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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Child wounded by rejection, incest, molestation, emotional, physical, and sexual
abuse can become an adult functioning in childish ways, not
being able to put away childish things. Listen to arrested
development ministries and hear the hearts of victims who have
(00:27):
become victims and sufferers who are now survivors. Learn what
great things God can do for you to heal your
heart wherever you hurt.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Like Bill w with AA, I was a man that
battered my wife and very violent in the first forty
years of my life. And I spent between twenty and
thirty thousand on the best therapy I could find in
the nation, and I couldn't get well. My father was
(01:40):
a minister in a mainline denomination. I went to thirty
five ministers who were qualified as counselors, and not a
soul could touch me. They had no idea what was wrong.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Wow, Doctor HIGs from please describe to us the types
of woundings that create this kind of a hopeless situation.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
There are five types of wounds that literally freeze the brain,
and it's called fixation in secular mental health, and that's
heavy rejection in the original family, incest, which is inappropriate
sexual behavior between family members, molestation which comes from outside
the family. But it's interesting because eighty percent of all
(02:23):
molestations are done by a friend of the family. Then
emotional abuse and physical abuse, and that's in the order
of severity. So even rejection in the original family is
much greater than in severity than sexual abuse, emotional and
physical abuse, because it is so subtle. It's just unbelievably
(02:47):
how subtle it is. And when we understand these dynamics,
they're fixable.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Doctor, please explain to us arrested development and the brain
chemistry that goes along with it.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
When the brain freezes or fixates or arrests in development,
then the brain cannot without help and without truth and
without knowledge, the brain can't tie the wound to today's behavior.
And so how we bring down the strongholds is to
(03:20):
understand our timeline and speak and tell our limbic system,
which stores all of our information, when this happened. And
I'm reacting to something that happened forty years ago, but
I've been reacting for forty years if I'm forty years
of age. So what happens is because we have not
got the chemicals to be a decision maker, the thalamus
(03:45):
makes the decision for us and breaks the glass and
pulls the lever that activates the adrenal glands that are
on top of the kidneys. And that's the basis of PTSD,
it's the basis of add ads HD and many many
diagnostics in the in the DSM four Dignostic Manual, and
(04:07):
the government in the Armed Services plays off of that
to be able at their command to activate your adrenaline.
And what happens then is if you're already activated and
living on it, then it surges and you go out
of your mind, like this man that supposedly shot you know,
(04:28):
eight nine kids and sixteen seventeen people and doesn't even
have memory of it because he's already living on adrenaline,
and then he got another surge. The adrenaline is so strong,
it is the strongest chemical in the body, because you've
got to delete the adrenaline for the brain chemicals to
(04:50):
be able to come and work within your system. That's
why we do the things that we do when we
know better, because theredrenaline will override the regular chemicals till
you die, or we can put your life together and
show you why you're on adrenaline and that it was
(05:11):
not your fault. It was a wound before the age
of puberty when you didn't have chemicals. And it all
has a reason, not an excuse, but always there's a reason.
You're not defective, you're not flogged, you're not weird. You
can never medicate a person to get rid of adrenaline.
You make sense of their craziness. Isn't that something? And
(05:34):
we don't even understand how that works, but it works
because they had never moved to the age of decision.
They wanted what they wanted, but they were afraid. They
felt like they were the one that it's good for
everybody else, but not for me. And that's what wounds
of childhood do to adults.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
You have been listening to Arrested Development Ministry online, Always
remember you may have been broken, but you are not
beyond repair. For more information, feedback, or to contact us
for speaking engagements, email Arrested dot Development dot G five
to one at gmail dot com. You can find us
(06:21):
on Facebook, Twitter, listen online on blog talk radio dot com,
or visit our website. This outreach is sponsored by Revelations
Media LLC.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
Think about your mother, your sister, your girlfriend, one in
six women is a victim of sexual assault. Now think
about your father, your brother, your best friend. Men are
victims too. Rape can happen to anyone. This is Christina
Ricci with RAIN, encouraging you to call the National Sexual
Assault Hotline to learn how to support someone you love.
(06:58):
Call one eight hundred six five six hope, or visit
RAIN dot org. That's r a I n N dot org.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Brought to you by RAIN and this station. I have
to keep a secret.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Children are told by their abusers not to tell. Always
tell if someone tries to touch you.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
If you can't tell your parents, tell someone else, and keep.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
Telling and telling and telling until someone listens. I have
the right to be protected. I have the right to
be free and be free of the right you'd be free.
Are you keeping a secret? If you're being sexually abused,
you're not alone.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
It's not your fault.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
There is someone who can help.
Child wounded by rejection, incest, molestation, emotional, physical, and sexual
abuse can become an adult functioning in childish ways, not
being able to put away childish things. Listen to arrested
development ministries and hear the hearts of victims who have
(00:27):
become victims and sufferers who are now survivors. Learn what
great things God can do for you to heal your
heart wherever you hurt.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Like Bill w with AA, I was a man that
battered my wife and very violent in the first forty
years of my life. And I spent between twenty and
thirty thousand on the best therapy I could find in
the nation, and I couldn't get well. My father was
(01:40):
a minister in a mainline denomination. I went to thirty
five ministers who were qualified as counselors, and not a
soul could touch me. They had no idea what was wrong.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Wow, Doctor HIGs from please describe to us the types
of woundings that create this kind of a hopeless situation.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
There are five types of wounds that literally freeze the brain,
and it's called fixation in secular mental health, and that's
heavy rejection in the original family, incest, which is inappropriate
sexual behavior between family members, molestation which comes from outside
the family. But it's interesting because eighty percent of all
(02:23):
molestations are done by a friend of the family. Then
emotional abuse and physical abuse, and that's in the order
of severity. So even rejection in the original family is
much greater than in severity than sexual abuse, emotional and
physical abuse, because it is so subtle. It's just unbelievably
(02:47):
how subtle it is. And when we understand these dynamics,
they're fixable.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Doctor, please explain to us arrested development and the brain
chemistry that goes along with it.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
When the brain freezes or fixates or arrests in development,
then the brain cannot without help and without truth and
without knowledge, the brain can't tie the wound to today's behavior.
And so how we bring down the strongholds is to
(03:20):
understand our timeline and speak and tell our limbic system,
which stores all of our information, when this happened. And
I'm reacting to something that happened forty years ago, but
I've been reacting for forty years if I'm forty years
of age. So what happens is because we have not
got the chemicals to be a decision maker, the thalamus
(03:45):
makes the decision for us and breaks the glass and
pulls the lever that activates the adrenal glands that are
on top of the kidneys. And that's the basis of PTSD,
it's the basis of add ads HD and many many
diagnostics in the in the DSM four Dignostic Manual, and
(04:07):
the government in the Armed Services plays off of that
to be able at their command to activate your adrenaline.
And what happens then is if you're already activated and
living on it, then it surges and you go out
of your mind, like this man that supposedly shot you know,
(04:28):
eight nine kids and sixteen seventeen people and doesn't even
have memory of it because he's already living on adrenaline,
and then he got another surge. The adrenaline is so strong,
it is the strongest chemical in the body, because you've
got to delete the adrenaline for the brain chemicals to
(04:50):
be able to come and work within your system. That's
why we do the things that we do when we
know better, because theredrenaline will override the regular chemicals till
you die, or we can put your life together and
show you why you're on adrenaline and that it was
(05:11):
not your fault. It was a wound before the age
of puberty when you didn't have chemicals. And it all
has a reason, not an excuse, but always there's a reason.
You're not defective, you're not flogged, you're not weird. You
can never medicate a person to get rid of adrenaline.
You make sense of their craziness. Isn't that something? And
(05:34):
we don't even understand how that works, but it works
because they had never moved to the age of decision.
They wanted what they wanted, but they were afraid. They
felt like they were the one that it's good for
everybody else, but not for me. And that's what wounds
of childhood do to adults.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
You have been listening to Arrested Development Ministry online, Always
remember you may have been broken, but you are not
beyond repair. For more information, feedback, or to contact us
for speaking engagements, email Arrested dot Development dot G five
to one at gmail dot com. You can find us
(06:21):
on Facebook, Twitter, listen online on blog talk radio dot com,
or visit our website. This outreach is sponsored by Revelations
Media LLC.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
Think about your mother, your sister, your girlfriend, one in
six women is a victim of sexual assault. Now think
about your father, your brother, your best friend. Men are
victims too. Rape can happen to anyone. This is Christina
Ricci with RAIN, encouraging you to call the National Sexual
Assault Hotline to learn how to support someone you love.
(06:58):
Call one eight hundred six five six hope, or visit
RAIN dot org. That's r a I n N dot org.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Brought to you by RAIN and this station. I have
to keep a secret.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Children are told by their abusers not to tell. Always
tell if someone tries to touch you.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
If you can't tell your parents, tell someone else, and keep.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
Telling and telling and telling until someone listens. I have
the right to be protected. I have the right to
be free and be free of the right you'd be free.
Are you keeping a secret? If you're being sexually abused,
you're not alone.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
It's not your fault.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
There is someone who can help.
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