March 29, 2024 • 48 mins
You may have seen him on The Real Housewives of New Jersey but did you know Louie A. Ruelas is the cofounder of Digital Media Solutions, a Florida-based digital marketing company and now the new social media app “Vinivia”.
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Guys, welcome to Behind the Scenes. I'm your host, Samma Helen
and we are only my co host, the Baddest parent Cage Bear Fjorda,
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and we are going to have himtrying a Chamoy pickle because I'll die.
Yeah. I kind of feeling ifthere's going to be a train, why
did it have to be in infrarectnet infrared. They're like a bright red
aspect cool lex. I need arag I got, It's like a murder
scene. This is it. It'swell, it's a pickle soaked in soaked
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in what kool aid? No way, Absolutely, it's the kool aid pickle.
We're gonna need a lot more towels. Well, look at my hands,
they're permanently died. God, thisis like cancer on a stick.
What else we got in this uhviral trend here? Then, Okay,
I'm not eating this because this islike summer goes to the hospital if we
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eat this. No, this lookslike it's a job for me. It's
a job for Snogogie bear. Removethe pickle from the cut the tip of
the pickle, lave that in there, leave it in here. Yeah,
otherwise it's gonna get everywhere. Okay, I need to cut up about a
half inch and then use a spoonto scoop out the inside of the pickle.
So I'm okay, I'm gonna trythis. Okay, you're gonna hand
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me individual things all you read this. So she's cutting that, uh some
of the spaghetti into the pickle,and I guess that's read that thing that
spaghetti. It's uh yeah, okay, So it's Lucas squinkles. Show them
salt, salt saghetti. It's thisthing. You guys want to see part
of it because the rest of screensgreen, all right, put it in.
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Oh my god, you're eating this. I don't want any of this.
This looks like the worst thing thatyou know what. I'm knocking it
a bunch and I haven't even triedit. Maybe this is the greatest thing
I got. Taste a couple.Next thing gave the planet, Next thing.
Next, we need to hang on. It's out of my view.
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Wrap the pickle up tightly with fruitby the foot or fruit roll up or
gushers. He is, oh,no, no, no, this is
part of the list. We're arrivingfollowing the list. This is like,
this is the color of my hands. This is how this is going,
you know. By the way,as I remember having majority of this as
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a kid, and as a kid, it was absolutely incredible. Not all
together though, and maybe I wouldlove it more if I was a kid
who's still obsessed with junk food.But as an adult obsessed with junk food,
I think this is absolutely discussing asan adult obsessed with junk food.
All right, next things, thephone it just went blank on me.
Sorry, we have to use allthe instructions off the phone. Pour the
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Chimoi Polvo over the top of thepickle, and add Lucas Gusano candy this
is candy liquid. No, thisis a candy liquid. That's the chemoy.
Okay that next, okay, sothis one, how do you open
this thing? Oh? All right, okay, peel anything, snap off
the tip that in another context soundsdangerous. All right, we're gonna put
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this okay, wow, okay,just put all of it in there.
Next made me cough? What washandy flavored liquid? How do you open
it? I'm very allergic to twist. This does not seem like it's working.
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Yeah, just twist it maybe,Oh, okay, okay. Then
next, Oh my god, it'slike thick syrup. There's still more yep
uh, sprinkle, sprinkle the chimourpickle with pika lemon and enjoy. This
doesn't say anything about hot cheetos ortalkies. Yeah, all this goes and
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open that up. Oh it wasin these spaghetti instructions. That's right,
open these uplex, I'll get themin. I got so we did this
out of order? What's this?I don't know what that is? Is
that the lemon chimoy? And ohno, I got this c milk please
because I don't get in here.Fact, I got this still more,
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honey, I got you Let's getsome Cheetos and talkies in there. Give
me a spaghetti, Give me anotherspaghetti. Okay, sat you so I
need more rags? Are producers standingout to the side. Give me us
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instructions on how to do this?All right, Let's get a gusha.
I'm gonna need more rags, allright, bab this is what this looks
like. Oh, open the pikalemon please? That goes right on top.
God? Why is the pinka lemonlooks stabbed it? Because? Okay,
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now this is what bears about toeat over the plate? Please bear.
Yeah, I'm going to bring theplate to me. Mm hmm.
If you actually like this, Ithink there's something wrong with you. Okay,
bye, people like this. It'sa whole thing. My hands are
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this color. Now you gotta dothat again, try again, try a
different bite that one. Come on, I'm done. Come on, I
wanted too much, limo. Comeon? Why are you spinning it up?
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Take away? He's not a fan. That is the most discussed in
the air. What is this?Does anyone know? What is it?
Usually? Why am I trying thisone? I know what it is?
Try it. It's a type ofcandy. Was it supposed to go in
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the pickle. You can probably doyou want me to put it in the
pickle? No? I want that? Hell okay, so Chamoy pickles are
a no go for him to takethat. Please throw everything out. That
was like, I don't know howto describe the flavor, just hot and
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why are you eating that you're soallergic to that? I thought it idea
it was hot asp just a dirtsessha. No, I don't want any
of it. I don't I wantit all to go away. Whoever listen.
I know trends are supposed to befor fun, and I know there's
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supposed to be like, well,it's a good time for Why is that?
That's not trent? That's an attemptat poisoning, that's going to kill
somebody. It's I'm sorry. Ifeel like, what's that squad that comes
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in from the police department they cleanup all the bloody messes. I feel
like you need one of those guysin here. I need I don't want
to shout out the company because they'reactually a brand. I need a maid
to come in here. I madea m what's that cleaning crew called whatever?
I need? As Matt swat herethere we go. I't's call one
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of them out. Huh yeah,I don't get rid of all of this.
Thank you. Shout out to Kitty. This was awful. Why did
you make us do it? Kitty? This was an absolutely wonderful idea.
I love you so much. Thankyou for suggesting this to the show and
having me try it. Everything iscoming in red. Everything is red.
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So we talked about nothing in theentertainment world. I guess that's part of
the entertainment world, isn't it trendingon TikTok? This is so bad.
I'm not going to be able toget this off my fingers. No,
you are now permanently read. Andhey, it cut your red handed?
Who who invented this chimoy pickle?I want to know whose idea this was
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and who we should kill, andI want to know if they got approved
by their therapist. Now I loveSorry for the pause, guys, we
actually had to stop to clean up. There was that much mess from this.
Oh yeah, it was everywhere ourentire table. Oh, I actually
have milk. You asked for milk. I should have said loudly. I
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hope to God it's it is.You know, everything in it is poison.
Yeah, it's I would not recommendthat for anyone. I would actually
recommend it for someone I didn't like. So you got a buddy who you're
really upset you recently, should havethem try the chimoy pickle. They will
have deserved it. No, there'sno part of that. We are very
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very good. I'm like, I'mlooking at Alexis. I'm like, do
you want to send me the show? We'll do the buyer for the gent
coming in And I do want todo a shout out for Aqua sol A
Bombshell Tans, Tiny Bubbles, KMextends and off Road Reynolds. So Aqua
Sola? Am I pronouncing that right? Yeah? Aqua Sola? I need
that beautiful hotel. And there's ahouse Springs, California, but wonever want's
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to go there and have a stay. We were at the Biltmore actually last
week. Oh yeah, we wereat the Fashion Week LA and where I
also walked, and it was theArthearts. I believe our fashion Week Hearts
Fashion Week Bombshell Tans in looking toCalifornia, Looking to California. I keep
saying, want they want to getyour red light therapy done? You want
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to get a good tang going on. You go check them out. I
just get red like that, andit's fantastic. Came extends. They do
all of my wigs, all ofmy hair extensions. So when you see
me looking fabulous on a red carpet, it's because of them and because of
tiny bubbles. They're the ones thatset those hair extensions and wigs. I
can't get the red off. Andof course I give a week because week
comes from off road rentals, andI have the one. I have the
challenge this son. You guys haveto turn right the chamoy pickle, post
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it and tag us at tune inBTS and the best reaction from eating that
will get the offer of rentals giveawayfree ATV rides. It's not worth it.
I think it's it's it's worth it. Try it. I'm red.
He just wants you to want tosuffer with him. Oh my god,
it's on my nose. The colorher fingers are as the color my intestines
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are right now our guts. Iactually ate it. I consumed it,
that went into my body. Iwant to invite Louis on the show.
Good day, Louis, how areyou good? How are you today?
How you doing? Very good?Very good. Thank you for having the
show, Thank you for joining us. We are covered. He tried the
chamoy pickle thing. That's it wasa mistake. Everything's red and stick.
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I see that, I see that. You guys are great. How's your
day going. It's been a daylong long artificial flavors? Nice, nice,
good stuff, beautiful. What's thebutton there? For? The button
here is probably just to show youor just you know, do it live.
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So it's about live stream, youknow. So it's ever out of
the office. So everything we tryto work with clients, which I work
clients and brands I'm doing, I'mcreating a live experience with their audiences around
social media. So that's that's likeone of we have the buttons ever in
the office. Sorry. And ourcolor theme for the company's pink. I
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love it. I love pink,so that's perfect. Yeah, while we're
on that topic, would you tellthe audience who you are and a little
bit about what you do. Myname is Louis Rellis. I've been a
serial entrepreneur probably since the age isnineteen years old. I'm forty nine currently
live in New Jersey. I havetwo sons, four step daughters, married
to a real housewife in New Jerseywho's on TV. So she we you
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know, we have a really beautiful, blended family. She's been on TV
for about fifteen years, and I'ma digital marketing guy for the last twenty
nine years something like that. Sodid you want like I love? That
means you got ahead of everyone elsewith the digital marketing. I thought I
did, but now everybody caught upto us, So that's it's become very
competitive. So it is it canbe pretty competitive. Did you know that
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either somebody you wanted to drop intoat the time, or did you kind
of fall into digital marketing? Youknow what? Bear, That's a really
good question because sometimes when we fallinto what we love to do, we
don't even know that it's happening,right, So it comes by accident.
So sometimes the things we really planfor don't work out the way we wanted
to. But for me, whathappened was, uh, I went to
I remember I was eighteen years old. I went to Europe and I came
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back and I wanted to to Iwent to here for the summer. I
wanted to make money, and therewas a building in my town and a
big building in like nineteen twenty storybuilding, and I went over and started
planning for jobs, and I sawthis one part of the building that had
all these beautiful cars there, andit was a marketing company. So when
I got a job there six bucksan hour, worked in the mailroom.
I started there at around eighteen yearsold, worked my way out till I
was like twenty, and then tooka risk, barred five thousand bucks and
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started a company that I took publicin the now stack back in twenty twenty.
After a long time. So I'vebeen had a long run in this
industry, about thirty years. Indigital, you know, we start off
with direct response marketing mail order,then move into digital marketing. You know,
been somewhat of a scaling expert forcompanies. Could come in there and
see companies that are stuck. Youknow, they get to a certain plateau
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and they want to basically scale theircompany. I come in. I help
companies scale their businesses. Okay,that makes sense. See would you how
would you say I have a company? I go to you and I'm thinking,
okay, how would I either givemore clients in or become more notable?
And of course don't give away toomany things. This is a paid
yes, let them give it away. But if you a basic idea of
what I should do, what wouldit be like? You know, one
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is identify your customer. Identify yourcustomer exactly who they are, find the
path of least resistance on how toget them, and create some sort of
stickiness between your product and the customer. So then I'll that'll keep them aligned
to your product. Then you know, go back and focus on your product
as number two, because you'll buildyour product first and then it's focus on
the customer that they go back toyour product to make sure it's going to
match the customer. And a lotof testing. Marketing is about testing.
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There's always you can't be afraid totest. It's always crawl walk test in
a sense, right, So youknow, especially with the digital media open
up, you could test so manydifferent vehicles online. You could test text
messaging, you could text geal fencing, you know, sponsored websites and stuff
like that. But if you havea company today, it's identify your product,
identify your customer, and test andfind the sweet spot. And when
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you find the sweet spot, tryto find a way to scale where you
can be. You know, youcan create maybe a three to one four
to one model where you're spending adollar to make three dollars make four.
And that's basically what I try todo. I like that because a lot
of times when you see people onlineposting video about how to grow your company
be successful, they never hardly ever, the answer is just, hey,
you got to. You got toput your stuff out there and kind of
figure it out. You got totest the waters and see this is stuff
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that people really are going to enjoy. And so this narrative of you can
become a multi millionaire or even inone of the generous cases, billionaire at
nineteen, and for most people it'sgoing to take years of dedication, harwork,
figuring it out to cut kind ofmeet your goals. Yeah, like
anything else, you know, you'vegot to you got to do the work
in your in your business. Yougotta investor yourself. You got to spend
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time to be really good at yourcraft. I had a problem like somewhat
reading when I was young, soI would always, even till today,
I have to read things twice.For some reason, I don't get it
the first time. As much asI try, I don't get it first
time. So I kept that processgoing where I read things twice. It
takes me a little longer than theother guy. I've gotten better at it
over my over the years. Butlike in the beginning, it was really
a struggle because I didn't I didn'thave a lot of schooling. You grew
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up in the Bronx in New YorkCity. I went to high school and
right around high school, I didn'tcome from a lot of income from money
or or you know, even evensecure foundation growing up as a kid.
So I had a pretty much hada you know, traumatic childhood in some
sense as you would call it.And then you know, around nineteen,
got a job in a company,learned my way and and uh, you
know, just you know, createdpretty much a good life for myself.
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But but you have to do work. There's always the cat. They say
that people with a more difficult childhood, it can lead you to one of
two directions. How were you ableto take that and push yourself in the
direction you went rather than the otherpath. It's a really good question.
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It's uh, you know, Igrew up two sisters and a brother sos
four of us in the household,so and I was the oldest son.
I wanted it really bad. Iwanted to kind of like control my destiny
and not be stuck as a kid. I was stuck as a kid a
little bit. You know. Myfather was an alcoholic. My mother was
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dealing with that, and she wasyou know, so I had grew up
with abandonment issues, you know,in some sense as a kid. You
know, like and you know lateron when with a lot of help and
therapy and all that stuff went toalan on as a teenage kid, went
on for to do a lot oftherapy as a young adult to kind of
connect all those dots and understand thosepain points and you know, look back
and you know, I guess thebiggest part of growth in my life in
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my mid twenties was about with work. At least, was was forgive my
parents, you know, realize andthat they didn't They didn't have a playbook
either, you know, And it'syou know, you can't really fault you
know, your parents or people thatare raising you for everything it's going on
in your life, because a lotof people grow up and they blame everything
on their parents. You know,I got to a place I stop blaming
my parents started realizing that, like, you know, having more understanding for
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where their upbringing was and what theywhat they learned, you know, and
actually it pivoted my life with myparents and we've had a great life together
after you know, you know,realizing all those things. But it was
just a drive to not be stuck. They's still feel stuck as a kid,
and I wanted options. How's thatinformed your own parenting? I'm a
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pretty good parent, you know.My kids, my kids are are are
a good example of that because theywant to be with me at their age.
You know, I've got I havefour step daughters, two sons,
a great ages ranging from let's sayfourteen to twenty three. But when they
want to hang out with you,and they want to go out with you
without you even asking, that's anexample of, in my opinion, of
being a great parent and a greatleader because it comes naturally. You see
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a lot of kids to say,no, Mom, drop me off over
here, or you know, youknow, I don't, you know,
they don't really look to hang outtheir parents. My kids they're like,
can we go to Mikonos and partywith you this summer? And like absolutely,
you know, so we we havethat, but we because we it's
you know, there's two sides ofthe pendulum. You got to show up,
you got to be present, Youhave to listen. I think maybe
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even raising kids, from my experience, was like listening more and talking less
so that kids could feel like you'reyou're actually they're being heard. Very important.
I wasn't heard as a kid,so my biggest peep pep piece being
a parent was being present, lettingthem be heard, and showing up.
How do you feel about the there'stwo schools of thought, parents that believe
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children deserve no privacy whatsoever, andparents that believe children should not be disciplined
or correct at all. Both ofthose are kind of millennial constructs. Interesting,
you know, I don't think Iever really disciplined my kids physically in
that sense, because my you know, back in the day was okay,
if my dad takes a belt whipme in the ass. That was very
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normal back in the you know,late seventies, early eighties, where no
one would frown on that. Buttoday it's more it's more of a connection
to connection, you know, II, uh, I've done a lot
of work as a man to uh, I don't know just like, you
know, just just figure myself outand understanding what I missed as a kid.
And today I'm you know, I'mjust I'm present my kids. We
have the relationship where I deliver dailydepositive love and acknowledgments on a daily basis,
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whether I'm on the road or home. But it's just a connection,
you know, It's it's you know, and and that connection probably prevents me
from like you know, raising myvoice real loud or getting very aggressive with
the child even if they do somethingwrong. And in fact, I just
experienced in the last couple of weeksin one of my kids, and it
was a challenging moment, but butI knew that the only way to really
to get through was like I toI and through through like truth, you
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know, because anger is going tobring an emotion out that probably just momentary
in the moment. But the truthis that I love you and I'm here
for you and I'm present for you. So let's talk about what happens so
we both can understand why something happenedand then we can both get over the
hill with it. And when youare able to deal with your kids,
you're you're the bond only grows stronger. You know, I work with my
son who's twenty years old, andI you know, I lead a lot
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of my kids and what they're doingfrom from behind the scenes a little bit,
you know, giving them the powerto be upfront, but knowing that
I'm only a short distance behind them. And I guess that's that's how it
is. Yeah, No, that'sthat's really good. It's good because you
want kids to be able to kindof go out and explore and make a
name from make have their experiences.But they need something to fall back on
when they need information, when theyneed help, when they need some kind
of reassurance that helps them grow.Hey, that wants them to fail forward,
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you know, and say so,this is a question that people often
ask, how do you find stabilityin a blended family because a lot of
you know, that can be reallydifficult for people. Stability a blended family,
in my opinion, is having asolid relationship with your wife. Let's
say, you know, so thetwo the leaders, let's say, are
really tight and understanding that, like, we're going to do this together.
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And then when it comes to thekids, is that you also show the
kids that we're doing this together.So there's no triangulation. So for example,
like in my life right my wifeis Teresa and as myself. And
let's say if we have an issuein the house, and you know,
let's say if my son goes toTeresa, he's etching me out or vice
versa. So this triangulation. Butif we're a team, we approach things
as a team, you know,then they get they get they absorbed that
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habit of knowing that like anything everhappens, they're going to get the two
of us, not just one ofus. So it avoids that because that's
what you know, you know,you know, Dad, can I talk
to you alone? Why would youwant to talk to me alone if we're
both here, you know, ifwe're all here running this household. And
so that that that did, thatdid happen in the beginning, you know
a little bit, because it's morelike, you know, take me into
my zone and you take me toyour zone. As far as parents,
but we decided to do things together, and the kids eventually, very quickly
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actually really appreciated that because on bothsides, when you're in divorced families,
you saw teamwork come together. Andand you're from a divorced family. You
don't normally see that. Like myI raised my you know, as a
full time dad for maybe six yearswhere I met my wife, and you
know, they saw me struggle asa single guy and having a nanny and
working sixty hours a week and tryto manage everything. It was hard and
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difficult. And when it came timeto have a partner, you know,
the best way to lead by exampleis even in the toughest times, is
by showing up together, showing upwith love, leading with love, and
because you could be you can bea ruthless parent just for lack of better
word, but still leave with love. And and what you're doing is you're
letting him know, like, look, this is another side to all this.
You know, this is really niceright now, but like you know,
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you don't want to see that guythere, Like this is this is
the way we can be here andand you know that's that's kind of why,
you know, we've had a reallybeautiful, blended family. It's we've
had our challenges, but but withthose processes in place, it's if we've
avoided you know, hitting brick walls. You know, yeah, this is
I want to say, this isvery interesting we UH brought you and because
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you have a couple of really coolprojects you working on, including an app
that I like to ask you alittle bit about, too sure, but
this is somewhat become a bit oflike a parenting course and a and a
man kind of course as being astrong male influence. Do you talk about
that's online at all? Do youpost videos discussing these things? Yeah,
you know, I I've run,I've spent. I'm forty nine, probably
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I'm thirty five, thirty six.I woke up just be quite frankly,
you woke up and like, like, you know what, I'm tired of
these feelings that happen that you can'tanswer for or or you know, anything
that could happen. You know thatyou just could. Maybe there's more work
to do to kind of do thework, especially when you do the work
and work to make money. Yougot to do the work and the work
in yourself. And because I really, you know, wanted to you know,
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I really want, you know,single for ten years, I wanted
to have a great marriage. Andwhen I met that right right person,
I wanted to it to be reallytruly right. So you know, I
was able to uh it was justa lot of work, you know,
as a as a guy, youknow, just just you know, knowing
how to get my own way.Stop making excuses, no lying, because
a lot men lie all the time. You know, we don't. We
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live in quiet desperation, won't reallytalk about what we're feeling. I learned
to break that through. And Ihave four step daughders that I'm so bonded
with because I'm vulnerable and it allows, you know, it allows them to
be like holy shit, and youknow, I'm going to be vulnerable with
you too, and it really we'reable to have that, so you know,
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it's actually my first priority. Iwake up every day at four forty
five five four forty five five fifteenevery morning. I meditate every day.
I journal, I issue daily whatthey call daily positive love to my each
one of my family, whether it'sthrough text or through post it notes in
their walls or anything like that.And I exercise. I train, I
get myself myself ready first, andthen I'm weaponized by eight in the morning
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every day and I go out andattack the day. And I've been a
very successful entrepreneur, probably in thelast twelve years, very heavy with with
that practice in place, you know, you get that communication thing right on
the head. Yeah. I strugglewith that too, being able to communicate
and be able to speak things throughcompletely. So it's really really nice to
hear that from someone who had thatexperience and work through it. Thank you,
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Thank you. How now, thisis a strange one. You are
very successful in your own right.You married a very famous woman. How
is that for a lot of men, they would not be able to do
that, That would affect their senseof self. That was one of the
conversations people were having online actually aboutyou before before the show, is how
do you do that? How doyou handle being married to somebody that's that
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well known? You know, it'sa good question. But one is my
wife is a very humble person,right, So what you see on TV
and know what's you know, allthose shiny lights is it's just a fraction
of our life. Right So mywife, in ninety five percent of ninety
nine percent of my life is aregular human being, you know, overly
(26:55):
loving human being, warm, capassionateand understanding persons. So that's one part
right there. The other part isthat you know, as a guy,
you know, you know there's ultraconfidence where there's it becomes egotistical, and
there's humble confidence in my own words. So I'm kind of humbly confident.
I know what I'm I know whatI'm about. I know that I do
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bring value to my relationships. Idon't feel like I have less. I'm
less then because my wife is acelebrity, we're pretty equal in our own
fields of respective how we value oursuccess in our own fields. So when
we come back, we're just regularpeople. We got regular people. We've
got six kids, four dogs,We live in a twelve thousand square foot
house and six acres. I've workedmy tail. I was nineteen years old,
(27:37):
so is my wife. We actually, you know, like like literally
value time together. You know.I came out to California yesterday for trip
for work. Just to give mea little side note thing, I was
here for fifteen days before three daysago. Is here fifteen days. I'm
here for another ten days. That'stwenty five days with my family. My
wife and I are like this andsink because our love, our goals in
(27:57):
life are you know, are verymuch more important our kids, like you
know, so you know I wastedtime at all the little shit when I
was young, you know, onstupid things, on conversations and stupid feelings.
You know, today, I'm gratefuland I live in gratitude that I
have a good woman that I canraise kids with, and knowing that,
(28:17):
like, you know, we talkedabout this all the time. May we
got another five years where all thekids are in college, and then it's
our time, you know, sowe're still we'd still treat ourselves as young
people. We take care of ourselveswell so we can have a good future
together. But I never never,you know, even the beginning when I
was dating Teresa, it was didn'treally affect me. I'm a very private
guy. What did affect me isthe public is very negative and hateful and
(28:41):
very opinionated. But that's my opinionof that, is that because they're on
the sidelines looking at people like usliving in a hurd. So we're in
this hurd, we're moving things around, you know. I've you know,
I started my last business with aroller quarters and almost you know, departed
with a billion dollar valuation from nothing, you know, so like, but
I'm here and focused. There's alot of people looking in just you know,
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you know, and having an opinionlike everybody has an asshole and they're
entitled to that, and I'm entitledto enjoy my life and let people sit
back and enjoy it. You know. So I was going to ask you
how you deal with the negativity online, but I think you just answered that
pretty much. Yeah, people thinkit bothers me or even you guys.
Right, you guys probably get youknow, scrutinized for things. You may
say this, that and the other, but you know it's it's you know,
(29:26):
you know, the opinion is worththe you know, the voice that
that's coming in on. You know, I get more than scrutiny. I
get dick pics. Yeah, metoo, man, me too. I'm
very loved by the gays because mywife's you know, you know, and
I you know, it's like,yeah, it's all. I get a
lot of that too, you know. But like it's been it's uh,
it's uh, you know, it'sit's it's We've had a good life,
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which is great because we keep it. We keep it authentic, you know.
Absolutely. Now, speaking of authenticityand all having a good life and
businesses for that matter, you arecoming out with an app and I want
to know if you can tell usa little bit about that. Absolutely.
It's it's called vanivia v I niv I A and basically what that is.
Uh, you know, we arecoming very very hard for the live
(30:11):
streaming platform space. Okay, inthe last stream currently in lavet streaming platform
space, you have Rumble, Twitch, Kick, you know whatnot and they're
gamified. They're gamified live stream platformswhere they're all pretty much gamers right in
our sense. You know, peoplelove to see what's in the here and
now, you know, what's goingon right now, you know, like
everybody, and everybody likes it.But also the other side of the world
loves perfection, so everybody really takesvideos, perfects the videos and everything gets
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out there. And that's basically youknow how a lot of these platforms have
been running around. Our platform isbuilt by creators for creators. So we
support the creator and influencer community inshowing their crafts and everything they're good at
and connecting say, audiences, audiences. I'm sorry brands and advertisers here with
the influencers. Here, we connectthe audience system. Hello, all right,
(31:00):
we're back then. Please don't haveyour sound I can't hear you.
Yeah, we can't hear you atall your mute you're muted, he's muted.
I wonder if you're muted still nothing? Huh what the connection? Uh
(31:37):
no, unfortunately not maybe try uhback on all right, Well that sucks
to hear that. Even our engineersrefreshed. So okay, let's see maybe
that'll help back. That was interesting. So he's creating a social media app.
Yeah, and you know what youand your TikTok and say. With
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TikTok potentially leaving it, someone's gotto take, you know, the new
mantle. Who's going to be ontop? Right? Do you think TikTok
will? Actually? I think what'sgonna happen is they're going to get all
the way to the vote. Theythink it's gonna get to the Senate and
maybe you'll get a few yeses,you'll get people who are really dedicated to
the cause. But there's so muchhate and backlash that these guys want to
get re elected by the new generation. I don't think it's going to go
(32:21):
through. I do Congress passed.I don't know if the Senate's going to
pass, but I think you knowwhat, regardless, they're putishing for it
to happen. So hard and sooften that it's gonna happen. It doesn't
do now, it's going to dolater, no matter what. Yes,
we got we got you borry.Sorry, I don't know what happened.
Well, good, all good,all good. You guys were in that
(32:42):
momentary break we were talking about theTikTok potential band and how often they're trying
to kick that platform out of theAmerican Service. Serious issue, serious issue
here in the States. Here here'sa long short because it's like it's pulsed
in my wheelhouse. But you haveif you're TikTok, you have two point
five billion users outside the United States. If you're you look at the say
you have one hundred and fifty millionuser United States. Why would they want
to worry with all this? Becausethe world today is not based on the
(33:05):
United States. It's not that's powerfulanymore. So I I my opinion,
they're gonna walk unless somebody comes pacetrillion dollars by June the walk. Can
damn you cut out again? Yeah, I'm sorry, man, it was
uh lost year again audio maybe refreshed. No, you might have to rege
(33:30):
that shoot because I want to hearand I want to hear. What's it's
more about this than we do.I felt we were about to go into
like a superhero kind of like hison his phone and this will happen every
time he gets a notification. Oh, we can tell, we can ask
that that's going on there. Yeah, that's what's going on. Okay,
So it's getting notifications and it's gonnasend them up. It has to do
(33:53):
with being on your phone. Whenyou get a notification, it pushes it
back. Yeah, I've got myphonees off the hook. I'm sorry,
but yeah, the TikTok band issomething that's actually serious that probably looking down
two different pipes. Do we do? We just focus on our two point
five billion users worldwide. Hey brother, we lost again. Yeah I don't.
(34:20):
I don't know. M M damn. We have an answer. He
gets right to the point and thenhe's gonna tell me to disconnect his headphones.
Okay, so hopefully saw that tobecause we're in the chat together and
don't see if that makes a difference. That's so unfortunately. I feel like
he's got gold right there, likerainbow to get to it, because it's
(34:43):
everyone everybody has to say, especiallywith you being a TikTok Right, Well,
that's that's kind of my that's that'smyself. We're here. Sorry,
So so it's you know, thethe situation is going on with TikTok Is
is something that's gonna it's a realproblem. It's a real problem. You
know, they just gonna they'll lookat that two different pipes. Do I
(35:05):
work with our two point five billionyou? No way? Can you disconnect
your headphones? Can you disconnect yourheadphones? Maybe maybe that'll work. Our
sound engineer said, disconnect the headphones. Can you disconnect the headphones? Disconnect
(35:27):
the headphones. Yeah, we'll trythat. Tell him to take the headphones
off. Oh no, this hasturned into what's going on? It wasn't
happening in the first like twenty minutes. I know, it just randomly start
kicking in. I don't know what. Maybe someone's really trying to get to
him, like think you're calling himor something, but he's not. It's
his hands are in front of us, so I know, it's not like
(35:47):
it's not like he's swiping away onanything. So I don't think Athian's coming
up. If someone's really trying toget a hold of him, that's all
that I can imagine is that's happening. I'm hoping the headphones thing maybe makes
a difference. But I spoke inthe meantime, we can kind of go
back on that same topic of whetheror not we think it's it's started having
on the topic. Oh no,conspiracy, very good. It's a conspiracy.
(36:10):
Every time we try and talk aboutit, it just can I took
the airprits off. Maybe that's whatit was. But thank you for your
patient. I'm so sorry about that. I could get it coming to see
you guys. You know I'm inLa. So yeah, I think it's
a conspiracy by TikTok. Every timeyou guys talk about it, it probably
but uh, you know, soit's a it's a it's a it's a
(36:31):
real situation, the TikTok situation.It probably it's gonna be interesting to see
how that develops. But the waycycles go is, you know, the
industries and societies, it's it's openedup a really good place for us because
a lot of you know, whenyou're on Instagram right now, live is
not their their forte. Let's say, right, so you go live and
when I waved my hand at yousee twenty seconds later. Our technologies are
(36:52):
platforms. All the voids we filled, we built a platform built by creators
for creators. So all these instanceswere and would want the perfection. So
when I wave that you you seeit. When I say nice shirt,
you could respond and I don't haveto abandon the page. So if you
go live on Instagram, you'll losethirty four percent of your traffic because people
don't hear you right lately for latency. You know, like we don't own
you the content. Our platform allowsall the creators and differences to own their
(37:15):
own content one hundred percent. Youknow. Yeah, we're the best thing
that's going to be out there reallysoon. So very excited to say,
I would love to have you guyson our platform where we can drive audience
view for free. That's what wedo. We don't charge you for that,
so we don't charge people like yourself. You guys are amazing podcast assos.
You have great audiences when you comeinto If I brought you out our
(37:36):
platform, wouldn't cast you anything.You could stream that right into our platform.
And you know, my job todrive users and we help create revenue
by monetize the revenue. So I'lltell how to check it out. Yeah,
thank you, thank you, thankyou, thank you. Interested.
I think you asked the real question, would you are you guys kind of
in the neighborhood or market try andtake the mantle if TikTok doesn't having no,
(38:00):
you know, we're trying to takethe mantle and be the prime leader
in the live space, live environment. So when you're going live, you're
working with Vinavia. Yeah, thatmakes sense. That's basically what it is.
Twitch is having a lot of trouble. They just put through something like
if you focus on a body part, it's coming through on like Friday.
If you focus on a body partfor too long a boots constantly are changing
(38:21):
their rules and it always causes anissue, you know, because it's mainly
I mean, they're good for gamers. It's a game fight situation. But
if your mom at homeie want alive streams you are, the family members
could watch you and see you,and you can interact and you could,
you know, have polling within yourfamily or within what's going on. Fashion,
we have augmented reality, which meansthat like I wear a shirt like
this, it's been around and youcan see the shirt change colors, change
sizes, become a v neck andyou could purchase their road one click.
(38:44):
That's patent and technologies. That's truly. Yeah. So we're we're we're we're
gonna be you know, we're gonnabe big. We're gonna be big.
Love to we have an event onnext week on April fourth. We'll love
to have both of you there.I believe we're coming. We're bringing a
few up friends of our, friendsof his as well. Awesome, can't
wait. Thank you so much.Trying to get Nadas there, das maybe
(39:07):
there, so maybe a guy,you know, I think Dan Henderson.
We invited him. He's coming,Joe, Daddy's coming like a bunch of
what a bunch of cage fighters,ironic my coach fight. But I don't
think I met him personally. OneJoe one like eight fights throwing a punch.
(39:27):
Yeah, he's quite an impressive competitor. At least he what he's now
a coach on. No, no, no, he's going to be a
fight. That's awesome. That's awesome. We can stream it on the platform.
We should do that. Let's see. We're coming somewhat towards the end
of the shadow. But there's anythingyou kind of want to tell that to
let him know about this moment.It's about you, your business, whatever
it is. Please, this isyour time. You know what'd be amazing
(39:50):
for people to come check out Vividiot, come see what we're doing. Uh,
it's probably a home for where alot of people end up bringing their
live environment, content or creators andinfluences from my anetizing their traffic. It's
the best home for that. That'swhat I would love for people to do.
To be honest to you and justkeep leading in this world with love
and be understanding with everybody around you, because you never know how someone else
(40:13):
is doing, you know. Iagain, I go back to my child
that I grew up as a kid, and when I got older, I
really understood the fact that, like, you don't know what somebody's going through,
so we try to be there,you know. So I really,
I really would say that that's somethingto you know, just just pay it
forward, you know forward great adviceand a terrible movie for your emotions.
What movie is that you never see? Pay it forward? It's terribly depressing
(40:37):
about basically doing nice things and thehopes that people continued. I mean,
yeah, yeah, good comes backto you a lot of good does come
back? YE would not recommend that? Is it like seven Pounds? Like
that Will Smith movie where he likegives up all his organs and dies.
Does the main character as a boygets stabbed? I don't know. I
(40:57):
didn't watch either of those. Myfavorite movie is Talentated Nights like I Am
Not the Person. That's a funnymovie. That's a really funny movie.
Yeah. I like comedies and Imake reality TV bad reality TV. I
love. I love to come backin your podcast, maybe in a couple
of months, so I could talkabout we have our launch next week,
(41:20):
and I could talk to you aboutour success because you know, as an
entrepreneur, as like an entrepreneur,you you we have visions right that people
can't see. And when I wasa kid who started my business, my
mother would say, like, you'recrazy. I'm like, mom, it's
going to happen, you know.So I built a lot very confident vision
and things. I put myself behind, and I'm praying and put myself out
(41:42):
there that I can come back toyou guys and talk about maybe a ninety
eight trail success, what will happenafter next week? Because you know these
are things we've been manifesting for along time and trying to put into the
producer and i'd to grab you onagain. I was in a few weeks.
I really like to see you.This is gonna sound odd. There
are so many guys like Andrew Tateand there's totally awful douchebags in the world.
(42:07):
There are men like you kind ofbring out this positive vibe and I
think that is great. Thank you, thank you very much. I appreciate
that. Men. There aren't alot of guys for young men to look
up to like that, right,very true. There's a guy down in
Miami who I really admire very well. I've worked with them, Justin Wiler,
Justin Wareley down to Miami. Hesay, leads a lot of men
(42:29):
down there, a lot of youngmen. But you know, Bear and
I shared some personal stories, alittle bit about some childhoods and what gravitated
you to go to fighting, andthere's things where I got to you know.
But you know, we don't growup as perfect men. It's easy
to talk about it today at fortynine years old, of the men we
are today, but we had togo through a path in order to become
this man. It takes a lotof you know, bare knuckle and honesty
(42:52):
and transparency within yourself to be ableto, you know, respect the man
you've seen in the mirror. Youknow, so a lot of times,
a lot of guys don't care andstare at themselves for sixty seconds. They
live in they live in quiet desperation. They don't talk, you know.
I many guys kill themselves today.I mean, I don't remember the USC
fighter maybody a year ago, youand a half ago. Irish guy went
up and he says, talk somebody. I think it's Frank just killed himself.
(43:14):
And he's like, I missed himas an English English box or whatever.
And he's like because he didn't talk, you know. And that's something
with men today. Instead of beingso manly and you don't have to be
still feminine, but you could bein the middle to you know, have
both qualities. Just be able totalk. You're gonna be able to get
along with your kids, better,get better marriages. It's the truth,
you know. I think Strong saysthe same, being he's the last expective
(43:34):
to talk about it. Well.I think something that that people need to
do is stop equating a lack ofcommunication with masculinity. Yeah, that's true,
and I know that unmanly men doconverse. You know. It's when
you look at Mantalot, you lookat Joe Judy, Joe Stephenson, very
very masculine man, very communicative.He trains little children on how to fight.
(43:57):
He's the coach for the US Olympicteam. I think a good thing
too, is that it takes strengthto communicate easy sometimes to just kind of
keep within yourself. So if it'sa matter of that, you think talking
about feelings and what's going on withis a weakness, think of how much
how is he easy to decide notdeal with? It's how much strength it
would take to actually talk to somebody. Yeah, bear, you probably heard
(44:19):
this so many times where like peoplethrow this term around, like, you
know, be a real man,right, be a real I'm a real
man. Like what's a real man? You know? What's the definite of
real man? In my opinion,definitely real man is a soft man but
also a hard man. If youif you know, you know, if
you know, you know, ifyou're you know a bear, you're a
fighter, right you like like youknow, mean you kick the ship out
of me? Man. But like, but you're probably a very soft,
(44:40):
understanding, compassionate man at the sametime donating your time to help kids that
don't have wherewithal to learn what youknow. And and that's that's a that's
a you know, hard and softman. That blend is dangerous because you
can you can show up for anything, you know, And I walk down
the street with my wife sometimes andyou know, and people only knew that,
(45:01):
Like, you know, I couldturn it, you know, but
I'm I'm I lead life very softly, lovingly. I lead with no judgment
because judgment is the worst character traityou could carry lifetime, I think,
you know, because you never knowwhat somebody else is going through, right,
So that's just the way it is. I love talking to you guys.
We'd love to keep talking and youknow, do this again, it'd
be really, really great. Wewill bring my wife. I'll bring my
(45:23):
wife, fye next time, I'llbring you. I would actually like if
I talk to the two of you. I'd really like to talk to you
kind of about how you guys operatemarriage wise. You're an entrepreneur, she's
a celebrity, and that's not somethingthat people hear a lot is kind of
what it's like to to kind ofto hold a marriage together like that.
(45:45):
Yes, as January first, Ispent probably forty days away from my wife.
But you have to make time inmarriages for your for your relationships,
even if it's a you know,Tevin and FaceTime in the middle of night.
You know, my wife just gotfinished doing a TV show called House
of Villains. She was done thatfor I think twenty days, but she's
like, she leaves the house,she's like, oh, I'm gonna probably
get kicked off in three four days, three weeks later, you know,
(46:05):
twenties one days later, she's stillthere. I'm like, you do all
of you know, like and andwhen all the kids missing hering like that.
You know, I don't know,I'm gonna use my own words,
but like, you know, Ihave separation anxiety from the person you love
the kids. But you know,when you when you when you're when you're
when you're just I think when youcould communicate with your kids and your wife
and your family, and that's strongenough, Like that's not fake, you
know, like you know, youcould walk away for five days, it's
(46:28):
that's still that feeling still lasts.It's very important for you know, parents
to invest that or you know,to loved ones or even into your partners.
Like sometimes I don't know, Ithink I think people in relationships don't
respect each other enough to to toto like to like really stay like I
literally worship the ground my wife walkson because she's good to me. You
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know, some some men are somanly that they don't they can't say that
sometimes, you know, like andyou know, I grow again. I
told you this before I grew upmy mother's therapist twenty seven years. I
was always in my head as akid, you know, like, you
know, like, what's that feeling? And walk away? What does this
feel like? And it's something that'syou know, we we learned. But
uh yeah, you know it soundslike an amazing husband. You're going to
(47:12):
end up the least popular man inAmerica husband, any idea how many husbands
you just got in trouble? I'msure you guys are amazing. Thank you
you like it. Thank you somuch for joining us on the plus.
Can you shout out social media soeveryone can follow you appreciate it? Thank
you very much. Chah guys,thank you for joining us on behind the
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scenes. We're going to check inwith him in a couple of weeks and
see how his social media platform wasgoing. Apologies again for the technical difficulties.
Thank you for sticking with us andhaving a good time, and thank
you for watching. By the Chamoypickle, I don't terrible. Does anybody
ever ever get it yourself? I'dlike to remind everyone every time I use
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and we are going to have himtrying a Chamoy pickle because I'll die.
Yeah. I kind of feeling ifthere's going to be a train, why
did it have to be in infrarectnet infrared. They're like a bright red
aspect cool lex. I need arag I got, It's like a murder
scene. This is it. It'swell, it's a pickle soaked in soaked
(01:11):
in what kool aid? No way, Absolutely, it's the kool aid pickle.
We're gonna need a lot more towels. Well, look at my hands,
they're permanently died. God, thisis like cancer on a stick.
What else we got in this uhviral trend here? Then, Okay,
I'm not eating this because this islike summer goes to the hospital if we
(01:34):
eat this. No, this lookslike it's a job for me. It's
a job for Snogogie bear. Removethe pickle from the cut the tip of
the pickle, lave that in there, leave it in here. Yeah,
otherwise it's gonna get everywhere. Okay, I need to cut up about a
half inch and then use a spoonto scoop out the inside of the pickle.
So I'm okay, I'm gonna trythis. Okay, you're gonna hand
(01:55):
me individual things all you read this. So she's cutting that, uh some
of the spaghetti into the pickle,and I guess that's read that thing that
spaghetti. It's uh yeah, okay, So it's Lucas squinkles. Show them
salt, salt saghetti. It's thisthing. You guys want to see part
of it because the rest of screensgreen, all right, put it in.
(02:17):
Oh my god, you're eating this. I don't want any of this.
This looks like the worst thing thatyou know what. I'm knocking it
a bunch and I haven't even triedit. Maybe this is the greatest thing
I got. Taste a couple.Next thing gave the planet, Next thing.
Next, we need to hang on. It's out of my view.
(02:38):
Wrap the pickle up tightly with fruitby the foot or fruit roll up or
gushers. He is, oh,no, no, no, this is
part of the list. We're arrivingfollowing the list. This is like,
this is the color of my hands. This is how this is going,
you know. By the way,as I remember having majority of this as
(03:00):
a kid, and as a kid, it was absolutely incredible. Not all
together though, and maybe I wouldlove it more if I was a kid
who's still obsessed with junk food.But as an adult obsessed with junk food,
I think this is absolutely discussing asan adult obsessed with junk food.
All right, next things, thephone it just went blank on me.
Sorry, we have to use allthe instructions off the phone. Pour the
(03:21):
Chimoi Polvo over the top of thepickle, and add Lucas Gusano candy this
is candy liquid. No, thisis a candy liquid. That's the chemoy.
Okay that next, okay, sothis one, how do you open
this thing? Oh? All right, okay, peel anything, snap off
the tip that in another context soundsdangerous. All right, we're gonna put
(03:46):
this okay, wow, okay,just put all of it in there.
Next made me cough? What washandy flavored liquid? How do you open
it? I'm very allergic to twist. This does not seem like it's working.
(04:10):
Yeah, just twist it maybe,Oh, okay, okay. Then
next, Oh my god, it'slike thick syrup. There's still more yep
uh, sprinkle, sprinkle the chimourpickle with pika lemon and enjoy. This
doesn't say anything about hot cheetos ortalkies. Yeah, all this goes and
(04:34):
open that up. Oh it wasin these spaghetti instructions. That's right,
open these uplex, I'll get themin. I got so we did this
out of order? What's this?I don't know what that is? Is
that the lemon chimoy? And ohno, I got this c milk please
because I don't get in here.Fact, I got this still more,
(04:55):
honey, I got you Let's getsome Cheetos and talkies in there. Give
me a spaghetti, Give me anotherspaghetti. Okay, sat you so I
need more rags? Are producers standingout to the side. Give me us
(05:18):
instructions on how to do this?All right, Let's get a gusha.
I'm gonna need more rags, allright, bab this is what this looks
like. Oh, open the pikalemon please? That goes right on top.
God? Why is the pinka lemonlooks stabbed it? Because? Okay,
(05:39):
now this is what bears about toeat over the plate? Please bear.
Yeah, I'm going to bring theplate to me. Mm hmm.
If you actually like this, Ithink there's something wrong with you. Okay,
bye, people like this. It'sa whole thing. My hands are
(06:02):
this color. Now you gotta dothat again, try again, try a
different bite that one. Come on, I'm done. Come on, I
wanted too much, limo. Comeon? Why are you spinning it up?
(06:30):
Take away? He's not a fan. That is the most discussed in
the air. What is this?Does anyone know? What is it?
Usually? Why am I trying thisone? I know what it is?
Try it. It's a type ofcandy. Was it supposed to go in
(06:50):
the pickle. You can probably doyou want me to put it in the
pickle? No? I want that? Hell okay, so Chamoy pickles are
a no go for him to takethat. Please throw everything out. That
was like, I don't know howto describe the flavor, just hot and
(07:11):
why are you eating that you're soallergic to that? I thought it idea
it was hot asp just a dirtsessha. No, I don't want any
of it. I don't I wantit all to go away. Whoever listen.
I know trends are supposed to befor fun, and I know there's
(07:33):
supposed to be like, well,it's a good time for Why is that?
That's not trent? That's an attemptat poisoning, that's going to kill
somebody. It's I'm sorry. Ifeel like, what's that squad that comes
(07:57):
in from the police department they cleanup all the bloody messes. I feel
like you need one of those guysin here. I need I don't want
to shout out the company because they'reactually a brand. I need a maid
to come in here. I madea m what's that cleaning crew called whatever?
I need? As Matt swat herethere we go. I't's call one
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of them out. Huh yeah,I don't get rid of all of this.
Thank you. Shout out to Kitty. This was awful. Why did
you make us do it? Kitty? This was an absolutely wonderful idea.
I love you so much. Thankyou for suggesting this to the show and
having me try it. Everything iscoming in red. Everything is red.
(08:45):
So we talked about nothing in theentertainment world. I guess that's part of
the entertainment world, isn't it trendingon TikTok? This is so bad.
I'm not going to be able toget this off my fingers. No,
you are now permanently read. Andhey, it cut your red handed?
Who who invented this chimoy pickle?I want to know whose idea this was
(09:11):
and who we should kill, andI want to know if they got approved
by their therapist. Now I loveSorry for the pause, guys, we
actually had to stop to clean up. There was that much mess from this.
Oh yeah, it was everywhere ourentire table. Oh, I actually
have milk. You asked for milk. I should have said loudly. I
(09:33):
hope to God it's it is.You know, everything in it is poison.
Yeah, it's I would not recommendthat for anyone. I would actually
recommend it for someone I didn't like. So you got a buddy who you're
really upset you recently, should havethem try the chimoy pickle. They will
have deserved it. No, there'sno part of that. We are very
(09:54):
very good. I'm like, I'mlooking at Alexis. I'm like, do
you want to send me the show? We'll do the buyer for the gent
coming in And I do want todo a shout out for Aqua sol A
Bombshell Tans, Tiny Bubbles, KMextends and off Road Reynolds. So Aqua
Sola? Am I pronouncing that right? Yeah? Aqua Sola? I need
that beautiful hotel. And there's ahouse Springs, California, but wonever want's
(10:16):
to go there and have a stay. We were at the Biltmore actually last
week. Oh yeah, we wereat the Fashion Week LA and where I
also walked, and it was theArthearts. I believe our fashion Week Hearts
Fashion Week Bombshell Tans in looking toCalifornia, Looking to California. I keep
saying, want they want to getyour red light therapy done? You want
(10:37):
to get a good tang going on. You go check them out. I
just get red like that, andit's fantastic. Came extends. They do
all of my wigs, all ofmy hair extensions. So when you see
me looking fabulous on a red carpet, it's because of them and because of
tiny bubbles. They're the ones thatset those hair extensions and wigs. I
can't get the red off. Andof course I give a week because week
comes from off road rentals, andI have the one. I have the
challenge this son. You guys haveto turn right the chamoy pickle, post
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it and tag us at tune inBTS and the best reaction from eating that
will get the offer of rentals giveawayfree ATV rides. It's not worth it.
I think it's it's it's worth it. Try it. I'm red.
He just wants you to want tosuffer with him. Oh my god,
it's on my nose. The colorher fingers are as the color my intestines
(11:22):
are right now our guts. Iactually ate it. I consumed it,
that went into my body. Iwant to invite Louis on the show.
Good day, Louis, how areyou good? How are you today?
How you doing? Very good?Very good. Thank you for having the
show, Thank you for joining us. We are covered. He tried the
chamoy pickle thing. That's it wasa mistake. Everything's red and stick.
(11:45):
I see that, I see that. You guys are great. How's your
day going. It's been a daylong long artificial flavors? Nice, nice,
good stuff, beautiful. What's thebutton there? For? The button
here is probably just to show youor just you know, do it live.
(12:07):
So it's about live stream, youknow. So it's ever out of
the office. So everything we tryto work with clients, which I work
clients and brands I'm doing, I'mcreating a live experience with their audiences around
social media. So that's that's likeone of we have the buttons ever in
the office. Sorry. And ourcolor theme for the company's pink. I
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love it. I love pink,so that's perfect. Yeah, while we're
on that topic, would you tellthe audience who you are and a little
bit about what you do. Myname is Louis Rellis. I've been a
serial entrepreneur probably since the age isnineteen years old. I'm forty nine currently
live in New Jersey. I havetwo sons, four step daughters, married
to a real housewife in New Jerseywho's on TV. So she we you
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know, we have a really beautiful, blended family. She's been on TV
for about fifteen years, and I'ma digital marketing guy for the last twenty
nine years something like that. Sodid you want like I love? That
means you got ahead of everyone elsewith the digital marketing. I thought I
did, but now everybody caught upto us, So that's it's become very
competitive. So it is it canbe pretty competitive. Did you know that
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either somebody you wanted to drop intoat the time, or did you kind
of fall into digital marketing? Youknow what? Bear, That's a really
good question because sometimes when we fallinto what we love to do, we
don't even know that it's happening,right, So it comes by accident.
So sometimes the things we really planfor don't work out the way we wanted
to. But for me, whathappened was, uh, I went to
I remember I was eighteen years old. I went to Europe and I came
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back and I wanted to to Iwent to here for the summer. I
wanted to make money, and therewas a building in my town and a
big building in like nineteen twenty storybuilding, and I went over and started
planning for jobs, and I sawthis one part of the building that had
all these beautiful cars there, andit was a marketing company. So when
I got a job there six bucksan hour, worked in the mailroom.
I started there at around eighteen yearsold, worked my way out till I
was like twenty, and then tooka risk, barred five thousand bucks and
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started a company that I took publicin the now stack back in twenty twenty.
After a long time. So I'vebeen had a long run in this
industry, about thirty years. Indigital, you know, we start off
with direct response marketing mail order,then move into digital marketing. You know,
been somewhat of a scaling expert forcompanies. Could come in there and
see companies that are stuck. Youknow, they get to a certain plateau
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and they want to basically scale theircompany. I come in. I help
companies scale their businesses. Okay,that makes sense. See would you how
would you say I have a company? I go to you and I'm thinking,
okay, how would I either givemore clients in or become more notable?
And of course don't give away toomany things. This is a paid
yes, let them give it away. But if you a basic idea of
what I should do, what wouldit be like? You know, one
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is identify your customer. Identify yourcustomer exactly who they are, find the
path of least resistance on how toget them, and create some sort of
stickiness between your product and the customer. So then I'll that'll keep them aligned
to your product. Then you know, go back and focus on your product
as number two, because you'll buildyour product first and then it's focus on
the customer that they go back toyour product to make sure it's going to
match the customer. And a lotof testing. Marketing is about testing.
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There's always you can't be afraid totest. It's always crawl walk test in
a sense, right, So youknow, especially with the digital media open
up, you could test so manydifferent vehicles online. You could test text
messaging, you could text geal fencing, you know, sponsored websites and stuff
like that. But if you havea company today, it's identify your product,
identify your customer, and test andfind the sweet spot. And when
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you find the sweet spot, tryto find a way to scale where you
can be. You know, youcan create maybe a three to one four
to one model where you're spending adollar to make three dollars make four.
And that's basically what I try todo. I like that because a lot
of times when you see people onlineposting video about how to grow your company
be successful, they never hardly ever, the answer is just, hey,
you got to. You got toput your stuff out there and kind of
figure it out. You got totest the waters and see this is stuff
(15:46):
that people really are going to enjoy. And so this narrative of you can
become a multi millionaire or even inone of the generous cases, billionaire at
nineteen, and for most people it'sgoing to take years of dedication, harwork,
figuring it out to cut kind ofmeet your goals. Yeah, like
anything else, you know, you'vegot to you got to do the work
in your in your business. Yougotta investor yourself. You got to spend
(16:08):
time to be really good at yourcraft. I had a problem like somewhat
reading when I was young, soI would always, even till today,
I have to read things twice.For some reason, I don't get it
the first time. As much asI try, I don't get it first
time. So I kept that processgoing where I read things twice. It
takes me a little longer than theother guy. I've gotten better at it
over my over the years. Butlike in the beginning, it was really
a struggle because I didn't I didn'thave a lot of schooling. You grew
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up in the Bronx in New YorkCity. I went to high school and
right around high school, I didn'tcome from a lot of income from money
or or you know, even evensecure foundation growing up as a kid.
So I had a pretty much hada you know, traumatic childhood in some
sense as you would call it.And then you know, around nineteen,
got a job in a company,learned my way and and uh, you
know, just you know, createdpretty much a good life for myself.
(16:52):
But but you have to do work. There's always the cat. They say
that people with a more difficult childhood, it can lead you to one of
two directions. How were you ableto take that and push yourself in the
direction you went rather than the otherpath. It's a really good question.
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It's uh, you know, Igrew up two sisters and a brother sos
four of us in the household,so and I was the oldest son.
I wanted it really bad. Iwanted to kind of like control my destiny
and not be stuck as a kid. I was stuck as a kid a
little bit. You know. Myfather was an alcoholic. My mother was
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dealing with that, and she wasyou know, so I had grew up
with abandonment issues, you know,in some sense as a kid. You
know, like and you know lateron when with a lot of help and
therapy and all that stuff went toalan on as a teenage kid, went
on for to do a lot oftherapy as a young adult to kind of
connect all those dots and understand thosepain points and you know, look back
and you know, I guess thebiggest part of growth in my life in
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my mid twenties was about with work. At least, was was forgive my
parents, you know, realize andthat they didn't They didn't have a playbook
either, you know, And it'syou know, you can't really fault you
know, your parents or people thatare raising you for everything it's going on
in your life, because a lotof people grow up and they blame everything
on their parents. You know,I got to a place I stop blaming
my parents started realizing that, like, you know, having more understanding for
(18:15):
where their upbringing was and what theywhat they learned, you know, and
actually it pivoted my life with myparents and we've had a great life together
after you know, you know,realizing all those things. But it was
just a drive to not be stuck. They's still feel stuck as a kid,
and I wanted options. How's thatinformed your own parenting? I'm a
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pretty good parent, you know.My kids, my kids are are are
a good example of that because theywant to be with me at their age.
You know, I've got I havefour step daughters, two sons,
a great ages ranging from let's sayfourteen to twenty three. But when they
want to hang out with you,and they want to go out with you
without you even asking, that's anexample of, in my opinion, of
being a great parent and a greatleader because it comes naturally. You see
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a lot of kids to say,no, Mom, drop me off over
here, or you know, youknow, I don't, you know,
they don't really look to hang outtheir parents. My kids they're like,
can we go to Mikonos and partywith you this summer? And like absolutely,
you know, so we we havethat, but we because we it's
you know, there's two sides ofthe pendulum. You got to show up,
you got to be present, Youhave to listen. I think maybe
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even raising kids, from my experience, was like listening more and talking less
so that kids could feel like you'reyou're actually they're being heard. Very important.
I wasn't heard as a kid,so my biggest peep pep piece being
a parent was being present, lettingthem be heard, and showing up.
How do you feel about the there'stwo schools of thought, parents that believe
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children deserve no privacy whatsoever, andparents that believe children should not be disciplined
or correct at all. Both ofthose are kind of millennial constructs. Interesting,
you know, I don't think Iever really disciplined my kids physically in
that sense, because my you know, back in the day was okay,
if my dad takes a belt whipme in the ass. That was very
(20:03):
normal back in the you know,late seventies, early eighties, where no
one would frown on that. Buttoday it's more it's more of a connection
to connection, you know, II, uh, I've done a lot
of work as a man to uh, I don't know just like, you
know, just just figure myself outand understanding what I missed as a kid.
And today I'm you know, I'mjust I'm present my kids. We
have the relationship where I deliver dailydepositive love and acknowledgments on a daily basis,
(20:29):
whether I'm on the road or home. But it's just a connection,
you know, It's it's you know, and and that connection probably prevents me
from like you know, raising myvoice real loud or getting very aggressive with
the child even if they do somethingwrong. And in fact, I just
experienced in the last couple of weeksin one of my kids, and it
was a challenging moment, but butI knew that the only way to really
to get through was like I toI and through through like truth, you
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know, because anger is going tobring an emotion out that probably just momentary
in the moment. But the truthis that I love you and I'm here
for you and I'm present for you. So let's talk about what happens so
we both can understand why something happenedand then we can both get over the
hill with it. And when youare able to deal with your kids,
you're you're the bond only grows stronger. You know, I work with my
son who's twenty years old, andI you know, I lead a lot
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of my kids and what they're doingfrom from behind the scenes a little bit,
you know, giving them the powerto be upfront, but knowing that
I'm only a short distance behind them. And I guess that's that's how it
is. Yeah, No, that'sthat's really good. It's good because you
want kids to be able to kindof go out and explore and make a
name from make have their experiences.But they need something to fall back on
when they need information, when theyneed help, when they need some kind
of reassurance that helps them grow.Hey, that wants them to fail forward,
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you know, and say so,this is a question that people often
ask, how do you find stabilityin a blended family because a lot of
you know, that can be reallydifficult for people. Stability a blended family,
in my opinion, is having asolid relationship with your wife. Let's
say, you know, so thetwo the leaders, let's say, are
really tight and understanding that, like, we're going to do this together.
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And then when it comes to thekids, is that you also show the
kids that we're doing this together.So there's no triangulation. So for example,
like in my life right my wifeis Teresa and as myself. And
let's say if we have an issuein the house, and you know,
let's say if my son goes toTeresa, he's etching me out or vice
versa. So this triangulation. Butif we're a team, we approach things
as a team, you know,then they get they get they absorbed that
(22:29):
habit of knowing that like anything everhappens, they're going to get the two
of us, not just one ofus. So it avoids that because that's
what you know, you know,you know, Dad, can I talk
to you alone? Why would youwant to talk to me alone if we're
both here, you know, ifwe're all here running this household. And
so that that that did, thatdid happen in the beginning, you know
a little bit, because it's morelike, you know, take me into
my zone and you take me toyour zone. As far as parents,
but we decided to do things together, and the kids eventually, very quickly
(22:53):
actually really appreciated that because on bothsides, when you're in divorced families,
you saw teamwork come together. Andand you're from a divorced family. You
don't normally see that. Like myI raised my you know, as a
full time dad for maybe six yearswhere I met my wife, and you
know, they saw me struggle asa single guy and having a nanny and
working sixty hours a week and tryto manage everything. It was hard and
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difficult. And when it came timeto have a partner, you know,
the best way to lead by exampleis even in the toughest times, is
by showing up together, showing upwith love, leading with love, and
because you could be you can bea ruthless parent just for lack of better
word, but still leave with love. And and what you're doing is you're
letting him know, like, look, this is another side to all this.
You know, this is really niceright now, but like you know,
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you don't want to see that guythere, Like this is this is
the way we can be here andand you know that's that's kind of why,
you know, we've had a reallybeautiful, blended family. It's we've
had our challenges, but but withthose processes in place, it's if we've
avoided you know, hitting brick walls. You know, yeah, this is
I want to say, this isvery interesting we UH brought you and because
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you have a couple of really coolprojects you working on, including an app
that I like to ask you alittle bit about, too sure, but
this is somewhat become a bit oflike a parenting course and a and a
man kind of course as being astrong male influence. Do you talk about
that's online at all? Do youpost videos discussing these things? Yeah,
you know, I I've run,I've spent. I'm forty nine, probably
(24:18):
I'm thirty five, thirty six.I woke up just be quite frankly,
you woke up and like, like, you know what, I'm tired of
these feelings that happen that you can'tanswer for or or you know, anything
that could happen. You know thatyou just could. Maybe there's more work
to do to kind of do thework, especially when you do the work
and work to make money. Yougot to do the work and the work
in yourself. And because I really, you know, wanted to you know,
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I really want, you know,single for ten years, I wanted
to have a great marriage. Andwhen I met that right right person,
I wanted to it to be reallytruly right. So you know, I
was able to uh it was justa lot of work, you know,
as a as a guy, youknow, just just you know, knowing
how to get my own way.Stop making excuses, no lying, because
a lot men lie all the time. You know, we don't. We
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live in quiet desperation, won't reallytalk about what we're feeling. I learned
to break that through. And Ihave four step daughders that I'm so bonded
with because I'm vulnerable and it allows, you know, it allows them to
be like holy shit, and youknow, I'm going to be vulnerable with
you too, and it really we'reable to have that, so you know,
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it's actually my first priority. Iwake up every day at four forty
five five four forty five five fifteenevery morning. I meditate every day.
I journal, I issue daily whatthey call daily positive love to my each
one of my family, whether it'sthrough text or through post it notes in
their walls or anything like that.And I exercise. I train, I
get myself myself ready first, andthen I'm weaponized by eight in the morning
(25:45):
every day and I go out andattack the day. And I've been a
very successful entrepreneur, probably in thelast twelve years, very heavy with with
that practice in place, you know, you get that communication thing right on
the head. Yeah. I strugglewith that too, being able to communicate
and be able to speak things throughcompletely. So it's really really nice to
hear that from someone who had thatexperience and work through it. Thank you,
(26:07):
Thank you. How now, thisis a strange one. You are
very successful in your own right.You married a very famous woman. How
is that for a lot of men, they would not be able to do
that, That would affect their senseof self. That was one of the
conversations people were having online actually aboutyou before before the show, is how
do you do that? How doyou handle being married to somebody that's that
(26:33):
well known? You know, it'sa good question. But one is my
wife is a very humble person,right, So what you see on TV
and know what's you know, allthose shiny lights is it's just a fraction
of our life. Right So mywife, in ninety five percent of ninety
nine percent of my life is aregular human being, you know, overly
(26:55):
loving human being, warm, capassionateand understanding persons. So that's one part
right there. The other part isthat you know, as a guy,
you know, you know there's ultraconfidence where there's it becomes egotistical, and
there's humble confidence in my own words. So I'm kind of humbly confident.
I know what I'm I know whatI'm about. I know that I do
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bring value to my relationships. Idon't feel like I have less. I'm
less then because my wife is acelebrity, we're pretty equal in our own
fields of respective how we value oursuccess in our own fields. So when
we come back, we're just regularpeople. We got regular people. We've
got six kids, four dogs,We live in a twelve thousand square foot
house and six acres. I've workedmy tail. I was nineteen years old,
(27:37):
so is my wife. We actually, you know, like like literally
value time together. You know.I came out to California yesterday for trip
for work. Just to give mea little side note thing, I was
here for fifteen days before three daysago. Is here fifteen days. I'm
here for another ten days. That'stwenty five days with my family. My
wife and I are like this andsink because our love, our goals in
(27:57):
life are you know, are verymuch more important our kids, like you
know, so you know I wastedtime at all the little shit when I
was young, you know, onstupid things, on conversations and stupid feelings.
You know, today, I'm gratefuland I live in gratitude that I
have a good woman that I canraise kids with, and knowing that,
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like, you know, we talkedabout this all the time. May we
got another five years where all thekids are in college, and then it's
our time, you know, sowe're still we'd still treat ourselves as young
people. We take care of ourselveswell so we can have a good future
together. But I never never,you know, even the beginning when I
was dating Teresa, it was didn'treally affect me. I'm a very private
guy. What did affect me isthe public is very negative and hateful and
(28:41):
very opinionated. But that's my opinionof that, is that because they're on
the sidelines looking at people like usliving in a hurd. So we're in
this hurd, we're moving things around, you know. I've you know,
I started my last business with aroller quarters and almost you know, departed
with a billion dollar valuation from nothing, you know, so like, but
I'm here and focused. There's alot of people looking in just you know,
(29:03):
you know, and having an opinionlike everybody has an asshole and they're
entitled to that, and I'm entitledto enjoy my life and let people sit
back and enjoy it. You know. So I was going to ask you
how you deal with the negativity online, but I think you just answered that
pretty much. Yeah, people thinkit bothers me or even you guys.
Right, you guys probably get youknow, scrutinized for things. You may
say this, that and the other, but you know it's it's you know,
(29:26):
you know, the opinion is worththe you know, the voice that
that's coming in on. You know, I get more than scrutiny. I
get dick pics. Yeah, metoo, man, me too. I'm
very loved by the gays because mywife's you know, you know, and
I you know, it's like,yeah, it's all. I get a
lot of that too, you know. But like it's been it's uh,
it's uh, you know, it'sit's it's We've had a good life,
(29:48):
which is great because we keep it. We keep it authentic, you know.
Absolutely. Now, speaking of authenticityand all having a good life and
businesses for that matter, you arecoming out with an app and I want
to know if you can tell usa little bit about that. Absolutely.
It's it's called vanivia v I niv I A and basically what that is.
Uh, you know, we arecoming very very hard for the live
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streaming platform space. Okay, inthe last stream currently in lavet streaming platform
space, you have Rumble, Twitch, Kick, you know whatnot and they're
gamified. They're gamified live stream platformswhere they're all pretty much gamers right in
our sense. You know, peoplelove to see what's in the here and
now, you know, what's goingon right now, you know, like
everybody, and everybody likes it.But also the other side of the world
loves perfection, so everybody really takesvideos, perfects the videos and everything gets
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out there. And that's basically youknow how a lot of these platforms have
been running around. Our platform isbuilt by creators for creators. So we
support the creator and influencer community inshowing their crafts and everything they're good at
and connecting say, audiences, audiences. I'm sorry brands and advertisers here with
the influencers. Here, we connectthe audience system. Hello, all right,
(31:00):
we're back then. Please don't haveyour sound I can't hear you.
Yeah, we can't hear you atall your mute you're muted, he's muted.
I wonder if you're muted still nothing? Huh what the connection? Uh
(31:37):
no, unfortunately not maybe try uhback on all right, Well that sucks
to hear that. Even our engineersrefreshed. So okay, let's see maybe
that'll help back. That was interesting. So he's creating a social media app.
Yeah, and you know what youand your TikTok and say. With
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TikTok potentially leaving it, someone's gotto take, you know, the new
mantle. Who's going to be ontop? Right? Do you think TikTok
will? Actually? I think what'sgonna happen is they're going to get all
the way to the vote. Theythink it's gonna get to the Senate and
maybe you'll get a few yeses,you'll get people who are really dedicated to
the cause. But there's so muchhate and backlash that these guys want to
get re elected by the new generation. I don't think it's going to go
(32:21):
through. I do Congress passed.I don't know if the Senate's going to
pass, but I think you knowwhat, regardless, they're putishing for it
to happen. So hard and sooften that it's gonna happen. It doesn't
do now, it's going to dolater, no matter what. Yes,
we got we got you borry.Sorry, I don't know what happened.
Well, good, all good,all good. You guys were in that
(32:42):
momentary break we were talking about theTikTok potential band and how often they're trying
to kick that platform out of theAmerican Service. Serious issue, serious issue
here in the States. Here here'sa long short because it's like it's pulsed
in my wheelhouse. But you haveif you're TikTok, you have two point
five billion users outside the United States. If you're you look at the say
you have one hundred and fifty millionuser United States. Why would they want
to worry with all this? Becausethe world today is not based on the
(33:05):
United States. It's not that's powerfulanymore. So I I my opinion,
they're gonna walk unless somebody comes pacetrillion dollars by June the walk. Can
damn you cut out again? Yeah, I'm sorry, man, it was
uh lost year again audio maybe refreshed. No, you might have to rege
(33:30):
that shoot because I want to hearand I want to hear. What's it's
more about this than we do.I felt we were about to go into
like a superhero kind of like hison his phone and this will happen every
time he gets a notification. Oh, we can tell, we can ask
that that's going on there. Yeah, that's what's going on. Okay,
So it's getting notifications and it's gonnasend them up. It has to do
(33:53):
with being on your phone. Whenyou get a notification, it pushes it
back. Yeah, I've got myphonees off the hook. I'm sorry,
but yeah, the TikTok band issomething that's actually serious that probably looking down
two different pipes. Do we do? We just focus on our two point
five billion users worldwide. Hey brother, we lost again. Yeah I don't.
(34:20):
I don't know. M M damn. We have an answer. He
gets right to the point and thenhe's gonna tell me to disconnect his headphones.
Okay, so hopefully saw that tobecause we're in the chat together and
don't see if that makes a difference. That's so unfortunately. I feel like
he's got gold right there, likerainbow to get to it, because it's
(34:43):
everyone everybody has to say, especiallywith you being a TikTok Right, Well,
that's that's kind of my that's that'smyself. We're here. Sorry,
So so it's you know, thethe situation is going on with TikTok Is
is something that's gonna it's a realproblem. It's a real problem. You
know, they just gonna they'll lookat that two different pipes. Do I
(35:05):
work with our two point five billionyou? No way? Can you disconnect
your headphones? Can you disconnect yourheadphones? Maybe maybe that'll work. Our
sound engineer said, disconnect the headphones. Can you disconnect the headphones? Disconnect
(35:27):
the headphones. Yeah, we'll trythat. Tell him to take the headphones
off. Oh no, this hasturned into what's going on? It wasn't
happening in the first like twenty minutes. I know, it just randomly start
kicking in. I don't know what. Maybe someone's really trying to get to
him, like think you're calling himor something, but he's not. It's
his hands are in front of us, so I know, it's not like
(35:47):
it's not like he's swiping away onanything. So I don't think Athian's coming
up. If someone's really trying toget a hold of him, that's all
that I can imagine is that's happening. I'm hoping the headphones thing maybe makes
a difference. But I spoke inthe meantime, we can kind of go
back on that same topic of whetheror not we think it's it's started having
on the topic. Oh no,conspiracy, very good. It's a conspiracy.
(36:10):
Every time we try and talk aboutit, it just can I took
the airprits off. Maybe that's whatit was. But thank you for your
patient. I'm so sorry about that. I could get it coming to see
you guys. You know I'm inLa. So yeah, I think it's
a conspiracy by TikTok. Every timeyou guys talk about it, it probably
but uh, you know, soit's a it's a it's a it's a
(36:31):
real situation, the TikTok situation.It probably it's gonna be interesting to see
how that develops. But the waycycles go is, you know, the
industries and societies, it's it's openedup a really good place for us because
a lot of you know, whenyou're on Instagram right now, live is
not their their forte. Let's say, right, so you go live and
when I waved my hand at yousee twenty seconds later. Our technologies are
(36:52):
platforms. All the voids we filled, we built a platform built by creators
for creators. So all these instanceswere and would want the perfection. So
when I wave that you you seeit. When I say nice shirt,
you could respond and I don't haveto abandon the page. So if you
go live on Instagram, you'll losethirty four percent of your traffic because people
don't hear you right lately for latency. You know, like we don't own
you the content. Our platform allowsall the creators and differences to own their
(37:15):
own content one hundred percent. Youknow. Yeah, we're the best thing
that's going to be out there reallysoon. So very excited to say,
I would love to have you guyson our platform where we can drive audience
view for free. That's what wedo. We don't charge you for that,
so we don't charge people like yourself. You guys are amazing podcast assos.
You have great audiences when you comeinto If I brought you out our
(37:36):
platform, wouldn't cast you anything.You could stream that right into our platform.
And you know, my job todrive users and we help create revenue
by monetize the revenue. So I'lltell how to check it out. Yeah,
thank you, thank you, thankyou, thank you. Interested.
I think you asked the real question, would you are you guys kind of
in the neighborhood or market try andtake the mantle if TikTok doesn't having no,
(38:00):
you know, we're trying to takethe mantle and be the prime leader
in the live space, live environment. So when you're going live, you're
working with Vinavia. Yeah, thatmakes sense. That's basically what it is.
Twitch is having a lot of trouble. They just put through something like
if you focus on a body part, it's coming through on like Friday.
If you focus on a body partfor too long a boots constantly are changing
(38:21):
their rules and it always causes anissue, you know, because it's mainly
I mean, they're good for gamers. It's a game fight situation. But
if your mom at homeie want alive streams you are, the family members
could watch you and see you,and you can interact and you could,
you know, have polling within yourfamily or within what's going on. Fashion,
we have augmented reality, which meansthat like I wear a shirt like
this, it's been around and youcan see the shirt change colors, change
sizes, become a v neck andyou could purchase their road one click.
(38:44):
That's patent and technologies. That's truly. Yeah. So we're we're we're we're
gonna be you know, we're gonnabe big. We're gonna be big.
Love to we have an event onnext week on April fourth. We'll love
to have both of you there.I believe we're coming. We're bringing a
few up friends of our, friendsof his as well. Awesome, can't
wait. Thank you so much.Trying to get Nadas there, das maybe
(39:07):
there, so maybe a guy,you know, I think Dan Henderson.
We invited him. He's coming,Joe, Daddy's coming like a bunch of
what a bunch of cage fighters,ironic my coach fight. But I don't
think I met him personally. OneJoe one like eight fights throwing a punch.
(39:27):
Yeah, he's quite an impressive competitor. At least he what he's now
a coach on. No, no, no, he's going to be a
fight. That's awesome. That's awesome. We can stream it on the platform.
We should do that. Let's see. We're coming somewhat towards the end
of the shadow. But there's anythingyou kind of want to tell that to
let him know about this moment.It's about you, your business, whatever
it is. Please, this isyour time. You know what'd be amazing
(39:50):
for people to come check out Vividiot, come see what we're doing. Uh,
it's probably a home for where alot of people end up bringing their
live environment, content or creators andinfluences from my anetizing their traffic. It's
the best home for that. That'swhat I would love for people to do.
To be honest to you and justkeep leading in this world with love
and be understanding with everybody around you, because you never know how someone else
(40:13):
is doing, you know. Iagain, I go back to my child
that I grew up as a kid, and when I got older, I
really understood the fact that, like, you don't know what somebody's going through,
so we try to be there,you know. So I really,
I really would say that that's somethingto you know, just just pay it
forward, you know forward great adviceand a terrible movie for your emotions.
What movie is that you never see? Pay it forward? It's terribly depressing
(40:37):
about basically doing nice things and thehopes that people continued. I mean,
yeah, yeah, good comes backto you a lot of good does come
back? YE would not recommend that? Is it like seven Pounds? Like
that Will Smith movie where he likegives up all his organs and dies.
Does the main character as a boygets stabbed? I don't know. I
(40:57):
didn't watch either of those. Myfavorite movie is Talentated Nights like I Am
Not the Person. That's a funnymovie. That's a really funny movie.
Yeah. I like comedies and Imake reality TV bad reality TV. I
love. I love to come backin your podcast, maybe in a couple
of months, so I could talkabout we have our launch next week,
(41:20):
and I could talk to you aboutour success because you know, as an
entrepreneur, as like an entrepreneur,you you we have visions right that people
can't see. And when I wasa kid who started my business, my
mother would say, like, you'recrazy. I'm like, mom, it's
going to happen, you know.So I built a lot very confident vision
and things. I put myself behind, and I'm praying and put myself out
(41:42):
there that I can come back toyou guys and talk about maybe a ninety
eight trail success, what will happenafter next week? Because you know these
are things we've been manifesting for along time and trying to put into the
producer and i'd to grab you onagain. I was in a few weeks.
I really like to see you.This is gonna sound odd. There
are so many guys like Andrew Tateand there's totally awful douchebags in the world.
(42:07):
There are men like you kind ofbring out this positive vibe and I
think that is great. Thank you, thank you very much. I appreciate
that. Men. There aren't alot of guys for young men to look
up to like that, right,very true. There's a guy down in
Miami who I really admire very well. I've worked with them, Justin Wiler,
Justin Wareley down to Miami. Hesay, leads a lot of men
(42:29):
down there, a lot of youngmen. But you know, Bear and
I shared some personal stories, alittle bit about some childhoods and what gravitated
you to go to fighting, andthere's things where I got to you know.
But you know, we don't growup as perfect men. It's easy
to talk about it today at fortynine years old, of the men we
are today, but we had togo through a path in order to become
this man. It takes a lotof you know, bare knuckle and honesty
(42:52):
and transparency within yourself to be ableto, you know, respect the man
you've seen in the mirror. Youknow, so a lot of times,
a lot of guys don't care andstare at themselves for sixty seconds. They
live in they live in quiet desperation. They don't talk, you know.
I many guys kill themselves today.I mean, I don't remember the USC
fighter maybody a year ago, youand a half ago. Irish guy went
up and he says, talk somebody. I think it's Frank just killed himself.
(43:14):
And he's like, I missed himas an English English box or whatever.
And he's like because he didn't talk, you know. And that's something
with men today. Instead of beingso manly and you don't have to be
still feminine, but you could bein the middle to you know, have
both qualities. Just be able totalk. You're gonna be able to get
along with your kids, better,get better marriages. It's the truth,
you know. I think Strong saysthe same, being he's the last expective
(43:34):
to talk about it. Well.I think something that that people need to
do is stop equating a lack ofcommunication with masculinity. Yeah, that's true,
and I know that unmanly men doconverse. You know. It's when
you look at Mantalot, you lookat Joe Judy, Joe Stephenson, very
very masculine man, very communicative.He trains little children on how to fight.
(43:57):
He's the coach for the US Olympicteam. I think a good thing
too, is that it takes strengthto communicate easy sometimes to just kind of
keep within yourself. So if it'sa matter of that, you think talking
about feelings and what's going on withis a weakness, think of how much
how is he easy to decide notdeal with? It's how much strength it
would take to actually talk to somebody. Yeah, bear, you probably heard
(44:19):
this so many times where like peoplethrow this term around, like, you
know, be a real man,right, be a real I'm a real
man. Like what's a real man? You know? What's the definite of
real man? In my opinion,definitely real man is a soft man but
also a hard man. If youif you know, you know, if
you know, you know, ifyou're you know a bear, you're a
fighter, right you like like youknow, mean you kick the ship out
of me? Man. But like, but you're probably a very soft,
(44:40):
understanding, compassionate man at the sametime donating your time to help kids that
don't have wherewithal to learn what youknow. And and that's that's a that's
a you know, hard and softman. That blend is dangerous because you
can you can show up for anything, you know, And I walk down
the street with my wife sometimes andyou know, and people only knew that,
(45:01):
Like, you know, I couldturn it, you know, but
I'm I'm I lead life very softly, lovingly. I lead with no judgment
because judgment is the worst character traityou could carry lifetime, I think,
you know, because you never knowwhat somebody else is going through, right,
So that's just the way it is. I love talking to you guys.
We'd love to keep talking and youknow, do this again, it'd
be really, really great. Wewill bring my wife. I'll bring my
(45:23):
wife, fye next time, I'llbring you. I would actually like if
I talk to the two of you. I'd really like to talk to you
kind of about how you guys operatemarriage wise. You're an entrepreneur, she's
a celebrity, and that's not somethingthat people hear a lot is kind of
what it's like to to kind ofto hold a marriage together like that.
(45:45):
Yes, as January first, Ispent probably forty days away from my wife.
But you have to make time inmarriages for your for your relationships,
even if it's a you know,Tevin and FaceTime in the middle of night.
You know, my wife just gotfinished doing a TV show called House
of Villains. She was done thatfor I think twenty days, but she's
like, she leaves the house,she's like, oh, I'm gonna probably
get kicked off in three four days, three weeks later, you know,
(46:05):
twenties one days later, she's stillthere. I'm like, you do all
of you know, like and andwhen all the kids missing hering like that.
You know, I don't know,I'm gonna use my own words,
but like, you know, Ihave separation anxiety from the person you love
the kids. But you know,when you when you when you're when you're
when you're just I think when youcould communicate with your kids and your wife
and your family, and that's strongenough, Like that's not fake, you
know, like you know, youcould walk away for five days, it's
(46:28):
that's still that feeling still lasts.It's very important for you know, parents
to invest that or you know,to loved ones or even into your partners.
Like sometimes I don't know, Ithink I think people in relationships don't
respect each other enough to to toto like to like really stay like I
literally worship the ground my wife walkson because she's good to me. You
(46:49):
know, some some men are somanly that they don't they can't say that
sometimes, you know, like andyou know, I grow again. I
told you this before I grew upmy mother's therapist twenty seven years. I
was always in my head as akid, you know, like, you
know, like, what's that feeling? And walk away? What does this
feel like? And it's something that'syou know, we we learned. But
uh yeah, you know it soundslike an amazing husband. You're going to
(47:12):
end up the least popular man inAmerica husband, any idea how many husbands
you just got in trouble? I'msure you guys are amazing. Thank you
you like it. Thank you somuch for joining us on the plus.
Can you shout out social media soeveryone can follow you appreciate it? Thank
you very much. Chah guys,thank you for joining us on behind the
(47:36):
scenes. We're going to check inwith him in a couple of weeks and
see how his social media platform wasgoing. Apologies again for the technical difficulties.
Thank you for sticking with us andhaving a good time, and thank
you for watching. By the Chamoypickle, I don't terrible. Does anybody
ever ever get it yourself? I'dlike to remind everyone every time I use
that money the Boys and Girls Clubof very friend think you mad, Excited
America and free mm A. Weswear because we care. Now, guys,
(48:00):
if you could tell me how toget the kool Aid off my hands,
I would really appreciate it. I'mSummer Helene. Thank you again to
my co host Perfiorda. This wasbehind the scenes. We'll see you next
week. Good night. This hasbeen behind the scenes with Summer Helene and
Bear Fjorda, only on with talkfor media.
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