Perfect Exit Plan Guest Glenda Kroll

Are you ready to design your Perfect Exit Plan?

💡 On this powerful episode of The Awakening on NEWStreamingNetwork.com, host Tina Huggins, Divorce & Narcissist Conflict Specialist, sits down with Glenda Kroll—Life Empowerment Strategist, Reinvention Specialist, and host of Let’s Get Real. Together, they explore how to take charge of your future, create a graceful exit strategy, and step into your next chapter with confidence. Whether you’re navigating divorce, a major life transition, or simply ready to reinvent yourself, this conversation offers practical tools and deep insights to help you break free and thrive.

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More About Tina: Tina Huggins, CTA Life Coach certified, CDC Divorce Coach, CDC Transitions Coach, CDC Recovery Coach, TKG Restorative Family Mediator Certified, TKG Family Circle Certified. I have coached for over 30 years coming from the background of law enforcement and self-defense instructor. Tina lived in an abusive relationship ending up with a broken hand, separated ribs, and a dislocated leg from fights during the relationship.

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More about Glenda: I help women over 40 turn life’s breakdowns into breakthroughs using my signature three-step methodology: Recognize, Reinvent, and Rise. My passion is guiding individuals through transformation—helping them reclaim confidence, rebuild self-worth, and step boldly into the brilliance of their potential. Having walked my own path of reinvention through personal struggles, caregiving, and starting over, I bring a deep understanding of resilience, growth, and empowerment. Whether you’re navigating a career shift, recovering from heartbreak, or seeking greater fulfillment, I provide the tools and strategies to help you embrace change and create lasting success.

✨ Build with Purpose. Rise with Power. Lead with Grace.
✨ My mantra: Build with Purpose. Rise with Power. Lead with Grace.

📩 Contact Glenda Kroll 🌐 Website: www.GlendaKroll.com Email: [e-mail]

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:26):
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Speaker 3 (00:27):
Hello and welcome to our show, The Awakening here on WGSNDB,
the Going Bold and Going Solo Network.

Speaker 2 (00:33):
The information and opinions.

Speaker 3 (00:35):
Expressed on this show are just that, the opinions of
the individual speaking based on their individual knowledge and personal experiences.
They are not intended to diagnose and do not constitute
professional advice or recommendations. So you know that pain, the
struggle to stress that divorcing men and women go through, well,

(00:56):
there is a way to find peace and keep your stendity,
all while assisting your lawyer through the process, saving you
thousands of dollars through the divorce process. My name is
Tina Huggins. I'm your divorce coach, specialist, divorce planning specialist,
restorative family mediator and conflict co parenting coach, and I
want to thank you for joining us, and I've got

(01:18):
a special guest today so I'm excited to introduce to
you Glinda Kroll. Glinda is a life empowerment strategist, reinvention specialist,
and the inspiring host of Let's Get Real. She specializes
in working with women over the age of forty turn
life's challenges into powerful breakthroughs using her signature three step methodology, Recognize, reinvent,

(01:47):
and Rise. Glinda's true passion lies in guiding individuals through transformation,
helping them reclaim their confidence, rebuild their self worth, and
still up boldly into their brilliance and their potential. Having
navigated her own journey of reinvention through personal struggles, caregiving,

(02:12):
and starting anew, she brings a deep understanding of resilience, growth,
and empowerment. Whether you're facing a career change, recovering from heartbreak,
or seeking greater fulfillment, Glinda provides the tools and the
strategies to embrace change and create a lasting success. Welcome

(02:34):
and thank you for joining me today, Glinda.

Speaker 4 (02:37):
Oh, I'm humbled to be here. Thank you so much
for inviting me.

Speaker 3 (02:40):
Yeah, we've been working for a little bit to get
Glenda here. My emails weren't getting to her and our
timelines didn't work. In lineup, and so anyways, we got
her here today, and I am super grateful because I
have Glenda's one of those people that I have listened
to her story and set her on a pedestal. I
want to be like her when I grow up, because

(03:01):
she's been through a lot. And so that's where we're
going to start today. Gwinda, So can you kind of
tell our viewers what your struggles have been that have
brought you to where you're at today?

Speaker 4 (03:13):
Well, well, you know, I could go on for days,
because of my stories are are crazy. First of all,
I'm the youngest of four kids, and I have two
brothers who are mentally challenged with a genetic disorder called
fragile X, which has characteristics like autism. So you know,

(03:35):
when you grow up, I live in a world where,
you know, because I didn't have the needs, I didn't
get the recognition that basically every child needs, and so
I had to grow up someone on my own and
find my own ways through it. But there was always

(03:56):
a part of me that always had that understanding, that
deep compassion because I saw how my parents struggled, my
siblings struggled, and there's just that part of me that
was always there for my family, and so my pathways

(04:17):
sort of go through where the struggles are. Parents didn't
prepare for the times when you know, my biggest question
as even as a little girl was what's going to
happen to my brothers once my parents go? And when
I would ask these questions, you know, I was always

(04:37):
shut down and it was something that really bothered me
because deep down inside me and I don't know why,
but as I was always considered to be an old soul,
I just knew that they were going to fall into
my plate and sure enough they actually really did. And
for to put this into a light part, for the

(04:59):
last years since my parents have been gone, I have
been caring for my brothers. I'm an advocate. I'm a caregiver.
I look after their finances, I look after their like
everyday needs, their their medicals, everything everything goes through me.
I'm you know, I'm always there and I believe that

(05:23):
I'm not just a voice for just my brothers. I'm
the voice for a lot of people, especially in the
group home where my brothers live, because there are most
families that don't do what I do. They just leave
their their children to go. But that's only a part
of my struggle. See, I've been in two long term relationships,

(05:44):
and you know, not that I didn't have enough on
my plate by at times looking after everybody in my family,
because when anything was wrong, I was the one who
jumped in, and including the fact that you know, I
have my own two kids, had my own business to run.
You know, when my dad was sick and then my

(06:05):
brother got into an accident which he fought for his
life for close to a year. It you know, I
was the one, even with two kids and running a business,
running back and forth to the hospital and balancing everybody else.
But I also went through my own things because I
went through two divorces and so my first marriage lasted

(06:26):
twelve years. And during that time, you know when I
thought we were married because we were connected, because we
were the same religious background, and I thought, you know,
as a young person, you know, I thought it was
love that was bringing me in. But it was it wasn't.
It was more of an escape that led me into

(06:47):
my marriage. Well I'm being real now, okay, because I'm
here to through my own challenges. I believe in bringing
them out so that maybe other people don't go through
some of the things, the battles that I went through.
So when I started looking back, it was, you know,
the thing is is, you know when times are easy

(07:10):
because there were no kids, my marriage was okay, but
there were always little things that really bothered me because
these people were very wealthy and they had a very
different mindset than I did. I was very humbled and
with my feet on the ground because I lived in
a working family my father. We did well enough. We

(07:31):
were all supported. There was always food on the table,
you know, you always had clothes to wear, but there
weren't travels and all the other things. And when I married,
I married too a family that had a lot, but
they also had a very different outlook in life, that
they were better than other people. And when I was
around that, it really made me uncomfortable and didn't enjoy

(07:54):
that feeling. And then once my children came, that really
came into to full recognition. And the more that came
it really bothered me more and I just felt like
I was a phony and I was lying to myself,
but I was lying to my children. I was lying
to them about how love was. When we weren't in

(08:15):
a loving relationship. It was a battle relationship. It was
somebody that I didn't respect because you know, I worked
hard and got my jobs and worked myself up. And
my husband got a family job and even when he
didn't show up, he still got paid. And you know,
it was a very different life from where I was.

(08:36):
And so at a certain time I decided that, you
know what, I can't live in this, and I asked
for a divorce. And what I ended up doing was
going through a divorce of hell and what my and unfortunately,
what ended up happening was I was made to regret

(08:57):
that I made that decision, and money was taken away,
the accounts were drained. I had no money, I had
no child support, I was no spuzzalsport, and at that
time I was an at homes you know, working a
home mother, so you know, I just looked after my kids.
So the struggle was real. I couldn't afford food. I
definitely couldn't afford clothing for my children. I borrowed, I

(09:21):
thank god, kept one credit card that had was my name.
And I struggled because in those days, like I'm you know,
i'm sixty now, sixty five, sixty six, I have to
be remembering that young and at that point in life.
You know, in those days, my kids were you know,
about five and seven, and grocery stores didn't take credit cards.

(09:45):
So there was one like kind of a store in
my area. I'm from Toronto, and they took you know,
it was more of a drug store grocery store, and
there weren't a lot of the times. That was the
only place that would take credit cards. Because I had
no way of getting buying milk and food and things
like that. And it was a struggle trying to go

(10:06):
through a divorce where I'm being criticized, I'm being dragged
into court. And it turned out that I ended up
in two hundred thousand dollars in debt and two little
kids who were having a hard time because Daddy was
more about punishing Mummy than it was them. So it
turned out that he hated me more than he loved

(10:26):
my kids. And finally, one day I had lost all
my power, I had lost my voice, and finally one
day I went to court and I was starting to
get sick because of the drama, the force in and
out of court, staying up nights with my kids. And

(10:47):
one day I just looked at myself and I said
you know what, there's nothing left. I have nothing left
to lose. And at one point I gave my kids
up because I couldn't handle the the fighting, and the
fighting was destroying me, but more important, it was destroying
my kids. And that's when I decided. I went into court.

(11:09):
I told my lawyer not to come, and I went
in and I went to the judge and I said,
I want to represent myself from this point on because
nobody is hearing my words. Nobody cares about what my
kids are going through. Nobody sees what's happening. I had
built a precedent book, which was huge, because he used

(11:29):
to send me letters with threats and all these terrible things,
and I said, you know, I can't live like this.
My children can't live like this, and nobody seems to care.
I go from one judge to another, and I asked
her if she would listen to me and if she
would reside over me from that point on, because he

(11:50):
had the money and it was entertainment to take me in.
And that's when my life turned around because she looked
in my history and she saw what went on, and
she saw what I was going through, and she read
through those letters that no judge bothered to read through,
and she took my case and everything changed from that

(12:14):
point on.

Speaker 3 (12:16):
So obviously divorce is my ballo axe there. So I
understand that struggle, and that struggle is one that a
lot of my client's face on both sides, men and women.

Speaker 2 (12:31):
But I want to back up.

Speaker 3 (12:33):
Before we start digging into that just a little bit,
because you talk about being a caregiver to your brothers.

Speaker 2 (12:38):
Those of us who.

Speaker 3 (12:39):
Haven't been caregivers, we may not understand what she means
by that. So I just want you, as our viewers,
to understand that when you're a caregiver, you are not
just using your energy to do what needs to be done.
You're using your energy and the energy of two other
people basically there to represent some to take care of them.

(13:02):
You're not getting enough sleep, you're worried about them, nobody's
I mean, that list all by itself is a long list.
So I don't want any of our viewers to discount
you being a caregiver to your brothers. And I applaud
you for stepping up to that because having been a
caregiver myself, that's hard work. And I was a caregiver

(13:23):
for the rest of those kids' lives, like you are.
So I applaud you for that, and I just want
our viewers to understand that that all by itself is
a lot of work.

Speaker 4 (13:33):
Well I still do it till today. Like you know,
the emergencies run my life gets shut down. Everything else
my business stops. I go running, whether it's hospitals, doctors,
I do every single doctor's appointment that they have because
now as they're getting older, things are happening all the time.
I'm still my kids are now adults, I'm still running.

(13:56):
My daughter just had a baby. I went to my daughter,
I lived for a month there to help her to
teach her about you know, teach her about a baby,
you know, from from the feedings to the bottles, to
the sterilization, to the burping, to everything that goes on
with having a baby.

Speaker 2 (14:17):
You know.

Speaker 4 (14:17):
So when I caregive, I caregive to everybody, and I
not even my own. I do for others because that's
who I am. But it's not that I'm a pushover.
And I've learned, you know, at this point in my life,
especially now that I have boundaries that nobody you know, like,

(14:39):
I will give to crazy amounts to people and to
my friends and family, but there's got to be respect
and understanding. My children highly respect me and love me,
and you know, and they're there for me as much
as I'm there for them. So it's to end my
children also realize with what I have with my brothers.

(15:00):
You know, my life is never my own that I'm
always doing appointments or even face timing to make sure
they're okay, because sometimes if I get busy with work
and a week goes by and they haven't seen me,
because I usually see them at least every week and
speak to them at least every day or every other
day facetiming, so you know, they still feel secure and balanced.

(15:25):
So you know, if some a couple of days goes
by and they haven't, you know, if I need to,
I run, and I do. I I you know, today
I'm going in. I'm and I'm presenting a speech and
talking to people about siblings. Learning to be there as
an advocate as I've been for thirty years, because you know,

(15:47):
I believe that family needs to stick together and be
bold and stand together and understand what we go through
and when we go through troubles, not to be angry,
but to be understanding. Like I always say to my kids,
I did the best that I could when I when
we were going through it. You know, when I was

(16:08):
going through divorce, I've made some really stupid mistakes of
how I did things. You know, I used my kids
as messengers until one day it hit me and then
I said, you know, I learned that lesson and then
I changed my ways. But I didn't know. You know,
my whole thing was I couldn't afford food. I was
so worried about the fact that I couldn't afford my

(16:30):
food for my children, and as you know, I would
be humbled enough that I had to go to friends
who had children that were older to borrow clothes because
I didn't have the money to go buy clothes. And
my kids were growing like like flowers, they were just
blossoming up, and it was like another there are another
size larger already, and I don't have money for clothing.

(16:53):
You know, it's a horrible feeling.

Speaker 3 (16:56):
Yeah, So when just stopping my there and looking at
just this first relationship and how this all went, and
the fact that you ended up giving up your kids,
which is one of the hardest things a mom can do,
and it's we do that not because we can't do

(17:20):
anything else. It's because we reach a point that as
a mom, we realize that this is the very best
we can do.

Speaker 2 (17:27):
For the kids.

Speaker 3 (17:28):
We no longer are concerned about ourselves, and in this
one specific timeframe, it's the best we can do for
our kids. And that takes them at this point, out
of the conflict for a short period of time until
you could get back on your feet.

Speaker 2 (17:43):
And then you found this judge.

Speaker 3 (17:45):
And you were lucky to find that judge, because so often,
so often, like you experienced prior to this, the judges
don't care. They There was one I actually I read
it was the transcript of this worse proceeding.

Speaker 2 (18:01):
He actually told them.

Speaker 3 (18:02):
He says, I don't care if you burn your properties
to the ground, if you flood your properties and get
rid of all of the tenants, I don't care.

Speaker 2 (18:13):
This is all nuts and bolts to me.

Speaker 3 (18:16):
Well, the woman decided, oh, I'm going to flood and
get rid of all the tenants. She did exactly what
that judge told her because she didn't have anything to lose.
She didn't want the property, she wanted to destroy him,
she didn't want the money. She just wanted to destroy him,
and reading through what that judge had to say was

(18:37):
just I'm like, these people should be removed from that
position because our children, our people need to have respect
from that judge, just like we are supposed to show
them respect and that they need to have understanding of abuse,
especially when our soon to be ex is using the

(19:00):
courts to abuse us financially and legally. So mentally true
to get here is amazing.

Speaker 4 (19:07):
Yeah, Like mentally, like I was just so done. And
in the meantime, I'm trying to find a job. I'm trying,
you know, to look at through my children. I'm dealing
with them, you know, emotionally because you know, when he
the children were with him, he was always screaming and
yelling with the kids, always throwing babysitters. He never stayed

(19:29):
with them. So it was like they would come home,
they would you know, I'd pack this little suitcase when
they would leave, and every day it was everything that
they needed, and you know, and they would come home
wearing the same thing they left on, you know, on
the Friday. They never had a bath. You know, all
the other things I was going through my own emotional

(19:49):
things of seeing my kids, like this. I took so
much care and love for them, and then I saw,
you know, there wasn't that, and I had to get
real with myself, you know, and I spoke to my
doctor at that point and I said, you know, I'm
worried about my kids. And she said, you know, g London,
stopped the worry because you can't do anything there, but

(20:12):
you discontrol the time that they're with you. And that's
what I started to do. Anytime my kids were with me,
I made sure we had fun. We left, we played games,
we went on outings, things that didn't cost me money
because I could, I didn't have the money to do things,
so I got very creative. You know. We did all

(20:32):
sorts of things, hide and seek, treasure hunts and all
sorts of crazy things. Went to bookstores, read books, all
things that I could do to make sure that they
knew there was fun and we you know, my house
was always filled with kids, so you know, we've always
made it a great experience from that point on, once

(20:53):
I started understanding what was going on. But you know,
it was the time was when my doctor finally said,
you know, just your kids are going to be fine
because they have you. You know like eighty five percent
of the time. So stop worrying about your kids at
that point and just take control when you do have them.
And that's one of the biggest things I'll tell anybody

(21:14):
who's listening to that. You know, we just got to
be controlling when we are there. We have to be
present and that's what it's all about with your kids
at all times, being present with them.

Speaker 3 (21:27):
Yeah, so coming in as a co parenting professional, when
we reach the part of where you're parenting, we call
it co parenting, but really co parenting is two parents
working together to parent those children. So the same rules
at each house. You know, everything's pretty much so, the
same bedtimes, the same type of thing, and what you

(21:49):
experienced and what my client's experience is not co parenting,
but it is co It is parenting.

Speaker 2 (21:55):
It's called parallel parenting. And you just explained that.

Speaker 3 (21:59):
You do what's necessary at your house and forget about
what's going on at the other's house, and don't let
what's going on at their house affect what goes on
in your house. And yes, you want to build memories
for those kids, but not just for the kids.

Speaker 2 (22:16):
You're laughing. I heard that word laughing.

Speaker 3 (22:18):
When you laugh, that helps you feel better, That bond
you to the kids. They laugh, So that's better for
you just as much as it's better for the kids.

Speaker 4 (22:30):
It was funny because one time I used to take
my kids to a program. It was a library program,
and we used to go, so they would every week
and they would read books. And again another thing that
I found that didn't cost me money. And the librarian
and I got to know each other quite well, and
she looked at me one day and I'd look very gaunt,

(22:53):
and she said to me, you know, when was the
last time you laughed? And she at that point in time,
I was really the thick of things, and I went, laugh,
what's laughter?

Speaker 2 (23:05):
You know?

Speaker 4 (23:05):
Like I just she just threw me off and I went,
holy geez, I had I don't remember when the last
time I left. And and so yeah, that was the
start of my rebuilding me. And like I said, it's
it's about me, because everything trickles, like even even still

(23:26):
to today, I'm such an intricate part of my family.
It's because it all comes around me. I'm kind of
turned into being the matriarch and my family. I you know,
my kids are supported by me. We all speak to
each other, you know, all the time, and and my
son in law, you know, wants advice, whether it's business,

(23:46):
we talk about real estate, we talk about all sorts
of things. And my son's a lawyer now, so we
go through all different kinds of conversations. And but it
all stems because I'm I'm the one, and that's why
we need to take care of ourselves, because you know,
I have to stand strong and feed me and my

(24:08):
mind and my body well and looked after because I
still I support my brothers, I support my kids, I
support not my grandchild and my husband or not my
my my daughter's husband, like I'm it, and many of
friends and clients, so you know, it's it's got to
start by us. And that's, you know, one of the

(24:32):
biggest things. And life taught me that because one time,
you know, my my glass was empty and I had
nothing else to live to give anymore, and I still
was giving, and I got very ill, and that was
the you know, I got knocked off and I ended
up developing Bell's palsy and the side of my face

(24:55):
was my eye had dropped, my mouth had dropped, I
was s paralyzed, and it was a terrible time, but
a credible lesson to learn. And I'm grateful that I
had some wonderful people that came to help me. But
you know, I'm blessed by learning a lot when things happen,

(25:17):
like you know, it's the old story when you bang
your toe, if you stub your toe, don't wait till
you break your foot before you learn. And that's, you know,
we got to do. We got to look at ourselves.
It's not bad to be to think of yourself first.

(25:38):
You know. When I grew up, it was like more
known as women were selfish, but you now need to
we're looking at life very differently, and especially there's a
lot of single parents out there. And if you don't
fill yourself up, and that's by laughter, that's by good food,
that's by some exercise, and you don't need to be
a crazy exercise person. I'm very much involved in building

(26:03):
my body and keeping it healthy, even at this age,
even more so at this age. But we have to
look to how important it is. And I'll explain to
you more when we go into my next part of
my next story.

Speaker 3 (26:16):
Yeah, and before we get there, I kind of want
to touch some places in the back. So when Glenna
was talking earlier, she said she made a lot of mistakes.
So when Glinda and I got divorced, it was a
long time ago. It was before divorced professionals, coaches, and
people who were trained to help you go through, especially
the emotional part, because lawyers are not there for your

(26:38):
they don't care. In fact, they don't want to hear
your emotional stuff, but they'll listen because the longer you talk,
the more they get paid.

Speaker 2 (26:46):
So many of those lawyers.

Speaker 3 (26:48):
Are like that, and they'll just sit there and listen
with that smile on their face and take all the money.
So now we don't have to make those mistakes. There
are people like myself out here that are trained to
help you through that because making those mistakes, as Glinda
kind of has led a light on there, is it
affects you for the rest of your life.

Speaker 2 (27:10):
So then you've got.

Speaker 3 (27:11):
To redo parts of your life because of the mistakes
that you made early on. So getting to a place
that you don't have to make those mistakes is way
better than reliving what Glinda and I have both gone through.

Speaker 2 (27:25):
From our divorces.

Speaker 3 (27:27):
So the other thing that I wanted to touch base on
is that Glinda has talked about all of these all
of this stuff and being come she has a brother
that's a lawyer or some.

Speaker 2 (27:42):
That's a lawyer, and when you.

Speaker 3 (27:45):
Are dealing with the legal aspect of stuff, and Glinda
will tell you, as all of us who've been through
court of any kind, that's the most stressful thing that
we can go through.

Speaker 2 (27:55):
I'm watching my daughter in law go.

Speaker 3 (27:57):
Through three situations because of where she's working, so understanding
having somebody there with you and in Glenna's case after
the fact to help you rebuild this stuff is super
super important. So let's hear your second relationship issues.

Speaker 4 (28:17):
So after a while, I got into another relationship, and
it took me some time before I decided to get
back into the saddle of dating and everything. And I
ended up falling for this guy who I thought was
kind of my my night and shining armor. And I

(28:40):
gave you my heart and soul into him, and we
became a team, not just in a relationship but also
in a business, and I spent a lot. I built
his business. I've been in very I've been in very
a minute. Any different types of businesses, I'll start with them.

(29:03):
I was a paralegal that I went through, but most
of my background was more in real estate and corporate law,
a little bit of divorce, but not much of that
was it was strictly in transportation law. It was on
the other side of things. So it wasn't as that

(29:26):
and it didn't matter that my background wasn't there. It
gave me a different mindset of when I read that.
I can read a document very well and understand it,
but going through the emotional spin of things, you know,
it doesn't make any difference. My children were falling all

(29:47):
over the place. That's all that you know, a mother
with seeing her kids falling apart is the most horrific thing.
So anyways, we got into this relationship and it was
wonderful at the beginning, and I learned a new business
at this point through you know, like I said, through

(30:08):
all different other businesses. I took on a new business
and it was importing and next porting of commodities through
the US and Canada into the Caribbean. And you know,
I learned it really well. I built it up to
doing seven figures a year. It was just, you know,

(30:30):
the relationships that I had were incredible. We were doing
wonderful then a point came where my mother started. My
dad had already passed away, so I became more of
the advocate for my family because my mother wasn't coping well.
And then port in the middle, my mother started showing

(30:52):
signs of dementia. So part of my life went running
because now I had to look after my mother and
my brothers and my partner and my kids and my business.
And I had this feeling inside me that something was
wrong with my relationship, but who had time for that relationship.

(31:16):
I had to find my mother a place to get help,
to find doctors and nursing homes, and I had to
find my brothers couldn't live by themselves. I needed help
in the house, and I had to start looking for
group homes for them. I had emergencies happening all the time,
my brother being thrown out of the house because my
mother didn't recognize them. I had a business that I

(31:39):
was working in the middle of the night because I
didn't have time during the day to work. My children
to have to be recognized and making sure that I
was keeping up with their school work and their life
so they didn't feel like I was putting them out.
And then there wasn't this knowing thing that something's wrong
with my relationship. Something didn't feel right. So it was like, no, Glunda,

(32:00):
just get it out of your head and you got
to do what you gotta do. So a couple of
years went by, and my mother ended up finally passing away,
and my brothers. I found a group home and settled
everybody in and that, and I sort of felt like
still always felt something was up. But business was doing

(32:22):
still well, and like I said, working night and day
and all the rest of the stuff. And then one
day I said to my girlfriend. I said to her,
you know, something is so off, you know, like do
I look like you know? And I really most of
the people that see me even today everyone says, like,
you haven't changed at all, Glunda. But I was looking

(32:43):
at myself and I said to my girlfriend, you know,
do I look like I've changed? Have I gotten fat?
Have I gotten ugly?

Speaker 2 (32:50):
Like?

Speaker 4 (32:50):
You know, like I don't know. It's just like he's
not attracted to me anymore, Like is there something about me?
Am I not? You know, Like I know my plate
is a little full, but you know, I'm the one
who's keeping the business going and all the rest and oh,
and on top of it, his mother wasn't well, so
I brought her into my house and I nursed her
for the next year and a half on top of

(33:11):
it all, and then she said to me, you know, no, Glunda,
you know, stop blaming yourself. I need you to just
stop that. And then all of a sudden, I let
it rest. And then one day, about a few months later,
an email comes into the business and it was and

(33:33):
the business was now starting to have problems because it
was very different of shipping product over because of customs
and everything. And this email comes in and I was
being very careful of where money was going and everything.
And I say to my partner, you know, we were

(33:55):
living together, we were common law, and I said, you know,
who is this email from. I'm like, who is she?

Speaker 2 (34:01):
Like?

Speaker 4 (34:01):
What does she have to do with our business? And
he was just telling me stories. And for the first time,
I stood back. Now we were together for fourteen years,
and I stood back and I looked at him, and
I knew he was just lying to me. And I
thought to myself, you know so many times I've just

(34:22):
accepted all these stories. He was a smooth talker. I
just accepted and listened to the stories, but this time
was different, and I said, and he's talking and talking
and I'm saying nothing. And as I'm saying nothing, he's
talking more and more because he's getting more and more
nervous because I'm not saying a word. Anyways, that night,

(34:46):
we go to bed and it's two o'clock in the
morning and I can't sleep, and so it's still gnawing
at me. Something's wrong. This is he's lying to me.
I know this, He's lying to me. I kept out
telling this myself. So I go downstairs, and you know,
he wasn't a computer genius, so like I was the

(35:07):
techie girl and all the rest of it. And so
I'd search through his notes because people who aren't techie
keep the passwords somewhere. So voila, I go and I
strike gold. I find all of his passwords, and then
I go into his emails and I open his emails.
And when I opened his emails, I found a folder

(35:30):
in his emails where he had these letters and pictures
from all these women. And there were a lot of
love letters and pictures where he was involved in them.
And this has been going on for years, and so
all of a sudden, I step back, and I'm going
these years that I've been with him for fourteen years

(35:51):
have been lives. He's gone away on trips, he's been
with all these women. He's put me my health in
danger because he's been sexually active with all these women.
And my whole world just falls apart right then and there.
But in the meantime, I'm still aware. It's the middle
of the night, and I'm aware. I'm running back and

(36:11):
forth to make sure that nobody's hearing me, and I
run to the washroom. I throw up because I'm just
my nerves are all over the place. But then my
history comes back to me and says, you're not going
to go back to where you went through that struggle
of all those years where he took all the money
and you were back flat broke and you had to

(36:35):
do everything that struggle. At that point, I was in
my thirties. Now I'm fifty two years old. I'm not
starting from nothing again. I've worked too hard throughout my
entire life. My kids were still with us, he didn't
have children, and so I walked. I paced the floors
that night, and then I decided I'm not going to

(36:56):
tell them what I found out, I'm going to shut
my mouth, I'm going to shut my feelings way down deep,
and I'm going to prepare to leave. But he's never
going to know until I am ready. Nine months. It
took me to first of all, convince him to sell
the house because I knew I had and this is

(37:17):
how I lived my life. I have an end goal.
End goal was the house had to sell. End goal
was me and the kids had to move. My kids.
One of my kids was still in the house. My
other my son wasn't just started law school. He was
in another condo that we had we owned, and so
I decided that I had to become a detective. And

(37:40):
that's what I did. I put I went to a
detective store. I bought a thing that I put in
his car, so I now knew exactly where he was going,
and I watched so I knew. When it gave me time,
I set up new bank accounts because I had already
been through all this shit, so I knew, excuse me,
but I knew what was ahead. So I opened up

(38:04):
bank accounts. I opened up a safety deposit box that
I put in one of my kids names so it
wouldn't be in my name. I started photocopying everything. I
looked at all the assets, and I photocopied any insurance, everything,
So I had copies of every single thing that was
owned I don't know I had. I was listening to

(38:29):
that voice in me that I didn't listen to, and
every day I did something else. I set up a
numbered account. Why because there was a voice on my
head said to me, set up a number account, set
up an undercount, and incorporated a number account. I found.
I didn't know what to do. Where was where were

(38:49):
we going to be living? Well? The universe provided for me.
At that point in time, when my mom had passed away,
I decided not to sell her condo and rent it
because I knew in time that the real estate would
probably it would be more and more in real estate
than it would be an investment. So I kept it

(39:11):
and I rented it out well. At that time, my
renter told me that he couldn't stay there any longer
because he had to find somewhere else. Boom, I had
a place now, a three bedroom condo for me and
my kids to go and move. I didn't tell him
about that. I got the place once he moved out.
I cleaned it up, and I did it at times

(39:31):
that he didn't know where I was going. I shoved
everything in and I had two girlfriends that I talked to.
Nobody else knew anything was happening. It was top secret.
My kids my son found out only at about four
months later, once because he was in his first semester
of law school and I didn't want him knowing to

(39:52):
interrupt his studies. And then I wanted him out of
there because I saw through Texas and things that he
was doing. Of course, I was watching his texas and
his emails and I knew everything that was going on.
He was also doing some illegal things which were against
my life. I don't do those things. So it was
like I needed to protect me, I needed to protect

(40:15):
my kids, and I needed to be away. But I
also needed to make sure that I got the money out,
and he didn't know before I ended up going broke
because he was also getting involved in some things. So
everything was protecting everything, and everything was being done as
something was telling me, and that's what I did. Nine

(40:38):
months later, the household exactly the way I thought it
was going to sell. The agent that I got was
he was just eating out of the palms of my hand.
I talked to him. I talked to him so lovely.
He thought he was wonderful, And you know, I made
sure to pat the back of him, so he did
everything the way I wanted to hit too. By the

(40:59):
time we moved we moved out, I had already set
up the condo. My son was already there, that was
already set up, and he was dealing with his My
daughter was already moved in. Nobody knew we it was.
Everything was confidential. We only spoke and didn't tell anybody.
And then once the deal closed, the money was now

(41:20):
in our joint account, and then I transferred it over.
Of course I had already spoken to the bank manager
who was already waiting for me, because there was money
that needed to be moved over and I hadn't moved
over into a private account. And then said submitted to
my lawyer, and then we and then that's when that
next day I came to tell him the relationship was over.

(41:44):
I'm leaving you everything. Don't put don't if you do anything,
because he was involved with other people. I have a
letter to my lawyer and my kids have that anything
happens to me. They were named with you in one
of your partners, your accountess the person you're involved with

(42:06):
that I was very who I really hated. I knew
he was. He threatened my life once at that point,
so I said, all of that, everything is in writing
in with my lawyer. It will go automatically. So police,
I don't want to speak to you anymore. I'm gone.
And that was it, and then I ended up in

(42:27):
court for a short time. I would not release the
funds until one day I said, I'll know when the
time comes, and of course I did, and that was
when I knew it was time to negotiate, and I
ended up getting exactly what I thought I should have got.

Speaker 3 (42:43):
So we're coming down to the very last few minutes,
but I want to let our viewers know that what
Glinda just explained to you is the perfect exit plan.
That is how I help my clients get out of abuse.
So Glinda did that to the tea exactly the way
it should be done.

Speaker 2 (43:02):
So bravo for that, Glinda.

Speaker 3 (43:04):
And so as we move through this, let me kind
of get to my notes. So one of the things
that's super important is that our viewers need to know
how to get a hold of you, Glinda, And I
know all of your contact information will be below.

Speaker 2 (43:20):
But can you tell people the best ways to get
a hold of you.

Speaker 4 (43:24):
I'm on LinkedIn as Glenda Kroll. I'm on Facebook, I
am Glenda Kroll k R O L L. I'm on Instagram.
I'm known as as the Wise Woman's Words. And because
I believe at this point in my life, I am
so wise. I've lived through so much and I'm why

(43:46):
I'm so proud of myself. As I took action, I
controlled myself. I had the right analogy by stepping back
and allowing myself to think and not to speak, and
that taught me lessons for later on in my life
and from this day forward, even if my kids say

(44:07):
something that might trigger me, I don't talk. I take
a step and I take a breath. So it's just
a being empowered. And that's what I teach. Your mind
is and to empower you how to get through the struggles,
how to have your head about yourself, how to move forward,
and then reinventing yourself. So I after this, all of this,

(44:29):
that's what I had to do. I had to sit
back and I had to reinvent myself and that's when
I started investing in real estate and learning and building
my own wealth and helping others because for some reason,
things come to me. And so that's what it's all about.
You know, don't allow life to knock you down. I

(44:50):
do understand, and yes, you need to feel it when
you're hit. You got to feel that, but you can't
stay down. We got to get up and we go
to keep going. After that, I allowed myself two days.
I had a pity party for two days. Day three,
it was time to brush myself off, get up, put

(45:12):
myself together, and start figuring out what can I do
to make some money? What can I do to rebuild
Glenda again.

Speaker 2 (45:23):
It's nuts.

Speaker 4 (45:24):
Doesn't happen all at once, but it does. It's something
we're all able to do. And that's what I'm here
for to tell other people. I understand that. I understand
it all because I've been through so much in my life.
And but here's the thing. If I can do it,

(45:47):
so can you.

Speaker 2 (45:50):
So true, so true.

Speaker 3 (45:52):
So for those of you who don't know, I'm a
certified divorce coach, meaning I've been training the complexity complexity
of divorce. I've also been through an abusive marriage and
a long drawn out divorce. So not only do I
get to see that, I've witnessed it from my dad
and my late husband where they've been in abusive situations.

(46:14):
My dad was almost murdered, So I've seen it, I've
lived through it, and I've learned how to handle it.
So moving through the divorce is something that you need
to have help with and that's what I'm here for.
You can find me or reach me at Coach Tina
Lynn at gmail dot com. That' co a c h
t I n A l y n n at gmail

(46:36):
dot com. On my website is Divorce Coachspecialist dot com.
You can find me on social media Facebook, I'm under
Tina Lynn Huggins. That's h U G G I n
S LinkedIn, I'm under Tina Huggins Instagram It's Divorce Coach
Tina Lynn and TikTok.

Speaker 2 (46:53):
Under Divorce Tina.

Speaker 3 (46:55):
So one of the most important things here, Glinda, is
can you give our viewers a life asked little bit
of advice here?

Speaker 4 (47:05):
Okay, the most important thing is have faith in yourself.
I had an affirmation that I said every night when
I was going through the divorce. I was and I
had to cut my mouth. I had to keep my
mouth closed, and I would go late at night and
walk my dog, and it was the only time that

(47:25):
I got to release because everything was bottled up inside
of me. And I had this affirmation that I would
be crying as I'm walking because I had to get
it out because I had I was scared, and I
was worried, and I had it all just like everyone.
I'm human. My affirmation was to myself, with every tear

(47:47):
I shed, laughter shall follow. And I said that to
myself night after night, and to the point where I
believed it. Somehow, some way, everything's going to work. Just
continue to love yourself. Step back for a moment and
take a breath before you make a decision, before you

(48:10):
do anything. That's the one of the most important things
that we can do in ourselves. But care about yourself.
Realize that you are just as important as everybody else.
And remember, you know, when you've got kids and you've
got a family, first off, you've got to look after

(48:31):
yourself before you can even look after them. It's the
old mask on the face when you're going down on
the plane. Same moral lies. So take a breath, realize
that you're going to make it through. But the more
that you can stay balanced by taking breaths and seriously

(48:52):
they count for four. Take a breath, hold it for
four and then release it does wonders and then think,
think before you do.

Speaker 2 (49:07):
So.

Speaker 3 (49:07):
My last bit of advice for you viewers is that
if you are sitting in your ashes right now, it's
time to reinvent yourself. So I do invite you to
please make contact with Glinda. Talk with her see if
what she has to offer can help you out. Don't
sit in your ashes. It's time to reinvent. So many

(49:30):
people going through divorce will experience suicidal ideation. I myself
not only experienced it, but attempted it, So please.

Speaker 2 (49:38):
Don't don't do that.

Speaker 3 (49:40):
You have so much more on the other side of that,
So reach out to the suicide Prevention Hotline at nine
eight eight. It's the same number in Canada as it
is here, nine eight eight.

Speaker 2 (49:52):
Talk through somebody.

Speaker 3 (49:54):
Talk to somebody while you're sitting in that horrible place,
have them help you walk through this moment. Also, if
you are experiencing a situation where you need the police there,
please call nine to one one here in the US
and in the Netherlands, it's nine nine nine and one
one two. If you're in the UK and Glinda, what

(50:16):
is it in Canada nine one one nine one one,
So it's the same. So get the police there, press charges.
This is the time. This is your key, it's the
key out of the relationship. Don't drop those charges. If
you drop those charges, most times what comes as abuse
after those charges are dropped is worse than what is
before the charges are put in place.

Speaker 2 (50:37):
This is your key out.

Speaker 4 (50:39):
So can one second. The every thing is if you
are the one that's being abused, the first one that
calls the police is the one who is actually the
one who's protected. If you don't call, and he calls
or she calls, what whoever is the aggressor of it
and ends up calling the police, end up leaving in them.

(51:01):
So be the first one to call. Make that choice
to be strong for yourself and knowing that things will
get out. There's also places to go where you can
be protected, to live different, to live away from that.
So don't believe that you have nowhere to go.

Speaker 2 (51:21):
You have outs, Yes, definitely so.

Speaker 3 (51:25):
And the Domestic Violet Hotline is eight hundred seven nine
nine seven two three three. That number again is eight
hundred seven ninety nine seventy two thirty three.

Speaker 2 (51:35):
So I just ask that you.

Speaker 3 (51:37):
Like, comment and share so that this can help other people.
Thank you so much, Gwenda for being here with us today.

Speaker 4 (51:45):
Thank you China. It was an absolute delight. I am
thrilled to share my story for nothing more than having
others that are sitting in a relationship that is making
them miserable or scared or you know worse. You know,
it's your life. You have one like to one life

(52:05):
to live. Don't abuse it, treasure it. It's worth it.

Speaker 2 (52:10):
Amen. Thank you and we'll see you next time.

Speaker 1 (52:14):
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