June 27, 2025 • 46 mins
Discover natural solutions for managing stress on this empowering episode of The Awakening with Host Tina Huggins, Divorce & "Narcissist Conflict" Specialist. Guest Terry Thompson, a holistic health coach and wellness educator, shares practical tools and insights to help you cope with life’s stressors the natural way. Tune in to reclaim your peace and well-being on NEWStreamingNetwork.com.
A bit more about Tina: Tina Huggins, CTA Life Coach certified, CDC Divorce Coach, CDC Transitions Coach, CDC Recovery Coach, TKG Restorative Family Mediator Certified, TKG Family Circle Certified. I have coached for over 30 years coming from the background of law enforcement and self-defense instructor. Tina lived in an abusive relationship ending up with a broken hand, separated ribs, and a dislocated leg from fights during the relationship.
Contact Info: coachtinalynn@gmail.com https://divorcecoachspecialist.com/
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More about Terry: Terry Thompson is a holistic health coach, wellness educator, and founder of Blue Jeans and Berries, where she helps busy families and professionals simplify healthy living with whole foods, functional nutrition, and natural solutions. With over 14 years in the wellness industry, Terry blends real-life experience, science-backed guidance, and a touch of humor to help people thrive in their health journeys. She offers coaching, courses, sound supplementation, and a supportive online community—because healthy should feel as good as your favorite pair of jeans.
Connect with Terry: BlueJeansandBerries.com Bus (501) 273-1913
A bit more about Tina: Tina Huggins, CTA Life Coach certified, CDC Divorce Coach, CDC Transitions Coach, CDC Recovery Coach, TKG Restorative Family Mediator Certified, TKG Family Circle Certified. I have coached for over 30 years coming from the background of law enforcement and self-defense instructor. Tina lived in an abusive relationship ending up with a broken hand, separated ribs, and a dislocated leg from fights during the relationship.
Contact Info: coachtinalynn@gmail.com https://divorcecoachspecialist.com/
www.NEWStreamingNetwork.com. Home of NEW Streaming TV, Going Bold Media, Going Solo Media. and WGSN-DB Going Solo Network Radio, Podcasts, and TV.
More about Terry: Terry Thompson is a holistic health coach, wellness educator, and founder of Blue Jeans and Berries, where she helps busy families and professionals simplify healthy living with whole foods, functional nutrition, and natural solutions. With over 14 years in the wellness industry, Terry blends real-life experience, science-backed guidance, and a touch of humor to help people thrive in their health journeys. She offers coaching, courses, sound supplementation, and a supportive online community—because healthy should feel as good as your favorite pair of jeans.
Connect with Terry: BlueJeansandBerries.com Bus (501) 273-1913
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hello, and welcome to my show The Awakening here on WGSNDB,
The Going Bold and Going Solo Network. And I lost
my notes. Okay, so the information and opinions expressed on
this show are just that, the opinions of the individual
speaking based on their individual personal experience. They are not
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intended to diagnose and do not constitute professional advice or recommendations.
So you know that pain, the stress, the struggle that
divorcing men and women go through, Well, there is a
way to find peace, keep your sanity, and assist your
lawyer in the legal process that saves you thousands of
dollars through the process. My name's Tina Huggins. I'm your
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divorce coach, specialist, divorce consultant, restorative family mediator, conflictional co
parenting coach, and I want to thank you for joining us,
and today I'm graced with a very special friend of mine.
Terry Thompson. Terry is a holistic health coach, wellness educator,
and founder of Blue Jeens and Berries, where she helps
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busy families and professionals simplify healthy living with whole foods,
functional nutrition, and natural solutions. With over fourteen years in
the wellness industry, Terry blends real life experiences, science backed guidance,
and a touch of humor to people and to people
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they thrive in their healthy journeys. So welcome and thank
you for being here, Terry, but lost in my words.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Okay, Tina, thank you so much for inviting me. It's
my pleasure. I'm excited. I'm excited to be here today.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Well awesome, awesome. Yeah, Terry and I are on a
networking group together NRG, and we have we've just enjoyed
each other's company, or at least I enjoy her. Well,
we'll tell you my suck of the story. She's just
such a sweet person and she has a wealth of knowledge,
and that's why I've invited her on the show today.
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You know, we're we're gonna just kind of talk about
the stress that we go through. I just mentioned, you know,
the stress and the overwhelm and just the yucky that
we go through when we start to go through the stress.
And to kind of put this in place for me,
I lost my husband almost a year ago, and in
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the course of losing my husband, of course I've gone
through stress. I mean not just that, but I've done
a state to state move and lived in a camper
until I found my house. So I've had all that stress.
But I can truly, honestly tell you that this stress
is way different than the stress that I went through
when I went through my divorce. My divorce was so
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full of conflict and blame and just horrible aspects of that.
And I know from my husband's death, I've lost like
twenty pounds. It was twenty pounds I needed to lose,
but not a way I would suggest anybody go about
losing weight. And I've gone through so much different forms
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of stress. But that stress that I went through in
my divorce was just unthinkably difficult. So when somebody comes
to you, Terry, and they're dealing with this much stress,
what is your direction? Where do you start?
Speaker 3 (03:55):
We start with small habits first off, because when somebody
is already under a lot of stress, the last thing
I want to do is add more stress to them
or even make them feel guilty about where they're at
with their health or where their habits are today. So
it's really focusing on how can we make sure that
we are going to nourish the body to combat that stress,
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to help bring our cortisol levels down, How are we
going to keep up with a good sleep routine keep
I mean that people often overlook the need for sleep,
and so sometimes it's not just about what what are
we eating? You know, it's not just about our daily habits.
What are we eating? Are we exercising enough? And all
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of that is are we getting enough rest? Are we
getting enough sleep? And what is keeping us up at night?
And how can we counteract that? You know, what kind
of relaxation techniques can we bring in, what kind of
habits can we bring in before bedtime to help induce
reastful sleep, Because if you're not getting that solid rest
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will sleep every night and you're already in this fight
or flight mode because of stress, your body is not
able to deal with that stress and it's going to
start impacting your health. So sleep first, and I would
have to say that is something that I'm going to
look at as a priority for anybody that's under a
lot of stress, and for myself in the past. I
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know that when I was under a lot of stress
and when I wasn't taking care of my sleep, that
is when my health really got at its worst point.
That's where things just got out of control and couldn't
control the weight, couldn't control the aches and pains, couldn't
control the migraines and all the stuff that goes along
with stress. So let's first address the sleep. You know,
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it sounds so simple, and it's really not, because there's
things that keep people awake at night, and when you
are stressed like that, getting that peaceful sleep could be
very difficult. So looking for ways to help induce that
sleep through what we put into our body before we sleep,
what we do with our body, and even lighting, putting
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the phone down, maybe taking a bath with some magnesium salts,
adding magnesium to our diet, you know, things that can
help promote relaxation at night. But I think sleep would
be sleep is going to take precedence over what you're
eating when it comes to that, when it comes to
somebody that is highly stressed. Let's look at sleep first,
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and then let's look at our other habits. Holistically, you
have to look at the whole picture, Tina. You can't
just look at the sleep. We can't just look at
what we're eating. That does play a huge role in
how we react and how we can control our emotions.
If we're eating a lot of processed foods, a lot
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of chemical laden foods, our bodies are going to be
combating that and we can't deal with the stress as easily.
So it's a combination of really a combination of things.
But look at the sleep, look at sleep patterns first.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Yeah, And you know I've had I've had dances with
this when since my husband died, because because I've had
obviously timeframes early on a year ago where I was sleeping,
I would stay in bed and just sleep. In the mornings,
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I didn't get up, I didn't want to get out
of bed, I didn't want to start my day, and
so then I forced an issue to start working out,
and then I get moved over here, and then I've
had to balance this part out where you know, like
I have early morning meetings that I have to be
in front of the computer at eight am, and that
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doesn't seem early for a lot of people. But I'm
usually up at four four thirty and so so I
get up and I have an hour of meditation and
prayer time whatever that looks like for me that day,
and then I have an hour of workout, and then
I have an hour of prep to get in front
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of the computer, where I drink you know, drink my
tea and you know, during the week it's green tea.
I'm pretty careful about what I am better now about
what I'm putting in my body. But on these mornings
Tuesday and Wednesday, when I have early it's like, okay,
you either meditate or get you work out because you
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need that extra time frame to sleep. So because otherwise
I'd be up even an hour earlier to get all
of that put in there. And I have I let
my body wake up at a natural rhythm, so I
don't set an alarm, and so at for thirty ish
between four thirty and five is my natural time to
wake up. If I stay in bed past that, then
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I have another sleep time and have to wait until
the next wake up time for my body. So I
kind of did exactly.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
That's why they tell you not to use that snooze
button on your alarm. Or the snooze on your phone
because you're just getting back to sleep and it gets
disrupted and you never get you're never fully back awake
from this sleep cycle that your body tried to go
back into. Now, if you're waking up naturally around four
thirty five o'clock, I'm assuming you're probably going to bed
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by about.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
Nine o'clock, eight thirty nine.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
Yes, okay, and that's good, and then your body is
waking up because you're getting that seven to eight hours
that your body needs. Now, if you were going if
you were staying up till midnight and getting up at
four or four thirty in the morning, then we need
to talk because that does not help your cortisol levels
at all, that does not help your stress levels, and
that does not help your body repair itself. So you're
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you're gonna start falling upon inside. You know you actually,
you're you're body needs that restorative sleep for your cells
to regenerate and repair. And when you rob your body
of that, you're not getting that restorative sleep to your
cells aren't regenerating properly, and things start going haywire. We
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start to see illness, we start to see autoimmune issues,
we start to see weight issues. We start to see
emotional mental issues.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
And I get that I've played havoc with that, you know,
because and this is a thing that's been bad since
my husband died. I have a television that's in my
room and I couldn't be without sound. In beginning, it
was on twenty four to seven because I didn't want
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to hear my thoughts in my head. I didn't want
to hear any booms and bangs in my house and
have me freak out. But I would wake up early
on and in some times I'm still doing that, and
then I'm awake for either an hour or even two
hours in the middle of the night. And when that happens,
I let myself sleep and the because to me, working
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out then is less important than the amount of sleep
that I have to have.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
That's true too, and then I get the needing that
noise to go to sleep because when I'm by myself,
I like to put the TV on and I turn
it really low. I put on something that I've seen
over and over and over again, and for me it's
La Law because I've seen all those murder mystery shows.
Turn the volume on low, and I set the timer
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on the TV and it's just enough that it puts
you that I can go to sleep, but then it
doesn't wake me up later because I find that if
I leave that TV on all night, at some point
I will even if the volume is low. It could
be the light flickering, it could be something else that's
disturbing my sleep. So use the timer function. Don't watch
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something that is going to keep you will wait, you know,
watch something that I've seen that before, all that I
know how it ends, and turn the volume low, you know,
or or use music or use a sound you know,
use a sound machine or sound function on your phone.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
And I mean a little bit of that too. I
watched documentaries at night, so that that's there, or something
that I've watched a bunch of times. But I don't
because I like murder mystery kind of TV that I
don't watch that stuff at night because then I'm activated
in my thoughts about what's happening there. And so if
it's if it's a boring conversation, then I'm really good.
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And I don't have a sleep function on my TV,
but that I do on Netflix. So Netflix will only
play for so long and then it'll shut down. And
then when I naturally wake up to go to the bathroom,
and then I just shut the TV off then and
then I'm actually fine.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
Yeah, because a lot of TVs today have a sleep
timer on, you know, and you just and I love that.
You know to me that that works beautifully. But yeah,
you need that. You need that RESTful sleep, and you
don't need it disturbed by TV or other weird noises.
And I know when you're you know, because you lost
your husband, you know, because he passed away, You're thrown
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into a world where the sounds you need the noise background.
And I get that. And that's where you know, putting
a putting a radio on I have. I guess I'm
old when I say radio, I don't know I have.
I have a device on my overall, my credenza there
that I actually have an iPod sitting in it and
I can stream music on it. So I'll put music
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on there in the background, or I'll turn the TV
on with to a Pandora and just let the music
play in the background. For me, that that gives you
the noise. You're not hearing all the creeks and cracks
and moans of the house. You're not hearing strange noises.
You feel like you've got company there. You know, you've
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got to have I get that, you know, being alone
a lot, it's I like to have noise in the house.
And other than that, get a couple of dogs, you know,
the dogs.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
I got one. That's all I really need to have.
Is an awesome part of my life. It's just you know, lately,
I haven't left the house and she's like, Mom, I'm
tired of sitting in the house. Those are things, you know,
you tig about. All this sleep and my exercise has
been also very important for my brain function because one
of the things since my husband died, and I can
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go back to this with my divorce as well, that
you're under stress, your brain does not function well. And
that's what I help my clients with is pulling that
down so that we can get the brain function better.
And we often talk about self care and what they're
doing for that self care, the warm bubble baths and
you know, and sometimes it's a glass of wine and
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like I tell people, it's not about the alcohol and
the wine. For me, it's about the wine glass. It's
about holding that wine glass and sipping slowly. It just
kind of relaxes me. And it's the same way with
a cup of tea. It's got to be warm cup
of tea so I can put both hands on it,
and it's just about the smell and the heat and
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that just helps me relax. And I can have caffeine
in it at night, it doesn't matter. It's that tea
that helps me relax.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
It's the comfort. It's the comfort, it's the smell, it's
the warmth, and it's the not the habit, but just
the ritual of it. The whole ritual of it is
very relaxing. And it's like that with the wine too.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
You know.
Speaker 3 (15:37):
One of my self care things that I love to do,
and I haven't done it for a few weeks because
I've been kind of busy. I like to take a
bath with a glass of wine and Netflix on my
iPad and a candle. You know, I turn the lights out,
I get in the bathtub, I throw a bath bomb
in there, maybe some magnesium flakes in there, and pour
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myself a glass of wine and it's just the whole
It may take me an hour to drink that glass
of wine and wait, you know, because I'm in that
tub till the water cools off, right, Right, it's an indulgence,
but it's really not. That's a way that we distress,
you know. And we have to give ourselves permission to
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take care of ourselves, to invest in self care. Whether
it's that time to sit in the bathtub, or whether
it's that time to take the book and sit outside
in the sunshine for a little bit. We need to
give ourselves permission to do that. We live in such
a busy, fast paced world and it's go, go, go,
let's get this done, get this done, and get this done.
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We feel guilty sometimes if we feel like we're doing
something unproductive, unproductive. It's not that it's unproductive. It's taking
care of yourself and you need to do that. And
you need to do that regularly, not just once in
a while. Well, you need to do it regularly. It
helps to bring the stress down, helps to keep your
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cortisol levels under control, and it helps your health. I mean,
it's all part of taking care of yourself.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Yeah, I was. There's a couple of things that I've
done since I moved to Arkansas. At first, I was
living thirty miles away in my camper, so I wasn't
really close to because my son lives here, I wasn't
really close to the people that I was hanging with,
and so I would pay attention to the planets, and
when there was a low energy day, I would make
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myself leave and come into town. And they are managers
of the tavern here, the local tavern, and so they
have great chicken wings and stuff like that. So I
would eat a craved chicken. Since he died, and so
I would eat chicken wings. My problem was is that,
and this is no exaggeration, since he died, in the
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last eleven months, I have drank more alcohol than I
have in my whole entire life before this all put together.
And so that because I have alcoholism in my family,
has really bothered me. So these last two weeks I've
been able to pretty much so get rid of that aspect.
So it makes me feel better because you know, we're
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talking about things that are good for you. Having a
drink of wine is okay, but when you start drinking
too much, your body can't relax properly. It goes into
a fake relaxing, fake sleep, and you don't get rest
while you're actually sleeping.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
Right, You don't it's very disruptive to your sleep, and
and it's not uncommon when you've had such a thing
happen in your life where your life has just turned
upside down overnight. It sometimes we turn to that glass
of wine because it is comforting, and the second glass
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is the numbing, and it is a habit that we
have to worry about, you know, you have to worry
about it. And I'm glad you recognize that. Though you
recognized it and said, you know, the last eleven months,
I think I've overdone it. So what can I do
to dial it back down? And recognizing that and making
those healthy swaps, you know, having this sparkling water and
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putting some berries or something in it to make it special,
you know, instead of a cocktail, having some nice tea
in the evening, instead of that glass of wine. There's
things that we can have that are that are healthier,
that are still going to bring us comfort without numbing us.
I mean, part of the thing with alcohol is it
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changes the way we think as well, and that's not
what we need to do, especially when we're going through
any type of stress in our life. Numbing that stress
is not going to make it go away. It just
magnifies it later. So we really need to you know,
we need to be sober for it. And that's you know,
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like I said, your herbal teas, you're sparkling waters. You
can have some fun drinks without having alcohol in them.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
That's and because I'm in I'm originally from Colorado, so
it's much cooler. And then we move out here, so
the body tends to overheat and sweat and gets rid
of electrolytes, and so I drink a lot of water
with electrolytes in it, and that that has helped cramping
in my feet and calves a lot. And you know,
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I read and you can kind of touch base on
this time about water, but I've read how the fizzy
water has a really important aspect to it, the hydrogen
necessary for the body. And those are things that Western
medicine never ever points a finger to, never.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
Do they do that. And when you talk about fizzy waters,
you got to be careful because there's a lot you
could buy fizzy waters that have a lot of sugars
and or artificial sweeteners in them. Those are things we
stay away from. I have a soda stream. I make
my own fizzy water. It's I just use filtered water
and they're they're canister and I fizz up the water
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and then I can flavor it with fruit or with
a with little drops. I sometimes I'll use essential oil
drops or sometimes I'll use a flavored drop. But you
don't you know, you know, it has none of the
it doesn't have the sugar, it doesn't have the artificial sweeteners.
But it's beneficial, and it's very hydrating. It's very hydrating,
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and I'm getting minerals that I may not necessarily beginning
if I'm just drinking plain tap water or bottled water.
I don't do bottled water. But yeah, that's a whole
other thing we can get into with the with the
with the microplastics and sychop micro plastics and and that.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
You know, as a kid, I have draped peri a
and tea. I've always been one of those different kids
where I drink perie, go out and order perie as
opposed to soda or something to that effect. And then
I've always drank tea. And then one of the things
I love to do when I get to a hotel
room it's just before I go to bed, is heat
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me up a cup of tea and It's just part
of the relaxation of being in the hotel y away
from all the work of home and let it go.
It just totally relax And I don't need alcohol for
that kind of stuff.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
No, you don't, so you wouldn't need it at home either.
I was traveling recently and I actually brought some loose
tea with me and a tea ball of some evening
teas that I like because in the evening I don't
I try to avoid the caffeine teas in the evening,
and I like different types of teas in the evening.
I might like something that has more cinnamons and warmer
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notes to it that I might not drink during the daytime,
or sometimes like a chocolate mint or something less that
gives me that dessert feel. There's some good tea out there,
but you know, I travel with it just so I
could do that when I'm traveling in the hotel room,
I can have that evening cup of tea and not
need you know, don't need to go down to the
bar for a glass of wine. I'll have no problem
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falling asleep, but yea sleep tea. Hydration Hydration is important.
When you mentioned your you know, leg cramps, foot cramps.
That was a sign of dehydration. That so increasing your
hydration it's snow and adding the electrolytes is why those
cramps went away, because you're now getting properly hydrated.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Yeah, and I like last Saturday, I normally drink like, oh,
almost a full gallon of water a day. I'm about
at least three quarters. And last Saturday, I drank one
big glass if I drank that much, and then I
drank some black tea, maybe two or three cups for
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the whole day and long about two o'clock, my bladder
decided it wanted to pretend it was it had a
bladder infection. And it was all because I normally keep
hydrated and now now I'm not able to do that
because I didn't. It was a Saturday. I'm out of
my realm, and so my body has been very telltale
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to me. It tattles on me all the time like this.
You know, we're talking about stress, So we'll kind of
just alter this into to my aspects recently and since
my divorce, which happened twenty two years ago. I am
allergic to stress. So when I am underneath a specific
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type of stress that I don't even know. I don't
even know that I'm stressed, but it messes with my
nervous system and I break out. I break out in
hives and or blisters and or oh shoot, I lost
the other term hives blisters, Oh a rash. I break
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out in one of those, and then I will have
lesions that will come on the skin, like little tiny lesions,
and they will use they'll be part of the blister aspect,
but there'll be no blister. It's like what happens after
a blister dissipates, and it's all because of stress. So
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I have to make sure that I am taking an
adrenal support all the time. And then if I've allowed
this stress to creep in that I don't notice, I
have to dose up on my adrenal support. So that's
something that I've had to deal with.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
In stress, you'll see stress in your skin very quickly.
For a lot of people, especially women. You'll see breakouts
and things like that because your body is when you're
under stress, you're not processing the toxins in your body properly,
you're not moving them properly. But your skin is the
largest organ that you can detalks through. So these are
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toxins that are coming out of your body, they're just
not coming out effectively because your body is under stress
and you're not nourishing it properly. You're not giving everything
it needs to deal with that stress. So you got
to stay hydrated. You've got to get the sleep. Movement
is critical for dealing with stress, and thirty minutes a
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minimum a day when you're highly stressed, I recommend getting
that movement outdoors as often as possible because that just
getting out in the fresh air can elevate your moods.
And then it is what we eat. Are we eating
to fuel our brain for health or are we eating
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just because it makes us happy and it tastes good. Okay,
when we are under stress, we tend to grab things
that are comfort to us, So we may be eating
things that are more comfort foods instead of looking at
them at how they're nourishing our body. And if we
can make some switches along with that, I understand. Okay,
the hamburger and French fries are going to taste really good.
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It's going to make me feel good about myself. But
if I'm not giving myself the omegas and the other
things I need for my brain health. You know, salmon, walnuts, avocados, eggs,
things that are going to actually nourish our brain so
that our brain can function better. We're just adding to
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that burden on our body, and it makes it harder
to deal with this stress. We can deal with it
easier if we are feeding our body foods that are
going to support our function, support our brain function and
everything else. If we're eating a lot of sugar, not good.
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If we're eating a lot of processed foods, not good.
It comes in a box with a barcode on it,
it probably shouldn't be you. Probably you should not consider
that your daily diet. You should consider that. You know,
we'll eat that once in a while. But look, you know,
look at the simple foods, the lean proteins. Plenty of
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foods that are high in omega three, salmon being one
of them, you know, wild caught salmon, eating that a
couple of times a week, having some just a handful
of walnuts as a snack, great brain brain booster. Eggs,
great for the brain, spinach. These are the kinds of
foods that are going to help nourish your brain. Where
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the foods that we tend to lean towards under times
of stress, and I'm guilty, Okay, I'm guilty of this myself.
I'm stressed, I don't feel like cooking, I don't want
to think about eating. Gosh, I want to go get tacos.
You know, it's it, that's that's human nature. But if
we can slow down, permit it and realize that, okay,
well maybe that drive through isn't going to be the
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best for us. Maybe it would be better if I
picked up some salmon and threw it on the grill
and had a salad with it or something more healthy.
But we need to really think about what's going to
nourish our brain during these times when we're stressed, and
enjoy the avocados, enjoy some nuts and walnuts, particularly because
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they're high in omega threes, getting salmon in your diet,
getting getting that extra omega in to help combat what
your brain is going through and what your body is
going through, and looking at it not as a punishment.
You know, eating healthy is not a punishment. Number one.
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Eating healthy is it doesn't have to be a punishment.
Can be very enjoyable, it can be very simple. It
does not have to be complicated at all if you
keep it simple and keep it close to nature. And
that's and that he was a point, you know. After
my husband died, of course he did a lot of
the cooking.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
I mean we shared cooking, but he did a lot
of it, and he was very good at it, and
it was generally way healthier food, although he plated enough
for an army and expected me to eat it, and
that was why I gained so much weight. But the
reality was is after he died, there was one no
reason to cook because there was nobody there going to
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eat it, and my cooking didn't want to taste good
to me. So I would go out early on when
I was in Arkansas, I would go out and get something,
hopefully it was good, from Walmart. I would go and
get a chicken pieces or whatever from Walmart, and or
I would go out and eat and I tried to
eat grilled chicken is opposed to fried chicken. But that's
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all I craved for the longest time. Now I moved
here to South Carolina, and my diet was kind of
haphazard if it was at all, and then it was
cheese and that was probably the healthier one of the day.
With pringles and you know, those types of things. So
finally it was just so expensive for me to go
buy food because a lot of it would go bad.
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So I started getting I started ordering the meals prepped
for me from home chef and nice, I can cook
a healthy meal, it's already there, and I actually have
saved over I don't know, it's close to four hundred
dollars now in a month.
Speaker 3 (31:26):
Yeah, it's those meals I go on and off with.
Like I've done a couple of different meal kits where
they send you everything and you just prep it. It's
super easy to do. They have a lot of variety
where you can pick. You know, I was able to
pick the healthier meals and really cuts down on the waist,
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the prep and all of that. And I love that
you're doing the ones that they're already done for you
pretty much, you're just cooking them, right.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
And then I'm actually cooking them. And so you mentioned
hamburger earlier, hamburgers and French fries, Well, when they do
the French fries are in the oven and you use
olive oil and salt and pepper and you put them
in the oven and you do them like that. So
it's way healthier than deeprep ride and you can cook
them as long and get them as crispy as you want.
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And the hamburger, and to make the hamburger a healthier burger,
they put a cold slat on it as opposed to
just a leaf of lettuce. So now you've got something healthier,
and you can change that to be chicken if you want.
And so it's been, it's been. I've enjoyed cooking. Of course,
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I have a friend that'll come over and we'll eat together.
It gives me company, somebody to eat, somebody to cook for,
and so so that's been helpful for me to have
them come over and be a part of my life
for that moment in time at dinner time. So so
some of this stuff, you know, you were talking about
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all the omegas when when I was working and going
through because I actually had and was going through to
get my doctorate in natural doctor and so one of
the things that we talked early on in school was
like you talk about walnuts, they look like a brain.
And so they said things that you know look like brains,
leaves that have all of the veins in it, are
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like the veins in a brain. So they said, if
you look at nature, you can see that it's this
is going to be good for this, and this is
going to be good for.
Speaker 3 (33:30):
That Nature has provided for us. And what's happened over
the last seventy plus years through the food evolution is
we've taken what nature has given us and tried to
recreate it, to make it more appealing, to save money,
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to make it last longer, all of these reasons, to
make it more convenient. I remember back in the seventies
when women were you know, you can have the frying
pan and the bacon, you know, can fry it up
in the pan and still go to work and all
that good stuff. They started coming out with convenient foods,
and this is where we started to see this decline,
and it's gotten. The more we've leaned into processed foods,
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the worse our health has gotten in the United States.
I mean, that is just a fact. And when you
look at it, it's because what we are eating today
is not real food for the most part, as I
said earlier, if it's coming from a box with a
barcode that's not provided by nature, that was made in
a factory somewhere, that is food that has been so
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adulterated it your body does not recognize it as food. Yes,
you'll get calories from it. Yes you can gain weight
from it or lose weight from it. But it's not
nourishing your body. It's not giving yourselves what they need
to thrive. And if we want to live with vitality
and with energy and without illness, and we want to
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live a long, healthy life, we have to take a
look at all aspects of our health. Are we managing
our stress, Are we feeding our body properly? Are we
getting enough sleep? You know? But feeding our body is critical.
It's foundational, it really is. And nature gave it all
to us. We have everything in nature that we need.
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We don't need. We don't need factories making boxes of
cookies and chips and things that noodle bowls that you
just pour water on and eat. I mean, hello, how
many college kids survive on top ramen and that kind
of thing.
Speaker 2 (35:34):
It's like top robins the thing. So one of the
things that I wanted to touch, you know on is way
back we had bread, We ate white bread back then,
and there was never a gluten problem. Now I did
have an uncle way back he had Siliac's disease. And
for those of you who think you might have siliacs,
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celiacs can kill you. I mean you eat a little
bit of it and it can kill you. So ciliax
is not the same as gluten intolerance. So just that's
a huge thing I learned years and years ago. But
what happened, and we're talking about what you're saying, is
that they came in and changed everything. Well, our grains
that we made, our bread were they were created by God,
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they were created perfect, and we man decided that we
were going to pull the unnecessary part out of that
grain seed. Well, we took the part that helped us
digest the gluten out of that grain seed. That's why
we're seeing so much more gluten intolerance now than we've
ever seen before.
Speaker 3 (36:41):
Goes beyond that, Tina, it goes beyond that. Okay, we've
genetically modified the wheat to grow shorter. We spray it
with I can never say that word glycosseed. That that
stuff they're not supposed to spray, but they spray it
on there to dry the wheat out before they harvest it.
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The reason they modified it to make it shorter, and
the reason they spray it to dry it off, is
to make it faster and easier to harvest, and not
gum up the harvesting machines. They don't have to stop
during harvest to clean the machines. It makes it easier
and faster to harvest. This is not the wheat our
great grandparents grew up on. This is why we're seeing
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so much gluten intolerance and an increase in coeliac disease. Now,
Celiac disease is an autoimmune response. It's an autoimmune issue.
And if you are truly celiac, cross contamination alone can
make you very ill, and it makes you ill for
days or weeks at a time, and it can make
you it can kill you too. It is severe. Think
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of an anaphyletic reaction to something that's almost how bad
it is with somebody that has been glutened that is celiac.
Most of us here in America are gluten intolerant these days.
We don't process the gluten properly, we don't digest it properly.
And it's not gluten's fault. It's the modifications that we
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made to our grain supply. And we might that these
modifications were all made to save money, right, sell more
grain and yep yep.
Speaker 2 (38:27):
Or you know, if you believe in then the strange
whispers in the background to make a guy.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
You could go through the conspiracy theories and all of that,
and maybe some of it, you know, who knows. I'm
not going to shoot down people that have this conspiracy
theories because some of there could be some truth to
some of that. But what we do know is that
decisions are made based on business profits, not on people's health.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
Amen, And that's really bottom lined.
Speaker 3 (38:59):
It's up to us to take responsibility for our health
and to say, you know, enough is enough. I'm not
going to put that in my body. It doesn't I
stopped drinking soda and diet soda, especially fifteen years ago.
You I won't even I don't have no desire for
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it none. I know what it can do to my body.
I don't need it. It's yes, we have to start
saying no, there's athor is to it.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
So so as we're starting to come to a close here, Terry,
I know all of your contact information will be below,
but can you I mean, and we look at your
your your email is right he emails. How can people
other than your email right here. Where can they find
you to find out more about you?
Speaker 3 (39:54):
Thank you, Tina. You could go to blue Jeans Andandberries
dot com. That's my website. You can book time with me.
I give a free thirty minute consultation to anyone who
has questions or just wants to explore some options, or
just wants to chat about their health and wants to
know if they're on the right track or not. So
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you can reach out to me at like I said,
blue jeansandberrys dot com. You can email me Terry at
blue Jeans Andberries dot com. You could even text me.
I'm going to be so brave and give my text
number out. I don't you know what by hard? I
have to look at it because I got it written down.
Isn't that funny? It's five zero one two seven three
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one nine one three. So you can text me at
five zero one two seven three one nine one three,
reach out to me by email, visit my website. You
can put an appointment right on my website. Like I said,
thirty minute consult absolutely.
Speaker 2 (40:52):
Free, awesome and it's worth that. Terry's got a wealth
of knowledge.
Speaker 3 (40:58):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
I'm certified divorce coach meaning that I'm trained in the
complexities of divorce. I've also been through a very difficult
marriage my divorce, my father was almost murdered and my
late husband was pretty much so tortured in his marriage.
So not only do I understand divorce from the training aspect,
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I understand the stress and the complexities that go with
getting the divorce. So you can reach me through my
email at Coach Tina Lynn at gmail dot com. That's
co O a c h t I n A l
y n N at gmail dot com. You can also
reach me or check me out on my website at
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Divorcecoachspecialist dot com. My social media Facebook under Tina Lynn
Huggins that's h u gg i n S LinkedIn under
Tina Huggins Instagram, Divorce Coach Tina Lyn, TikTok Divorce Tina. So,
as we come to the end, Terry, can you please
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give some advice that can help our viewers.
Speaker 3 (42:08):
Yes, I'm gonna say, first off, don't overstress things, don't
overthink things, keep it simple, one step at a time.
You do not have to come in and overhaul your
health in one night or one day. It doesn't happen
that way. Focus on the easy fixes. First, focus on
making sure you're getting the rest, making sure you're getting
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some movement into your day, and then looking at your
other habits that you can start changing. But you don't
have to do it all at one time. It can
be done in small increments, build habits that will last
and sustain you, and you'll start to see changes in
your health over time. It doesn't have to be done overnight.
You didn't get where you are today overnight, So give
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yourself grace and allow yourself time and your body time
to heal and get to a healthier status. Give yourself time,
give yourself grace.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
And so in just supporting what she said, because I've
been through this, just most recent through my husband's death.
When it was time for me to start my pushups
and sit ups in my workout all over again, I
literally start with five five jumping chests, five push ups
by and then I worked up to the fifty and
I did that over a course of weeks. So that's one.
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It was good for my brain to think, Okay, where
am I at? But I didn't, just like Terry says,
I didn't have to do it overnight, and it's been
a process over the last few weeks about a month
where not that I quit alcohol called turkey, because I'm
an alcoholic. Although I was concerned because alcohol is in
my family, I didn't need it, so it was something simple.
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But I can tell you that coming off of that
and dealing with AA is sometimes it's not one day
at a time, it's moment at a time as you
start moving forward in this. So, just like Terry says,
be gentle, and I can tell you what you've seen
of Terry today is just a smidgeon of her intelligence
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and her ability to work with you. She's just got
the heart of gold. And so I invite you to
please make contact with Terry and get yourself headed in
the right direction. So thank you very much Terry for
being with us today.
Speaker 3 (44:33):
Thank you Tina. It's been my pleasure. It's been a
wonderful conversation. And the time just has flown right by.
Speaker 2 (44:39):
Yes, it does. And so I always tell my viewers this,
many people, include myself, get to a point in our
divorce where suicide is a thought that we have and
we don't want you to go there. You need to
have the support that you need. I'm here and there's
other people if I'm not the right one. We'll find
you the right one. But if you are dealing with
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suicidal thoughts, then please call the suicide Prevention Hotline at
nine to eight eight. In the Netherlands, it's one one three.
Get the support that you need so that you have
somebody that can talk you through this moment right here,
right now. If you are dealing with something that you need,
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the police therefore right now here in the US called
nine to one one. In the UK it's nine nine nine.
In the Netherlands, it's one one two. Get the police
there at this point press charges on the other individual.
Do not drop those charges. This is your key out
of a domestic violence situation. Most cases you drop those charges.
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What comes after the charges get dropped is oftentimes worse
than what happened before the charges were placed in This
is your key out. Don't drop the charges. So if
you are dealing with domestic violence or you know somebody,
the Domestic Violence Hotline is eight hundred seven ninety nine
seven two three three. That number again is eight hundred
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seven ninety nine seventy two thirty three. I ask that
you please like, comment, and share this information so that
it can help others, and once again Terry, thank you
so much for being my guest here.
Speaker 3 (46:20):
Thank you, Tina, thank you for the invite.
Speaker 2 (46:22):
It was by pleasure great and we'll see you all later.
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Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hello, and welcome to my show The Awakening here on WGSNDB,
The Going Bold and Going Solo Network. And I lost
my notes. Okay, so the information and opinions expressed on
this show are just that, the opinions of the individual
speaking based on their individual personal experience. They are not
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intended to diagnose and do not constitute professional advice or recommendations.
So you know that pain, the stress, the struggle that
divorcing men and women go through, Well, there is a
way to find peace, keep your sanity, and assist your
lawyer in the legal process that saves you thousands of
dollars through the process. My name's Tina Huggins. I'm your
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divorce coach, specialist, divorce consultant, restorative family mediator, conflictional co
parenting coach, and I want to thank you for joining us,
and today I'm graced with a very special friend of mine.
Terry Thompson. Terry is a holistic health coach, wellness educator,
and founder of Blue Jeens and Berries, where she helps
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busy families and professionals simplify healthy living with whole foods,
functional nutrition, and natural solutions. With over fourteen years in
the wellness industry, Terry blends real life experiences, science backed guidance,
and a touch of humor to people and to people
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they thrive in their healthy journeys. So welcome and thank
you for being here, Terry, but lost in my words.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Okay, Tina, thank you so much for inviting me. It's
my pleasure. I'm excited. I'm excited to be here today.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Well awesome, awesome. Yeah, Terry and I are on a
networking group together NRG, and we have we've just enjoyed
each other's company, or at least I enjoy her. Well,
we'll tell you my suck of the story. She's just
such a sweet person and she has a wealth of knowledge,
and that's why I've invited her on the show today.
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You know, we're we're gonna just kind of talk about
the stress that we go through. I just mentioned, you know,
the stress and the overwhelm and just the yucky that
we go through when we start to go through the stress.
And to kind of put this in place for me,
I lost my husband almost a year ago, and in
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the course of losing my husband, of course I've gone
through stress. I mean not just that, but I've done
a state to state move and lived in a camper
until I found my house. So I've had all that stress.
But I can truly, honestly tell you that this stress
is way different than the stress that I went through
when I went through my divorce. My divorce was so
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full of conflict and blame and just horrible aspects of that.
And I know from my husband's death, I've lost like
twenty pounds. It was twenty pounds I needed to lose,
but not a way I would suggest anybody go about
losing weight. And I've gone through so much different forms
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of stress. But that stress that I went through in
my divorce was just unthinkably difficult. So when somebody comes
to you, Terry, and they're dealing with this much stress,
what is your direction? Where do you start?
Speaker 3 (03:55):
We start with small habits first off, because when somebody
is already under a lot of stress, the last thing
I want to do is add more stress to them
or even make them feel guilty about where they're at
with their health or where their habits are today. So
it's really focusing on how can we make sure that
we are going to nourish the body to combat that stress,
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to help bring our cortisol levels down, How are we
going to keep up with a good sleep routine keep
I mean that people often overlook the need for sleep,
and so sometimes it's not just about what what are
we eating? You know, it's not just about our daily habits.
What are we eating? Are we exercising enough? And all
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of that is are we getting enough rest? Are we
getting enough sleep? And what is keeping us up at night?
And how can we counteract that? You know, what kind
of relaxation techniques can we bring in, what kind of
habits can we bring in before bedtime to help induce
reastful sleep, Because if you're not getting that solid rest
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will sleep every night and you're already in this fight
or flight mode because of stress, your body is not
able to deal with that stress and it's going to
start impacting your health. So sleep first, and I would
have to say that is something that I'm going to
look at as a priority for anybody that's under a
lot of stress, and for myself in the past. I
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know that when I was under a lot of stress
and when I wasn't taking care of my sleep, that
is when my health really got at its worst point.
That's where things just got out of control and couldn't
control the weight, couldn't control the aches and pains, couldn't
control the migraines and all the stuff that goes along
with stress. So let's first address the sleep. You know,
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it sounds so simple, and it's really not, because there's
things that keep people awake at night, and when you
are stressed like that, getting that peaceful sleep could be
very difficult. So looking for ways to help induce that
sleep through what we put into our body before we sleep,
what we do with our body, and even lighting, putting
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the phone down, maybe taking a bath with some magnesium salts,
adding magnesium to our diet, you know, things that can
help promote relaxation at night. But I think sleep would
be sleep is going to take precedence over what you're
eating when it comes to that, when it comes to
somebody that is highly stressed. Let's look at sleep first,
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and then let's look at our other habits. Holistically, you
have to look at the whole picture, Tina. You can't
just look at the sleep. We can't just look at
what we're eating. That does play a huge role in
how we react and how we can control our emotions.
If we're eating a lot of processed foods, a lot
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of chemical laden foods, our bodies are going to be
combating that and we can't deal with the stress as easily.
So it's a combination of really a combination of things.
But look at the sleep, look at sleep patterns first.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Yeah, And you know I've had I've had dances with
this when since my husband died, because because I've had
obviously timeframes early on a year ago where I was sleeping,
I would stay in bed and just sleep. In the mornings,
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I didn't get up, I didn't want to get out
of bed, I didn't want to start my day, and
so then I forced an issue to start working out,
and then I get moved over here, and then I've
had to balance this part out where you know, like
I have early morning meetings that I have to be
in front of the computer at eight am, and that
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doesn't seem early for a lot of people. But I'm
usually up at four four thirty and so so I
get up and I have an hour of meditation and
prayer time whatever that looks like for me that day,
and then I have an hour of workout, and then
I have an hour of prep to get in front
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of the computer, where I drink you know, drink my
tea and you know, during the week it's green tea.
I'm pretty careful about what I am better now about
what I'm putting in my body. But on these mornings
Tuesday and Wednesday, when I have early it's like, okay,
you either meditate or get you work out because you
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need that extra time frame to sleep. So because otherwise
I'd be up even an hour earlier to get all
of that put in there. And I have I let
my body wake up at a natural rhythm, so I
don't set an alarm, and so at for thirty ish
between four thirty and five is my natural time to
wake up. If I stay in bed past that, then
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I have another sleep time and have to wait until
the next wake up time for my body. So I
kind of did exactly.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
That's why they tell you not to use that snooze
button on your alarm. Or the snooze on your phone
because you're just getting back to sleep and it gets
disrupted and you never get you're never fully back awake
from this sleep cycle that your body tried to go
back into. Now, if you're waking up naturally around four
thirty five o'clock, I'm assuming you're probably going to bed
(09:29):
by about.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
Nine o'clock, eight thirty nine.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
Yes, okay, and that's good, and then your body is
waking up because you're getting that seven to eight hours
that your body needs. Now, if you were going if
you were staying up till midnight and getting up at
four or four thirty in the morning, then we need
to talk because that does not help your cortisol levels
at all, that does not help your stress levels, and
that does not help your body repair itself. So you're
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you're gonna start falling upon inside. You know you actually,
you're you're body needs that restorative sleep for your cells
to regenerate and repair. And when you rob your body
of that, you're not getting that restorative sleep to your
cells aren't regenerating properly, and things start going haywire. We
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start to see illness, we start to see autoimmune issues,
we start to see weight issues. We start to see
emotional mental issues.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
And I get that I've played havoc with that, you know,
because and this is a thing that's been bad since
my husband died. I have a television that's in my
room and I couldn't be without sound. In beginning, it
was on twenty four to seven because I didn't want
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to hear my thoughts in my head. I didn't want
to hear any booms and bangs in my house and
have me freak out. But I would wake up early
on and in some times I'm still doing that, and
then I'm awake for either an hour or even two
hours in the middle of the night. And when that happens,
I let myself sleep and the because to me, working
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out then is less important than the amount of sleep
that I have to have.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
That's true too, and then I get the needing that
noise to go to sleep because when I'm by myself,
I like to put the TV on and I turn
it really low. I put on something that I've seen
over and over and over again, and for me it's
La Law because I've seen all those murder mystery shows.
Turn the volume on low, and I set the timer
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on the TV and it's just enough that it puts
you that I can go to sleep, but then it
doesn't wake me up later because I find that if
I leave that TV on all night, at some point
I will even if the volume is low. It could
be the light flickering, it could be something else that's
disturbing my sleep. So use the timer function. Don't watch
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something that is going to keep you will wait, you know,
watch something that I've seen that before, all that I
know how it ends, and turn the volume low, you know,
or or use music or use a sound you know,
use a sound machine or sound function on your phone.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
And I mean a little bit of that too. I
watched documentaries at night, so that that's there, or something
that I've watched a bunch of times. But I don't
because I like murder mystery kind of TV that I
don't watch that stuff at night because then I'm activated
in my thoughts about what's happening there. And so if
it's if it's a boring conversation, then I'm really good.
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And I don't have a sleep function on my TV,
but that I do on Netflix. So Netflix will only
play for so long and then it'll shut down. And
then when I naturally wake up to go to the bathroom,
and then I just shut the TV off then and
then I'm actually fine.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
Yeah, because a lot of TVs today have a sleep
timer on, you know, and you just and I love that.
You know to me that that works beautifully. But yeah,
you need that. You need that RESTful sleep, and you
don't need it disturbed by TV or other weird noises.
And I know when you're you know, because you lost
your husband, you know, because he passed away, You're thrown
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into a world where the sounds you need the noise background.
And I get that. And that's where you know, putting
a putting a radio on I have. I guess I'm
old when I say radio, I don't know I have.
I have a device on my overall, my credenza there
that I actually have an iPod sitting in it and
I can stream music on it. So I'll put music
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on there in the background, or I'll turn the TV
on with to a Pandora and just let the music
play in the background. For me, that that gives you
the noise. You're not hearing all the creeks and cracks
and moans of the house. You're not hearing strange noises.
You feel like you've got company there. You know, you've
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got to have I get that, you know, being alone
a lot, it's I like to have noise in the house.
And other than that, get a couple of dogs, you know,
the dogs.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
I got one. That's all I really need to have.
Is an awesome part of my life. It's just you know, lately,
I haven't left the house and she's like, Mom, I'm
tired of sitting in the house. Those are things, you know,
you tig about. All this sleep and my exercise has
been also very important for my brain function because one
of the things since my husband died, and I can
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go back to this with my divorce as well, that
you're under stress, your brain does not function well. And
that's what I help my clients with is pulling that
down so that we can get the brain function better.
And we often talk about self care and what they're
doing for that self care, the warm bubble baths and
you know, and sometimes it's a glass of wine and
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like I tell people, it's not about the alcohol and
the wine. For me, it's about the wine glass. It's
about holding that wine glass and sipping slowly. It just
kind of relaxes me. And it's the same way with
a cup of tea. It's got to be warm cup
of tea so I can put both hands on it,
and it's just about the smell and the heat and
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that just helps me relax. And I can have caffeine
in it at night, it doesn't matter. It's that tea
that helps me relax.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
It's the comfort. It's the comfort, it's the smell, it's
the warmth, and it's the not the habit, but just
the ritual of it. The whole ritual of it is
very relaxing. And it's like that with the wine too.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
You know.
Speaker 3 (15:37):
One of my self care things that I love to do,
and I haven't done it for a few weeks because
I've been kind of busy. I like to take a
bath with a glass of wine and Netflix on my
iPad and a candle. You know, I turn the lights out,
I get in the bathtub, I throw a bath bomb
in there, maybe some magnesium flakes in there, and pour
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myself a glass of wine and it's just the whole
It may take me an hour to drink that glass
of wine and wait, you know, because I'm in that
tub till the water cools off, right, Right, it's an indulgence,
but it's really not. That's a way that we distress,
you know. And we have to give ourselves permission to
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take care of ourselves, to invest in self care. Whether
it's that time to sit in the bathtub, or whether
it's that time to take the book and sit outside
in the sunshine for a little bit. We need to
give ourselves permission to do that. We live in such
a busy, fast paced world and it's go, go, go,
let's get this done, get this done, and get this done.
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We feel guilty sometimes if we feel like we're doing
something unproductive, unproductive. It's not that it's unproductive. It's taking
care of yourself and you need to do that. And
you need to do that regularly, not just once in
a while. Well, you need to do it regularly. It
helps to bring the stress down, helps to keep your
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cortisol levels under control, and it helps your health. I mean,
it's all part of taking care of yourself.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Yeah, I was. There's a couple of things that I've
done since I moved to Arkansas. At first, I was
living thirty miles away in my camper, so I wasn't
really close to because my son lives here, I wasn't
really close to the people that I was hanging with,
and so I would pay attention to the planets, and
when there was a low energy day, I would make
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myself leave and come into town. And they are managers
of the tavern here, the local tavern, and so they
have great chicken wings and stuff like that. So I
would eat a craved chicken. Since he died, and so
I would eat chicken wings. My problem was is that,
and this is no exaggeration, since he died, in the
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last eleven months, I have drank more alcohol than I
have in my whole entire life before this all put together.
And so that because I have alcoholism in my family,
has really bothered me. So these last two weeks I've
been able to pretty much so get rid of that aspect.
So it makes me feel better because you know, we're
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talking about things that are good for you. Having a
drink of wine is okay, but when you start drinking
too much, your body can't relax properly. It goes into
a fake relaxing, fake sleep, and you don't get rest
while you're actually sleeping.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
Right, You don't it's very disruptive to your sleep, and
and it's not uncommon when you've had such a thing
happen in your life where your life has just turned
upside down overnight. It sometimes we turn to that glass
of wine because it is comforting, and the second glass
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is the numbing, and it is a habit that we
have to worry about, you know, you have to worry
about it. And I'm glad you recognize that. Though you
recognized it and said, you know, the last eleven months,
I think I've overdone it. So what can I do
to dial it back down? And recognizing that and making
those healthy swaps, you know, having this sparkling water and
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putting some berries or something in it to make it special,
you know, instead of a cocktail, having some nice tea
in the evening, instead of that glass of wine. There's
things that we can have that are that are healthier,
that are still going to bring us comfort without numbing us.
I mean, part of the thing with alcohol is it
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changes the way we think as well, and that's not
what we need to do, especially when we're going through
any type of stress in our life. Numbing that stress
is not going to make it go away. It just
magnifies it later. So we really need to you know,
we need to be sober for it. And that's you know,
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like I said, your herbal teas, you're sparkling waters. You
can have some fun drinks without having alcohol in them.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
That's and because I'm in I'm originally from Colorado, so
it's much cooler. And then we move out here, so
the body tends to overheat and sweat and gets rid
of electrolytes, and so I drink a lot of water
with electrolytes in it, and that that has helped cramping
in my feet and calves a lot. And you know,
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I read and you can kind of touch base on
this time about water, but I've read how the fizzy
water has a really important aspect to it, the hydrogen
necessary for the body. And those are things that Western
medicine never ever points a finger to, never.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
Do they do that. And when you talk about fizzy waters,
you got to be careful because there's a lot you
could buy fizzy waters that have a lot of sugars
and or artificial sweeteners in them. Those are things we
stay away from. I have a soda stream. I make
my own fizzy water. It's I just use filtered water
and they're they're canister and I fizz up the water
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and then I can flavor it with fruit or with
a with little drops. I sometimes I'll use essential oil
drops or sometimes I'll use a flavored drop. But you
don't you know, you know, it has none of the
it doesn't have the sugar, it doesn't have the artificial sweeteners.
But it's beneficial, and it's very hydrating. It's very hydrating,
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and I'm getting minerals that I may not necessarily beginning
if I'm just drinking plain tap water or bottled water.
I don't do bottled water. But yeah, that's a whole
other thing we can get into with the with the
with the microplastics and sychop micro plastics and and that.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
You know, as a kid, I have draped peri a
and tea. I've always been one of those different kids
where I drink perie, go out and order perie as
opposed to soda or something to that effect. And then
I've always drank tea. And then one of the things
I love to do when I get to a hotel
room it's just before I go to bed, is heat
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me up a cup of tea and It's just part
of the relaxation of being in the hotel y away
from all the work of home and let it go.
It just totally relax And I don't need alcohol for
that kind of stuff.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
No, you don't, so you wouldn't need it at home either.
I was traveling recently and I actually brought some loose
tea with me and a tea ball of some evening
teas that I like because in the evening I don't
I try to avoid the caffeine teas in the evening,
and I like different types of teas in the evening.
I might like something that has more cinnamons and warmer
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notes to it that I might not drink during the daytime,
or sometimes like a chocolate mint or something less that
gives me that dessert feel. There's some good tea out there,
but you know, I travel with it just so I
could do that when I'm traveling in the hotel room,
I can have that evening cup of tea and not
need you know, don't need to go down to the
bar for a glass of wine. I'll have no problem
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falling asleep, but yea sleep tea. Hydration Hydration is important.
When you mentioned your you know, leg cramps, foot cramps.
That was a sign of dehydration. That so increasing your
hydration it's snow and adding the electrolytes is why those
cramps went away, because you're now getting properly hydrated.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Yeah, and I like last Saturday, I normally drink like, oh,
almost a full gallon of water a day. I'm about
at least three quarters. And last Saturday, I drank one
big glass if I drank that much, and then I
drank some black tea, maybe two or three cups for
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the whole day and long about two o'clock, my bladder
decided it wanted to pretend it was it had a
bladder infection. And it was all because I normally keep
hydrated and now now I'm not able to do that
because I didn't. It was a Saturday. I'm out of
my realm, and so my body has been very telltale
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to me. It tattles on me all the time like this.
You know, we're talking about stress, So we'll kind of
just alter this into to my aspects recently and since
my divorce, which happened twenty two years ago. I am
allergic to stress. So when I am underneath a specific
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type of stress that I don't even know. I don't
even know that I'm stressed, but it messes with my
nervous system and I break out. I break out in
hives and or blisters and or oh shoot, I lost
the other term hives blisters, Oh a rash. I break
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out in one of those, and then I will have
lesions that will come on the skin, like little tiny lesions,
and they will use they'll be part of the blister aspect,
but there'll be no blister. It's like what happens after
a blister dissipates, and it's all because of stress. So
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I have to make sure that I am taking an
adrenal support all the time. And then if I've allowed
this stress to creep in that I don't notice, I
have to dose up on my adrenal support. So that's
something that I've had to deal with.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
In stress, you'll see stress in your skin very quickly.
For a lot of people, especially women. You'll see breakouts
and things like that because your body is when you're
under stress, you're not processing the toxins in your body properly,
you're not moving them properly. But your skin is the
largest organ that you can detalks through. So these are
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toxins that are coming out of your body, they're just
not coming out effectively because your body is under stress
and you're not nourishing it properly. You're not giving everything
it needs to deal with that stress. So you got
to stay hydrated. You've got to get the sleep. Movement
is critical for dealing with stress, and thirty minutes a
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minimum a day when you're highly stressed, I recommend getting
that movement outdoors as often as possible because that just
getting out in the fresh air can elevate your moods.
And then it is what we eat. Are we eating
to fuel our brain for health or are we eating
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just because it makes us happy and it tastes good. Okay,
when we are under stress, we tend to grab things
that are comfort to us, So we may be eating
things that are more comfort foods instead of looking at
them at how they're nourishing our body. And if we
can make some switches along with that, I understand. Okay,
the hamburger and French fries are going to taste really good.
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It's going to make me feel good about myself. But
if I'm not giving myself the omegas and the other
things I need for my brain health. You know, salmon, walnuts, avocados, eggs,
things that are going to actually nourish our brain so
that our brain can function better. We're just adding to
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that burden on our body, and it makes it harder
to deal with this stress. We can deal with it
easier if we are feeding our body foods that are
going to support our function, support our brain function and
everything else. If we're eating a lot of sugar, not good.
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If we're eating a lot of processed foods, not good.
It comes in a box with a barcode on it,
it probably shouldn't be you. Probably you should not consider
that your daily diet. You should consider that. You know,
we'll eat that once in a while. But look, you know,
look at the simple foods, the lean proteins. Plenty of
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foods that are high in omega three, salmon being one
of them, you know, wild caught salmon, eating that a
couple of times a week, having some just a handful
of walnuts as a snack, great brain brain booster. Eggs,
great for the brain, spinach. These are the kinds of
foods that are going to help nourish your brain. Where
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the foods that we tend to lean towards under times
of stress, and I'm guilty, Okay, I'm guilty of this myself.
I'm stressed, I don't feel like cooking, I don't want
to think about eating. Gosh, I want to go get tacos.
You know, it's it, that's that's human nature. But if
we can slow down, permit it and realize that, okay,
well maybe that drive through isn't going to be the
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best for us. Maybe it would be better if I
picked up some salmon and threw it on the grill
and had a salad with it or something more healthy.
But we need to really think about what's going to
nourish our brain during these times when we're stressed, and
enjoy the avocados, enjoy some nuts and walnuts, particularly because
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they're high in omega threes, getting salmon in your diet,
getting getting that extra omega in to help combat what
your brain is going through and what your body is
going through, and looking at it not as a punishment.
You know, eating healthy is not a punishment. Number one.
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Eating healthy is it doesn't have to be a punishment.
Can be very enjoyable, it can be very simple. It
does not have to be complicated at all if you
keep it simple and keep it close to nature. And
that's and that he was a point, you know. After
my husband died, of course he did a lot of
the cooking.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
I mean we shared cooking, but he did a lot
of it, and he was very good at it, and
it was generally way healthier food, although he plated enough
for an army and expected me to eat it, and
that was why I gained so much weight. But the
reality was is after he died, there was one no
reason to cook because there was nobody there going to
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eat it, and my cooking didn't want to taste good
to me. So I would go out early on when
I was in Arkansas, I would go out and get something,
hopefully it was good, from Walmart. I would go and
get a chicken pieces or whatever from Walmart, and or
I would go out and eat and I tried to
eat grilled chicken is opposed to fried chicken. But that's
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all I craved for the longest time. Now I moved
here to South Carolina, and my diet was kind of
haphazard if it was at all, and then it was
cheese and that was probably the healthier one of the day.
With pringles and you know, those types of things. So
finally it was just so expensive for me to go
buy food because a lot of it would go bad.
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So I started getting I started ordering the meals prepped
for me from home chef and nice, I can cook
a healthy meal, it's already there, and I actually have
saved over I don't know, it's close to four hundred
dollars now in a month.
Speaker 3 (31:26):
Yeah, it's those meals I go on and off with.
Like I've done a couple of different meal kits where
they send you everything and you just prep it. It's
super easy to do. They have a lot of variety
where you can pick. You know, I was able to
pick the healthier meals and really cuts down on the waist,
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the prep and all of that. And I love that
you're doing the ones that they're already done for you
pretty much, you're just cooking them, right.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
And then I'm actually cooking them. And so you mentioned
hamburger earlier, hamburgers and French fries, Well, when they do
the French fries are in the oven and you use
olive oil and salt and pepper and you put them
in the oven and you do them like that. So
it's way healthier than deeprep ride and you can cook
them as long and get them as crispy as you want.
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And the hamburger, and to make the hamburger a healthier burger,
they put a cold slat on it as opposed to
just a leaf of lettuce. So now you've got something healthier,
and you can change that to be chicken if you want.
And so it's been, it's been. I've enjoyed cooking. Of course,
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I have a friend that'll come over and we'll eat together.
It gives me company, somebody to eat, somebody to cook for,
and so so that's been helpful for me to have
them come over and be a part of my life
for that moment in time at dinner time. So so
some of this stuff, you know, you were talking about
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all the omegas when when I was working and going
through because I actually had and was going through to
get my doctorate in natural doctor and so one of
the things that we talked early on in school was
like you talk about walnuts, they look like a brain.
And so they said things that you know look like brains,
leaves that have all of the veins in it, are
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like the veins in a brain. So they said, if
you look at nature, you can see that it's this
is going to be good for this, and this is
going to be good for.
Speaker 3 (33:30):
That Nature has provided for us. And what's happened over
the last seventy plus years through the food evolution is
we've taken what nature has given us and tried to
recreate it, to make it more appealing, to save money,
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to make it last longer, all of these reasons, to
make it more convenient. I remember back in the seventies
when women were you know, you can have the frying
pan and the bacon, you know, can fry it up
in the pan and still go to work and all
that good stuff. They started coming out with convenient foods,
and this is where we started to see this decline,
and it's gotten. The more we've leaned into processed foods,
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the worse our health has gotten in the United States.
I mean, that is just a fact. And when you
look at it, it's because what we are eating today
is not real food for the most part, as I
said earlier, if it's coming from a box with a
barcode that's not provided by nature, that was made in
a factory somewhere, that is food that has been so
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adulterated it your body does not recognize it as food. Yes,
you'll get calories from it. Yes you can gain weight
from it or lose weight from it. But it's not
nourishing your body. It's not giving yourselves what they need
to thrive. And if we want to live with vitality
and with energy and without illness, and we want to
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live a long, healthy life, we have to take a
look at all aspects of our health. Are we managing
our stress, Are we feeding our body properly? Are we
getting enough sleep? You know? But feeding our body is critical.
It's foundational, it really is. And nature gave it all
to us. We have everything in nature that we need.
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We don't need. We don't need factories making boxes of
cookies and chips and things that noodle bowls that you
just pour water on and eat. I mean, hello, how
many college kids survive on top ramen and that kind
of thing.
Speaker 2 (35:34):
It's like top robins the thing. So one of the
things that I wanted to touch, you know on is way
back we had bread, We ate white bread back then,
and there was never a gluten problem. Now I did
have an uncle way back he had Siliac's disease. And
for those of you who think you might have siliacs,
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celiacs can kill you. I mean you eat a little
bit of it and it can kill you. So ciliax
is not the same as gluten intolerance. So just that's
a huge thing I learned years and years ago. But
what happened, and we're talking about what you're saying, is
that they came in and changed everything. Well, our grains
that we made, our bread were they were created by God,
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they were created perfect, and we man decided that we
were going to pull the unnecessary part out of that
grain seed. Well, we took the part that helped us
digest the gluten out of that grain seed. That's why
we're seeing so much more gluten intolerance now than we've
ever seen before.
Speaker 3 (36:41):
Goes beyond that, Tina, it goes beyond that. Okay, we've
genetically modified the wheat to grow shorter. We spray it
with I can never say that word glycosseed. That that
stuff they're not supposed to spray, but they spray it
on there to dry the wheat out before they harvest it.
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The reason they modified it to make it shorter, and
the reason they spray it to dry it off, is
to make it faster and easier to harvest, and not
gum up the harvesting machines. They don't have to stop
during harvest to clean the machines. It makes it easier
and faster to harvest. This is not the wheat our
great grandparents grew up on. This is why we're seeing
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so much gluten intolerance and an increase in coeliac disease. Now,
Celiac disease is an autoimmune response. It's an autoimmune issue.
And if you are truly celiac, cross contamination alone can
make you very ill, and it makes you ill for
days or weeks at a time, and it can make
you it can kill you too. It is severe. Think
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of an anaphyletic reaction to something that's almost how bad
it is with somebody that has been glutened that is celiac.
Most of us here in America are gluten intolerant these days.
We don't process the gluten properly, we don't digest it properly.
And it's not gluten's fault. It's the modifications that we
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made to our grain supply. And we might that these
modifications were all made to save money, right, sell more
grain and yep yep.
Speaker 2 (38:27):
Or you know, if you believe in then the strange
whispers in the background to make a guy.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
You could go through the conspiracy theories and all of that,
and maybe some of it, you know, who knows. I'm
not going to shoot down people that have this conspiracy
theories because some of there could be some truth to
some of that. But what we do know is that
decisions are made based on business profits, not on people's health.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
Amen, And that's really bottom lined.
Speaker 3 (38:59):
It's up to us to take responsibility for our health
and to say, you know, enough is enough. I'm not
going to put that in my body. It doesn't I
stopped drinking soda and diet soda, especially fifteen years ago.
You I won't even I don't have no desire for
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it none. I know what it can do to my body.
I don't need it. It's yes, we have to start
saying no, there's athor is to it.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
So so as we're starting to come to a close here, Terry,
I know all of your contact information will be below,
but can you I mean, and we look at your
your your email is right he emails. How can people
other than your email right here. Where can they find
you to find out more about you?
Speaker 3 (39:54):
Thank you, Tina. You could go to blue Jeans Andandberries
dot com. That's my website. You can book time with me.
I give a free thirty minute consultation to anyone who
has questions or just wants to explore some options, or
just wants to chat about their health and wants to
know if they're on the right track or not. So
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you can reach out to me at like I said,
blue jeansandberrys dot com. You can email me Terry at
blue Jeans Andberries dot com. You could even text me.
I'm going to be so brave and give my text
number out. I don't you know what by hard? I
have to look at it because I got it written down.
Isn't that funny? It's five zero one two seven three
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one nine one three. So you can text me at
five zero one two seven three one nine one three,
reach out to me by email, visit my website. You
can put an appointment right on my website. Like I said,
thirty minute consult absolutely.
Speaker 2 (40:52):
Free, awesome and it's worth that. Terry's got a wealth
of knowledge.
Speaker 3 (40:58):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
I'm certified divorce coach meaning that I'm trained in the
complexities of divorce. I've also been through a very difficult
marriage my divorce, my father was almost murdered and my
late husband was pretty much so tortured in his marriage.
So not only do I understand divorce from the training aspect,
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I understand the stress and the complexities that go with
getting the divorce. So you can reach me through my
email at Coach Tina Lynn at gmail dot com. That's
co O a c h t I n A l
y n N at gmail dot com. You can also
reach me or check me out on my website at
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Divorcecoachspecialist dot com. My social media Facebook under Tina Lynn
Huggins that's h u gg i n S LinkedIn under
Tina Huggins Instagram, Divorce Coach Tina Lyn, TikTok Divorce Tina. So,
as we come to the end, Terry, can you please
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give some advice that can help our viewers.
Speaker 3 (42:08):
Yes, I'm gonna say, first off, don't overstress things, don't
overthink things, keep it simple, one step at a time.
You do not have to come in and overhaul your
health in one night or one day. It doesn't happen
that way. Focus on the easy fixes. First, focus on
making sure you're getting the rest, making sure you're getting
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some movement into your day, and then looking at your
other habits that you can start changing. But you don't
have to do it all at one time. It can
be done in small increments, build habits that will last
and sustain you, and you'll start to see changes in
your health over time. It doesn't have to be done overnight.
You didn't get where you are today overnight, So give
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yourself grace and allow yourself time and your body time
to heal and get to a healthier status. Give yourself time,
give yourself grace.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
And so in just supporting what she said, because I've
been through this, just most recent through my husband's death.
When it was time for me to start my pushups
and sit ups in my workout all over again, I
literally start with five five jumping chests, five push ups
by and then I worked up to the fifty and
I did that over a course of weeks. So that's one.
(43:27):
It was good for my brain to think, Okay, where
am I at? But I didn't, just like Terry says,
I didn't have to do it overnight, and it's been
a process over the last few weeks about a month
where not that I quit alcohol called turkey, because I'm
an alcoholic. Although I was concerned because alcohol is in
my family, I didn't need it, so it was something simple.
(43:52):
But I can tell you that coming off of that
and dealing with AA is sometimes it's not one day
at a time, it's moment at a time as you
start moving forward in this. So, just like Terry says,
be gentle, and I can tell you what you've seen
of Terry today is just a smidgeon of her intelligence
(44:14):
and her ability to work with you. She's just got
the heart of gold. And so I invite you to
please make contact with Terry and get yourself headed in
the right direction. So thank you very much Terry for
being with us today.
Speaker 3 (44:33):
Thank you Tina. It's been my pleasure. It's been a
wonderful conversation. And the time just has flown right by.
Speaker 2 (44:39):
Yes, it does. And so I always tell my viewers this,
many people, include myself, get to a point in our
divorce where suicide is a thought that we have and
we don't want you to go there. You need to
have the support that you need. I'm here and there's
other people if I'm not the right one. We'll find
you the right one. But if you are dealing with
(45:01):
suicidal thoughts, then please call the suicide Prevention Hotline at
nine to eight eight. In the Netherlands, it's one one three.
Get the support that you need so that you have
somebody that can talk you through this moment right here,
right now. If you are dealing with something that you need,
(45:21):
the police therefore right now here in the US called
nine to one one. In the UK it's nine nine nine.
In the Netherlands, it's one one two. Get the police
there at this point press charges on the other individual.
Do not drop those charges. This is your key out
of a domestic violence situation. Most cases you drop those charges.
(45:45):
What comes after the charges get dropped is oftentimes worse
than what happened before the charges were placed in This
is your key out. Don't drop the charges. So if
you are dealing with domestic violence or you know somebody,
the Domestic Violence Hotline is eight hundred seven ninety nine
seven two three three. That number again is eight hundred
(46:07):
seven ninety nine seventy two thirty three. I ask that
you please like, comment, and share this information so that
it can help others, and once again Terry, thank you
so much for being my guest here.
Speaker 3 (46:20):
Thank you, Tina, thank you for the invite.
Speaker 2 (46:22):
It was by pleasure great and we'll see you all later.
Speaker 1 (46:26):
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