People Who Caught Their Partner Cheating, What Secret Did You Find Out? | Reddit Cheating Stories

People Who Caught Their Partner Cheating, What Secret Did You Find Out? | Reddit Cheating Stories

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People who caught their significant other cheating, what
secret did you find out? Story one, I caught my wife with
my brother. I don't know how to deal with
this. This actually happened almost
five months ago, yet it still feels like I was stabbed in the
heart just seconds ago. I'm a delivery driver for FedEx
so I'm never really away from home and yet my wife is always
complaining that I'm gone too long.

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One day my brother told me he wants to go on vacation.
I asked him where and he says snowboarding.
That same day my wife tells me she's going on vacation with her
friend. Of course I believed her.
She left a day before my brotherdid, so I thought there was
nothing to worry about. We don't have any kids yet. 2
weeks later my neighbor told me that my brother was holding
hands with my wife. My brother is married.
Somehow his wife looks a lot like my wife.

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I always found that weird and thought maybe since he's older
he mistakenly confused her with his own wife.
One day I was coming home from work.
All I could think about was taking a shower.
I go into my room and I see my wife literally sleeping next to
my brother. I'm not a fighter.
I've never been in a fighter bite before, but I grabbed his
foot and yanked him off my bed. I started screaming at him.

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She wakes up and immediately starts saying the typical line.
It's not what it looks like. That's when I learned they had
been going at this for two years.
After that I told his wife this wasn't the first person he had
cheated on her with and she had finally had enough.
She started divorce proceedings.I did the same.
My wife begged me to forgive her.
I know why. If I don't, she'll be homeless.

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And my brother is already homeless.
I've been with my wife for four years.
I don't believe in family anymore.
My brother was the last relativeI counted on.
He can rot for all I care. I was warned.
Don't marry American women. I'm American myself, but I now
believe that American women can be some of the most trifling
human beings in the world. Story 2 My ex, a 32 year old

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man, cheated on me, a 26 year old woman, with a 52 year old
woman and even tried to press charges against me.
Back story We dated for about 5 months.
At the time I believed my ex showered me with gifts, took me
on trips and seemed very attentive because he was
genuinely interested in me. Looking back it was love bombing
and overcompensation for his lies and cheating.

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I started to suspect he was cheating around 3 months into
our relationship. When I went over to his apt I
noticed long strands of straightblack hair everywhere.
On the couch, the bed, the shower, you name it.
I have short lokes and my hair texture is curly so there was no
way this could be mine. When I asked him about it he
said it was dog hair because he dog sat from time to time.
I thought this was complete nonsense but I wanted to believe

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him so I didn't bring it up again.
One night we went on a dinner date.
He took pictures of me and whilehe was showing them in full
gallery mode, I thought I saw a photo of him with another woman
in bed from the corner of my eye.
I was shocked. As soon as I asked him about it,
he shut off his phone and deniedthat anything like that existed.
He refused to show me his phone,citing privacy and said he was a

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very private person. He insisted he had nothing to
hide but still would not let me see his phone.
When I directly asked if he was seeing another woman.
He had the audacity to say I wasinsecure for even thinking that.
He then asked what can I do to make you feel safer and more
comfortable to believe me? My suspicions were at 10, but
because he his response so carefully, I fell for his lies

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once again. About a month later I still had
my suspicions and couldn't shakethe feeling.
One night I stayed over at his apartment and he fell asleep
while we were watching a show onTV.
His phone was sitting on the table and everything in me was
telling me to look through it. He had given me the passcode to
his phone but at first I hesitated because I felt I
shouldn't have to do that. If we were in a relationship I

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should be able to trust my partner.
Eventually I looked through his phone and saw numerous videos
and photos of him and another woman in bed and in the shower
doing you know what? I looked at the dates of these
videos and the latest one was three days before the trip we
went on for my birthday. I knew who this woman was
because he had introduced me to her.
We first met in a group setting.He brought a group of his

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friends and she was there. He told me she was just a friend
he met from skating. That's how I knew her.
I looked through their messages.They didn't even talk over
regular text, they only exchanged messages through
discord. Their conversations were full of
dirty talk and raunchy content. At the time we had just returned
from my birthday trip and he told her he was just traveling
with a friend, but when he got back he couldn't wait to take

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care of things again. I was so shocked and appalled.
I screen recorded everything I saw and sent it to myself.
Then I sent the recording to himvia text and wrote this is your
true mask. You're a lying and cheating
psychotic bastard. You're dead to me, It's over.
Mind you, he was still asleep atthe time.
I packed my bags, ran out of hisapartment and blocked him.

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I don't want to make this too long, but basically the next
morning he came to my apartment banging on my door trying to
speak to me. He spam called me from different
phone numbers, emailed me and left voicemails demanding that I
call him back to decide whether to end things.
I called the police because he kept banging loudly.
I also called a mutual friend who told him to stop contacting
me or I would file a harassment order.

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Then he sent sent me a text fromanother phone number threatening
to press charges of revenge cornagainst me claiming I would
become a felon or we could have a 30 minute phone call.
I didn't respond because he keptsending threats.
If I didn't call him back it wasclear he was only concerned
about getting caught, not about the fact of his actions.
This is the short version of my story even though it is already

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long. I wanted to share my experience
because I know plenty of others go through the same situation
but still choose to stay or makemore excuses.
If you have suspicions, do not ignore the signs.
I ignored mine for months but I'm thankful it wasn't a long
term relationship where I was completely locked in or had
children with this man. I walked away and continue to
live my life in peace. If you have any questions feel

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free to ask. Story 3 My ex-boyfriend had a
secret life I found on his old phone.
Hi everyone, I'm 26 and I broke up with my boyfriend who's 30
this past Sunday. We started dating in July 2023.
Everything was very passionate and we had a great connection.
We had actually been friends fora year before we started dating.
For the first few months we wenton one to two dates a week.

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He met my family and everything seemed fine.
In November we bought a house together, though it was only
under his name, which in hindsight was a little
suspicious. Looking back, there were some
very shady things he did and honestly I was pretty suspicious
that he had been lying to me during the past year of our
relationship. I stayed with him because I
truly loved him, saw him openingup more and thought he was just

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a closed off person. He's a veteran and often told me
he had bad PTSD, family problemsand so on.
However, there were some lies I caught him in things he probably
thought I'd believe that never made sense.
One, he always had some elaborate reason why I couldn't
meet his family. By the time we broke up after
just over 2 years together, I had never met or interacted with

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his parents. They live across the country,
but my family and he planned multiple trips to see them, all
of which somehow got derailed bya sudden injury, sickness, or
fight. Each time it happened right
before we were supposed to visit, and after a few times I
got fed up. Two, he had a lot of work trips.
He convinced me that his job constantly required him to
travel. Many of these trips happened

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during holidays, so he missed Thanksgiving and Christmas in
2023, New Year's, Valentine's Day and the 4th of July in 2024,
and Valentine's Day and my birthday in 2025.
It got to the point where I feltI couldn't rely on him for
holidays. Three.
There were some random Airbnb's I discovered that we definitely
hadn't stayed at together. 1 review included a woman who

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appeared in pictures with his family on Facebook.
He claims she was a cousin and he still insists that to this
day, but I'm sure he's lying. He would get mad when I looked
at his mom's Facebook. I've considered reaching out to
the woman and might still do so.Fast forward to July 4th this
year. He told me he couldn't be with
me anymore because he needed to move back to his home state to
be with his family and didn't want me to have to uproot my

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life. We talked and decided to go on A
to break. He would figure things out while
I moved in with my parents. For a while we still kept in
contact and video chatted a few times a week.
I genuinely thought we were planning for him to move back up
since he had a new remote job that allowed him to live
anywhere. One day I was at the house and
got a weird gut feeling to checkthe basement.
I found a shoe box with some of his old things and discovered a

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love letter dated October 26th 2023 from a woman he had never
mentioned. When I confronted him, he said
she was just a crazy fling from before we dated and that she had
found his address at the time, which was three months into our
relationship. That didn't sit well with me.
I'll call her side chick one. A few weeks went by and this
past Friday I decided I needed to do a deep dive into his old

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phone. I had never gone through a man's
phone before, so I knew that if I found something I would have
to be prepared to leave him. I knew it was a huge breach of
trust, but I honestly felt like I was going crazy and needed to
verify my suspicions. The threads on this phone ended
right before we started talking in June 2023, but they revealed
a pattern of serial cheating that I wasn't ready to uncover.

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Before me, he had a fiance. His story to me was that they
had ended things before we got together and that he had broken
off the engagement because he felt pressured to propose and it
just wasn't right. He said they were living as
roommates until their lease was up in June 2023, but he never
gave me the exact breakup dates,only that it was late 2022.
At the time, I had no reason notto believe him.

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His text threads showed that he was very much still engaged to
his fiance and living with her, even house hunting just two
weeks before he and I started talking.
On top of that, he was in serious relationships with three
other women, Side chick one, side chick 2, and side chick
three. He saw side chick one at least
once a month, telling his fiancehe was going on work trips.

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He saw side chick 2 about two tothree times a year, and side
chick 3 was more of an opportunistic thing.
Whenever he had free time, she was local while the other two
were not. I was able to contact two of the
side chicks after obtaining their numbers.
Here's what I found out he did. 1, He stood side chick one up at
a wedding she paid for. They had been planning it for
months. She spent her entire life

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savings and he didn't show up. All while still engaged to his
fiance. Two, he would spend the days
leading up to a holiday with side chick one, the holiday
itself with his fiance, and sendgifts to side chick 2 for the
same holiday. Three side chick one told me he
lied about his PTSD. He was never in act of combat,
instead he was reprimanded for sleeping around with too many

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women while stationed. 4 He liedabout having a brain tumor.
He told both her and me the samestory, that he had a brain tumor
that miraculously disappeared. Five, he lied about how he and
his fiance broke up. She found out about the cheating
while I was dating him and left him.
She reached out to side chick one which ended their
relationship. I suspect she found his old
phone like I did. I haven't contacted her since.

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She's moved on and is now engaged and I don't want to
bring this back into her life. 6For at least the first six
months of our relationship he was cheating on me.
Side chick 2 told me they didn'tbreak up until December 2023,
two weeks before my family took him on a cruise. 7 After I found
everything out, he tried to manipulate me asking don't you
believe people can change? No, I don't think serial

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cheaters can change without years of therapy.
I finally built up the courage to leave the relationship this
past Sunday. Luckily, since my name isn't on
the mortgage, I don't have to deal with that.
I'm almost a week out now and I feel so much freer.
I knew for a long time that something was wrong, and I'm
still not entirely sure why I stayed.
He's very good at charming his way back into my good graces,

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but I do think finally finding solid proof was the best thing
for me instead of constantly wondering what I did wrong.
I can truly see him for the man he is.
I feel bad for staying as long as I did, but I'm glad I got out
before kids or a marriage were involved.
Story 4 IA 32 year old man have been with my wife, a 31 year old
woman, for eight years and married for four.

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It was a love marriage. Six months before our wedding,
just two days before the engagement, I discovered that my
very close friend and my wife had been flirting over text.
They had never met in person, but somehow they started texting
without my knowledge and it wenton for six months.
I had suspected something for a while, but the long distance
nature of our relationship due to COVID made it impossible to

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confirm. I confront to them based on my
gut feelings and my wife eventually admitted that they
had been talking extensively behind my back.
She explained that he had initiated some flirting, but she
did not take it further and toldme once she realized I was
suspicious. She cried, begged for
forgiveness and promised to block him, which she did.
I was hurt, but with the engagement so close I decided to

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forgive and move forward. A few months after the marriage
I even suggested she unblock himthinking I had overreacted.
Since then, they have not reallyinteracted except briefly at a
couple of mutual friends weddings.
But to four years later. One night she fell asleep with
her phone in her hand. I playfully started looking at
what she was scrolling on Instagram and accidentally
opened her ChatGPT. What I saw completely broke me.

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She had multiple chats over the past year confessing that she
had feelings for my best friend,that she was obsessed with him,
and even asking ChatGPT for advice on how to convince me to
let her talk to him again. She had also mentioned intimate
thoughts about him. My best friend has been in a
relationship for two years and is completely unaware of this.
I confronted my wife the next morning.
She broke down, admitted she hada lingering crush and said it

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was just obsession, claiming shehad learned her lesson and
changed. I didn't speak to her for the
next 10 days, but I stayed with her.
It has been three months since then.
I haven't been able to fully process or move past it.
She insists she would have forgiven me by now if the roles
were reversed, saying there was no real cheating since nothing
physical happened. But I can't Unsee what I read.
I've started I started working on myself rigorously and trying

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to figure out what to do next but I still feel shattered.
It's hard to decide whether to try rebuilding things or walk
away from an 8 year relationshipthat now feels tainted.
I've always been loyal and principled but my mind has now
decided to focus on myself, level up and see if I can find
another woman as divorce seems like a huge hassle.
If anyone has advice I'm more than willing to listen, I just

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want help understanding whether I have been overreacting or
under reacting. Story 5 I found out my wife
cheated on me behind my back with my brother.
My wife and I have been togetherfor over 20 years.
We have one daughter and one dog.
I'll try to keep this story short to say the least.
We've had problems on and off due to constant arguments and
bickering about our lifestyles, intimate interests, and everyday

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situations. One day we got into such a
severe argument that we almost became violent.
I left for six months and stayedat my sister's house and the
next stayed over. When I finally returned, we
cried, hugged, and apologized toeach other.
I felt much better and made surewe were both in good spirits
around each other. I hadn't talked to my brother
face to face, only over the phone, but we kept in contact

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most of that time. When I came back, he was really
distant and wouldn't come by thehouse to chat with me or see how
I was doing. Finally, a few months after my
return, he spilled the beans andI was furious.
I told my wife what my brother had said and she became so
scared that she walked out of the house and slept in her car
for two weeks. I was so angry that I didn't
even want to call her to say it was okay and that we would get

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through this. It felt like a punch in the face
from both of them and I couldn'twork or even take my dog on
walks because I was so depressedand distraught.
Two weeks later she came home and wouldn't stop crying.
She kept apologizing, telling mehow much she missed me.
She said the situation with my brother was a mistake, a one
time thing, and that she had just let her guard down.
She explained that one thing hadled to another with him helping

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her and checking in on her. But I feel disgusted with both
of them. I don't know how to feel right
now. She has done the worst thing
anyone could do at this point ina marriage.
We have a house and I'm trying to sell it and move out of
state, but with her job and my daughter it's not as easy as it
sounds. I've actually started smoking,
walking pot, and playing video games again as a coping
mechanism. I told my mom my brother is dead

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to me but she wants us to work it out.
I've even stopped talking to herto avoid her responses.
I plan to leave as soon as the house sells.
My daughter wants to stay with her mother so I'll have her come
to my new place when she's readyand able to do so of her own
free will. I still feel lost and
disconnected. I'm not sure how long this will
last, but it's going to be a while.
Story 6 IA 29 year old man caught my girlfriend, a 30 year

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old woman, talking to her friendlast night about how she met him
while dancing. I overheard her on a video call
with her friend and it sounded like she was talking about
meeting him while dancing. I've been away for most of the
summer for military training andthis isn't the first time she's
been unfaithful. When I asked her about it later,
she insisted she was talking about her ex.
However, we've openly discussed our exes before and we've never

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been secretive about them. When she noticed I had overheard
her, I had headphones on and then went out for a smoke.
She started telling her friend to shush and motion to the
camera to stop. She has a history of downplaying
past incidents. She's never had been with
someone else, but she has kissed, been touched, and been
caught messaging other men. She doesn't work and has a
growing alcohol problem. After I confronted her, she gave

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two different answers before finally settling on.
I was talking about my ex. But again, we've talked about
our exes plenty of times and in much more intimate detail than
how she met him. We've been together for 11 years
and I've I've just been gone formost of the summer for military
training. Am I overreacting or should I
genuinely be concerned? Update For context, here are the
instances of cheating I've dealtwith before, along with the

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newest information about some private photos.
She has never fully admitted to anything and still denies
wrongdoing to this day. Our first instance of cheating
was 10 years ago when she went on a trip to Cuba.
She initially told me someone had kissed her, but when she
returned I found out that she had actually kissed the guy.
Or it was mutual, however you want to put it.
At the time I figured it happened and I didn't want to

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overreact. I was young and understood that
these things sometimes happen and at least she admitted it
happened. The next instance occurred when
I was 18 and working nights at Tim horton's.
We both lived in an apartment but I was the only one working.
We got into an argument because she wanted me to buy some weed
before I went to work. I was broke and my options were
either to buy her weed and walk to work in the middle of winter

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or put gas in my car and drive. Obviously I chose to drive.
Around 3:00 in the morning I gota call from her saying she was
scared and upset so I left work in an emergency, almost got
fired and got home. She told me she had invited a
guy upstairs who also sold weed to come down and and have some
drinks with her. She said that he started making
advances on her. According to her, she said no,
but he continued putting his hand down her pants and kissing

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her while she reportedly said stop.
I freaked out and accused her ofcheating, but she insisted it
was an attack. I told her that if that was the
case, she needed to go to the police and take action.
In the end, the guy was charged with SA.
There was literally no proof against him and I didn't even
get to hear her give a statementabout what happened.
It felt like it was just assumedhe's a guy, she's a girl, he

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must be guilty. I still feel terrible about it
because I don't think he should have been charged.
I'm conflicted about the situation and don't know how to
process it. Fast forward a few years and one
day I check her phone and see that she's in private messaging
mode on Facebook with some guy I've never even heard of.
She insists it was some kind of mistake, but I lost my cool and
freaked out. Eventually I convinced myself to

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believe her that maybe it reallywas a mistake because if she
truly wanted this guy, wouldn't she just admit it and go be with
him? And this is where I'm stuck now.
I don't know if I'm just being paranoid about a random comment
or if it was actually a huge redflag.
There's really no way to know for sure if she ever did
anything or not. Then, after everything, and
especially after what I overheard the other day, I

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talked to my parents and asked if they thought I was
overreacting. They told me no, that the whole
thing sounded very suspicious. On top of that, in the first
couple of days after I left for my course, my mom said she saw a
private photo in my girlfriend'scamera roll that she definitely
hadn't sent me. When I asked my girlfriend about
it, she claimed it was taken later in July, but my mom is
certain she saw it less than a week after I left.

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Story 7. I got a reality check today.
So I've been dating this guy since February and what a
turmoil it has been. The gaslighting, the
manipulation, and the narcissistic behavior.
Things were going really well inthe beginning, we were just
getting to know each other goingon dates and it felt very
dreamy. In late June I found out he had
been hiding his Instagram stories from me and lying about

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not being in the city when he actually was.
He was going out with another girl and gaslighting me about
it. I'm also not sure now if he lied
about his profession. He claims to be a doctor.
In late June I made a mistake bytexting his brother.
He had never introduced me to his friends saying he needed
time, but he told me his mother and brother knew about me.
His lying and story hiding made me really insecure and question

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if I was the other person. Things got really bitter after
that. We had a huge fight at his place
because of the message to his brother.
I kept apologizing and went to his place unannounced.
That's when I saw belongings of another woman.
Everything one would require to live there, Clothes, bags, hair
clips and sanitary pads. At that time I was scared seeing
his anger and couldn't confront him about what I saw.

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I was more focused on avoiding the mess that I may have created
just by texting his brother and letting him know that things
were not going well between us. In mid-july, I saw him with a
girl at Starbucks. That same day he had told me he
was not in the city. In the evening, both of them
were walking together. My friend and I saw them through
the glass wall and they saw us too, but chose to go to the next
store. I called him, but he didn't pick

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up. Later he texted that he would
call me later claiming he was with his father who had come all
the way from BSP to run errands.The timing didn't add up.
Our last conversation had been at 2:00 PM and this all happened
between 5:00 and 6:00 PM. Afterward, he told me that girl
was his ex, Bess. I also know noticed she had
blocked me on Instagram after this, which I'm pretty sure was
his doing. When I kept asking for

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explanations, I found out that she was the person he had been
hiding from the beginning. He excused it by saying she
wasn't a relevant person, that she was just a friend of friends
and so on. I later discovered that she had
been with him throughout all hisGoa trips.
When I asked in March if there had been a fourth person
involved, he had told me directly that only three people
went me, my friend, and his girlfriend.

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Again, his explanation was that it wasn't necessary information
to share. Throughout all of this, I felt
so lost and weighed down becauseI really loved him.
Even though he was years older than me, he would be turning 30
in a few months, he still chose to do this.
At the end of July, he showed mea video of her and her boyfriend
who she might marry soon, and said he had to ask her for the

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video to prove it to me. When I asked about why she might
have blocked me, he claims she may have done it out of
frustration, though I'm not sureif she really knew about
everything. After that day, she apparently
bought a car and went for a ridewith him.
When I asked about it, he lied again, saying it belonged to a
colleague. I confronted him and things got
extremely bitter after that. I finally reached out to that

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girl to ask her about all of this and she had no answers.
She said he is just a good friend of mine, giving no clear
yes or no to my questions about the blocking or the car
situation. Regarding the belongings I
mentioned earlier, he gave the lamest excuse that he was
holding them for the girl who lived next door.
But if you are holding somethingfor someone, you don't keep it
as if it's yours and use their things.

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The mess this has caused has been overwhelming.
I just had my eyes open to everything yesterday.
Please be aware. Story 8.
It's been a roller coaster the last few months.
I caught my boyfriend, 22, cheating on me online.
At first he still wanted to continue our relationship but I
was disgusted and didn't want that.
We had been in each other's lives for so long that I
considered trying to save the relationship if real changes

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were made, such as him seeing a therapist.
At that point he decided he didn't want a relationship and
wanted to be alone. However, he wants to be friends
and keep me in his life life. We've gone back and forth on
this for weeks. I don't think I can offer
forgiveness and put in the work for him if it's not working
toward us. I also don't think I could just
be friends with someone who did that to me and isn't willing to
seek help. I wouldn't keep a friend in my

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social circle who cheated on anyone.
We had a huge heated argument weeks later and I told him I
cannot be friends with him if there's no potential for a
relationship. It doesn't make sense for me to
do that. He angrily said some hurtful
things, but later that night said his goodbye and told me
that I'm the one person he lovesmore than anything.
I responded days later with my final words explaining how much

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I had loved him and why I workedso hard to save us, but also
that I think he needs help. He then replied that he still
wants to talk to me and that he misses me.
However, he also mentioned that he isn't ready for a
relationship and doesn't want meto wait for him in case he
starts dating other people in a few weeks or months.
I don't know what to do with this man.
Story 9. My boyfriend had a secret life

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for entire relationship of six years.
IA 33 year old woman have been with my boyfriend, a 44 year old
man, for six years. When we met, we weren't at the
best places in our lives but built what appeared to be a
happy forever home together. We bought a house after about
two years of living together, despite a few minor bumps along
the way. Six months into the relationship

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I noticed the number of women hehad been messaging with.
Lines like you're so great, you deserve the best in the world.
At first, I didn't feel threatened as I was confident in
our relationship. As time passed, however, I felt
a growing disconnect and my intuition told me something was
wrong. He broke up with me 4 times
while living together, claiming that my distrust ruined our
relationship. Fast forward about a year and I

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finally discovered what was truly going on.
After accessing his Facebook account, I discovered that not
only was he messaging women, buthe also followed many
transgender women. A few months later, I found an
old phone of his and turned it on.
I discovered that he had an account on Kik which I had never
heard of. Through that account, I found
that he had been messaging many people in that community as well

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as men. One in particular exchanged
numbers, addresses, and other personal information with him.
He also works at a job where this man's apartment complex is
located behind it, and they had planned to meet during his lunch
breaks to hook up. He had never told me he was into
this and no one else knew exceptfor a single friend who had
caught him watching corn. When I confronted him with this
information, he accused me of invading his privacy and claimed

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that I only look for trouble because I enjoy arguing.
He even went so far as to tell the people he was communicating
with that he had put me on the deed of our home to be nice,
when in reality I paid the entire down payment and he was
only added to my credit card to help him build credit.
He threatened to call the police, claiming that what I had
done was illegal and that I could face prison time.

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Mind blown. He has since deleted any social
media I'm aware of. Today I randomly asked if I
could see his archive, chats andtrash folder.
He refused. I feel that's a pretty simple
and reasonable request. I guess my question is, am I the
a hole for not accepting a single apology for what occurred
over the years and for expectingtransparency?
I'm also having a hard time wrapping my head around whether

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any part of our relationship is truly real.
I would love to hear thoughts orfrom anyone who has been in a
similar situation. Story 10.
I just found out that my boyfriend has been married since
2017. I don't even know how to start
this. I feel like my entire world has
just collapsed. I've been in a relationship with
a man I deeply loved, the personI thought was the love of my

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life, my partner, the man I wanted to build a future with.
From the beginning, he told me he lived in another country and
that the distance was the only obstacle between us.
We talked constantly about closing that gap, about future
plans, about being together. He said he was literally
counting the days to see me, that I was very important in his
life, that he wanted to make me happy, and that without me, he

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would struggle in this world. I believed every word, but now
I've found out that everything was a lie.
He has been married since 2017. On top of that, he has actually
been living in my country since 2022, the same year we met.
Not abroad like he made me believe.
All this time he pretended to beflying over to see me, when in
reality he was just taking a busfrom another nearby city.

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He built this whole story about long distance, when in fact he
was living a double life just a few hours away.
I admired him. I saw him as the man of my life,
someone strong, successful, someone I could rely on.
I love him with everything I hadand he made me believe he wanted
the same, that he wanted a future with me.
He would say we were a couple, that I was his ride or die and
that he couldn't imagine life without me.

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And now I feel like my entire relationship was nothing but a
cruel lie. The distance he made such a big
deal about was fake. The future we planned was fake.
The love he promised feels fake.I've already told his wife the
truth, she said she had no idea and that she's disgusted.
When I confronted him all he said was I'm sorry I didn't have
a plan. I am a piece of crap.

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I'm assuming you're going to ruin my life now like I ruined
yours. Later, after his wife already
knew, he sent another message. I'm sorry you didn't deserve
what I did to you. I have no explanation or
justification. I'm broken.
I don't even know who I was in this relationship.
Was I just a distraction? A fantasy?
Did he ever really love me or was it all manipulation?

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Right now I feel like I'll neverrecover from this story. 11 My
husband cheated on me right before wedding and after.
We have been married for 1 1/2 years.
I just found out last night thathe called his ex-girlfriend one
month prior to our wedding. He left work an hour early, met
up with her and spent about an hour walking around a lake on a
golf course where he kissed her and held her hand.

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He lied to me when he got home. Then five months after our
wedding last June, when I went to see my parents, he asked to
see her again. They met at the same lake and he
kissed her. He said she wasn't interested in
being intimate with him, but if she had agreed he would have
done it. He even took off his wedding
ring and never told her he was married.
At the same time he also messaged another ex, though she

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never replied. When I returned home weeks later
I found out he had texted the exwho never replied.
I was devastated. He promised he would never do
that again. Little did I know at the time
what I had caught was nothing compared to the other two
meetings I only just discovered last night.
I never knew he had already met up with the ex who did agree to
meet him once before the weddingand once after.

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I only found out last night about the kissing and in person
meeting. He wouldn't have come clean
until the very end. He's got a tight mouth for two
years now. Who is this person?
He said it was ego and stupidity, that he doesn't know
why he did it. He claims he's been faithful
since last June. What I found out today did not
happen after June. All of it occurred around the
same time. But I just never knew about this

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more serious meeting. He has completely destroyed my
trust one month before our wedding and five months after
with the same woman, knowing that he kissed her, held her and
took long walks with her. I can't even look at him.
I'm in school pursuing my RN andhe is the full support of the
family. I don't know what to do.
Edit It was 9 days before our wedding when he first met up
with her. He has been in therapy for 10

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years and this still happened. I told him he needs to figure
out why. Clearly whatever he did didn't
help. He said he would go back to
therapy if I give him a chance but I don't trust anything he
says. Now my trust is completely
broken. He lied to me over and over.
He even swore on his children's lives telling me that the last
time he went out with her was before we moved in together.
Then it turned out he went out with with her one month before

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our wedding and again five months after.
I asked him how he could swear on his children's lives and he
said he did it to save our marriage.
Can you believe it? He lied to me on purpose to make
me believe his lies. I haven't told anyone in my life
because I'm afraid of what they would think of me and him.
Story 12. I discovered the affair when I
came home early to tell her about my diagnosis.

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I suppose the only reason I'm writing this is because my
current situation and course of action don't allow me to fully
open up to those close to me. On the 1st of December I
received the news I had been dreading.
All the tests confirmed the diagnosis.
I have stage 4 pancreatic cancer.
This will likely be my last holiday season.
I've made peace with that. I've lived a good life and

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everyone I love will be taken care of.
I've always been a private person, so my wife Jane doesn't
yet know about the tests. I didn't want to worry her until
I had clear answers. I'll be heading home early to
have the talk with her, something I could never do over
the phone or through a text. Well, as you can guess, my life
changed more than once that afternoon.
When I arrived at the house, I noticed the car of one of my

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business partners in the driveway.
There was no mistaking it. Flashy, expensive, and with a
personalized license plate. To say this was out of the
ordinary would be an understatement.
I pulled up our home camera system on my phone and saw that
it was set to privacy mode, meaning it wasn't recording.
So I let it be and drove off to my farm property.
Now, our camera system is mainlyfor safety, and I rarely check

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it unless there's a reason to. That said, I've always enjoyed
watching the wildlife on the outdoor cameras, and I find it
oddly calming to watch storms roll through.
Years ago, for my own enjoyment,I set up a second video recorder
to archive the footage locally. That storage isn't accessible
from my phone. When I got to the farm, I opened
my computer and checked that server just to confirm what my

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gut was already telling me. And sure enough, there they
were, sitting together in the living room, drinking wine,
dancing, and then heading up to the bedroom suite.
Apparently they'd left the doorsopen because the microphone
picked up what happened after they went out of view?
With my time limited, I wanted answers, but I do not want the
drama of a confrontation or a divorce.
Call me what you will, but all of my devotion and love for her

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left me that afternoon. I feel all the emotions one
would expect, yet I know I am not to blame.
I have been a loyal, romantic and attentive partner.
Now I am thinking about myself and what matters to me.
I called my lawyer, reviewed my will in our prenup and explained
the situation. We work to understand how long
and to what extent this affair had been going on.
What we discovered is disturbing.

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It makes me question whether I ever truly knew the woman I
shared more than two decades of life with or if something in her
simply changed. For now, I will say nothing to
my children. WW and I never had any, or to my
wife. I will put on a stiff upper lip
and get through the holidays, giving the kids and grandkids
one last holiday memory with me involved.
I will be the doting father and grandfather and then try to play

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the role of the devoted husband.Some background to answer the
obvious questions. The AP is a widower and is not
remarried. He is a business partner but not
a friend. I do not invest with friends.
I never married my twins mother,M&F.
It was her choice and I completely agreed that she made
the right decision at the time. My children's mother, Sarah,
married a very wonderful man, Steve, when the kids were 7.

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Sarah and Steve never had children of their own.
I got my head out of my bum whenthe kids were three.
I had been involved with them before that, but that's when I
started my journey to become thefather I want it to be.
Sarah and I Co parented very well and I would call Steve a
friend. Sarah, Steve and I are all in
our 60s. Jane is almost 60, AP is in his
50s. Jane and I are both in our first

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marriage and we were in our 30s when we married.
What do I need? An outside outlet and release
valve. If I am going to accomplish my
goal, I need to vent my anger and talk through my situation.
What better outlet than Internetstrangers?
I am at peace with how and when my life will conclude.
Story 13 I found out my husband has been living a double life.

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So I 27 year old female have been with my husband 27 year old
male for almost 11 years and married for almost three.
I've always known him to be secretive, dishonest, and
manipulative, but since we've been together since high school,
I stayed. He cheated on me during our
anniversary weekend last year, something we've been trying to
work through, but he has continued to stay in contact

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with the other woman. I've grown tired of that, along
with the neglect, mistreatment, and manipulation.
I had planned to stay until I finished my last semester of
nursing school this year and then leave.
What I didn't know was that he'sbeen living a double life behind
my back. I found out he's been on a
certain app searching for women,meeting women on his lunch
breaks, and even hosting or attending hotel groupies.

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Apparently he is into some weirdthings and likings I never knew
about and has also been paying for OF content.
I saw him flirting with other women on social media, even with
women who work at the same facility as me.
Lord knows what else is on his phone.
When I suggested trying new things in the bedroom years ago
he got upset and completely shutme down.
So I'm confused why he couldn't just be honest about what he was

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into. I would have been open to it.
I've always been willing to try whatever and he knows that.
I lost my V card to him and I just feel so deeply betrayed.
But I can't do this anymore. That was my last draw, I only
have one semester of school leftto finish and then I'm gone for
good. I can't even look at him the
same way. I hate being around him, I hate
hearing his voice. I'm completely turned off by him

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and despite everything he's everdone to me, I've never felt this
level of disgust before. To make it worse, I found out he
created that account just a few days after he proposed to me.
Everything feels like a lie, butwhen I really think about it,
he's been showing me the signs all along.
He constantly criticizes me, emotionally neglects me, and
treats me rudely. I asked him why he would do this
to me and all he said was that he didn't want to talk about it.

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So I'm not even going to try anymore.
Thank God we don't have childrentogether.
Once I had a false positive on apregnancy test and his reaction
was to tell me to get rid of it because he had to take care of
his family, meaning his mother and siblings.
That stung deeply because I thought I was his family.
From that moment on, I vowed never to have children with him,
but back then I was too weak to walk away.

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Story 14 I found out my boyfriend, 24, cheated on me and
got another woman pregnant. What's crazy is that I was
foolish enough to believe this man coming into my life was
destiny, that we were going to be together for the rest of our
lives. We've known each other since we
were kids and share mutual family friends.
We hadn't seen or spoken to eachother for over a decade and then
we reconnected this summer. I fell so hard for him.

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He treated me incredibly well, putting in so much effort and
energy to care for me. I was genuinely happy and
everyone around me could see it.I was literally beaming.
We just went on an out of state road trip and spent a romantic
vacation on the East Coast. On the way home.
About an hour away from home, I opened a message on Facebook
from a girl I didn't know. It said my man has a baby on the

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way, that he'd been cheating on me.
My whole body started shaking and I tried to contain myself
until we reached a rest stop. He noticed my shaking and asked
if I was OK. I said no and told him I needed
him to pull over immediately. He asked is it because of me?
I responded is there something you need to tell me?
All I remember after that is himsaying saying yes and pulling
off the highway in the middle ofnowhere trying to find somewhere

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for us to stop. I completely blacked out.
Everything narrowed into tunnel vision.
I panicked and felt this overwhelming need to escape.
I nearly jumped out of the moving car in that state.
He eventually pulled into a dollar store parking lot and as
soon as the car stopped, I bolted.
I ran to the other side of the building and called my best
friend. I told her what happened and
that I needed her to come get me.

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She stayed on the phone with me the whole time telling me to
keep my distance from him. She knew how badly I wanted to
put my hands on him. I wasn't crying, I was in a
state of shock and pure anger. That hour waiting for my friend
to get there is a bit of a blur.I got the other woman's number
and spoke to her directly to hear her side of the story.
He had been seeing her since August 22nd second.
They had done it multiple times and had been talking every

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single day. He even stayed at her place
three or four nights and she hadintroduced him to her kids.
She told him she was pregnant and he begged her to have an
abortion, telling her she was ruining his life.
He didn't even tell her about me.
She found out from someone else while we were on vacation.
He apparently told her he was going up north for the week.
She said she feels terrible and is very sorry.

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The night we were supposed to leave for our vacation, he was
supposed to be at my place at 5:00 PM but didn't arrive until
9. Blaming his mom for being a
mess. Now I know the truth.
He was at her place finding out he was going to be a father.
I went back to the truck and told him she was coming.
He unpacked all my things while I tore into him.
I ripped up our vacation photos 1 by 1 and threw them on the

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ground. He just picked up the pieces.
Then I sat locked myself in the truck alone and waited until she
arrived and took me home. Once I got back, I sent him
message after message telling him how much I hate him, asking
how he could do this to me givenour history and everything I'd
told him, and saying that I am traumatized.
How could he know all this and still take me on that vacation
and act like everything was fine?

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He behaved so normally, it's terrifying how well he hid
everything and lied. He says he knows he's screwed up
and that he'll pay me back the $1000 I spent on the trip.
Now I have to go get STD tested today.
I don't know how to function, move on, or heal from this.
All I can think about is hurtinghim.
How am I supposed to ever trust someone again?
How can I be vulnerable and let someone in after this?

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I don't think I'll ever allow myself to love unconditionally
again. Story 15 Found out wife cheated
on me with my best friend years ago.
My wife and I used to hang out with my best friend and his
family all the time. Whenever we wanted to do
something on the weekend they were our go to people.
I'd known him for years before Imet my wife.
We were in each others weddings.I was his best man and we were

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the first to congratulate each other when our kids were born.
There was a real trust between us.
I trusted him so much that I would let him take my wife home
after some parties while I stayed home with our kid.
To be clear, these weren't wild parties or anything like that,
just casual meetups with a few drinks among our common group of
friends. I would stay home with our
daughter during the first coupleof years while my wife took care

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of her and I went out. Once our child was less
dependent on her mother, I had no problem letting my wife have
some fun. Overtime, these nights out and
rides home became almost routine.
Since I knew everyone involved and trusted them, I didn't think
much of it. Then one night I was out while
she had a few drinks at home with her friend.
She was asleep when I came back and the next morning I woke up

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before her. I went to the other room and
noticed our laptop was open. I woke up from sleep mode and
her e-mail was open. At the top of the message list,
I saw an unread message from someone with the same first name
as my friend. I didn't open the message right
away because I trusted her and didn't want to invade her
privacy, but it kept bothering me.
I couldn't think of any other guy she knew with that name, and

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it didn't make sense that my friend would e-mail her without
me knowing, so I decided to check it out.
I was hit hard by the content ofthe conversation.
It was my friend and they were exchanging messages about
wanting to do it, and there was even a private picture of my
wife sent. To be fair, none of the messages
indicated that they had actuallyslept together.
It was mostly chatting with a few pictures, but it still made

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me furious. I woke her up, screamed at her
and stormed out of the apartment.
I called the guy and we met. He admitted that they had kissed
once while drunk at a New Year'sparty, at our home while I was
asleep, and again on my birthday.
Also at our home, again while I was sleeping.
Apparently the second time they kissed, his wife caught them,
but they all kept it a secret from me.

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They claimed it only happened those two times, it was a
mistake and his wife had forgiven them.
Sure, a mistake that gets followed up with emails about
wanting to spend the night and private pictures.
I told his wife about the emails.
The next few months were awful. We cut off all contact with the
guy and his family and somehow managed to repair our
relationship. Still, she never admitted to

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actually sleeping with him and it bothered me.
But without proof, I left it alone.
Fast forward seven years, we hada second child, and we're
celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary in a cozy mountain
cottage. After the kids were asleep, we
sat outside enjoying drinks and an open conversation.
When the topic turned to him, she admitted that she had
actually been sleeping with him for six months.
Back then. I was lost, angry, hurt,

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humiliated, but at the same time, I appreciated her honesty.
She didn't have to admit it. I didn't push her.
She just wanted to come clean. And after seven years of a truly
great relationship, following those events, I didn't even know
how to react. We had a rough few months after
that. I reached out to the guy and he
confirmed everything. So of course, I told his wife
the full truth. It took time, but things

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eventually settled and now we'reback to the great relationship
we had before, even five years after her admission.
I'm writing this because I honestly can't forget it.
I still feel angry and humiliated, but I also love my
wife very much. This is how I live now, with the
knowledge that the woman I love was capable of something so
hurtful. And that really sucks.
Story 16 My boyfriend 25, cheated on me with a girl, 19,

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whom I know and see regularly. My boyfriend 25 and I20 moved in
together nine months into our relationship.
At the time, it seemed like the best choice since we both needed
a new living situation. We lived with his best friend
for a while, but his friend moved out for a new job the same
weekend. Everything happened.
During that time. I often felt like I was just
there to be teased, and it slowly started to wear on me

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until I began shutting down. After moving in, I realized he
wasn't very helpful around the house.
Whenever I mentioned it, he would tell me that I complained
about everything. I go to beauty school and work
five days a week, spending over 12 hours a day on my feet.
It hasn't been easy to juggle everything, and I became so
stressed that sometimes it was hard to even get out of bed.
One night we had a big argument because I stayed at a friend's

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house, something he does too, simply because I needed some
time for myself. When I got home the next
morning, he freaked out at me, so I stayed at my sister's that
night. The next day we talked about
things we could both do better and agreed that we wanted to
make things work. For the past month, things
seemed to be improving, but his drinking habits hadn't changed.
I also felt like he was hiding something from me.
I even told him that I didn't trust him when he went out

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because I had a gut feeling thatsomething was off.
Recently I received a message from a girl, 19, who I go to
school with and also work with. She sent me screenshots of text
messages confirming that they had gotten drunk the night I
stayed at my sister's and slept together, then hid it from me.
For over a month I've been avoiding school because the
thought of seeing her makes me physically sick.
While I appreciate her finally telling me the truth, it still

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feels like they both did this tohurt me even though they claim
they didn't mean to. I asked him to move into the
extra bedroom because I was so hurt.
Now he is trying to play the victim, saying that I treated
him so badly that I made him do it.
The reality is that I had felt neglected and ignored for a long
time. Every time I came home he was
playing video games and I could never have a proper conversation
with him because he was always distracted.

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Is leaving him the right decision?
Story 17 My soon to be husband cheated on me.
I want to start by saying that Ijust found out two weeks before
our wedding date. Here's the story.
I am a 27 year old female and myfiance is a 27 year old male.
A small edit to clarify he has cheated twice, once before 2021
and once in 2024. I only found out about both

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incidents at the same time afterwe had planned and paid for the
wedding and started a family. So to those saying this was a
pattern I should have recognizedbefore having a child with him,
I didn't know about it. And to those saying I forgave
him and that this is my fault, Iam only finding out about it now
so there has been no opportunityto forgive or any repeated
actions. Just to clarify, we started

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dating in 2019 and at some pointbetween then and 2021 he slept
with another girl. He also slept with someone else
in 2024 right before we found out we were expecting.
We now have a baby together and only a few weeks before our
wedding date after a huge fight about something small.
Newborn life has been hard on both of us.
He told me that he had cheated on me.
He said he couldn't marry me without being honest.

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I really do love this man and part of me believes we can work
through this. I always had a feeling he had
been unfaithful in 2024, but I chose to give him the benefit of
the doubt. I've been managing as best as I
can postpartum, but there are days when I can feel the
depression creeping in trying topull me down.
I just don't know what to do anymore.
Story 18 I found out that the guy I was talking to has a

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family back home. We started talking in November
2022 and ended in March 2023 because I had a gut feeling he
was still involved with his babyMama at the time.
I lived in a city 3 hours away from him and he happened to work
at the same location I did. He called me in February this
year and again in March. Both times we spent hours on the
phone, but a day or a week laterI decided I couldn't be friends

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with him because my feelings were starting to resurface.
Eventually he came down to the state where I now live and I
completely gave in. We met, talked, and enjoyed each
other's company and the next morning we slept together.
He went back home and I tried not to contact him much for the
first couple of days, but then Igave in.
A week later I found myself on the phone with him for over six

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hours while he was at work. He brought up wanting kids with
me and I said I would only consider that if I ever got
married. He then said that the next time
he came to my state, he wanted to talk about marriage.
I wasn't trying to rush into love so quickly again, so I told
him I was willing to be vulnerable and get to know him
better. The next day while at the gym I
decided to look up his baby Mamaon Facebook.

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It turns out they have a house together and kids.
I was so upset that I messaged him on Instagram asking about
her and sending a screenshot of the pictures.
He admitted yes this is true, I'm sorry.
My blood was boiling. So I told him I never wanted to
hear from him again, called him a coward and told him to F off.
He asked to talk the next day toexplain but I once again told

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him to F off. In my anger I messaged his baby
Mama on her story telling her that he had cheated on her with
me. I was furious and wanted him to
feel as broken as I was. She called me the next day and I
called her back on Instagram. I explained bits and pieces but
she was understandably upset. She asked specific questions,
then would hang up and call me back to ask more.

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I assumed she would call him when she hung up with me.
She ended up calling him while Iwas still on the line and I
heard him say we weren't good. I was sleeping in the other
room. I messed up.
The next time she called him while I was on the phone, he
yelled at me telling me to stop.Adding to what happened, he
insisted he would never leave her and that he never came in
me. He was so defensive and offended
ha. I was so annoyed because there

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was never anyone for him to leave.
I didn't even know she existed when we were talking.
He had talked about us discussing marriage because he
was supposed to be single and doing it with no protective
gears put me at risk for pregnancy.
His baby Mama asked me if there was any possibility I could get
pregnant. Later.
I told her I had the implant contraceptive but that I would
have an abortion if I did end uppregnant because I want nothing

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to do with someone who cheats onhis partner and lies about
having a family. He talked about being a
struggling single father. Honestly, my heart hurts but I
am glad I found out before we even talked about getting
married. That would have killed me.
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