August 3, 2025 • 7 mins
Remember This, You may Have been Broken, But You Are Not Beyond Repair
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Jr. High & High Schools, Men Groups, Women Groups or Conferences,
Non-Profit Organizations, Youth Groups, and Parenting Groups.
For More Information Please Contact Us at: Arrested.Development.G51@gmail.com
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Child wounded by rejection, incest, molestation, emotional, physical, and sexual
abuse can become an adult functioning in childish ways, not
being able to put away childish things. Listen to arrested
development ministries and hear the hearts of victims who have
(00:27):
become victims and sufferers who are now survivors. Learn what
great things God can do for you to heal your
heart wherever you hurt.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Welcome to PAULA.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
White.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Today we are dealing with how to develop healthy relationships,
and often life has handed you the wrong tools. Your
childhood sent you signals that keep you messed up today.
But we are going to give you the solution through
God's word, and we have behavioral therapists of life skills,
doctor Paul Hegstrom, and it is so good to have
him out of Denver, Colorado. Your ministry is based and you,
(01:43):
yourself do not have head knowledge of this, but a
very powerful testimony. You've read a book of angry men
and the women who love them in a nutshell. For
the sake of our viewer who has not seen you,
or heard you, or know your testimony, tell us your story,
real quick, doctor Paul, real quick.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
I was a I was molested as a child several times,
but the big one was the rape at eight eight
and a half years of age by an older man,
and that created tremendous amounts of anger, and also my
self esteem was down the tubes because what did I
do to cause this man to do this to me?
(02:19):
I must be latently homosexual, so to overcompensate for that,
I had to be rough and tough and like girls
more than a normal child would like girls. That type
of thing. I married very early. Judy was sixteen when
we got married. I had just turned nineteen about two
weeks earlier, and on the second day of our marriage,
(02:40):
I went off on her physically and battered her and
did some intense damage to her, which is still we're
dealing with today. Because of the surprise of the physical abuse,
I'd been emotionally abusive to her. We lived that way
for about sixteen and a half years. The last three
and a half years I passed her to mainline Denomination church,
thinking that if I put myself under the pressure of
(03:01):
a pastor that would curb my behavior. But it didn't.
It got worse more stress in my life. I left
the ministry, left the marriage, and moved into Minneapolis and
worked for rock and roll radio station, and that had
been my history before the pastor it is rock and
roll radio, and so got in there and for several
years drugs, alcohol and pornography and got into a living
(03:26):
relationship with a woman and ended up battering her so
badly that I was facing fifteen to twenty two in
the state pan looking at attempted murder charge. And that's
where God got a hold of me and turned me around.
I yielded my life to Christ basically for the first
time and really got saved and out of that experience,
(03:48):
I reconciled with my wife after three and a half
years of separation, three and a half years a divorce,
so we were a part seven years and we're celebrating
twenty five years now of the second marriage, which for
twenty five years has been free of any kind of abuse, emotional, physical,
any kind of abuse. And there are twenty two types
of abuse we have identified in marriages, so it's pretty inclusive.
(04:10):
I mean, it's pretty good sized parent control wheel.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Right, and we understand statistically fifty three percent of people
sitting in church today will experience some kind of physical abuse.
This year.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
You have been listening to Arrested Development Ministry online. Always
remember you may have been broken, but you are not
beyond repair. For more information, feedback, or to contact us
for speaking engagements, email Arrested dot Development dot G five
to one at gmail dot com. You can find us
(04:47):
on Facebook, Twitter, listen online on blog talk radio dot com,
or visit our website. This outreach is sponsored by Revelations
Media LLC.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
Every two minutes, someone in America has sexually assaulted. The
attack may last just moments, but the effects can last
a lifetime. There is help through the National Sexual Assault
Hotline call one eight hundred and sixty five six hope,
or visit RAIN dot org. You don't need to go
it alone, and it's never.
Speaker 6 (05:20):
Too late to get help. Hi. My name is Kim Lee.
I have been so lucky because of RAIN and I
thank them from the bottom of my heart. Anytime I
(05:42):
got close to anybody, I would be completely paralyzed. I
couldn't move, I couldn't speak, I couldn't do anything that
I wanted to do. It was like I was in
a bubble and everybody else was normal, but me. I
knew I had to do something about it. I know
everybody heals differently. Everybody goes through something completely different in
these aperiances. But RAIN gives you an opportunity to speak out,
(06:04):
to tell your story, to get the help that you need.
Rain has given me an amazing gift. It's given me
the opportunity to tell my story to help others heal
themselves as well. So at the end of the year
year which is now, if you have the opportunity to
give to RAIN, please do open up your wallets, open
up your hearts and help help other people make a change.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Every two minutes an American is sexually assaulted. The majority
of victims know their attacker. It could be your friend,
your neighbor, or someone who met at a party. If
you said no, it's rape and it's a crime. This
is Christina Ricci with RAIN. Call the National Sexual Assault
Hotline today at one eight hundred sixty five six hope
(07:00):
or visit RAIN dot org. That's r A I N
N dot O r
Speaker 6 (07:05):
G brought to you by RAIN and this station
Child wounded by rejection, incest, molestation, emotional, physical, and sexual
abuse can become an adult functioning in childish ways, not
being able to put away childish things. Listen to arrested
development ministries and hear the hearts of victims who have
(00:27):
become victims and sufferers who are now survivors. Learn what
great things God can do for you to heal your
heart wherever you hurt.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Welcome to PAULA.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
White.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Today we are dealing with how to develop healthy relationships,
and often life has handed you the wrong tools. Your
childhood sent you signals that keep you messed up today.
But we are going to give you the solution through
God's word, and we have behavioral therapists of life skills,
doctor Paul Hegstrom, and it is so good to have
him out of Denver, Colorado. Your ministry is based and you,
(01:43):
yourself do not have head knowledge of this, but a
very powerful testimony. You've read a book of angry men
and the women who love them in a nutshell. For
the sake of our viewer who has not seen you,
or heard you, or know your testimony, tell us your story,
real quick, doctor Paul, real quick.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
I was a I was molested as a child several times,
but the big one was the rape at eight eight
and a half years of age by an older man,
and that created tremendous amounts of anger, and also my
self esteem was down the tubes because what did I
do to cause this man to do this to me?
(02:19):
I must be latently homosexual, so to overcompensate for that,
I had to be rough and tough and like girls
more than a normal child would like girls. That type
of thing. I married very early. Judy was sixteen when
we got married. I had just turned nineteen about two
weeks earlier, and on the second day of our marriage,
(02:40):
I went off on her physically and battered her and
did some intense damage to her, which is still we're
dealing with today. Because of the surprise of the physical abuse,
I'd been emotionally abusive to her. We lived that way
for about sixteen and a half years. The last three
and a half years I passed her to mainline Denomination church,
thinking that if I put myself under the pressure of
(03:01):
a pastor that would curb my behavior. But it didn't.
It got worse more stress in my life. I left
the ministry, left the marriage, and moved into Minneapolis and
worked for rock and roll radio station, and that had
been my history before the pastor it is rock and
roll radio, and so got in there and for several
years drugs, alcohol and pornography and got into a living
(03:26):
relationship with a woman and ended up battering her so
badly that I was facing fifteen to twenty two in
the state pan looking at attempted murder charge. And that's
where God got a hold of me and turned me around.
I yielded my life to Christ basically for the first
time and really got saved and out of that experience,
(03:48):
I reconciled with my wife after three and a half
years of separation, three and a half years a divorce,
so we were a part seven years and we're celebrating
twenty five years now of the second marriage, which for
twenty five years has been free of any kind of abuse, emotional, physical,
any kind of abuse. And there are twenty two types
of abuse we have identified in marriages, so it's pretty inclusive.
(04:10):
I mean, it's pretty good sized parent control wheel.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Right, and we understand statistically fifty three percent of people
sitting in church today will experience some kind of physical abuse.
This year.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
You have been listening to Arrested Development Ministry online. Always
remember you may have been broken, but you are not
beyond repair. For more information, feedback, or to contact us
for speaking engagements, email Arrested dot Development dot G five
to one at gmail dot com. You can find us
(04:47):
on Facebook, Twitter, listen online on blog talk radio dot com,
or visit our website. This outreach is sponsored by Revelations
Media LLC.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
Every two minutes, someone in America has sexually assaulted. The
attack may last just moments, but the effects can last
a lifetime. There is help through the National Sexual Assault
Hotline call one eight hundred and sixty five six hope,
or visit RAIN dot org. You don't need to go
it alone, and it's never.
Speaker 6 (05:20):
Too late to get help. Hi. My name is Kim Lee.
I have been so lucky because of RAIN and I
thank them from the bottom of my heart. Anytime I
(05:42):
got close to anybody, I would be completely paralyzed. I
couldn't move, I couldn't speak, I couldn't do anything that
I wanted to do. It was like I was in
a bubble and everybody else was normal, but me. I
knew I had to do something about it. I know
everybody heals differently. Everybody goes through something completely different in
these aperiances. But RAIN gives you an opportunity to speak out,
(06:04):
to tell your story, to get the help that you need.
Rain has given me an amazing gift. It's given me
the opportunity to tell my story to help others heal
themselves as well. So at the end of the year
year which is now, if you have the opportunity to
give to RAIN, please do open up your wallets, open
up your hearts and help help other people make a change.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Every two minutes an American is sexually assaulted. The majority
of victims know their attacker. It could be your friend,
your neighbor, or someone who met at a party. If
you said no, it's rape and it's a crime. This
is Christina Ricci with RAIN. Call the National Sexual Assault
Hotline today at one eight hundred sixty five six hope
(07:00):
or visit RAIN dot org. That's r A I N
N dot O r
Speaker 6 (07:05):
G brought to you by RAIN and this station
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