October 14, 2025 • 9 mins
My Husband Got My Daughter Pregnant. [Reddit Relationships Advice]
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stories you like to hear. My husband 45 male got my
daughter 21 female pregnant. My 45 female daughter, 21
(00:23):
female, came home from college after her university shut down
due to COVID. It has probably been the longest
since high school that she's been in the house.
In February, I underwent A tummytuck to correct my diastasis
rectile from having my children.It didn't go so well and I was
left with a badly shaped belly button and a high riding scar.
(00:45):
My husband would call it to my Willy Wonka belly button.
He nicknamed the bump in the skin near both of my hips to be
dog years. As such, quarantine was a very
tense time for the both of us. I was scared to be going back
and forth to doctors because of surgery complications and hated
that I came home to a dirty house with no effort made to
(01:07):
clean things up. I thought since lockdown lifted
that things would get better, but though we fought less, my
husband continued to act strangeand my daughter spent all her
time away during the day. Finally yesterday, my daughter
started crying at breakfast and confessed that she was pregnant
and that it was because she had been sleeping with her
(01:28):
stepfather. She admitted that it started
around a year and a half ago andresumed during quarantine.
She claimed that he was sweet, charming and fine to her and one
thing led to another. I was shaking in anger because I
knew they were having sex when Iwas in the hospital getting
treated for a condition that made me lose myself esteem, a
(01:50):
condition that made me not feel like a real woman.
I confronted my husband about itand he said that I always held
the fact that I earned much moreover his head, that he didn't
feel like a respected man in hisown family, and that he felt
mocked by my female friends berating their higher earning
husbands around, and that they and I collectively tore his self
(02:11):
worth to shreds. He is a filmmaker but has not
worked for nearly two years and that pretty much coincides with
when he started sleeping with mydaughter.
I have never done anything but be supportive of his passions.
Long after his parents gave up on him, I would actively try to
connect him with people and skimp on my own expenses so that
(02:31):
he can invest in his career. I was sobbing, yet he continued
to say that we never even had sex anymore, but how could we
when he'd lift up my shirt and grimace?
When his grimace would make me cry in front of the mirror?
I wasn't thinking clearly in themoment, and part of me also was
fuming at the irony that the separated abdomen and body pains
(02:53):
that brought my daughter into the world was now being used as
justification for her and my husband betraying me.
I told both of them to get out of the house.
My daughter obeyed immediately and left for her friends, but my
husband said that this house hadhis name on it too and he was
staying but I could leave. I fairly couldn't stand being
(03:13):
around him. So now I am staying with my
sister until I get my bearings. I lost them both in a single
day, what do I do? I can't believe I'm saying this,
but a visceral part of me reallyhates my daughter right now.
I hate her because this wasn't just a one time thing.
She betrayed me over and over again, as did my husband, but I
(03:35):
was always able to accept the fact that I might be furious
with a romantic partner. I never expected to feel these
emotions of disgust and betrayaltowards my own daughter.
What do I do? I don't want to talk to either
of them right now. I want to file for divorce, but
I'm afraid I'll be finically ruined.
But I am also scared that once this comes out, I will be
(03:58):
laughed at by everybody for being a sexless, ugly old woman
who is past her prime, who now realizes that the reason her
husband would be cheerful when Iwent to another doctor's
appointment was that he could finally cheat on me with my
daughter. This.
Is it possible at all he was grooming OP's daughter since she
(04:19):
was a minor? OPP did not say how long they
were married. I agree what the daughter did is
very wrong, but if she was also in part raised by this man, then
he took advantage of a parental authoritative relationship to
form a sexual one. Especially if the daughter had
no father figure before him. It's not uncommon for daddy
(04:39):
issues to develop in for young women like her to seek out men
who fulfill that role. I'm so sorry OP.
I really hope you can take your husband's boss ass to the
cleaners. You deserve love and do not
deserve what you are going through.
I know you hate your daughter right now, but it is possible
that the same garbage man the manipulated you also manipulated
(05:01):
her. I know I will get down voted for
saying that, but despite 21 and being a legal adult, many young
adults still lack the capabilityand emotional maturity to make
good decisions. In her case, an abortion would
probably be the best option so that both of you can remove him
from your lives permanently, possibly working towards
(05:21):
reconciliation. However, being young and without
a lot of experience or support, she may very well wind up down a
bad path, one where she is chained forever to this terrible
man or worse. Things will get better off.
Do not give up hope. Focus your energy towards your
legal battle and towards rebuilding yourself.
Image therapy will really help too.
(05:43):
Best wishes. I don't know about this one.
Respectfully, I think there is ahuge difference between making
impulsive and bad decisions sometimes and repeatedly having
sex with your stepfather for over a year.
Also, OP, I am so so sorry. This has nothing to do with your
being sexless or past your prime.
(06:05):
You don't deserve to believe those horrible things about
yourself. Your husband cheated on you
because he's a horrible person. You did not 'cause this.
I hope you're able to heal from this and become the best,
happiest version of yourself oneday.
Three. Well, the person you're
answering to just talked about the possibility of grooming,
(06:25):
which would make it abusive. With his attitude of guilt
dripping up for his cheating andwithout knowing how long this
guy could already be manipulating both.
We can't know for certain and the possibility is very real.
I think it's important that possibilities are talked about.
If he was abusing his position to get close to a young woman,
(06:46):
that would be fucked up, don't you think?
In that case, the two women could solve it with much
therapy. This.
We can all psychoanalyze the situation all day long.
The reality is that, as everyonehere says, he is a predator who
will need to be dealt with in some way and that your daughter
at least understands why you would kick her out.
(07:08):
You did the right thing by making sure you get some
distance from the both of them. Get a lawyer to deal with their
house and divorce proceeding andget a therapist to help you
figure this out emotionally and how to treat your daughter in
the healthiest way considering the situation.
Do not wait on either of those things.
I've never given an award or whatever before but here have
(07:30):
one. I hope I did it right.
I picked the comp one because your answer is absolutely the
good comp 1. OP's daughter is a victim too.
She may have betrayed OPT, but it sounds like a grown adult in
a position of authority over her.
Probably groomed and definitely preyed on her.
The daughter needs to get help as much as OPT does.
(07:50):
The husband is irredeemable. OPT might not be able to have a
relationship with the daughter, but she's not a bastard in this,
she's a victim. I don't agree with three.
The daughter was an adult when this shit started so she knew
what she was doing. It's not like she was
brainwashed as a small child. She should not be forgiven as
(08:12):
well. You can't just live with that
kind of information and forgive a person like this.
It's sick. She was a teenager when this
shit started and we have no ideahow long ago the grooming
started. Depending on how long ago auch
met and married this man, the grooming could very well have
started when she was a small child.
(08:33):
The law calls an 18 year old an adult, but the law is dead
wrong. The brain doesn't reach maturity
until age 25 S Even a 21 year old is still immature and very
far out of their depth in a sexual relationship with a 45
year old. The stepfather is a predator,
whether the law formally recognizes him as one or not.
(08:55):
Oh God, imagine if he has been helping to raise her since she
was a child. How long has he been sexually
attracted to this small person that he was supposed to raise
and protect? What a disgusting predator.
Thanks for listening so far. If story have an update we will
post here. Like subscribe to our channel
(09:17):
for upcoming stories.
Subscribe our channel Stay till the end of the stories for more
twist and turn. Comment us about what kind of
stories you like to hear. My husband 45 male got my
daughter 21 female pregnant. My 45 female daughter, 21
(00:23):
female, came home from college after her university shut down
due to COVID. It has probably been the longest
since high school that she's been in the house.
In February, I underwent A tummytuck to correct my diastasis
rectile from having my children.It didn't go so well and I was
left with a badly shaped belly button and a high riding scar.
(00:45):
My husband would call it to my Willy Wonka belly button.
He nicknamed the bump in the skin near both of my hips to be
dog years. As such, quarantine was a very
tense time for the both of us. I was scared to be going back
and forth to doctors because of surgery complications and hated
that I came home to a dirty house with no effort made to
(01:07):
clean things up. I thought since lockdown lifted
that things would get better, but though we fought less, my
husband continued to act strangeand my daughter spent all her
time away during the day. Finally yesterday, my daughter
started crying at breakfast and confessed that she was pregnant
and that it was because she had been sleeping with her
(01:28):
stepfather. She admitted that it started
around a year and a half ago andresumed during quarantine.
She claimed that he was sweet, charming and fine to her and one
thing led to another. I was shaking in anger because I
knew they were having sex when Iwas in the hospital getting
treated for a condition that made me lose myself esteem, a
(01:50):
condition that made me not feel like a real woman.
I confronted my husband about itand he said that I always held
the fact that I earned much moreover his head, that he didn't
feel like a respected man in hisown family, and that he felt
mocked by my female friends berating their higher earning
husbands around, and that they and I collectively tore his self
(02:11):
worth to shreds. He is a filmmaker but has not
worked for nearly two years and that pretty much coincides with
when he started sleeping with mydaughter.
I have never done anything but be supportive of his passions.
Long after his parents gave up on him, I would actively try to
connect him with people and skimp on my own expenses so that
(02:31):
he can invest in his career. I was sobbing, yet he continued
to say that we never even had sex anymore, but how could we
when he'd lift up my shirt and grimace?
When his grimace would make me cry in front of the mirror?
I wasn't thinking clearly in themoment, and part of me also was
fuming at the irony that the separated abdomen and body pains
(02:53):
that brought my daughter into the world was now being used as
justification for her and my husband betraying me.
I told both of them to get out of the house.
My daughter obeyed immediately and left for her friends, but my
husband said that this house hadhis name on it too and he was
staying but I could leave. I fairly couldn't stand being
(03:13):
around him. So now I am staying with my
sister until I get my bearings. I lost them both in a single
day, what do I do? I can't believe I'm saying this,
but a visceral part of me reallyhates my daughter right now.
I hate her because this wasn't just a one time thing.
She betrayed me over and over again, as did my husband, but I
(03:35):
was always able to accept the fact that I might be furious
with a romantic partner. I never expected to feel these
emotions of disgust and betrayaltowards my own daughter.
What do I do? I don't want to talk to either
of them right now. I want to file for divorce, but
I'm afraid I'll be finically ruined.
But I am also scared that once this comes out, I will be
(03:58):
laughed at by everybody for being a sexless, ugly old woman
who is past her prime, who now realizes that the reason her
husband would be cheerful when Iwent to another doctor's
appointment was that he could finally cheat on me with my
daughter. This.
Is it possible at all he was grooming OP's daughter since she
(04:19):
was a minor? OPP did not say how long they
were married. I agree what the daughter did is
very wrong, but if she was also in part raised by this man, then
he took advantage of a parental authoritative relationship to
form a sexual one. Especially if the daughter had
no father figure before him. It's not uncommon for daddy
(04:39):
issues to develop in for young women like her to seek out men
who fulfill that role. I'm so sorry OP.
I really hope you can take your husband's boss ass to the
cleaners. You deserve love and do not
deserve what you are going through.
I know you hate your daughter right now, but it is possible
that the same garbage man the manipulated you also manipulated
(05:01):
her. I know I will get down voted for
saying that, but despite 21 and being a legal adult, many young
adults still lack the capabilityand emotional maturity to make
good decisions. In her case, an abortion would
probably be the best option so that both of you can remove him
from your lives permanently, possibly working towards
(05:21):
reconciliation. However, being young and without
a lot of experience or support, she may very well wind up down a
bad path, one where she is chained forever to this terrible
man or worse. Things will get better off.
Do not give up hope. Focus your energy towards your
legal battle and towards rebuilding yourself.
Image therapy will really help too.
(05:43):
Best wishes. I don't know about this one.
Respectfully, I think there is ahuge difference between making
impulsive and bad decisions sometimes and repeatedly having
sex with your stepfather for over a year.
Also, OP, I am so so sorry. This has nothing to do with your
being sexless or past your prime.
(06:05):
You don't deserve to believe those horrible things about
yourself. Your husband cheated on you
because he's a horrible person. You did not 'cause this.
I hope you're able to heal from this and become the best,
happiest version of yourself oneday.
Three. Well, the person you're
answering to just talked about the possibility of grooming,
(06:25):
which would make it abusive. With his attitude of guilt
dripping up for his cheating andwithout knowing how long this
guy could already be manipulating both.
We can't know for certain and the possibility is very real.
I think it's important that possibilities are talked about.
If he was abusing his position to get close to a young woman,
(06:46):
that would be fucked up, don't you think?
In that case, the two women could solve it with much
therapy. This.
We can all psychoanalyze the situation all day long.
The reality is that, as everyonehere says, he is a predator who
will need to be dealt with in some way and that your daughter
at least understands why you would kick her out.
(07:08):
You did the right thing by making sure you get some
distance from the both of them. Get a lawyer to deal with their
house and divorce proceeding andget a therapist to help you
figure this out emotionally and how to treat your daughter in
the healthiest way considering the situation.
Do not wait on either of those things.
I've never given an award or whatever before but here have
(07:30):
one. I hope I did it right.
I picked the comp one because your answer is absolutely the
good comp 1. OP's daughter is a victim too.
She may have betrayed OPT, but it sounds like a grown adult in
a position of authority over her.
Probably groomed and definitely preyed on her.
The daughter needs to get help as much as OPT does.
(07:50):
The husband is irredeemable. OPT might not be able to have a
relationship with the daughter, but she's not a bastard in this,
she's a victim. I don't agree with three.
The daughter was an adult when this shit started so she knew
what she was doing. It's not like she was
brainwashed as a small child. She should not be forgiven as
(08:12):
well. You can't just live with that
kind of information and forgive a person like this.
It's sick. She was a teenager when this
shit started and we have no ideahow long ago the grooming
started. Depending on how long ago auch
met and married this man, the grooming could very well have
started when she was a small child.
(08:33):
The law calls an 18 year old an adult, but the law is dead
wrong. The brain doesn't reach maturity
until age 25 S Even a 21 year old is still immature and very
far out of their depth in a sexual relationship with a 45
year old. The stepfather is a predator,
whether the law formally recognizes him as one or not.
(08:55):
Oh God, imagine if he has been helping to raise her since she
was a child. How long has he been sexually
attracted to this small person that he was supposed to raise
and protect? What a disgusting predator.
Thanks for listening so far. If story have an update we will
post here. Like subscribe to our channel
(09:17):
for upcoming stories.
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