know, somebody
is like, oh, like, I really want to do this thing,
but I don't have consistent energy, therefore I shouldn't do it. Podcasting,
believe it or not, was that thing for me. I
really wanted to start a podcast, but I had a
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friend who was like, oh, but your energy's not consistent.
Are you sure you're going to be able to keep
up with a podcast?
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Right? And so.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
This is exactly what I mean by do not use
human designed as a tool to box either yourself in
or somebody else you can do.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Ultimately, at the end of the day, you can do, have,
and achieve anything you want.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Human design is literally just a tool to experiment with
your energy, to validate how you're feeling, and to try
on different ways of doing something to optimize what you're
already doing.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
It is not a tool to keep you small. It
is not a tool to put limitations on you. It
is not a tool to tell you, oh, you can't
do something. It is not that type of tool. It
is not a tool to hold you back. Just as
an example like this whole, I need a generator to
manage my social media.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
So my social media.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Manager, my admin assistant, my virtual assistant Anna, she's actually
a manifestor and she is great at what she does, right,
like she, I don't need to have a generator to
do the social media things.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
She works just fine as a manifestor.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
And so like human design did not come to be
to put people into career categories or job categories. It
cannot tell you what kind of job you would be
good at. It can tell you what type of career
you should jump into. It can't even tell you how
to niche down in your business. But it can give
you clues and awareness as to who you are meant
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to be in this world, what you are here to
embody that's in the incarnation cross, and how your energy
is designed to help you accomplish the very thing that
you want to do.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Okay, So human design is a tool to free you,
not to limit you.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Have I said that enough times, I'm going to keep
saying it because you need to hear it.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
So what I find really interesting is that a.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Lot of people who struggle with limiting beliefs and lack
of faith in themselves and to really struggle to believe
that they can have the life that they are envisioning,
or to be the authority that they need to be
in their business, or to take action in their business
the way that they need to to get to the
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results that they want. These people with those limiting beliefs
are the people that tend to come to human design
and actually use human design as an excuse as to
why they can't do the things that they already were
limiting themselves for.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Does this make sense?
Speaker 1 (18:08):
And so it's a really tricky line to walk between
using this tool as a way of empowering you and
a way of leveraging your energy and aligning your energy,
and using it as an excuse or reason that you
cannot do something. So the reality is that you can
do whatever the fuck you want. And the secret to
finding your magic, your recipe for success is first of all,
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loving yourself and allowing yourself to be your authentic being
and to free yourself from the mental constructs and beliefs
that are limiting you, that are holding you back and
keeping you small. So if you find yourself in this
place where you're looking at your human design and you're like, oh,
like I would love to do that thing, but human
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design reference, Oh I would really love to do that,
this thing over here, I would really love to have
this kind of life, but human design reference. I need
you just stop right there, and I need you to
give yourself permission to follow what you really desire and
follow what you really want, right and not even just that,
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but like follow what you feel called to do. So
I talk about feeling called and like what you feel
called to do in your intuition a lot. I actually
have a course, it's like a mini course. It's called
Intuitive Boss, Babe, and that teaches you all about how
to really connect with your intuition and listen for those
intuitive nudges for the universe speaking to you, for the
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things that you are meant to do that you are
too busy focusing and externalizing on like overwhelming yourself with
everything on the external world, like trying to just like
get to that next level and a crazy chaotic energy,
and we focus on just kind of silencing that and
coming back to self and like, what is it that
I feel called to do? What is it that I'm
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I'm really feeling told to what is my intuition telling me? So,
intuition is like one of the best tools that you
can learn how to use when it comes to manifesting
your dream life, manifesting your dream business, and learning how
to make money for the things.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
That you love to do.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
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will help you too. Okay, see you in there. I
remember that there was this time a couple years ago
when I was really struggling with my confidence in my business.
I had achieved a level of success that I was
very proud of, but then after going through my divorce,
I really found myself questioning like who I was and
what I offered and my value, and like what I
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was doing in the world and what I even claimed
in my business. And I was really trying to look
at human design. I spent a lot of time looking
at my human design and trying to map my niche
and like what it is that I do.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
To my human design. And I have to say, like
it got me somewhere.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
It definitely informed a little.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Bit about like, Okay, what are you here to do?
Like who are you here to be?
Speaker 1 (22:49):
But like I said, human design cannot tell you what
type of business to run.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
It can't tell you.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
What niche to work with, right, And I was even like, oh,
I'm a Capricorn and a lot of my placements are
in my fourth quadrant and my north node is in
the house of career. So I was like, of course,
I'm here to help people build businesses.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
Right, which is true.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
I have a really deep passion in me for helping
people to build businesses. However, I don't have a passion
for sitting there and teaching on strategy.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
I don't mind informing my clients.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Like how to deal with strategy, but My bread and
butter is really like helping people who are already aware
of strategy to customize it to them and to really
make it magical. And when we do that, when we
make a strategy magical and unique to them, it literally
completely changes how they show up. It changes the results,
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it changes everything about the way that they were showing
up before. Because before they come to me and they're like, yeah,
I get this strategy like whatever, and I'm like, okay, well,
how do you feel about that strategy because like, you know,
I'm picking up some funky energy and they're like, yeah,
I don't really love it. But once we get them
behind really loving what it is that they're doing and
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really showing up for and believing in themselves, that's when
shit is just like like they're off to the races
and that is what I'm really good at. So all
of that to say, during this time when I was
really searching for answers, I was even looking outside of
myself because I was, you know, I had just gone
through so much difficulty with you know, getting divorced. I
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was rediscovering like who am I? Like.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
I definitely got stuck.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
In my head and there were a lot of other
factors and variables involved that I won't get into, but
I just want to say that the lesson here is that,
like human design and astrology did not solve my problems.
I solved my problems by like finally just landing on something.
That's the key, landing on something and trying it right.
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I spent so many months just percules and trying to
come up with like, what's the problem, what's the problem.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
The problem was I wasn't showing up.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
The problem was I wasn't out there like experimenting and
trying the thing on right. And So if there's anything
that you walk away from this episode with, it's just
to get out of your head, get out of overthinking,
get out of oversap strategizing, and really get into your
body and get into the action and get into following
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the instincts that you are receiving, the intuitive nudges that
you are receiving right, and go with it and work
on your belief in yourself.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
Okay, Now, before we close.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Off the episode, I want to just share with you
how human design can also be a problem in that
we use it to explain some funky ass patterns or
societal conditioning that we have not yet be conditioned from.
So for myself, I found myself really over committing to
projects and to different things that I thought I was
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really excited about. But let me just walk you through
the process and what I realize now what actually happened.
So I've definitely been in this state over the last
several months where I'm like, hey, I'm ready for the
next level. Okay, let's go, Okay, let's do this, Let's
blow this shit up, let's fucking go. And I'm like,
I know my goal, I know what I want. Let's go,
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let's go, let's go, let's go. But what ended up
happening is I went into like way overdrive. So I've
been asking the universe for signs, like asking for collaborations.
And the thing is that what I realized is that
when committing to projects, instead of tuning into my gut,
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what I actually ended up doing is I made a
decision from my emotions. So for any sacral being that
is not emotional authority. So you know, you might be
a manifesting generator, but you have emotional authority.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
This does not apply to you.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
This is for people who are purely sacral beings, and
they do not have their emotional center defined. So what
I really struggle with is, because we are designed to
amplify other people's emotions, we can sometimes take on and
get confused.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
With decision making.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
So what I tend to see is like I get
sold into doing something through other people's excitement, right. And
this is something that I've really had to decondition and
just be really aware of, because whenever I've made decisions
from a place of like someone else's excitement for something,
but my gut initially kind of like I retract Whenever
(27:40):
I have a gut instinct that something is a no,
my body like feels like oh no, Like I feel
kind of not necessarily a punch in my gut, but
I feel like my body just kind of steps back.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
It's not drawn forward.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Right, And so I always always always get an initial
gut feeling, whether it's lit up or whether it's retracting.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
But where I go wrong.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
Is I continue to like feel it out, and as
I feel it out, I'm getting kind of swirled into
the other person's emotions. And this is particularly relevant as
well when investing. I've made a lot of investment decisions
based on emotions. I had an initial gut instinct. But
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I overrolled that gut instinct and I continued to consider it,
and then I was like, oh, this is sounding really exciting,
this is sounding really exciting. Like sure, I think I'm excited. Yeah,
my gut says I'm excited. But it wasn't my gut.
It was me absorbing the other person's emotional authority and
their excitement for the thing that they're selling me on. Right.
So all of this to say is that we can
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easily explain things away and use human design as like
a cop out or a way of explaining like behavior.
And I just want to say that you know, at
the end of the day, you're our body's always guiding you.
Whether you know human design, whether you know astrology, whether
you know fucking I don't care what it is, your
body's always guiding you in the right direction. The problem
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that I see most often is that people just aren't
paying attention to their body. They're not paying attention to
the signals that their body is giving them, and that
is what's running them into the ground. That's what's making
them burnouts, what's making them lose their passion and get sick. Right,
if we don't listen to our body for a long
enough period of time, we will get sick. It's just
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something that happens. And because we hold all of that
negative energy or just stagnant energy in our body, and
we can overwork certain areas.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
Of our body.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
So all of that to say, if you don't know
anything else about human design, and you only know your authority,
that is enough to help you get into alignment.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Right, because your authority is your intuition.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
It's guiding you, it's telling you yes, no, maybe, Like
it is literally your probably strongest tool as a business owner,
as a high achiever in this life, who is trying
to strive for more, who wants more out of life,
who is here to impact other people, who is here
to do really incredible things, Like I know that you
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are here to live an epic life, and you can
do that by simply following your gut instincts. Sorry, I
want to correct that, not your gut, your authority, because
everyone has a different authority.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
Right. If you are loving this.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
Episode so far, you're like, I don't know, Like maybe
I need to reconnect with my human design now.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
I want to.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Say that you can go down the rabbit hole of
human design However, what I also see is that people
who lack the confidence in themselves are looking for external validation.
They will go down this rabbit hole before they've even
mastered following their authority. So I want to say two things.
If you're listening to this episode and you're like, huh,
this human design thing sounds interesting, I'd love to know
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more about my design. I offer human design readings. I
will drop the link in the show notes that you
can book a human design reading with me. I promise
this can be a really big game changer for you
in your business, and I'm going to help you to
make it be a game changer for you in your business.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
I'll make sure you don't get stuck down that rabbit hole.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
But the other thing I want to say is if
you've been knowing about human design but you're really feeling
like something's off, it's probably because you know you're human design,
but you're not embodying your human design. And I want
to throw this opportunity out there to work with me
one on one. I am really good at helping people
to embody their design and embody the way that they
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are meant to be, and really to get into that
body again so that they can make change and not
just know the changes that they need to make or
know the information, but to live the information. This is
called the triple loop of learning Hargrove's work we teach
us inside of the Coach Approach Leadership Academy. But it
is one thing to know, it is what another thing
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to do. It to another thing to be right. And
so when you can combine the knowing, the doing, and
the being, so your knowledge, your actions, but also the
way that you be, your energetics, the way that you think,
the way that you expect things to happen, or the
way that you expect your life to unfold, that is
(32:20):
how you master manifestation and going after what it is
that you really want, and not just that, but also
master your human design.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
So I would love to help you do that.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
If that feels like it is the right fit for you,
let me know. We can start with the human design
reading if you want, and I will probably let you
know how we can work together long term if that
is something that you're interested in, and if you've had
a human design reading for me before and you really
would like to just work on integrating that information and
(32:51):
work on embodying it so that you're not constantly feeling
like you're headed down the wrong path, but you feel
like you're really lit up with life and lit up
with what you're doing, where you're going, and you feel
really confident and you know yourself, you know what you're
here to do. I would love to help you get there,
so send me a message. Let's work together. I would
(33:13):
love to help you get to where you want to be.
I'm sending you so much love.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
Thank you for being here. If you are interested in.
Speaker 1 (33:21):
Making money doing what you love, make sure you subscribe.
That is everything that I believe in, and I would
love to help you get.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
There as well.
Speaker 1 (33:30):
Thank you so much for tuning into the podcast today.
If you like what you heard, I would love it
if you left a review. If you like my vibe,
come and hang with me in my Facebook or Telegram group.
I'll drop the link to my email list below, or
you can get instant access. Make sure you check the
show notes for any other links that I mentioned today,
and until next time, I'm sending you waves of abundance.
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No
The thing that is even more damaging is overthinking and
over identifying with your human design. Welcome to the Aligned
and Magnetic Podcast. I'm your host, Laura Ashley, Intuitive business
(00:20):
coach certified by the International Coaching Federation, and they call
me the Money, Mindset and Manifestation Queen. I take a
spiritual and practical approach that's backed by neuroscience to help
you make your vision a reality, but more importantly, doing
it in a way that lights you the fuck up.
If you're ready to create an aligned, magnetic and profitable
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business so you can live a life and do the
work you are absolutely in love with, You're in the
right place. Get ready to hear the powerful questions and
raw lessons that you need to create success your way.
Thank you so much for being here. Let's dive in. Hey, love, So,
this is an episode that I've recorded back I think
in January twenty twenty four. It is currently November twenty eighth,
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twenty twenty four, and a lot was going on for me.
I want to post it anyway so that you can
see the evolution. For context, I had just moved to Montreal.
I was under so much stress and so much pressure
because we just pretty much like doubled our lifestyle, and
I knew that an up level was coming. The move
was hard, the move was stressful. It wasn't that it
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was hard, and it wasn't that like I didn't know
that it was right. It was definitely right, and I
definitely knew that I had to do it. But it
obviously comes with an adjustment period. So I'm releasing this
episode today just to showcase the lessons that I was
learning at that time. I'm in such a different space now.
It's really amazing to see how time and definitely like
(01:54):
routine and taking care of yourself just really can change everything.
There are really good nuggets in here about human design,
but be I want to share with you, like the
lifestyle pieces that I had been going through when I
first got to Montreal back in January. Yeah, I hope
you enjoy this episode.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I say, Hi datny and.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
I know flat Okay, Hi, Hi Loves, Welcome back to
the podcast today. I want to share I guess a
little bit of a controversial opinion about human design, and
it is the problem with human design.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Now, before we get into this.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I'm just stepping out of an energy where I felt
super stressed I felt super like, how are we going
to do it all? And when you're in that level
of energy, it definitely impacts I would say, your energy levels,
but not just your energy levels, it totally impacts the
way that you are being right. So instead of a
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approaching things from like a calm relax.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
I got this, I can do this.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I'm open to receiving God Angel's universe show me the way.
Instead of being in that state, you're more in the
very high stress, like your nervous system is shot. You're
completely just operating spam an empty battery.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
In a sense, but like you have no choice but
to keep going.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
So a big lesson from that is like create more space.
So first thing, create more space, and second thing to
just not do so much. It's not even just like
doing a lot, because actually we can do a lot,
but when we're coming at all of those things that
we're doing for a place of like energetic tightness and
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stress and like I just got to get through this,
and we just feel like we're taking all of the
burdens on our shoulders and we're just trying to make
it through. If you tune into your body and tune
into that frequency, it probably doesn't feel the greatest. You
probably feel very irritated. If anyone interrupts you, you're probably
gonna snap like things like that. That is how you
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know you're not in alignment energetically with your highest self
and where you need to be headed. So I've been
taking vitamins, I've been meditating. I recorded myself a hypnosis
that I listened to every morning before getting out of bed. Now,
I can't say that I've been perfect at maintaining like
really healthy habits because I'm just kind of trying to
(04:28):
get back into a rhythm and a routine that works
for me. So for the most part, though, I've really
been trying to do yoga every day.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
I'm taking the stairs more.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I'm really trying to get to the gym as well.
But it's like I have to slowly build that because
when I first got here to Montreal and I came
back from vacation, I was working like from nine o'clock
in the morning until seven pm. And I just realized
that I cannot sustain that, and that I deserve to
have free time.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I deserve to take care of my body.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
And I know that a lot of entrepreneurs struggle with
this like, I am so driven by my work. I
am such a motivated and driven person. I want to succeed,
I want to help people. I want to do all
of the things. And just because you want to do
it doesn't mean you have to do all of that right.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
And what's so important, and this is why I.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
You know, was health coaching in the beginning, because it's
so necessary to take care of our body, to nourish
our body, to take our vitamins, to forgive, to forgive ourselves,
to forgive others, to do the energy work and the
mindset work that really allows us to operate in a
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higher frequency, if this makes sense, and that is more
relaxed and not high strung and stress the fuck out
right anyway, I just wanted to kind of share that
just in case anybody listening is struggling with this too.
I want you to know that, first of all, you're
not alone. It happens. But second of all, that you
really need to slow down and to start taking care
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of your body and your mental health. Your mental health
needs to be priority, especially when you're interested in up leveling.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
If you feel like.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
You're kind of in a state of stagnancy in your business,
I can probably guarantee you that it's because you haven't
done your energy work and your mindset work. I'm also
coming to this realization that, like, holy shit, I kind
of like put my mindset work on the back burner
for too long, and I need to circle back. And
I'm so thankful it's such a game changer to just
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come back to what is your goal, what is your vision?
And how can you energetically start to clear the stuff
that's keeping you stuck and to make space for that
goal and to stay committed to that goal. I find
so many people set these big, lofty goals, but then
they don't stay the course right. It's like they want
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that goal, but they don't believe that they can have it,
and so therefore they give up halfway through on their
way to the goal. I love you, Tea. You're just cute.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Do my little buddy?
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I like to sit in this chair. I'll sit on
the couch, or I go to the bedroom and she
just flotows me and she's.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Like, fem mom, are you okay? Can I get to pet?
Please get to see it?
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Back to the topic.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
So what I really wanted to talk to you guys
about today's human design and the problem with human design.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Now, this might be a shocking episode to you.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Because anybody who has been like, if you've been here
for any sort of minutes, if you've been in my
community for even like I don't know, a couple months,
you know that I love human design. You know that
my business literally fucking changed after I started embodying my
human design. Leading up to that change, I was learning
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a lot about business. I was learning a lot about
mindset and manifestation, and I had been doing a lot
of the exercises. Strategically speaking, my business was great, right
Like my strategy was perfect, it was on point.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
In terms of my mindset. I knew I was worthy.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
I was able to coach other people to five ks
eight k like hay in full clients twenty k months,
no problem.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
But when it came to.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Me and my manifestation, I was doing the manifestation work,
I was doing my mindset work, and I had the
perfect strategy, and.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I still wasn't getting resolved.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Some people might chalk this up to like, oh, well,
you just didn't like stay the course, and that's not
true either, because I had been working at my business
and like launching and promoting and doing a lot of
the same thing time and time again. I did the strategy,
I did the numbers, I did all of that. I
looked at the things I needed to look at from
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a realistic and like entrepreneurial perspective.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
There was something missing.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
And that thing that was missing was my human design,
just embracing my energy and how I am designed to
function in this world. So if you know anything about
my story, if you don't, I'm going to tell you
right now. Basically what happened is I learned my business strategy.
I was learning mindset and manifestation. Human design is what
unlocked my next level. So up until to that point,
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I had made like I think the highest month that
I made was like two thousand dollars maybe three thousand
something around that in my business, and it was like
a one time thing. I was making consistently around one thousand,
sometimes one thousand, five hundred. Once I integrated my human design,
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so I learned about human design. I was like learning
a lot, learning a lot, But once I really started
to embody my human design and like seriously give myself
permission to let go, seriously give myself permission to be
myself seriously give myself permission to follow my gut.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Seriously give myself.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Permission to go all in on my vision and my
dreams and what I knew was possible for me. Seriously
give myself permission to let go of the doubts and
just really lean on faith. That is when I had
my first fifteen thousand dollars launch. That is when I
started making five thousand dollars a month. I had eight
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K month as well, And I promise you like this
was such a game changer in my business.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
But I see something happen.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
A lot for people who are just learning about human design,
and it's a really big problem that can actually create
more blockages than you originally came to human design with right.
So a lot of people come to human design because
they want to uncover the secret way that they can
be in order to reach their next level, or why
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things don't feel right, or why whatever like insert what
you want. A lot of people come to human design
not just as a self development and awarees tool, but
to figure out a problem right, to solve a problem
that they're experiencing, which is totally valid. I often hear,
though people say things like and let me know if
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you resonate with this, Oh I'm a projector I shouldn't
work more than four hours a day, or oh, I'm
an emotional authority, so therefore I shouldn't make any commitments,
or I'm a generator, so I can't commit to more
than one thing. Now, I've recently actually found myself using
human design, my human design as a way of giving
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myself way too much permission to over commit myself and
my energy, which is actually what got me into that
place of burnout that I kind of introduced at the
beginning of this episode. So I'll tell you more about
exactly what got me there, and like what I would
do differently.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
And how I thought I was following my design but
I really wasn't.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
It is super easy to slip into excl explaining away
or behavior with human design when it's actually just societal conditioning.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
That's the last thing I want to say about what
I just said.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I'll explain that later, because I want to first focus
on the big problem with human design, and so the
thing that is even more damaging is over thinking and
over identifying with your human design. This isn't even just
about human design itself. It's also about astrology. It's also
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about gene keys, it's also about numerology. It's also about
you know, personality tests like the Meyers Brakes tests for example,
any sort of tool, any agraam, any sort of tool
that you use for self awareness and to really help
you understand more about who you are. There is potential
(12:51):
for this to happen. So I want you to be
really aware of it because it is a big problem
that I see a lot of entrepreneurs being affected by.
So I notice this issue with a lot of people
who are overachievers. It also happens in people who don't
trust themselves.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
So just have that at the back.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Of your mind as you listen through this episode, and
just keep your finger on like, Okay, what is it
that's really the root of this issue. If this is
something that resonates with you, The thing is that overachievers,
people who don't trust in themselves or feel insecure, is
that they're searching for some sort of answer that is
outside of themselves. They're searching for some sort of external validation,
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some sort of external reason why, some sort of external
answer that's going to give them the secret key to
success or the secret blueprint to their dream life. Right,
And I have a news flash for you. There is
no tool and no person for that matter, who can
give you that answer. You only know that answer, and
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only you can really dig and like discover what that
answer is. It's part of the reason why I love
coaching so much, because coaching helps to facilitate you in
getting to that answer. Contrary to what a lot of
people believe coaching is, coaching is not about like people
instructing you on how to find what answer you're supposed
to do or whatever. It's actually about helping you to
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tap into your subconscious mind and find the answers that
are already there that maybe you're not saying or maybe
not connected with. So these people think that they are
missing something, that they're missing something in their business, they're
missing something in their life, and that human design, if
they just know more about their human design, is going
to somehow unlock the magic recipe for their life. And
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while yes, hear me when I say human design can
really help human design change the game for me, but
human design is not a tool to obsess over and
to just box you in even further than you already are. Okay, example,
when I see posts of like coaches or people in
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the industry like they are like, oh my god, I
have this like social media job posting.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
I need a social media.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Manager, but they have to be a generator. I really
need a generator on my team. Or you know, somebody
is like, oh, like, I really want to do this thing,
but I don't have consistent energy, therefore I shouldn't do it. Podcasting,
believe it or not, was that thing for me. I
really wanted to start a podcast, but I had a
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friend who was like, oh, but your energy's not consistent.
Are you sure you're going to be able to keep
up with a podcast?
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Right? And so.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
This is exactly what I mean by do not use
human designed as a tool to box either yourself in
or somebody else you can do.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Ultimately, at the end of the day, you can do, have,
and achieve anything you want.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Human design is literally just a tool to experiment with
your energy, to validate how you're feeling, and to try
on different ways of doing something to optimize what you're
already doing.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
It is not a tool to keep you small. It
is not a tool to put limitations on you. It
is not a tool to tell you, oh, you can't
do something. It is not that type of tool. It
is not a tool to hold you back. Just as
an example like this whole, I need a generator to
manage my social media.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
So my social media.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Manager, my admin assistant, my virtual assistant Anna, she's actually
a manifestor and she is great at what she does, right,
like she, I don't need to have a generator to
do the social media things.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
She works just fine as a manifestor.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
And so like human design did not come to be
to put people into career categories or job categories. It
cannot tell you what kind of job you would be
good at. It can tell you what type of career
you should jump into. It can't even tell you how
to niche down in your business. But it can give
you clues and awareness as to who you are meant
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to be in this world, what you are here to
embody that's in the incarnation cross, and how your energy
is designed to help you accomplish the very thing that
you want to do.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Okay, So human design is a tool to free you,
not to limit you.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Have I said that enough times, I'm going to keep
saying it because you need to hear it.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
So what I find really interesting is that a.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Lot of people who struggle with limiting beliefs and lack
of faith in themselves and to really struggle to believe
that they can have the life that they are envisioning,
or to be the authority that they need to be
in their business, or to take action in their business
the way that they need to to get to the
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results that they want. These people with those limiting beliefs
are the people that tend to come to human design
and actually use human design as an excuse as to
why they can't do the things that they already were
limiting themselves for.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Does this make sense?
Speaker 1 (18:08):
And so it's a really tricky line to walk between
using this tool as a way of empowering you and
a way of leveraging your energy and aligning your energy,
and using it as an excuse or reason that you
cannot do something. So the reality is that you can
do whatever the fuck you want. And the secret to
finding your magic, your recipe for success is first of all,
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loving yourself and allowing yourself to be your authentic being
and to free yourself from the mental constructs and beliefs
that are limiting you, that are holding you back and
keeping you small. So if you find yourself in this
place where you're looking at your human design and you're like, oh,
like I would love to do that thing, but human
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design reference, Oh I would really love to do that,
this thing over here, I would really love to have
this kind of life, but human design reference. I need
you just stop right there, and I need you to
give yourself permission to follow what you really desire and
follow what you really want, right and not even just that,
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but like follow what you feel called to do. So
I talk about feeling called and like what you feel
called to do in your intuition a lot. I actually
have a course, it's like a mini course. It's called
Intuitive Boss, Babe, and that teaches you all about how
to really connect with your intuition and listen for those
intuitive nudges for the universe speaking to you, for the
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things that you are meant to do that you are
too busy focusing and externalizing on like overwhelming yourself with
everything on the external world, like trying to just like
get to that next level and a crazy chaotic energy,
and we focus on just kind of silencing that and
coming back to self and like, what is it that
I feel called to do? What is it that I'm
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I'm really feeling told to what is my intuition telling me? So,
intuition is like one of the best tools that you
can learn how to use when it comes to manifesting
your dream life, manifesting your dream business, and learning how
to make money for the things.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
That you love to do.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
Hey, Love, I hope you're enjoying this week's episode so far.
I need to stop and let you know about the
Awakened the Goddess Within Free Masterclass. This is honestly a
masterclass that has helped me and has been so valuable
and impactful in my client's lives. So if you are
(20:37):
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greater impact to make, and you can see that you're
maybe not showing up for that vision or you're doubting
that vision, this is the master class for you. So
let me just read it because I'll forget basically what
we're going to be doing in this masterclass is talking
about and I'll be teaching how to reconnect with your
(20:58):
inner goddess. I'm going to walk you through through a
really beautiful meditation to connect with the goddess within you.
We're going to identify the limiting beliefs that are holding
you back from taking really big, aligned action. It doesn't
even have to be big, but aligned action and moving
forward toward your vision. And number three, we're going to
(21:18):
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will help you too. Okay, see you in there. I
remember that there was this time a couple years ago
when I was really struggling with my confidence in my business.
I had achieved a level of success that I was
very proud of, but then after going through my divorce,
I really found myself questioning like who I was and
what I offered and my value, and like what I
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was doing in the world and what I even claimed
in my business. And I was really trying to look
at human design. I spent a lot of time looking
at my human design and trying to map my niche
and like what it is that I do.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
To my human design. And I have to say, like
it got me somewhere.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
It definitely informed a little.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Bit about like, Okay, what are you here to do?
Like who are you here to be?
Speaker 1 (22:49):
But like I said, human design cannot tell you what
type of business to run.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
It can't tell you.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
What niche to work with, right, And I was even like, oh,
I'm a Capricorn and a lot of my placements are
in my fourth quadrant and my north node is in
the house of career. So I was like, of course,
I'm here to help people build businesses.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
Right, which is true.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
I have a really deep passion in me for helping
people to build businesses. However, I don't have a passion
for sitting there and teaching on strategy.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
I don't mind informing my clients.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Like how to deal with strategy, but My bread and
butter is really like helping people who are already aware
of strategy to customize it to them and to really
make it magical. And when we do that, when we
make a strategy magical and unique to them, it literally
completely changes how they show up. It changes the results,
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it changes everything about the way that they were showing
up before. Because before they come to me and they're like, yeah,
I get this strategy like whatever, and I'm like, okay, well,
how do you feel about that strategy because like, you know,
I'm picking up some funky energy and they're like, yeah,
I don't really love it. But once we get them
behind really loving what it is that they're doing and
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really showing up for and believing in themselves, that's when
shit is just like like they're off to the races
and that is what I'm really good at. So all
of that to say, during this time when I was
really searching for answers, I was even looking outside of
myself because I was, you know, I had just gone
through so much difficulty with you know, getting divorced. I
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was rediscovering like who am I? Like.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
I definitely got stuck.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
In my head and there were a lot of other
factors and variables involved that I won't get into, but
I just want to say that the lesson here is that,
like human design and astrology did not solve my problems.
I solved my problems by like finally just landing on something.
That's the key, landing on something and trying it right.
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I spent so many months just percules and trying to
come up with like, what's the problem, what's the problem.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
The problem was I wasn't showing up.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
The problem was I wasn't out there like experimenting and
trying the thing on right. And So if there's anything
that you walk away from this episode with, it's just
to get out of your head, get out of overthinking,
get out of oversap strategizing, and really get into your
body and get into the action and get into following
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the instincts that you are receiving, the intuitive nudges that
you are receiving right, and go with it and work
on your belief in yourself.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
Okay, Now, before we close.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Off the episode, I want to just share with you
how human design can also be a problem in that
we use it to explain some funky ass patterns or
societal conditioning that we have not yet be conditioned from.
So for myself, I found myself really over committing to
projects and to different things that I thought I was
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really excited about. But let me just walk you through
the process and what I realize now what actually happened.
So I've definitely been in this state over the last
several months where I'm like, hey, I'm ready for the
next level. Okay, let's go, Okay, let's do this, Let's
blow this shit up, let's fucking go. And I'm like,
I know my goal, I know what I want. Let's go,
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let's go, let's go, let's go. But what ended up
happening is I went into like way overdrive. So I've
been asking the universe for signs, like asking for collaborations.
And the thing is that what I realized is that
when committing to projects, instead of tuning into my gut,
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what I actually ended up doing is I made a
decision from my emotions. So for any sacral being that
is not emotional authority. So you know, you might be
a manifesting generator, but you have emotional authority.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
This does not apply to you.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
This is for people who are purely sacral beings, and
they do not have their emotional center defined. So what
I really struggle with is, because we are designed to
amplify other people's emotions, we can sometimes take on and
get confused.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
With decision making.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
So what I tend to see is like I get
sold into doing something through other people's excitement, right. And
this is something that I've really had to decondition and
just be really aware of, because whenever I've made decisions
from a place of like someone else's excitement for something,
but my gut initially kind of like I retract Whenever
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I have a gut instinct that something is a no,
my body like feels like oh no, Like I feel
kind of not necessarily a punch in my gut, but
I feel like my body just kind of steps back.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
It's not drawn forward.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Right, And so I always always always get an initial
gut feeling, whether it's lit up or whether it's retracting.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
But where I go wrong.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
Is I continue to like feel it out, and as
I feel it out, I'm getting kind of swirled into
the other person's emotions. And this is particularly relevant as
well when investing. I've made a lot of investment decisions
based on emotions. I had an initial gut instinct. But
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I overrolled that gut instinct and I continued to consider it,
and then I was like, oh, this is sounding really exciting,
this is sounding really exciting. Like sure, I think I'm excited. Yeah,
my gut says I'm excited. But it wasn't my gut.
It was me absorbing the other person's emotional authority and
their excitement for the thing that they're selling me on. Right.
So all of this to say is that we can
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easily explain things away and use human design as like
a cop out or a way of explaining like behavior.
And I just want to say that you know, at
the end of the day, you're our body's always guiding you.
Whether you know human design, whether you know astrology, whether
you know fucking I don't care what it is, your
body's always guiding you in the right direction. The problem
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that I see most often is that people just aren't
paying attention to their body. They're not paying attention to
the signals that their body is giving them, and that
is what's running them into the ground. That's what's making
them burnouts, what's making them lose their passion and get sick. Right,
if we don't listen to our body for a long
enough period of time, we will get sick. It's just
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something that happens. And because we hold all of that
negative energy or just stagnant energy in our body, and
we can overwork certain areas.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
Of our body.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
So all of that to say, if you don't know
anything else about human design, and you only know your authority,
that is enough to help you get into alignment.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Right, because your authority is your intuition.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
It's guiding you, it's telling you yes, no, maybe, Like
it is literally your probably strongest tool as a business owner,
as a high achiever in this life, who is trying
to strive for more, who wants more out of life,
who is here to impact other people, who is here
to do really incredible things, Like I know that you
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are here to live an epic life, and you can
do that by simply following your gut instincts. Sorry, I
want to correct that, not your gut, your authority, because
everyone has a different authority.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
Right. If you are loving this.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
Episode so far, you're like, I don't know, Like maybe
I need to reconnect with my human design now.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
I want to.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Say that you can go down the rabbit hole of
human design However, what I also see is that people
who lack the confidence in themselves are looking for external validation.
They will go down this rabbit hole before they've even
mastered following their authority. So I want to say two things.
If you're listening to this episode and you're like, huh,
this human design thing sounds interesting, I'd love to know
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more about my design. I offer human design readings. I
will drop the link in the show notes that you
can book a human design reading with me. I promise
this can be a really big game changer for you
in your business, and I'm going to help you to
make it be a game changer for you in your business.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
I'll make sure you don't get stuck down that rabbit hole.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
But the other thing I want to say is if
you've been knowing about human design but you're really feeling
like something's off, it's probably because you know you're human design,
but you're not embodying your human design. And I want
to throw this opportunity out there to work with me
one on one. I am really good at helping people
to embody their design and embody the way that they
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are meant to be, and really to get into that
body again so that they can make change and not
just know the changes that they need to make or
know the information, but to live the information. This is
called the triple loop of learning Hargrove's work we teach
us inside of the Coach Approach Leadership Academy. But it
is one thing to know, it is what another thing
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to do. It to another thing to be right. And
so when you can combine the knowing, the doing, and
the being, so your knowledge, your actions, but also the
way that you be, your energetics, the way that you think,
the way that you expect things to happen, or the
way that you expect your life to unfold, that is
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how you master manifestation and going after what it is
that you really want, and not just that, but also
master your human design.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
So I would love to help you do that.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
If that feels like it is the right fit for you,
let me know. We can start with the human design
reading if you want, and I will probably let you
know how we can work together long term if that
is something that you're interested in, and if you've had
a human design reading for me before and you really
would like to just work on integrating that information and
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work on embodying it so that you're not constantly feeling
like you're headed down the wrong path, but you feel
like you're really lit up with life and lit up
with what you're doing, where you're going, and you feel
really confident and you know yourself, you know what you're
here to do. I would love to help you get there,
so send me a message. Let's work together. I would
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love to help you get to where you want to be.
I'm sending you so much love.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
Thank you for being here. If you are interested in.
Speaker 1 (33:21):
Making money doing what you love, make sure you subscribe.
That is everything that I believe in, and I would
love to help you get.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
There as well.
Speaker 1 (33:30):
Thank you so much for tuning into the podcast today.
If you like what you heard, I would love it
if you left a review. If you like my vibe,
come and hang with me in my Facebook or Telegram group.
I'll drop the link to my email list below, or
you can get instant access. Make sure you check the
show notes for any other links that I mentioned today,
and until next time, I'm sending you waves of abundance.
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