I Was Caught In A Mistake, My Colleague Took Advantage Of The Situation To Sabotage...

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I was caught in a mistake, and my colleague took
advantage of the situation to sabotage my interests. Am I
the asshole for deciding to report it to the police.
I've twenty nine degrees fahrenheit officially had it, and I'm
commencing a campaign of relatively benign psychological warfare against one
of my coworkers. I'll call him Dan. Dan started at

(00:20):
the company on November twenty third and seemed cool at first,
but I have slowly grown to find him very annoying.
There are too many examples to get into, but I
would describe him as an entitled, impertinent sour puss with
a nicotine addiction and a self professed problem with following
the rules. WTF, Why would you brag about this at work?
He is my same age and role FTR. I also

(00:40):
arguably have a nicotine addition, but I don't make it
obvious in my fucking place of work. So a few
days ago, I regrettably had a horrifying emergency on my
way into work. The whole ordeal unfolded very quickly, and
while I was unmuted on a work call with my
whole team. I don't want to go into details of
the emergency, but it involved me getting caught up in
an altercation that had nothing to do with me, but
resulted in me having a very public panic attack that

(01:03):
my entire work team also heard over the phone. I
am diagnosed with panic disorder. Edit. I am not supposed
to discuss the details of this situation as it is
an open case with local law enforcement. On my way
to work, I was arrested and I was held in
jail for thirty six hours. I had a panic attack
while being arrested, and then five more while I was
in jail because I was denied access to my prescribed medications.

(01:26):
You can pass your judgment on whether I deserved it,
but you don't fucking know me, my other coworkers, my family,
my friends, and the larger local community. Not the cops
have been extremely supportive. Think what you want, but fuck
the police, and I will probably never be able to
trust them again. I was indisposed for a couple of
days after the emergency, and once I was able to return,

(01:47):
my work computer was still in my office building, which
I ultimately never reached, so I couldn't do any actual
work beyond sending emails. Bluttle messages off my phone. Almost
all of my coworkers, who I've worked with for about
seven years now at this company, were incredibly supportive, sent
me kind messages and were generally concerned for my well being,
having directly heard me go through this ordeal in real time.

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And I still feel mortified, so their support really means
the world. A few coworkers even contacted every single person
I had scheduled meetings with to let them know I
had an emergency. They seamlessly picked up my critical work
tasks and offered to drop off my computer at home
for me. I mean, these people rock, and that's why
I've been at the company for seven years. Dan, however,

(02:28):
has appeared to have seized upon this opportunity my traumatic
emergency to highlight my shortcomings. In the immediate aftermath of
the emergency, when my coworkers were exchanging messages of support
and concern about me, Dan sent no such messages, and
he didn't ask how he could support. Instead, he inserted
an absolutely useless recommendation into the team group chat about
how I could have avoided this emergency in the first place.

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He immediately tried to turn my trauma into a learning moment,
as if it was so obvious that this would have
happened to me because of the choices I made leading
up to it. Very she would asking for it in
that dress, if you ask me gross. Then I am
finally recuperated enough to look at my phone. A couple
days after the emergency, I get a message from a
PM that I work with, asking me about the status

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of a report that I had put Dan in charge of.
The PM tells me that they spoke with Dan yesterday
and that Dan said the report was in my court.
But interestingly enough, Dan conveniently failed to mention to the
PM during that conversation that I had suffered a major emergency,
that Dan had witnessed just the day before, that I
was presently indisposed, and that I would likely need some
time to recover. Not to mention, Dan had never communicated

(03:35):
to me prior to the emergency that the report was
ready for me to review. He kept saying he had
one more task to complete, so fuck him. Despite the
chaos and trauma of that terrible event, I feel a
renewed sense of gratitude for my life, my freedom, and
the everyday privilege of being alive and surrounded by a
supportive community, and I feel even more protective of it.
Now things can change in an instant in ways that

(03:57):
you couldn't possibly imagine. I truly do not have any
more time for bullshit, and for this reason, I feel
absolutely justified in canceling Dan for my life. I'm not
going to try to get him fired or anything like that,
but I refuse to spend my days in close proximity
to him at the office. We currently sit right next
to each other in a two desk office space, but
there are other desks in an adjacent office space that

(04:18):
I can use, so I plan to move my desk
away from his. He can say goodbye to any and
all opportunities to support me on my projects. I no
longer trust him to be a reliable and respectful team player,
and most importantly, if he decides to confront me, which
he might, because he's actually alarmingly confrontational, I will calmly
explain to him that I find his professionalism and working

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style to be unaligned with what I'm looking for in
my projects and in my career. He'll have to find
someone else to work with. Good luck, you, piece of
shit comments comment fuck it sink him communicate to the
PM his messages about one more task to complete, and
express your surprise that he didn't mention this when the
PM asked him about it, especially with his awareness that
you you would be unavailable for several days than disengage

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from him in the workplace. Oopy, this is precisely the plan.
Thank you for your support. Comment. Crucify him the first
chance you get, throw him under the bus every chance
you have, shine a light on his mistakes, failures, shortcomings,
and make him look as bad as he tried to
make you look. Good luck, and I hope you're doing
better now. Oop, absolutely diabolical. I love it. Thank you.

(05:26):
I am feeling much better. A few more tough days ahead,
I'm afraid, but I'm taking it day by day. Comment,
you are an inspiration. I am sending Grandma hugs your way.
Oh aw, thank you so much. Comment, You're very welcome.
I'm so sorry you had to go through such a
traumatic event, and honestly, as a mother of three daughters,

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I am so incredibly impressed with how you are handling
all this. Well done, op OMG. I'm the oldest of
three daughters. I was almost like Waite mom. Loel mom
isn't a grandma quite yet soon though, comment Lol, I'm
actually not a grandma either. My daughters are more than
old enough, but I have two of them that are

(06:09):
like no way at all, and my oldest is like
maybe in the next couple of years. So I always
say I'll send your grandma hugs because I'm old enough
to be one. But I honestly could care less if
I ever become. Not because it makes me feel old
or anything, but I absolutely don't want my kids to
think somehow my life revolves around them or what they
do with their lives, or me being a grandma. If

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they want kids, I want them to have them. If
they don't, I couldn't care less, which I must admit
seems so shocking to ladies my age, because when I
tell them this, they look at me like, how can
you say that. I just have a great time with
my daughters. I think they are funny and smart and intelligent.
They are amazing people in their own right. I just
love spending time with them. Oop, you sound just like

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my mom. Thanks for your words of encouragement. Op clarifies
what got her arrested. It definitely wasn't an accident, but
I was in the wrong place at the wrong time.
I was profiled as someone the police wanted to target,
and they targeted me without bothering to check themselves. Having
spent thirty six hours in jail talking with multiple other women,
you would be surprised at how many people are there

(07:14):
without having any idea why. And it's not because they're
on drugs, since you asked. I was trying to help
someone and was mistakenly and forcibly arrested by police while
they were rating a protest that I was not taking
part in. The protest was right outside my office building,
which I was trying to get to. I was thrown
in jail for thirty six hours, which is why I
was indisposed. I wasn't given access to my prescribed medication,

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and in addition to the panic attack I suffered during
the arrest, I had about five more over the next
twelve hours, all while being totally ignored and laughed at
by officers who are supposed to keep me safe. By
the time I got out of jail, I was a
zombie and I couldn't even spell my own name. Also,
my job does involve manual labor. I work on construction
sites in stallwells and perform sampling. I'm trained to operate

(07:58):
man lifts, nuclear density gauges, and handle hazardous substances. Man,
y'all are just wow. Update two months later felt like
posting an update see original post. All my charges, four
misdemeanors for resisting arrest were dismissed because the police arrested
me unlawfully. I am also moving forward with civil litigation
against the police department. I thought about just dropping it

(08:21):
and moving on with my life, but then I saw
the police bodycam footage, and it is disturbing, to say
the least, worse than I even remembered. It brought my
partner and father to tears. They are not criers. My
mother was simply hysterical and couldn't even get through the
first few minutes. She said, watching her child be held
down and beaten while I was crying and screaming for
help was entirely too much for her to bear. I'm

(08:42):
shaking again even recounting it now. Dan still works at
my company, but we don't work together on anything anymore.
I heard he got put on a PIP, but no
one really confirmed that w me, which is probably the
appropriate course of action. I just stay out completely of
his business. I'm doing great at work. I've always felt
good about my job performance PCIe. As I mentioned in

(09:03):
the original post, I love my coworkers and my work
really matters to me. I also stop drinking at smoking
and am currently ten days sober, which has been amazing
for my productivity and my mental health. Still addicted to
nicotine damn zins, but that's the next thing to go,
taking it one step at a time. Thanks to all
the kind Internet strangers for your support. Apparently my story

(09:24):
will soon be made public to the media, but hopefully
you don't hear about it because the video is still
mortifying for me, even though I clearly did nothing wrong
other than panic, which isn't really wrong given the circumstances. Plus,
then my identity will be exposed and I'll have to
make a new Reddit account. Hope Dan doesn't have Reddit
and finds this, but at this point he knows what
I think about him. Hi, Dan comments reasonable, star nine, fiveing,

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and nine. It will all work out. You have a
good attitude despite the awful ordeal you experienced. If it
happens to be made public, the people who care about
you are who matter great for you for quitting drinking
and smoking. That's a amazing Keep on going, one step
at a time, one day at a time. Take care.
We're pulling for you. Now to the next story. Story two.

(10:08):
When my husband had lupus, my parents abandoned me during pregnancy.
They returned years later wanting to be grandparents, but never apologized.
When my husband was diagnosed with lupus. My parents left
me during my pregnancy, saying that he and my unborn
child weren't part of their family. They arrived three years
later and expressed a desire to become grandparents. I severed

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my relationship with my parents three years ago after it
became evident to them that my sister was more significant
to them than my husband, me, or even their grandson.
For background, after nearly a year of symptoms, my spouse
was diagnosed with lupus during my second trimester. After multiple
testing and hospital stays, we received this diagnosis and it
was a very trying period for us. The news that

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we were having a baby made us even more anxious.
I anticipated my family to help us through this. Of course,
when I told my parents, they promised to do everything
in their power to support me during my pregnancy and
after the baby was delivered. Despite our tense prior history,
I believed we were becoming closer since my sister moved
away after her marriage seven years ago. Thus their pledge
meant a lot to me. During her time here, my

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parents always emphasized her as the golden child. After she
moved away and got preoccupied with her life, I believed
I had a chance to connect with my parents at last.
I was mistaken. I was only viewed by them as
a stand in for their favorite daughter. When my sister
came home two months after my baby was born and
announced her divorce due to her husband's infidelity, this became evident.

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My parents spent all of their time with her right away,
forgetting about me and my relatives. I was heartbroken, knowing
that my husband and I were still adjusting to his
diagnosis and frequent doctor's appointments. They had pledged to help
with the baby because of his illness, which left him
exhausted most of the time. I wasn't always able to
rely on my spouse at home, even yet, I was

(11:55):
angry with my parents and never blamed him. My parents
once became I rate and told me that my sister
was more significant to them than I was, particularly if
I were to compare her to my own family. They
claimed that although my sister was their family, my husband
and son were neither. I quickly ended the call, blocked them,
and never spoke to them again because that sentence was
so extremely upsetting. Despite the passage of three years, I

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still can't get it out of my head. I've kept
them out of my life ever then, and I want
to continue doing so. Fortunately, my in law stepped up
and provided us with excellent care. They would visit every
other day to help with the baby and everything else
because they knew my husband was struggling even during my pregnancy.
Even though we got along quite fine without my parents' assistance,

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it still hurt a lot that they didn't even think
of my husband and son, especially their grandson, as members
of their family. We have now moved on after three years.
We can afford to hire a full time nurse, and
last year my husband's web development company took off. We
now operate our business from home together, after I resigned
my job to work with him. It is a practical arrangement.

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My parents unexpectedly arrived with a slew of gifts a
few days after we celebrated our son's third birthday. Since
we hadn't spoken for three years, they hadn't tried to
get in touch, so I was shocked to see them.
They didn't even recognize our earlier talk. When they got there,
they pretended that they had come to meet their grandson
and wanted the opportunity to become grandparents. Rather than offering
an apology, I laughed, closed the door, and refused to interact.

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Since their actions were so absurd after what they said
the last time we spoke, I was not going to
allow them to meet my son. Their statement that my
husband and son were neither their family nor their responsibilities
is still fresh in my mind. I wanted them to
follow it now. They were agitated and would not go,
making noise and pleading with me to open the door
in order to clear the air, but I had no

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interest in doing so. Until they eventually left, I acted
as though I couldn't hear them, despite hearing the entire exchange.
My husband and in laws remained silent until I had
composed myself. They talked to me about thirty minutes later
and advised me to talk to my parents again, even
though I didn't want to give them an opportunity to
meet my son just yet, my spouse and his parents
feel that I should at least listen to them and

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consider it calmly. They contend that I would regret not
giving my parents an opportunity to explain themselves, because they
still made the effort to show there even though it
has been three years. At least I'll feel good about
giving them an opportunity, even if it doesn't work out,
and they were the ones who blew it. I followed
my instructions. I truly appreciate that my spouse and in
laws were not forcing their opinions on me. I know

(14:27):
that their counsel was given out of care, but I
simply don't want to speak with my folks. I don't
think I need that type of drama in my life
right now, and I don't feel ready. I've always had
a tense relationship with my parents, and following that most
recent argument, I made the decision that I wouldn't talk
to them unless they truly apologized. That still hasn't occurred.
They didn't offer an apology when they recently appeared. Even

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if they later apologize, I'll need some time to determine
whether their sincerity or desire to maintain a relationship with
their grandchild is the reason I believe I've earned the
right to forget them, so I won't be doing it
right away. My sister has always been their top priority,
and they have never treated me well. However, I acknowledged
that I might regret not providing my parents an opportunity

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to clarify their position and make amends. As my husband
and in laws have pointed out, I'm unsure of what
to do and am bewildered after three years of no communication.
Am I mistaken for not wishing to speak with my parents? Update?
I've given it some thought and read over all of
the comments. I really appreciate your advice. I've come to
the conclusion that I'm not yet ready to speak with

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my parents. Their actions have still caused me much emotional pain.
They still haven't apologized, and I had decided not to
talk to them until they did. They had the opportunity
to apologize when they arrived the other day, but they
chose not to. After I shut them out, they attempted
to speak to me through the door, claiming that we
could resolve the matter. They never said the one thing

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they were expected to say they were sorry. It's okay.
I've gone three years without speaking to anyone, and I
can do the same for the next three. My husband
and his family and I have spoken about this and
we don't have any animosity. This choice isn't causing us
any conflict. They knew how distressed I was when my
parents contacted me, so they were only offering me advice

(16:12):
out of concern. They don't argue or put any pressure
on you, since several comments seemed to cast doubt on
their motives. I just wanted to make that clear. The
support from my husband and in laws is tremendous. Even
if it were for the benefit of my family, they
would never make me do something I wasn't prepared for.
My parents were quite kind when I told them how
I felt and that I wasn't ready to talk to them.

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They assured me that they would respect my choice and
not put any pressure on me, even if I didn't
feel ready at any time. Thereafter, they made it clear
that they would totally support me in making the greatest
decision for myself, since they trusted me to do so.
Although I appreciate their understanding, I simply don't feel prepared
to speak with my parents at this time right now.
I don't want that kind of turmoil in my life.

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My parents haven't tried to get in touch with me
since their visit, which was nearly a week ago. I'm
not sure why they made the abrupt attempt to get
in touch after three years, but I have a feeling
they might try again. It's okay if they don't. If
they do, they must first apologize before I will engage them.
Second update, my sister contacted me earlier this week. She

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messaged me on Instagram to ask if we could have
lunch because she was in the area and I hadn't
blocked her. Despite our lack of animosity, my sister and
I have never been particularly close. Although we had disagreements
when we were teenagers, things have been peaceful ever since.
I was hesitant to meet her at first, but I
accepted her message because it seemed genuine. We haven't communicated

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much during the last three years, usually simply sharing birthday
and holiday greetings. In spite of my suspicion that she
would eventually bring up our parents, meeting her wasn't as
awkward as I had anticipated. We struck up a conversation.
She stated that she has been residing close by ever
since her divorce was finalized two years ago. She acknowledged
that she had been too busy to schedule a meeting

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with me earlier. We both knew that was untrue. We
had just not given each other. However, I accepted her
excuse because it would have been embarrassing to admit that straight.
She told me that after spending her first year back
with our parents, she moved to a suburban home and
now resides with her partner. She also disclosed that although
she hasn't made the announcement yet, she recently got engaged.

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I really congratulated her and expressed my happiness for her.
I was happy to see her moving on with her
life because I knew how deeply her ex husband's infidelity
had wounded her. She eventually brought up our parents after
meeting up. Things took an unexpected turn at this point.
Since she has always gotten along with them and they
have always put her first, I expected her to stand
up for them, although it wasn't her fault. She never

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seemed to bother. Instead, she informed me that she is
currently at odds with them. She acknowledged that she wanted
to talk to me about a few things and to
express her regret for the past. I was surprised since
I didn't think she needed to apologize because our parents,
not her, were the source of my problems. But she
clarified that her recent altercation with them had caused her
to consider what she had done. Even though she knew

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our parents preferred her. She felt bad about how she
had treated me in the past and for never challenging them.
She regretted not doing more to address the dynamic, which
she was aware of. I urged her not to be ridiculous,
but she wanted to apologize for never defending me. What
could she have done? Really, our parents, not her, were
the issue. She acknowledged that she let things precede the

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way our parents desired, but she stated she should have
stood up for me. Although I truly appreciated her addressing it,
I informed her that I didn't blame her and that
she didn't need to feel sorry. She then began to
explain to me why she and our parents were currently
at odds. She got engaged to her boyfriend, which apparently
upset them because they thought it was too soon after
her divorce. They were concerned about what people might think

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and felt that it was inappropriate to think of getting
married again so soon. But my sister didn't give a
damn about such views. She clarified that she had lost
interest in her ex husband even prior to her divorce.
Before she found out about his affair, they had been
dragging their marriage along for more than a year. Their
relationship had ended a long time ago, and she believed
that our parents were being self centered by expecting her

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to put off moving on because they were afraid of rumors.
Since it's common to move on after a broken marriage,
I don't think anyone would find this circumstance intriguing enough
to engage in gossip. Her timing is perfectly acceptable. She
was also arguing with them about having kids, as if
that wasn't awful enough. She is an independent woman who
does not owe our parents grandchildren. Therefore, I found it

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incomprehensible that she was still answerable to them for her
own choices. In spite of this, our parents were fighting
about her decision to forego having children. Our mom tried
to persuade our dad that at least her plan to
remarry meant she would have children soon. While they were
discussing whether it was right for her to get engaged
so quickly. She even mentioned my sister's biological clock, saying

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it was time for her to consider starting a family.
My sister had to explain, of course, that she had
no intention of having children, not now. Not ever, she
planned to live a completely childless life. Our parents were
even more horrified by this discovery. Her decision to stay
childless simply served to exacerbate their already irritated feelings about
her hasty engagement. They haven't spoken to each other since

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this argument got out of hand and caused a significant fallout.
My sister broke down at the restaurant while she was
telling me this. It was obvious that she wasn't managing
the issue effectively. I did everything in my power to
console her. Since she had dedicated her entire life to
avoiding failing our parents, I could see how difficult it
must be for her. She actually said that even when

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she started experiencing problems in her first marriage, she continued
to be in the poisonous relationship because our parents didn't
believe that divorce was the answer. Clearly that marriage had
not ended well before his affair ended the marriage, her
ex husband had been poisonous, and they had fought nearly
every day. My sister made the decision to go her
own way this time, even if it meant disappointing our parents,

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even though she genuinely loved them and didn't want to
lose them. She informed me that she couldn't keep living
her life according to their wishes, particularly when it came
to important choices like marriage and having kids. Our parents
had attempted to persuade her that having a kid would
resolve all of their marital issues in her prior marriage.
She claimed that because her ex husband was so toxic,
having a kid with him would have simply made matters worse.

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Thus she had escaped a bullet. She told me that
she had never wanted children in the first place, and
that she had made a lot of choices just to
appease our parents. For instance, rather than following her own interests,
she chose to study business in college because it was
what they desired. Our parents had controlled every aspect of
her life, and now she simply desired to live her
life as she saw fit. I felt terrible for her

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as she broke down and started crying as I tried
to console her. After years of stress, and hardship. This
mature woman was finally crumbling. I came to see how
foolish it had been of me to believe that her
life was ideal. Our parents put a lot of pressure
on her, and she had been fighting to survive all
the time. That same pressure has also caused a rift
between us along the way. I made the decision to

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stop it. We had already squandered too much time acting
as though we were unrelated to one another. In actuality,
we were sisters, and our parents had destroyed our bond.
I refused to allow them to continue to rule our lives.
I assured my sister that she could now confide in
me about anything after so many years of avoiding me.
I was happy that she had decided to speak with me.

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I informed her that she didn't need to allow our
parents to make her feel bad because she wasn't doing
anything wrong. I encouraged her, telling her she didn't need
our parents' approval anymore and gave her a pep talk.
Following their wishes hadn't exactly worked out for her in
the past, as evidenced by her first marriage, and she
was mature enough to make her own decisions even while
I couldn't promise that her new marriage would work out.

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I assured her that if it did, at least she
would be responsible for it and not have to hold
anyone else accountable. I also mentioned that our parents had
come to see me recently in an effort to patch
things up. They obviously didn't come to truly apologize or
mend our relationship. They were attempting to take advantage of
their second chance with my family after realizing they wouldn't
have grandchildren from my sister. This insight made maid my

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blood boil. I won't allow them to treat my son
like a placeholder, because he is not. My sister looked
scared when I told her about our parents visit. The
timing was simply too shady. They arrived at my home
attempting to infiltrate my son's life when they abruptly discovered
that their favorite daughter would not be bearing them grandchildren any
time soon. My sister concurred that it was suspicious and

(24:20):
assured me that I had made the right decision in
refusing to let them in or extend forgiveness. Even if
I had been thinking about forgiving them if they apologized
after this, I'm not doing it any more. I'm glad
I chose to have lunch with my sister that day
to work things out. Despite my initial skepticism, I'm actually
happy I accepted the lunch at all. I discovered many
things I should have known, but most all, I came

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to the conclusion that my sister's life was not as
idyllic as I had always thought. For me, this changed everything.
My in laws are aware of what I said to
my sister, and I have discussed everything with my husband.
Since it's obvious that my parents weren't here with the
best of intentions, they are adamantly opposed to me making
amends with them now now their hidden agendas were repulsive.

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My sister and I have stayed in contact ever since.
Despite her initial wish for reconciliation, she has made the
decision to completely cut off contact with our parents. She
acknowledged they didn't deserve it after talking to me. They
not only mistreated me, but they also put a lot
of pressure on her for years. She informed me that
she didn't even know who she truly was for a
long time because she had spent so much of her

(25:24):
life trying to please them. It may sound cheesy, but
for her, that's the real deal. She's had enough now, though,
and I'm happy that she's standing up for herself. We
both need our parents to keep their distance and let
us live our lives as we see fit. They've caused
enough harm. Third update, My sister and I have been
corresponding daily for the past five weeks since our lunch date. Sincerely,

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we both needed this but were unaware of it until now,
so I'm extremely happy that we're getting back in touch.
We were both made aware of how horribly our parents
treated us by that lunch talk. Our parents made another
attempt to get in touch with us last week. Since
we've blocked the everywhere else, they sent us an email.
Even still, their tone was patronizing, as though they were
reaching out to us as a favor. We responded that

(26:08):
we didn't need that and asked them to avoid us
before blocking them once more. We both spend a lot
of time attempting to gain their favor, but it's obvious
now that we can't win with them. We no longer
want to be good daughters to them because they weren't
good parents to either of us. We cut them off
entirely after sending them our last response. They haven't made
another attempt to get in touch since I hope they

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leave us alone at last. That negativity is not what
I want in my life. They are awful people in
addition to being bad parents. I'm glad I stopped seeing
them years ago because she was so devoted to them.
It has been more difficult for my sister in all honesty,
though it seems more like Stockholm syndrome. I'm here to
support her while she deals with it. Now we've become

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much closer, and I'm even helping to organize her wedding.
It says a lot. All I can hope for is
that everything goes smoothly and that our parents stay out
of it. Fourth update. Last week, my sister got married.
I had a great time serving as a bridesmaid. They
kept it quiet and small. I don't see why my
parents couldn't get along with her husband. He seems like

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a wonderful man. My sister seemed to be truly content
in this relationship. Therefore it's their loss. They were obviously
very happy at the wedding. It's really pitiful that our
parents were unable to approve of this because they were
worried about what unimportant people would think. My sister and
I are clearly getting along well these days. We're actually
quite close friends, I'd say. Our parents haven't contacted us

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in a while. They informed us via email approximately five
months ago that they were giving everything to charity and
that we shouldn't expect an inheritance because we are ungrateful brats.
I'm not sure why they felt the need to inform
us of that or what they anticipated would occur next.
They must be disappointed that we didn't go pleading for
their pardon, but it doesn't matter to anyone. I'm content

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with my life, my son, my spouse, and my in laws,
who are far superior to my parents. My sister is
content with her spouse as well. Our parents are free
to remain alone and stew in their resentment and hatred.
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happening around you.