Q and A with Ask Nyomi

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Yeah, bridging the gap. NaomiBanks the goddess tune in. Hey you
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bridge the gap. Yes, shewas a porn star bus she's more than
now, she's a certified specialist teachingus how to act. By the end
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Naomi Bridging the Gap podcast. Thisis what we talk about love, sex,
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between the all and teaching the worldon sex, language, love and attitude.
And we got some spiritual uplifting goingon today. What's going on,
my BTG crew, what's going on? Doc pround Mike, Mike's good,
it's a good Whoa. It's beena minute. I missed last week.

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I wasn't feeling well, but Iam back today and today I'm feeling a
little lazy. I'm feeling a littlelazy, so I didn't prepare a show.
So what I said, what Iwas gonna do today is we're gonna
do question and answers, question andanswers throughout the whole entire show. So
my producer, dog Pound Mike MikeHeat is going to put up a link
up here that you all can sharethe screen with me to be able to

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ask me some questions. But Iwant you to keep the question Sexylet's this,
don't go nowhere. Let's know thisthis this PG thirteen, That's what
it is. It's PG thirteen,all right, PG thirteen. I'm willing
to ask the majority of your questions, but if you get too too much
in my business, I'm just gonnalook at your little sad ways, at
least what I can see with mymy good uh left eye. That is

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right, that that is. Butlet's do this. Let's take a quick
breaking and when we come back,we just have a little conversation. So
if you got any questions, please, you know, line them up right
there a dog pom white reading fromme, because I do not have all
my content right so I can't see. So let me tell you now,
let's take a break, and thenwhen you come back then I'll tell you

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all that I've been doing thus farin March. Why I didn't prepare for
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don't need these telling conversations, subscribenow and turning into asking Naomi Bridging
the Gap? All right, well, welcome back. It's your gurty goddess
number bangs here on ax Naomi Bridgingthe Gap podcast, and again this is

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where we talk about love, sex, relationship, cultural differences, and so
much more by bridging the gap betweenthem all and teaching the world on love,
language, attitude, and spiritual uplifting. I see my BTG crew in
the space and the place. Hey, hey, everyone, I see you
all. Welcome back. What's goingon? Dot car my bike? All

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right? So are we ready forthese questions? I mean? Also,
the phone lines are open. Giveus a call at one six two six
six so five two seven five six. That's six two six six so five
two seven five six. And Ihope I'm telling y'all right, because what
I say right now, a sisteris blind. A sister is blind.
I cannot see the thing is blurry? Were my backup at if we got

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it wrong? Correct? All right, guys? So this week, this
week, I've been challenging myself.I've been doing this self love, self
care. You know, I'm allabout self love. I'm all about self
love and self care and doing allthose all those really great positive things for
myself as I continue to grow inlife and better myself. All right.

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So one of the things that I'vebeen that I had a very problem with
doing, and I'm gonna be honestabout my fear, is going live on
social media, like going live onInstagram, going live on TikTok, going
live on all of these different platforms. And so what I did was I
myself the month of March to doa live every day on TikTok. On

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TikTok, so, I challenge myselfevery day to go live on TikTok.
So let me tell you this.So, and I'm kind of cheating a
little bit, and I'm gonna bevery honest because I'm doing it to where
I feel comfortable with. So rightnow as we're sitting here on life right
now, right now, I'm alsogoing live on my Benuch Beauty ten fourteen
thing and that's just so they canget the BTS, you know, side
of it, so then I canI've done my I Dove my challenge for

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the day. Right so I'm kindof I'm kind of hitting two birds with
one stone, you understand what I'msaying. So in that process, I
want to just say this right now, I want to say thank you to
all that is listening to me hereon Naomi's World, here at Exlam Revision
of Podcasts, because you guys docome back all the time. And I

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love my BTG crew that comes outand support and as for my TikTok people,
I love you guys. I'm tryingto be more in all and everything
I do. Another thing that I'vedone is I just created put up the
website for the season and Steff Lovepodcast. I was told to put legs
on it, meaning to bring itaway from Axillamy Bridging to get podcasts and
allow it to be on its ownstanding on its own and even though it

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was created by myself and it's youknow, elevate me self discovery and asks,
Naomi kind of you know, birthedthe Season of Self Love podcast.
We are now on episode eighty twoof the Season of stelf Love. And
then that's a podcast that I doMonday through Friday every day and it has

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been a joy to work at.Over there. I have a co host.
You all met him, doctor Will. He's on at least twice a
week with me. He's a therapist, a health psychologist, therapist, and
he has some great words of wisdomunderstanding all Look, the brother helped me

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out this week when I was goingthrough some things. But make sure you
guys check that out as well.The website is the season and stelf Love
podcast dot com. Yeah all right, so let's go to the big thing,
the good challenge that I've been doingand because I pinned March for me,
not only it is the last monthin the first quarter, but also

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for me is getting myself back inhealth and good health. You know,
really, look, I am fiftyone years old, period, and I
am so proud to say that Iknow I get people saying why do you
keep saying that? Why do youkeep you know, expressing that you because
guess what, throughout my whole career, and I'm not just talking about in

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the adult industry, I'm talking aboutthroughout my whole career in the entertainment business
period, I had to lie aboutmy age. I literally had an idea
that said I was ten years youngerthan who I was. I was still
of legal age, but I hadto lie and say I was ten years
younger period. So now I'm ableto embrace how old I am and I

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love it and I love it.So when I say that I'm fifty one
years old, I sent five nineand a half ftall and I was as
a Monday, i was two hundredand five pounds. Now I'm two hundred
and one pounds. Yes, it'swaterway, but shit is gone. It's
gone. But I got this challengethat I'm doing, and I'm posting that
on TikTok as well as well assharing it on on my Instagram too.

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But with this, this is kindof make it fun for me because I've
spent thousands and thousands of dollars withtrainers with different programs, any programs,
and I'm gonna be very honest.At the time that I was doing them,
they worked, They really worked.It was this one that I did
was a reset, and he challengedme. I think it was like for
ninety days, and I think Ilost like thirty pounds and I lost it

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before, Like I was hitting itlike hard. I was doing everything hard,
look great. Then after I finishedgetting my goal, it went downhill
from there. It went down herehill from there. And the crazy thing
is that I usually work out,not often, but I work out more

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than I have lately. So letme tell you the last time that I
work out before I started this challengewas over eight months ago. Over eight
months ago, A sister was sittingin the beer eating bombons and whatever,
and I was writing. I hadbeen doing some writing, you know,
getting podcasts together, just doing business, so I wasn't taking care of my
body physically, and for some reasonin my mind, I figured like,

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oh, I can kind of snapback, you know, because I've always
been able to. I've never beena heavy person, never been a heavy
person. Ever. Once I hadmy last baby at forty years old,
for some reason, that weight didnot want to go anywhere, like literally,
like I'm like okay, well,let me go play some basketball.
I went out there, try toplay basketball. A sister was out of

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breath. I hit a jump shot. After I hit that jump shot,
I was on the ground, like, what the like, what the hell
the thing was? Because my bodywasn't used to all of this weight.
It wasn't. But I'm gonna tellyou this, those curves were looking good.
Those curves that I always asked for, they were there. They were

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there, they were in place.I was finally getting that shape that my
aunties at my mama head. Andit was there. But honestly, I
didn't know how to handle it,meaning that I was struggling with them with
my clothes because I still had clotheswhen I was smaller, and I did

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not understand the difference from my clothingand putting those clothes on and how the
way that they would look. Soand then this might be crazy when I
say this in my head and inmy eyes, I said, I still
had skinny Yaomi. Does that makesense? So skinny Naomi? So anybody
nine five nine and a half.And back then, back then, I

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was wearing one seventy five one eighty. But that was too heavy for me
because I'm used to wearing one fortyfive. I was in between one thirty
five and one forty five, andthen sometimes I'll be down a one twenty
five looking like a stick. Butit was conducive to my career because I

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used to model. I used todo runway models, so they want you
that size, which was pretty cool. The thing is, I never had
an eating disorder or anything like that. My metabolism was just fast. Me
playing basketball, me running track,me dancing. Those things kelt my body
moving and going. But once thatforty hit, I wasn't as active anymore.

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I had just recently retired from theadult industry, and I was more
focused on being at home and focusingon my baby, my family, and
doing my business. And so Iwas eating, you know, eating good
food because before I could eat everything, eat all the starches and carbs that
I work to man. Butter pecanwas not only my aphrodizy yet, but

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that was my food to go to. You understand what I'm saying. So
for me that way, I waslike, what is this? How can
I get rid of it? AndI remember seeing a lot of my aunts
and my my mom she did itsometimes, but I seen a lot of
my friends, you know, goon these dice and doing me running and
walking, and I'm like, whyy'all doing all of that? And they

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said, you gonna see you don'tsee that little body you got right now,
I ain't gonna always be like that, And I was like, yes
it is, because seriously, Iwas forty years old before I found out
I was pregnant. I was fortyyears old and still had a nice shape.
I think back then I probably waslike one for forty five, you

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know, really nice, tall,slender, thick in the right places,
just like like banging just you period. Then I become pregnan, now get
this, I'm all stomach, andbut I'm like, fine, so when
I get rid of this baby,when this baby come, I'm gonna be
really all ass Right, Well,guess what. The stomach didn't go down

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the way that I wanted it to, Like I usually be able to snap
back, but it didn't. Andit took me some time to do it
because on that baby. With thelast one, I was on bed rest
the entire time. I could notwalk. I had to be pushed around
in the wheelchair, and my feethad to be elevated the whole entire time
that I was in the bed.So I wasn't thinking about none of those

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things. So let me tell youwhat happened. So this is why I
say about the trainers. So onceI get off of you know, maternity
leave and stuff like that, andI knew I wasn't going back into the
industry perform me. But I knewI still had my radio show at Playboy
Radio in a series, and Ifigured that was a part of it.

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And then I, you know,do my rest of my mind business and
stuff like that. I was stilldoing time work, you know that stuff.
So it's fun. So I said, okay, let me get get
into a trainer, let me getback into shape. Was working on a
mainstream project. I need to getback to shape to look like that young
lady that was there like three fouryears ago. And so I went to
this trainer, you know, andI was talking to her and she said,

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you know what, you told herthat I was athletic, I did
this such and such and such andsuch. But then I told her,
I said, look, I've neverbeen this heavy before. I said,
so, I don't think I thinkwe should take this slong. She told
me, no, she said,you hired me, right, I said,
yes, I did. She said, so I know your bodytop you
already. I took the test,you know, the test that they asked
you to take, you know,when they give you all these you know

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whatever and the food and stuff likethat. And I I was like,
fine, I get out there fora week and she's working me. I'm
doing everything because I'm very competitive.I'm very competitive, so I'm gonna go.
She's pushing me in, I'm gonnago. And the next thing I
know, I hear what the fuckit was my achilles. I thought it

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had pop and head broke, butit didn't. It was just a strain.
So I had to have a braceon my leg, on my ankle,
I had to have a brace onit, right, And then she
just had me doing upper body andI was still in pain. I was
like, Okay, she really nothearing what I'm saying. She's really not

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hearing what I'm saying, because I'mreally I looked at myself as being a
small frame, you know, typeof person. But for them, she
just kept going. And I understandthat. It was something that I spoke
about the other day on on mypodcast yesterday, and I said The reason
why I chose to go through AIwas because of this reason. It's because

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we always have bias. We alwaysare biased when we look at someone that
we feel that we know who theyare just by the way that they look.
You understand what I'm saying, Andwhat is it called by prejudice?
Racist? Y'all know what I'm tryingto say. Ya, y'all know the
word that I'm trying to say.And and so for that much, I

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was like, Okay, let mekind of bag up on trainers for a
minute, because beforehand, the problemthat I had with trainers before is that
my trainers were I was trying toholler, that's what I was with the
men. And so that's why Iwent to a woman next, because I
didn't I wouldn't have that problem.At least I would think that I wouldn't
have that problem, right, Okay, So that didn't work. Okay,

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So I was like, okay,well, let me do these online courses,
these online these online you know typeof trainings I did Britney Babe.
I did Brittany Bay for for someyears. You know, I think she's
still getting paid for me, andI haven't done anything in about two or
three years off of her program.But I thought her program was great because
it was more of a home,you know, training type of thing,
you know, for me. Butit was for me is I wasn't ready.

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I didn't have the discipline for it. I didn't understand who this body
was for me. You understand.I was so used to my body always
you know, coming back in shape, you know what I'm saying. And
so then I started to change myeating habit. I did keto for three
years, which was amazing. Iwas able to lose weight. I was

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able to keep it down for awhile. Then I went on this which
I'm doing right now called the intermediatefast to where I eat for an a
hour window. I do that now, which has been great. That's something
that I've always done, but Iain't did it in eight months because I
don't know. Sister was checked outthe whole time, just really focused on

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other stuff. But I was likethis focused and I wasn't looking at none
of this other stuff because I waslike, it is what it is,
and it's gonna be that. Butwhen I just started to feel certain things
in my bodies that was not working, I said, no, I got
to change this up, like Ireally have to change this up. So
then I go to AI. Igo to AI, and I said,

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I heard that you can do awhole lot of stuff. So if I
said, and I tell you whoI am, if I tell you I'm
a five nine and a half,I ain't worked out in eight months.
I've weighed two and four pounds,two hundred and five pounds. My goal
is one eighty five for right now. I don't eat chicken, I don't
eat fish. These are the projectproducts that I'm working with off of TikTok,

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the mini stepper and the weighted Huluhoop, you know, and all
of those things. You know,this is what I'm working with. I
got a home gym. I gota swimming pool in my backyard. These
are the things that I'm working with. Okay, make me out a plan
for thirty days that I can dothis, do this, and that I
can get down to a one eightyfive at least closer to that. I

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type it in and it gives mea whole thing. So then my mind
go, oh girl, this issome content. You can share this.
And the thing is you can shareme because you can share it in real
time, you know, what Imean. People can see you now you
you your body, they can seeit. They can see you find nine.

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You know you knocking on the doorof Mini Paul, Minnopausits around the
corner. I can't run from it, so it's coming. So why it's
coming, I might as well,you know, greet it on it.
Come on in. But this timewhen you come in, it's gonna be
coming into a banging their's body.Does that make sense? Right? Come
on, came Min Paul. I'vebeen running from you for a minute,
but it ain't no running, nomost come on, come on, come

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on, We're gonna figure this outtogether. That's that's where I was saying,
you know, we're gonna figure thisstuff out together. And so that's
where the AI challenge came from.It. I thought it would be pretty
cool to share with my fans andwith my followers, and maybe you can
do the same thing. You cango to chat ahi or open ai or

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whatever AI you know programs are thereup for and do the same thing for
me. And I've been very honest, I found out not too love all
that I am type a personality thatmeans that right now I am a I
am a recovery perfectionist. I ama recovery perfectionist. So I have my

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challenging times that I want to beperfect in every single way, but I
understand that there is no such thing. All right, It's challenging for me,
but I understand. But but insanethat I know that I am very
competitive, and so sometimes I tendnot to and I'm just gonna be real.
Sometimes I tend not to listen toothers. Shame on me, Yes,

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shame shame on me. I do. I tend not to listen to
others, but I am a greatlistener. I know that don't make sense,
It don't, but I do.And I don't know what it is.
I don't know if it's that partthat I'm being competitive or I just
think I know it all or Idon't know exactly what that is. But
that's why I went to AI.So now I can motivate myself, I

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can challenge myself, and I canmake myself accountable. Does that make sense?
So when I love that everybody,you know they sending me they want
to be my my workout buddy.That don't work with me? I promise
you it don't. Because what whathappened is that we will be working out
together and then it would get morepersonal to what we be talking about other

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stuff, and I need to befocused on just working out. I'm a
buddy type of person. But whenit comes to this right here and I'm
trying to prove a point to myself, no, I need to kind of
focus. This is the time thatI need to bring my boundaries up and
be like, no, I'm gonnado it. I have to do it
myself in my own way. Youknow, period, I can't have no

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one else around. Does that makessense? So you can deal with aih,
I can deal with Ai. Idon't know me from Adam. Hey,
I don't know me. I knowyou, No, A, I
do not know me. I canbe up there like my name is Peter,

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but like seriously, seriously. Sothat is what I've been doing.
And also I've been doing even aneven skincare challenge. During the winter months,
my skin does get very dry andblotchy, and so I had wanted
to find and I did. Ifound, uh some soap. It's a
turrid Kojak. I think it's Kojakacid soap that I've been using for the

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past few days. And not onlyfor that, but I'm about to be
real, real even with my letme do this one even with my underarms,
and I'm just being real with evenwith my underarms right now, and
it's actually working. It's actually working. So with my under arms, you
know, for years and years ofshaving all the time, and I had
gotten the wax once before that hurtlike hell, and so no, I

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just went back to shaving in theneir. But what it did was it
made dark spots up under my arms. And so after this Kojic soap that
I've been using has been helping.And it's only been four days, like
literally four days, and you seehow light it is. If I can
show you it before and after youknow of it even like wow. And

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then my skin. I got alittle makeup right now, so I can't
really be lying right now on myface because then I'll be lying. I'll
be lying. But you know,but it's looking good and it's glowing,
you know. So it's all abouthealth, wellness and you know, and
well being for me the month ofMarch, and I just love that everybody

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is, you know, rooting meon, and that's what I'm talking about.
Let's root each other on us.We you know, look to change,
have changes in our lives, likeperiod period. So I see a
lot of people now I can't reachout things. I see a lot of
people on uh comments with questions andstuff like that. And then we do
got a calling. But let's golet's go to the comments first. But

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first of all, we're gonna goto Scott. Scott fixed this for us.
And when you're talking about unconscious unconsciousbias, when you talk about the
bias part, okay, thank you, thank you, unconscious bias. That's
the word, unconscious bias. Thankyou. What's his name, Scott?
Thank you, Scott, Thank you, Scott Williams. And then just give

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some say big and lifestyle is thebest. Okay, who said that?
Figure bounty? Okay, so letme say this. You know what,
I'm almost there with you. Ipromise you, I'm almost there with you.
I did vegan for two months.I did vegan for two months.

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I did the problem with that,and I am just gonna be honest.
It was like, even though Idon't eat chicken, I don't eat chicken,
I don't eat turkey, I don'teat any of those things. And
and that was before. That's beforeI stopped eating chicken and stuff, and
it was like I was addicted,like I needed something. So I used
to get the fake chicken and thefake you know those those fake things.

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What is it called the the Westernam burger? What was the burger call
the Wow? Yeah, the impossibleBurger. And I mean I made some
really great dishes I did, butthen I have to truly do a real
cleanse. And I do a lotof cleans, but I really had to
do a cleanse to kind of youknow that sensation. No, I just

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need discipline, that's all. That'sthat's really I need to That's that's really
it. So I'm I'm with you, Figure, I understand. I'm with
you, Figured. I'm trying toget there. I'm right, the line
is right here, I'm right here, So I'm gonna get there. I'm
going to get there. I'm justI'm just I'm I'm walking slow, I'm

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taking I'm taking my time. I'mtaking my time with it. So when
I do transfer over there, it'sgonna be it's gonna be an amazing,
amazing lifestyle. Right yeah, Yeah, And here we go to renew poet.
See you wanna go back and past. What were your event in your
track days? Ooh, what wasmy event in my track days? All

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right? So I ran there thehundred yard gash, the two hundred yard
gash, I ran the four byone relay, I was the anchor.
I ran the the four x two, which is the eight hundred relay iran
anchor. I read the mile relaywhich I was anchored, and I ran

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the open quarter with that. NowI know that's a lot because we were
only able to do four, andso my coach would kind of witched me
up. My main ones was thehundred, the two hundred, and the
four by one, and so hewould kind of switch me out for the
eight hundred, like if he couldput me in all of them, he
would have. He truly would have. But I kind of read all that

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and I forgot about the eight hundredmilty two. I ran that one as
well, and I did pretty good. I made all State, I made
all conference, all sectional. SoI went to State and even you know,
got a partial scholarship for track.Then going into you know, I
had to walk on because it's awhole other thing. Y'all read about it
in a book. But but yeah, okay, and then here go quick.

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There's gonna be a quick answer foryou out here. Okay, and
Jack one, though, are youcoming back to porn? No? You
know, let me say this.I've been out of the industry actively for
twelve years. Twelve twelve years.I've been actively out of the industry,
meaning when I say actively, notperforming for no companies, nothing, and

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I mean that. I think.The only thing that I did come back
to do and it was a nonsexual part, and I was for Wicked
with axel Bron for the suicide bombSquad. And how that came about is
that I originally said no to hisproducer that came in and talked to me,
and they contact Lex. Lex wasin the movie as well, and

(30:26):
Lex called me and he said,Naomi, you gotta do this. He
said, I know you, youknow, he said, I know you
retired. I know you're going onto something else. He said, but
there was no sex thy it'd bestrictly acting. And he said, he
really wants you to do it.He said, well, can you just
sit down and have a meeting withthem, Just sit down and have a
meeting with them, and then forhe said, but I think this would
be really good for you. Soy'all gotta thank Lex for that. And

(30:49):
I was like, I don't know. I don't know because I'm only he
said, for real, I'm tellingyou. He said, then you can
close the door. He said,then you can close the door. He
said, then you can close thedoor. So then I went and I
sat down and I met with Axel. We had a great meeting. It
was it was great. It wasgood to see him again. I hadn't
seen him since when I first gotinto the industry. I hadn't seen him

(31:11):
since then. And we did amovie then together, and he was I
mean, he was great, awesomewith me, and he said, I
think you would do great on it. You know, I just lied because
I went in They had did theX movie and I had went in to
audition as Storm. Okay, soI had my my silver wig. You

(31:33):
know, I'm dark like the realStorm, you know. But they had
already had that part already made andI think it was skin Diamond who got
that role for that. But hesaid, I had really wanted to use
you for something. And he said, but then when the time came up,
I heard that you was retired.I heard that you was retired.

(32:00):
I heard that you was retired,and I just think you would be great
for this thing. And I wentin and did it and actually ended up
winning AVN award, actually my onlyaward that I won, and then I
received the ABN Hall of Fame.Was it last year? A year before
last? But yeah, but mecoming back into the industry now as a

(32:21):
performer, no, can I behonest, I don't think I ever really
left the industry for say, Ibelieve that I've always stayed contact. I
was still going to events, eventhis podcast right now here as not and
bridging that podcast, I do bringon some great guests that are in the
industry or have been in the industry. You know that I would never shut

(32:45):
the door meaning on that industry.It's a part of my life, a
big part of my life. Itactually allowed me to have a platform like
that to be able to speak aboutBut me going back, No, not
in that sense, I know whatyou asked for. Not in that sense.
No, you know, Jack canjust put a thing up. Well,

(33:07):
I think it's very nice that youcame into the industry. We love
you so much and then you leftus. We missed you greatly. Please
come back. So you have somevery very good fans out there, but
no coming back in that aspect ofas far as performing. Well, see,
look, you have more access tome right here. Come over here,
see any just because you won't seeme ass naked. But I'm still

(33:30):
here. There you go, I'mstill here and you have more Are you
able to talk to me more herethan you did when I was in the
industry, well, when I wasactively performing in the industry, you know.
And the thing is, I usedto go to conventions all the time,
like really, I went to allthe abns to exbiss the exoticas so

(33:52):
I was there. I met alot of fans, you know, for
me the industry and you know what, I hate to say this because everyone
has their stories, and I amso I hate that a lot of these
people, both men and women,especially the women that had to go through

(34:12):
the industry like that, you know, to where they have horrible stories.
That's that's man. If anything,our industry, this industry should have been
doing better for some of those youunderstand what I'm saying better, uh,
And it's unfortunate. But for meright now, I'm speaking on my experience
and I didn't have any nor horrorstories that I can compare to other girls

(34:38):
that I've heard and that I knowof. So okay. And this is
another question because somebody asked me thisbefore. What I advise a woman or
someone to get into the industry,And I say this, You definitely have

(35:06):
to have thick skin. You definitelyhave to know who you are. You
definitely have to have a plan,an exit plan. You really have to
be about your business. You can'tgo in there just wolent. You just

(35:27):
can't. I honestly think, youknow, comeing in and you should come
in at the age of twenty one. I've got backlash from saying that once
before. I do believe that.I don't believe that somebody eighteen nineteen and
twenty years old. I can saytwenty years of you know, kind of
there, but eighteen nineteen years oldshould be going, you know, in

(35:49):
there in that industry like that,because even though we have a lot of
good people that's in that industry,know that there are a lot of bad
ones too, just like they arein the music business, just like they
are in just Hollywood period. Thatpeople will pray on you, you know,
and if you do choose have agreat support system with you have a

(36:12):
great support system that's gonna understand whatyou're going through. In the past few
weeks and months, we've lost alot of people, a lot of beautiful
women that have really been superstars inthis industry that have committed suicide. And
that's a terrible thing. And thereason for that is not only because they're
living in shame, is because you, and not particularly you the fans,

(36:37):
but a lot of people were bullyingthese people on social media and in their
regular lives because there are what notagreeance to what they say or what their
work career is, or their choiceis. That doesn't make them a bad
person because I chose and I decidedto get into the adult industry. That

(36:57):
doesn't make me a bad person.Doesn't make me to where I'm blessed than
that I don't deserve love and seeinthat's what's happening with this world. The
world is so broken that they tendto want to put those things on and
it's mostly the women that they comeat. It's majority of the women that

(37:19):
they come at. I just wishthere were different programs that for those of
us that have trans transition from theADELT over to mainstream that it is.
I'm working on something right now,but I wish there was programs like that
to can really bring them in,to be able to help them onto mental
side of things, because it isvery stressful because now you're trying to find

(37:42):
your way in a world that isnot accepting of you. So how can
we get through it? How canwe do it? And we're so addicted
of that fast money. I knowI was. I just stopped my only
fans. It's been a year now. That money that was coming in was

(38:05):
good, it was, But thenI said, I don't want to do
it no more, not like that, not like the way. I want
to do it my way. ButI still got to focus on something else.
And if I am to come backto it, then I would,
but otherwise no. But also mything is this too, is that you

(38:27):
have a lot of the men.You don't see a lot of the women
speaking, but you have a lotof the men that watch our very movies.
Know it, Back and forth willbe the first one to shame us.
You can't be throwing stones at ourglass house when your house is just
as glass as ours. You reallycan't. And I don't know whether anger

(38:52):
comes from from you. All thatyou feel because a woman is not speaking
to you or saying or answering youback, that you can belittle them in
any kind of way, call themall kinds of names, because the one
thing is, wo, how doyou know who she is? If you
wasn't watching her movies or you wasn'ton those websites, but you wasn't doing
those late night jerk offs. Youunderstand what I'm saying. So I know

(39:16):
y'all probably gonna be in my DMScalling me all kinds of names. Posted
up some stuff I did that,I did it, then I do it.
I did that shit, and Idid pretty good because I got a
couple of wards for a geatnominated,So I didn't do that. But now
I'm doing something differently, and soare the other women that who has left

(39:36):
the industry. It's something I'm sovery proud of. Just see that transition
from this has been amazing, butI know that it's been very trying,
very trying, And if you weretrue fans of these people out there,
you were applaud you will applaud theirtransition and be a part of that new

(39:57):
journey with them, because you neverknow what you who can learn from that.
I'm just being real. That's it. So again, thank you of
Jackie, and I still love youall, But no, baby, y'all
had enough of that, of thatpart of me as Naomi. Now you're

(40:20):
gonna get this part. And Ithink this is the best part part ever.
I think this is the most themost rawst realist nakedness that you can
get. This one you're gonna reallyfall in love with because it's not superficial.
Does that make sense? Does thatmake sense? Yeah? And you

(40:42):
know what somebody told me, somebodytold you really think very highly of yourself.
The hell I yes, I do. I know who my mom and
my daddy is. I know whomy grandparents is. I know who my
village of people were. You understandwhat I'm saying. That's why I can
walk with my head up high andnot be ashamed of anything I've done because
it's a choice that I made,and whatever reasons that I made that choice,

(41:06):
I'm living in it today. I'mjust saying period. All right.
So on that note, we're gonnatake a quick breaking and then we're gonna
come back. We're and come back. We're gonna take some phone calls.
All right, give us a callat six two six six five two seven
five six. That's six two sixsix, so five to seven five six,

(41:30):
all right, it'sha Gurty God hisnumber. Here on as Nyomi Bridging
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(44:06):
what we talking about love, sex, relationship, culture, differences and so
much were by bridging the gap betweenthem all and teaching the world on sex,
language, attitude and spiritual uplifting.What is going on my BTG crew?
I want to thank you all forjust being so interactive today with these
questions. They've been some good questions, some good questions and also hearing me,
hearing me run all about my weightloss journey. What's going on?

(44:30):
Dot PM? Mike's all good?You going on this weight los journey with
me? Yeah? Yeah, rightright when I leave E right, I'll
give you this three piece wow.Alright, them phone lines I opened,
give us a call that sixty twosix six or five two seven five six.

(44:52):
That's six two six six or fivetwo seven five six. It's question
and answers to the ask me somequestions and I'm I'll think my answer.
No, I'm just scared. Iwill answer your questions as long as you'll
get to do deep and personal inmy stuff. I will let you know
what's going on. But you know, I'm so excited for our guess for
this this month, I got guessed. Next month, I got guests lined

(45:15):
up for the month. Let metell you something with his sister. Been
working the system, been working,been lining them up, and you know
they come from all aspects, allacross the board. Right. So next
week we have Brian Reeves. Heis a retired Air Force officer turned a
relationship coach and he has a bookcalled treat Her every Day or Leave Her?

(45:38):
Yeah, or leave it. Ihope I'm saying that book right.
But he's gonna be here giving ussome some advice. And this is from
a man. So all of my, my, my, sexy men that
are in the building, you mightwant to you might want to hear this.
You might want to hear this becausehe's gonna give you some notes.
I'm gonna take some notes. Whyhe's saying it too, But he's gonna
give you some notes. And I'min I'm reading a book right now,

(46:00):
and it's a great book. It'sa great book and you kind of read
it the way that you you know, he has it to wear. You
can kind of break it down andyou don't have to go in chronological order.
He kind of got a way toshow you how to read it,
to read it a different way.And then on a twenty eighth man,
we got somebody that's coming from theiconic bunny Ratch. I remember what the

(46:20):
bunny ratch is, right right,Bunny Rach, the beautiful Remy Martin will
be speaking to you all telling herstory. You know, a few months
ago we had a madam that ownedit's so what better way is to have
one that works, you know,coming to share instead their share their story

(46:42):
and breaking breaking the sigma on sexworkers? All right? And then next
month we got we got some goodones for you. We got some good
good ones for you in a weekin the month after that. Yo,
what I'm telling you, I'm excited. I truly am excited. That's one
reason why I can't get to getwhat I'm here by myself. Like,
Okay, we're gonna talk about now, because we talk about everything, We've

(47:02):
talked about everything. I mean,we even talk about gossip. I'm not
I am not a gossipy person,you know, I get. I don't
like being low vibrational like that.Just a twitch, just a twitch,
and it's just a twitch and justa twitch. And all right, let's

(47:24):
take this phone call Hello, they'rein Nami Bangs. They're dog Pound Mike,
Mike. But hello, how's itgoing, Joseph. I'm all right.
Uh sorry I have been calling in, but I have been listening to

(47:47):
your show, then to your guestsprevious ones. Uh before I asked this
question, Uh, you remember oneof your previous guests on the show,
Dominique Simone. Yes, the beautifulDominique Simon. Yes, it's you or

(48:13):
Doug Pound Mike Mike. Are evertweeting or twittering or chatting with her again?
Please let her know. I orderedher book and ordered and got her
book as Stars Porn, Breaking Barriersand Barring It all placed in order for

(48:38):
it from Barnes and Noble. Also, do you have it? Yes,
I'm going to try find time toread. It's just I've been awfully busy
grocery shouting and happen to get bloodpressure tests and blood work done. And

(49:01):
well, I hope you feel better. The book is great. Did you
say bullshit? Uh? Bullshit?Not the book I been doing. No,
I'm doing okay, no bullshit thatI'm doing around the house okay,

(49:24):
okay for apartment Okay, not thebook. Not the book about what I
said, I hope you feel better. I heard with bullshit and uh and
please know I probably said this alsothe India when people asked her if she

(49:45):
was going back to porn, andshe said no, no, it's all
right if you don't wish to goback to porn and wish to continue the
Nami's world. I got your back, just like I got India's back if
you wish with her show at DallesRadio and Hot Shit ter Tea. Oh

(50:09):
no, that's why. Get thatplug again, baby, get that plug
again. That is what I'm talkingabout. I truly do you know what,
Joseph, I truly do appreciate youbecause you are a very loyal fan.
You really are. You are avery loyal fan. Yeah, there's
I don't know, back when youwere doing Born, I don't know,

(50:35):
do you this has happened or not. I'm only asking, uh you do
you only agree the fans that placeslike Exotica. I'm just asking because there's
one person I like to see onis showing ask her this situation. Why

(50:57):
she don't a greet fans except atExotica. It's another porn star as her
own show that's on Friday called Elisacalled Alisa Anne Experience hosted by Lisa Anne.
Now, Now, what did yousay she don't greet fans at Exotica.

(51:22):
I'm not understanding what you're saying.She only greets the at Exotica.
I don't know. She mentioned onetime some experience on an elevator, someone
to take a selfie with her orsomething and she didn't quite like like it

(51:43):
or I'm not sure what maybe hewould. If she's ever on your show,
maybe you can both get the threeof us can get to the bottom
of were you the one in anelevator? Oh? Okay, So let

(52:06):
me say this. You know alot of times, I know I've been
approached in public. I've been approachingin public when I'm with my family,
and sometimes people cannot have they don'thave the most respectable way when they're speaking
to you in that manner. I'vehad a lot of people that come to
me that was, you know,good, you know people. But also

(52:28):
you have to realize that sometimes whenwe want that private moment, we want
that private moment with ourselves. Youunderstand what I'm saying, and especially if
that person has done it and justtook a selfie of them without you know,
just giving them, you know,getting permission, and if she said
no, then just respect that.It's not her being mean. And I

(52:49):
mean, I love Lisa Anne.I mean, she's a friend of mine
in the industry, and we wentback and forth the other day talking through
social media and we made plans toyou know, retouch. But it's hard,
especially you know, she's a reallybig personality. You know, she
she's been one of the ones that'sbeen successful enough to be able to transition

(53:12):
out of out of porn and intoyou know, other aspects of the industry.
So when when you when we aswomen, especially coming from the adult
industry and the sex world, youknow, many people look at us as
we're open season, like we're they'reable to do whatever they want to speak
or say whatever they want to tous. And it's not everybody, but

(53:36):
we have to be on high alertat all times, you understand what I'm
saying. So when she does walkoff of that, because she's at work
and she's she is a brand.So when she does walk off of that,
off of that floor and walk intoshe's trying to go and find some
peace somewhere, because believe it ornot, it's rough out there. It

(53:57):
truly is the words that come outof these people mouths and the things that
they do are horrible just because theymight not agree with what you say or
just because you told them. Now, so let me say this. If
I was to get her on thisshow and you want to answer that question,
can I be honest with you,Joseph, I wouldn't even allow because

(54:17):
that was that was her prerogative.That was her putting her boundaries down,
and at some point you have tohave boundaries. I wasn't going to play
her now. I'm just gonna betrying to discuss it, gentlemen, like

(54:37):
if she does not want to answeror talk about got no problem with that,
right, Okay, okay, ButI just want to make clear.
I just want to make it clearyou understand what I'm saying, and I
know the thing is, I understand. I know that you all have been
watching us for years, for manyyears, have grown up with us and
probably had the first jerk off toa lot of the win But at some

(55:00):
point in time in these women inthe guy's lives, and even with regular
celebrities too, sometimes you know peoplemight want that piece. It might not
have been a good day for her. You understand what I'm saying. I
guess the thing is is that Idon't like when people talking not you,
Joseph, because you heard this storyfrom someone else. It wasn't your story,
but you heard this story for someoneelse. But the thing is is

(55:21):
that we take this story and itgoes like telephone. Y'all remember that game
Telephone. So by the time itreaches the person, it has become such
a big asting. It could havebeen hurt just in the elevator. And
when I'm telling you, when youin those conventions, man, your feet
are hurting because you are standing inthose heels for eight nineteen ten hours and

(55:44):
you're greeting and you're hugging these peopleand you're talking to them and you're signing.
Your feet is hurting. So Ican imagine what she was feeling like
when she was on her way orher way to her hotel room, to
her room. Her feet is hurting. Now she don't have to have her
her face on any more meetings.Her mask is off. She can relax
and she could go on being whoevershe is in her regular life. And

(56:07):
yeah, probably and that person probablyjust call her on a bad day it's
unfortunate that it had to come outsomething bad. The thing is, I
haven't had a bad experience with Lisa, and you understand what I'm saying.
I haven't you know, you knowwhat I'm saying. People might talk shit
about her, people might talk shitabout me. But if you haven't had

(56:29):
that experience with me, and ifit wasn't good, you probably need to
look at the mirror at yourself andunderstand why it wasn't good. Okay,
but thank you for real Joseph,I I love you, baby. You
come in with some great questions incommon time. Yeah, all right,

(56:52):
baby, talk to you. Soall right, all right, integrated got
his nam here on that podcast.I kind of got mixed up a little
bit. That was Joseph. Josephhe is. He's a very loyal fan,
he is, and he does.He has a lot of questions that
he asks. You know, sometimesI'd be like, okay, but then

(57:15):
I you know, sometimes we haveto let people know that, you know,
the celebrity stars or whatever you wantto call us, or whatever you
want to call that, sometimes they'rethere. They can't be accessible at all
times. Sometimes they need a partof peace, and people say, well,
you chose to be in this.He chose to be in the in
the limelight in the industry. Yeah, but that didn't say take over take

(57:37):
our uh take our private time.If we walking from work to something that's
not it and if we if wefeel good. I know I have if
I forgot it like he Yeah.But if I'm in an intimate moment with
my family and I'm walking, amI'm a funny walmart No, and I'm
purposely looking like a poem, Sowon't nobody see me? No, I'm

(58:00):
just saying I just got triggered.I got I just got triggered all over
again. Yeah. Yeah, Ijust got triggered all over again. All
right, So we got some morequestions. Let me check, let me
check it. We would talk tous. I see everybody laugh, right,

(58:22):
You got a lot of laughing facesup there. You got a lot
of compliments up here. Uh,I free said, uh is standing in
my hand of friendship to you becauseof what I see in you is is
way beyond me. When it isyour birthday? And would you come to
Africa? You know I love Africaand I'm truly planning the trip to come

(58:45):
to Africa. I am thank you. My birthday is October fourteenth. No,
how can I sing your present?Let me tell you. You're gonna
send me one before my birthday?Or yeah, I gotta wait to act
ub with fourteenth for that present.Or you're gonna send me one from the

(59:07):
last last year because you missed thatlast year president. Let me know which
one. Yeah. I love presence, I do. I love I love
the presence. I love the presence. I love the presence. I write
to my beautiful people. Well,we have come to the end of our
show, and I want to thankyou all. Thank you all. Remember

(59:28):
like, share comment, you know, even after we put it on replay
and watch it, share with yourfriends. You know, don't be ashamed
of us, because we're not ashamedof y'all. And next week, mister
Brian Reeves will be here to shout. I can't wait to ask them some
questions about this book. This bookhas been amazing, that's far. I'm

(59:50):
gonna read the rest of it thisweekend. And the reason why because I
had several different other guests coming upin the next few months that I have
to read their book as well.So again, thank you all for continue
to support me here on AX namein Bridging Gap podcast The Apartment. Make
you got anything that said before wego? No, it's all good,
all good, can't wait the nextweek. All right, my BTG crew

(01:00:12):
again, thank you, and asI always say, be good to one
another in yourselves and I always keepit sexy. I see y'all next week.
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(01:00:34):
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