Arroe Unplugged Page Two Thousand Four Hundred Eight Vocal De Frag

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say
yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
So let's turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged. Hey, zero,
let's do some vocal dfragging.

Speaker 2 (00:13):
Defragging is asking yourself the questions and then questioning the answers.
I do it in two different places. I keep it
written in a journal which I've been keeping for many years,
many years since November of two thousand and seventeen. And
another one is a vocal defrag such as this, I'm
not here to sit here and basically brag about the
accomplishments in life, fort to bitch and moan about where

(00:35):
things have been on the valley floor. The goal is
to ask yourself the questions and then question the answers.
And in the process of doing that, it came to
me during an interview with another famous actor who said,
why have I never heard this before? Why isn't this
being taught? And so that's what this is. This is
just an opportunity for you to stop, look around, listen,

(00:58):
do some investigating studies, and then grow forward by asking
yourself the questions and question and the answers today, the
subject is regret. I was very shocked to learn that
the physical act of regret actually begins in our twenties.
I just thought that was kind of like a midlife crisis,

(01:19):
the regrets in life, But it is. It's in the twenties.
And the reason why is we start regretting what we
didn't do in high school, what we're not doing in
our everyday life, the choices that we've made for a career,
or we have this job which has nothing to do
with our careers. But I would like for you to
really kind of put focus on your regrets, not as
a negative, maybe as a fuel starter, something that gets

(01:41):
inside your head and saying, hey, look, I still have
a lot of life in me. Although I regret that
I didn't do it in my teens, in my twenties,
i'd like to try it today. Which is every bit
the reason why I never say no to an opportunity.
And it does get embarrassing when people say what don't
you do, and it's like, you know, I'm not bragging
about what I've accomplished. I just want to help inspire

(02:04):
you to be able to be a better and a
bigger you, and not have to worry about the things
that really kind of stress you out, which makes me
wonder if I regret saying yes. Now. I will tell
you on a one on one personal basis here that
there are many things I haven't done in my.

Speaker 1 (02:22):
Life because of that word yes.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
People go on big vacations Disney World, they go to
other countries, they travel, they eat beautiful food. I didn't
really discover the kitchen, regrettably until the COVID lockdown, which
was in twenty twenty. You know, why wasn't I doing
this earlier? Because I was busy saying yes to everything else.

(02:45):
But in your own personal life, what's something that you
have regretted but would like to replant in the soils
of your journey moving forward, something that you could really
find interest in. Juliet Cameron does a great exercise in
the Vein of Gold, which is part of the Artist
Way series, where she explains write down a list of

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the things that you enjoy in life, and then put
on that same list the things that you are doing
in life, and now be truthful and be very honest
with yourself, ask those questions and question the answers. What
can you do in this moment of now that you
can put your own personal investment in that gets you
actively involved in the things that you enjoy doing. And

(03:31):
I think that was one of the game changers for
me after the COVID nineteen lockdown, was because all of
a sudden, all of these things that I was saying
yes too were no longer available, and so I had
to basically reinvent myself. And one of the things that
I reinvented was the way I think about a job.
I don't have a job. I will never have a

(03:52):
job for the rest of my life. What I have
is the power of choice. When I go to a place,
Yes I'm going to get paid, Yes I'm going to
voice those commercials. Yes I'm going to do these interviews.
But it's a choice. It's not a job, it's a choice.
And my choice is these are the amount of hours
I'm going to put into it, and that's it, and

(04:13):
then I'm going to do something else, even if it
means sitting down having lunch with my wife and then
binge watching a TV show, because that's what makes life enjoyable,
the choices we make. But if we're going to bog
down ourselves with jobs because we want to just make
sure that we're financially secure. Then what are we doing?
But we're formulating a regret. It went on to say

(04:36):
that you start to recognize your regrets even more in
your thirties because you realize, oh my god, I'm in
my thirties, my forties, you're right around the corner. Oh
my god, I'm regretting this, this, this and this and
this and this. So it serves as a negative rather
than an enhancer. And that's the big eye opener right there.
Go ahead and look at your regrets. There's still an

(04:57):
opportunity for you to do what it is that you
wanted do They say that on a dying bed A
lot of people have regrets. But you know what really
really opened up my heart. The regrets of someone who
is dying is not about what they didn't do in
life in the way that you would think huge things, oh,
taking that trip to Hong Kong or to the UK. No,

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many people just regret they didn't ask somebody to go
out on a date, or they just decided that why
didn't I work on that as a hobby. Regret. That's
the question, what do you regret? Now find the answer
and then question the answer, I'm MARYL. That's vocally Frank