August 25, 2024 • 6 mins
What is Life Skills?
Catch a portion of an interview with Dr. Paul Hegstrom, the founder of Life Skills International, which helped birth the idea for Arrested Development Ministry, through his work on the complete recovery process for trauma victims and their loved ones.
Remember This, You may Have been Broken, But You Are Not Beyond Repair
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For more information from Life Skills International: https://www.lifeskillsintl.org/
Catch a portion of an interview with Dr. Paul Hegstrom, the founder of Life Skills International, which helped birth the idea for Arrested Development Ministry, through his work on the complete recovery process for trauma victims and their loved ones.
Remember This, You may Have been Broken, But You Are Not Beyond Repair
Speaking appearances for Businesses, Churches, Auxiliaries,
Jr. High & High Schools, Men Groups, Women Groups or Conferences,
Non-Profit Organizations, Youth Groups, and Parenting Groups.
For More Information Please Contact Us at: Arrested.Development.G51@gmail.com
Follow Us Where You Get Your Podcasts or
www.twitter.com/FollowADM
www.arrested-development-ministry.blogspot.com
www.facebook.com/pages/Arrested-Development-Ministry
Help us reach our annual goal of $5,000 To Help Donate to RAINN.org and THORN.org
For more information from Life Skills International: https://www.lifeskillsintl.org/
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Child wounded by rejection, incest, molestation, emotional, physical, and sexual
abuse can become an adult functioning in childish ways, not
being able to put away childish things. Listen to arrested
development ministries and hear the hearts of victims who have
(00:27):
become victims and sufferers who are now survivors. Learn what
great things God can do for you to heal your
heart wherever you hurt.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
The most asked question about what we do is what
(01:24):
is life skills? So we'll take the short version of it.
Life Skills was developed to be a program that teaches
us what we should have learned in a balanced, functional
home from birth to eighteen to twenty one years of eight.
Since there's no manual to raise children, every family leaves
something out I would call a self parenting type of program.
(01:45):
So it's good for parents learning how to parent their children.
It's good for people that have not been parented properly.
And we do trace our dysfunctions back two to three
generations and see where they come from. We break what's
called the repetition compulsion or the cycle of the family
(02:05):
type of issues that go from generation to generation. That
if I'm wounded in childhood and my development freezes. It's
called arrested development in our program. In mental health, it's
called fixation. And at the point of the wound, then
the brain stops operating, it stops moving forward and developing,
and then we develop a pseudo personality, but it's not
(02:29):
the core. And so what happens is if I'm wounded
as a child, then I have tendency to hate authority
because I know I need it, but I don't want
anybody think that I'm a child, and so as an adult,
we resist all authority. And so if you pressure me
to change from the outside in, I will fight you desperately.
(02:50):
One of the many questions that we get is what
will life skills do for a relationship if I have
been wounded in childhood, my relationship tends to be very shallow.
As a man, and for a woman that's been wounded,
she desires more than she's getting, but she feels unworthy
(03:10):
to have a good relationship because she's flawed and defective
because of the wounds of childhood. And so what she
does then is she sometimes yields her power, or she's
attracted to a man who seems to be strong but
doesn't realize that abuse and strength are two different things.
So and the way the Life Skilled program is set
(03:30):
up is like dominoes. You tip the first one and
it hits the second one. And give an example of this,
we had some people said, well, couldn't we rearrange the
program and I said, no, it's going to play just
like it's been given and it wasn't three months and
the director and these were doctors from Harvard, and they said,
we don't want to rearrange a program because when we're
(03:52):
at the end of our class, all the questions that
come up are answered in the next week.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Been listening to Arrested Development Ministry online. Always remember you
may have been broken, but you are not beyond repair.
For more information, feedback, or to contact us for speaking engagements,
email Arrested dot Development dot G five one at gmail
(04:21):
dot com. You can find us on Facebook, Twitter, listen
online on blog talk radio dot com, or visit our website.
This outreach is sponsored by Revelations Media LLLC.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
I was, I was, I was, I was?
Speaker 4 (04:43):
I was?
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I was?
Speaker 3 (04:46):
I was?
Speaker 1 (04:47):
I was? I was? I was?
Speaker 3 (04:49):
I was? I was? I was, I was, I was.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I was, I was. I was.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
A woman is sexually assaulted every two and a half minutes.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
Call eight hundred sixty five six hope.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Every two minutes an American is sexually assaulted. The majority
of victims know their attacker. It could be your friend,
your neighbor, or someone you met at a party. If
you said no, it's rape and it's a crime. This
is Christina Ricci with RAIN called the National Sexual Assault
Hotline today at one eight hundred sixty five six Hope
(05:31):
or visit RAIN dot org. That's r AI n N
dot RG.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Brought to you by RAIN and this station.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Every two minutes, someone is sexually assaulted. Half of victims
are under the age of eighteen. Children are told by
their abusers not to tell.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
I have to keep a secret.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Most children know their abusers.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
I don't have to keep a secret.
Speaker 3 (06:02):
If you can't tell your parents, tell someone else, and
keep telling and telling until someone listens.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
Always tellous someone tries to touch you, I'll have to keep
a secret. I have the right to be protected, to
be left alone to express my opinion. I have the
right to be free, to be free, to be free.
I have the right to be free. Are you keeping
(06:32):
a secret if.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
You're being sexually abused. You're not alone.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
It's not your fault.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
There is someone who can help
Child wounded by rejection, incest, molestation, emotional, physical, and sexual
abuse can become an adult functioning in childish ways, not
being able to put away childish things. Listen to arrested
development ministries and hear the hearts of victims who have
(00:27):
become victims and sufferers who are now survivors. Learn what
great things God can do for you to heal your
heart wherever you hurt.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
The most asked question about what we do is what
(01:24):
is life skills? So we'll take the short version of it.
Life Skills was developed to be a program that teaches
us what we should have learned in a balanced, functional
home from birth to eighteen to twenty one years of eight.
Since there's no manual to raise children, every family leaves
something out I would call a self parenting type of program.
(01:45):
So it's good for parents learning how to parent their children.
It's good for people that have not been parented properly.
And we do trace our dysfunctions back two to three
generations and see where they come from. We break what's
called the repetition compulsion or the cycle of the family
(02:05):
type of issues that go from generation to generation. That
if I'm wounded in childhood and my development freezes. It's
called arrested development in our program. In mental health, it's
called fixation. And at the point of the wound, then
the brain stops operating, it stops moving forward and developing,
and then we develop a pseudo personality, but it's not
(02:29):
the core. And so what happens is if I'm wounded
as a child, then I have tendency to hate authority
because I know I need it, but I don't want
anybody think that I'm a child, and so as an adult,
we resist all authority. And so if you pressure me
to change from the outside in, I will fight you desperately.
(02:50):
One of the many questions that we get is what
will life skills do for a relationship if I have
been wounded in childhood, my relationship tends to be very shallow.
As a man, and for a woman that's been wounded,
she desires more than she's getting, but she feels unworthy
(03:10):
to have a good relationship because she's flawed and defective
because of the wounds of childhood. And so what she
does then is she sometimes yields her power, or she's
attracted to a man who seems to be strong but
doesn't realize that abuse and strength are two different things.
So and the way the Life Skilled program is set
(03:30):
up is like dominoes. You tip the first one and
it hits the second one. And give an example of this,
we had some people said, well, couldn't we rearrange the
program and I said, no, it's going to play just
like it's been given and it wasn't three months and
the director and these were doctors from Harvard, and they said,
we don't want to rearrange a program because when we're
(03:52):
at the end of our class, all the questions that
come up are answered in the next week.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Been listening to Arrested Development Ministry online. Always remember you
may have been broken, but you are not beyond repair.
For more information, feedback, or to contact us for speaking engagements,
email Arrested dot Development dot G five one at gmail
(04:21):
dot com. You can find us on Facebook, Twitter, listen
online on blog talk radio dot com, or visit our website.
This outreach is sponsored by Revelations Media LLLC.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
I was, I was, I was, I was?
Speaker 4 (04:43):
I was?
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I was?
Speaker 3 (04:46):
I was?
Speaker 1 (04:47):
I was? I was? I was?
Speaker 3 (04:49):
I was? I was? I was, I was, I was.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I was, I was. I was.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
A woman is sexually assaulted every two and a half minutes.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
Call eight hundred sixty five six hope.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Every two minutes an American is sexually assaulted. The majority
of victims know their attacker. It could be your friend,
your neighbor, or someone you met at a party. If
you said no, it's rape and it's a crime. This
is Christina Ricci with RAIN called the National Sexual Assault
Hotline today at one eight hundred sixty five six Hope
(05:31):
or visit RAIN dot org. That's r AI n N
dot RG.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Brought to you by RAIN and this station.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Every two minutes, someone is sexually assaulted. Half of victims
are under the age of eighteen. Children are told by
their abusers not to tell.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
I have to keep a secret.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Most children know their abusers.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
I don't have to keep a secret.
Speaker 3 (06:02):
If you can't tell your parents, tell someone else, and
keep telling and telling until someone listens.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
Always tellous someone tries to touch you, I'll have to keep
a secret. I have the right to be protected, to
be left alone to express my opinion. I have the
right to be free, to be free, to be free.
I have the right to be free. Are you keeping
(06:32):
a secret if.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
You're being sexually abused. You're not alone.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
It's not your fault.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
There is someone who can help
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