August 17, 2025 • 7 mins
Remember This, You may Have been Broken, But You Are Not Beyond Repair
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Child wounded by rejection, incest, molestation, emotional, physical, and sexual
abuse can become an adult functioning in childish ways, not
being able to put away childish things. Listen to arrested
development ministries and hear the hearts of victims who have
(00:27):
become victims and sufferers who are now survivors. Learn what
great things God can do for you to heal your
heart wherever you hurt.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
As we've seen for the last four days, that there
is a difference in male and female and if we
don't understand this dynamics, we personalize what the other person
doesn't understand and how they treat us or don't treat us,
how they respond or don't respond. We personalize that into rejection.
(01:50):
And one of the things with rejection that's very tough
is that we spend more energy trying to keep from
being rejected than we would if we walked into the
situation and walked through it. But rejection, and let me
back up a minute, because I think it is extremely
important that men know how women operate and women know
(02:13):
how men operate. That this week, I've seen a change
in how Laurie's approached Jim, and Jim sees that as respect,
and then he gives back the gentleness and calls her
honey and touches her arm and things that he's not
used to doing because he's responding to her respect. Because
(02:33):
of male female differences, we don't know the differences, so
we personalize the differences into my partner is the enemy.
And it's like Jim and Laurie are saying that. And
we talked on the show just a few minutes ago
that when Laurie understood Jim she's she was much more
(02:57):
kind in her approach because she realized this is how
he's created and I'm created differently. And when she changed
her approach just in this week alone, the difference and
I've seen the difference in how they interact down in
the office, that type of thing, and he saw that
as respect and returned that to her. So they're not
(03:20):
playing off rejection factors because both have been rejected in
their history. All of us have struggled with rejection somewhere
in our life and our families, in relationships or whatever
the case may be. Rejection has become dominant, and we're
fully aware of it, and yet we're more aware of
it subconsciously in the heart than we are consciously. So see,
(03:45):
it's very consuming if you don't understand the dynamics. What's
worse is it's consuming within a marriage relationship when a
husband doesn't understand how his wife is wired and a
wife doesn't understand how the husband and is wired. And
it's not taught in public school. It's not taught male
female different stuff is not taught in college. We don't
(04:08):
hear it in church, we don't hear it from the pulpit,
and so we assume that if if my wife or
my husband doesn't cater or fulfill my need or whatever
the case may be, then they're rejecting me. And there
are areas in our relationships male female differences that we've
seen this week that cannot be changed. We're wired that way,
(04:33):
and we learn how to cope with it and how
to build and bond in a relationship, so we don't
see it as rejection. So what happens then is is
I end up with Judy, and in our first marriage,
I couldn't I couldn't make her like a guy, and
she couldn't make me her favorite girlfriend. And so we
saw it within each other intense rejection. I always thought
(04:57):
Judy didn't like me, Well, why did she marry me?
Why did she almost chase me? And I'd break up
with her and she was just heartbroken and all those things.
So what was going on here is because I never
pleased her when we got married in the first marriage,
because I had always been the one that she felt
rejected her because we didn't know the difference in male
(05:19):
female differences.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
You have been listening to Arrested Development Ministry online. Always
remember you may have been broken, but you are not
beyond repair. For more information, feedback, or to contact us
for speaking engagements, email Arrested dot Development dot G five
to one at gmail dot com. You can find us
(05:44):
on Facebook, Twitter, listen online on blog talk radio dot com,
or visit our website. This outreach is sponsored by Revelations
Media LLC.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Every two minutes, someone in America has sexually assaulted. The
attack may last just moments, but the effects can last
a lifetime. There is help through the National Sexual Assault
Hotline call one eight hundred sixty five six hope or
visit rain dot org. You don't need to go it alone,
and it's never too late to get help.
Speaker 4 (06:20):
Think about your mother, your sister, your girlfriend. One in
six women is a victim of sexual assault. Now think
about your father, your brother, your best friend. Men are
victims too. Rape can happen to anyone. This is Christina
Ricci with RAIN, encouraging you to call the National Sexual
Assault Hotline to learn how to support someone you love.
(06:41):
Call one eight hundred sixty five six hope or visit
RAIN dot org. That's r AI n N dot org.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Brought to you by RAIN and this station. I have
to keep it secret.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Children are told by your.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Abusers not to tell.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Ahi stallish someone tries to get If you can't tell
your parents, tell someone else, and keep telling and telling
and telling until someone listens. I have the right to
be protected. I have the right to be free.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Could be free.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Of the right, you'd be free.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
Are you keeping a secret? If you're being sexually abused,
You're not alone. It's not your fault.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
There's someone who can help.
Child wounded by rejection, incest, molestation, emotional, physical, and sexual
abuse can become an adult functioning in childish ways, not
being able to put away childish things. Listen to arrested
development ministries and hear the hearts of victims who have
(00:27):
become victims and sufferers who are now survivors. Learn what
great things God can do for you to heal your
heart wherever you hurt.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
As we've seen for the last four days, that there
is a difference in male and female and if we
don't understand this dynamics, we personalize what the other person
doesn't understand and how they treat us or don't treat us,
how they respond or don't respond. We personalize that into rejection.
(01:50):
And one of the things with rejection that's very tough
is that we spend more energy trying to keep from
being rejected than we would if we walked into the
situation and walked through it. But rejection, and let me
back up a minute, because I think it is extremely
important that men know how women operate and women know
(02:13):
how men operate. That this week, I've seen a change
in how Laurie's approached Jim, and Jim sees that as respect,
and then he gives back the gentleness and calls her
honey and touches her arm and things that he's not
used to doing because he's responding to her respect. Because
(02:33):
of male female differences, we don't know the differences, so
we personalize the differences into my partner is the enemy.
And it's like Jim and Laurie are saying that. And
we talked on the show just a few minutes ago
that when Laurie understood Jim she's she was much more
(02:57):
kind in her approach because she realized this is how
he's created and I'm created differently. And when she changed
her approach just in this week alone, the difference and
I've seen the difference in how they interact down in
the office, that type of thing, and he saw that
as respect and returned that to her. So they're not
(03:20):
playing off rejection factors because both have been rejected in
their history. All of us have struggled with rejection somewhere
in our life and our families, in relationships or whatever
the case may be. Rejection has become dominant, and we're
fully aware of it, and yet we're more aware of
it subconsciously in the heart than we are consciously. So see,
(03:45):
it's very consuming if you don't understand the dynamics. What's
worse is it's consuming within a marriage relationship when a
husband doesn't understand how his wife is wired and a
wife doesn't understand how the husband and is wired. And
it's not taught in public school. It's not taught male
female different stuff is not taught in college. We don't
(04:08):
hear it in church, we don't hear it from the pulpit,
and so we assume that if if my wife or
my husband doesn't cater or fulfill my need or whatever
the case may be, then they're rejecting me. And there
are areas in our relationships male female differences that we've
seen this week that cannot be changed. We're wired that way,
(04:33):
and we learn how to cope with it and how
to build and bond in a relationship, so we don't
see it as rejection. So what happens then is is
I end up with Judy, and in our first marriage,
I couldn't I couldn't make her like a guy, and
she couldn't make me her favorite girlfriend. And so we
saw it within each other intense rejection. I always thought
(04:57):
Judy didn't like me, Well, why did she marry me?
Why did she almost chase me? And I'd break up
with her and she was just heartbroken and all those things.
So what was going on here is because I never
pleased her when we got married in the first marriage,
because I had always been the one that she felt
rejected her because we didn't know the difference in male
(05:19):
female differences.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
You have been listening to Arrested Development Ministry online. Always
remember you may have been broken, but you are not
beyond repair. For more information, feedback, or to contact us
for speaking engagements, email Arrested dot Development dot G five
to one at gmail dot com. You can find us
(05:44):
on Facebook, Twitter, listen online on blog talk radio dot com,
or visit our website. This outreach is sponsored by Revelations
Media LLC.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Every two minutes, someone in America has sexually assaulted. The
attack may last just moments, but the effects can last
a lifetime. There is help through the National Sexual Assault
Hotline call one eight hundred sixty five six hope or
visit rain dot org. You don't need to go it alone,
and it's never too late to get help.
Speaker 4 (06:20):
Think about your mother, your sister, your girlfriend. One in
six women is a victim of sexual assault. Now think
about your father, your brother, your best friend. Men are
victims too. Rape can happen to anyone. This is Christina
Ricci with RAIN, encouraging you to call the National Sexual
Assault Hotline to learn how to support someone you love.
(06:41):
Call one eight hundred sixty five six hope or visit
RAIN dot org. That's r AI n N dot org.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Brought to you by RAIN and this station. I have
to keep it secret.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Children are told by your.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Abusers not to tell.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Ahi stallish someone tries to get If you can't tell
your parents, tell someone else, and keep telling and telling
and telling until someone listens. I have the right to
be protected. I have the right to be free.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Could be free.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Of the right, you'd be free.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
Are you keeping a secret? If you're being sexually abused,
You're not alone. It's not your fault.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
There's someone who can help.
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