Shazia and Tarun do a Podcast Episode 8

Shazia and Tarun discuss having a spiritual live vs being an atheist.

Episode Transcript

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If I figured it out. Ifigure it out, all right, We're
going live as you gaze a deanas we struggle to figure out. I
had the same problems. By theway, I didn't really I don't really
go live at all. Yeah,and I don't. I don't ever use
my phone. I always use mycomputer. Yeah, but you know,

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I think with the live thing,you can actually interact with people. Let's
talk to our fans right now it'sat zero. Oh well, because nobody
even knows about it, maybe weshould have told some people. Yeah,
it's okay, but it does itdoes notify my followers, so they might

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jump on. Okay, cool,I like the outsit. What what was
the audition for? Oh, Iwas a hairdresser. It was for like
a Wells Fargo slash Visa commercial.How do you feeling good? You're like,
were you happy with you guys?Yeah? Yeah, I mean you

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know, they let me do oneregular take in one comedic take, so
that's always fun. Weren't you ahairdresser like back in the day. I
wasn't, but I did work ahair salon once upon a Blue Moon or
what was the name of the salon? And Donna Neimon salon in Chino Hills,
California. I'm still friends with DonnaNemon. That sounds like a fancy

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name. Donna Nemon was like EamonMarcus or something, right, Yeah,
it was a fancy salon. Itwas probably one of the nicer salons back
in the nineties in Chino Hills.Yeah. I started cuting my own hair
over the pandemic. That's why it'salways short like this, I can tell.

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But I'm growing it back out though, so let's see what happens.
I'm the queen of like every fewyears just either chopping my hair completely off
or dying it like blonde for noparent reason. I've never seen you with
blonde hair, Yes, you haveyou And I even made that video with

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me with blonde hair where like youwere like can you hear me? Now?
Oh? Those I thought those werelike more like streaks in your hair
or something. I mean, Thorneis pretty blonde. I think you should
take a look at it again.Oh, I'll take a look at it.
One time, I had like thisnervous breakdowns. My mom flew to
La and she was like, shegoes, you know, let's have a

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makeover. It's like a teenage girl, and she like she like brought me
to like this fancy salon and gotme like this fancy remembride streaks. I'd
like Hannah in my hair or something. At one point in my thirties.
Nice, I don't remember, youalways had good hair. Yeah, well
I did. I think it's kindof sitting down, but whatever. So

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that was my that was my breakdownin the thirties. It's fine. Yeah,
mine was the blonde hair. Itwas my Jalo phase. I call
it Jalo phase. I was gonnatell you, are you in the are
you in the oscar stuff? Didyou ever get invited like the South Asian
oscar parties or anything? Yes,the parties, not the actual oscars.

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I'm gonna go cover the South AsianOscar party on Monday for Suba's India.
Like they're sending me right, Nice, I don't have to talk shit on
this because I have too many peoplelike but like, I have so much
hits through with. Some of thepeople who show up you probably piece together
like who I've hit through with,and I've got to go like interview them

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and stuff like hey, how areyou? And some people I publicly like
insulted, so oops, whoops,it's Hollywood, I know whatever, who
cares, right, Yeah, you'llbe fine, Be fine. I had
a doozy of a week, like, booked a job and then booked a

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huge job on top of it,trying to figure out if I do both
of them, and I just couldn'tmake the second one in LA work.
And I lost so much sleep overit because the job in La paid.
It was like winning the lottery andlosing your ticket kind of job. So

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I love money, but contractually Ihave to do the job I first signed
the contract to do. So thefirst job is a film SAG film deal
memo signed. I book a nationalcommercial for pharmaceutical with print added, and

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it's the same days, and Icouldn't make it work. Always take the
money. But I got I signedcontracts and they're both SAG jobs. So
I mean it's not you know,because Stuart was like, well, just
you know, tell the movie yougot COVID or something. I'm like,
that is lying. I can't morallydo that. Yeah, no, we've

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all been there. It's a lotof money, dude, you like,
you know, pharmaceutical commercial, that'sthe kind of stuff you really hope for.
So I lost a lot of sleepthis week and I've shed tears.
Oh this week. I thought thiswas like back in the day. No,
this just happened. You're the onlyperson I know who's like books more

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work in Texas, Like you weren'tway more than I do. I worked
at all of this year. Youhave like a hundred jobs so far.
I'm I am so grateful And Idon't mean to sound like a jerk and
I and complain, but that's partof my guilt. I was like,
people give anything to have these bookingsand I have to turn one down.

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It just it's sad. If anybodyhas any questions for Shasia, please jump
in because we were live and Idon't know if I can have the settings
on right of like how to seeall the messages, but I think we'll
see your questions and Shazia, we'llbe happy to talk to you. Can
you hear me? I think Ilost you. No, you're fine.

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Oh I clicked something, so Iwas like, maybe the questions are here.
Yeah, you know, I rememberone time in La I had this
job and you know how like youjust think you booked everything like you have
like a great audition and so likeI auditioned for like this like sitcom or
something, and I just crushed thefirst audition and they were like, oh,
you have a callback, and Idefinitely got this. I got this

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for sure. And then like andthen I had this is like the peak
of my modeling days. And thenI had like a direct booking for like
six hundred bucks or something, youknow, for like some job. And
I was like, I can't dothat. I can't do the job.
I got up. I got mysitcom of the book, and then I
go to the audience. So Isaid no to the money, and I

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went to the audition and it's likea thousand people have the call back.
No, it's where I got andI didn't get I was like, god,
damn it. There's a lesson likealways take the money, you know,
always funny if you can. Idon't think. I don't think I
could have. I couldn't have gottenout of that contract. Plus, like
longevity wise, this role in thismovie is like exactly where I want the

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direction I want my career to goas far as roles that I can play
and what I'm kind of transitioning into. And so I think for my real
and the longevity of acting, whichis what I love doing. The lesser
paying job of the two, andI mean it's substantially lesser for the long

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run, is the better choice.But yeah, I literally won the lottery
and lost the ticket this week.I'm sorry. Well, everybody, Porsche
Asia, she's got her two actingjobs that she can can't take well.
Not to mention, I have extremeflying anxiety, and so then I would
have been trying to hop on ared eye to try and make it to

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LA and oh I could have heartyou in La. You're gonna shoot in
La? Yeah? It was.Yeah, one was in Atlanta, one's
in Atlanta, the others in LA. So that's why I couldn't make I
was having trouble making them work togo to Atlanta. Sucks. That's where
a lot of stuff is filming thesedays. I know everything is there.

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Yeah. I used to work withthis guy, ty Reese, and I
was helping him with the digital stuff, and he lived in Atlanta and he
never ever like leaving Atlanta, likejust it was such a pan of the
ass getting him out of Atlanta becausethat's where his house was. It's like,
dude, like, you're making myjob so much tougher. But that's

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the market. I mean, everything'schanging. If you want to be a
yeah. For me, everything's eitherin Atlanta or Florida or La. I
mean I am on hold for afew jobs in Texas at the end of
the month. One's in Louisiana,which is really big. It's only three
our Louisiana. But Atlanta is likea eleven twelve hour drive. If you

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want to stop Shazia Atlanta, LosAngeles, Louisiana finder, Yeah, somewhere,
good luck. Do you any tripsto La coming up? Family?
Well? No, I mean Iwas going to be there this week,
but that's not happening. Perhaps I'llbe there this summer. We'll just see.

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I have to take it day byday, you know, between work
out here and my kids and thefamily. Everything's kind of last minute.
Do you like traveling? Honestly,No, I don't like flying. Remember,
I have fearing. I have flyinganxiety really bad, because I've been
on two really scary flights where likeluggage came flying out the overhead bins and
people were screaming and like praying outloud, and I was like, the

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nine to eleven flight, is thatthe Yeah, it was a quick flight
from La to Vegas and it wasso scary. And then I had another
one that was from New Mexico toDenver that scared the living daylights out of
me too and everyone else on theplane. And so I was okay.

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But now as I get older,I'm like And then I watched that movie
that the Obama's made about what isit about? When the grid goes down?
And I was like, I can'tfly anymore. Ever, the Obama's
made is that the one I watchedwith the Uh we've talked about the Obama's

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made that movie. But the gridgoes down, You've got to go to
the bay. Yeah, the Obama'smade that movie. They produced it.
I don't know about making it,but they produced it. Uh, that's
so weird that they'd make a movieof that topic. Totally scary. I
think it's frightening that they would makea movie on that topic. Like what

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do you know? What are youtelling us? Are you hinting at something?
Well? There was something asking aboutabout traveling thing because the appeal of
like I used to love staying inhotels is being away now, Like,
so I don't I don't want todo gigs sometimes and I'm like, I
don't want to stay, you know, an ex hotel, Like somebody offered
me with Changa Casino, which islike four hours only four hours away.

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But I was like, I gotto say in this second resort for four
days by myself that it is likeI'm very comfortable in my studio now,
my one bedroom here in Los Angeles. It's something nice about it. I
think, yeah, same, Idid I as I get older. I
mean I did a job in Miamiand it was a night shoot and I'm

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like, I'm not cut out tome, like going non stop and shooting
through the night and then waking up, having like a nine hour turnover and
then back to set and then shootingall night, and it was it was
really tough on me. We're inmy twenties. I was like, yeah,
I'm down for whatever. You know, I'll go anywhere. Now I'm

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like, no, that sounds notfun. Isn't that the sacrifice though?
You have to make? Like Iheard who said this. I think it
was Jackie Chan. He didn't seehis kid for like a like a whole
year. He was shooting like forlike NonStop. You gotta like he's on
the road all the time, likeshoot or he was anyways, and he
was like, yeah, it's likeI just never saw my kids ever in

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my life. Same with me.Nnamed Joe Koy, who's really big,
and I think he said like hewas rarely home for his kids' birthdays.
He was like, always on theroad doing comedy. I was like,
dude, what I won't make thatsacrifice. Why have kids? Why have
kids? I'm not going to missout on I already have so much guilt

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over leaving even the even while youknow, just once a month or whatever
whatever I do. I don't likeleaving my kids because I don't want to
miss a minute of it. Itgoes by so fast. But once my
kids are empty nesters and I'm goingto be like old lady acting for sure.

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Well, I think you'll end upback in Eliot at some point,
Shazia. I think you booked someserious and they'd be like you have to
come back, and Chas you willmake her return. We'll see to Los
Angeles. Well, it's a rainygood today. It's kind of cloudy.
I heard you guys are back inlike it's like a Seattle weather over there.

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Yeah, it is. It's interestingliving in this time work out here.
I don't want to trash too much, but it's no other days go
by. Yeah. Yeah, mysister is out in near Pasadena and she
was like, it's so gloomy today. I talked to her yesterday. I

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was like, man, the sun'sout in Texas. Are you guys close?
You're your sister? Yeah, Imean you know, we're uh eleven
years of an age difference between us, so she's more of like a maternal
figure than anything, like I'm yourpatriarchal father, yes exactly. No,

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I have a brother that's eleven yearsolder than me. So it's like I
had a second set of parents growingup because they were so much older.
Did they like discipline you too?No? Now, because like was it
because I know you grew up Muslim? So because I grew up in there

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was there are a lot of religiousstuff going on. Because I'm only asking
this because I'm mattress. Some Muslimcheck on like one of these dating apps,
and I'm always like, h maybethe religion thing will be a hindrance
if I start dating, or youknow, like it might be cool now.
The first a couple of days,I'm like, eventually she's like praying
to fucking the wall, and Iwas like, what are you doing.

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Their kids are depend on her familydynamics. Yeah, her dedication to her
religion and where she is on herspiritual journey. So, you know,
my parents were pretty religious for sure. There was a mosque that you know,

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they belonged to. I never reallylearned anything in the mosque. I
did go to Sunday School, butI didn't learn much about the religion because
it was so focused on just learningto speak Arabic because the Koran was written
in Arabic, and I don't speakArabic. I speak Urdu and Hindi,

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and so I was just on adifferent spiritual journey. And there's a lot
of mixing in my family, andit's from even my mom's generation. Like
my mom's brother is married to anAmerican woman. So my first cousins are
mixed race, and then I havemixed race cousins in the UK, and
so then their kids all ended upmarrying mixed, and so there's just my

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family has lost that and I thinktoo also in the culture, like they
don't like when you mix, soyou'll kind of get kicked out of like
the cultural groups, and so wewere kind of already you know, a
very blended Fuckislani family, So youwould be safe marrying into our family because

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nobody's really maybe your family, otherfamilies. So I know a lot of
my Muslim friends, like they dogo to mosque and stuff, like they
do take it pretty seriously. Soit's like, I don't mind me so
much. But like, say,I were to have kids, which again
I don't know if that's possible atthis one, but so I were to
have kids, like I got tobe accepting of them, you know,

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just renouncing Hinduism, which I don'treally practice even, but I'm like,
so I don't. I don't lovereligion in my life, especially my kids'
lives. You know, listen,when you grow, when you find a
partner and you grow with them,you guys might discover something new together that's
totally different. You know. WhenI met Stuart, he was atheist,
and I was kind of new age, like super new aging, not kind

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of. I wasn't new. Ihad tried Hinduism, I had tried Buddhism,
and then here we are and we'reChristian together, and it was just
where we decided to surrender and beon the journey together and just find our

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place. But I'm also very openminded and I do think like you have
to just find what works for you. I don't know that there's one right
answer. I don't know who knows. All I know amazing is should I
sleep with this Muslim check? That'sall I'm really asking. Well, you

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know, I got to take itto the next level. Yeah, I
don't think. I don't think she'sgoing to do that, would she.
I don't know. I mean that'snot carry her. In fact, like
one of my friends, uh,it's calm me for me. Too much
information and he's like he's like touringinto it, and he's like do Indian

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chicks put out? And like,uh no, no, yeah, but
I had been with girls who arelike freaked. Once they're you know,
it's like they have like sexual refreshedenergy. It's like Jesus Christ the here.
Hey, hey, hey, it'stelling you. It's true. This
is what happens. Wow. Yeah, I don't. I don't. I'm

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not on your end, but thisis like wait, wait, I'm not
like that anymore. I'm no choirboy. Oh okay, good good.
Yeah, I don't. I don'tthink the Muslim girl is gonna I think
you're gonna have to do some seriouscourting for Maybe I'll send her this video

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and she can judge for herself.That's a good idea. I think that's
a good idea. Do we haveany viewers on this? Like what?
It jumps and it goes back tohere, goes to sixteen, and then
it goes to two and then Idon't know if I have the setting on
right, we can see? Canwe can? We can't see who I

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can't see for sure? Let's see. If anybody has any questions, please
fire away and hopefully it'll pop upon the screen. I really don't know.
Maybe I'm doing this wrong, butI think I'm doing it right.
And a lot of times people justlike to observe, like voyeurism, you

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know, just yeah, they don'twant to ask. They're scared. They're
scared we're going to bring them live. I got be scared to Actually.
Do you ever watch people's live feeds? Yeah? I do. If it's
certain people that when I was onInstagram channels that I follow, like holistic

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health people. There's this lymphatic ladythat I follow that's always like tapping her
body in spots, and sometimes Ilike to just watch her, like get
her lymphatic system going, like righthere is like the two most important spots.
She's always like manipulating him. Isshe an influencer? Yeah? Interesting,

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Yeah, I got to follow morelymphatic influencers. I guess you're getting
to that age. No, Ihave lymphatic stuff. I always have.
This isn't like an I'm older andhave that. That's been since forever.
I think I wore I didn't wear. I were too tight of clothing for
too long in my life, andit blocks your limp, like if your

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bras too tight or your swim suitstoo tight, or if you go to
sleep and you have like tight clotheson, it keeps your limph from draining
at night. I don't even knowwhat lymph does. The lymph is the
plumbing of your body's the it carriesall the toxins out of the blood,
out of the organs. It's likeit sits right under your skin and it's

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like the fluid carrying all the badstuff out and away from the tissues and
the blood, and then you eventuallyeither sweat it out or you urinate,
or it's all the bodies waste product, and it gathers it through your whole
body. And then you have likelittle drainage channels, and then there's big
drainage channels, and then little drainage, and then big drainage and little drainage

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and big drainage. And if you'reblocking any of them with tight clothing or
somehow they're constricted, they don't drain. It's like a backup in the in
the drain. There you go.There's if I going to med school summarized
in twenty seconds. Just wear loosepajamas, don't want underword a bed.

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You know what I do? Iwear sweatpants and a T shirt and honest
last, sleep on my couch.Nowadays it's really nice. I have a
bed and I sleep my couch.While your couch is more comfortable. You
need a new bed. I don'tknow. I just love I just like
the coziness of the couch. Andyou know what I do. This is
so stupid. I don't know wherethis is going. But I'm watching Three

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Stooges every night before we go tobed. Here to watch three Stages Growing
up. Yeah, it's my dad, one of his favorite shows. It
is such a work of our likelike the way they play out the comedy
and so I'm doing that before Igo to bad because this makes me laugh.
So now I just fall asleep.It's like a routine. It's I'm

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sitting here watching Three Stooges on acouch and they go to bed. That's
that's nostalgic. That's what it's kindof said. What channel are you?
What streamer has Three Stooges or areyou watching it on your phone? I
watched on my computer. But youcan like go to YouTube and really find
anything. And that's the great thingabout YouTube. You can really find anything

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in the world on YouTube. Likeif you want to find like an old
Letterman clip from like nineteen eighty sixor something with somebody, it's probably on
YouTube. It's this amazing resource.Or you want to read about lymphatic notes,
you know you can find that too, like anything. Yeah, you
can find out on a live thatTarun and Shasia did, right, what

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do you think this name Shasi andthrow into a podcast? Is that too?
I was experimenting with names, bythe way. I was like,
we just called two brown people andlike play the diversity thing. But I
was like, I like Shassi andthrow into a podcast. I like it
too. I like whatever. Imean, whatever I have. I'm I'm
having fun. I don't have expectationsor like agenda. Well, i'd love

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to hear people's feedback if there areany suggestions, but nobody's commenting or sharing,
so I guess we'll just you know, we'll leave it as this.
Do you have anything fun coming upthis week? Well, I'm doing that
movie in Atlanta. Oh so soyou fly out for sure? Yeah?

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What day? Tuesday? Maybe we'lldo a podcast live stream from Atlanta.
Oh well, I'll still be thereover the weekend because I'll still be shooting,
so Tuesday through when through the followingTuesday. It's a long shoot.
Well, I'm not working every day, but cash my baby. That's great

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though. It's a fun, funrole and it's a cool little movie and
I'm really excited about it. Actually, So that's what you talked about last
time, right, mm hmm.Yeah, I'll be an Oregon, so
i'll call it from Oregon. Ohokay, yeah, you'll be Are you
working over the weekend? No,No, I'll be either I'm going to

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go to my friend's house in NorthCarolina, or I'll go to my other
like a co star that I workedon Descendants with down in South Carolina.
Yeah, we'll be zooming from ourhotel rooms. I guess. Yeah,
I won't have my fancy news reporterbackdrop. I feel like I should be

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in Atlanta. You should be inan Oregon. I feel like I feel
like that's your more. Your locationin Atlanta's more my location. Yeah,
that is funny. I could seethat. Have you worked in Atlanta before?
M No. I just went toa wedding there, that's it.
And I remember being sweltering hot.It's the South. Yeah, did you

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There used to be a conference ofIndian people called NETTIP Do you remember that.
Yeah, I've played for NeDi fora Dune stand up there. Okay,
I went to the first time Iwent to Atlanta was a NETTAP conference
and they had me speaking as anactor. I'm going to say like two
thousand and five ish, maybe twothousand and five, two thousand and six.

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Well, that was my first timein Atlanta. They flew you to
Atlanta to speak, Yeah, theypaid you, and they paid you too.
Huh. They paid you. Theydid not pay me, but they
paid for my hotel, my flight, and yeah, they covered like expenses
for me. So what was yourspeech about? It was about acting in

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Hollywood as an Indian and Pakistani person. That's so interesting because like back then
there's really nobody like doing acting andshit, and now it's like everybody oats.
Yeah, I gotta afford you.Like this list they sent me,
like the face list for this Oscarparty I got to cover, and like,

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I don't know half these Indians andthey're awn like shows. I'm like,
what the fuck are these people?You know? And I was like,
but I perponally asked for a listbecause I was like, I need
to like know who's at this partyso I can ask questions and stuff.
There's Indian people on every show.And my daughter just finished the first season
of Percy Jackson and you know it'shim and an Indian girl an Indian guy
as his sidekicks. So I waslike, oh, all these people.

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He's good and I think this washis first gig. He's good. Yeah,
very likable through the whole series.I want to be on that show
really bad. Percy Jackson. Whatis Percy Jackson. It's like a cartoon,
It's it's he's Poseidon's son. Soit's all the Greek gods and goddesses

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and their kids are now demi godsand they're fighting. Basically, there's a
tunnel to like the dark world underLos Angeles, and so these kids are
fighting evil and they you know,the gods are still the gods. And
so I want to like do acharacter on that show at some point,

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But they just finished the first season. I don't see it slated for a
second season, but it's such amega book series, such a big seller
that I think they will. Whatnetworkers are on. I know it's on
Disney streaming. It's a Disney production. It must be nice. I've ever

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had a recurring role on a show, but it's where like, you know,
you have a job lined up,a mana, you've had it.
I guess we're descendants, but Imean to have a show lined up,
But you're just like there every weekand there's a script delivered your door.
I mean, it's hard work.If you watch the making of like any
of these shows, these kids areworking non stop, you know, go

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on are the days of like,oh I'm gonna go sit in my trailer
in between? No, no,if they're paying, you're on set,
you're watching the dailies, You're watchingother actors work. You don't leave for
their scene. You're there for theirscene. You read your lines even though
it's not your turn on camera.It's a different work ethic. That's a

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lot of work. I was gonnaask you, did you follow anything but
on Bonnie wedding going on right now? Sun Geeth going on India? No
what, who I'm Bonnie? Likethese all right, we can clear it.
So these guys, I'm Bonnie Brothers. They run Reliance Media in India.
You got to google the shit andso the work like one hundred and
sixty one billion dollars. And theirson Annan got married and like it's like

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the wedding of weddings. So they'vegot like the Suneeth. So they got
like reality to perform for like eightmillion or something. And like David Copperfield
and like Mark Zuckerberg's there, BobEiger, Bill Gates. It's just like
crazy for like this Indian wedding,it's Suneeth. It's not in the wedding.
The wedding's in July. I thoughtmaybe you would have known about it.
No, I don't keep up withBollywood pop culture. I guess I

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have to. Yeah, you haveto. That's insane. I feel like
that's a real waste of money.But if you have one hundred sixty one
so the wedding is supposed to thisthing is supposed to cost one hundred and
twenty million, the sun geeth,But if you have one hundred sixty one
billion, I mean it's nothing.But I mean you could say that mightey
could be going with so many otherthings, like to help humanity. But

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it's their money. They can dowhatever they want with it. Yeah,
I'm not going to say too much. To me, that's such a waste.
I think having a big, fatwedding in general is a waste of
money. But that's just me.Well, we got some viewers. What
do you think i'd like to knowabout your wedding? Chasia? Well,

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can you talk about the Pascal wedding. Yeah, it was super simple.
It was in my friend's backyard inMalibu. We just had like one best
friend there each. I had likemy one of my childhood friends do my
hair and yeah, it was justlike super intimate, super small. I

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didn't want to go into debt inmy marriage from a wedding. How many
millions of dollars do you spend onyour wedding? Yeah, I'm going to
say like maybe a thousand bucks.Darren Carter, who I know, is

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like the only person commenting. Imustn't want to give them attention because I'll
just keep going, No, oh, look he's married twenty six years.
That's an accomplishment. Congratulations, areyou in LA? Married twenty six years?
Yeah, he's in LA? Wow, I said last night. Actually

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that's that's applause worthy. A marriagein LA twenty six years? Yeah,
well you're I mean, how longhave you been married? For? Fourteen
years? Oh? Yeah? Hisfriend kept on saying that girl's pretty hot
you do that thing with and Iwas like, yeah, she's married,

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dude, Thank you, though Iappreciate Yeah, I'm sure you get it
all the time. Yeah. Imean, there's something to be said about
having simple weddings, you know,versus going in debt for a wedding,
because I think Indians are the worst, the absolute worst, so much excess.

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It's like why, I mean,I enjoy going to them because I'm
like, let's see how much moneythese people spend. It's probably going to
be pretty good. It's do youthink it's it's an ego thing, or
do you think they really want tocelebrate, like it's a magical day and
we want to have as much happinessas possible or is it both. Yeah,

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I think it's a combination. Ithink there's pressure to show off and
then there's like wanting to have thisbe the most magical day of their lives
so that when they think about divorce, so like, oh no, we
spent like two hundred thousand on ourwedding, we can't. Yeah, I

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wouldn't mind a big wedding as longas like fight all the money in the
world to spend. But also,you know, I don't want to if
I'm marrying some girl who's like intothat ship, she's probably not the right
person for me because I'm son intothat stuff. I'm just like so lowkey,
Like we could have a wedding herein my nice apartment with coffee and

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and everybody from Zoom. Everybody's onZoom's like like no guest lest everything Scots
for everyone exactly Wisconti's Yeah, No, I'm low key too. I was
never one of these girls that wantedsome big, huge princess weddings. I
just wanted something small, intimate,special, and yeah, even my honeymoon

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was not extravagant. Where do yougo for your honeymoon? Scottsdale, Arizona?
Why or wasn't Scottsdale. It wasa resort that was really beautiful.
It's called Serenity or something like that. It's a beautiful resort. And Stuart
and I had been traveling a lotthe year we got married, and so

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we had been in Fiji and we'dbeen in Europe. So I was like,
I'm not getting on another airplane that'slike five hours. So we just
went on a quick little flight toScottsdale. I had a sweet little honeymoon
in the desert. I mean,gay, how many days was it?
I think we were there about aweek. Yeah, happen in Scottstale.

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Once I think, oh, doyou have a good time at the resort.
Oh, it's so beautiful there.Yeah, it's very relaxing, very
beautiful, and you know, wehad money to just spend on all the
spa treatments and food and you know, just lived our best life. I've

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never gotten on a honeymoon obviously,but like one time, for like Valentine's
Day, I was like, let'slet's go all out, let's get a
hotel or something. But then,like I did have any money at the
time, and like I realized,like all these hotels are like really expensive
on Valentine's dayespecially like they're super expensive. Oh yeah, for sure, any
Hallmark holiday. And uh, Idon't know why. I don't know how,

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but we ended up in the CommerceCasino, which was like ghetto Mexican
a balance commerce casino. It issuch a horrible Valentine's It's like, hello,
I'd be valentined. Damn you're gonnago gamble with Mexicans downstairs. It's

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for the seven ten meets the oneoh five, Right, Yeah, I
mean when you date thurn Jetty,you only date it. You get ready
for a life of luxury. Infact, this chick Darren's asking Commerce,
are you still together? Yes,we're still together. Obviously I've got his
train wreck of In fact this,uh, you should get married at the
Commerce Casino. I swear to God. So this girl, I've got all

(36:51):
these girls like sill of these datingapps, just like circling, and I
don't even like try to hide thefact that I'm just like it. I'm
sarcastic, and I'm like, she'slike, what do you want to do.
I'm like, like, we canget a coffee. Don't say I
don't treat you right, You're gonnarespond back to me. Darren said you
should have taken her to the bicycleclub. What's the bicycle club? I

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don't know if that is. That'sanother casino out like in Bell Gardens or
something. I think, m I'mnot a big gambler though, I don't
gamble at all. Too whiskey.Yeah, I could see you, though,
don't take this the wrong way becauseI know you're like I could see

(37:32):
you as like a cocktail model,like can like like the Wain or something
like making a sh ton of moneyand stuff. Yeah, yeah, I
could totally see you back in theday you were cleaned up shots. I've
never been a waitress, not thatI wouldn't have, but I just never

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had an opportunity to. I thinkyou would have cleaned up. It's not
too late. Sure, they makeit, like we talked about before.
I have friends who are killing it. Yeah, as waiters and waitresses,
even as hosts like the tips.I'm like, what, Yeah, because
you got a good personality you're goodlooking, you can connive men the giving

(38:21):
you money. I would I thinki'd make a good waiter. Honestly,
I think you would too, because, yeah, you do your job well,
you're on it, you listen,you speak well, you probably get
the order right. I filter mythoughts. I mean, I hate probably
hate them in the back of mymind, but I'd filter what i'd say
to them. That's probably smart,good idea. Thank you for being my

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friend. I know it's a lotto deal with. I know it's a
lot, and I know I irritatepeople. So I appreciate you sticking by
me all these years. Oh mygosh, you are and joy. Don't
think that I love you and yourfamily. Hold on, girls, is
that the pizza? I have togo to go and open the door.

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Yeah, go, Thanks Shazia forjoining us. Okay, I gotta get
the pizza. Girls have ten yearold dancer in the door. Thanks Darren
Carter for jumping in. Darren Carter, I'd tell me all right, I
gotta go. Thanks for joining us. Thanks Darren. I'll talk to you

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later and we'll see you next time. Take care,